Zizindikiro 9 Ndi Nthawi Yopuma Mu Ubale

Kodi kupuma paubwenzi kuli bwino? Ili ndi lingaliro lomwe ambiri aife takhala tikulilingalirapo nthawi ina. "Kodi kutha kwa maubwenzi kumagwira ntchito kapena nthawi ino kungotisokoneza?" Chabwino, pamene ubwenzi ukuyenda bwino, kumakhala ngati kuti palibe chimene chingalephere. Ndiye zenizeni zimakugundani ngati galimoto ndipo mumazindikira kuti kukhala paubwenzi sikovuta, makamaka ngati kukangana sikusiya.

Ngati inu kunyalanyaza glaring zifukwa kutenga yopuma mu ubwenzi, inu kwenikweni kulemba ake obituary. Ayi, mavuto anu sangachoke mukamapuma. Chimenecho ndi chiyembekezo chosatheka. Koma kupatukana kwakanthawi kungakuthandizeni kuwona mavuto a ubalewo mwatsopano ndikupeza chomwe chimayambitsa zovuta pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu. Ndiye, mumasankha bwanji mbendera zofiira zomwe zili zazikulu zokwanira kuti mutenge malo muubwenzi?

Ndipo kusweka kwa chibwenzi kuyenera kukhala kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji? Kodi njira yabwino yochitira izi ndi iti? Kodi muyenera kukhazikitsa malamulo oyambira? Tili pano kuti tiyankhe mafunso anu onse ndi chidziwitso kuchokera kwa mphunzitsi wa thanzi la maganizo ndi kusamala Pooja Priyamvada (wovomerezeka mu Psychological and Mental Health First Aid kuchokera ku Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health ndi University of Sydney), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa zibwenzi zakunja kwa ukwati, kusweka, kupatukana, chisoni, ndi kutayika, kungotchulapo zochepa.

Kodi Kupuma Paubwenzi Kumatanthauza Chiyani?

Kupatula nthawi kapena kupuma sikutanthauza kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Zikutanthauza kuti nonse awiri mukungotalikirana kuti muunike zovuta zomwe zabuka pachibwenzi. Mumasankha tsiku lomaliza. Mumakhazikitsa malamulo anu ophwanya ubale. Ndipo ngati simukufuna kukhala ngati Ross ndi Rachel paubwenzi wokhazikika, muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino lomwe tanthauzo la kutha kwa ubalewu kwa nonse.

Zifukwa zopumira muubwenzi zimatha kusiyana malinga ndi banja. Kwa ena, nkhani zokhulupirirana zitha kukhala chifukwa chokanikiza batani loyimitsa. Kwa ena, zitha kukhala ndewu zosalekeza komanso mikangano. Palibe zifukwa zomveka kapena zolakwika apa. Ngakhale mutakhala mukuganizira kuti "Kodi kupuma kungapulumutse ubale?" ndiye kuti chifukwa chake ndi choyenera.

"Kusweka kwa ubale kumatanthauza kusunga mtunda winawake kenako n’kubwereranso ndi mnzanuyo pambuyo poti mwasiyana kwa nthawi yaitali. Zingaphatikizepo kulekana mwakuthupi kapena ayi. Nthawiyi ndi yofunika kuti mubwererenso ku vuto kapena chochitika choipa muubwenzi uliwonse. Ngati mukudabwa momwe mungapulumutsire ubale wanu ku kusweka, iyi ndi njira imodzi yothetsera vutoli," akutero Pooja.

Ngati mukukakamira kuti mupumule kwakanthawi, onetsetsani kuti mukutanthauzadi. Mukangoyamba kulankhula, zidzakupangitsani kukayikira kwambiri za ubale wanu. Komanso simungapeze mayankho ambiri pankhaniyi. Kupumula kangapo muubwenzi kungawononge maziko a kudalirana pakati pa okondedwa awiri. Kumbukirani, mudzamva malangizo osiyanasiyana amomwe mungathanirane ndi kupumula muubwenzi koma yankho lenileni lokhalo lidzachokera polankhulana ndi mnzanu. Kukonza kulankhulana kudzakuthandizani kwambiri.

Kodi pali njira zina zochotsera chibwenzi?

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina , 6%–18% ya mabanja aku US omwe akadali okwatirana adapatukana nthawi ina muukwati wawo. Chifukwa chake, simuli panjira yoti muganizire za momwe mungapumulire bwino muukwati. Kutenga nthawi yopuma kuti mudzisamalire nokha komanso kukula kwanu kumamveka ngati chisankho chanzeru. Ngati pali chilichonse, zidzangopangitsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale watsopano. Koma ndikofunikiranso kuti mukhale ndi lingaliro lomwelo pa chisankhochi ndipo ndinu wokonzeka kubwerera kwa mnzanuyo mukamaliza kukambirana.

Kupuma pachibwenzi sikukulolani kuti muthamangire ndikugona ndi anthu osiyanasiyana mkati mwa maola awiri otsatira. Koma mwayi woti inu kapena mnzanuyo musakhale ndi chidwi ndi chibwenzicho kapena kuti mukhale pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina sizingalephereke. Ngati maganizowa akukuchititsani mantha, mungafune kufufuza njira zina zopumira pachibwenzi:

• Ikani zina malire a ubale wabwino ndi kumamatira kwa iwo. Lemekezani malo a mnzanuyo
• Khalani pamtima ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ikani nkhani zanu zonse patebulo. Lankhulani momveka bwino osataya mtima
• Kudzilingalira n’kofunika. Ganizirani momwe mukuthandizira ku zovuta zaubwenzi wanu komanso momwe mungatengere udindo pazochita zanu
• Limbikitsani zochita za maanja. Yesetsani kuika patsogolo kucheza ndi bwenzi lanu. Mwinanso ganizirani za chithandizo cha banja. Kenako, zidzakuthandizani kumanganso maziko a ubale wanu
• Ngati zifukwa zokhalira limodzi sizikuwoneka zolimba, lingalirani zothetsa chibwenzi

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Kodi kupuma paubwenzi kuti ndidzigwiritse ntchito ndekha ndi lingaliro labwino?

"Ndakhala ndikuganiza zopuma pa chibwenzi kuti ndidzigwire ntchito ndekha. Kodi ndi lingaliro labwino?" Pali nthawi zina m'moyo pamene zimakhala zofunikira kuzindikira kuti ndinu ndani kunja kwa chibwenzi. Ngati mukuopa kwambiri kukhala nokha ndikudumpha mwachangu kuchokera ku chibwenzi china kupita ku china, sizimakupatsani nthawi yochira kapena kuvomereza kusakhazikika kwa ubale wanu.

Musanataye 'ine' ndikukhala 'ife,' kuyesa komaliza kuthetsa vuto lanu ndikuteteza umunthu wanu kungakupindulitseni m'kupita kwanthawi. Ngati izi zikutanthauza kutenga miyezi ingapo ndikupita ku Western Europe kapena kulowa nawo sukulu yaukadaulo kuti mutsatire zomwe mumakonda, zikhale choncho. Ngati mukukonzekera kupuma paubwenzi kuti mudzipeze nokha, nawa malingaliro angapo momwe mungapangire nthawi yosiyana:

• Khazikitsani malire a nthawi yopumayi itenga nthawi yayitali - kwa masiku angapo kapena nthawi yayitali?
• Fotokozani mawu anu ndi mnzanu - kodi mudzakhalabe odzipereka kwa wina ndi mzake panthawi yopuma? Kapena ubale watha?
• Nanga bwanji kulankhulana? Kodi mudzapitirizabe kulankhulana pafoni kapena mutsatira lamulo loti musamagwirizane mwachipembedzo?
• Khalani owona mtima nokha. Kodi mukutsimikiza 100% kuti iyi ndiye chisankho choyenera? Kodi ndi mbali ziti za moyo wanu zomwe mukufuna kukonza?

Zizindikiro 9 Zomwe Muyenera Kupuma Paubwenzi Wanu

Kuyambira nthawi yomwe ubale uyenera kutha mpaka momwe mungapangire nthawi yopuma pachibwenzi mukakhala limodzi, patha kukhala zambiri zazing'ono zomwe mungafotokoze mukakhala pachimake cha chisankho chofunikira chotere - komanso chowopsa. Komabe, musanalowe mwatsatanetsatane, dongosolo loyamba la bizinesi liyenera kukhala lotsimikizira ngati mikhalidwe yanu ikuyenera kutha.

Musamanene kuti mukufuna kupuma chifukwa choti mnzanuyo anaonera pulogalamu yomwe mumakonda popanda inu. Komabe, ngati pali zizindikiro zazikulu zoti mukufuna malo amenewa muubwenzi , nthawi ikhoza kukhala nthawi yoti musiye kuyang'ana kwina. Ndipo zizindikiro zimenezo ndi ziti? Apa ndi pamene kupuma pang'ono muubwenzi ndi lingaliro labwino:

1. Nkhondo ili pafupi

Nthawi zina kupuma paubwenzi wapoizoni kumakhala chinthu chabwino kwambiri pamalingaliro anu. Ngati kukhala pamodzi ndi mnzanu kumawoneka ngati mndandanda wa zokambirana zovuta, kodi padziko lapansi mungapulumuke bwanji kunyalanyaza kwambiri? Ndiuzeni, kodi zochitika zotsatirazi zikukukhudzani?

• Ziribe kanthu zomwe munganene, ndewu nthawi zonse imawoneka ngati ikutuluka
• Inu mwatsala mukudabwa chimene inu munalakwitsa, koma pofika nthawi imeneyo, izo zidzakhala mochedwa kwambiri. Masewera okuwa ayamba kale
• Mumaona ngati nthawi zonse mumaponda ayezi wopyapyala kapena kuti muyenera kuganiza kawiri musananene chilichonse
• Inu nonse mulibe lingaliro momwe mungalumikizirenso pambuyo pa ndewu, kotero mukuyembekeza kuti kungokhala chete kudzachita chinyengo
• Zikuwoneka kuti mutha kukumbukira zokumbukira zoyipa za ubale wanu kuposa zabwino

Mukafika pamlingo umenewo, musadzimve kuti ndi wolakwa chifukwa chofuna kusiya chibwenzi chifukwa sizingatanthauze kanthu ngati, poupulumutsa, mutaya mtendere wamaganizo.

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2. Inu awiri muli pa-kachiwiri, kutali-kachiwiri

Anzanu akayankha ndi "kachiwiri?!!" ku nkhani yoti mwathetsa chibwenzi, mukudziwa kuti mulibe ubale wolimba kwambiri. Ndinu ma poster awiri ovomerezeka pamaubwenzi apambuyo ndi apo. Ndewu nthawi zonse zimayandikira, ndipo ochepa aiwo akamayipa kwambiri, mumatsekereza wina ndi mnzake pazama media. Kungobwereranso patatha sabata chifukwa nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi nkhawa kuti, "Kodi kupuma kumatanthauza chiyani kwa mtsikana? Ndikam'patsa mpata, adzabweranso?"

Dziwani zomwe mukufuna ndipo zidzakuthandizani muubwenzi wanu komanso thanzi lanu la maganizo. Ubwino wolola malo okwanira muubwenzi ndi woposa zoopsa zomwe zingachitike muubwenzi woterewu. Muyenera kudziwa kuti kupuma muubwenzi wa nthawi yayitali ndikwabwino kuposa kukodwa muubwenzi wovuta womwe umakupangitsani kukhala wotopa kwambiri.

“Pamene pali chizoloŵezi chokhazikika chaubwenzi, mkangano, kupatukana, ndiyeno kuyanjananso, munthu ayenera kuganizanso mozama za ubwenziwo ndi chifukwa chake ukugwera m’chizoloŵezi choipa chotere. Osachepera, pakadali pano zitha kupatsa mnzake nthawi ndi malo kuti akonzenso zofunikira komanso kuchepetsa zomwe zayambitsa mikangano ndikupeza momwe angathetsere, "akutero Pooja.

3. Simungaganizire 'mwachimwemwe mpaka kalekale' ndi okondedwa wanu

Limodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri oti mupume muubwenzi ndikusinthanso kuganizira zofuna zanu. Ngati mukumva kuti ngakhale mutakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali, china chake sichikuyenda bwino muubwenzi wanu kapena simukuwona tsogolo lenileni ndi momwe zinthu zilili pano, muyenera kuganiziranso momwe mukufuna kuchita. Koma nthawi zina timazengereza kupita patsogolo chifukwa cha zinthu zambiri zakunja. Nthawi zina sitingathe kusankha pakati pa “kupuma kapena kuleka?”.

Kugonana nthawi zina kungapangitse anthu kukhala pachibwenzi choopsa, ngakhale akudziwa kuti palibe tsogolo lenileni kumeneko. Adzakhala okonzeka kunyalanyaza zinthu zoipa chifukwa chakuti zabwinozo zimamveka ngati zoyenera kuvutitsidwa. Koma mukazindikira kuti simungathe kupitiriza motere, mukudziwa kuti muyenera kupuma pang'ono. Pamapeto pake, muyenera kulankhulana maganizo anu ndi mnzanuyo ndikukumana ndi zokambirana zovuta mosasamala kanthu kuti mukufuna kuziletsa bwanji.

4. Pumulani pachibwenzi ngati simungayang'ane modutsa wosokoneza

Patatha miyezi ingapo kuchokera muubwenzi wanu ndipo mwazindikira kuti maganizo a mnzanu pa ndale sangakhale kutali kwambiri ndi anu. Kapena mwina mwapeza kuti akukonda zinthu zingapo zomwe simungathe kuziona mopitirira muyeso. Mwina pali ndewu yomwe imabwerezabwereza chifukwa cha ndewuyo. Mutha kudzikakamiza kuti musiye kuiona, koma nthawi zonse imabwereranso kuti muyambitse ndewu ina. Kwa ife, zikuwoneka ngati nthawi yoyenera yothetsa ubale. Ndani akudziwa kuti izi zitha kulimbitsa ubale wanu ndipo mubwerera osavulala ngati imodzi mwa nkhani zabwino zomwe zimabweretsa kusweka kwa ubale.

Pazimenezi, Pooja akuti, "Izi zikhoza kukhala zaumwini kwa banja lililonse. Mwachitsanzo, tiyeni tikambirane malire okhudzana ndi kusakhulupirika. Ena angaganize zokopana ndi ena kuti ayi, pamene pangakhale maanja omwe ali bwino kuti okondedwa awo amatumizirana mameseji ndi ena malinga ngati sakukhudzana. chingakhale chisonyezo chabwino chochotseratu nthawi yokayang'ana, ndikuyanjanitsa - ngati zilipo. "

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5. Masiku angapo popanda kulankhulana akuwoneka akudutsa

Inde, pali zovuta zina zopumira paubwenzi, ndipo palibe amene amadziona kuti akusiya ubale wabwino kukhala wosakwatiwa. Koma pamene kusalankhulana ndi mnzanuyo kumakhala kosavuta kusiyana ndi kuyesa kukambirana naye, kupatukana kwachidule kungakupatseni mwayi wosankha ngati munthuyo ali woyenera kumugwira kapena ngati mukuyenera kupita patsogolo ndi ulemu. Tili nanu ngati mukuganiza zopumula paubwenzi wautali chifukwa:

• Mumamva kuti ubalewo ukukuvulazani kuposa zabwino ndipo pali chisangalalo chochulukirapo kuposa chisangalalo mu ubale wanu
• Pambuyo pa ndewu zanu zoyipa zosapeweka, mumapatsana nthawi zonse kuchitira chete
• Masiku amene simukulankhulana mumamva bwino kwambiri kuposa momwe mumachitira
• Mauthenga aliwonse omwe mnzanu amatumiza amakupangitsani kufuna kutsekanso foni yanu ndikuyisunga
• Simuyembekezera kuthetsa ndewu zilizonse ndipo mwina mumaganiza zothetsa chibwenzi nthawi zambiri

6. Zoyembekeza sizikufanana

Mwina munthu m'modzi yemwe ali pachibwenzi chotalikirana amaganiza kuti mumalankhulana pa foni nthawi zonse koma winayo akuganiza kuti 'kutumizirana mameseji' kungachite bwino. Kapena mwina mumafuna china chake wamba, koma ndiye, mnzanuyo akuwonekera ndi maluwa khumi ndi awiri pamodzi ndi matikiti opita ku konsati yomwe ili ndi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Iwalani kutenga malo pachibwenzi, mungafune kuthawa zikachitika.

Flo, mwini sitolo yakale ku Utah, akunena kuti, "Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ino kuti muzindikire kusiyana kwa zomwe mukuyembekezera muubwenzi wanu . Pamene izi zandichitikira posachedwapa, ndipo mwamunayo akufuna malo, ndinkaganiza kuti: Kodi kupuma kumatanthauza chiyani kwa mwamuna? Ngati akufuna kupuma, kodi adzabweranso? ​​Anabweranso, ndipo nthawi ino tinkadziwa zomwe tinkafuna payekhapayekha ndipo tinatha kukambirana za izo popanda mantha kapena kuweruza."

Ichi ndi chifukwa chake ndi bwino kulankhulana mwachindunji ndi mnzanuyo za mtundu wa kutenga nawo mbali mukuyang'ana m'malo mopuma kangapo mu chiyanjano. "Ubwenzi wabwino sikungoyang'anana mwachikondi koma kuyang'ana pamodzi pa zolinga zomwezo kumbali imodzi. Ngati izi zikusowa, padzakhala kusiyana koonekeratu kwa zoyembekeza kuchokera kwaumwini, kuchokera kwa wokondedwa, ndi ubale, zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano. Ogwirizana ayenera kuchokapo pang'ono kuti amvetse zowawa izi ndikuwona mkhalidwewu pansi pa microscope payekha, "akutero Pooja.

7. Nkhani za nsanje, kusatetezeka, ndi kukhulupirirana zimakhala zovuta kuzithetsa

Kuganizira zopuma muubwenzi pamene mukukhala limodzi kungakhale nkhani yaikulu. Kupatula apo, mudzasokoneza miyoyo yanu ndikuchoka pamalo omwe mumakhala bwino. Nthawi zambiri, okwatirana amalola mavuto kukula chifukwa kusamuka ndikukhala okha kumamveka kovuta kwambiri. Komabe, kodi kupuma muubwenzi kungakhale kwabwino pazochitika zotsatirazi? Inde.

• Nkhani monga nsanje, kusadzidalira, ndi kusakhulupirirana zakula kwambiri moti mumangokhalira kuthedwa nzeru.
• Kufunsidwa za zing'onozing'ono za moyo wanu nthawi zonse kumakupangitsani kukhala wotopa
• Othandizana nawo akupanga kusatetezeka kwawo pa inu
• Mukupereka thanzi lanu lamalingaliro kuti mukhalebe paubwenzi ndi bwenzi lowongolera

Ndiye kunena kuti “Tili pa nthawi yopuma” n’koyenera, mosasamala kanthu kuti mwakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji kapena kuti mumaganizira kwambiri za wina ndi mnzake.

8. Ngati mukuona ngati akulakwiridwa, ndi nthawi yoti mutengepo mbali kwa wokondedwa wanu

Mkhalidwe wofala waubwenzi woipa ndi wakuti mmodzi salabadira zimene mnzakeyo akunena. Ngati ndi choncho, mudzayamba kumverera ngati malingaliro anu alibe kanthu ndipo zomwe mukufuna kapena kuyembekezera nthawi zambiri zimanyalanyazidwa. Zitha kukhala zonyozeka ndipo zimangokusiyani osasangalala, ndikudzifunsa kuti, "Ndikufunika kupuma kuti ndiganizirenso za malo anga muubwenzi umenewu, koma bwanji ngati mnzanga achita mosiyana! Kodi kupuma kumatanthauza chiyani kwa mnyamata (kapena mtsikana)?"

Maubale amapangidwa kuti akupangitseni kukhala osangalala komanso kukulitsa moyo wanu. Ngati yanu ikalephera kukwaniritsa mulingo wosavutawu, palibe amene angakudzudzuleni chifukwa chopuma paubwenzi woyipa. Osakoka mapazi pa chisankho ichi. Nthawi zina, muyenera kudziyika nokha patsogolo, ndipo kudziona kuti ndinu osafunika muubwenzi wanu ndi chifukwa chabwino chochitira zimenezo. Lankhulani moona mtima ndi wokondedwa wanu, adziwitseni momwe mukumvera popanda kutsutsa chilichonse, ndipo pemphani kuti mupumule.

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9. Umanama pofuna kupewa ndewu

Kapena simunena zinthu zina chifukwa mukudziwa kuti zidzabweretsa ndewu. Munganame za amene mukukhala naye nthawi yayitali ngakhale simukuchita cholakwika chilichonse. Bodza laling'ono nthawi zina silikuvulaza. Koma mu maubwenzi abwino, muyenera kuuza mnzanu chilichonse popanda kuopa yankho. Munthu akanama muubwenzi kuti moyo ukhale wosavuta, zimangobweretsa mavuto aakulu mtsogolo.

Ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungayambire ndi munthu, muyenera kubwezeretsa chikhulupiriro ndi kukhulupirika mu ubale. Ngati mtunda pang'ono kuchita chinyengo, kutenga mwayi. “Ngati munthu sangakhale woona mtima kwa mnzawo, ndiye kuti amawaopa, asiya kuwakhulupirira, kapena asiya kuwakonda.” Kodi nthawi yotalikirana ingathandize paubwenzi woterewu? Inde, pazochitika zonsezi, kupuma pang’ono kungapereke mpata kwa onse aŵiriwo kuti aganizirenso chimene chinalakwika ndi kuchikonza,” anatero Pooja, akuwonjezera kuti, “Ngati chigwirizano chikupitirizabe kukhala mwamtendere ndi kusunga mtendere, kugwirizana kwachibwanabwana kungathe kupatsanso mpata woti aganizirenso chimene chinalakwika ndi kuchikonza,” anatero Pooja. mgwirizano pakupanga. ”

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Nthawi yomwe zinthu zimachoka m'malo athu otonthoza ndipo tikuwoneka kuti tikulephera kulamulira moyo kapena, pamenepa, ubale, timamva kuti tatayika. Simungakhulupirire kuti ndi mafoni angati a 2 am omwe ndalandira kuchokera kwa anzanga ndi mawu osasunthika, akuti, "Hey, kupuma kumatanthauza chiyani kwa mtsikana akati akufunika kupuma?" kapena “Mukudziwa, ine ndi bwenzi langa tili patchuthi ndipo ndimamusowa.

Kotero, nayi mfundo yoyamba, musachite mantha. Muli bwino! Musayang'ane kwambiri pa kuipa kwa kupuma muubwenzi, m'malo mwake, ganizirani za tsiku lililonse lomwe lingakhale lofunika nthawi yonseyi. Kupuma muubwenzi ndi kwabwino . Zilibe kanthu kuti ndi chisankho cha ndani chomwe chinali chosakhalapo, chanu kapena cha mnzanu, zinthu zisanu ndi chimodzi izi siziyenera kukambidwa kuti mupumule bwino:

• Pokhapokha ngati nonse mukudziwa chifukwa chake kupuma uku kukuchitika, lingaliro lonse limakhala lopanda tanthauzo. Chifukwa chake, onetsetsani kuti mukukambirana ndi munthu payekha ndikumveketsa bwino
• Malamulo ofunikira ndi ofunikira: Kodi mudzacheza ndi anthu ena? Kodi mudzalankhulana (kapena osalankhula) kangati? Kodi mumaloledwa kuchita cheke mlungu uliwonse?
• Kukhazikitsa nthawi yocheperako kudzakuthandizani kuti nonse mukhale oganiza bwino chifukwa palibe amene amakonda kudikirira kwanthawi yayitali popanda chitsimikizo.
• Panthawi imeneyi, ganizirani za mavuto anu, aumwini komanso a ubale wanu. Mutha kuyesa kulemba, kufufuza zambiri pankhaniyi, kapena kuwonana ndi akatswiri kuti amvetsetse momwe mukumvera
• Nthawi yomweyo, gwiritsani ntchito zolinga zanu ndikuwona ngati zikugwirizana ndi za mnzanuyo
• Kaya mukufuna kukonza zinthu kapena kusandutsa nthawi yopumayi kukhala chilekano chomaliza, chisankhocho chiyenera kutengedwa pamodzi nthawi yopuma ikatha.

Tsopano popeza mukudziwa bwino momwe mungathanirane ndi vuto la chibwenzi, musaganize kuti ndi mapeto a ulendo. Ngati malamulo a 'kuthetsa chibwenzi' afotokozedwa bwino ndipo onse awiri akugwirizana ndi lingaliroli, lingakhale njira yabwino yoyambiranso chibwenzi . Tikutsimikiza kuti mudzafika pa imodzi mwa nkhani zabwino za chikondi zomwe zimabweretsa chipambano!

Zachidziwikire, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuyesetsa kuthana ndi vuto lanu panthawiyi, kuwunikira, ndikusankha zomwe mukufuna paubwenzi. Nthawi zina, kupuma kungathandize okwatirana kuona kuti ndi bwino kusiyana kusiyana ndi kubwererana. Chachikulu ndichakuti, ngakhale zotsatira zake sizingakhale zosangalatsa nthawi zonse, kupumula kudzakhalabe kwakwaniritsa cholinga chake.

Nkhaniyi idasinthidwa mu June 2023. 

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