14 Zizindikiro Ukwati Watha Kwa Amuna

Ndi zizindikiro zotani kuti ukwati wanu watha kwa iye? Kodi ziwonetsero zakuti akuchoka zimakhala zolemetsa? Kapena kodi zonse zobisika m'makhalidwe ake zomwe mumalephera kuziwona zikuphatikiza mulu waukulu wamavuto paubwenzi wanu?

Kodi nonse mwasiyiratu miyambo yokongola yam'mawa yomwe mumaiona kuti ndi yopatulika kwa inu? N’kutheka kuti sakulankhula nanu mwanjira yofananayo, kapena amangokhalira kucheza kwambiri ndi bwenzi lake latsopano uja amene anamupeza kuntchito. Kudera nkhawa za thanzi la banja lanu ndikwabwinobwino, koma kukaikira kwakanthawi kochepa kusanduka kukayikira kosalekeza, mwina mukuyang'ana zizindikiro zowonjezereka.

Tsopano popeza mwawerenga nkhaniyi ndipo nthawi zonse mumadabwa ngati muli ndi banja labwino, mwachita kale njira yoyenera. Mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapist Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), yemwe amagwira ntchito pa upangiri pa ubale komanso Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, tiyeni tiwone zizindikiro zoti sakusangalala m’banjamo. 

Kodi Mumadziwa Bwanji Ngati Mwamuna Wachita Chibwenzi?

Ngakhale kuti mwamuna wanu sangakufotokozereni mokweza tsiku ndi tsiku, pali zinthu zina zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale okwiya kapena owonetsa khalidwe lanu zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuona ngati wayamba kutopa ndi ubalewu. Mwina ankakonda kukutumizirani mameseji m'mbuyomu, ziribe kanthu kuti linali ola liti kapena zomwe akuchita - ndipo tsopano sakuwoneka kuti akuyankha mauthenga anu tsiku lonse. Kapena zomwe kale zinkakhala zosangalatsa komanso maphwando obadwa kunyumba kwanu, tsopano zikuwoneka ngati madzulo ovuta ndi botolo la vinyo lotsegulidwa kale. Izi ndi zomwe zikuwoneka, pamene mwamuna ayamba kumverera kuti achita ndi chibwenzi chake:

• Sayamba nthawi yocheza limodzi: Nthawi yokha inu awiri kwenikweni amathera iliyonse nthawi yabwino pamodzi, Ndi pamene mukuchipempha. Kwa mwamuna wanu, zikuwoneka kuti zilibenso kanthu kaya inu nonse mumapita kokawonera kanema kapena chakudya chamadzulo, kapena kungogona pabedi ndikupukuta mafoni kumapeto kwa tsiku.
• Mwamuna wanu amakukwiyirani nthawi zonse: Zikuoneka kuti wayamba kupsa mtima pa zinthu zazing’ono. Tsiku lina, sanapeze masokosi ake ndipo anakukalipirani chifukwa chakutaya mukuchapa. Kapena tsiku lina, alamu yanu inalira nthawi yowonjezereka ndipo adayambitsa ndewu pa izo
• Kulumikizana ndi pafupifupi ziro: Momwe munkachitira miseche za achibale anu onse mutapita ku maukwati, kapena kupanga malingaliro okhudza chilengedwe mutakhala ndi ambiri - kuyandikana kumeneko kukuwoneka kuti kwatha. Kupatulapo kukambilana za ndalama za ana anu akusukulu kapena chakudya chamadzulo, nonse inu nonse mukuwoneka kuti simukukambirananso ndipo simuli pa tsamba limodzi pa chilichonse.

Zizindikiro Kuti Ukwati Wanu Watha Kwa Iye

Kuthamangira pano ndi malingaliro monga "Banja langa latha, sindikudziwa choti ndichite" ndi kuyankha kwachilengedwe ngati zomwe zili pamwambazi ndi zoona kwa inu. Koma tisanapange malingaliro okulirapo, tiyeni tiwone zizindikiro zina kuti ukwati wanu watha kwa iye.

Choyamba, chotsani malingaliro aliwonse omwe mungakhale nawo m'mutu mwanu. “Amuna ali chonchi, akazi ali chonchi”, kaganizidwe kameneka sikungakuthandizeni. Ndaonapo akazi amene amakonda kwambiri ntchito, aukali, ndiponso ankhanza. Ndawonapo amuna omwe amakhala chete, amanyazi, odekha. “Musanayambe kuona zizindikiro zilizonse zimene waona kale m’banjamo, onetsetsani kuti simulowa m’banja mongoganizira kale mmene liyenera kuonekera,” akutero. Dr. Bhonsle.

Zizindikiro kuti ukwati wanu watsala pang'ono kutha, zidzasiyana kuchokera ku ukwati kupita ku ukwati. Zimene bwenzi lanu, Jenna, ananena ponena za mwamuna wanu wowoneka mosinthasintha mwina sizingakhale zodetsa nkhaŵa. Zomwe zili "zosintha" kwa iye zingakhale zachibadwa kwa inu, ndipo zomwe ziri zachibadwa kwa inu zingakhale chifukwa cha chisudzulo kwa iye. 

Komabe, pamene chinachake chakwera, mukhoza kuchimva m'mafupa anu. Ngati kukayikira kokayikitsa kuti chinachake chalakwika sikudzatha, zizindikiro zotsatirazi ziyenera kuyankha funso limodzi limene limakuchititsani kugona usiku: “Kodi ukwati wanga wathadi?”

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1. Samalani ngati pali zizindikiro zachinyengo 

Pamene mukuyang'ana zizindikiro kuti banja lanu likufa, palibe chizindikiro chachikulu kuposa chinyengo chamalingaliro. Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza momwe zingawonekere muubwenzi wanu. “Akhoza kukhala paubwenzi mopambanitsa ndi mnzake amene amakana kum’dziŵitsa kwa bwenzi lake.” Mnzawo watsopano ameneyu amene wabwera pa chithunzicho angawonekere mwadzidzidzi kukhala wofunika kwambiri kuposa mnzakeyo. 

“Panthawi yachinyengo, mudzaona mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akukuchitirani zinthu zimene ankakuchitirani m’mbuyomu.” Nthawi zambiri amabisala mobisa kuti “Sindinagonepo ndi munthu ameneyu, palibe cholakwika chilichonse”.

“Ndaona zochitika zochuluka kwambiri ngati izi pamene amuna azaka zawo za m’ma 60 akopeka ndi munthu wamng’ono, ndipo afikira pa kugulira mabwenzi atsopano ameneŵa nyumba, magalimoto, ndi kuthandiza m’njira iriyonse imene iwo angathe. 

Popeza kuti kusakhulupirika kwamtunduwu kungakhale kovuta kugwira kusiyana ndi chiwerewere, okwatirana amatha kubisala kuseri kwa "ubwenzi". Nthawi zina, atha kukhala odzipatulira kukhulupirira kuti sali okondana kwambiri monga momwe dziko limawaonera. Koma kwa abwenzi awo, izi ndi zosokoneza.

2. Ngati akukhala kutali ndi nthawi yayitali, zingakhale zodetsa nkhawa 

Ngati mwamuna wanu ali mtundu wa munthu amene amangoyendayenda yekhayekha ndi moyo wongoyendayenda, kupita kwake ulendo wamlungu umodzi sikudetsa nkhaŵa kwenikweni. Koma ngati lingaliro lake lokhala kutali limatanthauza kupita ku golosale nokha ndipo tsopano akuyendetsa ulendo wake wa mwezi umodzi kuti asakhale ndi inu ndi ana awiriwa, mwina simukusangalala kwambiri.

Inde, siziyenera kukhala zolimba choncho. Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti: “Nthaŵi yopambanitsa imene timathera kunja kwa nyumba popanda kudziwitsa mnzanu nthaŵi zambiri si chizindikiro chokhacho chimene chimasonyeza kuti munthu ali panja. ukwati wolephera, koma chikhoza kukhala chizindikiro choti muyang'ane. Madzulo kuntchito, kukhala kumalo a abwenzi, maulendo a bizinesi omwe amangochitika mwadzidzidzi; akuyesera momwe angathere kuti azembe. M’malo mwake, n’kungofuna kuthawa, n’cholinga chofuna kupanga anthu ena kuti asamacheze nawo limodzi.” 

3. Kuchepa kwa ubwenzi wakuthupi kungakhale chizindikiro chakuti iye alibe chimwemwe m’banja

Ndiye, kodi cliche yakale yowona? Ngati sakufuna chilichonse chokhudza amuna kapena akazi awo kugonana, kodi ndi chizindikiro kuti ukwati wanu watha kwa amuna? Yankho ndiloti, ndizokhazikika kwambiri. “Ngakhale kuti kugonana ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri m’banja, n’zomvetsa chisoni kuti zinthu zimenezi sitingathe kuzifotokoza bwinobwino.” Avereji ya kuchuluka kwa kugonana kumasintha kuchoka m’banja kupita ku ukwati.

Dr. Bhonsle ananena kuti: “Zimatengera mmene ankachitira nthawi zambiri zinthu zikakhala bwino.” Zikangoona ngati akukana kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wake azimupempha kuti amugwire, zingaoneke ngati chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoti sakusangalala m’banjamo.

• Sayambitsanso kugonana: Zikuoneka kuti sizikulowa m'maganizo mwake panthawiyi. Mwapita miyezi osachita nawo chibwenzi chamtundu uliwonse ndipo sakubweretsa kapena kunena. Ichinso ndi chimodzi mwa zotheka zizindikiro zachinyengo muubwenzi
• Mukamayesetsa, amazemba: Kapena choipa kwambiri, molunjika amakana kukhala paubwenzi ndi inu. Mukamufunsa chifukwa chake, amati n’chifukwa chakuti sali m’maganizo kapena kugwira ntchito mopambanitsa. Kuwiringulako kungagwire ntchito kangapo koyambirira koma ngati chiwopsezochi chikachitika kwa nthawi yayitali, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zochenjeza zomwe adaziwona muubwenzi wanu.

4. "Palibe, musadandaule" ndilo yankho lake lalikulu

“Kodi banja langa lathadi?” Val anasinkhasinkha, akumalankhula ndi bwenzi lake za momwe mwamuna wake amawonekera kukhala wokhoza kulankhula naye. Nthawi zonse ndikamamufunsa zimene akuganiza, zimakhala ngati akungondiona ngati akundiona kuti ndi zenizeni, n’kundithamangitsa, n’kuchokapo.

Dr. Bhonsle ananena kuti: “Sipangakhale nkhani za kugonana, koma mwamuna angaoneke ngati sakufuna kukambirana naye.” N’kutheka kuti iye angakhalepo pa zochitika zonse za m’banja ndi m’machitidwe onse a m’banja, koma n’kutheka kuti kwa nthaŵi yaitali sanaulule zakukhosi kwake,” anatero Dr. Nthaŵi zina, ukwati woipa ukhoza kukhala wosadziŵika monga umenewo. Pamene wina abisa zakukhosi kwake kwa munthu yemwe akuyenera kukhala naye moyo wake wonse, mumadziwa kuti china chake sichili bwino. 

• Kusalumikizana: Mu ubale uliwonse, kulankhulana kwabwino nthawi zambiri ndi guluu yemwe amasunga chilichonse. Chotsani izo pa equation, ndipo mwadzipezera nokha chosakaniza chopanda malire komanso chowopsa
• Ngakhale zabwino zosavuta zatuluka pawindo: Kufunsa "Hey, tsiku lanu linali bwanji lero?" ndi chinthu chomwe mwasiya kuchiyembekezera kuchokera kwa iye. Ngakhale sakukwiyirani, nonse mulibenso fanizoli pomwe mumakhala ndikukambirana za moyo wanu kapena kukhala limodzi.

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5. Kodi ‘nthawi yokhala pawekha’ ndi zinthu zakale?

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Nthaŵi zonse angaloŵetse mwana wanu m’chipindamo, kapena kupeza zifukwa zoitanira banjalo, nthaŵi zambiri osauza mnzanuyo.” Kwenikweni, zimenezi ndi njira zosaonekera bwino zopeŵera kukhala patokha ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake.

Kodi ndi liti pamene munafunsana kuti mukuyenda bwanji ndipo munakambirana bwino za nkhaniyi? Ngati zikuwoneka ngati mukukhala ndi mnzanu amene mumagonana naye nthawi ndi nthawi, mwina ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe akufuna kukusiyani. 

• Nonse simupita kutchuthi: Yesetsani kukumbukira nthawi yomaliza yomwe inu nonse munapita kunja kwa tawuni kumapeto kwa sabata kapena kuyenda limodzi kwa sabata limodzi. Ngati padutsa chaka, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti ukwati wanu uli pa miyala
• Amakunyalanyazaninso pazochitika zabanja: M’malo mokukumbatirani ndi kukupsompsonani monyadira pamaso pa aliyense kaamba ka kukhala mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, nthaŵi zambiri aŵiri aŵirinu amatengeka kutali m’mikhalidwe yocheza. Nthawi yokhayo yomwe mumalankhulana ndi pamene muyenera kusankha nthawi yochoka
• Lamlungu, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi kwinakwake kopita: Kutenga bwenzi lake kukadya brunch tsiku labwino ladzuwa kapena kupeza nthawi yocheza kunyumba ndi banja ndi zinthu zakale. Pamasiku amene sakugwira ntchito, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zolinga zina. Zimakhala ngati simukumuonanso m’nyumbamo

6. Kodi foni yake yaletsedwa mwadzidzidzi?

Kodi amatseka chinsalu chake mochenjera mukangolowa m'chipinda chake? Kodi amanjenjemera ngati mutamugwira foni, ngakhale ndi Google chabe? Ngakhale sichiyenera kukhala chimodzi mwazo zizindikiro zoti akufuna kukusiyani, ndithudi akubisa chinachake.

“Okwatirana akamayesa kuyang’ana pa telefoni nthaŵi zonse kuti apeze umboni wosonyeza kuti mnzakeyo akuimba mlandu mnzake, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zikusonyeza kuti chibwenzicho sichikuyenda bwino.” Zimenezi zimachititsa kuti anthu azikhulupirirana komanso kuti banja lisamayende bwino. ukwati woipa ungayambe kuoneka ngati.

7. Nthawi zonse umakhala wolakwa, zivute zitani

Pamene maganizo osakhutira ndi olakwika akukula m'banja, simudzalankhulana wina ndi mzake ndi mawu okondweretsa kwambiri. Ngati zonse zomwe amachita ndikukuimbani mlandu ndikupeza zolakwika mwa inu, chingakhale chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zowawa kwambiri zomwe banja silingapulumutsidwe.

"Kuyambira kulemera kwawo, zovala zawo, nthawi zambiri amatuluka, mtundu wa munthu, kuchuluka kwa ndalama zomwe amawononga, adzakhala ndi vuto ndi mkazi wake. Zili ngati akuyesera kuwauza kuti asinthe kapena kusiya moyo wake. zizindikiro kuti ukwati wanu watha kwa amuna, osachepera m'maganizo. Mfundo za kupita kukhoti ndi kusudzulana zingalepheretse kuchitapo kanthu, koma mwina maganizo awo asiya kale,” akutero Dr. Bhonsle. 

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• Kusakhululuka: Kukhululuka ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa ubale uliwonse, koma akuwoneka kuti wayiwala zonsezo. Ngakhale pa zinthu zing’onozing’ono, amaona ngati sakhululuka ndipo sangalole kuti zinthu zipite. Cholakwika chomwe mudapanga miyezi isanu ndi itatu yapitayo chidzabwera mwadzidzidzi mukulankhulana lero

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8. Kulimba kwa banja lanu kumangokhalira nthabwala

Anthu amalimbana ndi zowawa mothandizidwa ndi nthabwala. Nthawi zina, amatha kugwiritsa ntchito nthabwala kuti afotokoze zinthu zomwe sangakonzekere kukambirana. Nthawi ina mukadzawona chinachake chagwiridwa ndi chingwe ndipo mwamuna wanu akunena kuti "O taonani, ndi ukwati wathu", ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zodziwika kuti zinthu zikuipiraipira m'banja mwanu.

“Ngati pali nthabwala zochulukitsitsa ponena za ukwati watha, pangakhale zinthu zingapo zimene mungafune kuziŵerenga pakati pa mizere.” Pamakhala chowonadi pang’ono kumbuyo kwa nthabwala iriyonse.” M’malo motulutsa kuseka kwamanjenje, kuganiza kuti “Chabwino, iye sanalakwitse”, yesani ndi kulingalira za chimene chingatanthauze,” akutero Dr. Bhonsle. 

9. Mmene mumaonera zam'tsogolo n'zosiyana kwambiri 

If ali m’banja losasangalala, mudzaona mmene zolinga zake za m’tsogolo zikusintha kwambiri, ndipo maganizo anu sakuonekanso ngati akugwirizana. Iwalani kuti quaint duplex m'madera akumidzi munakonza pa kugula pamene inu mwapuma pantchito, tsopano iye mwadzidzidzi akufuna kukhala wamalonda.

Yesani kukambirana ndi mwamuna wanu za m’tsogolo. Ngati ayankha momveka bwino popanda kukambirana bwino za izo, zikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zizindikiro watuluka muukwati kale. Mwinamwake nonse nthaŵi zonse mumafuna kuti ana aŵiri akulitse banja lanu, koma tsopano akuwoneka kuti akunyalanyaza konse kuthekerako. Kapena mungafune kusamukira kudera lina, koma nthawi zonse amanyalanyaza kuyimbira malo omwe adalonjeza kuti adzalankhula naye. Zimakupangitsani kukayikira nthawi zonse ngati akufuna kukhalabe ndi banja lanu.

10. Pali kusakhulupirika pazachuma

Kusakhulupirika pazachuma m’mabanja akhoza kukukwawirani osazindikira n’komwe. Musanadziwe, angakhale akutenga zisankho zazikulu zachuma popanda kukutsekerezani, ndikukuuzani kuti samakulemekezani kwambiri. 

• Amapanga zisankho zoyipa zachuma: Chizindikiro chaukwati sichingapulumutsidwe ndi pamene theka la ubale alibe ulamuliro pa ndalama. Akabwera kunyumba ndi galimoto inu nonse munaganiza kuti simukufunikira, mwina akukumana ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri lapakati pa moyo kapena sanakulemekezeni poyamba.
• Amasankha kuti asakufunseninso: Kuyambira pogula zinthu zamtengo wapatali mpaka kugula zinthu zapakhomo, zikuwoneka ngati mwamuna wanu sakufuna kukufunsani zomwe mungafune. Izi zitha kuwonekanso ngati zosokoneza

11. Pali kusowa kochita khama

Pamene zosonkhezera ndi kutengeka mtima zonse zichoka pa chimene chinali ukwati wabwino, si chikhumbo choyaka moto cha chikondi chimene chimasunga anthu aŵiri pamodzi. Chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale wazaka khumi ukhale wolimba ndi khama, zambiri. Kaya izi ndi zaubwenzi, zodabwitsa zodabwitsa, kuyesa kucheza wina ndi mnzake kapena kukhala ndi mwana, mwamuna wanu akuwoneka kuti sakudziwa komwe angayambire.

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu kuti ukwati wanu ukupita pang'onopang'ono ndi pamene sangavutike kuyang'anitsitsa mavuto omwe inu nonse mukukumana nawo. Adzapewa kukhala ndi udindo, ndipo anganyalanyaze mavuto omwe mumapereka, ndikukupangitsani kumva ngati sakufuna kukhalabe ndi banja lanu.

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12. Amakhala wotanganidwa ndi anthu ena ndi zinthu

Komanso, osangalala kwambiri pozungulira iwo. Pamene akuwoneka kuti ali ndi nkhawa pafupi nanu, mungaganize kuti zingakhale zokhudzana ndi iyeyo ndipo sizikugwirizana ndi banja lanu. Mwina wapsinjika maganizo kapena wayamba kugwa m’maganizo. Komabe, imodzi mwa njira zodziwira kuti ukwati wanu watha ndi pamene muwona kuti ndi Debbie wochepetsetsa kunyumba, koma akakhala ndi anthu ena, nthawi zambiri amakhala moyo wa phwando.

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofala kwambiri. Akuwoneka kuti akuyenda kwambiri ndi abwenzi ake, ogwira nawo ntchito - ngakhale azisuweni awo omwe amakhala mtawuni yonseyo omwe adati amawada tsopano akuwoneka kuti ali m'makonzedwe ake a sabata. Aliyense amapeza kukongola kwake, chidwi chake, ndi chikondi chake koma zonse zomwe mumapeza ndi mbali yake yotopetsa.

13. Sakufunsani zomwe zikuchitika ndi inu

Mukukumbukira pamene adadziwa zonse za mkangano wanu ndi Katelyn kuchokera kuntchito? Kapena pamene adayesetsa kuchita nawo ntchito zanu zonse mutaganiza zoyamba kugwira ntchito ndi matenda amisala? Panthawi imeneyi m'banja mwanu, sangakumbukire kuti Katelyn ndi ndani ndipo savutikira kufunsa momwe polojekiti yanu ikuyendera.

Zodetsa nkhawa zanu, moyo wanu, ndi zokonda zanu zili kutali kwambiri ndi iye. Zili ngati inu, pamene iye akutuluka ndi kuchita zimene ayenera kuchita.

14. Nthawi zonse amapeta miyala

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zochenjeza zomwe wayang'ana m'banjamo, zomwe sizingalephereke, ngati akukumangani mwala. Dr. John Gottman amachitchanso ichi chimodzi mwa zinthu zinayi zoneneratu za chisudzulo. Ngati mwamuna wanu amakukwiyirani nthawi zonse ndiyeno n’kuyamba kukunyalanyazani akamakukalipirani, ndiye kuti akukumenyani miyala. Kapena ngati ataya mtima mpaka zilibe kanthu ngati inu nonse mumagwirizana kapena kugwirira ntchito paubwenzi wanu, ndi nkhani ya kugwetsa miyala.

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Kungoyang'ana, zingawoneke ngati zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikupeza zizindikiro zingapo zomwe adaziwona kale m'banjamo, auzeni anzanu angapo, ndipo tsimikizani kuti ukwati tsopano sungatheke. Nthawi zambiri, sizikhala zotseguka komanso zotsekedwa monga choncho. Ayi, musalole kuti ziŵerengero zokwezeka za zisudzulo zikupangitseni kulingalira kuti zonse zatha. Pali zambiri zomwe mungachite ndikuziyesa musanazisiye, ndikulola malingaliro anu onse oyipa akutengereni.

Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza zinthu zimene muyenera kusamala nazo, kuti: “Momwe ndimaonera, sungayang’ane zizindikiro n’kufika poganiza kuti ukwati wanu wasokonekera. Kutaya chidwi kumakhala ndi zizindikiro zambiri.

Zingatanthauzenso kuti ali ndi chidwi koma amakhalanso ndi malingaliro odziimira okha ndipo lingaliro lake la chikondi ndi losiyana.Zizindikiro izi kuti ukwati wanu uli pa mpanda sizikutanthauza kuti zinthu sizikuyenda bwino.Zili ngati kunena kuti "Amasewera masewera a pakompyuta, sayenera kuika maganizo ake pa ntchito yake" kapena "Ali ndi mipeni yakale, ayenera kukhala wachiwawa".

Osalumpha mfuti

"Palibe mwa zizindikilozi zomwe zimabwera popanda zinthu zotsagana nazo. Chilichonse chimakhala chamitundu yambiri. Chifukwa chakuti sanakupatseni maluwa pa Tsiku la Valentine, sizikutanthauza kuti samakukondani. Chikondi chimawonetsedwa mosiyana, kutengera zaka khumi za moyo womwe muli. pamodzi Mukakhala wamkulu, ndalama mu mutual thumba pamodzi ndi chikondi. 

“Kuyambira momwe mumafotokozera chikondi chimasintha, ndipo pali zambiri kuposa zomwe zimawonekera, muyenera kukhala osamala. M'malo mongoganiza zongoganizira zomwe akufuna kukusiyani, yesani kuzisintha kuti zimvetsetse komwe zikuchokera. M'malo mosinkhasinkha kuyambira pomwe wakhala akuwonetsa zizindikirozi, dziwani chifukwa chake, "adamaliza. 

Mwakhala mukuyesera kuti mugwire ndikusanthula zizindikiro zambiri zoti banja lanu likufunika thandizo ndipo zikuwoneka ngati likusokoneza kwambiri. Zingakhale zothandiza kufikira mlangizi wosakondera yemwe angakuthandizeni nonse. Ngati mukufuna kusiya kudabwa zomwe zikuchitika ndikusowa yankho lolimba la zomwe muyenera kuchita kenako, gulu la Bonobology la akatswiri odziwa bwino ntchito ndi chabe. dinani kutali. 

Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti mwamuna wanu watsekedwa mkati ndipo simukuganiza kuti muli pa tsamba lomwelo, mwachiyembekezo, zizindikiro izi zakuthandizani kuti mumvetse bwino zomwe zikuchitika. Mukangozindikira kuti pali cholakwika, ndipamene mungachikonze mwachangu. 

Nkhaniyi idasinthidwa mu Disembala 2022.

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