Kodi Trauma Dumping N'chiyani? Katswiri Akufotokoza Tanthauzo, Zizindikiro, Ndi Mmene Mungagonjetsere Izi

Mukatha mazira m'mawa ndikuphwanyidwa tayala popita kuntchito, kutulutsa mpweya kumapeto kwa tsiku kungakhale zonse zomwe mukufunikira. Komabe, pamene "kutulutsa mpweya" kukukulirakulira ndikusiya aliyense amene akukhudzidwayo akumva kutopa, mungafunike kudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa kutaya. 

Kutaya zoopsa ndi pamene munthu amatsitsa zowawa zake kwa munthu yemwe sangathe kapena wokonzeka kuzikonza, kumusiya munthuyo akumva kutenthedwa, kukhudzidwa molakwika, komanso m'maganizo olakwika.

Kodi kutaya mtima mu ubale kumawoneka bwanji ndipo munthu amazindikira bwanji kuti akugawana zomwe akumana nazo, ndikuwononga anthu omwe amamvetsera? Mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Pragati Sureka (MA mu Clinical Psychology, mbiri ya akatswiri kuchokera ku Harvard Medical School), yemwe amagwira ntchito yothana ndi mavuto monga kuwongolera mkwiyo, nkhani za makolo, ndi maukwati ankhanza komanso opanda chikondi kudzera m'malingaliro, tiyeni tifotokoze zonse zomwe zikuyenera kudziwa za kutaya zinthu mopwetekedwa mtima. 

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“Kutaya mtima ndi pamene wina akulankhula mosasefa kwa mnzake popanda kuganizira zotsatirapo zimene zingakhudze mnzakeyo.” Nthaŵi zambiri, munthu amene akutaya chivundikirocho sangafunse n’komwe omvera ngati ali mumkhalidwe woti amvetsere, ndipo zochitika zomvetsa chisoni zimene zimagaŵidwa mosabisa zingachititse womvetserayo kulephera kuzilingalira kapena kuzilingalira.”

“Chitsanzo chomvetsa chisoni cha kutaya mtima ndicho pamene kholo likhoza kugaŵana mopambanitsa ndi mwana.” Iwo angalankhule za zinthu zimene sizikuyenda bwino m’banja kapena nkhanza zimene amakumana nazo kuchokera kwa apongozi awo. Pragati. 

Pamene munthu ali paubwenzi, zingawoneke ngati kuti kugawana zomwe munakumana nazo ndi zomveka, chifukwa ndi momwe anthu awiri amachitira. ubwenzi wapamtima. Koma ngati mnzanuyo sali m'malo oti azitha kuwongolera kuchuluka kwa zomwe mukugawana, zimakhala zovuta kwa nonse.

Iwo sangadziwe momwe angayankhire chifukwa sadziwa momwe angachitire. Ngati pakali pano akukumana ndi mavuto, kumva za amayi anu omwe ali ndi poizoni kapena nkhanza zomwe munakumana nazo muli mwana zingawachititse kuti asokonezeke maganizo. 

Kutaya mtima, kutanthauza, kunyalanyaza malingaliro a munthu amene akumvetsera, nthawi zambiri zimachitika mwachisawawa. Ndicho chifukwa chake kumvetsetsa kusiyana pakati pa trauma dumping vs venting kumakhala kofunika.

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Mwachidule, mukamauza wina zakukhosi kwanu, mumakambirana momasuka, komanso osalankhula za zoopsa zomwe zingagwedeze malingaliro a omvera. 

Komano, kutaya kwa zoopsa kumachitika popanda kuganizira ngati munthu amene mukulankhula nayeyo ali mumkhalidwe woti amvetsere kapena kumvetsera, ndipo kugawana maganizo opweteka ndi zomwe wakumana nazo zimayamba. Zimabweranso chifukwa chakuti munthu satha kuzindikira kuopsa kwa zinthu zomwe akugawana.

Munthu angakhale asanazindikire chochitika china kukhala chokhumudwitsa, angakhale atatalikirana nacho monga njira yochirikizira, ndipo angalankhulepo mopanda chitonzo, chimene chimasokoneza womvetsera. 

"Nthawi zambiri, polumikizana, anthu amalankhulana ndikufunsana kuti wina akumva bwanji. Koma potaya zinthu zoopsa, anthu amatanganidwa kwambiri ndi momwe akumvera, sasiya mpata woganizira momwe zimakhudzira winayo. Kodi winayo samasuka?

“Ndi chiwonetsero cha mavuto oyankhulana. Palibe kugawana, palibe kukambirana, ndi monologue. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amachita izi kwa mchimwene wake, mwana, kholo, osazindikira ngakhale kukhudzidwa kwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo komwe kumatengera winayo. Tikamalankhula za venting wathanzi ndi bwenzi, munthu n'kudziphatika kwa "Nditaona zimenezi, zimene ndinadutsamo ndi izi," ndipo si kudzizunza pa mizere ya, "Mwandipangitsa ine kumva chonchi".

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“Koma ngati pali vuto lotayirira pachibwenzi, kungakhale kungoimba mlandu mnzake.” Munthuyo amapitiriza kunena kuti, “Lero wachita izi, dzulo unachita izo, zaka zisanu m’mbuyomo udachita zimenezo,” anatero Pragati. 

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Tsopano popeza mukudziwa yankho loti, "Kodi kutaya zoopsa ndi chiyani?", Zingakhale zopindulitsa kuyang'ana zomwe zimayambitsa poyamba. Popeza kuti munthu amene akukuuzani zinthu zovuta zomwe wakumana nazo sangakhale wachifundo ndi momwe mukumvera mukumvetsera, mwina kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake akuchitira tero kungathandize. 

Kutaya koopsa kumatha kukhala chizindikiro cha PTSD kapena zovuta zina za umunthu monga matenda a narcissistic personality kapena bipolar personality disorder. Pragati imathandizira kutchula zifukwa zina zingapo zomwe anthu angasankhe kutaya movutikira:

1. Zochitika za m'banja mwawo ziyenera kuti zinali ndi ntchito yochita

Pragati ananena kuti: “Zinthu zimene zimachititsa kuti munthu ayambe kuvutika maganizo akamakula akhoza kuchititsa kuti munthu ayambe kutaya zinthu zoopsa.

Studies kusonyeza kuti mwana akakhala ndi thanzi labwino banja zamphamvu, ali ndi mwaŵi wabwinopo wakukulira kukhala makolo abwinoko ndi mabwenzi abwinoko iwo eni. Koma akamakula m’malo owononga, sizimakhudza kokha ubale wawo ndi anthu komanso thanzi lawo lakuthupi ndi lamaganizo. 

2. Pamene zosowa za ena siziwerengedwa 

Pragati anati: “Pakangoyamba kumene malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, timakhala osaganizira zofuna za ena.” Nthawi zambiri, anthu amangoganiza kuti n’koyenera kusiyira munthu wina kapena malo ochezera a pa Intaneti zimene zawakhumudwitsa, osadzifunsa kuti zingawapangitse kumva bwanji. 

Zitsanzo zotaya zoopsa zitha kuwoneka pamasamba ochezera, pomwe zidziwitso zowoneka bwino zokhuza nkhanza zimatha kuikidwa ndikugawidwa popanda kusamala za momwe zingakhudzire owonera. Munthu akakhala kuseri kwa chinsalu ndipo osacheza ndi munthu wina, "Kodi kutaya zoopsa ndi chiyani?", sizikhala m'maganizo mwawo. 

3. Chithandizo chimawonedwabe ngati chizindikiro cha kufooka

Malinga ndi kafukufuku, 47% ya Achimereka akuganizabe kuti kufunafuna chithandizo ndi chizindikiro cha kufooka. “Anthu amaona ngati ndi bwino kuuza mnzawo kapena wachibale za “mavuto” awo. 

M'malo mwake, anthu amakhumudwa chifukwa amakana. Safuna kuvomereza okha kuopsa kwa vuto lomwe akukumana nalo,” akutero Pragati. 

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“Ndinkadziwa kuti nthawi zonse ndinkangocheza ndi anzanga, koma sindinkaganiza kuti nditero kuwakankhira kutali osazindikira. Nditazindikira kuti kutaya kwamankhwala komwe kumachitidwa ndizovuta m'pamene ndinazindikira zokambirana zowononga zomwe ndimakhala ndikuchita nthawi zonse," Jessica anatiuza. 

Popeza anthu ambiri samayima ndikudzifunsa zinthu monga, "Kodi ndikutaya zoopsa?" pokhapokha ngati umbuli wawo ukuwonekera mopweteka, mwina simungazindikire ngati muli ndi mlandu womwewo. Tiyeni tiwone zizindikiro zingapo zomwe mungakhale: 

1. Mukungosewera khadi lozunzidwa

"Pamene mukukambirana bwino, munthu sakhala ngati wofera chikhulupiriro." Sanena zinthu monga, "Wamphawi ine, nthawi zonse ndimayenera kuthana ndi kusinthasintha kwanu, nthawi zonse ndimayenera kuyendetsa banja". 

"Nthawi zambiri, kusokoneza kutayika kwachisokonezo kumachitika posewera khadi lozunzidwa." "Munandichitira izi", "Ndinamva chonchi", "Nthawi zonse ndimadutsa muzinthu izi" zikhoza kukhala zinthu zochepa zomwe munthu wotero akunena," akutero Pragati. 

2. Simusiya mwayi wopereka ndemanga pazokambirana 

Pragati anati: "Kodi kutaya kwachisokonezo ndi chiyani ngati si nkhani yomwe imadzimva kuti siinayankhidwe? 

Mwa tanthawuzo, chodabwitsa ichi chimapangitsa omvera kumva kuti ali ndi nkhawa, ndipo kutenga nawo mbali pazokambirana nthawi zambiri sikumakhala konse. 

3. Kusagawana

"Pamene munthu akutaya zowawa, kutanthauza, pamene sakulingalira malingaliro ndi malingaliro a ena, saima kuti ayang'ane momwe mawu ake akukhudzira munthu. Ndiko kukambirana kopanda kubwezerana. Mukungoganizira za mkhalidwe wanu wamaganizo, simukusiya malo aliwonse kuti mugwirizane nawo, "akutero Pragati. 

M'malo mwake, kukambirana koteroko kumawonetsanso a kusowa ulemu mu ubale wanu ndi munthu uyu. Pamene sasamala kwambiri zimene mukuganiza kapena kukufunsani chilichonse chokhudza mmene mwakhalira, kupanda ulemu kumaonekera.

4. Zimamveka mbali imodzi 

Pragati anati: “Nthawi zambiri bwenzi kapena wachibale kapena mnzako akakuuza chinachake, umamva kuti ndife ogwirizana.” Koma pamene wina wataya mtima chifukwa cha vuto linalake, umamva ngati kuti wangotaya kumene ndi mavuto ake osayembekezera kuti aone mmene zikukukhudzirani. 

Kodi mumacheza kwambiri ndi anthu pa nthawi zosayenera? Mwina simunafunsepo ngati munthu amene mukulankhula naye ali wokonzeka kukambirana ndi munthu woteroyo. Ngati kuwerenga zizindikiro kukupangitsani kuganizira, "Kodi ndikutaya zoopsa?", ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mungagonjetsere, kuopera kuti mungakankhire aliyense kutali. 

Momwe Mungagonjetsere Kutaya Ngozi mu Ubale 

“Kumapeto kwa tsiku, m’pofunika kuzindikira kuti anthu sachita zimenezi mwadala.” Zimenezi zimafunika kuchitidwa mwachifundo.” Mwachionekere, pali chinachake chimene chimawasokoneza kwambiri moti amalephera kuletsa maganizo awo kuyenda bwino,” anatero Pragati. 

Kuphatikizirapo mawu ngati kutayidwa mopwetekedwa mtima m’mawu athu sikumachitidwa pofuna kufooketsa anthu kuti asalankhule zomwe zimawavutitsa. Komabe, popeza kugawana nthawi zonse ndi anthu kumawapangitsa kukhala oopa kuyankhula nanu, kudziwa momwe angagonjetsere izi zitha kukhala vuto. kukulitsa kulumikizana kwanu, tiyeni tiwone momwe:

1. Kuchiza kumapangidwira kutaya mwangozi 

"Lingaliro ili linapangidwa ndi tizilombo toyambitsa matenda pa TikTok, yemwe adanena kuti makasitomala achite izi pa gawo loyamba ndi chinthu chomwe sichiyenera kuchitika. Ndizolakwika kwambiri pazandale. Wothandizira amaphunzitsidwa kuti azimvetsera kwa kasitomala. Kutaya kwachisokonezo kwa wothandizira ndi kwachibadwa, ndi ntchito yawo kukumvetserani ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mulankhule mawu, "akutero Pragati. 

"Choyenera, munthu ayenera kufunafuna katswiri wodziwa za vuto lachisokonezo chapambuyo pachisokonezo, chifukwa ngati mukukumbukira chinachake mobwerezabwereza, mukufunikira katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe cha psychology kapena chidziwitso chochuluka kuti athane nazo," akuwonjezera. 

Ngati mukulimbana ndi mafunso ngati "Kodi kutaya zoopsa ndi chiyani ndipo ndikuchita?", Bonobology's gulu la akatswiri odziwa zachipatala ali pano kuti akutsogolereni munjira iyi ndikujambula njira yochira. 

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2. Dziwani anthu omwe mungalankhule nawo ndikupempha chilolezo 

Mukazindikira kuti mumalemetsa anthu pazokambirana zanu osawafunsa momwe moyo wawo ukuyendera, mumadziwa momwe mungakonzere. Dziwani anthu ochepa omwe angakhale okonzeka kukumverani mukafuna kugawana nawo ndikuwafunsa ngati angamvetsere. 

“Ndakumanapo ndi vuto linalake limene limandidetsa nkhawa ndipo mwinanso limakukhumudwitsani kuti mumve. ndizo zonse zomwe muyenera kunena kuti mupemphe chilolezo. M'malo mwake, ndi njira yokhayo kukhala wachifundo kwambiri mu ubale wanu, popeza mumakumbukira mmene womvera akumvera. Ngati simutero, zitha kukhala vuto la kusokoneza anthu otaya mtima.

3. Kulemba ndi kuwerenga mabuku kungathandize

Polemba zolemba, mudzatha kukonza malingaliro anu ndi inu nokha. Popanda kugawana kapena kutaya munthu wina, kulemba nokha kungakhale mtundu wa catharsis. 

Pragati akufotokoza momwe kuwerenga mabuku pa zomwe mukukumana nazo kungathandizenso. “Pali mabuku ofotokoza za kusakhulupirika, nkhanza, nkhawa, kapena chilichonse chimene mungakhale mukuvutika nacho.” Popeza kuti analembedwa ndi akatswiri odalirika pa nkhaniyi, amakusonyezani zizindikiro za zimene mukulimbana nazo komanso mmene mungathanirane nazo. 

“Nthawi zambiri, kupeza chithandizo pawailesi yakanema si chinthu chomwe ndingakulimbikitseni chifukwa simudziwa kuti munthu amene ali pavidiyoyo ndi woona. 

4. Patulani mphamvu pogwiritsa ntchito mawu ofotokozera kapena kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi 

"Zinthu monga mbiya zadongo, kupanga kapena kuvina nyimbo zingakuthandizeni kuti muchepetse mphamvu zomwe zikukuvutitsani, mukhoza kuyesa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikutuluka thukuta. Lingaliro lalikulu ndiloti muchotse mphamvuyi kuti musamawononge chiwonongeko muubwenzi," anatero Pragati.

Studies anena kuti kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kukakhala limodzi ndi chithandizo, kumathandiza kwambiri nkhani za umoyo ndi kuthetsa zizindikiro za nkhawa ndi kuvutika maganizo. 

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M'malo mongoyang'ana zomwe zikutayira zoopsa, mwina kufunika kowonjezereka kuyenera kuperekedwa ku chiwonetsero chodziwika bwino: malo ochezera a pa Intaneti.

"Anthu amagawana kwambiri pamasamba ochezera a pa Intaneti chifukwa amaona kuti akuvomerezedwa ndipo amamva kuti akumveka." Masiku ano, anthu alibe chithandizo chochuluka pafupi nawo pafupi ndi iwo omwe ali pafupi nawo. Ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, amaona ngati ndi zotheka, ngakhale zonse zili kumbuyo. 

"Njira imodzi yomwe wina angaletse kutaya kutaya kwachisokonezo pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikukulitsa luso lake la maganizo." Izi zimaphatikizapo kulemba, kulemba, kulima, masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe amakupangitsani thukuta. 

Mwina njira yabwino yothanirana ndi izi ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukutayira zoopsa kwa wothandizira, m'malo mwa wokondedwa. Tikukhulupirira, tsopano mukudziwa zambiri kuposa momwe mudadziwira chifukwa chake anthu amagawana nawo kwambiri popanda kusamala kwambiri ndi omwe akumvetsera, ndi zomwe mungachite ngati mutachita nokha. 

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