8 Mavuto Odziwika A "Narcissistic Ukwati" Ndi Momwe Mungawathetsere

Ndewu zochepa zomwe zimasanduka tsiku limodzi kapena aŵiri zomangira miyala zimakhala zofala m’banja lililonse. Komabe, mukangoyamba kuzindikira lingaliro lalikulu la kuyenera komanso kusamverana chisoni mwa mnzanu, zimalozera ku vuto lalikulu. Mavuto aukwati a Narcissistic ndi osowa, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuziwona. 

Kodi mnzanuyo wasiya mwadzidzidzi kusamala za chinthu chimodzi chomwe mukufuna kapena kukhumba? Kodi masiku ano amaona kuti akuwopsezedwa nthaŵi zonse mukapatsidwa chiyamikiro koma sichoncho? Kodi ubale wanu tsopano ukuwona ngati ulipo kuti ukwaniritse zosowa zawo? Kukwatiwa ndi narcissist sikophweka, ndipo nthawi zambiri, mukhoza kuona zizindikiro zoterezi. 

Koma kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti izi ndi zomwe mukukumana nazo? Mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Anita Eliza (MSc mu Applied Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri pa nkhani monga nkhawa, kuvutika maganizo, maubwenzi, ndi kudzidalira, tiyeni tiwone zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza mavuto a m'banja omwe ndi odzikonda kwambiri.

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Tisanalowe m'zochitika zaukwati wankhanza ndi zovuta zomwe zimadzetsa, tiyeni tiwonetsetse kuti tili pa tsamba limodzi la matenda omwe tikukamba lero. 

Malinga ndi Mayoclinic , vutoli limapezeka pamene munthu ali ndi malingaliro ochulukirapo okhudza kudziona ngati wofunika, nthawi zonse amafuna ulemu ndi chisamaliro, komanso amalephera kumva chifundo, zomwe zimasiya ubale wosasangalatsa komanso wosasangalatsa.

Anthu omwe ali ndi matendawa nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti akuyenera kulandira chithandizo chabwino kuposa ena chifukwa ndi abwino komanso ofunikira kuposa ena. Nthawi zambiri saona kuti zosowa ndi zofuna za ena n'zofunika kwambiri, ndipo kudziona kuti ndi ofunika nthawi zambiri kumaonekera chifukwa chosowa chifundo muubwenzi wawo ndi okondedwa awo.

Malinga ndi Healthline , zizindikiro za vutoli la matenda amisala ndi izi:

• Kufunika kuyamikiridwa nthawi zonse ndi kuyamikiridwa 
• Kungoganiza kuti anthu adzakuchitirani chisamaliro chapadera, kukwiya pamene satero
• Khalidwe lodzikuza 
• Osafuna kukhudzana ndi momwe anthu amamvera 
• Kuthamangitsa mphamvu, kukongola ndi udindo wapamwamba chifukwa cha kupembedza komwe kudzabweretsa 
• Kukhala ndi maganizo opambanitsa a kudziona kukhala wofunika
• Kunyoza anthu kuti azidziona ngati osafunika 
• Kupezerapo mwayi pa zofuna za munthu payekha 
• Kupanga zisankho zowopsa/zosaganizira mu maubwenzi kapena maudindo 
• Kukokomeza kwambiri zopambana kapena luso 

M'malo mwake, ndi nkhani yaumoyo yomwe imapangitsa wodwalayo kudziona ngati wodzikuza, nthawi zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu omwe amakhala nawo azivutika kwambiri. Anthu ozungulira iwo, kwenikweni, amawaona kukhala onyansa, onyoza kapena osaganizira. 

Chifukwa chake, sizodabwitsa kuti vuto la umunthu wodzikonda latsimikiziridwa kuti limakhudza kwambiri ubale womwe munthu wotere amakhala nawo m'moyo wake. Vuto la umunthu wodzikonda komanso mavuto a m'banja zimayendera limodzi. Mukamvetsetsa msanga zizindikiro zake, ubale wanu ndi mnzanu udzakhala wabwino.

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8 Mavuto Omwe Amakhala Narcissistic Ukwati

Ngati muli ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wodzikonda , mavuto a m'banja sangapitirire. Choyipa kwambiri n'chakuti, munthu amene ali ndi NPD nthawi zambiri amafunika kuwonetsa chithunzi chabwino cha ubale wake ndi dziko lakunja kuti agwirizane ndi lingaliro lake la momwe moyo wake uyenera kuonekera wangwiro kwa aliyense amene akuyang'ana.

Chifukwa cha zimenezi, n’kofunika kwambiri kuti munthu amene si wankhanza amene ali m’banja adziwe kuti ndi banja lachipongwe n’kuona zimene angachite. Kuti tikuthandizeni kuchita zimenezi, tiyeni tione mavuto amene anthu ambiri amakumana nawo m’banja. 

1. Nkhani zazikulu za nsanje ndi gawo la ubale wanu 

Eliza ananenanso kuti: “Nsanje ndi khalidwe lachibadwa,” akutero Eliza, akuwonjezera kuti, “Funso ndilakuti timachita bwanji ndi maganizo amenewa.

“Akakumana, angakane m’pang’ono pomwe, kapena angatembenukire mnzawoyo ndi kuwaimba mlandu chifukwa cha khalidwe lawo, n’kumawapangitsa kumva ngati kuti analakwa poyamba. 

“Banja lachipongwe limasonyeza kuti mnzawo wamwano amachitira nsanje kwambiri chifukwa cha zimene wachita bwino kapenanso makhalidwe ake abwino monga chifundo kapena chimwemwe.” Akamaona mnzawo akumwetulira ndi kusangalala, amachita nsanje pokhapokha ngati iwowo ali gwero la chimwemwe cha mnzawoyo.

Kuwonetsa nsanje pang'ono muubwenzi kungakhale kwabwino, koma ndi vuto la umunthu wodzikonda, mavuto a m'banja nthawi zambiri samabwera pamlingo woyenera. Zotsatira zake, amatha kuchita nsanje ndi chilichonse chokhudza mnzawo, kuyambira chidwi chomwe amapeza mpaka kukwezedwa pantchito kapena ngakhale kukwaniritsa cholinga chake.

2. Akhoza kuyesa kukhala pamodzi mnzawo

Chifukwa cha nsanje yosalekeza yomwe amamva, munthu wamatsenga amatha kufuna kutembenuza matebulo ndikupangitsa mnzake kuchitira nsanje. Akhoza kukokomeza zomwe achita ndi luso lawo ndipo angayese kugwetsa mnzawo poyesa kuti awoneke ngati iwo ndi apamwamba. 

Kaŵirikaŵiri kuyamikiridwa kwawo sikumabwerera m’mbuyo, ndipo chimwemwe chawo kaŵirikaŵiri chimakhala kuyesa kubisa mkwiyo wawo. Kuyesa kwapang'ono kumeneku kuyesa ndikukhazikitsa udindo wawo ngati "wamkulu" muubwenzi nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa ndewu pomwe amachita mwano komanso mosasamala. Tikubetcha kuti simumaganiza kuti zovuta zaukwati zachibwana zingakhale zachibwana. 

3. Kholo lamwano likhoza kusokoneza kudzidalira kwa mwana 

Eliza ananena kuti: “Mabambo ankhanza amakhudza kwambiri moyo wa ana awo.”

“Makolo ankhanza amakhala ndi mikhalidwe yofunika kwambiri yomwe imaphatikizapo kudziona kuti ndi oyenerera, kusamvera ena chisoni komanso kudyera masuku pamutu.” Makhalidwe amenewa amatha kuonekera kwa ana awo.” Zimenezi zikachitika, anawo amayamba kuganiza kuti iwowo ndi ndani, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimachititsa kuti asamadzione kuti ndi wofunika kwambiri chifukwa mwina anachitiridwa zinthu mopanda chilungamo kuyambira ali ana,” anawonjezera. 

Ubale umene tili nawo ndi osamalira athu akuluakulu komanso momwe mabanja athu amakhalira akamakula zimakhudza kwambiri mtundu wa anthu omwe timakula nawo. Ngati nthawi zonse mumanyozedwa komanso kuzunzidwa mukukula kwanu, mwina munthu wotere sangakhale munthu wodzidalira kwambiri.

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4. Kukwatiwa ndi munthu wamatsenga kumabweretsa nkhani zazikulu zodzidalira 

“Mmodzi wa okwatirana akamachita zinthu monyanyira, pamakhala kusagwirizana, kuyenera ndi mkwiyo wosalamulirika, kupeputsa phindu la mnzake kapena zimene wachita bwino.” Ndipo ngati winayo sadziwa kuti mnzakeyo ali ndi makhalidwe oipa, akhoza kudziimba mlandu pakapita nthawi. 

Izi zitha kuwapangitsa kukhala odzikayikira komanso kusokonezedwa ndi zenizeni zawo. Akakhala kuti sakudziwa kuti zimenezi ndi vuto la m’banja, akhoza kuyesetsa kuchita zimene mnzawo akufuna,” adatero Eliza. 

Mukangopangidwa kuti muzimva ngati simungakwanitse, ndiye kuti zidzakuvutani posachedwa. Mutha kuyamba kukayikira nokha, ndipo mmalo mongoyang'ana vuto lenileni, (mnzanu), mutha kukulitsa kusatetezeka komanso kudzidalira. 

5. Vuto lodziwika bwino laukwati: Kuyatsa

“Kuyatsa gasi, kunena mwachidule, kumatanthauza kuti malingaliro anu ndi zenizeni zanu zikukanidwa ndi munthu wankhanzayo.” Mawu ena ofala amene amalankhula ndi akuti, ‘Lekani kukhala watcheru, mukupanga nkhani mwachabe,’ kapena, ‘Mukukokomeza, sizinachitike motero,’ ‘Mukuchita mopambanitsa, mukufunika thandizo.

“Ngakhale kuti simungadzidalire za chibwenzicho, angakupangitseni kukhulupirira kuti n’kwabwino kwambiri pokuuzani kuti, ‘Palibe amene adzakukondeni monga ine ndimakukonderani. Poyatsa mnzake motere, munthuyo amasokonezeka ndipo amakhala wodzikayikira,” adatero Eliza. 

Kusaganizira bwino za moyo wa munthu amene ali ndi vuto la maganizo nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa malingaliro olakwika a zenizeni komanso mavuto akuluakulu azaumoyo mtsogolo. Munthu amene ali ndi vuto la maganizo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi nkhawa kapena amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri.

Ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wamwano, mavuto am'banja nthawi zambiri samachokera ku thanzi lachiphamaso la ubale wanu. Nthawi zambiri amatha kukwawa ndikukhudza psyche yanu m'njira zomwe simunadziwe kuti zingatheke. 

6. Makolo a Narcissistic angayambitse kusokonezeka kwa banja 

Mavuto amene amabuka pamene anthu aŵiri oloŵerera m’banja amakwatirana samangowonekera m’banja, komanso m’makhalidwe a ana amene amakula motere. 

“Limodzi mwa mavuto ambiri a m’banja lachipongwe ndi mmene amachitira ndi ana awo.” Iwo angakhale ndi mwana mmodzi amene amamuona ngati “mwana wagolide” ndipo wina ngati “mbuzi yopulumukira.” Mwana wagolide amaonedwa kukhala ndi mikhalidwe yodabwitsa, ndipo ana ameneŵa amasangalala ndi ufulu wonse wopatsidwa kwa iwo. 

"Nthawi zambiri munthu wodzikonda amaona mwana ameneyo ngati wodzikuza yekha ndipo motero amaonetsa chinyengo ichi cha ungwiro ndi kupambana kwa mwana ameneyu. Kumbali ina, mwana wolakwa ndiye amene amadziimba mlandu pa chilichonse. Amatsutsidwa, kuchititsidwa manyazi ndipo nthawi zina amanyozedwa. Nthawi zina, angasonyeze zizindikiro zodziwika bwino za kholo loipa ," akutero Eliza.

Motero, angakule n’kuyamba kukhala ndi mavuto ena amaganizo omwe angawapangitse kukhala pachibwenzi chachikondi mtsogolo. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kusintha kwa mabanja sikumangokhudza ubale wa munthu ndi anthu, komanso thanzi lake la thupi ndi maganizo.

7. Angayese kulamulira khalidwe lanu 

Monga Eliza akunenera, muzu wa nsanje ya munthuyu ndi kusatetezeka. Ndipo komwe kuli kusatetezeka, nthawi zambiri pamakhala kukhala ndi katundu wambiri komwe kumalumikizidwa. 

Zotsatira zake, angayese kulamulira khalidwe lanu poyesa kulamulira ubale wawo. Kuti mukhale ndi chithunzi chabwino - ngakhale chabodza - chosangalatsa champhamvu zanu kwa anthu omwe akuzungulirani, ayesetsa kuwongolera mbali zonse za moyo wanu. 

8. Mavuto a m'banja mwachisawawa angayambitse ubale woopsa 

Monga momwe mwawonera pano, munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD akhoza kunyoza wokondedwa wake kapena kuyesa kulamulira khalidwe lawo. Izi zitha kupangitsa mnzakeyo kupwetekedwa m'maganizo mwachangu. 

Ubale woopsa ndi umene umayambitsa kuvulala kwa maganizo kapena thupi mwanjira iliyonse. Vuto limodzi lofala kwambiri pamene anthu awiri odzikonda akwatirana ndi lakuti ubalewo ukhoza kuwononga kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina, ngakhale chiwawa.

Kupanda chifundo kwambiri kungapangitse anthuwa kuchita zinthu molakwika komanso mosasamala, nthawi zambiri osalabadira momwe zingawonongere wokondedwa wawo. Chifukwa chake, mtendere wamalingaliro wa winayo umakhala pachimake. 

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Momwe Mungathanirane ndi Mavuto a Narcissistic Ukwati

Kuthana ndi zovuta zaukwati zamwano sizovuta kwenikweni kuzithetsa. Monga momwe zimakhalira nthawi zambiri za mikangano ya m'banja, kulankhulana kogwira mtima pakati pa okondedwa nthawi zambiri kumakhala njira yabwino yoyanjanitsirana. 

Koma popeza pamenepa pali vuto la umunthu, maanja ndi chithandizo cha munthu payekha chimakhala chofunikira. Ndi chithandizo chamankhwala, chithandizo chamankhwala ndi kusintha kwina kwa moyo, pangakhale phindu losiyanasiyana lomwe mungakolole. 

Mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, munthu amene ali ndi NPD adzatha kupeza chomwe chimayambitsa matenda ake ndikumvetsetsa bwino momwe zimakhudzira anthu omwe ali pafupi naye ndikuphunzira momwe angathanirane ndi mavutowa. Ngati mukufuna thandizo, gulu la alangizi odziwa bwino ntchito ku Bonobology lili pafupi nanu.

Tikukhulupirira, mothandizidwa ndi zovuta zaukwati wamba zomwe tazilemba, tsopano muli ndi lingaliro labwinopo la zovuta zonse zomwe zingakubweretsereni ngati mupezeka kuti muli ndi chidwi chotere. Ndi chithandizo chamankhwala ndi khama losagwedezeka, sikutheka kusandutsa wanu kukhala mgwirizano wopindulitsa.

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