Mmene Borderline Personality Disorder Imakhudzira Maubwenzi

Kufalitsa chikondi

Borderline personality disorder ndi maubale sizigwirizana kwenikweni, kunena pang'ono. Kuwonetsa chikondi kwa saccharine komwe timawona paziwonetsero zazikulu sikumatiwonetsa kutembenuka kovutirako komwe kumatha kutenga matenda amisala ataponyedwa mumsanganizo. Zikatero, kudziwa zomwe zili mu sitolo kungakhale kothandiza.

Kukonda munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wam'malire ndizovuta kwambiri, ndipo kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro sangathe kufotokozedwa m'mawu. Tangoganizirani kukankhira ndi kukoka kwakukulu, kawopsedwe, chidani, kutengeka mtima, kutengeka mtima, chifundo, ndi kutsika mtengo - zonse mu sabata.

Kodi pali bata mphepo yamkuntho isanayambe? Kodi mphepo yamkuntho ingakhale yoopsa bwanji? Ndipo ikangoyamba, muyenera kuchita chiyani kuti muyende m'madzi amiyala? Mothandizidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa maubwenzi ndi Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, tiyeni tiwone zonse zomwe tifunika kudziwa zokhudza momwe vuto la umunthu wa m'malire limakhudzira maubwenzi.

Kodi Borderline Personality Disorder Ndi Chiyani Ndipo Zizindikiro zake Ndi Ziti?

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Tisanalowe mu dziko la BPD ndi maubwenzi, ndikofunikira kuyang'anitsitsa bwino lomwe kuti ndi chiyani. Popeza ndi chimodzi mwa matenda amisala omwe nthawi zambiri samadziwidwa bwino , kupeza nkhaniyi mutadziyesa nokha kungakhale koopsa.

Malinga ndi Healthline , BPD ndi matenda amisala omwe amawonetsa kusintha kwadzidzidzi kwa malingaliro komanso kusokonezeka maganizo kwambiri, komanso khalidwe losaganizira bwino. Zizindikiro zina ndi izi:

Kwambiri maganizo lability
Chithunzi chosakhazikika chaumwini
Kuzindikira ndi kutsika kotsatira kwa maubwenzi pakati pa anthu
Kumva kusiyidwa/kukhumudwa chifukwa chosiyidwa
Khalidwe lofuna kuchita zinthu mopupuluma
Khalidwe lofuna kudzipha
Kusinthasintha kwapang'onopang'ono komwe kumatha kuyambira maola angapo mpaka masiku angapo
Kudzimva kukhala wopanda pake
Disociation, kumverera kwa depersonalization ndi kudzimva womasuka ndi thupi lanu

“Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD amamva kuti ali mumkhalidwe wawo,” akutero Dr. Bhonsle . “Sakumvetsa kuti umunthu wawo wayamba chifukwa cha zochitika zina. Sangathe kusintha momwe amaganizira.

“Anthu amadwala matenda a maganizo amenewa chifukwa mwina anachitiridwa nkhanza kapena kugwiriridwa ali ana.” Nthawi zina ndi pamene mukukhala ndi kholo limene lili ndi matendawa.

"Genetics imagwiranso ntchito, nthawi zina chilengedwe chimatenga gawo lalikulu. Mkhalidwewu umatengeranso khalidwe. Izi sizingayambitse vuto la borderline personality, koma khalidwelo limabwerezedwa.

Ndipo zimadya matenda a umunthu omwe amabadwa nawo, omwe mwina akungoyembekezera kuonekera. Momwe matenda anu amisala amaonekera kwa mnzanu wanu mwina zimakhudzana kwambiri ndi momwe mkwiyo wa amayi kapena abambo anu umaonekera m'mikhalidwe yofanana. Khalidwe lathu limachokera ku zinthu zonse zomwe tapeza,” akutero.

Ndi matenda amisala omwe amawadziwa molakwika kwambiri komanso amakhudzidwa ndi nthano zomwe munthu wamba nthawi zambiri samadziwa kuti ndi chiyani. Tiyeni tione vuto la umunthu wa m’malire ndi maubale kuti tione mmene matendawa amakhudzira moyo wa munthu.

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“Anthu amene ali ndi vuto la “borderline personality disorder” nthawi zambiri amangodzivulaza kapena kudzipha, ndipo n’zosavuta kuti aziona kuti palibe amene amawadera nkhawa.

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Kaŵirikaŵiri amasiya mchitidwe wa maunansi ambiri osakhazikika, popeza kuti mkwiyo wawo umakhala wachiwawa kwambiri ndi wadzidzidzi ndipo amathera nthaŵi yochuluka akudzikayikira pa chilichonse.

BPD mu maubwenzi imatha kuwonekera m'njira zingapo ndipo sikophweka nthawi zonse kumvera chisoni. Tiyeni tiwone momwe zingawonekere ngati muli paubwenzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD.

1. Emotional lability kumabweretsa janky maziko

“Mukapsa mtima n’kuopseza mnzanuyo, sangasangalale kukhala nanu, mwina angakutulukireni kapena pamapeto pake amadziona kuti ndi otetezeka.

"Ndipo anthu akachoka, zimawapangitsa kukhala ndi mantha osiyidwa omwe anthu omwe ali ndi BPD m'maubwenzi amakhala nawo. Zotsatira zake, angayambe kuchita zinthu zopusa monga kuopseza kudzipha kapena kuvulaza mnzawo," akutero Dr. Bhonsle.

Mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa m'malire, kukhala ndi zokambirana zolimbikitsa kungawoneke zosatheka. Nonse mudzakhala mukudandaula nthawi zonse, makamaka kudzimva kuti ndinu otsekeredwa.

2. Kudziwonetsa kosakhazikika kumabweretsa kukhumudwa

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Nkhani yodziwika kwambiri ndi vuto la umunthu wam'malire ndi maubwenzi ndikuti kudziwona kwawo kosasintha kumabweretsa kusagwirizana ndi anthu ozungulira.

Angakhale ndi lingaliro losadziŵika bwino la zolinga zawo ndi makhalidwe awo abwino, angasinthe kuchoka pa kudzidalira mpaka kudzidetsa, kuchoka pa kukhazikitsidwa m’njira zawo kufika ku mkhalidwe wosokonezeka kwambiri ponena za moyo wawo.

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Chotsatira chake n’chakuti amangokhalira kukakamira ndiponso osowa,” anatero Dr. Bhonsle, ndipo anawonjezera kuti: “Amafuna kutsimikiziridwa nthaŵi zonse kuti palibe vuto lililonse.” Mwatsoka, si onse amene angakhale ofunitsitsa kupereka chitsimikiziro kapena chisungiko nthaŵi zonse.

Ngati mukufuna kuuzidwa kuti amakukondani ndiponso kuti amakukondani pamphindi khumi zilizonse, zingatope mnzanuyo, ndipo zingalefutse mtima.

3. Ubwenzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD umakhala ndi zisankho mopupuluma komanso mosasamala

Kodi kudziona osakhazikika kumabweretsa chiyani? Kugula mopupuluma, kusintha kwa mapulani a moyo, ndi masitayelo osakhalitsa omwe amazimiririka ndikudziwonera nokha. Mu BPD ndi maubwenzi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kukhazikitsa chitonthozo monga momwe zinthu zimasinthira nthawi zonse.

"Khalidwe losakhazikika la mnzanu wina lingapangitse winayo kuganiza kuti sangakhulupirire maganizo a mnzanuyo. Kodi mungatani pamene akuwononga ndalama zambiri pazinthu zomwe simukuzifuna? Mavuto azachuma muubwenzi angayambitse mavuto."

Dr. Bhonsle ananenanso kuti: “Kusankha zinthu mopupuluma kungachititsenso manyazi anthu ena.” Munthu ameneyu sangathe kupitiriza kucheza ndi anthu chifukwa cha kusinthasintha kwa maganizo, ndipo amakhala munthu wodzipatula.

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4. Ubwenzi umasokonekeranso

N'zosadabwitsa kuti zovuta ndi borderline personality disorder ndi maubwenzi sizimangokhala ndi kugwirizana kwachikondi. “Zimakhala zovuta kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthu amene tsiku lina amafuna kudziŵa zonse zokhudza inu, ndipo amafuna kukuvulazani.

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Anthu amene ali ndi vutoli amavutika kuti apitirize kukhala ndi maubwenzi amtundu uliwonse.

Pamene munthu sangathe kudziwonetsera yekha, pamene akulephera kuugwira mtima kukwiya kwawo, ziyenera kuonekera mu maubwenzi onse omwe ali nawo. BPD mu maubwenzi imakhudza mitundu yonse ya mphamvu, osati ndi omwe ali pafupi kwambiri.

5. Nkhani zina zamaganizidwe zimabweretsa mavuto awoawo

Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD amatha kudwala matenda ena amisala monga nkhawa ndi kukhumudwa. Kudzimva kukhala wopanda kanthu nthawi zambiri kumakhudza anthu oterowo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti asamve kukhutira mu ubalewo.

"Pamene BPD muubwenzi ikuwonetsa kuvutika maganizo, simudzakhala okonzeka kuchita zinthu zambiri wamba. Mudzafuna kusiyidwa nokha, kuganizira zakale, mwina mungadziletse kupeza mwayi wosangalatsa."

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Angayambenso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, matenda ovutika kudya, kuvutika maganizo, maonekedwe a thupi, ndi zina zotero.

6. Nkhani zodalirika sizitha

Kusokonezeka kwa umunthu wa m'malire ndi maubwenzi sikungathe kumveka popanda kuyambitsa vuto lalikulu la nkhani zodalirika. Kudalira nkhani zamtundu uliwonse nthawi zambiri kumatha kubweretsa chiwonongeko, ndipo mukakhala ndi munthu yemwe sangathe kuwongolera kukhumudwa kwawo bwino, zitha kungoyambitsa nkhanza. Pamene kukambirana za kudzipereka kumabweretsa mawu okweza ndi ziwopsezo za kuvulaza, kudziwa zoyenera kuchita kungakhale kofooketsa.

“Anthu amene ali ndi BPD satha kuona zinthu zapakati, chilichonse n’chowanyanyira.” Iwo mwina amakhulupirira kuti mnzawo amawakonda mpaka kufa, kapena kuti akukonza chiwembu chofuna kuwathetsa.” Popeza kuti satha kuzindikira chimene iwowo ali nacho komanso mmene amaonekera, amakhulupirira kuti munthu amene ali naye nthawi zonse amakhala mmenemo kapena amangokhalira kufunafuna njira yotulukira,” akutero Dr. Bhons.

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Kuwerenga za vuto la borderline personality disorder ndi momwe limakhudzira maubwenzi mwina kwakuthandizani kujambula chithunzi choipa kwambiri m'maganizo mwanu. Ngakhale zingawoneke ngati mavuto anu muubwenzi si chinthu chosavuta kuthana nacho, nthawi zonse pamakhala thandizo.

"Ngati mumakonda munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa m'malire, chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuchita ndicho kupeza katswiri wabwino wamaganizo ndi katswiri wamaganizo kwa munthuyo. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mtundu wina wa kukonzanso uchitike. Kupanda kutero, mudzagwidwa ndi vuto lakupha pakati pa kudziteteza ndi kukhalapo kwa munthu wina, "akutero Dr. Bhonsle.

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Munthu amene ali paubwenzi wotere amafunika kukhala woleza mtima kwambiri, wokoma mtima komanso woleza mtima.” Ngakhale kuti n’zovuta, chithandizo chamsanga chingathandize kuti zinthu ziyende bwino.

Ngati panopa mukucheza ndi munthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu wosagwirizana ndi malamulo ndipo mukufuna thandizo la akatswiri, kapena ngati mukudziwa munthu amene akuvutika ndi vuto lofanana ndi limeneli, tikukulimbikitsani kuti muyang'ane gulu la alangizi odziwa bwino ntchito a Bonobology , kuphatikizapo Dr. Aman Bhonsle.

Kudutsa m'mabvuto am'malire ndi maubwenzi sikophweka. Zingamve ngati chiyembekezo chonse chatayika, komanso kuti mukumva kuti mwatsekeredwa ndikusiyidwa nokha, koma ndi kulimbikira ndi kuthandizidwa ndi akatswiri, palibe chifukwa chomwe zinthu sizingayende bwino.

Ibibazo

1. Kodi n’chiyani chimayambitsa munthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa m’malire?

Zomwe zimayambitsa kuyambika kwa zizindikiro za BPD nthawi zambiri zimapangidwa ndi mikangano pakati pa anthu, ngakhale zikhulupiriro zomwe zimaganiziridwa kuti kusiyidwa zimatha kuyambitsanso. Kusemphana maganizo, kuda nkhawa chifukwa cha kulekana, kupsa mtima, ndi zosokoneza zina zingayambitse zizindikiro. N'zothekanso kuti munthu amene akulimbana ndi BPD sangadziwe zomwe zimawayambitsa.

2. Kodi muyenera kusiya munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD?

Ubale ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD udzakhala wosakhazikika, chifukwa chosowa nthawi yabwino. Kusankha "kusiya" munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD kumadalira inu, koma pali zinthu zomwe mungachite kuti muwathandize. Mwachitsanzo, kufunafuna CBT ndi mankhwala a matenda awo amisala kumatha kutsitsa kwambiri zizindikiro zawo.

3. Kodi mumapangitsa bwanji munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD kumva kuti amakondedwa?

Wina yemwe ali ndi BPD akhoza kuvutika ndi kusinthasintha kwa maganizo ndi malingaliro opatukana omwe amaphika m'maganizo mwawo. Anthu otere nthawi zambiri amakhala okakamira kwambiri, ndipo mwina kuwatsimikizira nthawi zonse ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yodziwira kuti amakondedwa. Anthu akayamba kudziona ngati osakhazikika, angafunike kuwatsimikizira kuti iwowo si olemetsa.

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