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Isimo yitemu elisha uma kuqhathaniswa nezwe lokuthandana, elivame ukuzwakala ku-gen Z noma imibuthano yeminyaka eyinkulungwane. I-Urban Dictionary ichaza incazelo yesimo njengokuxhumana noma isibopho phakathi kozakwethu ababili ngaphandle kwanoma iyiphi ilebula ethile ukuchaza isimo sabo. Umehluko wesimo esijwayelekile uma uqhathaniswa nobudlelwano ukuthi akukho ukuzibophezela noma ukuhluka kulesi sivumelwano. 

Ukuze sicacise kakhudlwana izimpawu zesimo esithile, sithole ukuqonda okuthile kudokotela wezifo zengqondo uHvovi Bhagwagar (MA ku-Clinical Psychology), onolwazi olungaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amabili emkhakheni wezokwelapha ngempilo yengqondo, ukuqeqeshwa, kanye nocwaningo. Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna incazelo yesimo esithile, noma uzibuza ukuthi ungasiqeda kanjani isimo esithile, qhubeka ufunda.

Siyini Isimo?

“Noma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano olungakahlelwa ngokusemthethweni, futhi lapho umuzwa wokuzibophezela ungekho, luyisimo esibucayi,” kusho uHvovi. Ngamanye amazwi, bubuhlobo obungenancazelo ecacile, lapho 'nibonana khona' kodwa hhayi 'ukuqomisana'.

Incazelo yesimo
Izimo ziyinkimbinkimbi

Uma ukude, izimo zemikhumbi zibukeka zinhle kakhulu futhi masibhekane nakho, kuthi futhi kuhehe. Ubani ongafuni ukujabulela lonke ucansi ngaphandle kokubhekana nokuthi 'buphi lobu budlelwano?' inhlamvu ibhekise kubo? Kodwa idrama yangempela iqala ngemva kokuba ungene kulolu hlobo lobudlelwano. Futhi, njengoba izimo zingenayo incazelo ethile, zingabonakala ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ake sixoxe ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zezimo.

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Izinhlobo zezimo

Okuwukuphela kwesici esichaza isimo ukuthi azikho amalebula noma imingcele noma imikhawulo okuvunyelwene ngayo ebudlelwaneni. Lokhu kungadala izinhlobo eziningi ezahlukene zamalungiselelo njengoba abahlanganyeli bengazi ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo nengamukeleki. UHvovi uthi, “Ngibone imibhangqwana ilwa nezinhlobo ezahlukene zezimo kanye nokukhathazeka okubi ngesimo. Ake ngikunike izibonelo ezimbalwa:

1. Isimo sohlangothi olulodwa

Lapha, umbhangqwana uhlanganyela ocansini olumangalisayo futhi ube nokusondelana ngokomzwelo. Kodwa-ke, omunye wabo uhamba nezinsuku ezivamile ukuze agcine izinketho zakhe zivulekile futhi lokhu kwenza omunye umlingani adabuke, akhungatheke, futhi akhathazeke. Kodwa bobabili bavumelana ngalobu budlelwano bokungazibophezeli kusukela ekuqaleni, ngakho umlingani onamathiselwe uthola ukubhekana nesimo esinzima.

2. Isimo somzimba ngokuphelele

Yisenzo somzimba kuphela esisondeza umbhangqwana eduze. Akukho ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo . Kungenye yalezo zimo lapho omunye umlingani ephuma efulethini ngemva nje kokwenza uthando. Futhi, omunye umlingani ubuyela ekuzizweni ethathwa kalula.

3. Ukudlala ngothando okuvamile

Lolu uhlobo lwesimo ngaphandle kocansi. Bahlangana, bayaxoxa, kodwa ukusondelana ngokobulili kusekude nezinyathelo ezimbalwa. Elungiselelweni elinjalo, umcabango othi “Ingabe lo muntu uyoke angilwele ngokuphelele?” noma “Ingabe kuyoke kuholele kokuthile okuzuzisayo?” ikunikeza ukukhathazeka kwesimo."

I-psychology yesimo
Isimo sokudlala ngothando

Izimpawu Eziyi-10 Ukuthi Ukusimo

Uma ukuxhumana kwakho kucacile futhi kungacacile, kulapho kungenzeka khona ukuthi usesimeni esithile. Uma udidekile ngesimo esithile vs abangane abanezinzuzo , khumbula ukuthi abangane abanezinzuzo nabo banencazelo efanayo, uma nje izinhlangothi zombili zisekhasini elifanayo.

Esimeni, kungenzeka ukuthi omunye wenu uzibophezele kakhulu kunomunye, futhi njengoba zingekho izingxoxo mayelana nokuthi ume kuphi, empeleni untanta ku-limbo yobudlelwano. Ukwengeza kulokhu, izimo zebanga elide noma izimo ezinama-ex zingaletha isethi yazo yezinkinga.

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“Esimweni esibucayi, umbhangqwana usendaweni lapho imingcele yobudlelwano ingachazwa khona ngakho-ke, akuyona nje ucansi olungahleliwe noma ubudlelwano bokuthandana. Lokhu kwenza kube nzima ngabantu ukuthola ukuthi bangaqhubeka kanjani besuka esimweni esibucayi” kusho uHvovi. Uma ungaqiniseki ngesimo sakho sobudlelwano, nazi izimpawu eziyi-10 zesimo okufanele uziqaphele:

1. Ubudlelwano abuhambisani

Uma kukhulunywa ngencazelo yesimo, ukungaguquguquki kungenye yamagama okuqala afika engqondweni ngoba oyedwa, noma nobabili, akacaci ukuthi nenzani komunye nomunye noma ukuthi izinto zime kuphi phakathi kwenu. Ngesinye isikhathi bayanishaya ngothando , into elandelayo uyazi, sekuphele amasonto amabili futhi awukazwa lutho kubo. Ukungaguquguquki kungenye yezimpawu ezinkulu zesimo.

UMichael oneminyaka engu-27 uthi: “Bengilokhu ngihamba le ntombazane cishe izinyanga ezintathu. “Wayemnandi futhi saba nesikhathi esimnandi. Kodwa wayenyamalala izinsuku zilandelana, aphinde aphinde aqhamuke futhi angishayise ngothando ngokuphindaphindiwe. Ngangingazi ngempela ukuthi ngizombona nini ngokulandelayo, noma ukuthi senzani.”

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2. Awukabuchazi ubudlelwano

“Esimweni esibucayi, abalingani bangase bangathandi ukuba nengxoxo mayelana nokunikeza ubudlelwano igama/ithegi,” kusho uHvovi. Ukuchaza ubudlelwano kungasho zonke izinhlobo zokulindela kanye nokuvulelana ngezinhloso ezifanayo zobudlelwano kanye nezinye izindaba eziseduze, okungahambisani nesayensi yesimo sengqondo.

3. Omunye wenu noma nobabili ubona abanye abantu

Uma ungakabuchazi ubudlelwano, cishe awukaxoxi ukuthi uyababona yini abanye abantu noma cha. Ngakho-ke, uma oyedwa noma nobabili nibona abanye abantu, kodwa ningenasiqiniseko sokuthi kufanele yini nizizwe ninecala ngakho noma kuwubudlelwano obuvulelekile, nisesimweni esibucayi.

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UTanya, 24, uthi: “Ngaphuma nalo mfana engahlangana naye ohlelweni lokuqomisana izinyanga ezingu-6. “Sasingakaze sivume ukuthi sizikhethele, kodwa sasihlangana cishe zonke izimpelasonto, futhi ngaqala ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi kungase kube okuthile. Ngase ngabona ukuthi sobabili sasisesohlelweni lokuqomisana futhi sibona abanye abantu. Nokho asizange sikhulume ngakho.” 

4. 'Ubudlelwano' busekelwe ekululameni

Ubudlelwano bufika nokuvumelana nezingqinamba. Udinga ukulungisa izinhlelo zakho namashejuli futhi ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nemigomo yempilo, neyomunye umuntu, oyenza ngokuzithandela ngenxa yothando nothando. 

Lokho umehluko oyisisekelo uma kuqhathaniswa nobudlelwano. Esimeni esikahle, konke kuzoba lula. Mhlawumbe wena 

Uma nje lokho kusekhona, nizobe nibonana. Kodwa ngokushesha lapho kuthatha umzamo owengeziwe, uzobona ukwehla okuphawulekayo kokuxhumana nemihlangano.

Esimeni esikude, uma ningenzi umzamo wokuxoxa noma nibe nezinsuku ze-inthanethi ngezikhathi ezithile, kungaphezu kwesimo esikude ngaphandle kocansi. Futhi, njengenjwayelo, ngeke kube khona ingxoxo mayelana nokulindelwe nemithetho.

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5. Akekho ohlangana nomndeni noma abangani

Ama-rom-com amaningi ajikeleza usuku olufanele lomshado womndeni olugcina luphenduke uthando oluvuthayo. Lokhu kungenzeka esimweni esithile, kodwa kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ngeke uhlangane nemindeni yabo noma abangane babo nhlobo njengoba kuwuphawu lobudlelwano obungathi sína.

"Emphakathini, izimpawu zesimo azifani nezezithandani eziguquguqukayo. Kungase kungabi khona ukulungela ngisho nokwazisa imibuthano yomphakathi noma imibuthano yomndeni mayelana nomuntu," kusho u-Hvovi.

USally oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala, ozijabulelayo izimo zakhe ezivamile, uthi: “Angifuni imibuzo kubangane bami noma abangane bami. "Angikakalungeli ukuhlala ngixoxisane ngokuthi ubuhlobo bami nomuntu bubukeka kanjani nokuthi buphokophelephi. Anginankinga nokungazi ukuthi buyini, futhi angifuni ukubekwa endaweni. Ngakho-ke, izinsuku zami angizihlanganisi nezinkundla zokuxhumana."

6. Anigubhi izikhathi ezikhethekile ndawonye

Njengoba kuxoxwe ngenhla, esinye sezibonakaliso ezivamile zesimo ukuthi umndeni awuvunyelwe. Ngakho-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungashiya umndeni wakho nabangane abaseduze ngezikhathi ezikhethekile namaholide ngenxa 'yomuntu osesimweni esibucayi'. Futhi, ukuthumela othile isipho esikhethekile sosuku lokuzalwa noma izimbali kuzodinga ukuthi umazi kahle kanye nezinto azithandayo. Futhi kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ubucabanga ngaye esingaweli ngaphansi kwemithetho yesimo.

Manje, isimo akusho ukuthi aninandaba nhlobo, kodwa ukugubha izinsuku ezikhethekile ndawonye kunentokozo eyisisekelo nokusondelana okungenzeka awukafinyeleli ekuxhumekeni kwenu. Ungabafisela okuhle kodwa ngeke usho ngezimbali.

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7. Izinsuku azivamile kakhulu

Ningase nihlangane izikhathi ezimbalwa ngenyanga kodwa anihleli ubusuku bokuqomisana kaningi. Uma kuvulwa ikhefi elisha nelihle edolobheni, abasibo abantu bokuqala obacabangayo. Uma impelasonto ifika, basuke becabanga kancane kodwa anichithi ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ndawonye. Ukwenza umzamo owanele wokuhlela nokwenza ubusuku bokuqomisana bube khona, noma ukuthatha uhambo olufushane lobusuku ndawonye , ​​akuzona izici eziyinhloko zesimo.

“Ngahlangana nentombazane emsebenzini futhi saxabana,” kusho uKristen. “Saphuma izikhathi ezimbalwa sizijabulisa, asizange sixoxe ngokuthi izinto zibhekephi, ngakho asizange sihlukane noma yini. Sasiqhubeka nokubonana ngezinye izikhathi kodwa kwakungekho mcabango noma okwakulindelekile ukuchitha zonke izimpelasonto ndawonye.”

8. Alukho uxhumano olujulile

Konke esikwenzayo ebudlelwaneni – ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye, ​​ukuhlangana nomndeni nabangane, njll. – ukwakha ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kanye nokuxhumana okuqinile nomuntu esimbonayo. “Esimweni esithile,” kusho uHvovi, “Abalingani bangase babe namahloni okuveza imizwa yabo komunye nomunye futhi bakhethe ukuhlala esigabeni sengxoxo evamile noma ucansi olungajwayelekile . Ngeke kube nentshisekelo enkulu yokudlulela ngale kokubonakala kanye nokwazi omunye umuntu ngezinga elijulile.”

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9. Azikho izingxoxo ngekusasa

Isimo sincike kulokhu okukhona manje. Akukho ukucabanga kusengaphambili, futhi akukho zinhlelo ezenziwayo ezicabangelana. Noma ngabe anazani kahle noma nisangaqiniseki ukuthi nimi kuphi, kangangokuthi aniboni ikusasa ndawonye . Phela, uma ungaqiniseki ngokuthi uzophinde umbone nini umlingani wakho, ukubheka phambili kubonakala kuyize.

Lokhu akusho ukuthi ngeke nibe nekusasa ndawonye. Uma lokho kuyinto oyifunayo, Nazi ezinye izinto ongazenza:

  • Iba nengxoxo nomunye umuntu futhi uqiniseke ukuthi usekhasini elifanayo. 
  • Zibuze ngemizwa yakho 
  • Bona ukuthi akucabangi yini lapho wenza izinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo, futhi ubone ukuthi uyazifaka yini kwezazo. 

Lapho izimpendulo zingathembisi kakhulu, usesimweni esibucayi.

10. Mhlawumbe unemizwa, kodwa akulona uthando

Isimo singase sisekelwe ekululameni, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi akukho mizwa ehilelekile. Kungenzeka ukuthi unemfudumalo ethile ngomunye umuntu, futhi ingase ibuyiselwe. Kungaba khona uthando, ubungane, kanye nenjabulo yangempela yokuba nomunye nomunye. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi uthando lweqiniso.

Akulula ngempela ukuchaza uthando nganoma iyiphi indlela ethile. Kodwa kuphephile ukusho ukuthi ngothando, uzothatha isinyathelo esengeziwe. Uzofuna ukubanakekela lapho begula futhi bekhwehlela futhi bebukeka sengathi bahlukile ku- The Exorcist . Uzofuna ukwazi izici zabo ezingavamile kanye nobuntu babo obungavamile. Futhi ngeke ukhathazeke ngokwenza umzamo wokuvumelanisa impilo yakho neyabo. Uthando luwukuqaphela imizwa enamandla bese wenza ngokuvumelana nayo nsuku zonke. Isimo, yize singaqukatha imizwa, ngeke sihambisane nayo yonke indlela.

5 Izimo Ezibomvu Okumele Uziqaphele

Izimo ziyinkimbinkimbi, okungenani. Kunokungacaci okuningi okuhilelekile futhi awuqiniseki ngempela ukuthi kuzohlala isikhathi eside noma ukuthi uzohlukana kusasa . Kodwa ngaphandle kokungacaci, kunezinye izimpawu ezibomvu okungafanele uzibekezelele ngisho noma usesimweni esithile.

1. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana

Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo sanoma yikuphi ukubambisana okunempilo. Uma umlingani wakho egwema ukuxoxa ngesimo sakho noma ngekusasa, angase angatshalwanga kuwe njengoba unjalo kuye. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lungolunye lwezimpawu zesimo esinobuthi futhi lungakushiya uzizwa ungaqinisekile futhi ungavikelekile.

2. Uthando olungaguquki

Uma bebonisa ukuziphatha okushisayo nokubandayo, lokho kuyisibonakaliso esiqinisekile . Kuyiqiniso ukuthi esimweni esithile awukwazi ukulindela ukutshalwa kwezimali okukhulu ngokomzwelo njengobuhlobo obuzinikele. Kodwa usafanelwe ukuhambisana kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lothando olukhona ebudlelwaneni bakho. Uma behlala bekuthumelela imiyalezo futhi bekuhlaba ama-emoji enhliziyo ngolunye usuku bese ngakusasa benza sengathi awukho, lokho kuyisibonakaliso esibomvu.

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3. Imizwa yakho ayihlonishwa

Kungakhathaliseki ukungabikho kokuzibophezela, kunezinto ezithile okufanele kukho konke ukubambisana noma ngabe kukhululekile kangakanani. Inhlonipho ingesinye sezici ezinjalo. Uma imizwa yakho ichithiwe, ukukhathazeka kwakho kudekiwe noma imvume yakho ingahlonishwa, lokho kuyifulegi elikhulu elibomvu. 

4. Babusa

Khumbula, nobabili ninezwi elilinganayo ekuhlanganyeleni. Uma uthola ukuthi umlingani wakho uzama ukukubusa, ukuphushela okuthile ongakhululekile ngakho, noma ukwenza izinhlelo ngaphandle kokucabangela imibono noma ukukhetha kwakho, lokho kuyifulegi elibomvu kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlelwa.

5. Uzizwa ucindezeleke kakhulu kunokujabula

Uma isimo sikubangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu kunenjabulo noma injabulo, zama ukuthola ukuthi kungani. Kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho ukuphatha kabi noma kufanele uhlale uhamba phezu kwamagobolondo amaqanda eduze kwakhe.

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10 Imithetho Yesimo Okufanele Uyilandele Ukuze Uzivikele

Ngakho-ke ngokukhetha noma ngenhlanhla, uzithole ukukodwa kwalezi zinhlobo zezimo. Manje yini? Kufanele uqaphele kakhulu ngenkathi uzulazula ebudlelwaneni obunjalo ukuze ugweme ukudabuka. Nansi eminye imithetho yesimo okufanele uyilandele ukuze ulondoloze ukuthula kwengqondo: 

  • Kugcine kujwayelekile: Ungagcini noma yikuphi okulindele esikhathini esizayo
  • Zibeke eqhulwini: Hlonipha isimiso sakho nesikhathi
  • Vocalise izidingo zakho: Uchwepheshe wethu uyeluleka, “Xhumana nezidingo zakho esimweni esicacile, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, uvulekele ukwamukela izidingo zozakwenu.”
  • Qaphela imizwa yakho: Zihlukanise uma uqala ukuba nemizwa engathí sina ngabo
  • Ungayenzi isikhungo somkhathi wakho: Yenza isikhala sobunye ubudlelwano obubalulekile empilweni yakho
  • Hlola: Uma nje kungekho ukuzibophezela kokukhethekile, ungangabazi ukubona abanye abantu
  • Landela inqubomgomo ethi 'ungabuzi, ungatsheli': Ukukhuluma imithetho yesimo, uHvovi uthi, “Kungase kube nezinto ezithile eningahlanganyeli ngazo, futhi lokho kungokwemvelo.”
  • Gwema ukukhombisa ukuba sengozini kwemizwa: U-Hvovi uthi, "Ezimweni ezithile, lonke ukuxhumana phakathi kwabantu ababili kuncike ekufihleni imizwa yangempela kanye nokubalekela noma yikuphi ukukhubazeka ngokomzwelo. Kuwukuphela kwendlela ukuhileleka kwezinga eliphezulu okungahlala kunjalo." 
  • Beka imingcele eqinile: U-Hvovi uyachaza, "Imingcele isiza ekulawuleni okulindelekile, okubaluleke kakhulu esimweni esikuso. Ikusiza futhi ukuthi ubone omunye umuntu ukuthi ungubani ngempela hhayi ngokusebenzisa ilensi enemibala yokuthi ufuna abe ngubani." 
  • Kujabulele kusekhona: Ungakhohlwa ukuzijabulisa!

Isikhathi Sokuqeda Isimo

Njengoba ubudlelwano obungazibophezelanga bungenalo usuku lokuphelelwa yisikhathi, wazi kanjani ukuthi kufanele uqhubekisele phambili izinto noma uqhubekele phambili nini? Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungaqeda kanjani isimo lapho sesihambile. Siyazi ukuthi kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza futhi i-psychology yesimo iyinkimbinkimbi. Ngakho-ke nansi izimpawu ezimbalwa ongazibheka ukuze ucabangele ukuqeda isimo.

1. Izinhloso zakho azihambisani nazo

Ukuze kube nesimo esinempilo, izinhloso zabalingani bobabili kudingeka zivumelane kusukela ekuqaleni ukuze kugwenywe ukulindela okungalingani. Uma ungacaci ukuthi yini abayifunayo, yiba nengxoxo eqondile nabo. Futhi uma okulindele kungavumelani, kungase kube yisikhathi sokuhamba.

2. Impilo yakho yengqondo isengozini

Iphuzu eliphelele lokungabeki ilebula lobudlelwano benu ukuthi ningakwazi ukuzijabulisa ngaphandle kwengcindezi yomphakathi. Uma ukuba nabo kuqala kukulethela ingcindezi kunenjabulo, ungase uthande ukuphinde ucabangele ukukhetha kwakho kobudlelwano.

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3. Utshale kakhulu kunabo

Uma uqaphela ukuthi ubeka isikhathi esiningi namandla ebudlelwaneni kunomlingani wakho, ungakuzibi. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ulungile ngakho kodwa ngokushesha noma kamuva, ukungalingani kuzothinta ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo. Bheka ukuthi ingxoxo nabo ingasishintsha yini isimo, noma-ke, hamba.

4. Uqala ukuzizwa usetshenziswa

Uma unomuzwa wokuthi umlingani wakho ucela okuningi kuwe noma ngabe ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba futhi kukwenza uzizwe ukhathele, kungase kube yisikhathi sokukuyeka. Cabangela le mibuzo:

  • Ingabe umlingani wakho ukucela ukuba nisondelane kakhulu ngokomzimba kunokuba ukhululekile?
  • Ingabe ngokuvamile uzithola ulalele venting kanye nomuzwa wabo ukhathele ngokomzwelo?
  • Ingabe sekunzima kuwe ukwenza isikhathi semihlangano nezinsuku?

Uma okunye kwalokhu kuyiqiniso, cabanga ngokuhlukana.

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5. Umlingani wakho ubonisa izici ezinobuthi

Kungaba ubudlelwano noma isimo, ubuthi akumele bubekezelelwe. Uma usuqalile ukuqaphela izici ezinobuthi kumlingani wakho, njenge:

  • zokukhwabanisa
  • ukukhanya kwegesi
  • Ulimi oluhlukumezayo noma izenzo
  • Amazwi ahlambalazayo ngomzimba wakho
  • Ukwenza amahlaya ngezindleko zakho noma ukululaza

Bese uhlephula izinto ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Isimo asiyifanele impilo yakho yengqondo noma ukuphepha kwakho.

okuningi ngobudlelwano obuyinkimbinkimbi

Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa

1. Isimo kufanele sihlale isikhathi esingakanani? 

Yize ungekho umugqa wesikhathi omisiwe wesimo, kufanele uqhubeke kuze kube yilapho bobabili ozakwethu sebesekhasini elifanayo. Uma omunye wenu ezinikele kakhulu, noma efuna ukuzibophezela okwengeziwe, amandla obudlelwano awalingani futhi lokhu kungaholela osizini kanye nesimo esingenampilo.

2. Usiqeda kanjani isimo?

Cacisa ngalokho okufunayo ebudlelwaneni. Ingabe ulungile ngesimo esingenamibandela, esingenamibandela , noma ufuna okwengeziwe? Bese, khuluma 'nomlingani wakho wesimo'. Thola ukuthi bavumelana yini. Uma kungenjalo, qeda izinto. Mhlawumbe ungaqhubeka nemibandela enobungane, kodwa yenza imibandela yakho icace lapho uqeda isimo.

3. Ungakwazi yini ukushintsha isimo sibe ubudlelwano?

Yebo, uma izinhlangothi zombili zifuna. Isimo lapho ungachazi ukuthi umi kuphi, ngakho-ke ukuze uguqule ubuhlobo, uzodinga ukujula futhi ubone ukuthi imizwa yakho ngomunye nomunye, nokuthi uzimisele kangakanani ukuya ebudlelwaneni.

Imicabango Final

Efingqa konke, u-Hvovi uthi, “Nakuba amagama aphathelene nobudlelwano kungenzeka ashintshile ngokuqala kwenkulungwane yeminyaka, ubuchopho bethu buyaqhubeka bucubungula imizwa ngendlela engaphelelwa yisikhathi futhi yendawo yonke.Sithola induduzo nokuvikeleka ngokubambisana lapho kunokuvumelana nokuzinikela.

Nakuba kusetshenziswa amagama 'avimbene kakhulu' (njengokuqomisana, isoka/intombi/umaqondana, ukuzinza) ukuchaza ubudlelwano kusishiya nokukhetha okwengeziwe, ngokwemvelo asinqunyelwe izindima zozakwethu ezingachazwanga kahle. Ngakho-ke, izinzuzo nezingozi zidinga ukucutshungulwa ngokucophelela umbhangqwana ngaphambi kokuthi kuthinteke ngokomzwelo. Kungase kube nzima ukuthola ukuthi ungadlulela kanjani esimweni lapho usungene ohlelweni olunjalo”

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