Kungani isikhala sibaluleke kangaka ebudlelwaneni?

Indlela Isikhala Esithuthukisa Ngayo Ukukhula Kwemizwelo Nomuntu Siqu

Ukusebenza Emshadweni | June 5, 2017 | Raksha Bharadia , Umsunguli, Umbhali & Umhleli
Kubuyekezwe ngo: February 21, 2025

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Ubudlelwano buwumdanso obucayi wothando, ukuvumelana, nokuqonda. Nokho, enye inselele eqhubekayo imibhangqwana ebhekana nayo iwukuzulazula emibonweni engqubuzanayo, lapho ukuphikelela kuvame ukuhlangabezana nokuphikiswa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kumayelana nokukhetha okungatheni njengezinhlelo zangempelasonto noma izinqumo ezibalulekile mayelana nezezimali noma ukukhulisa izingane, imibono ephikisayo ayinakugwenywa. Intokazi ehlakaniphile egubha iminyaka yayo engama-50 isikhumbuza iqiniso elibalulekile: ngezinye izikhathi, lapho uphikelela kakhulu, kulapho ukumelana kunamandla. Isixazululo asikona ukuphusha ngamandla kodwa ukuhlehla nokunikeza isikhala—hhayi nje kumlingani wakho, kodwa nakuwe.

Amandla Esikhala Ekuqiniseni Ubudlelwano

Okuqukethwe

Uma uphikelela bayakuphikisa, uma umelana bayaphikelela...

Inselele eyodwa mhlawumbe yonke imibhangqwana eyaziqonda ukuba nemibono ephikisanayo. Kungasukela ezintweni ezincane kuya kweziyisisekelo, kusukela ezindleleni zokugqoka kanye nokuthi ungadla kuphi ngeSonto ntambama kuya endleleni yokuqondisa izingane noma ukuthi kufanele kusetshenziswe malini kulokho. Imibhangqwana ihlala ixoxisana ngebhalansi yokusebenza, ivumela uhlangothi olulodwa, ifuna indawo kolunye; ibhalansi yamandla iyashintsha njalo, umuntu ngamunye angathatha imali encane noma ngaphezulu, kodwa izintshisekelo ezinkulu zomndeni azivamile ukuthinteka. Imishini yasekhaya iyahamba, iminyaka iphenduka amashumi eminyaka futhi phakathi kweminyaka engama-25 ^nengama -50 ^{imibhangqwana}iqala ukubona emuva futhi iqiniseka ngokwanele ukuhleka nokwabelana ngendlela abantu ababili abahlukene njengabo abagcina ngayo ukudala konke abakwenzile. Kwakungesikhathi somkhosi owodwa lapho owesifazane wokugubha usuku wabelana ngendaba yakhe phambi kwesixuku esiseduze somndeni nabangane. Wayegubha usuku lwakhe lokugubha iminyaka engama- ⁵⁰.

Ukufunda okuhlobene: Izindaba zomshado ezinhle kakhulu - iqoqo lezindaba zothando

'Uma kufanele ngikunike abasanda kushada i-mantra, (okwakungukuthi noma ubani kithi eshade unyaka kuya kwengama-40!) kungaba lokhu kuqonda, 'lapho uphikelela, uzomelana, futhi okuphambene nalokho lapho ephikelela khona, uzomelana.' Lapho abantu ababili emibhangqwaneni bezithola besezindaweni eziphikisanayo, impendulo yabo yokuqala iwukuba ihlukaniswe ngokwengeziwe. Ukuze benze omunye avumelane nombono wabo bakhukhumalisa ukufaneleka kokuma kwabo bengazi futhi badele omunye. Futhi kugagasi elifanayo banciphisa ukungahambi kahle kombono wabo futhi babukeza phansi okuhle kwabanye. Uma sebeyiphindaphinde ngokwanele, iba yiqiniso labo. Omunye wenza okufanayo. Akagcini nje ngokumelana nehaba ngamandla ehaba kodwa futhi weqa ukubaluleka okungokwakhe, kuyilapho ebukela phansi umbono womunye. Ngakho-ke kulaba ababili, lapho bephikelela kakhulu, kulapho bephikisana kakhulu! Ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngokulinganayo, ngamandla akhulayo...

umbhangqwana ogcina isikhala ngaphakathi — Isikhala sibalulekile

'Kungenzekani uma bezoma isikhashana bese bebuza, 'ingabe bayakholelwa ku-hyperbole yabo? Ingabe kuyiqiniso labo ngempela? Noma mhlawumbe baye bafika kude ngakho, ukuthi kufanele kube?

'Yilokho kuphela okudingekayo. Umbuzo owodwa. 'Kuthiwani uma lapho ngizama ukuveza iphuzu lami ngihlanekezele iqiniso lami?'

kuqhuba lentokazi ehlakaniphile. 'Uyazi ukuthi ingqondo yethu ikhohlisayo ngalowo mqondo. Lapho ukhuluma kakhulu into ethile, uzokholelwa kakhulu kuyo. Ubuchopho buzoveza ukungenela kuleyo ndawo. Okubuhlungu ukuthi ungenza into encane ibe nkulu ekhanda lakho bese uyiyeka ihlale kanjalo'.

Wenzani? Ngibuzile.

“Ukuba sothandweni akusho ukulahlekelwa wena—kusho ukukhula ndawonye kuyilapho nihlala niphelele njengabantu ngabanye.”

'Yeka ukuphikelela. Thatha igxathu emuva. Vumela inkinga iqhubeke nesilinganiso sayo sokuqala. Thola ukuqonda kwakho mayelana nayo, ngaphandle kwengcindezi yesidingo sokuba umlingani wakho avumelane nombono wakho. Okwesikhashana nje, yeka ukusheshisa... nikeza isikhala, thatha isikhala.

Ngacabanga amazwi ka-Nietzsche, 'Isisindo sawo wonke umthwalo kufanele sibuyekezwe kabusha'.

Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa

1. Kungani isikhala sibalulekile ebudlelwaneni?

Isikhala sivumela abantu ukuthi balondoloze ubuntu babo, bacabange ngemizwa yabo, futhi bagweme ukuzizwa bekhungathekile. Sikhuthaza ukukhula komuntu siqu, okuzuzisa ubudlelwano ngaphezu kwabangane abanezinzuzo kodwa hhayi ubudlelwano.

2. Ingabe isikhala esiningi singalimaza ubuhlobo?

Yebo, indawo eningi ingadala ibanga elingokomzwelo nemizwa yokunganakwa. Ukuthola ukulingana phakathi kobunye kanye nobuntu kubalulekile.

3. Ukhuluma kanjani ngesidingo sesikhala ngaphandle kokucasula umlingani wakho?

Veza isidingo sakho ngenhlonipho futhi uqinisekise umlingani wakho ukuthi imayelana nokuzinakekela hhayi ukuntula uthando noma intshisekelo ebudlelwaneni.

Imicabango Final

Isikhala ebudlelwaneni asikona ukudala ibanga kodwa simayelana nokukhulisa ubuntu kanye nenhlalakahle engokomzwelo. Uma siphathwa ngokunakekela nokuqonda, ukunikezana isikhala kungaholela esibophweni esiqinile nesinempilo. Kuyindlela yokuvuselela nokuletha uhlobo oluhle kakhulu lwakho ebudlelwaneni. Abeluleki bethu abangochwepheshe bangakuqondisa ekubhekaneni nalolu shintsho olubucayi ukuze uthuthukise uxhumano olunempilo.

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