Ukuba Nomntwana Ngenkathi Umyeni Esatshalaliswa Amasosha

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Kubuyekezwe ngo: February 20, 2025
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UGerald wayeyindoda enemfudumalo nenothando. Ukuba ngubaba omkhulu kanye nomyeni onakekelayo kwafika ngokwemvelo kuye. Noma nini lapho ekhona ngokomzimba, wayenza konke ukuze abe umnakekeli ongcono kakhulu kimi nengane yami. Yingakho ngifuna ukukhumbuza le ndaba yokuba nengane ngesikhathi umyeni etshalwe kude. Nalapho, lapho esekude kakhulu nami, ngangiwezwa amandla akhe angenakuvinjelwa ngocingo ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi kuzwakala sengathi ukhona eduze kwami.

Nakuba kwakuyiphupho lami ukufezeka ukushada nendoda ekhonza eButhweni Lezempi Lase-US, ukuhlukana okude, izinhlelo ezixakile, futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, nokungakwazi ngisho nokuxoxa naye ocingweni lapho ingekho lapho ithunyelwe khona, kwakuye kwaba nemiphumela emibi. Ngagcina ngokuthi izwe lakhe laliwuthando lwakhe lokuqala ngisho nalapho egcizelela ukuthi nakuba umsebenzi wakhe wawuwuthando lwakhe, ngangiyimpilo yakhe'

"Udlala ngamagama njengenjwayelo, Gerald?" Ngaphinde ngammangalela lapho ngiya emzini wabazali bami eMinnesota, lapho elibangise enkanjini yamasosha e-Arkansas. Ngangizoteta noma nini nengane yethu yesibili. Nakuba ngangikhala kakhulu ngokuthi akekho, ngangingakwazi ukukhononda. Ngangazi ukuthi naye wayefuna ukuba nami kulesi sigaba esibucayi kodwa kwakungenakwenzeka ngaye.

Kwaqala kanjalo-ke inkinga eqhubekayo ngendlela esasiphila ngayo izimpilo zethu. Le ndaba imayelana nohambo lwami lokukhulelwa ngenkathi umyeni wami esasebenza.

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Nakuba ngangiphila ngokuzola ngokuphelele njengoba ngangimatasa ngichitha isikhathi sami ngilinde ukufika okusha, uGerald wenza lokho akwenza kahle kakhulu - ukuhola ithimba lamasosha nokusebenzela izwe lakhe kahle. Angiyazi imininingwane yephrofayili yakhe ngoba umsebenzi wakhe wehliswa kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ufinyelele ezindlebeni zami.

Ngenye intambama, kwaqala izinhlungu. Abazali bami batshela uGerald ukuthi babengiyisa ekhaya lasebekhulile, ukuze bathole izimpendulo ezicacile kuye. Lokhu kwakuxakile kodwa, uma kubhekwa isimo esinzima ayekuso kanye nesimo esibucayi somsebenzi wakhe, baqonda futhi abamcindezelanga ngemibuzo.

"Ukuletha ingane emhlabeni ngenkathi umlingani wakho engekho kuwuvivinyo lwamandla, uthando, nokuqina."

Noma kunjalo babengiphethe kabi futhi babelwa ngokwanele nalokho. Ngangingeyona nje indodakazi ekhalayo kubo ngalolo suku kodwa ngangingumfazi womuntu okhulelwa ngenkathi umyeni wakhe ethunyelwa emsebenzini! Lokho kwaholela ekucindezelekeni okuphindwe kabili kubo njengoba bezama ukuthola ukuthi bangamphatha kanjani owesifazane okhulelwe owayephambana ingqondo!

"Awuzange ungibuze nokungibuza, Gerald? Sengikhathele ukuba ngumuntu okufanele ngiqonde ngaso sonke isikhathi! Lokhu kumayelana nokuzalwa komntwana wethu ngenxa kaKristu!" Ngabubula njengoba ngizabalaza njengoba elinye igagasi lokubeletha lalinginyakazisa. “Kufanele ube lapha, ubambe isandla sami,” ngamemeza futhi ngenxa yobunye ubuhlungu bokudutshulwa.

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Ngiyamkhumbula umyeni wami omisiwe kodwa wayekhona nami emoyeni

Nokho, kungakapheli ihora ngimukelwe, izingcingo zikaGerald zaqala ukungena njalo ngemva kwemizuzu engu-20 noma ngaphezulu. Wayekhuluma nodokotela ukuze azi isimo somsebenzi wami, noma nabazali bami engibuza ukuthi ngisekuhluphekeni okukhulu yini, kodwa ikakhulukazi wayecela ukukhuluma nami.

Nakuba kungekho noyedwa ocingweni lwakhe owathatha isikhathi esingaphezu komzuzu noma emibili, wangisiza kakhulu ekubhekaneni nalawo mahora angu-36 asabekayo, ngezinye izikhathi engihlebela izinto ezimnandi , izindaba zesikhathi sethu esidlule, futhi ngezinye izikhathi, engikhuthaza ngokuthi “Unamandla, ntombazane yami. Sikutholile lokhu.”

Ngangifuna intombazane ngiseyingane, ngolunye lwezingcingo zakhe, wathi, 'Ndlovukazi yami, izinsuku zakho zibaliwe, ngoba ngemva kokufika kwenkosazana yami iyoba yi-Numero Uno wami!'

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Wayengasakwazi ukulinda ukuthi abuye azochitha isikhathi nengane yakhe yentombazane

Ngakhumbula ukuthi inethiwekhi yayibuhlungu kakhulu futhi, njalo lapho ubuhlungu bami buncipha kancane, ngangibuza ukuthi liyana yini lapho. Wayeyinqamula le ndaba futhi aqondise kabusha ingxoxo engxenyeni yami yomhlaba.

Ngemva kwamahora angu-36 omsebenzi onzima kanye nezingcingo ezingaba yikhulu ezivela kuye, ekugcineni wahalaliselwa ngokuba ubaba oziqhenyayo wenkosazana yakhe encane.

“Ngikutshelile ukuthi uJesu uzosibusisa ngengane yentombazane emnandi,” esho njengobaba oqhoshayo.

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Okuhlangenwe nakho Kwami Njengomfazi Wezempi Okhulelwe

Ngakuzwa ukuziqhenya kanye nenjabulo ezwini lakhe futhi ngafisa ngempela ukuthi ngabe ukhona nami futhi manje, thina. Ngoba umkhaya wakithi wawusanda ukwanda nje! Nakuba kwakuyimina engangikhipha ingane elingana nempilo emzimbeni wami, yayinamandla kunami. Umyeni onamandla esiza unkosikazi ukuthi abelethe.

Njengokungathi uyazizwa imicabango yami, wavele wathi, “Bengifuna kakhulu ukuba lapho nawe, sthandwa. Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi bengingekho. Kodwa uyazi ukuthi ngihlala ngilapha, ngikuthanda ngikude .” Ngangazi ukuthi wayesho konke ayekusho. Akekho owayengafisa ukuphuthelwa ukuzalwa kwengane yakhe.

Kwaba ngakusasa lapho ngabona khona ukuthi 'Ukuphazamiseka' ocingweni kwakunganeli; kwakuwumsindo wezibhamu namabhomu. UGerald wayengekho ngisho e-Arkansas. Wayelibangise e-Iraq kodwa engafuni ukusitshela lapho ngangivele ngicindezelekile ngokuba inkosikazi yezempi ekhulelwe umyeni wayo owayengekho.

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Ubehola umkhankaso lapho kudingeke ukuthi bakhiphe amaphekula ayisithupha abecashe emzini womuntu. Ukuhlinzwa kwakhe kwathatha amahora angu-36 futhi. UGerald wami onesibindi waklonyeliswa ngendondo ye-Gallantry ngalo msebenzi.

Wandizela e-Minnesota noma nini lapho ekwazi. Ngobunye ubusuku ngambuza, “Bengizomqonda uGerald, ngisho ukube ubungafonanga. Ubusesimweni esinzima kodwa kulungile, nami ngingaba nzima nakuwe.”

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Wathi, “Sthandwa sami, isimo lapho sasilawulwa. Ukunyakaza kwami ​​​​konke kwakuhleliwe futhi kuveze imiphumela emihle. Kwakufanele ngazi ngomunye umlingani wami, ukuthi umuntu obaluleke kakhulu empilweni yami wayesaphila kahle yini! Uyisithandwa sami seqiniso futhi uhlala ubaluleke kakhulu.”

Manje, ngangitheni ekuqaleni mayelana nempilo yamasosha. Sicela uyisuse yonke. Uma kufanele ngikhethe izikhathi eziyikhulu, ngizozinza kuphela kuGerald.

Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa

1. Ingabe umyeni angabuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini ezozalwa?

Uma ukuhlele kusenesikhathi, yebo. Ukuthola umntwana ngesikhathi umyeni esatshalaliswe kude nawe kungakhungathekisa kodwa uma uhlela isikhathi sakhe ngaphambi kwesikhathi, ungalungiselela ukuba naye ekhaya. Zama ukuhlela ikhefu lakhe ukuze lihambisane nosuku lwakho lokusebenza futhi lokho kufanele kuphumelele.

2. Ngibambisana kanjani nengane yami ngemva kokuthunyelwa?

Ngisho noma ungumyeni okahle usiza unkosikazi ukuthi abelethe ngocingo, ungase uzizwe sengathi uphuthelwa isikhathi ongasichitha nengane yakho okungase kuthinte indlela osondelana ngayo nezingane zakho. Kulokhu, qiniseka ukuthi uchitha isikhathi esanele nabo lapho ubuyela ekhaya. Kusukela ekudlaleni ama-frisbee emapaki kuya ekuwondleni, yiba seduze nengane yakho ngangokunokwenzeka.

Imicabango Final

Ukuletha umntwana emhlabeni ngenkathi umlingani wakho esasebenza kuyinselele eyingqayizivele, kodwa awuwedwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngomndeni, imiphakathi yabalingani bezempi, noma ukwesekwa kochwepheshe, kunezindlela zokuhamba kulolu hambo ngamandla nothando. Xhumana nochwepheshe bethu abaqonda izinselele zomndeni wezempi.

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