Ganizirani za ubale wanu ngati chithunzi cha Venn. Wokondedwa wanu ndi inu ndi awiri ozungulira omwe amadutsana chifukwa chikondi chomwe muli nacho kwa wina ndi mzake chabweretsa pamodzi. Njirayi imapanga malo ogawana, omwe mumatcha ubale. Komabe, mukadali ndi chizindikiritso kunja kwa malo omwe adagawana nawo ndikusunga zonse zomwe ufulu mu maubwenzi umakhudza. Koma kusunga mgwirizano pakati pa bwalo logawidwa ndi bwalo lanu sikophweka monga momwe kumawonekera. Ndiye mumaletsa bwanji mabwalo awiriwa kuti asagwirizane kukhala amodzi? Mwa kuphunzira kulinganiza kudziimira paubwenzi.
Tiyeni tikambirane nkhaniyi pokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa ubale ndi Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. Kumvetsetsa bwino za kusunga ufulu muubwenzi sikungatheke popanda katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Timayamba kukambiranako mwa kukumbukira mawu anzeru a Michel de Montaigne akuti: “Chinthu chachikulu kwambiri padziko lapansi ndicho kudziwa kukhala wekha. Pamapeto pa ulendowu, mudzatha kulankhula zoona mukakhala pa chibwenzi. Cholinga chathu chagona pa funso limodzi - momwe tingakhalire odziyimira pawokha paubwenzi? Tili pankhaniyi, tiyeni tionenso za kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi komanso momwe kulili kofunika kuti musalole kuti umunthu wanu ukhale wogonjera ku mgwirizano wachikondi.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kudziyimira pawokha mu maubwenzi ndi lingaliro losamvetsetseka kwambiri. Limaonedwa ngati chinthu choipa kapena limatanthauzidwa ngati kufunikira kolamulira wokondedwa wanu, zomwe zimayambitsa nkhondo yolimbana ndi mphamvu muubwenzi . Zoona zake n'zakuti, palibe chilichonse mwa izi chomwe chimatanthauza kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi. Ndiye, kodi kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi n'chiyani?
Mwachidule, kukhala wodziyimira pawokha paubwenzi kumatanthauza kudziwa momwe mungakhalire wekha ngakhale mutakhala theka la chikondi. Monga momwe kudziyimira pawokha pazachuma kumatanthauza kukhala ndi kuthekera kodzisamalira nokha mosasamala kanthu za ubale wanu, kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi kuli kofanana ndi kuthekera kosagwirizanitsa zosowa zanu zapamtima ndi munthu wina.
Kudziyimira pawokha mu maubwenzi kumadziwika ndi kuzindikira kuti simuyenera kusiya zinthu zomwe zimakubweretserani chisangalalo kapena kukhutira kuti musangalale ndi mnzanu. Kapena kuti simuyenera kukhala olowa m'chiuno kapena kupereka nthawi yanu yonse ndi chidwi pa ubale wanu. Ngakhale kuti okwatirana amadalirana kwambiri, ngati kudalira kumeneku kukuchulukirachulukira, kungakuchititseni kudzimva kukhala wotaika, wothedwa nzeru, ndi wotopa.
Zotsatira zake, mutha kuganiza kuti simungathe kuchita popanda mnzanu - ngakhale ndewu zazing'ono kwambiri kapena mtunda wocheperako kumakusiyani opunduka ndi mantha, kukaikira, ndi nkhawa zamtsogolo - kutembenuza equation yanu kukhala ubale wodalirana. Kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi ndikungodziwa za mzere wabwino pakati pa kudalirana ndi kudalirana kwabwino.
Ubwenzi wachikondi uyenera kutilimbikitsa kukhala odziyimira pawokha komanso kumva kudzoza. Izi zitha kuchitika ngati onse awiri aphunzira kulinganiza kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi. Izi ndi zomwe kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi wodzipereka kapena mgwirizano wautali umawoneka ngati:
- Malo muubwenzi: Kulinganiza kudziyimira pawokha ndi ukwati kapena ubale wodzipereka kumamasulira kukhala athanzi danga lanu. Onse awiri ali bwino kuthera nthawi yosiyana. Zedi, mutha kuphonyana nthawi imeneyi, komabe, sizimakulepheretsani kusangalala kapena kukhala ndi moyo wokwanira popanda wina ndi mnzake.
- Kulankhula malingaliro anu: Kukhala wodziyimira pawokha paubwenzi kumatanthauza kuti ndinu omasuka kufotokoza zomwe mukufuna kapena kunena zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu popanda kudandaula za momwe angachitire kapena kuwonongeka komwe kungabweretse paubwenzi wanu komanso mosemphanitsa. Kudziyimira pawokha kumapangitsa okwatiranawo kulankhula zakukhosi kwawo popanda mantha kapena mantha
- Thandizo limodzi: Kudziyimira pawokha mu maubwenzi kumakuthandizani kukhala njira yothandizirana wina ndi mnzake. Mumasangalala kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi zokonda zake komanso zomwe amakonda ndikuwalimbikitsa kuchita izi, ndipo amakuchitiraninso chimodzimodzi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire odziyimira pawokha muubwenzi kumathandizira kulimbikitsa kukhazikika komwe mungathe kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake kuti mukhale odziyimira pawokha.
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Tsopano popeza mwamvetsetsa momwe kudziyimira pawokha kumawonekera, mutha kudabwa ngati kuli kofunikira monga momwe kumapangidwira. Kuyesetsa kuti mukhazikitse ufulu wanu pachibwenzi kumadalira kwambiri momwe mumamvetsetsa kufunika kwake pachibwenzi. Mukamvetsetsa izi, mudzayamba kuona kuti kuphunzira kukhala odziyimira pawokha paubwenzi kungapangitse kuti ubale wanu ukhale wabwino kwambiri.
Bert ndi Claire, banja la ku Kansas, anaphunzira izi m'njira yovuta. Kusagwirizana kwawo kosiyana kwa chikondi kunawapangitsa kuti azikangana kwambiri moti ankamva ngati kuti ubale wawo wonse watha, womwe unali wautali, komanso wosatha. Lingaliro la kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi linali lachilendo kwa Claire ndipo ankafuna kumamatira kwa Bert pa zosowa zake zonse, zomwe zinapangitsa Bert, yemwe anali ndi umunthu wodzipatula, kumukakamiza kwambiri.
Pamene kukankhana uku kudabweretsa ubale wawo pachimake, adaganiza zopeza upangiri wa banja ngati kuyesa komaliza kuti apulumutse ubale wawo. Pochiza, banjali linaphunzira kufunika kokhala paokha komanso kudalirana moyenerera ndipo tsopano akuphunzira kukonzanso machitidwe awo. Ngati, monga Bert ndi Claire, kusadziyimira pawokha kukulepheretsa ubale wanu ndi anzanu, kutsika kumeneku pakufunika kwake kungakupatseni chilimbikitso chofunikira kwambiri kuti muwunikenso momwe mumagwirira ntchito mkati mwa kulumikizana kwanu:
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1. Simudzitaya wekha
Choyamba, kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi ndikofunikira chifukwa kumatiteteza kuti tisadzitaye chifukwa choti tili pachibwenzi kapena tagwa mchikondi. Mosiyana ndi maganizo a anthu ambiri, izi zingathandize kuti ubale wanu ukhale wolimba chifukwa munthu amene inu ndi mnzanu mudamukonda akadali wolimba komanso wopambana.
2. Simumakhala wokakamira kapena wosowa
Kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi kumatsimikizira kuti mukupitirizabe kukhala munthu wanu, kutsata maloto anu, kudzipangira nokha zisankho ndikudziwona nokha lonse osati theka la mgwirizano wachikondi. Izi zimakuthandizani kuti mupewe chizolowezi chongokhalira kukakamira kapena kusowa muubwenzi, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale poyizoni komanso kusokoneza maganizo.
3. Kudziyimira pawokha mu ubale kumapereka mwayi wokulirapo
Kudziyimira pawokha kumathandiza kuti pakhale kudalirana kwabwino muubwenzi , komwe kumapatsa onse awiri mwayi wokulira, monga munthu payekha komanso monga banja. Mwanjira ina, kulinganiza ufulu ndi ukwati kapena ubale wodzipereka kwa nthawi yayitali kumapanga mphamvu yofuna kukwaniritsa zomwe onse awiri amathandizana kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino komanso kulimbikitsa ubale wawo.
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4. Mutha kulankhulana bwino
Kulankhulana bwino ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zofunika kwambiri zomwe zimachititsa kuti munthu amvetse momwe angakhalire wodziimira paokha muubwenzi. Mavuto ambiri pakati pa okwatirana amayamba chifukwa cha kulankhulana kolakwika muubwenzi . Kulankhulana koipa kumeneku kumachokera pang'ono m'maganizo mwathu komanso pang'ono chifukwa chosafuna kusokoneza mtendere muubwenzi mwa kuchita kapena kunena china chake chomwe chingakhumudwitse ena omwe timawakonda.
Kudziyimira pawokha mu maubwenzi kumalimbikitsa kuona mtima, kumasuka, komanso kuchita zinthu mowonekera. Popeza kuti onse awiri amalemekeza umunthu wawo, sawopa kulankhula zakukhosi kwawo, amalimbikira kuyika malire oyenera paubwenziwo, ndipo amatha kulinganiza mmene zosoŵa zaubwenzi sizingapambanitse zosoŵa za munthu aliyense kapena zokonda zaumwini zimakhala zofunika kwambiri kuposa zomwe amagawana.
5. Kudziyimira pawokha kumapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wabwino
Kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi wodzipereka nthawi zambiri kumatanthauza kuti onse awiri amatenga nthawi kuti akwaniritse zokonda zawo ndi zosangalatsa zawo, kukhala ndi nthawi ndi mabwenzi awo, ndi zina zotero. Nthawi imeneyi yokhala kutali sikuti imangopangitsa kuti ubale ukhale watsopano komanso imakupatsani zinthu zambiri zoti mugawane. Kudziyimira pawokha kungakhale njira yothetsera kutopa muubwenzi , womwe nthawi zambiri umakhala ngati chiswe, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubale wa maanja ukhale wopanda pake mkati.
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Njira 6 Zogwirizanitsa Kudziyimira pawokha mu Ubale
Tsopano, mutha kuwona chifukwa chake pali hullabaloo wambiri kuzungulira lingaliro lodziyimira pawokha paubwenzi. Ngati munayamba mwadzifunsapo ngati kukhala wodziyimira pawokha paubwenzi ndikofunikira kwambiri kapena ndi malingaliro opitilira muyeso, tikukhulupirira kuti muli ndi yankho lanu. Inde, n’kofunika kwambiri kukhalabe wodzikonda kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino, woyenda bwino.
Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti, "Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti anthu amapanga ubale. Kudziyimira pawokha sikungatayidwe pa guwa lansembe la banja. Kukongola kwa mgwirizano uliwonse wachikondi ndi kusiyana komwe okwatirana onse awiri amabweretsa. Zopereka zawo payekhapayekha zimapangitsa malo abwino kwambiri, ogawana komwe amakulira ndikumanga moyo pamodzi. Kutaya malingaliro a zomwe mukuyimira kuli ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa kwambiri."
Phindu la kudziyimira pawokha mu maubwenzi ndi mbali ziwiri; mphamvu za banja zimakhala zamphamvu, ndipo ubwino wa munthu ndi waukulu. Tikufuna zonse ziwiri izi (ndi zina) kwa inu. Komabe, ngakhale kuti kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi kungawoneke ngati lingaliro losavuta komanso lolunjika, kulinganiza bwino pakati pa umunthu wanu ndi udindo wanu muubwenzi wachikondi kungakhale kovuta kwa maanja ambiri. Sitikufuna kuti mukhale m'modzi wa maanjawa, ndichifukwa chake tabwera kudzagawana njira zisanu ndi imodzi zopezera ufulu wodziyimira pawokha muubwenzi:
1. Osafuna “kukwaniritsa” kudzera mwa okondedwa wanu
Anthu amakonda kutenga mawu oti 'better theka' kwenikweni. Kufunafuna kukwaniritsidwa kudzera muubwenzi kapena bwenzi lanu sikuti ndi chisankho chosayenera komanso ndi udindo waukulu woyika pamapewa a wina. Othandizana nawo alibe udindo pa ife, ndipo sizokambirana. Kuyesera kudzikwaniritsa mu chikondi ndi sitepe yoyamba panjira yodalira.
Fred Rogers ananena mopupuluma kuti: “Tiyenera kuthandiza anthu kuzindikira tanthauzo lenileni la chikondi.” Nthaŵi zambiri chikondi chimasokonezeka ndi kudalira munthu wina. Musayang'ane wina ndi mzake ngati magawo awiri a mtima; mwadzikwanira kale. Wokondedwa wanu ndi bonasi.
Dr. Bhonsle akuti, "Ndikofunikira kuthetsa lingaliro la 'kumaliza.' Kutsatira chikhulupiriro ichi kungakhale kowononga kwambiri chifukwa ndicho chomwe chimachitika m'maukwati kapena maubwenzi odalirana - anthu amasiya kudziona ngati anthu payekhapayekha. Amakhala ogwirizana m'mbali iliyonse ya moyo wawo. Koma pankhaniyi, kodi mumapereka chiyani ku ubalewo?"
Tiyeni timvetse izi bwino ndi chitsanzo. Patricia ndi Jayden akhala limodzi kwa zaka 9. Popanda kuzindikira, Patricia wapanga ubale wonse ndi moyo wake wonse. Amapeza kukwaniritsidwa konse ndi tanthauzo kuchokera ku ubale wake ndi Jayden. Koma posachedwapa, wakhala akumva kuti chinachake sichili bwino - atapereka nthawi yake yonse ndi mphamvu zake kuti agwirizane ndi izi, atadzipereka kwambiri, sizikumva bwino. Iyenera kukhala nkhani yabwino yachikondi, sichoncho?
Zolakwika. Vuto lagona pa kudziyerekezera kwake. Sangathe kudzizindikiranso. Patricia waika ziyembekezo zake zonse, maloto ake, ndi chisangalalo chake pa munthu wina. Kuwonjezera pa kulephera kudziletsa komanso kudziletsa, iye wazindikira kuti zochita zake n'zopanda pake. Wayamba kuona kufunika kolinganiza kudziimira paubwenzi ndi kudalira bwenzi lake. Ndilo sitepe yoyamba - ndipo mwina yofunika kwambiri - kuti munthu apeze ufulu wodziyimira pawokha mu ubale wodzipereka.
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2. Kukhala wodziyimira pawokha paubwenzi? Khalani ndi bwalo lanu
Ndipo sitingathe kutsindika izi mokwanira. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti maubwenzi abwino ndi anthu ali ndi maubwenzi omveka bwino ndi thanzi la munthu kwa nthawi yochepa komanso yayitali. Ndikofunikira kukhala ndi gulu lanu - anzanu, ogwira nawo ntchito, banja lanu, ndi anthu omwe mumadziwana nawo omwe ndi osiyana ndi moyo wanu wachikondi. Ichi ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale odziyimira pawokha muubwenzi.
Mabanja ambiri amathamangira mubwalo limodzi kapena amakhala ndi mabwalo ambiri. Nthawi zina, m'modzi mwa okondedwawo amatengeka ndi gulu la mnzake. Izi zilibe vuto lililonse, koma pali nthawi yomwe umafunika bwenzi lomwe limakuchirikiza mopanda malire osaseweretsa woyimira mdierekezi kwa mnzako. Kukwera kwanu kapena kufa, mukudziwa?
Khalani otsimikiza kukumana ndi anzanu mlungu uliwonse. Siziyenera kukhala brunch ndi cocktails - ingochitani zinthu zochepa monga kuwonera TV kapena kudya pizza. Munthu uyu adzakhalanso ngati chotulukapo chamalingaliro ndikukupatsani malingaliro atsopano pa moyo wanu. Komanso, mudzakhala otonthozedwa komanso osakhala pachibwenzi.
Ngati mulibe anzanu abwino oti mubwererenso, yesani kukhala ndi anzanu kuntchito kapena kwina kulikonse. Mutha kupeza anzanu enieni pa intaneti. Yang'anani anthu omwe mumakondana nawo. Tikhulupirireni, adzachita gawo lofunika kwambiri pokuthandizani kudziwa momwe mungakhalire odziyimira pawokha muubwenzi.
3. Khalani okonzeka kusintha mu ubale wodziimira pawokha
Pali milandu yambiri ya anthu omwe amatanthauzira molakwika ufulu wawo muubwenzi. Pali kusiyana pang'ono pakati pa ufulu wawo ndi kuuma mtima (kapena kudzikonda). Musaphatikizepo zinthu zitatuzi. Ndinu munthu wodziyimira pawokha ngati mwasankha ntchito yanu kuposa ukwati wanu wachinyamata. Koma ndinu munthu wouma mtima ngati simusintha nthawi yogwira ntchito pa tsiku lobadwa la mnzanu. Dziwani kusiyana pakati pa chikondi chodzikonda ndi chikondi chopanda dyera.
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Musamatengere maganizo a anthu ena chifukwa chofuna kukhala ndi ufulu wochita zinthu mwaubwenzi.
Kutengera moyo wanu m'malo mwa ena ofunikira kumawonetsa kuti ndinu otetezeka pamunthu wanu. Palibe amene akukupemphani kuti mukhale chopondera pakhomo - tikungokuuzani kuti muzimvera chifundo mnzanuyo mukakhala paulendo. Mukuwona, ubale wodziyimira pawokha umadziwika ndi anthu omwe samawona kunyengerera ngati ziwopsezo.
4. Khalani owona ku mfundo zanu zazikulu kuti mukhale wodziyimira pawokha m'malingaliro
Kodi mwawonapo china chosangalatsa chokhudza maanja omwe akhalapo nthawi yayitali? Nthawi zisanu ndi zinayi mwa khumi, amakhala ndi malingaliro ofanana kwambiri ndikuchita zinthu mofananiza. Zaka zambiri zodziwana ndikukhala ndi wina ndi mnzake zapangitsa kuti azigwirizana. Ndipo izi ziyenera kuchitika ndi ubale uliwonse. Chofunikira ndikumamatira ku chiyambi chanu kupyola zaka za mgwirizano. Zimenezi zingachitike kokha ngati muyesetsa kulinganiza ufulu wanu wodzilamulira ndi ukwati kapena unansi wodzipereka kwa nthaŵi yaitali.
Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kufunika kodziimira paokha m’maubwenzi, “Ubale ndi kuyesetsa kwapamodzi kulinga ku cholinga chogawana. Izi zikunenedwa, ndikofunika kusunga mbali zina za inu nokha mosungika. Muyenera kusunga mbiri yaumwini wanu wosungidwa, za yemwe munali ubwenziwo usanakhale weniweni.
"Umunthu wako ndi chiyambi cha iwe wekha, mtima wa iwe wekha, ndi gawo la iwe wekha. Musalole kupita ku zikhalidwe zazikuluzikuluzi kuti musangalale ndi wina. Ngati mnzanuyo sakuvomerezani popanda zosintha, mupita pati? Kodi mwakonzeka bwanji kusinthidwa? Ndipo musaiwale kuti ichi ndi kusankha kozindikira, osati chinachake chomwe chimangochitika." Izi ndizofunikira makamaka kwa iwo omwe ali ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha muubwenzi.
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5. Tsatirani miyambo ya nthawi yanga - Kudziimira pa maubwenzi
Ubale wofunikira kwambiri ndi womwe uli nawo ndi wekha. Onetsetsani kuti mwachita mosamala. Khalani ndi nthawi yopuma nokha tsiku lililonse. Mwambo wosavuta monga kusinkhasinkha, kulemba zolemba, kuwerenga, kapena kujambula kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino. Ngati palibe, dzipangireni kapu ya tiyi ndikukhala pafupi ndi zenera kuti muwone kulowa kwa dzuwa.
Mchemwali wanga amatsatira mwambo wa nthawi yanga. Kumapeto kwa tsikulo, iye anandandalika zinthu 3 zimene zinam’mwetulila, 2 zimene zinam’pangitsa tsinya, ndi 1 cimene amayamikila. Kukhala womasuka mu kampani yanu ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri lodziyimira pawokha paubwenzi. Sangalalani ndi chete ndikupumula. Chokani pakufunika kuchitapo kanthu nthawi zonse kapena kukambirana. Mutaphunzira momwe mungasangalalire mumipata iyi, simudzatopa mosavuta.
Komanso, khalani omasuka ku zochitika zatsopano. Kudziletsa kuchita zinthu zomwezo zakale ndi cholakwika. Chitani zinthu zatsopano zomwe mumakonda, phunzirani chilankhulo, yendani m'njira zina, komanso chezani ndi anthu ochokera m'mitundu yosiyanasiyana. Mukamakula kwambiri, mumabweretsa ubale wabwino . Musamavutike ndi malingaliro aliwonse.
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Lekani kukhala otayirira chifukwa tonsefe ndife ongofuna kuchita zinthu monyanyira. Tapangidwa kuti tiziganiza kaŵiri tisananene maganizo amphamvu kapena kuyesera zinthu zosagwirizana ndi chikhalidwe chathu.
6. Lemekezani kusiyana
Ralph Waldo Emerson analemba kuti: “Ndisalole kuti ndisagwe m’chilakolako chonyansa cholota kuti ndimazunzidwa nthawi iliyonse imene ndatsutsidwa.” Monga momwe mwadziwira kale, chinthu chomaliza cha maubwenzi odziyimira pawokha ndikupatsa mnzanuyo mpata woti akhale payekha. Mofanana ndi makhalidwe ambiri, kudziimira payekha kumayendera njira ziwiri. Simungayembekezere kuti wokondedwa wanu azichita momwe mukufunira.
Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Malamulo a anthu okwatirana n’ngofanana kwa aliyense. Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo wosaumirizidwa, simungabweze mnzanuyo m’mbuyo. Umenewo ndi chinyengo chabe. Fululirani ufulu ndi malo omwewo kwa iwo.” Mwachibadwa, padzakhala nthaŵi pamene mudzasemphana maganizo ndi wina ndi mnzake koma chitirani ulemu mikhalidwe imeneyo.
Njira yabwino yothetsera kusiyana kumeneku ndi kukhazikitsa malire abwino a ubale. Amasunga khalidwe labwino komanso kupewa kusalemekezana. Tetezani thanzi lanu la maganizo ndipo pewani ndewu zosayenera mwa kupereka ndi kutenga malo okwanira kuti mukhale inu nokha. Kudziyimira pawokha muubwenzi kumapezeka ndi ntchito yopitilira.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi kumatha kukhala gawo losowekera pakupanga ubale wabwino, wokwaniritsa ndi anzanu.
- Kudziyimira pawokha sikuyenera kuganiziridwa molakwika ngati chizindikiro cholakwika muubwenzi kapena ngati kufuna kutsimikizira kulamulira.
- Kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi kumangokhudza kupanga mgwirizano pakati pa kudzikonda kwanu ndi gawo lanu muubwenzi wachikondi
- Ngati kulinganiza kuli koyenera, okwatirana angathe kuthandizana kukhala odziyimira pawokha monga munthu payekha komanso ngati banja
- Kulinganiza kumeneku kungapezeke mwa kuika malire, kulemekeza kusiyana, kulimbikitsa malo aumwini muubwenzi, ndi kusaiwala zaumwini wanu.
Ndipo ndi zimenezo, tafika kumapeto kwa kalozera wathu wathunthu wa momwe mungakhalire odziyimira pawokha muubwenzi. Tikukhulupirira kuti izi zakuthandizani kupeza chithunzi chomveka bwino cha kukhala wodziyimira pawokha. Anthu ambiri amavutika kukhala odziyimira pawokha muubwenzi wachikondi ndipo amavutika ndi kunyalanyazidwa ndi malingaliro; machitidwe odziwononga nthawi zambiri amapangitsa kuti anthu azidalirana muubwenzi. Ngati ndinu munthu amene mukumva kuti mwagwidwa muubwenzi wotere, chonde funsani katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ngati mukufuna thandizo, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri omwe ali pagulu la Bonobology ali pano kuti akuthandizeni.
Ibibazo
Kusunga ufulu pa maubwenzi n'kofunika pa zifukwa ziwiri. Choyamba, munthu amakhala ndi moyo wolemera wodzaza ndi zochitika zatsopano zomwe zimasankhidwa mwachidwi. Ndipo chachiwiri, kudzikuza kwa munthuyo kumamupangitsa kukhala bwenzi labwino komanso kumawonjezera kusiyanasiyana kwa ubale wawo. Malo awo okondana amakula akakhala mtundu wabwino kwambiri wa iwo eni.
Ayi, si zoipa ayi. Chimodzi mwa makhalidwe ofunika kwambiri a ubale wabwino ndi kudziimira. Komabe, musasokoneze kudziimira nokha ndi kudzikonda.
Inde, mwamtheradi! Azimayi ayenera kusunga umunthu wawo akayamba kuona munthu. Dzimasuleni ku malingaliro akuti 'mkazi wodzimana nthawi zonse' kapena 'bwenzi losintha.' Sangalalani ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha muubwenzi mokwanira.
Muyenera kukhala ndi gulu losiyana, kutsatira miyambo yanthawi yanga, kukhala omasuka ku zochitika zatsopano ndikuyika malire. Kudziyimira pawokha m'maubwenzi kumatha kulinganizidwa m'njira zisanu ndi chimodzi. Takulemberani izi pamwambapa; yang'anani.
Momwe Mungalekere Kudandaula Zokhudza Ubwenzi Wanu - Malangizo 8 Akatswiri
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
