Zizindikiro 5 Za Mdima Wamdima: Kulemba Mtundu Wowopsa Kwambiri

Kunyumba mungakhale mukuchita ndi munthu amene amakumvetsani bwino kwambiri, pafupifupi amaŵerenga maganizo anu. Koma zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti mumaona kuti “mukumvetsetsa” m’lingaliro labwino, zosoŵa zanu zakwaniritsidwa, kapena kuti maganizo anu ndi ofunika. Ndizotheka kuti muli pachibwenzi ndi chifundo chakuda ndipo mulibe chidziwitso kuti muli paubwenzi wankhanza.

Koma, chifundo ndi mdima? Zikumveka ngati chododometsa, sichoncho? Mpaka pano, tinkamvetsetsa chifundo ngati khalidwe la anthu anzeru, okhudzidwa kwambiri omwe amayang'ana kuti amvetse ululu wanu ndi chisangalalo ndi kukuthandizani. Lowani mawu oti "mdima wakuda" ndipo timakhala osokonezeka.

Kawirikawiri amatchedwa mtundu woopsa kwambiri wa umunthu, mdima empath ndi mawu atsopano ochokera ku kafukufuku waposachedwa. Ndipo sizingatheke kuwamvetsa popanda kulowererapo kwa katswiri. Kuti tikuthandizeni kumvetsetsa bwino lingaliro la chifundo chamdima, tidafunsa Dr. Karan Dhawan (MD, Psychiatry), yemwe adayambitsa Healing Soul Clinic, yemwe ndi katswiri pa za kuledzera, matenda a umunthu, matenda a maganizo, ndi matenda a dysphoria a amuna ndi akazi. Kuchokera pa desiki ya akatswiri athu kupita kwa inu, nayi kalozera wanu wa sitepe ndi sitepe kuti mumvetsetse chomwe mdima empath ndi momwe mungathanirane ndi mdima empath muubwenzi.

Kodi Mtima Wamdima Ndi Ndani?

Anthu odzikonda, tikumvetsa kuti, ndi omwe tiyenera kuwasamala. Ndi odzikonda komanso okonda kulamulira ena. M'malo mwake, mosiyana ndi anthu odzikonda , anthu odzikonda ndi omwe amavutika ndi chilakolako chofuna kukhala okoma mtima ndi opatsa, kugonjera zofuna za munthu wodzikonda. Koma tsopano taphunzira kuti munthu wodzikonda nayenso akhoza kukhala ndi mtima wakuda woipa. Kodi zimenezi zingatheke bwanji?

Kafukufukuyu akufotokoza za mdima monga anthu omwe "amaonetsa gulu la makhalidwe amdima (makhalidwe a mdima atatu) pamodzi ndi milingo yapamwamba ya chifundo." Dr. Dhawan akufotokoza kuti, "Mdima wamdima uli ndi chifundo chanzeru mwachitsanzo kumvetsetsa malingaliro a ena, pamodzi ndi luso lochita zinthu molakwika, kudzikonda, komanso kusadandaula. Ndipo umu ndi momwe mumakhala ndi katswiri wochita zinthu molakwika m'manja mwanu!"

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Kodi Dark Triad ndi chiyani?

Asayansi aphatikiza mikhalidwe itatu yoyipa yotchedwa "Dark Triad", kapena nthawi zina "ma vampires amphamvu". Makhalidwe awa ndi awa:

• Chiphunzitso cha Narcissism: Makhalidwe okhudzana - kudzikonda, kudzikuza, kudzikuza, kudzikuza
• Machiavellianism: Makhalidwe osagwirizana - kusowa kwa makhalidwe, kunyengerera mu maubwenzi, kudzikonda, ndi zizolowezi zodyera masuku pamutu
• Psychopathy: Makhalidwe ogwirizana - kusowa chisoni, khalidwe lodana ndi anthu, kutengeka

Chinthu chimodzi chodziwika mwa onse atatu ndi chakuti onse alibe chifundo. The Dark Triad, motero, ndi kuphatikiza kwa "chifundo chochepa + mikhalidwe yakuda". Chimene chimachitika pa nkhani ya chifundo chamdima ndi chakuti chimagwirizanitsa makhalidwe amdimawa ndi chifundo chachikulu. Kufotokozera mwachidule:

• Utatu Wamdima = Chifundo chochepa + Makhalidwe apamwamba akuda
• Chisoni Chakuda = Chifundo chachikulu + Makhalidwe apamwamba amdima

Kuphatikizika koyipa kumeneku kumatha kupanga mtundu wowopsa kwambiri wa umunthu, tikuwonanso pambuyo pake!

Nchiyani chimapangitsa Dark Empath kukhala mtundu wowopsa kwambiri wa umunthu?

Kuti timvetse tanthauzo la mdima, choyamba tiyenera kuyang'ana chifundo. Bungwe la American Psychological Association limatanthauzira chifundo ngati "kumvetsa munthu kuchokera mu malingaliro ake osati mwa iwe mwini, kapena kumva momwe munthuyo akumvera, momwe akumvera, ndi malingaliro ake". Koma chifundo chomwe mumachiwona chili ndi mitundu itatu, imodzi yotsogolera ku yotsatira:

• Chisoni chachidziwitso: Kudziwa zomwe wina akuganiza komanso momwe akumvera. Mwachitsanzo, "Ndikudziwa kuti mukulakalaka kwanu."
• Chisoni chamalingaliro: Kumva mmene wina akumvera. Mwachitsanzo, “Ndimamva chisoni chifukwa chakuti umakhala wachisoni pamene ukusowa kwathu.”
• Chisoni chachifundo: Chifundo chimatsogolera kuchitapo kanthu ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuthandiza. Mwachitsanzo, "Ndingatani kuti mukhale omasuka?"

Munthu womvera chisoni sadziwa momwe mukumvera, komanso amamva ululu wanu ndipo ali ndi chibadwa chokuthandizani. Koma pali china chake cholakwika ndi malingaliro amdima. Simukuwona mwa iwo kusowa konse kwa chifundo koma m'malo mwake chomwe chimatchedwa "chifundo chosweka" kapena kuvutika kwa chifundo. Ali ndi chifundo chozindikira, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti, malingaliro amdima amamvetsetsa bwino momwe mukumvera, koma pamenepo ndi pomwe zimathera. Chidziwitso ichi chopanda chikhumbo chofuna kukhala wachifundo ndi choopsa m'manja mwawo.

Omvera amdima atha kugwiritsa ntchito chidziwitsochi pafupifupi data yamigodi kuchokera muubongo wanu kuti ikusokonezeni kuti mupindule nawo. Popeza ali ndi mapu a malingaliro anu, akhoza kulosera maganizo anu, khalidwe lanu, ndi zomwe mukuchita, ndikuchita mogwirizana. Amatha kubisa zolinga zawo zoipa kotero kuti zimakhala zosatheka kuwona khalidwe lawo lachipongwe ndikudziwa zomwe akuchita.

Tsono, kodi tidzasandulika fumbi pamaso pa a Goliati achinyengo ndi achinyengo? Kodi tingathe kuwatsitsa? Kapena ngati kuli kofunikira, kodi tingaphunzire kuchita nawo, kukhala nawo ndi kuchitapo kanthu kuti tidziteteze m’malo mogwera m’njira zawo? Chinthu choyamba nthawi zonse ndicho kuzindikira vuto lenilenilo.

Zizindikiro 5 za Kumvetsetsa Kwamdima

Chisoni chakuda ndi chokoma koma chowongolera. Iwo ndi okongola, komabe amadana. Amayesetsa kusonyeza kuti amakumvetsani, koma samakulolani kulowa m’maganizo mwawo. Mikwingwirima yamdima ndi yovuta kwambiri ndipo chifukwa chake ndizovuta kuzindikira. Kutembenuza tebulo ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira zawo motsutsana nawo kungakhale kubetcha kwathu kopambana. Tiyeni tiwerenge malingaliro awo kuti timvetsetse mikhalidwe yawo yakuda ndikuwona machitidwe awo oyipa. Nazi zizindikiro zochepa za kumverana chisoni muubwenzi:

1. Ubwino wawo umamveka ngati wabodza

Munthu wachifundo amadziwa bwino zomwe anganene. “Nthawi zambiri amakhala omasuka komanso okongola, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakusangalatsani pokukondani , ” akutero Dr. Dhawan. Amadziwa momwe angakhalire nanu. Nthawi yoti mukhale okoma mtima, nthawi yoti mukuyamikireni, nthawi yoti mumvetsere, nthawi yoti mugwire msana. Akhoza kukufunsani momwe tsiku lanu linalili, kukumvetserani mukulankhula, kukukumbatirani mutagonana. Kukuyang'anani mukakhala pansi ndikukuuzani momwe mulili wokongola.

Koma mayamiko awo amalephera kukusangalatsani. Chinachake chokhudza ubwino wawo chimamveka kwa inu. Zimakhala ngati zidzatsatiridwa ndi "koma" kapena chinachake chimene iwo akufunsani inu pobwezera.

Zikatero, chinthu chanu chachikulu nthawi zambiri ndi chidziwitso chanu. Mukhoza ndipo muyenera kukhulupirira mwachidziwitso chanu. Ngati m'matumbo anu akukuuzani kuti sakutanthauza zomwe akunena kapena kuchita, ndizotheka kuti akungofuna kukunyengererani kuti mupeze zomwe akufuna, ngati sichoncho, ndiye nthawi ina mtsogolo.

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2. Ndi akatswiri pakuyatsa gasi ndi kuphwanya malamulo

“Anthu akuda ndi akatswiri ogwiritsa ntchito anthu ena kuti apindule nawo,” akutero Dr. Dhawan. Komabe, amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosalunjika zaukali kwambiri kuposa zachindunji. Popeza ayenera kukhala ndi mawonekedwe akukhala munthu wodalirika komanso mnzanu wapamtima, sadalira ukali wachindunji chifukwa zimenezo zingawawononge. Njira ziwiri zomwe amakonda kwambiri zosokeretsa anthu ndi kunyoza anthu ena ndi kudziimba mlandu (pamodzi ndi kuphulitsa chikondi ndi kupusitsa anthu).

Chisoni chakuda chimayala maziko ndi inu polankhula zinthu zomwe mukufuna kumva. Amamvetsetsa zofooka zanu ndipo amadziwa zomwe zikuchitika m'mutu mwanu. Mukakonzeka kukhulupirira zilizonse zomwe akunena, amakunyozani. Kukutumizirani ulendo wolakwa kumagwira ntchito mofananamo. Adzasankha malo anu ofooka ndikukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa nthawi zonse.

Ngati mnzanu wankhanza yemwe mumaganiza kuti ndiyenso mnzanu womvetsetsa kwambiri akukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa pa chilichonse chaching'ono ndipo ngati simukukhulupirira mtundu wanu wazinthu nthawi zambiri komanso mosavuta, ndiye kuti mukukumana ndi chifundo chamdima chomwe chimakulamulirani.

3. Amavutika ndi kudzikayikira

Inde, chifundo chamdima ndi chonyenga komanso chodzikonda, koma pachimake, amalimbana ndi kudzikayikira komanso nkhani za chidaliro ndi kudzidalira. Dr. Dhawan akuti, "Zotsutsana ndi munthu wodzikuza yemwe ali ndi malingaliro odzikuza komanso odzikonda, chifundo chakuda chimadziwa ndipo amadziwa zomwe akuchita." (Izi zilinso ndi ubwino womwe tiwona pambuyo pake).

Mudzawona izi m'njira zingapo mumdima wakuda:

• Sadzatha kudzudzulidwa ndi ena bwino
• Amakhala odzidzudzula kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri amadzidetsa
• Nthawi zambiri amavutika nkhani za umoyo monga nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo ndipo mukuzidziwa
• Amafuna kutsimikiziridwa ndi ena

4. Amakhala ndi nthabwala zachipongwe komanso zoipa

Freud watcha nthabwala zanjiru kapena zaudani kukhala zowononga m'chilengedwe. Akatswiri a zamaganizo awona kuti ichi ndi chida china chomwe anthu omwe amamumvera chisoni nthawi zambiri amachigwiritsa ntchito chifukwa ichinso ndi njira yankhanza yosalunjika. Dr. Dhawan ananena kuti: “Popeza kuti anthu amene amadana ndi anthu ena amangofuna kubwezera, amalephera kupirira ndipo satha kupirira akamadzudzulidwa, atha kugwiritsa ntchito nthabwala ngati njira yodzitetezera kuti akubwezereni. Ma chifundo amdima amatha kuchita nthabwala ndikuwononga ndalama zanu ndipo simungadziwe nkomwe. Mutha kuseka nazo mosokonezeka, osatsimikiza chifukwa chake zidakupangitsani kumva moyipa.

Kodi mnzanuyo amagwiritsa ntchito mawu achipongwe nthawi zambiri, kuseka ndalama za ena, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito nthabwala kuti akufotokozereni zomwe amayenera kuchita mwaulemu? Pamwamba pa izo, kodi zimakhala zovuta kunena zomwe adalakwitsa kuti athe kulimbana nawo? Chenjerani, mungakhale mukulimbana ndi chifundo chakuda.

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5. Iwo ali anzeru m'malingaliro koma ali kutali

Chifukwa cha luso lawo lachifundo, omvera amdima amatha kudziwa momwe mukumvera. Iwo ndi achifundo pambuyo pa zonse, choncho, amasonyeza nzeru zapamwamba zamaganizo. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti adzadzilola kukhala osatetezeka ndikuwonetsa malingaliro awo enieni kwa inu.

Munthu wodziwa bwino za iye yekha amakhala wobisa kwambiri pankhani ya momwe akumvera. Adzayesetsa kusunga momwe zinthu zilili poonetsetsa kuti simukuona kuti ali ndi thanzi labwino komanso kudziona kuti ndi wosafunika.

M'malo mwake, mungaganize kuti mnzanuyo ndi wokoma mtima mopambanitsa chifukwa chongoganizira za mavuto anu okha. Kodi nonse mumangokhazikika pamavuto anu, ndipo amakwera kavalo wawo wokwera ndikuwonetsa kuti zonse zili bwino nawo? Uku kungakhale kusuntha kwamphamvu! Zingathandize kuchokapo kwa kamphindi ndikuwona ngati akubisa umunthu wawo weniweni kwa inu ndi zolinga zoipa.

Ndiye, kodi muli paubwenzi ndi chifundo chakuda? Tengani mafunso awa

Zizindikirozi ziyenera kukhala zokwanira kuzindikira khalidwe la mnzanuyo ngati wankhanza kapena waudani komanso ndi zizolowezi zoipa zachisoni. Koma ngati zikukusokonezanibe, kuyesa kwachisoni kumeneku kungakhale kothandiza. Yankhani Inde kapena Ayi ku mafunso otsatirawa kuti mudziwe zoona zake za wokondedwa wanu.

1. Kodi mnzanuyo amakuuzani mmene mumamvera mukakhumudwa osati kukufunsani? Y/N
2. Kodi mnzanuyo amakankhira pa momwe mukumvera kusiyana ndi zomwe mumavomereza kuti mumamvadi? Y/N
3. Kodi mnzanuyo nthawi zambiri amakuuzani kuti "Ndimakudziwani bwino kuposa momwe mumadziwira!" kuti mukhulupirire? Y/N
4. Kodi ali ndi nthabwala zakuda zomwe zimakupangitsani kukwiya kapena manyazi? Y/N
5. Kodi mnzanu nthawi zambiri amachita miseche kuti adzimve bwino? Y/N
6. Kodi mnzanuyo amavutika kuti atenge kudzudzulidwa ndi ndemanga kuchokera kwa inu? Y/N
7. Kodi mumadzipeza kuti mukuyatsidwa mosavuta ndi mnzanu? Y/N
8. Kodi wokondedwa wanu nthawi zambiri amayesa kukunyengererani kapena kuchita nawo kusunthitsa mlandu? Y/N
9. Kodi mnzanuyo amapewa kukambirana za iwo eni kapena malingaliro awo amkati? Y/N
10. Kodi mukuganiza kuti wokondedwa wanu amalephera kukhala pachiwopsezo pamaso panu kapena ena? Y/N

Pazokha, lirilonse la mafunsowa lingagwiritsidwe ntchito pa ubale uliwonse wozunza womwe umagwiridwa pamodzi pazifukwa zosasunthika za kusokoneza ndi kulamulira khalidwe, koma pamene ziwonedwa pamodzi, zingakuthandizeni kuzindikira chifundo chakuda. Ngati mwayankha Inde ku mafunso ambiriwa, makamaka omwe akuwonetsa kuti mnzanuyo akuwoneka kuti ali ndi mwayi woganizira momwe mumaganizira, mungakhale mukukumana ndi chifundo muubwenzi wanu.

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Mumadzifunsa kuti, "Kodi ndine wakuda?" Tengani mafunso awa

Ngati nkhaniyi yakupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti mwina mumamudziwa bwino munthu wotere, kuti mwina ndinu amene muli ndi luso lachifundo koma mumamva kuti "Ndingapindule bwanji ndi izi?" ndipo nthawi zambiri amatchedwa munthu wolamulira , yesani funso ili lakuti Kodi ndine munthu wamdima kuti mudziwe ndikupempha thandizo kuti muthetse khalidwe lanu. Onani momwe mawu awa akukukhudzirani.

1. Ndikudziwa bwino lomwe zomwe ena akuganiza. Y/N
2. Ndi luso lapamwamba ndipo nditha kuligwiritsa ntchito kuti ndipindule ndekha. Y/N
3. Nkosavuta kusonyeza kunyoza kwanga kwa ena ngati ndikunena nthabwala. Y/N
4. Ndimamvetsa zimene munthu wina akumva koma sizindikhudza mtima. Y/N
5. Ndimakhulupirira kuti ndimamvetsa bwino mmene ena akumvera kuposa mmene iwo amazidziwira. Y/N
6. Nthawi zambiri anthu amandiuza kuti ndili ndi umunthu wokondeka, wokonda kucheza ndi anthu komanso wochita zinthu monyanyira. Y/N
7. Kusunga malingaliro anga kwa ine ndekha ndikofunikira. Kukhala pachiwopsezo chamalingaliro ndi chinthu chowopsa. Y/N
8. Ndili ndi luso louza anthu zomwe ayenera kukhulupirira ndipo nthawi zonse amavomerezana nane. Y/N
9. Sindimakonda anthu akamandidzudzula kapena kundilozera cholakwa chifukwa ndimaona kuti akulondola. Y/N
10. Ndimakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kusadzidalira. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikhoza kukhumudwa. Y/N

Kachiŵirinso, ngati munayankha Inde paunyinji wa mafunso ameneŵa, makamaka amene akusonyeza kuti ndinu wodziŵa bwino zimene zikuchitika ndi anthu ena ndikuona kuti ndi chinthu chimene mungapindule nacho, mungakhale mukuvutika ndi chifundo chambiri ndi mikhalidwe yoipa mu umunthu wanu, mwinamwake kukupangitsani kukhala wachifundo.

Dziwani: Njira yowunikirayi si cholinga chake kuti igwiritsidwe ntchito pofufuza matenda. Katswiri wa zamaganizo wovomerezeka yekha ndi amene angakupatseni chidziwitso ndi kukuthandizani kupeza njira zabwino zotsatirira matenda anu.

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Makhalidwe amdima ndi abwino kugawanitsa malingaliro awo. Amadziwanso za khalidwe lawo loipa koma ali ndi njira yodzilungamitsa m’maganizo mwawo. Muyenera kuyankha ndi razer yolunjika yofananira mukamachita ndi chifundo chakuda. Lolani kudziteteza kukhala cholinga chanu chachikulu ndipo musaiwale cholinga chimenecho. Tsopano tiyeni tiwone momwe mungathanirane ndi kumvera chisoni muubwenzi:

1. Khazikitsani ndi kuyika malire anu

Malire ndi ofunikira. Malire ndi ofunikira! Kuti ubale uliwonse ukhalebe pamalo abwino. Ndipo monga momwe zimakhalira ndi maubwenzi ambiri ozunza, katswiri wathu amakulangizani kuti mudziikire malire, fotokozerani momveka bwino kwa okondedwa anu, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mumayankha mnzanuyo akamanyoza.

Mwachitsanzo, uzani mnzanu wa mumtima mwanu kuti simukuyamikira nthabwala zawo za mumtima, makamaka mukazindikira kuipa kwa nthabwala zawo. Musaseke khalidwe lawo loipa tsopano popeza mwatha kuziona. Dr. Dhawan akuti, "Ikani malire abwino paubwenzi ndipo kambiranani ndi mavuto omwe mukumva kuti mukusokonezedwa m'malo mopirira."

2. Mangani chikhulupiriro mu intuition yanu

Ndi malingaliro anu omwe angakuuzeni ngati china chake chalakwika. Pamene mnzanuyo akunama kwa inu, akukuyamikirani mopanda chilungamo, akukupumulani kuti mukhulupirire chinthu chomwe sichiri chowonadi, kapena kuyesa kukukhumudwitsani, ndi m'matumbo anu omwe angakuuzeni kuti simunamve bwino kwa inu. Kuti simunakhale ndi chimwemwe chenicheni, chisoni chenicheni, kapena kuzindikira cholakwa chanu.

Zimafunika kudzidalira kwambiri kuti mumvetsere mawu amkati amenewo. Ndipo makamaka mukakumana ndi munthu wamisala amene angakupangitseni kumva ngati akukudziwani bwino kuposa momwe mumadzidziwira nokha. Muyenera kuchitapo kanthu kuti mumange ubale wabwino ndi inu nokha. Njira zina zodzikonda komanso kudzisamalira zitha kuphatikizapo:

• Sinkhasinkhani kuti muphunzire kukhala mogwirizana ndi malingaliro anu
• Tengani mwayi ndikutsatira malingaliro anu pafupipafupi
• Yesetsani kupewa kuganiza mopambanitsa zinthu zonyozeka
• Lembani malingaliro anu kuti muphunzire kuzindikira malingaliro anu

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3. Funsani thandizo kwa katswiri - kwa inu nokha komanso ndi okondedwa anu

Mukakhala ndi chidaliro chokwanira, mutha kuganiza zolankhula ndi mnzanu wachifundo pazomwe mwawona. Dr. Dhawan ananena kuti, “Mungathe kuwafotokozera za makhalidwe amenewa ndi kuona ngati ali okonzeka kuthandizidwa chifukwa zimenezi zingathandize onse awiri.”

Ndi mdima womwe umakhala ndi maganizo, izi ndizotheka, chifukwa anthu ambiri amdima omwe ali ndi maganizo amenewa amakhala ndi chidziwitso chodzidziwitsa okha kuti akudziwa zomwe akuchita komanso kuti khalidwe lawo ndi loipa. Anthu ambiri amdima omwe ali ndi maganizo amenewa amavutika (ndipo amadziwa kuti amavutika) ndi mavuto amisala monga kuvutika maganizo ndi nkhawa ndipo akhoza kukhala okonzeka kuonana ndi mlangizi wa zaumoyo wamaganizo.

Dr. Dhawan anawonjezera kuti: “Ngati mnzako sakufuna, n’kovuta kusintha khalidwe losonyeza kuti sakumvera chisoni. Kufunafuna chithandizo ndi chitsogozo kuchokera kwa katswiri wodziwa khalidwe lachidziwitso kungakuthandizeni kuzindikira khalidwe lachipongwe, kusaphunzira zikhulupiriro zolakwika za inu nokha, kuyambiranso kudzidalira, ndi kutsimikizira malire anu.

4. Osataya mtima pamene "muzindikira" wokondedwa wanu ndi "chifundo chakuda"

Tikaphunzira kufunafuna zizindikiro zowopsa , zimakhala zosavuta kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso. Tikhoza kudzizindikira tokha molakwika ngati timadzidzudzula tokha kapena ngati sitikumva bwino za khalidwe lathu. Tikhoza kudzizindikira molakwika ngati okondedwa athu akumva kuti ndife abwino kuposa iwo kapena kupewa udindo wathu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti tisataye mtima.

Musaiwale kuti chifundo chakuda ndi mawu atsopano ndipo pali zambiri zomwe sitikuzidziwa. Kumvetsetsa makhalidwe ndi zizindikiro zowona kungakhale njira yoyamba yodziwira makhalidwe oipa. Koma kusokonezeka kwa umunthu kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, nthawi zonse kumawonekera. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kulowererapo kwa dokotala wamankhwala amisala ndikofunikira kuti muzindikire molondola.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wamaganizo akuda, kapena munthu wamaganizo akuda, funsani uphungu waluso kuti akupatseni lingaliro la zomwe mungachite kutengera momwe zinthu zilili. Ngati mukufuna thandizo limenelo, gulu la akatswiri a Bonobology lilipo kuti likuthandizeni.

Sikophweka kuwona kapena kuzindikira chifundo chakuda, chifukwa tanthauzo la mdima wakuda ndi lovuta. Zomvera zamdima zidzakusokonezani ndi kukongola kwawo komanso kuwonetsera kwawo kumvetsetsa. Koma musaiwale, ngati mungalowe mu dziwe lazinthu zomwe mungapeze, kuphatikiza chifuniro chanu ndi matumbo anu, simudzangozindikira chifundo chakuda komanso kukhala wodziwa bwino wowongolera!

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