Narcissist ndi wosangalatsa kuwona, kutopa kuyankhula naye, kukwiyitsa kugwira naye ntchito, komanso kowopsa mpaka pano. Poganizira kuti ali ndi egos kukula kwa bwalo la mpira ndipo alibe chifundo, kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima ndi munthu yemwe ali pamwamba pa narcissism kungakulepheretseni kukhala womvetsa chisoni. Mwinanso mungadabwe kuti mungamupangitse bwanji narcissist kukhala womvetsa chisoni.
Chinyengo chagona kugwiritsa ntchito chilichonse narcissists kudana kuti phindu lanu. Ukapsa mtima woputa, bwezera chilango, ndi kuvulaza kunyada kwawo kwa mtengo wapatali. Ndilo fungulo ngati mwakhala mukuganiza momwe mungamupitirire mochenjera. Kuti muchite bwino, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu komanso mwachangu asanawononge kudzidalira kwanu ndikusiyani mukukayika kuti atha kukunyengererani momwe akufunira.
Komabe, palibe chilichonse mwa izi chomwe chingakhale chosavuta chifukwa anthu odzikonda ndi anzeru kwambiri, anthu ogwira ntchito molimbika, okhala ndi chithumwa komanso luso lokopa, komanso njira zofooketsa monga kuunikira magetsi, zili mu zida zawo. Ndicho chifukwa chake tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni kupeza momwe mungasinthire tebulo pa munthu wodzikonda ndikubwezeretsa ulamuliro pa moyo wanu, pokambirana ndi mlangizi Nishmin Marshall , yemwe ndi katswiri wopereka uphungu wowongolera mkwiyo, kuvutika maganizo, komanso ukwati wovutitsa.
Kodi Narcissist Ndi Ndani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kuti mumvetse momwe mungapangire munthu wodzikonda kukhala womvetsa chisoni, choyamba muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti munthu wodzikonda ndi ndani komanso momwe amagwirira ntchito. Malinga ndi kafukufuku , Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) imadziwika ndi kachitidwe kosalekeza ka kudzikuza, malingaliro amphamvu kapena ofunika kwambiri, komanso kufunikira kutamandidwa kapena chithandizo chapadera.
Malinga ndi DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), anthu ambiri nthawi zina amatha kusonyeza makhalidwe odzikonda, komabe, si onse omwe ali ndi malingaliro odzikonda. Munthu angaganizidwe kuti ali pa gulu la maganizo odzikonda ngati akusonyeza makhalidwe otsatirawa:
- Kupanda chifundo
- Nthawi zambiri amafuna kuyamikiridwa ndi kuyamikiridwa
- Nsanje yosayenera
- Kudzimva kuti ndinu woyenera
- Grandiosity
- Kutha kudyera masuku pamutu ena kuti apindule nawo
- Kupanda kuyankha
- Kufunika kulamulira
- Kupanda malire
- Kulephera kuthana ndi kutsutsidwa
- Kunyada
- Zovuta ndi kulumikizidwa ndi kudalira
- Kuthamangitsidwa
- Muyenera kukhala pakati pa chidwi nthawi zonse
Ndiye, narcissist ndi ndani? Munthu wodzikuza yemwe amafunikira kuyamikiridwa nthawi zonse, satha kutsutsidwa, ali ndi malingaliro odabwitsa akuyenera, komanso amakonda kukhala odziwika. Anthu omwe ali kumapeto kwenikweni kwa narcissistic spectrum amadziwika kuti ali ndi Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) pomwe iwo omwe ali kumapeto amadziwika kuti ali ndi zizolowezi za narcissistic.
Kaya munthu ali pati, sikuti zimangokhumudwitsa kukhala naye pafupi komanso zingawononge thanzi lanu la maganizo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuzindikira ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wodzikonda kwambiri ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti mudziteteze.
Zizindikiro kuti mukuchita ndi mnzanu wamwano
Muli ndi yankho la yemwe ali narcissist. Mwina, mwapeza kuti kufotokozerako kumakhala kogwirizana kwambiri ndi mnzanuyo. Ngakhale zili choncho, tisanafufuze mozama pakufuna kwanu kuti mupambane bwanji munthu wamatsenga, ndi bwino kutsimikiza kuti mukuchita ndi munthu wamatsenga. Poganizira momwe mawuwa amagwiritsidwira ntchito masiku ano, sizingakhale zopweteka kutsimikiza kawiri.
Kupatula apo, simukufuna kutsata mphamvu zanu zonse kuti muwonetsere munthu wamatsenga, pomwe mnzanuyo sakukwanira ndalamazo ndipo mavuto omwe mukukumana nawo amachokera ku gwero lina. Kuti izi zitheke, Nishmin amagawana zizindikilo zomwe mukuchita ndi bwenzi la narcissist:
- Ubale wonse umazungulira iwo ndipo samatopa kudzilankhula okha
- Wokondedwa wanu amasonyeza kunyalanyaza zosowa zanu, zofuna zanu, ndi zokhumba zanu
- Salemekezanso malire anu
- Ndiwo chitsanzo cha m'mabuku a bwenzi lolamulira ndi lopusitsa
- Amagwiritsa ntchito kuyatsa gasi, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakusiyani mukukaikira zomwe mumawona
- Akhoza kunama, kunyenga, kukhala odzitchinjiriza, amwano, ndi okangana kuti apewe kuyankha zochita zawo.
- Ubale wanu ndi iwo umadutsa mumsewu wosayerekezeka, pamene mukudutsa njira za mgwirizano wa narcissistic, kuchokera ku bomba lachikondi mpaka kutaya
Zinthu 15 Zoti Muchite Kuti Narcissist Akhale Wachisoni
Ngati mwapeza kuti mikhalidwe ndi zizindikiro za narcissist ndizogwirizana, ndipo mukukhulupirira kwambiri kuposa kale kuti muli paubwenzi ndi m'modzi, ndi nthawi yoti mutengere momwe mungapangire kusaka kovutitsa. Kuyambira kuwanyalanyaza mpaka kuyang'ana kwambiri kukhala ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri, patha kukhala mayankho osiyanasiyana amomwe mungasokonezere munthu wamatsenga ndikubweza kuwongolera kwa iwo.
Nishmin anati: “N’zosavuta kuwakwiyitsa n’kumawamvetsa chisoni.” Komabe, dziwani kuti iwo angakhudzidwe ndi vuto lililonse limene angakumane nalo. Chifukwa chake, mukamayesa kusankha momwe mungazunzire munthu wamatsenga, muyenera kuganizira zomwe angathe kuchita kuti abwerere ndikusankha njira yoyenera. Nawa maupangiri 15 amomwe mungapangire munthu wokhumudwa kuti musankhe (gwiritsani ntchito zomwe mukuganiza kuti zingagwire ntchito bwino pamikhalidwe yanu):
1. Osawapatsa chidwi
Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungakhumudwitse munthu wamatsenga, chabwino, kumbukirani, anthu ochita zamatsenga amafunadi ndipo amasangalala ndi chidwi. AMANGOKONDA kukondedwa ndi anthu owazungulira, makamaka ena ofunikira. Izi zimachokera ku kufunika kotsimikiziridwa nthawi zonse. Chinthu choyamba chomwe mungachite kuti munthu wa narcissist akhale womvetsa chisoni ndikudula gawo la narcissistic posawapatsa chidwi chomwe amachilakalaka kwambiri.
Aloleni akubwezereni mwa kungolankhula chete kapena kupereka malangizo ambiri momwe akufunira, aloleni adzitamande kapena agwiritse ntchito njira zachinyengo kuti akukondeni, koma musalowe mu dongosolo lomwe lingakupangitseni kuti muwayamikire. Nishmin akuti, "Munthu wodzikonda amafuna chidwi, ndipo anthu ambiri amangovomereza ndikuwayamikira. Koma musachite zimenezo. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndikukhala chete ndikunena kuti, "Ayi, simundisangalatsa. Sindidzakukonderani." Yankho la momwe mungazunzire munthu wodzikonda lingakhale losavuta choncho chifukwa sangamvetse chifukwa chake wina sangawakonde."
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2. Yesetsani kukana munthu wonyada
Ndimati muyesetse chifukwa sikophweka kunena kuti ayi kwa munthu wamatsenga. Zitha kukhala zolimbikira komanso zokongola. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zonse amatha kupeza njira yawo. Sanazolowere anthu kuwakana, ndipo ndichifukwa chake muyenera. Pempho litha kukhala lalikulu kapena laling'ono, mwinanso chinthu chopepuka monga, "Kodi mungandigwire chikwama changa?" Nenani ayi.
Choyamba adzadabwa pang'ono. Kenako adzavutika kumvetsa chifukwa chake mungakane pempho lawo. Ngati mumadzifunsa momwe mungasokonezere munthu wodzikonda, nayi yankho lanu. Muyenera kusiya kudzipatsa zambiri ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wodzikonda.
3. Akhazikitseni zenizeni
Kodi ma narcissists amatani bwino? Kudzikuza. Ndipo kudzikuza kumawapangitsa kulankhula bwanji? Monga ngati iwo sanatengeke ndi zenizeni ndi malingaliro odzikuza kwambiri odzikuza. Ichi ndichifukwa chake imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri za momwe mungakwiyitsire munthu wamatsenga ndikuwakhazika pansi zenizeni.
“Kutsutsa malingaliro awo ongopeka ndi mfundo zolimba ndi njira yabwino.” Akatswiri a Narcissists ayenera kukumbutsidwa kuti zimene amanena zikhoza kutsimikiziridwa ndi kuti anthu samangogula nkhani zawo.” Nishmin akuti, "Zowona zanu siziyenera kunenedwa moipidwa. Ingofotokozani momveka bwino.
4. Ganizirani molunjika komanso mwakuthwa
Monga ndanenera, anthu odzikonda ndi anthu okonda zinthu zachiwerewere omwe ali ndi dyera lofooka kwambiri. N'zosavuta kuwanyengerera. Ngati mugwa m'mavuto awo, mudzawatsimikizira. Umu ndi momwe anthu ambiri amapezera kuti ali muubwenzi wovutitsa maganizo ndi anthu odzikonda. Kuti mudziteteze ku chiopsezo chimenecho, muyenera kuganiza bwino ndikuchita zinthu mopanda kukayikira. Izi zitha kupangitsa munthu wodzikonda kukhala wopanda pake. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza momwe mungamugonjetsere munthu wodzikonda, nazi zomwe mungachite:
- Khalani ndi cholinga
- Musagwere mumsampha wodziimba mlandu chifukwa chokana kwa munthu wamatsenga
- Dziwani momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndipo musawalole kukupangitsani kudzikayikira
- Zindikirani machenjerero achinyengo
- Dziwani ngati mukunyozedwa ndi mawu ngati "mwachita mopambanitsa", "ndinu omvera kwambiri", "phunzirani kumasuka", "si vuto lalikulu"
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5. Khazikitsani ndi kulimbikitsa malire
Imodzi mwa malangizo ogwira mtima amomwe mungakwiyire munthu wamatsenga ndikuwapangitsa kuwona kuti zochita zawo zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zake. Monga tafotokozera kale, anthu olankhula monyanyira amadana ndi kuyankha pa zochita zawo. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kupangitsa munthu wokhumudwa kukhala womvetsa chisoni, muyenera kuyamba kukhazikitsa ndikukhazikitsa malire - polankhula komanso kudzera muzochita zanu. Izi ndizofunikanso ngati mukuganiza kuti mungamupangitse bwanji kuti azikulemekezani. Mwachitsanzo,
- Ngati wokondedwa wanu wamatsenga akunama kwa inu pa dontho la chipewa, auzeni kuti mudzasiya kuchita nawo pokhapokha atadzipereka kukhala oona mtima. Ndipo nthawi ina mukadzawagwira bodza, asiyanitseni
- Ngati mnzanu wa narcissistic wakhala akugwiritsa ntchito gaslighting, aitanitseni akakupangitsani kukayikira kuti mumadziwa zenizeni ndipo muwauze kuti mudzayambiranso kukambirana akakonzeka kuyang'ana zenizeni.
- Ngati mnzanu wa narcissistic akukuphulitsani ndi chikondi, auzeni kuti mukufuna kuti ubalewo upite patsogolo pa liwiro lomwe nonse muli omasuka nalo. Khalani okonzeka kubwerera mmbuyo ngati sasiya ndi manja akulu omwe amakuchotsani pamapazi anu.
Nishmin akunena bwino kwambiri pamene akunena kuti, "Muyenera kusiya kuyesa kusangalatsa munthu wodzikonda. Chifukwa sizidzasintha, simudzakwanira. M'malo modzipatula kwambiri, yesani kupanga malire abwino . Muyenera kudziteteza, ngakhale zitatanthauza kukumana nawo."
6. DABWITSANI!
Kutaya ulamuliro pa zochitika, nthawi zambiri, ndi vuto lalikulu kwa munthu wodzikonda (ndi munthu wodzikuza pang'ono ). Amakonda zinthu zomwe zikuchitika chifukwa zimawathandiza kuti nthawi zonse aziwoneka bwino. Ndicho chifukwa chake, malangizo osavuta koma othandiza amomwe mungapangire munthu wodzikonda kukhala wosasangalala ndikuwadabwitsa nthawi zina.
Zidzakhala chikumbutso kuti inunso ndinu olamulira zinthu. Ngati mnzanuyo narcissistic akufuna kukutengerani nkhomaliro, kupanga pawiri tsiku popanda kuwauza. Zodabwitsa! Ngati bwenzi lanu lachibwenzi likuganiza kuti akukhala kwanu, funsani anzanu kuti abwere kudzagona. Zodabwitsa! Spontaneity ikhoza kukhala yankho la momwe mungakhumudwitse munthu wamatsenga. Sadzakhala ndi nthawi yowerengera momwe angayang'anire zomwe zikuchitika chifukwa sizomwe amalingalira.
7. Apangitse munthu wachisoni kukhala womvetsa chisoni powaluza
Chosangalatsa kwambiri chomwe ndakhala nacho ndikuwona chibwenzi cha mnzanga, Dennis, akugonja ku Pictionary. Nkhope yake inafiira kwambiri, ndipo anapitiriza kuyesetsa kuiganizira kuti "chinthu chosalungama chomwe chimachitika pamasewerawa". Anali wotayika kwambiri ndipo ndinatha kujambula chithunzi chake pamene anali kukwiya. Mosadziwa, ine ndi chibwenzi changa tinapanga chinyengo kuti tipambane! (*kutsinzina maso*)
Popeza kuti munthu wodzikonda yekha sadziona ngati munthu weniweni, amaganiza kuti ndi ngwazi pa chilichonse chimene amachita. Kuwapangitsa kulephera pa chinthu china ndi njira yabwino yowauzira kuti ndi olakwa. Kodi mawu amenewo ochokera mu Game of Thrones ndi otani ? “Tonsefe timafunika kusekedwa nthawi ndi nthawi, kuti tisayambe kudziona ngati ofunika kwambiri.” Nthawi ina mukafuna kuphunzira momwe mungapwetekere munthu wodzikonda yekha, mupatseni chilango kuti muwakumbutse kuti ndi anthu wamba omwe angalakwitse. Zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa inu komanso phunziro kwa iwo.
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8. Ayitanireni kunja
Ngati nthawi zambiri mumadabwa kuti mungavulaze bwanji munthu wonyansidwa, nali malangizo ochokera kwa Nishmin: “Kuitana munthu woti alankhule pagulu kumawachititsa mantha kwambiri—anthu amene amawaganizira moipa.” Chitonzo chapagulu chidzakhala phunziro limene adzakumbukira kwa kanthaŵi chifukwa cha zoipa zonse zimene anachita.
Asonyeze zolakwa zawo pamaso pa gulu la anthu. Ndipo chitani izi powayikira chidwi chodziwikiratu. Adzayesa kubisa izo mwa kubwerera m'mbuyo kapena adzavomereza zolakwa zawo monyinyirika. Koma muzochitika zonsezi, narcissist amazindikira kwambiri maso awo. Komabe, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kukumbukira mukamachita izi:
- Sankhani malo oyenera
- Perekani umboni wovomerezeka
- Khalani otsimikiza ndi otsimikiza
9. Onetsani khalidwe lawo
Zitha kumveka ngati zachinyamata koma ndi yankho lothandiza la momwe mungapangitsire munthu wokhumudwa. Mutha kutaya munthu wamatsenga ndikuwapangitsa kukhala osakhazikika poyang'ana zomwe amachita:
- Ngati akukana, ukukana
- Ngati anyozeka inu mumapatuka
- Ngati akudzitamandira, umadzitama
Inde, zimatha kumva kuti si zachibadwa, komanso zovuta, kutengera makhalidwe oipawa, makamaka popeza samabwera mwachibadwa kwa inu. Komabe, zomwe mumachita ndi zomwe mumayankhira ziyenera kusiya munthu wamatsenga atasokonezeka ndi zomwe zangowagunda. Zimenezo zingakhale zokhutiritsa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kumvetsetsa momwe mungakhumudwitse narcissist, kuwapatsa kukoma kwamankhwala awo kungakhale njira yopitira.
10. Chotsani chisangalalo chonse
Kodi mungamuzunze bwanji munthu wodzikonda, mukudabwa? Nayi yankho lomwe lingakudabwitseni: kuwakwiyitsa. Anthu odzikonda amakonda chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo, ndipo chilichonse chaching'ono chimawaopseza. Amadana ndi ubale wachizolowezi ndi wa vanilla , kotero mutha kuwakwiyitsa chifukwa chosangalala. Yambitsani nkhani yokhudza migolo kapena malo, muwatengere ku nkhani youma, kapena muwadziwitse munthu wopusa. Mudzawapangitsa kupumira mokwiya mwachangu kwambiri.
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11. Khazikitsani ulamuliro wanu wopangitsa munthu wankhanza kukhala womvetsa chisoni
Kasanu ndi kanayi pa khumi, anthu odzikonda amawopsezedwa ndi anthu olamulira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake nthawi zambiri amavutika ndi mphamvu muubwenzi . Ndicho chifukwa chake kutenga udindo ndi kukhazikitsa ulamuliro ndi njira yabwino yosonyezera munthu wodzikonda malo ake. Nishmin akuyankha kuti, "Muwafikire kuchokera pamalo amphamvu. Zidzasonyeza kuti mwakhala ndi mphamvu imeneyi nthawi zonse koma munali okoma mtima moti simunagwiritse ntchito. Muziyang'anana maso, ndipo sungani mawu anu kukhala olimba. Khalani olimba mtima momwe mungathere."
12. Samalirani chisangalalo chanu
Narcissist amachita nsanje chifukwa cha chisangalalo cha ena, ndipo izi zimaphatikizaponso ena ofunikira. Popeza zizolowezi za narcissistic zimachokera ku kusowa kwa mkati, anthu omwe akusautsidwa nawo sangapirire kuwona kukwaniritsidwa m'miyoyo ya anthu owazungulira. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza momwe mungazunzire munthu wamatsenga, njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira izi ndikukhala wosangalala kwambiri, wokhala ndi dzuwa. Komanso, m'malo moyenda pazigoba za mazira ndikuchepetsa luso lanu, zomwe mwakwaniritsa, ndi mikhalidwe yanu, valani ngati baji yaulemu.
"Ngati muli ndi chilichonse chomwe mwakwaniritsa, mungagwiritse ntchito zimenezo kuti mupangitse nsanje mwa munthu wodzikonda. Nthawi zambiri, chilichonse chomwe chimakusangalatsani chidzawapangitsa kukhala osasangalala," akutero Nishmin. Iye akuwonjezera kuti, "Powapangitsa kumva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chokupwetekani , simuyenera kutengeka mpaka kufika podziwononga nokha. Musakhale okwiya. Sungani zinthu mopepuka."
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13. Yang'aniraninso zowunikira
Narcissists ali ndi kudzikonda komwe kumadyetsedwa ndi mawonekedwe omwe amawalitsira okha. Mutha kulondoleranso kuwalako bwino pa inu nokha, kapena aliyense, moona mtima. Mwachitsanzo, ngati pa chakudya chamadzulo mukukonzera abwenzi anu, mnzanu wamatsenga akupitirirabe za momwe vinyo adasankha amapita ndi chakudya, ndiyeno, akupitiriza kukamba za kukoma kwawo kwa zinthu zabwino m'moyo, amaba zowonekera ponena kuti, "Ndipo aliyense amaganiza chiyani za saladi yomwe ndinapanga."
Kapenanso, funsani mnzanu kuti achotse kukongola kwanu kwa inu ndikuyamikani chakudya kapena mawonekedwe anu. Adzakhumudwa kapena kumenyana nanu pambuyo pake, koma muyenera kukhala okonzeka kubwezera ngati mukutsimikiza kuti mukufuna kuyesa dzanja lanu kuti mudziwe momwe mungapwetekere munthu wamatsenga.
14. Yesani njira ya rock rock
Njira ya grey rock ndi njira yoyesedwa bwino yopangitsa munthu wodzikonda kukhala womvetsa chisoni mwa kumuchotsera mphamvu yolamulira ndikukulamulirani. Chofunika kwambiri cha njira iyi ndikukhala wosaoneka ngati mwala wa imvi womwazikana ndipo ingagwiritsidwe ntchito bwino kuchepetsa mphamvu yomwe munthu wokonda kudzikonda angakupangitseni.
Zolinga ndi zochita za narcissist nthawi zonse zimakhala njira yopezera chidwi. Mukasiya kuwapatsa chisamaliro chomwe amafunikira, zizolowezi zoyipa zimathanso kusiya. Umu ndi momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito njira ya gray rock moyenera:
- Chepetsani nthawi yomwe mumacheza ndi wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ngakhale mutakhala m'nyumba imodzi, pezani njira zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti musamachite nawo zinthu.
- Dziletseni kuti musachitepo kanthu ndi mawu kapena zochita za munthu wankhanza pamalo okhudzidwa. Akachita kapena kunena china chake chomwe chakukwiyitsani, chokhumudwitsa, kapena chakukhumudwitsani, dzikumbutseni kuti akuchita izi mwadala kuti ayankhe mwa inu.
- Mayankhidwe anu akhale oti 'chabwino', 'inde', 'ayi' kuti pasakhale malo oti munthu wolankhula narcissist akukokereni kumakambirano okhudza mtima.
15. Lekani kutsatira, letsani, ndi kuchotsani munthu wabodza pamoyo wanu
Sayonara kamodzi kokha. Ngati mkhalidwe wanu ukuloleza, muchotseretu munthu wa narcissist pamoyo wanu. Ngakhale ngati uyu ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kapena wakale, musataye nthawi ndi mphamvu kuyesa kudziwa momwe mungapangire munthu wamatsenga kuti abwerere kukwawa kapena momwe angapangire munthu kuti azilemekeza inu. Ngakhale atabweranso, simungayembekeze kupanga ubale wabwino ndi munthu wamatsenga. Ndipo momwe ulemu umapitira, mwayi woti angakuwonetseni uli wocheperako.
Chifukwa chake, imodzi mwamayankho abwino kwambiri amomwe mungasokonezere narcissist ndikuwasiya asanakutaye ndikupitilira. Tsekani njira zonse zoyankhulirana ndikuchokapo chifukwa simufuna mtundu wawo wodzikuza mozungulira inu. Kupatula apo, kuwatsekereza kumakupatsani mtendere wambiri wamalingaliro ndi bata.
Pomaliza mungasiye kudzifunsa momwe mungayankhire akamakuvutitsani ndi mpweya. Mwina mukuganiza kuti izi ndi zopitirira muyeso, koma kumbukirani, zochita zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zake. Adzibweretsera izi okha mwa kukukakamizani dala mpaka kufika poti mwatsala pang'ono kudzifunsa momwe mungapangire munthu wodzikonda kukhala womvetsa chisoni. Monga momwe Craig Lounsbrough akunenera, "Kukhala Mulungu wako wekha ndiko kukhala wochita nawo kwambiri popanga gehena yako."
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) imadziwika ndi kulimbikira kwa ukulu, malingaliro amphamvu zopanda malire kapena kufunikira, komanso kufunikira kosilira kapena chisamaliro chapadera.
- Kunena kuti ayi, kusamalira chisangalalo chanu, kuyika malire ndi ulamuliro wanu, ndikuwaitanira kunja ndi zina mwa njira zingapo zomwe mungachepetse kudzikuza kwa munthu wankhanza ndikuwapangitsa kukhala omvetsa chisoni.
- Ndikofunika kuika patsogolo ubwino wanu panthawi yonseyi
Ndikuganiza kuti muli ndi njira zokwanira zobwezera momwe mungapangitsire munthu wokhumudwa. Ingokumbukirani kukhala osamala, ngakhale mukuyesera kubwereranso kwa iwo. Kuchita mopambanitsa kuyenera kupewedwa mwanjira iliyonse chifukwa ndiwe amene udzanong'oneza bondo. Komanso, samalani kuti muzindikire kuthekera kwa mgwirizano wovulala, zomwe sizimachitika muubwenzi wabwino. Choncho, n’kofunika kwambiri kuti muziika patsogolo ubwino wanu.
Malingaliro omaliza pa izi? Kumasuka ku maunyolo a narcissism ndi sitepe yoyamba ya kukula kwa munthu. Landirani tsogolo lomwe kufunafuna kulumikizana moona mtima komanso kuchita bwino bwino kumakhala patsogolo kuposa mawonekedwe omwe narcissist amapangitsa moyo wawo kukhala wozungulira. Ndikufunirani zabwino pa ntchito yanu yopambana narcissist! Tsalani bwino.
Ibibazo
Pa momwe mungayendetsere mtedza wa narcissists ndikuledzera ndi nsanje, nsonga yoyamba ndikupewa kuwapatsa chidwi chomwe akufuna. Kodi mumamupangitsa bwanji munthu wamatsenga kubwereranso akukwawa? Apangitseni kumva kuti simukuwafuna. Izi zidzapangitsa moyo wawo kukhala wovuta. Musanyalanyaze iwo ngati muyenera. Lankhulani ndi anthu okongola kwambiri ndipo sangalalani ndi kuwala kwanu.
Kunena kuti ayi, kuyika malire, ndi kutsutsa munthu uyu ndi ena mwa malangizo amomwe mungapweteketse munthu wamatsenga powapangitsa kukuopani. Kuwayankha mlandu, kuwaululira poyera, komanso osalumikizana nawo ndi njira zina zopambana munthu wamatsenga.
Chimodzi mwazoyambitsa zazikulu kwa iwo ndi kudzudzulidwa, chifukwa malingaliro aliwonse otsutsa kapena malingaliro oyipa angawatumize ku tailspin. Chinthu chinanso chimene chimafika kwa iwo ndicho kunyalanyazidwa kapena kusalandira chisamaliro chimene amachilakalaka. Narcissists amakula pakusilira ndi kutsimikizika, kotero ngati sali pakati pa chidwi, amatha kuwapangitsa misala. Pomaliza, kuulula zophophonya zawo kapena zolephera zawo zitha kukhala chiwopsezo chachikulu pamalingaliro awo osalimba. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukufuna kugwedeza nthenga za narcissist, awa ndi mabatani oti mukankhire.
Ngakhale kuti narcissists angawonekere odzidalira komanso odzidalira pamtunda, kufunikira kwawo kwakukulu kosilira ndi kutsimikiziridwa kumachokera ku umwini wawo weniweni, womwe uli wodzaza ndi kusatetezeka kozama. Pansi pa nkhope yawo yokulirapo pali lingaliro losalimba lodziona kuti ndi lofunika kwambiri lomwe lingathe kusweka mosavuta. Kudzudzula, makamaka pamene kumavumbula zolakwa zawo ndi kutsutsa kudzikuza kwawo, kungakhale choyambitsa chachikulu cha narcissist.
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