Momwe Mungatulukire Mu Ubale Wopanda Thanzi: Kalozera wa Gawo ndi Magawo

Palibe mayankho osavuta a momwe mungatulukire muubwenzi wopanda thanzi. Nthawi zambiri, ulendo wopita kuzindikira mbendera zofiira zomwe iwo ali ndi kuvomereza kuti muli paubwenzi woopsa ndi wautali kwambiri moti anthu amataya magawo awo. Ndazionerapo pafupi ndi mnzanga waubwana yemwe anali ndi maloto a moyo wake wonse, monga atsikana ambiri.

Pezani maphunziro, pezani ntchito yabwino, ndi kupeza mwamuna wabwino woti ayambitse naye banja. Chilengedwecho chinali mbali yake chifukwa anali ndi luso lapamwamba la maphunziro ndi ntchito. Koma mnzakeyo anatichititsa kuti tipukusane mitu yathu mokhumudwa. Anali ndi makhalidwe oipa kwambiri moti sitinathe kumvetsa chifukwa chimene anakhalira ndi mwamunayo. Nthawi zambiri ndinkadzifunsa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani sakanatha kuchoka muubwenzi woipawo. Pambuyo pake, adapereka mbendera zofiira zambiri. 

Zinanditengera nthawi ndi kafukufuku wambiri kuti ndimvetse kuti zingakhale zovuta kupeza njira yochotsera maubwenzi oopsa. Nditalankhula ndi mphunzitsi wa maubwenzi ndi ubale wapamtima Shivanya Yogmayaa (wovomerezeka padziko lonse lapansi mu njira zochiritsira za EFT, NLP, CBT, ndi REBT), yemwe ndi katswiri wa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya uphungu wa maanja, ndinaphunzira kuti pali zinthu zambiri zofunika kuzipeza - zomwe zikuphatikizapo mavuto osiya ubale komanso kuyenda m'magawo osiya ubale wapamtima. Tiyeni tifufuze izi mwatsatanetsatane.

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Gawo loyamba la kuphunzira momwe mungachokere muubwenzi wosayenera ndikumvetsetsa chomwe chiri. Njira yosavuta yofotokozera maubwenzi oipa ngati amenewa ndi imene imakhala ndi makhalidwe oipa amene amavulaza anthu amene akhudzidwawo. Zotsatira zake zimamveka pamalingaliro, malingaliro, ndalama, ndipo nthawi zina thupi.

Pali zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana zofunika kuziganizira. Shivanya alemba izi.

• Nkhanza: Ubale wopanda thanzi/poizoni umadziwika ndi nkhanza zina, kaya zakuthupi, zamalingaliro, kapena zogonana. Pakhoza kukhala ziwopsezo za mawu, kumenyedwa, kunyozedwa, kuukira munthu wodzidalira kapena kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, ndi mitundu ina ya nkhanza zapakhomo. Inde, zingakhale zovuta kusiya ubale wopanda thanzi koma ngati mukuzunzidwa mwanjira iliyonse, muyenera kudziteteza. 
• Kudzetsa: Izi zimawonekera pakuyesa kwa mnzanu kuwongolera zisankho zanu, zochita zanu, kapena mayanjano anu. Izi zitha kukhala mwa njira yoyendetsera ndalama kapena kuyesa kuyang'anira momwe mumakhalira, zomwe mumavala, komwe mukupita, ndi zina. 
• Kusakhulupirika: Pali chinyengo kapena chinyengo nthawi zonse, zomwe zimatha kusokoneza kukhulupirirana
• Kuyankhulana kolakwika: Wokondedwa wapoizoni akhoza kukulepheretsani kulankhulana ngati njira yolangira inu. 
• Kupanda chithandizo: Izi zitha kukhala zachuma, zamalingaliro, kapena nthawi/komwe ndizofunikira kwambiri
• Nsanje yopambanitsa: Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala wodzikonda kwambiri, zomwe zimatsogolera ku kusokoneza maganizo ndi khalidwe lolamulira
• Kutsutsa kosalekeza: Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazo zizindikiro zochenjeza za ubale wapoizoni. Wokondedwa wanu ndi woipa kwambiri ndipo amafulumira kutsutsa zomwe mukuchita
• Kusalemekeza: Mnzanu wapoizoni akhoza kukunyozani, kukunyozani, kapena kukunyozani mosaganizira maganizo anu kapena malire anu  

Kaya mukuyesera kupeza momwe mungasiyire ubale woopsa pamene mukuukondabe kapena kusiya ubale womwe mukumva kuti mwatsekeredwa, kuzindikira zizindikiro izi ndi sitepe yoyamba yofunika kwambiri. Shivanya akuti, "Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu komanso zoopsa kwambiri za ubale wosasangalatsa ndi nkhanza zamaganizo, zamawu, zakuthupi, kapena zamaganizo. Palinso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo molakwika. Mabodza obwerezabwereza, malonjezo osakwaniritsidwa, kudzikuza, kusowa ulemu, ndi kubisa zinthu ndi zizindikiro zina zofiira zomwe muyenera kusamala nazo, zomwe, ndithudi, zimakhudza kwambiri thanzi la maganizo a munthu.

"Makhalidwe obwerezabwereza oterewa amachititsa kusakhulupirirana ndi kukwiya pakati pa okwatirana . Pamapeto pake zimayambitsa mikangano, mikangano, ndi nkhanza, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti okwatirana azikhala limodzi muubwenzi. Mmodzi kapena onse awiri amayamba kuganiza za momwe angatulukire muubwenzi wosasangalatsa panthawiyi, zomwe zingawononge thanzi lawo la maganizo."

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N’chifukwa Chiyani Kufunika Kutuluka Mu Ubale Wopanda Ubwino Kuli Kofunikira? 

Yankho losavuta la momwe mungathanirane ndi maubwenzi osayenera ndikuchoka. Izi ndichifukwa choti kukhala paubwenzi woyipa kumakhudza chisangalalo chanu, tsogolo lanu, komanso moyo wanu wonse. Chowonadi ndikuchoka muubwenzi wankhanza komanso wapoizoni ndizovuta. Koma, yikani patsogolo thanzi lanu, chitetezo, ndi chisangalalo. Tsatirani dongosolo lanu lothandizira zinthu zikavuta kwambiri. Komanso, ganizirani thandizo la akatswiri, ndipo khalani ndi ndondomeko ya masewera. 

Pophunzira momwe mungasiyire ubale wapoizoni mukamawakonda, muyenera kumvetsetsa momwe moyo wanu umakhudzira moyo wanu.

• Ubale wapoizoni ndi kuwonongeka kwa thanzi lamalingaliro ndi kudzidalira zimayendera limodzi
• Mudzakhala ndi malingaliro odziona ngati opanda pake chifukwa cha kuzunzidwa kwamalingaliro
• Kuwukiridwa kosalekeza, kaya mwamawu kapena mwakuthupi, pang'onopang'ono kumakugwetsani pansi
• M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, thanzi lanu la maganizo ndi lakuthupi lidzavutika

Izi zikufotokozera chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kwambiri kuchoka muubwenzi wosayenera - kuti muthe kumanganso moyo wanu wamaganizo.

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Maubwenzi osayenera angakulepheretseni kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe

Othandizana nawo omwe ali ndi poizoni amasokoneza kudzidalira kwanu kapena kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika. Kusadzidalira kosatha, chinyengo, ndi nkhanza zamaganizo zidzachotsa chidaliro chilichonse chomwe muli nacho mwa inu nokha. Zimenezo zidzakhala ndi chiyambukiro chachindunji pa umoyo wanu ndi thanzi lanu lamalingaliro. Pakapita nthawi, mumayamba kuwakhulupirira ndikusiya kutsatira zomwe mumakonda kapena zolinga zanu.

Kuganizira kwambiri za ubale wosauka kudzakuthandizani kupeŵa mphamvu zanu zamaganizo zomwe zingakulepheretseni kuchita china chilichonse. Kusiya ubale pamene simukufuna kungakhale kosokoneza. Komabe, kutuluka mu ubale womwe walephera n'kofunika kwambiri kuti mudziwonenso kuti ndinu wofunika komanso kuti mudzikonde.

Mutha kukhala munthu wabwinoko ndipo mutha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino m'tsogolomu. Palinso mbali ya kupatsa mphamvu. Mukasiya chibwenzi choopsa, mumalamulira moyo wanu. Muli ndi mwayi wopezanso chimwemwe chanu ndikutsegulira njira zabwino zamtsogolo.

Maubwenzi osayenera angakuphunzitseni kuvomereza zochepa kuposa momwe mukuyenera

Zimakhala zovuta kusiya ubale wosayenera, koma nthawi ina, muyenera kudzuka ndikuwona zenizeni. Nkhanza zamaganizo ndi kukunyengererani kungakupangitseni kumva ngati simukuyenera zambiri. Mumayamba kukhulupirira kuti muli ndi mwayi wokhala nawo pachibwenzi.

Chotsagana ndi izi ndikudziona kuti ndife otsika komanso osadzidalira. Zimakhala zovuta kuzindikira mtengo wanu ndipo mumayamba kulandira chithandizo chamtundu uliwonse kuchokera kwa anthu ena. Tsoka ilo, anthu ena amalowa m'malingaliro ofunafuna maubwenzi oopsa omwe ali ofanana chifukwa chodzikayikira. Kumakhala chizungulire choyipa chodziwika ndi kuvomereza, ngakhale ziyembekezo za nkhanza zotere mu maubwenzi onse.  

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Kodi mkazi angatuluke muubwenzi wosakhazikika? Kapena, kodi mwamuna angatuluke muubwenzi wosakhazikika? Inde, ngati mwaganiza kuti sikoyenera kukonza ubale woopsa , mutha kuchoka. Koma sizophweka choncho. Malipoti ambiri akusonyeza kuti kuchoka kwenikweni ndi nthawi yoopsa kwambiri, makamaka kwa mkazi womenyedwa. Akazi amakhala pachiwopsezo choposa nthawi 500 akasankha kuchoka.

Kumbukirani, wozunzayo adzataya mphamvu zake ndi ulamuliro wake ndipo akhoza kuchita zinthu mwankhanza. Malipoti ena akusonyeza kuti pafupifupi 75% ya akazi omwe ali muubwenzi wozunza amaphedwa atasiya okondedwa awo. Ngakhale kuti zinthu sizingakhale zofanana, kulimbana kumeneku kungakhale kofanana kwa amuna omwe akusiya maubwenzi oopsa.

Komabe, zimenezo sizikutanthauza kuti simuyenera kukhala muubwenzi woipa umene wakhala ukukusokonezani maganizo, maganizo, ndi thanzi lanu. Pali njira zothetsera ubale wopanda thanzi. Shivanya amalimbikitsa njira zisanu ndi zinayi zotsatirazi: 

1: Vomerezani kuti muli paubwenzi wosayenera

Monga tanenera kale, ulendo wofufuza momwe mungachokere muubwenzi wosayenera umayamba ndi kuvomereza. Ili ndiye gawo loyamba loti mutuluke ndikubwezeretsanso thanzi lanu. Yambani mwa kuphunzira kapena kuzindikira zizindikiro zosonyeza makhalidwe oipa muubwenzi wanu​—kulamulira, kusalemekezana, kuzunzana, kuzunzidwa, ngakhalenso kulamulira ndalama. Onaninso momwe mumamvera ndi mnzanuyo. Kodi mumakhala ndi nkhawa kapena mumanyozedwa kapena osatetezeka? 

Yembekezerani kumva malingaliro ambiri otsutsana chifukwa cha chikondi chanu kwa mnzanu. Shivanya akufotokoza kuti, "Mungamve kukhala ndi mlandu, chisoni, komanso chisoni chifukwa chosiya chibwenzi chanu , chifukwa chovulaza mnzanu. Mudzamvanso malingaliro amenewa nthawi ina chifukwa mumakonda mnzanuyo ndipo pali zokumbukira zambiri zabwino zokhudzana ndi munthuyu komanso chibwenzicho. Komabe, muyenera kuganizira zomwe zili zoyenera kwa inu mtsogolo. Muyenera kusankha zomwe muyenera kusunga ndikusiya."

Pomaliza, dzichitireni chifundo ndipo dziwani kuti si vuto lanu. Kupatula apo, zomwe mumafuna zinali ubale wabwino. 

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2: Konzani ndondomeko yochoka

Njira yabwino yochotsera ubale wosayenera ndi kukhala ndi ndondomeko yolimba yotuluka, kuphimba maziko anu onse, kuphatikizapo kuthana ndi kupeza chakudya pazochitika zovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, dongosolo lanu lamasewera liyenera kukhala ndi zotsatirazi.

• Tetezani dongosolo lanu lothandizira: Kusiya ubale ndizovuta. Pezani anzanu apamtima, banja, kapena magulu othandizira. Auzeni za chisankho chanu chochoka, ndipo musaope kupempha thandizo ndi kumvetsetsa
• Onetsetsani chitetezo chanu: Izi zikuphatikizapo kukhala ndi anthu olankhulana nawo zadzidzidzi, malo otetezeka oti mupite, ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe mumanyamula, zomalizirazo zimaphatikizapo ndalama (kapena makhadi a ngongole, zikalata zakubanki, ndi zina zotero), mankhwala, zikalata zozindikiritsa, ndi katundu wanu aliyense amene ali wofunika kwa inu. 
• Ufulu wazachuma: Yambani kuphunzira momwe ungakhalire wodziyimira pawokha pazachuma. Khazikitsani akaunti yachinsinsi ndikuyamba kusunga ndalama. Kudziyimira pawokha pazachuma kumakupatsani mphamvu kuti musiye kudalira wokondedwa wanu yemwe amakuchitirani nkhanza
• Chitetezo chalamulo: Dongosolo lanu lachitetezo limaphatikizapo kudziwitsa akuluakulu ngati muli ndi nkhawa zachitetezo. Akhoza kukonza zoti akuthandizeni pa tsiku limene mukufuna kuchoka. Ngati mukuwopa chitetezo chanu, funsani loya. Atha kukuthandizani kupeza malamulo oletsa kapena kukutetezani mwalamulo. Atha kukuthandizaninso ndi zokambirana zamtendere pazinthu monga momwe mungachitire ndi kholo limodzi
• Umboni wolemba: Sungani zolemba zomwe zachitika, kuphatikiza masiku, nthawi, ndi kufotokozera za nkhanzazo. Pankhani yalamulo, mudzawafuna 
• Konzani nthawi yotuluka: Nthawi zambiri, mnzanu wapoizoni kapena wankhanza sangakulole kuti mupite mosavuta. Kuyambira pa kusokoneza maganizo mpaka kukangana, angayese njira iliyonse yothekera kukuchititsani kukhalabe. Chifukwa chake, kubetcha kwanu kwabwino ndikuchoka mnzako ali pafupi
• Yang'anani malo okhala: Siyani chibwenzi choyipa mukapeza malo omwe ali otetezeka kwa inu ndi omwe amadalira. Musanatuluke, pezani nyumba yomwe mungathe kukhalamo ndikuyikhazikitsa ndi zonse zomwe mukufuna. Ngati mukufunika kutuluka popanda kukonzekera chifukwa cha nkhanza zapakhomo kapena kuzunzidwa, nthawi zonse mukhoza kudalira mnzanu kapena wachibale mpaka mutapeza malo anuanu. Ngati izi sizingachitike, nazi malo omenyera nkhanza zapakhomo omwe mungatembenukireko

3: Fotokozani nkhawa zanu

Mukamaliza kukonzekera bwino kuti mupange moyo kunja kwa ubale wanu wosasangalatsa, ndi nthawi yoti muuze mnzanuyo momwe mukumvera. Mwachitsanzo, akhoza kukhala akunyalanyaza ubale wanu . Mungayese kufotokoza nkhawa zanu ndikugogomezera kuti mukufuna ubale wabwino. Koma chonde dziwani kuti mwayi woti zinthu zisinthe nthawi zambiri umakhala wochepa kapena wosakhalapo. Izi ndi zoona makamaka ngati sakuona cholakwika chilichonse ndi khalidwe lawo.

Shivanya anati: “Anthu amakonda kupirira kapena kukhalabe m’maubwenzi oipa chifukwa amayembekezera kuti mnzawoyo asintha.

Khwerero 4: Yambani ndi bwenzi lanu

Kuphunzira kutuluka muubwenzi woipa ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndikofunikira ngati zokambirana zalephera. Yakwana nthawi yovomereza kuti ndi nthawi yothetsa ubale woopsa. Njira yabwino yothetsera ubale wosayenera ndi kukhala woona mtima kwa inu nokha ndi mnzanu. Mutakonzekera kuthetsa chibwenzicho komanso kuti musakhumudwe nazo, muyenera kupita kumalo ovuta kwambiri.

Yakwana nthawi yoti mulankhule ndi mnzanu ndikumuuza kuti mukuchoka. Fotokozani zomwe mwasankha mwamphamvu. Izi zingakuthandizeni nonse kutha ndikuyambanso ndi moyo watsopano. Komabe, njira iyi imagwira ntchito pokhapokha ngati ubale wanu ungakhale wosalimba koma palibe nkhanza zakuthupi kapena zamaganizo.

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Khwerero 5: Musalole kuti mubwezerenso mkati

Mukangonena kuti mukuthetsa chibwenzi, mnzanuyo angayese njira iliyonse yoti akulepheretseni kukhalabe. Angayambe kukunyengererani kapena kukupatsani malonjezo ambiri. Izi zingapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kusiya chibwenzicho, makamaka ngati mukukumana ndi vuto la momwe mungasiyire chibwenzicho pamene simukufuna.

Dziwani kuti izi zipitilira mpaka mnzanu atapeza zomwe akufuna. Choncho, zilizonse zimene angachite, dzikumbutseni kuti kusintha kulikonse kumene mukuona kudzakhala kwakanthawi. Musalole kuti akulimbikitseni kuti mukhalebe. Ngati simuima nji pa chosankha chanu, mudzakodwa mumkhalidwe woipa womwewo wa chiyembekezo, kusweka mtima, ndi kutaya mtima.

Shivanya akufotokoza kuti, "Muzinena zoona zokhazokha kwa mnzanuyo ponena za kuchoka. Muuzeni kuti simukufunanso kulekerera makhalidwe oipa ndi oipa ngati amenewa ndikuti mukutuluka bwino. Ingoikani phazi lanu pansi ndi kuwauza kuti mwatha ndi chibwenzicho chifukwa ndizovuta kwambiri. mgwirizano ndi kunena zabwino. "

Khwerero 6: Yambani kupanga njira yolimba yothandizira

Kusweka kwa ubale uliwonse kumakhala kovuta kuthana nako, ndipo zimenezo zikuphatikizapo kusiya ubale wosasangalatsa. Inde, n'zotheka kuthetsa kusweka kokha . Koma, kumanga njira yothandizana kwambiri kudzakhala kofunikira kwambiri pa thanzi lanu la maganizo.

Mphamvu ndi gawo lofunikira pakukhazikitsa njira zamomwe mungatulukire muubwenzi woyipa ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Mufunikanso nyonga za okondedwa anu kuti muthe kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo. Njira yanu yothandizira imapitilira kuposa achibale anu ndi anzanu. Zimaphatikizaponso:

• Magulu othandizira, kaya pa intaneti, mwachinsinsi, kapena omwe akupezeka kwanuko
• Chithandizo ndi uphungu kuchokera kwa akatswiri
• Alangizi azamalamulo ndi azachuma
• Mabungwe ammudzi ndi azipembedzo omwe amapereka zothandizira ndi uphungu. Palinso zofunika za chikhalidwe chimenecho
• Manambala othandizira ndi ma hotline monga National Domestic Violence Hotline, manambala adziko lonse, kapenanso foni yam'deralo. Mapulatifomuwa amapereka chithandizo chamsanga ndi zothandizira kwa iwo omwe amasiya maubwenzi achiwawa.
• Anzanu atsopano kuti akulimbikitseni ndi kukuthandizani

Shivanya anati: “Pothandiza makasitomala anga kuti apeze mmene angachotsere maubwenzi oipa, nthaŵi zonse ndimawauza kuti alankhule ndi anzanga ndi achibale awo ponena za nkhanzayo.

Gawo 7. Yambani kuyesetsa kumanganso moyo wanu

Ichi ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pakuchepetsa mgwirizano ndi kutuluka mu mthunzi wa ubale wosauka chifukwa anthu oopsa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi njira yopangitsa okondedwa awo kudalira iwo kwambiri kotero kuti sangathe kuganiza za moyo wopanda iwo. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukudabwa, kodi mkazi angatuluke bwanji mu ubale wosauka, kubwezeretsanso ufulu kungakhale yankho. Muyenera kusiya kudalirana komwe mnzanuyo akukukakamizani kulowa ndikuyamba kukhala moyo womasuka.

Momwemonso, kwa mwamuna, yankho la kuchoka kwa bwenzi lopanda thanzi litha kukhala kudalira kudalira kwa wokondedwa wawo, yemwe atha kukhala wosamalira kwambiri kapena wopulumutsa. Njira yomanganso moyo wanu imakhudza mbali zonse za izi, zachuma, zogwirira ntchito, zachikhalidwe, komanso zamalingaliro. Izi ndi zomwe zingaphatikizepo:

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• Kukonza thanzi lanu lazachuma - izi zitha kutanthauza kupeza ntchito kuti ikhale yodziyimira pawokha pazachuma, kuyamba kupanga bajeti ndikusunga, kupendanso ndalama zomwe mumawononga
• Kugwirira ntchito limodzi ndi chitukuko chaukadaulo kuti mudzipangire moyo wabwino
• Ngati ndinu kholo, ganizirani za chisamaliro cha ana kwa nthawi yonse yomwe mukugwira ntchito
• Kupeza inshuwaransi yazaumoyo, kuwongolera ngongole zanyumba ndi ngongole zilizonse  
• Kuwona zoyendetsera ndi ndalama zoyendetsera nyumba paokha
• Kupeza gulu lanu lochezera
• Kuchilitsidwa ku zoopsa zomwe mwapirira
• Kukonzekera ubale watsopano, ngati ndi zomwe mukufuna  

Khwerero 8. Landirani kudzikonda komanso kudzisamalira

Chinthu chofunika kwambiri mmene kusiya ubwenzi pamene simukufuna ndi kukumbatira kudzikonda. Kudzikonda ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la momwe mungathanirane ndi maubwenzi osayenera ndi kukonza zowonongeka zomwe zachitika chifukwa cha maubwenzi oipa. Zidzakhudza kwambiri kulimba mtima kwanu ndi chisangalalo chonse. Nazi njira zina zomwe mungachitire nokha:

• Dzichitireni chifundo ndi kuzindikira kuti machiritso amatenga nthawi
• Khalani kutali ndi zochitika zoipa zomwe zimawononga mphamvu zanu mwa kukhazikitsa malire momveka bwino
• Dzisamalireni ndi chakudya chabwino, maseŵera olimbitsa thupi, ndi kugona mokwanira
• Phatikizani zizolowezi zabwino monga kusinkhasinkha ndi kulingalira
• Pitirizani, ndi kudziwononga nokha ndi ena kudzisamalira komanso mphatso zakukhala bwino 
• Gwiritsani ntchito zitsimikizo zabwino tsiku lililonse kuti mupewe kudzilankhula koyipa kapena malingaliro oyipa okhudzana ndi ubale wapoizoni
• Anthu ena atha kupeza zochizira zamakalata chifukwa zimapatsa malo abwino ofotokozera zakukhosi, ziyembekezo, ndi maloto 

Khwerero 9. Chotsani kukhudzana konse ndi wakale wankhanzayo

Kudziwa momwe mungatulukire muubwenzi wosayenera si ntchito yovuta. Kodi mukudziwa kuti pamafunika kuyesa kasanu ndi kawiri kuti wopulumuka amusiye womuchitira nkhanza? Zifukwa zake ndi kutengeka maganizo, kuopa kubwezera, kudalira ndalama, ndi kusowa thandizo. Kuti musiye chibwenzi choyipa kuti chikhale chabwino, muyenera kutsatira lamulo loletsa kulumikizana. Osasiya malo aliwonse kuti mnzanuyo abwerere ku moyo wanu.

Shivanya akuti, "Ponena za momwe mungasiyire chibwenzi choopsa pamene mukukondanabe, kutalikirana pang'ono kungakuthandizeni kwambiri. Pali nthawi zina pomwe okwatirana amalekanitsa popanda kukwiyirana kapena kudana wina ndi mnzake chifukwa amadziwa kuti sakugwirizana. Komabe, sizingachitike muubwenzi wopanda thanzi. "Ngakhale kuti ubalewo sunali wovuta kwenikweni, nthawi zonse ndibwino kugwiritsa ntchito lamulo loti musalumikizane kwa kanthawi. Dzipatseni nthawi yoti muthane ndi ululu wamaganizo ndi kupsinjika maganizo komwe mwakumana nako. Zingakhale zosasangalatsa koma ndikofunikira kuti mupitirire patsogolo."

Kodi mukufuna thandizo kuti musiye chibwenzi chomwe sichili bwino? Akatswiri aluso komanso odziwa bwino ntchito zaumoyo wamaganizo omwe ali pagulu la Bonobology ali pano kuti akuthandizeni.

N'zovuta kusiya ubale woopsa. Zachidziwikire, chibadwa chanu choyamba chingakhale kuyesa kusunga ubalewo, koma nthawi ina mudzafunika kusankha ngati ubalewo ndi woyenera kupulumutsidwa. "Timadikira nthawi yayitali kwambiri chifukwa chake kuwonongeka komwe kumachitika kumakhala kwakukulu kwambiri. Nthawi zina, yankho lokhalo la momwe mungasiyire munthu amene amakuchitirani zoipa ndikungochoka pa maubwenzi owononga otere. Dzitengereni nokha ndikuyamba kulamulira nthawi isanathe. Musalole kuti zaka zidutse. Sankhani nokha kuposa china chilichonse chifukwa, ngati mutaya nokha, chotsala ndi chiyani choti mupulumutse?" akutero Shivanya.

Takuwonetsani chifukwa chake komanso momwe mungatulukire muubwenzi wopanda thanzi. Osayang'ana kutha kwa chibwenzi chosayenera ngati mathero a moyo wanu kapena mwayi wachikondi. Zomwe mukupeza ndi mwayi wosangalala ndi zatsopano komanso ubale wabwino m'tsogolo momwe mumamva bwino nthawi zonse. Komanso, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi ndondomeko yachitetezo kuti mutsimikize kuthawa.

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Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.