Titakhala ndi pakati, tinali osangalala. Koma pansi pa mtima, tinkadziwanso kuti moyo wathu usintha. Chotero, m’kati mwa mimbayo, ine ndi mkazi wanga tinayamba kudzikonzekeretsa tokha kaamba ka masinthidwewo ndi kukonzekera mmene tingapulumukire m’banja mosasamala kanthu za mathayo owonjezereka. Tinakhala makolo abwino kwambiri m'mbiri ya kulera ana, ndipo ndithudi, kukhalabe oganiza bwino, atsopano, ndi kukhala ndi banja lomwe lingapangitse aliyense kuchita nsanje.
Zinatengera khanda lathu lobadwa kumene pasanathe sabata kuti awononge mapulani athu onse, malingaliro athu, ndi zolinga zathu. Zoona zake n’zakuti ngakhale mutakonzekera mochuluka bwanji, sizingapite monga mmene munakonzera. Kupulumuka m'banja pambuyo pa ana kungamveke ngati kuyendayenda, sikuli kanthu.
Mwanayo atabadwa, wosagona tulo komanso wotopa nthawi zambiri, ngakhale zinthu zosavuta monga 'chokhala ndi chakudya chamadzulo?' kapena 'Kodi mungawonere kanema wanji?' zinayambitsa mikangano ndi mikangano. Tinayambanso mwachinsinsi kusunga zomwe aliyense adachitira mwanayo ndi banja zomwe zinayambitsa mikangano yambiri.
Mavuto a Ukwati Pambuyo pa Mwana
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ndimakumbukira pamene tinkakonda kukhala Loweruka ndi Lamlungu lonse tili pabedi kapena kungokumbatirana pabedi ndikuchita mpikisano wamafilimu. Zinatipatsa nthawi yopumula yofunikira kwambiri kuchokera ku zovuta za moyo wathu waukadaulo ndipo tinali atsopano kuti tithane ndi sabata yonseyo. Ndi mwana yemwe adalowetsedwa mu kusakanizana, Loweruka ndi Lamlungu kunakhala wotanganidwa, ndipo kusunga ukwati kukhala wolimba kunakhala kovuta.
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Kupulumuka m'banja pambuyo pa ana ndi kovuta. Zochita zathu zikuchulukirachulukira. Nthawi yathu yambiri yopuma inkagwiritsidwa ntchito kusungunula mabotolo, kuchotsa tinthu tating'onoting'ono ta chakudya m'ming'alu ya mipando yosiyanasiyana, kupukuta masamba, komanso, kutaya matewera.
Kugonana. Inde, ndi gawo lofunikira la ubale wa banja lililonse. Kwa anthu ambiri omwe ali paubwenzi wabwino, kugonana ndi chinthu chodabwitsa ichi, chosakonzekera. Ndipo ndicho chimene chimapangitsa kukhala chapadera. Ndi chimene ndimachitcha 'chotsutsa mikangano' - aliyense amapambana pamapeto pake. Mwanayo atafika, tinadziwa kuti zingakhudze kugonana kwathu. Koma sitinayembekeze kuti zingasinthe kukhala a mavuto a m’banja.
Choyamba, panatenga miyezi kuti mkazi wanga achire ku zowawa za pobereka, ndipo pomalizira pake, pamene S-khadi inabwereranso patebulo, zinali ngati kuti tifunikira kupanga nthaŵi. Sitinathe ngakhale kufinya mu quickie popanda kudandaula kuti mwana kudzuka. M'mbuyo, izi zidatipangitsa ife kukhala openga kuposa masiku onse.
Monga okwatirana, tinayesetsa kukhala ndi moyo panthawiyo mmene tingathere. Zinathandizadi kukhalabe ndi ‘nyezi’ muubwenzi wathu. Ndipo monga mmene zimakhalira ndi mabanja ambiri okondana, tinkatumizirana mameseji akuti ‘Ndakusowani’ ndi ‘Ndikufuna mukanakhala pano’ titasiyana. Titangokhala ndi mwana, posakhalitsa tinazindikira kuti sikudzakhalanso kosatheka kuti wina aliyense aziganizirana. Ndipo, motero, tinazindikira kuti kupulumuka kwaukwati pambuyo pa ana kuli kovuta kwenikweni.
“Musaiwale kulimbikitsa ubwenzi wanu ngati banja.
Zolinga zathu zonse ndi zolinga zathu zinali zomuzungulira, ndipo ngakhale usiku wamasiku osowa kwambiri, tidatha kukambirana za iye m'malo mwa ife tokha. Ponena za malembawo, nkhani zake zinali zitasintha pang’ono. Tsopano idawerengedwa motsatira mizere ya 'Ndakusowa. Ndikanakonda mukanakhala pano kuti musinthe matewera.' Ndikuganiza kuti umu ndi momwe ukwati pambuyo pa ana umakhalira nthawi zonse. Koma kudziŵa zimenezo sikunapangitse kukhala kosavuta kuchita nazo.
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Tinayamba kuika ukwati wathu patsogolo
Sindiname, kusintha kuchoka ku banja kupita ku ubereki kunali kovutirapo ndipo tinayamba kulimbana ndi zovuta zaukwati zakale pambuyo pa mwana. Koma posakhalitsa tinazindikira kuti m’zoyesayesa zathu zotsimikizira ubwino wa mwana wathu wamwamuna, tinaiŵala, ndipo, m’chenicheni, nthaŵi zina tinkalingalira mopepuka za ubwino wa ukwati wathu. Atangozindikira kuti tifunikira kulinganiza nthaŵi yathu pakati pa kulera ana ndi ukwati wathu, posapita nthaŵi zinthu zinayamba kusintha kukhala bwino.
Masiku ano, tili pamalo abwino ndipo ubale wathu ndi wolimba kuposa kale. Mwanjira ina, tinakhalabe ndi banja pambuyo pa ana. Tagwira ntchito pakulankhulana kwathu ndipo tathana ndi malingaliro a kutsekeredwa m'banja moyang'anana. Taphunzira kuchepetsa zomwe tikuyembekezera ndikuonetsetsa kuti timapeza nthawi ya 'ife' pafupipafupi momwe tingathere. Inde, ena mwa 'chakudya chamadzulo chamakandulo pa malo odyera abwino' chasintha kukhala 'chakudya chamadzulo chamakandulo kunyumba mwana atagona' usiku, koma ndizofunika.
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Tili ndi wolera ana wodalirika yemwe tingamuyitane pamene tikufunadi kupuma kwa atatufe ndipo tikufuna maola ochepa a 'awiri a ife'. Taphunzira momwe tingagwirire ntchito zatsopano ndikuwonjezera nkhawa ndikuzolowera kusintha kwa ubale pambuyo pake. abwana ndi zovuta za ubale zimabweretsa.
Ndipo koposa zonse, tayamba kupatsana 'nthawi yanga' - yopanda kulera komanso kukhala ndi banja; omasuka kuchita chilichonse chomwe timasankha kuchita popanda kuvutitsidwa ndi wina. Ngakhale kuli kugona basi. Kupangitsa kuti banja likhale lolimba, makamaka pamene mutaya mwana, si ntchito yovuta.
Pamapeto pake, kuzindikira kwathu kwakukulu kwakhala kuti ngakhale kukhala ndi mwana kunagwedeza boti laukwati wathu pang'ono, takhala olimba komanso osangalala monga banja. Chowonadi ndi ichi - ngati mutha kukhala ndi mwana komanso zaka zingapo zoyamba pamodzi, mutha kuthana ndi chilichonse.
Ibibazo
Mabanja ambiri amavutika atakhala ndi ana chifukwa sangathe kupirira kusintha kwa ubale wawo. Mumasiya kuyang'anana wina ndi mzake ndipo maudindo ochulukirapo amalowetsedwa mumsanganizo, zomwe zimatsogolera ku zovuta zaukwati pambuyo pa khanda.
Kulankhulana bwino ndikofunikira. Ngati mukulimbana ndi maudindo ndikuwonjezera ntchito, funsani mnzanuyo kuti akuthandizeni. Ndikofunika kunena zakukhosi kwanu ndipo musalole chakukhosi kukula. Ndiponso, ngakhale kuti poyamba zingakhale zovuta, m’pofunikanso kulabadirana wina ndi mnzake ndi kuika maganizo pa kusunga ukwati wolimba ngakhale mutakhala ndi ana.
Maganizo Final
Kulera ana kungayambitse mavuto apadera m’banja, koma kungathandizenso kuti okwatiranawo azikondana kwambiri. Poika patsogolo kulankhulana, ubwenzi, udindo wogawana, ndi kudzisamalira, okwatirana angathe kuthana ndi chisangalalo ndi zovuta za ubereki pamene akukhalabe ndi banja lolimba ndi lokhutiritsa. Alangizi athu Zitha kukuthandizani inu ndi mnzanuyo kukhazikitsa njira zoyankhulirana zogwira mtima, kuthana ndi zovuta zaubwenzi, ndikupanga mgwirizano wokwaniritsa komanso wokhalitsa.
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Komabe, mzere woyamba ndi wopambana- Pamene 'ife' tidakhala ndi pakati…zikunena zambiri za inu ngati mwamuna…amuna ambiri amavomereza kuti si mkazi yekha amene ali ndi pakati, choncho si udindo wake chabe. Ndipo inde, pokhala mayi wa ana awiri, ndikutsimikizira kuti ngati mungapulumuke gawoli, mutha kupulumuka chilichonse!