Zomwe Zimapha Maubwenzi Atalitali: Zinthu 12 Izi

“Choopsa kwambiri pa mtunda ndichakuti simukudziwa ngati adzakusowani kapena kukuyiwalani,” anatero Nicholas Sparks m’buku lake logulitsidwa kwambiri la The Notebook . Ndipo zinali zomveka. Popeza ndinkakhulupirira kale kuti chikondi chingalepheretse vuto lililonse, sindinaganizepo zokhala mu LDR pamene chibwenzi changa chinasamukira kudziko lina chifukwa cha ntchito. Komabe, posakhalitsa ndinadzipeza ndikulimbana ndi zenizeni zovuta za zomwe mtunda ungachite kuti chikondi chikhale cholimba, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimadziuza kuti, “Ndimamukonda koma sindingathe kuyenda mtunda wautali.” Poganizira ulendo wanga, ndimamva kuti chomwe chimapha maubwenzi akutali makamaka ndi kusowa kwa ubale weniweni komanso kulankhulana. Inde, palinso zinthu zina.

Ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo muli banja la LDR ndipo nthawi zambiri mumadabwa momwe mungathanirane ndi zovuta zaubwenzi wautali, tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni. Tikukupatsirani zifukwa 12 zomwe zimakonda kukhala pachibwenzi kutali ndizovuta, komanso maupangiri a maubwenzi apatali okuthandizani kulimbitsa ubale wanu. 

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Tisanafike pa zomwe zimapha maubwenzi akutali , tiyeni tiwone ziwerengero zina kuti tiwone kuchuluka kwa kupambana ndi kulephera kwa maubwenzi otere. Kafukufuku wa 2018 adawonetsa kuti pafupifupi 58% ya maubwenzi akutali amakhalapo. Ndipo theka la omwe adafunsidwa mu kafukufukuyu adakumana ndi okondedwa awo pa intaneti. Chifukwa chake, tinganene kuti anthu a LDR amatha kupulumuka mayeso a nthawi ngati maanja alankhulana ndikusunga ubale wabwino. Popeza anthu akuchoka kwawo kukaphunzira m'mizinda ina, kapena kupita kunja kukafuna ntchito, komanso chifukwa cha ukadaulo womwe wapangitsa kuti anthu azilankhulana mosavuta, maubwenzi awa ayamba kufala komanso kukhala osavuta kuwasamalira.

Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti maubwenzi ambiri akutali amatha osati pamene okwatirana ali kutali koma pamene akuyandikirana. Tsopano, izi zitha kukhala chifukwa cha zinthu zambiri, kuphatikizapo kulephera kwa okwatirana kuzolowerana—kapena kuzindikira kusagwirizana—akangokhala limodzi mwakuthupi.

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12 Zinthu Zomwe Zimapha Maubwenzi Atalitali

Maubwenzi nthawi zambiri amakhala ovuta pakapita nthawi ndipo maubwenzi akutali ndi osiyana ndi izi. Ma LDR amatha kukhala osakhazikika ngati sakusamalidwa bwino. Malinga ndi kafukufuku , nayi mfundo imodzi yayikulu yokhudza maubwenzi akutali: kusowa kwa ubale wapamtima pakati pa maanja a LDR kumakhala vuto lalikulu lothana nalo (malinga ndi 66% ya omwe adayankha).

Komanso, nkhani zing’onozing’ono zomwe zimabuka poyamba zingaoneke ngati zazing’ono, koma m’kupita kwa nthawi zikhoza kuwononga maubwenzi apatali. Ndiye, ndi zinthu zina ziti zowopsa zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa, ndi momwe mungathanirane ndi zovuta zaubwenzi wautali? Tiyeni tiwone mwatsatanetsatane zomwe zimapha maubwenzi apatali komanso momwe mungatetezere anu ku misampha yofala iyi:

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1. Nkhani zoyankhulirana

Kulankhulana kosalekeza n'kofunika kwambiri paubwenzi uliwonse. Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene ali kutali, kufunika kwa kulankhulana kumawonjezeka kakhumi. Komabe, mtunda ukhoza kukhala chopinga chachikulu pakulankhulana kogwira mtima. Mavuto olankhulana mu LDRs amayamba chifukwa cha zinthu zambiri, monga:

• Kusiyana kwa nthawi (ngati awiriwo alekanitsidwa ndi nthawi zosiyanasiyana)
• Kusiyana kwa ndandanda
• Zinthu zofunika kwambiri (mwachitsanzo, munthu akapita kumalo atsopano, mwadzidzidzi, amayenera kuthana ndi zomwe akufunikira)

Momwe mungachitire

• Khazikitsani malire abwino: Khazikitsani nthawi yeniyeni yolumikizirana 
• Perekani malo okwanira: Perekani mwayi wina ndi mzake pazochitika zapayekha komanso kucheza
• Limbikitsani kudziyimira pawokha: Tsatirani zokonda zanu ndi zokonda zanu kapena pangani mabwenzi atsopano paokha ndikulimbikitsa mnzanuyo kutero. Limbikitsani mtima wodzidalira ndi kudzikuza
• Kulumikizana kosiyanasiyana: Sinthani njira zolankhulirana kuti mupewe kungokhala chete
• Sangalalani kupitilira mgwirizano: Khalani ndi maubwenzi ndi anzanu ndi achibale omwe sali pachibwenzi. Chitani nawo mbali muzochita zomwe sizikukhudza mnzanuyo, kuti mulimbikitse malo ochezera a pa Intaneti
• Tsegulani zokambirana: Kambiranani zakukhosi momasuka komanso moona mtima. Khazikitsani kumvetsetsana ndi kulemekeza malo aumwini ndi nthawi

2. Ndewu zosathetsedwa 

N’chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi akutali amalephera? Chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimawononga ubale wakutali ndi kuthetsa mikangano yosayenera. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofala kwambiri muubwenzi wakutali. Mu kafukufuku wochitidwa pa anthu 385, ofufuza adapeza kuti macheza apakanema adapangitsa kuti pakhale njira yabwino kwambiri yotsimikizira mikangano. Imelo idagwirizana ndi njira yotsutsana yotsutsana, ndipo kuyimba foni kudapangitsa kuti pakhale njira zosasinthasintha komanso zotsutsana.

Chochititsa chidwi n’chakuti, anapeza kuti okwatirana akutali safuna kukangana panthaŵi yochepa imene amakhala nayo limodzi akakumana maso ndi maso. Tsopano, ngakhale izi ndi zomveka, sizili bwino. Kumenyana ndi kozolowereka muubwenzi uliwonse, ndipo pamlingo wina wake, ndi wathanzi. Kumbali inayi, palibe chomwe chimawononga kwambiri kuposa kusowa kwa njira zabwino zothetsera mikangano muubwenzi wautali. 

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Momwe mungachitire

• Kulankhulana bwino: Sankhani nthawi ndi njira yoyenera kuthana ndi mikangano modekha. Gwiritsani ntchito mavidiyo kapena mauthenga amawu pazokambirana zinazake
• Kumvetsera mwachidwi: Yesetsani kumvetsera mwachidwi kuti mumvetse maganizo a mnzanuyo. Pewani kusokoneza ndikuonetsetsa kuti mawu onse amveka
• Khazikitsani njira zothetsera mavuto: Konzani ndondomeko yothetsa kusamvana moyenera. Gwirizanani za nthawi yoziziritsa ngati pakufunika, kenako ndi kukambirana molunjika
• Sankhani nkhondo mwanzeru: Siyanitsani kusagwirizana kung'ono ndi nkhani zazikulu. Yang'anirani zokambiranazo potengera momwe zimakhudzira ubalewo
• Pepani ndikukhululuka: Khalani wokonzeka kupepesa ngati kuli kofunikira. Khalani ndi nthawi yokulitsa kukhululuka kuti musasunge chakukhosi
• Funsani mkhalapakati ngati kuli kofunikira: Lingalirani zophatikizira gulu lina ngati mikangano ikupitilira. Uphungu kapena chithandizo cha maubwenzi chingapereke malo okonzedwa bwino kuthetsa mikangano

3. Maganizo osagwirizana pa ubale 

Chomwe chimapha maubwenzi otalikirana nthawi zambiri ndi kusamvetsetsa momwe okondedwa amamvera pa kulumikizana kwawo. Maubwenzi apatali amakhala ovuta pamene onse awiri ayang'ana ubale wawo mosiyana. Ngakhale m'modzi atha kuwona ngati uwu ngati mwayi wodzipangira yekha, mnzakeyo atha kuyang'ana kwambiri zoyipa za LDRs.

Omalizawa angayang'ane kwambiri momwe sangakhalire limodzi momwe angafunire ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro monga akuti, "Ubale wautaliwu ukundipha." Ndikofunikira kwambiri kufotokoza zomwe mukufuna muubwenzi womwe inu ndi mnzanu muli nawo ndikukwaniritsa mgwirizano. Mwina mukufuna mauthenga ndi mafoni tsiku lililonse koma mnzanuyo ali bwino kulankhula nanu bwino kamodzi pa sabata. Muyenera kukambirana nkhaniyi ndikupeza mgwirizano.

Momwe mungachitire

• Fotokozani zoyembekeza kuchokera ku LDR koyambirira: Kambiranani ndi kukhazikitsa zoyembekeza zomveka za ubale kuyambira pachiyambi. Onetsetsani kuti onse awiri ali pa tsamba limodzi pankhani yodzipereka, mapulani amtsogolo, komanso kulumikizana kosasintha
• Kulowa pafupipafupi: Konzani maubwenzi/kukambirana pafupipafupi kuti muwunikenso zomwe mukuyembekezera pamene ubalewo ukukula. Khalani okonzeka kusintha ndi kulolera pamene kuli kofunikira
• Gwirizanitsani zolinga za nthawi yayitali: Kambiranani zolinga zanthawi yayitali ndi zokhumba za munthu. Fufuzani zomwe mungagwirizane nazo ndikugwirizana kuti mugwirizane ndi zolinga zamtsogolo ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zaubwenzi wamba. Kambiranani chifukwa chake LDR inali yofunikira poyamba (ntchito, maphunziro, ndi zina zotero)
• Khalani owonekera: Lankhulani momasuka za malingaliro ndi ziyembekezo. Yang'anirani kusiyana kulikonse mwachangu kuti mupewe kusemphana maganizo
• Yang'anani kugwirizanitsa: Unikani kugwirizana malinga ndi zikhulupiriro, zolinga za moyo, ndi nthawi. Yang'ananinso ubalewo ngati zoyembekeza zazikuluzikulu sizikugwirizana molakwika

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4. Kusatetezeka kukhoza kukusokonezani

N’chifukwa chiyani maubwenzi akutali amalephera? Linda, wophunzira wazaka 24 wochokera ku Massachusetts yemwe ali pachibwenzi chakutali ndi chibwenzi chake, anati, “Nthawi zonse ndimada nkhawa ndi zomwe akuchita akamalephera kuyankha kwa maola ambiri. Ndipo akamacheza ndi anthu omwe sindinawamvepo kapena kuwaonapo kale, nkhawa yomwe imandipatsa imawononga ubalewo ndipo siiyenera. Kodi pali phindu lanji kukhalabe mu chinthu chomwe chimangondipangitsa kukayikira kuti wina akundichitira zinthu zosakhulupirika?”

Ndipo sali yekha. Malinga ndi deta yomwe inasonkhanitsidwa mu kafukufuku wochitidwa pa anthu 311, zinadziwika kuti okwatirana omwe amakhala kutali omwe sanakumane maso ndi maso nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mavuto ambiri okhulupirirana.

Momwe mungachitire

• Limbikitsani kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima: Limbikitsani malo omwe onse awiri amadzimva kukhala otetezeka kufotokoza zakukhosi. Limbikitsani kukhulupirirana pomvetsera mwachidwi ndi kutsimikizira zowawa za wina ndi mzake
• Kutsimikizira pafupipafupi: Perekani chitsimikiziro mwa kutsimikizira ndi mawu ndi chikondi. Kumbutsani wokondedwa wanu za kudzipereka kwanu ndi chikondi nthawi zonse
• Pangani chikhulupiriro: Khalani omveka pazochita zanu ndi zolinga zanu. Khazikitsani maziko okhulupirira mwa kutsatira malonjezo, ngakhale ang'onoang'ono, monga kufika pa nthawi yake
• Chongani zomwe zimayambitsa: Onani zomwe zimayambitsa kusatetezeka. Gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti muthe kuthana ndi mavuto ndikukulitsa chidaliro mu ubale
• Kudzidalira payekha: Ganizirani za munthu payekha Kudzidalira. Limbikitsani zochita zomwe zimalimbikitsa kukula ndi kudzidalira
• Fufuzani chitsogozo cha akatswiri: Ganizirani za chithandizo cha maanja kapena upangiri kuti muthetse kusatetezeka kozama. Upangiri wa akatswiri atha kupereka zida zolimbikitsira ubale ndikuwongolera kusatetezeka.

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5. Mumasiya kuchita zinthu limodzi

Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo kuti, “Kodi ndi zizindikiro ziti zimene zikusonyeza kuti wasiya kuchita nawo chibwenzi chotalikirana? Chinthu chabwino kwambiri pa LDR ndikuti mumapeza nthawi yokwanira yodzichitira nokha. Nthawi zonse zomwe sizikugwiritsidwa ntchito pamasiku zimakusiyirani mwayi wodzikuza. Koma nayi mbali yake: nthawi yokwanira iyi yochita zanu ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimawononga ubale wautali.

Chowonadi ndi chakuti simukuchita nawo zinthu limodzi. Kungakhale kusewera masewera a pa intaneti limodzi kapena kuphunzira kusewera chida. Pamene cholinga chachikulu cha kukula chili pa inu nokha, pali mwayi woti inu ndi mnzanuyo mungayambe kusiyana maganizo ndipo pamapeto pake simukugwirizana chilichonse. Chifukwa chake, ngati lingaliro lakuti, "Ndikumva ngati ndili kutali ndi inu", lakugwerani mu LDR, kumbukirani, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zingathetse ubale wautali.

Momwe mungachitire

• Dziwaninso zomwe mudagawana nazo: Dziwani ndikuwonanso zochitika zomwe mudasangalalira limodzi. Yesetsani kugwirizanitsa zinthu zodziwika bwino muzochita zanu, ngakhale zenizeni. Mutha kufufuza masewera a pa intaneti, makalasi olimbitsa thupi pa intaneti, ndi zina
• Konzani nthawi yabwino: Patulani nthaŵi yodzipatulira yochitira zinthu pamodzi, ngakhale ngati zimenezo zitanthauza kudyera limodzi chakudya pavidiyo. Pali mapulogalamu a maanja akutali, monga Cupla, omwe amakuthandizani kuti mulunzanitse ndandanda yanu
• Dziwani zatsopano zokonda: Yambitsani zochitika zatsopano zapaintaneti ndi zinthu kwa maanja otalikirana kuti ubale ukhale wolimba. Landirani mwayi wogawana nawo maphunziro ndi kufufuza
• Sankhani mausiku amakanema enieni: Konzani mausiku amakanema kapena sinthani mitsinje ya Netflix yolumikizidwa. Gwiritsani ntchito ukadaulo muubwenzi wanu kuthetsa kusiyana kwa thupi
• Kulumikizana pazokonda: Kambiranani zokonda za wina ndi mnzake pazochita zapaintaneti. Pezani ndalama zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zokonda za onse awiri
• Konzani zochita zamtsogolo: Kupatula zinthu za maanja otalikirana, yang'anani mwachidwi zochitika zamtsogolo zapamtima. Kambiranani ndi kukonzekera maulendo kapena tchuthi kuti mugawane zokumana nazo pamasom'pamaso

6. Palibe tsiku lomaliza lomwe likuwonekera ndi lomwe limapha maubwenzi apatali

Claire, mnzanga amenenso ndi loya wa zaka 28 wa ku Florida, anakhala paubwenzi wapatali ndi Joe, yemwe amakhala ku New York, kwa zaka ziwiri. Ankayembekezera kuti kusiyana kwa nthawi yaitali kumeneku kudzatha pamene Joe anamuuza kuti afunika kukhala kutali chifukwa kampani imene ankagwira ntchitoyo inali kumutumiza ku Korea kuti akayambe ntchito yawo yatsopano. Atamufunsa kuti adzabwera liti, iye anati sakudziwa ndipo pangatenge zaka zingapo.

Iye anati, “Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoonekeratu kuti akutaya chidwi ndi chibwenzi chakutali. Ndikuganiza kuti sitingakumanenso.” Kenako anaganiza zothetsa chibwenzi ndi Joe ndipo anamuuza kuti, “Chibwenzi chakutalichi chikundipha chifukwa chikuoneka kuti sichidzatha.” Anatha kugawikana posakhalitsa.

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Izi sizachilendo kwa okwatirana a LDR. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina , pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a maubwenzi akutali amatha chifukwa okwatirana alibe nthawi yodziwira nthawi yomwe angakhale limodzi mwakuthupi.

Momwe mungachitire

• Khazikitsani dongosolo lomveka bwino: Gwirani ntchito limodzi kukhazikitsa nthawi yeniyeni yotseka mtunda. Yang'ananinso nthawi zonse ndikusintha ndondomekoyi pamene zinthu zikusintha
• Kulankhulana pafupipafupi zamtsogolo: Khalani ndi zokambirana zomasuka za zolinga zanthawi yayitali ndi zokhumba. Onetsetsani kuti onse awiri akugwirizana mu masomphenya awo amtsogolo
• Kuyenderana pafupipafupi: Konzani zocheza ndi inu nokha kuti muwononge nthawi yabwino pamodzi. Kuyendera pafupipafupi kumathandizira kuti kulumikizana kusungike ndikupangitsa chiyembekezo
• Pitirizani kusinthasintha: Khalani omasuka kusintha ndondomeko kutengera zinthu zakunja. Kusinthasintha ndi kusinthasintha ndizofunikira pokumana ndi zovuta zosayembekezereka
• Pangani zochitika zazikulu: Khazikitsani zochitika zokondwerera kupita patsogolo kwa ubale. Zochitika zazikulu zimapereka lingaliro lachipambano
• Onani zomwe mungasamukire: Kambiranani mapulani osamuka omwe angachitike ndikuwona njira zothandiza kuti izi zitheke. Fufuzani mwayi wa ntchito, zosankha za nyumba, ndi zina zogwirira ntchito

7. Kusowa ubwenzi wapamtima 

Chomwe chimapha maubwenzi akutali nthawi zambiri ndi kusowa kugonana komanso kukondana mwakuthupi . Izi zimawonjezeranso chiopsezo cha kusakhulupirika muubwenzi wakutali. Mu kafukufuku , 66% ya omwe adafunsidwa adati kusowa kukondana mwakuthupi ndiye chifukwa chachikulu chomwe zinthu zimasokonekera. Kusowa kugonana kapena kukondana sikuthetsa nthawi zonse ubale wakutali, koma nthawi zambiri kumalepheretsa kupanga ubale wolimba.

Momwe mungachitire

• Ubwenzi weniweni: Kuyambira kugonana kotentha pavidiyo mpaka kutumizirana mameseji, chitani zomwe mungathe kuti mumve kukhala ogwirizana kwambiri ndi okondedwa wanu pakugonana
• Gawani ma selfies: Gawani ma selfies achigololo ndi okondedwa anu nthawi zosiyanasiyana masana
• Mafilimu amasiku ano: Onerani makanema olaula ndi mnzanu pamapulogalamu ogawana pakompyuta kuti musangalatse
• Gawani zongopeka: Gawani zokhumbira zanu zakuzama zakugonana kudzera pa foni kapena meseji

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8. Osayembekezera zovuta zomwe LDR imabweretsa 

Kodi mumadziwa bwanji ngati munthu wanzeru (LDR) ndiye woyenera kwa inu? Ndi funso lovuta kuyankha, ndipo anthu ambiri amavutika kudziwa ngati ayenera kupitiriza ubale wautali ngakhale zinthu zitavuta kapena kusiya ubale ndi kupitiriza. Kupatula apo, ambiri sayembekezera kuchuluka kwa mavuto omwe munthu wanzeru (LDR) angabweretse. Kafukufuku wina akuti 70% ya maubwenzi akutali amatha chifukwa cha kusintha kosayembekezereka kwa zinthu. Koma pali njira zothetsera vutoli.

Momwe mungachitire

• Yembekezerani zosayembekezereka: Pankhani yokonzekera zam'tsogolo, ogwira nawo ntchito ku LDRs ayenera kukhala okonzekera zovuta kwambiri, kaya mnzanuyo akupeza munthu watsopano kapena zolinga zanu zikusintha.
• Kambiranani zinthu zomwe zingabwere pasadakhale: Muyenera kukambirana nthawi zonse za zovuta zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala osagwirizana, monga kuopa kusakhulupirika kapena kusalankhulana.
• Konzani misonkhano ya sabata iliyonse kuti mukambirane zomwe zikuchitika: Ngati sichoncho tsiku ndi tsiku, konzekerani kuyimba foni mlungu uliwonse kuti mukambirane zomwe mukukumana nazo kale ndikulembera tsogolo
• Konzani zinthu mwachangu: Asanayambe snowball kukhala chinachake chimene chingasokoneze mgwirizano wanu, kuthetsa zonse mavuto a ubale ngati nkotheka

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9. Kutengerana mosasamala kumapha maubwenzi akutali

Kusaimbira foni kapena kutumiza mameseji pamene munalonjezana, kuchedwetsa mapulani okumana, ndi kusalankhulana, kapena kupereka chisamaliro—izi ndi njira zing’onozing’ono zimene okwatirana amatengerana mopepuka mu LDRs. Zochita izi zitha kukhala zowononga kwambiri m'kupita kwanthawi, zomwe zimabweretsa kufa pang'onopang'ono kwa ubale wanu. 

Momwe mungachitire

• Onetsani kuthokoza nthawi zonse: Khalani ndi chizolowezi choyamikira mnzanuyo. Nenani mawu othokoza chifukwa cha manja akulu ndi ang'onoang'ono, kuti mulimbikitse phindu
• Ikani patsogolo manja oganiza bwino: Pitirizani kuchita zinthu zosonyeza chisamaliro. Dabwitsani wokondedwa wanu ndi zizindikiro zazing'ono zachikondi kapena mauthenga ochokera pansi pamtima
• Konzani nthawi yabwino: Perekani nthawi yabwino kuti mulumikizane ngakhale patali. Yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu zokambirana zogwira mtima ndi ntchito
• Kondwererani zomwe mwapambana komanso zopambana: Zindikirani ndi kusangalala wina ndi mzake akwaniritsa. Gawani nawo chisangalalo cha zomwe mwachita kuti mulimbikitse chidwi chothandizira
• Onetsetsani kuti mwalowa muubwenzi nthawi zonse: Kambiranani moona mtima za momwe mukumvera muubwenzi. Yang'anani madandaulo aliwonse okhudza kumva kuti atengedwa mopepuka mwachangu
• Lingalirani zamphamvu zaubwenzi: Nthawi zonse fufuzani mphamvu za chiyanjano ndikusintha makhalidwe moyenerera. Khalani ndi chidwi ndi khama lofunika kuti mukhalebe ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu

10. Palibe masomphenya a tsogolo logawana

Chiwopsezo chimodzi chobisika koma champhamvu pa ubale wakutali ndi kusakhala ndi masomphenya ofanana amtsogolo. Pamene chiyembekezo chikuwoneka chosatsimikizika, ndipo okwatirana akunyalanyaza kuganiza za moyo pamodzi, maziko a ubalewo akhoza kutha. Muyenera kukhala ndi masomphenya ofanana, zolinga zofanana, ndi mapu otsekera mtunda. Kuthana ndi mavuto a kulekana kwa thupi kumafuna kudzipereka kofanana ku tsogolo.

Momwe mungachitire

• Yambitsani zokambirana zotseguka: Yambani kukambirana moona mtima komanso momasuka za mapulani anthawi yayitali ndi zolinga zanzeru za ubale wanu. Limbikitsani okondedwa anu kuti afotokoze zomwe akufuna komanso zomwe akuyembekezera m'tsogolomu
• Khazikitsani nthawi: Gwirizanani ndi kukhazikitsa nthawi yeniyeni ya nthawi yomwe mtunda ukhoza kulumikizidwa. Gwirani masitepe ndi zochitika zofunika kuti tsogolo lomwe mwagawana likwaniritsidwe
• Yang'ananinso mapulani pafupipafupi: Konzani zokambirana zanthawi ndi nthawi kuti muwunikenso ndikusintha mapulani amtsogolo. Sinthani nthawi yoyenera, poganizira kusintha kwa moyo wanu kapena kunja
• Limbikitsani zolinga zanu: Limbikitsani wina ndi mzake kukwaniritsa zolinga zomwe zimagwirizana ndi masomphenya omwe ali nawo
• Ikani ndalama zochezera ndi nthawi yokumana maso ndi maso: Yang'anani kuyenderana kwanuko kuti mulimbikitse kulumikizana. Nthawi ya maso ndi maso imapereka chidziwitso chowoneka cha tsogolo logawana ndikulimbitsa kudzipereka

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11. Kupanda kugwirizana maganizo

Kusowa kwa mgwirizano wamaganizo muubwenzi mukakhala kutali ndi mnzanu kungakhale kupha chete kwa ubale. Kusowa kwa ubale wapafupi kungayambitse mtunda wamaganizo ngati sikunayankhidwe mwachangu. Kunyalanyaza mbali yamalingaliro yaubwenzi kungapangitse kuti pakhale malo opanda kanthu omwe mawu okha kapena kuyanjana kwapaintaneti sikungathe kudzaza. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofala kwambiri muubwenzi wakutali. Kusunga mgwirizano wakuya wamaganizo ndikofunikira kwambiri pothana ndi kulekana kwakuthupi ndikuteteza ubalewo ku chiopsezo cha kusagwirizana kwamalingaliro.

Momwe mungachitire

• Ikani patsogolo kulumikizana kwabwino: Limbikitsani zokambirana zatanthauzo komanso zakuya kuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano wamalingaliro. Gawani malingaliro, zomverera, ndi zokumana nazo moona mtima kuti mutseke kusiyana kwamalingaliro
• Chitani nawo ntchito zogawana: Pangani malo ogawana nawo pochita nawo zochitika limodzi. Izi zingaphatikizepo kuwerenga buku lomwelo, kuonera mafilimu nthawi imodzi, kapena kusewera masewera a pa intaneti
• Nthawi zonse sonyezani chikondi: Nenani za chikondi ndi chikondi nthawi zonse. Manja ang'onoang'ono, monga kutumiza mauthenga ochokera pansi pamtima kapena kusiya mawu odabwa, akhoza kupita kutali
• Kulitsani kukhulupirirana ndi kusatetezeka: Pangani maziko okhulupirirana pomasuka komanso osatetezeka ndi mnzanu. Gawani mantha, ziyembekezo, ndi maloto kuti mupange mgwirizano wozama wamalingaliro
• Konzani tsogolo limodzi: Kambiranani, funsani mafunso, ndi kukonzekera za m’tsogolo, kulimbitsa mgwirizano wamalingaliro. Kupanga zilakolako zolumikizana kungathandize kwambiri kuti mukhalebe ogwirizana

12. Kusintha kwa makhalidwe, zolinga, ndi umunthu

Malo atsopano, malo atsopano, mabwenzi atsopano, ntchito yatsopano, yunivesite yatsopano, dziko latsopano - zonsezi pang'onopang'ono zimatha kusintha momwe munthu amaonera moyo. Ngakhale kuti pangakhale chikondi chenicheni muubwenzi wautali, kusintha komwe kumabweretsa mu umunthu wa munthu kumatha kukhudza zinthu mpaka kufika poti okwatirana sangadziwe ngati zolinga zawo zikugwirizana pakapita nthawi.

Izi zingapangitse kuti pakhale kusamvana. Zoonadi, mu ubale, mukuyenera kusinthika ndikukula ndi mnzanu. Koma nonse mukakhala ndi malo osiyana kwambiri akuzungulirani, kukula kofanana sikutheka.

Momwe mungachitire

• Kambiranani zosintha: Ngati m'modzi wa inu akusintha kwambiri moyo wawo, mudziwitse winayo ndikukambirana zomwe zasintha 
• Tsimikizirani anzanu/mabwenzi atsopano: Muzisinthana pafupipafupi za anthu omwe mumakumana nawo kapena ocheza nawo, kuti mupewe zovuta / kupsinjika / kusatetezeka
• Lankhulani kuti mupewe kusamvana: Konzani zolankhulana pafupipafupi kuti mupewe kusemphana maganizo komwe kungapangitse kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta kwambiri

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Chifukwa chaukadaulo womwe tili nawo masiku ano, mtunda sulinso vuto lalikulu. Ngakhale simungathe kukumana ndi boo wanu, mutha kuwawona pavidiyo mukawaphonya kwambiri. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina, anthu 55 pa 100 alionse a ku America amene akhala ku LDR ananena kuti nthawi imene amakhala kutali inawachititsa kuti ayambe kugwirizana kwambiri ndi mnzawo m’kupita kwa nthawi. Enanso 81% adanenanso kuti kukhala paubwenzi wautali kumapangitsa kuti maulendo enieni azikhala okondana kwambiri kuposa masiku onse, chifukwa chamwambowu.

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Chowonadi chovuta n'chakuti mtunda wautali ukavuta, mumakhala ndi chisankho. Ndipo nthawi zina mumadziuza kuti, “Ndikumva ngati ndilibe mgwirizano” kapena “Ndimamukonda koma sindingathe kuyenda mtunda wautali”, ngakhale kuti ndinu ogwirizana kwambiri, njira yabwino yothetsera mavuto a ubale wautali ndi kungosiya . Nazi zina mwazochitika zomwe ubale wanu sungathe kukonzedwa:

1. Pamene mukumva chisoni muubwenzi

Ngati mukumva chisoni chifukwa choti mwasowa chibwenzi chanu, mungachitepo kanthu. Mutha kulankhula nawo, kuwaona kudzera pa kanema, ndikukumana nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungathe. Koma ngati chiyembekezo chokumana kapena kulankhula ndi mnzanu sichikukusangalatsani kapena ngati mukuwaona akukuyimbirani foni ndipo simukufuna kuwayankha, zimenezo zikusonyeza kuti muli paubwenzi wosasangalala ndipo ndi bwino kusachedwetsa.

2. Pamene inu ndi wokondedwa wanu muli ndi zolinga zosiyana

Chimodzi mwa zovuta za maubwenzi apatali ndi kusiyana kwa zomwe nonse mukufuna. Anthu osiyanasiyana ali ndi makhalidwe osiyanasiyana ndipo nthawi zina chikondi sichingathetse kusiyanako. Ngati mukuyembekeza kuti mudzakumananso patapita miyezi ingapo / zaka koma mnzanuyo alibe tsiku lokhazikika lobwerera ndipo sakudandaula kupitiriza mpaka kalekale, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuthetsa chibwenzicho.

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3. Pamene wokondedwa wanu wasiya kuyika ndalama muubwenzi

Chifukwa chomwe LDR imavutira kwambiri ndichakuti mumasowa wokondedwa wanu kwambiri. Kusinthaku kumatha kusokonekera chifukwa cha kusatsimikizika kosapeweka muubwenzi . Kuti muthane nako, muyenera kupatsa mnzanu chikondi, chisamaliro, komanso nthawi yambiri. Muyenera kuyesetsa mokwanira muubwenzi kuti mnzanuyo amve kuti ndi wotetezeka. Imeneyi ndiyo njira yabwino yothetsera nkhawa zaubwenzi wautali. Koma ngati mnzanuyo sakuvutika kuchita khama ngakhale pang'ono, muyenera kuganiziranso zaubwenziwu.

4. Pamene wokondedwa wanu si munthu woyamba kudziwa za moyo wanu

Chizindikiro chimodzi chachikulu ubale wanu wautali uli m'magawo ake omaliza ndikuti mukalandira uthenga wabwino / woipa ndipo mukufuna kugawana ndi wina, munthu woyamba amene amalowa m'mutu mwanu si mnzanu. Ngati mnzanuyo wasiya kukhala malo oyamba ochezera kuti agawane zosintha zofunika, ndi chizindikiro chakuti ubale wanu watha kale.

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Maganizo Final

Tsopano popeza mukudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi nkhani za ubale wautali, kumbukirani kuti, si chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimawononga LDR. M'malo mwake, ndi mndandanda wa zochita zazing'ono. Komabe, kunyalanyaza, kusadzidalira, ndi kusalankhulana ndi zina mwa mavuto omwe amapha ubale wautali.

Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti izi ndi zinthu zomwe zimatha kusanjidwa ngati zitagwidwa ndikugwiritsiridwa ntchito koyambirira. Ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti malangizo athu a maubwenzi apatali akuthandizani kuti mukhale nokha komanso ubale wanu. Momwemonso, tsopano popeza mukudziwa zomwe zimapha maubwenzi apatali, tikukhulupirira kuti nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kusunga yanu. 

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