Umshado uvame ukwenziwa owothando njengohambo lothando nobungane, kodwa empeleni, ungazizwa ufana nenkundla yempi. Kusukela ezintweni ezithandekayo eziphenduke izithukuthezi kuye ekubeni yizingcweti zezimpi ezithule kanye nokuqeda ukulwa kwamasu, lesi senzo esihlekisayo sihlola ukuphakama nokwehla okungenakugwemeka kwempilo yomshado. Kusikhumbuza ukuthi umshado onempilo awuphathelene nokuphelela futhi umayelana nokufunda ukulwa, ukuhlalisana, futhi ekugcineni uthole amahlaya ezinxushunxushwini.
Izifundo Zothando, Izimpi, Nokusinda
Okuqukethwe
Ngakho usuzoshada. Siyakuhalalisela (hhayi!). Siyakwamukela ku-War. Omunye uzobe ulwa izinsuku eziningi.
Ucabanga ukuthi iyathandeka indlela umlingani wakho adla ngayo ushokoledi oshisayo? Ingxenye lapho eshiya khona ushokoledi kancane esilevini sakhe…Nikeza iminyaka emibili. Uzofuna ukuklebhula ikhanda lakhe lapho ubona lelobala elinsundu esilevini sakhe futhi.
Futhi uma ecabanga ukuthi indlela okhuluma ngayo njalo ikwenza ube iqhawe lefilimu lesi-Hindi, ngithembe, uzofuna ukukuphonsela isilawuli kude sethelevishini ngesikhathi esizayo lapho ufuna ukukhuluma naye maphakathi nochungechunge lwe-Indo-Pak mayelana nendlela asekuyeke ngayo ukukuthanda.
Umshado uyindawo yempi futhi kunezigaba ezine kule mpi.
Ukukhuluma: Imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni obusha ivulekele kakhulu kule ndlela yokulwa. Batshelana konke okungena engqondweni yabo. Njengokungathi usawoti ekudleni wawumncane. Noma ungcolise ibhakede lami lamanzi ngokufaka umunwe kulo ukuze uhlole ukuthi liyashisa yini (indaba eyiqiniso). Uyalwa. Uzama ukuqonda olunye uhlangothi. Awukwenzi kodwa usalungisa izinto. Futhi awukaze ulale ulwa - isithembiso sempilo eyisikhombisa.
Thula i-F*** up: Lesi sigaba siqala kwesangaphambilini ngoba ukukhuluma ngaso akusebenzanga. Ngakho uqala ukungasinaki. Ufunda ukuthi ukudla kunambitheka kahle ngisho nalapho ulele. Ufunda ukungasinaki umlingani wakho usebenzisa ikamu lakho.
Kuze kube ngolunye usuku oluhle, izinwele zakho ezinamathele ekamu lomlingani wakho zibonakala zingaphezu kwamandla akhe futhi uphuma zonke izibhamu zivutha futhi ulwa nezibhamu ze-pellet izinyembezi umkhumbuza ukuthi uzinikele kangakanani ngenxa yakhe - ukudla kwasolwandle ngenxa yenkukhu, i-Asian phezu kwenkukhu yenkukhu, umndeni, abangani, i-cinema yamazwe ngamazwe futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nomsebenzi wezihlabani (ngubani owaziyo). Iconsi elilodwa lonyembezi kumuntu ngamunye. Konke lokhu okwekama.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Izigaba Eziyi-9 Zomshado Ofayo
Uvala i-f*** bese ungasebenzisa ikamu futhi ngokuthula…ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezizayo okungenani.
Ukuphela Kokulwa: Ukufenda okuningi, ukubhodla kanye namahlaya aphindaphindayo kamuva ubheka umlingani wakho ngothando oluningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ube yivila. Manje sekuyisikhathi sokwamukelana. (Akunjalo ngempela). Kodwa nifunda ukuhlala ndawonye ngamaphutha omunye nomunye. Leso sisu esincane ngaphansi kwehembe kanye nomugqa wezinwele obuyela emuva. Futhi uthanda izinwele esikhumbeni sakho phakathi kwama-aphoyintimenti okuwaxisa (uyangihlekisa?). Womabili amaqembu alwayo asesebenzise amandla awo futhi asekhathele ukuxabana, ukuxabana futhi ekugcineni avumelana ukungavumelani.
Utshani buluhlaza: Bese ubona laba abanye abashadile abakuzungezile ababonakala bejabule kakhulu uze uthole imfihlo yabo. Bonke banezimo zothando eceleni. Ubonga izinkanyezi zakho ngokuthi akekho onesithakazelo esiswini esiseduze kwakho bese ubuyela ekhaya ubambene ngezandla ekushoneni kwelanga. Kuze kube yilapho ephuma endlini yokugezela bese ebuza, “Uphinde wasebenzisa ikamu lami?”
Umshado awukufundisi, thando. Emshadweni ophilile , ufunda ukulwa.
Kusukela ekumemezeni okungenangqondo kuya esu lempi elihlakaniphile. Umshado ukufundisa ukuthi ungasula kanjani umlando wakho wokuphequlula kanye nengxoxo, ukuthi ungaqamba kanjani amanga kumlingani wakho ngobuso obuqondile. Ungalikhipha kanjani lelo bhili leziphuzo ezimbili ngaphambi kokuba ufike ekhaya lapho ubusebenza ebusuku kakhulu.
Ukufunda Okuhlobene: Lapho umyeni wami owayengathandi ukuba ngumsekeli wami omkhulu
Kodwa uma usafuna ukushada yenzani ngazo zonke izindlela, ngoba ngempela ngalezo zinsuku zobumnyama lapho engekho eduze kwakho uyohlala unaye lomuntu owashada naye. Manje-ke kuthiwani uma bekwi-laptop yabo noma ocingweni ngaso sonke isikhathi? Ngisho nokubuka kude kuleso sikrini ukumoyizela kuyakufanelekela. Ukubuka leyo filimu isonto ngalinye kanye nokuphikisana ngokuthi ubani odla ama-popcorn amaningi kuyakufanelekela. Ukuhleka ezinye izithandani ezivela kubhamuza lomshado wakho kuwufanele.
Kuyimpi engapheli namaqembu womabili alimele, ashiswa futhi aqhunyiswa. Kanti nokho bavuka emlotheni bafaka leso sithombe esisodwa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana esinama likes angamakhulu. #forsevenlifetimes. Futhi iqala kabusha.
Futhi ngezinye izikhathi umshado uwuchungechunge lwesivivinyo, njengoba uRuku Taneja ebhala.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
1. Lisho ukuthini igama elithi “War Zone Marriage”?
Kubhekiselwa emshadweni ogcwele izingxabano eziqhubekayo, ukungaqondi, nezimpi ezingokomzwelo, lapho abalingani bezabalaza ukuhlalisana ngokuzwana.
2. Yiziphi izigaba ezijwayelekile zomshado “weNdawo Yezimpi”?
- Yakha: Ukungezwani okuncane kukhuphukela ekubeni izingxabano eziqhubekayo.
- Ukungqubuzana: Izimpi ezivamile, ukusola, namagqubu kulawula ukusebenzelana.
- I-Stalemate: Ukuxhumana kuyehla; ibanga elingokomzwelo liyakhula.
- Ukulungiswa noma Ukwehlukaniswa: Imibhangqwana ifuna usizo lokuphulukisa noma inqume ukwehlukana.
3. Yiziphi izimbangela eziyinhloko zokungezwani emishadweni?
Izinkinga ezivamile zihlanganisa ukukhulumisana okubi, ukucindezeleka ngokwezimali, ukungathembeki, okulindelwe okungafezeki, nokuntuleka kokusondelana ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba.
Imicabango Final
Umshado, njenganoma yiluphi ubudlelwano, ubhekene nezinselele zawo, kodwa akudingeki uzizwe njengempi yempi. Isihluthulelo sisekuqapheleni ukuthi izingxabano zilimaza nini ubudlelwano futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokuzivikela ukuze uzixazulule. Yonke imishado inamandla okukhula, kodwa idinga umzamo, uzwela, futhi ngokuvamile, isiqondiso sangaphandle. Khumbula, izingxabano azichazi umshado wakho; indlela ozixazulula ngayo iyachaza. Ungalindi ukuthi umonakalo ujule. Abeluleki bethu abangochwepheshe balapha ukukusiza ukuthi wakhe kabusha ukwethembana, ubuyisele ukuxhumana, futhi uthole ukuthula ebuhlotsheni bakho.
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“Futhi ngezinye izikhathi umshado uwuchungechunge lwezilingo”: kusho ngempela!
Umshado unezikhathi eziningi ezinhle nezingezinhle kodwa umbhangqwana ufunana okungcono kakhulu! Ingqikithi yangempela yobudlelwano ilele kulokhu kwehla nokwenyuka okuncane kanye nokunakekelana.