Ngidinga Isikhala – Iyiphi Indlela Engcono Kakhulu Yokucela Isikhala Ebudlelwaneni

UCarrie Bradshaw ugqugquzele imibhangqwana eminingi ukuthi ixoxe ngesikhala sobudlelwano lapho egcina indlu yakhe yakudala ukuze ajabulele "isikhathi sami" kude nomyeni wakhe, uMnu. Uma usothandweni, uhlala ebhamuza lenganekwane yothando, ukuzwa amagama athi “Ngidinga isikhala” kumlingani wakho kungakubuyisela phansi ngokushesha. Okunzima nakakhulu ukujabulisa umcabango wokuthi kungenzeka kube nguwe odinga kakhulu isikhala esivela kumlingani wakho. Kuyavunywa ukuthi uyabathanda, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele unamathele ku-hip 24*7.  

Ukufunda indlela yokubeka imingcele ukuze ningahlaseli isikhala somunye nomunye kuwubuqili. Sidayiselwa amanga ahlanganiswe kahle okuthi uma usothandweni, ufuna ukuhlala ucatshukiswa ukuba khona komlingani wakho. Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Imfihlo yobudlelwano obunempilo nobubude ukuqonda ukuthi nobabili ninobunikazi obuthile obudinga indawo yokukhula. 

Ngenxa yokuthi abantu abaningi besaba ukuthi ukuthi “Ngidinga isikhala” kufana nokuthi “Ngifuna ukuhlukana”, abakaze batshele abalingani babo imizwa yabo. Ngakho-ke uma ubulokhu uzibuza ukuthi ungamtshela kanjani umuntu ukuthi udinga isikhala ngaphandle kokulimaza imizwa yakhe, silapha ukuzokusiza. Sithole indlela engcono kakhulu yokucela isikhala ebudlelwaneni ngosizo lukaShazia Saleem (Masters in Psychology), ogxile ekwelulekeni ngokwehlukana kanye nokwehlukanisa.

Umtshela Kanjani Ngesizotha Umuntu Odinga Isikhala? 

Wonke umuntu udinga ibhalansi enempilo phakathi kokuchitha isikhathi esihle nabanye kanye nabo. Uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola leli bhalansi ebudlelwaneni, ungase uzizwe sengathi awunaso isikhala esanele sokuphefumula. Noma ukuthi asikho isikhala esisele empilweni yakho sokuba nguwe nje, uma ubheka imithwalo yemfanelo yakho, izinkundla zokuxhumana, kanye nempilo yomndeni.

“Kubalulekile ukuba nemingcele enempilo necacile ebudlelwaneni kusukela ekuqaleni. Esikhathini esiningi, ukuze bahlabe umxhwele noma banikeze ukunaka okwengeziwe kwabanye ababalulekile, abantu bayazishaya indiva noma bazame ukuba umuntu abangesiye. Yilokhu kanye okwenza ukufuna isikhala kube yisidingo esiphuthumayo sesikhathi esithile kamuva. Kungcono ukucaca kusukela osukwini lokuqala bese ubeka imingcele engokoqobo,” kusho uShazia.

Isidingo sokuba wedwa singokwemvelo futhi akufanele sifakwe ebhodleleni. Uma ubambeke phakathi kwenkinga yokuthi “Ngidinga isikhala” futhi ungazi ukuthi ungasho kanjani ukuthi udinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni ngaphandle kokulimaza isithandwa sakho, ake sikusize. Nazi ezinye izindlela ongacela ngazo isikhala ngaphandle kokulimaza imizwa yabo: 

1. Chaza ukuthi usho ukuthini ngesikhala 

“Ngidinga indawo” kungasho izinto eziningi. Ukuthi udinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni, okokuqala udinga ukuchaza umlingani wakho ukuthi iyini incazelo yakho yesikhala. Abantu abaningi bafisa nje indawo encane ukuze babe yibona noma baqhumise umusi othile. Uma ucela isikhala, awusho neze ukuthi unemicabango eyimfihlo yokuhlala ngokwehlukana futhi awuphakamisi ukuthi uthathe ikhefu ebuhlotsheni.

Kwesinye isikhathi okudingayo nje intambama yamahhala ukuze wenze noma yini oyifunayo, noma ngabe ukubamba inkomishi yekhofi ungenzi lutho noma ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo nabangane bakho. Yazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uma uthi “Ngidinga indawo yami”, usho amahora ambalwa noma izinsuku uwedwa.

Ngokusho kukaShazia, “ Ukukhulumisana okuvulekile ebudlelwaneni kuyisihluthulelo lapha. Khuluma futhi uxoxe nomlingani wakho ukuthi udinga isikhathi sakho. Mchazele ukuthi ngendlela yokuphila ematasa ungase ukhathale noma ukhungatheke futhi isikhathi esincane sokuba wedwa sokujabulela inkomishi yekhofi ngokuthula noma ukuhambahamba kuzokusiza ukuthi uphinde uvuseleleke futhi ungene endaweni ezinzile.”

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2. Thembeka ngezifiso zakho

Beka izaba zokuthi kungani ungakwazi ukubloma njalo uma ufuna umlingani wakho acabange ukuthi awusamthandi/ungamthandi. Kodwa, uma ufuna nje ukuxhumana "Ngidinga isikhala", thembeka. Yebo kungase kube nzima ukuveza indaba yokucela indawo ngoba wesaba ukuthi bazoyithatha ngendlela engafanele. Kodwa-ke, ukugwema isihloko nokunikeza kuphela imikhondo emboziwe kuzokwehlisela endleleni engalungile.

Bazoqaphela ukuthi anisabonani njengoba benibona ngaphambili, futhi bazozama ukuthola ukuthi kungani. Qiniseka ukuthi ekufuneni kwakho isikhala, umlingani wakho akashiywa ekholelwa ukuthi uyamshiya. Kungcono ukuba neqiniso kunokubanika isizathu sokucabanga ukuthi uyamshiya ngoba nakanjani kuzodala umonakalo ongenakulungiswa.

3. Qaphela amazwi akho

Uma umuntu engakuniki isikhala esanele sokuphefumula, kungase kube ukucindezeleka. Kodwa lokhu akudingeki kube yingxabano. Kungabantu ababili kuphela ebudlelwaneni abanokulindela okuhlukile. Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi akekho okufanele asolwe lapha. Ukwazi ukuthi udinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni kungase kungaziveli ngokwemvelo kuwe, futhi kungaba yindaba ethinta inhliziyo ngoba kungenza umlingani wakho acabange ukuthi uyakulahlekelwa noma kungabangela izinkinga zokulahlwa.

“Njalo zama ukukhumbula ngaphambi kokukhuluma. Amazwi owake wawakhuluma ngeke abuyiselwe emuva. Zama ukuveza imizwa yakho ngesizotha nangobumnene. Okubaluleke kakhulu nakekela iphimbo lakho. Indlela osho ngayo into yenza umehluko omkhulu,” kunezela uShazia. Qiniseka ukuthi awulahlekelwa ukulawula imizwa yakho. Thatha ikhefu kaningi ngendlela oyidingayo, futhi uxoxe ngalokhu kuphela namakhanda azolile ekamelweni. Amazwi akho kufanele abe umuthi wezilonda zabo hhayi inkemba ehlabayo enhliziyweni yabo.

4. Bavumele baveze okubakhathazayo

Ubudlelwano buwukubambisana, futhi ekubambisaneni, akukho okufanele kube yindlela eyodwa. Kufanele ukwazi ukuqonda umbono nezidingo zomlingani wakho uma ucela okuthile kuye. Ungamane nje uthi, “Ngidinga isikhala sami”, bese uhamba. Yibani nale ngxoxo lapho nobabili ninesikhathi esanele sokuxoxa ngazo zonke izici ezidingekayo zokudweba kabusha imingcele yesikhala somuntu siqu ebudlelwaneni.

Uma umlingani wakho enanoma yikuphi ukubhuka noma ukukhathazeka, khuluma nakho ngomoya ophansi futhi ngobuqotho ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungathathi imibono yabo ephikisayo kanye nemibono yabo njengomzamo wokukuvimba. Mhlawumbe badinga ulwazi olwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi lesi sidingo sesikhala sisuka kuphi ukuze bakwazi ukugoqa ikhanda labo kuso. Kufanele wenze konke ongakwenza ukuze wenze lokho kube lula, ubaqinisekise, futhi ubafake ebhodini ngombono. 

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5. Bakhumbuze ngothando lwakho 

Ezinye zezinkathazo zozakwenu mayelana nokuthi udinga indawo zingabangwa yisitayela sakhe sokunamathiselwe noma amaphethini okuziphatha kobudlelwano. Ukuthandana kwethu nokuziphatha kwethu kobudlelwano kuthonywa izitayela zethu zokunamathisela noma ukuthi sifundiswe kanjani ukuxhumanisa ngokomzwelo futhi sibonise ububele kwabanye phakathi nokuphila kwethu kwabantu abadala.

Isibonelo, uma umlingani wakho enesitayela sokunamathisela esikhathazayo, uzokuthola kunzima ukuzizwa ekhululekile ebudlelwaneni futhi uzonamathela kuwe ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlwa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma utshela umuntu wakho ukuthi “ngidinga indawo yami”, azokuzwa ukuthi uyamshiya. Esimeni esinjalo, indlela yokusho ukuthi udinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni iba yinto ebalulekile.

Bangase bamangale futhi bacabange ukuthi uyahlehla, ngakho-ke kufanele uzinike isikhathi sokubaqinisekisa. Bazise ukuthi umane ubeka imingcele futhi usabathandi. Ngisho noma ucela ithuba lokucabanga ngesimo sobuhlobo bakho, zwa ukukhathazeka kwabo futhi ungabi umuntu onobugovu.

6. Yenza isivumelwano sikhange nakakhulu 

Ngilitshela kanjani isoka lami ukuthi ngidinga isikhala? Ngikhuluma kanjani ngesihloko sesikhala nentombi yami? Uzakwethu uzosabela kanjani uma ngicela isikhala? Konke lokhu kuwukukhathazeka okusemthethweni, kodwa isisombululo silula - yenza isiphakamiso sithandeke kubo. Nakuba ukuba nendawo yakho kungase kungabonakali njengento enhle ebudlelwaneni, kunezinzuzo kubo bobabili abathintekayo.

Yenza umlingani wakho abone lokho ukuze amenze afudumale embonweni. U-Shazia uyachaza, “Okokuqala, qaphela imizwa nemicabango yakho.Uzifunelani wena?Ziyini izidingo zakho?Isikhala sisho ukuthini kuwena?Zibuze le mibuzo embalwa.Uma usuqinisekile, dlulisela kumlingani wakho ngendlela ekholisayo.” 

Isibonelo, umlingani wakho angase abe nesikhathi sokuphishekela imisebenzi ayilahlile ngemva kokuba nihlangene noma nishadile. Chaza ukuthi isikhala singaba kanjani nomthelela omuhle ebudlelwaneni benu nokuthi sizonizuzisa kanjani nobabili esikhathini eside. Chaza ukuthi lokhu kuzonivumela kanjani ukuba nesisekelo esiqinile ebudlelwaneni benu . Ungashiyi ukunambitheka okumuncu emlonyeni womlingani wakho; kunalokho, mnike uhlangothi oluhle.

Umcela Kanjani Umuntu Othile Ngesikhala Embhalweni?

"Ngingamtshela kanjani isoka lami ukuthi ngidinga isikhala ngaphandle kokuthi ngibhekane nalo?"
“Ngidinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni kodwa ngingakusho kanjani lokhu ebusweni bentombi yami?”
“Angibaboni uma ngibatshela ukuthi ngidinga indawo!”

Izinkinga zokubhekana? Thatha usizo lobuchwepheshe! Ukucela isikhala ngombhalo akuyona inketho engcono kakhulu ngoba kuningi kulahleka ekuhumusheni phakathi nezingxoxo ngombhalo. Kodwa-ke, ukuthi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu kuwe noma cha kuncike esigabeni ubuhlobo bakho obukuso kanye nezimo zakho. Uma umuntu osuthandane naye inyanga yonke eseqala ukukuhlupha, mhlawumbe ukucela isikhala phezu kombhalo kungcono. Sivumele ukuthi sikuphathele le nqubo lula. 

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Ukutshela othile ukuthi “Ngidinga isikhala” akulula njengokumane uthayiphe lawo magama. Kufanele ibe yinkimbinkimbi kakhudlwana ukuze umlayezo wakho udluliselwe ngokucacile futhi ungashiyi indawo yokuxhumana kabi. Ingabe udinga isikhala ngoba ufuna ukwenza umsebenzi othile, noma uzama ukutshela othile ukuthi udinga isikhala ngemva kokukulimaza? Umlayezo kanye nenhloso kufanele kudluliselwe ngokucacile. Ukukusiza ukuthi wenze lokho kanye, nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzikhumbule ukuze uthumele umlayezo wombhalo othi “Ngidinga isikhala” ngaphandle kokuzwakala njengomfowabo omubi we-cupid:

1. Elula futhi eqondile

"Ngidinga isikhala" okusho ukuthi kungavulelwa ukutolika uma kungabhalwanga kahle. Ngakho-ke, qondana futhi wamukele ubuhle bokulula. Nasi isibonelo:

Hey,
Ngisijabulela ngempela isikhathi esisichitha ndawonye kodwa muva nje, nginomuzwa wesidingo sokunaka kakhudlwana ezinye izinto ekuphileni kwami. Ukuthola indawo kungaba okunempilo kakhulu kimi futhi ngizokwazi ukugxila ebudlelwaneni ngendlela esebenza kahle kakhulu.

2. Ungacwili ujule encazelweni

Uma ubudlelwano benu busha, ungakwazi ukweqa incazelo ende yemizwa nemizwelo. Ungangeni ekuchazeni umyalezo wombhalo othi “Ngidinga isikhala” okusho kubo. Kugcine kufushane futhi kumnandi. Bheka umlayezo ongezansi (qhubeka, Ctrl C kanye no-V ku-DM yakho)

Hey,
Uyamangalisa futhi ngibe nesikhathi esingcono kakhulu nawe kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi ngidinga ukuhlehla kulokhu okwamanje. Kodwa lokhu akuthinti ubudlelwano bethu nganoma iyiphi indlela.

Yebo, lokhu bekungeke kusebenze uma kube khona umthwalo. Ngeke ukwazi ukuphumela obala ngale ndlela uma utshela umuntu ukuthi udinga isikhala ngemuva kokukulimaza. Uma ufuna ukuthatha isikhala ngemuva kokulwa, incazelo ethe xaxa ngeke ilimaze.

3. Faka amahlaya athile 

Iseluleko esingcono kakhulu sokuthi ngingatshela kanjani umuntu ukuthi ngidinga isikhala ukuthi ngingenzi into enkulu. Qiniseka ukuthi kulungile ukucela indawo futhi akudingeki uzizwe njengokuphela komhlaba. Kungani ulenza i-villain kuyilapho kungumdlali waseceleni omnandi esiza iqhawe neqhawekazi?

Bathumele umyalezo ohlekisayo othi Ngidinga umlayezo wombhalo wesikhala obonisa ukuthi lena yindlela enempilo yokubeka imingcele. Hhayi usomahlaya wemvelo? Nasi isibonelo sakho:

Hey,
Sindawonye kaningi, ngicabanga ukuthi ngidinga izinsuku ezimbalwa ukuze ngizikhumbuze kunjani ukukukhumbula (faka i-emoji)

Ukucela isikhala phezu kombhalo akuyona inkomishi yetiye yawo wonke umuntu. Ngakho-ke nazi ezinye izibonelo ezimbalwa zokukusiza ukuthi uthumele ukuthi ngidinga umlayezo wombhalo wesikhala kumlingani wakho:

• “Ngiyakuthanda ukuhlala nawe, kodwa kufanele ngigxile kwezinye izinto ezibalulekile isikhathi esithile”
• “Sesinesikhathi eside sindawonye futhi ngikuthanda kakhulu. Kodwa, okwamanje, ngidinga isikhathi ngedwa. Lokhu akubonisi neze indlela engizizwa ngayo ngawe noma ngobuhlobo bethu”
• "Ngaphambi kokuhlangana nawe, bengingashadile isikhathi eside futhi ngiyasikhumbula leso sikhathi. Lobu budlelwano bubaluleke kakhulu kimina kodwa ngidinga indawo ukuze ngibe nesikhathi sami nabangane bami"

Ungalokothi unikeze umlingani wakho imibono namathemba angamanga.Isibonelo, “Siyohlale sindawonye”, “Angifuni ukuphila ngaphandle kwakho umzuzu owodwa” kuyizithembiso ezingaholela ekulindelweni okungafunwa.” Abantu kudingeka babe ngokoqobo, bangokoqobo futhi bathembeke ebudlelwaneni. Yiba nguwe, ungazenzisi,” kwenezela uShazia.

Ngidinga umlayezo wombhalo wesikhala: izibonelo ezi-5

Ukucela isikhala ebuhlotsheni kungaba yinto ekhohlisayo. Kodwa ngemva kwalesi sifundo esincane sokuphahlazeka sendlela yokutshela othile ukuthi ngidinga isikhala, ngethemba ukuthi zonke izisekelo zakho zizohlanganiswa. Noma kunjalo, sethula kuwe izibonelo ezimbalwa ezengeziwe zemilayezo yombhalo ethi "Ngidinga isikhala", ukuze ukwazi ukuthola ukukhukhuleka ngezibonelo.

1. Sawubona ***** (gcwalisa isikhathi sakho sothando osithandayo), ngidinga izinsuku ezimbalwa ngedwa ukuze ngizibeke phakathi nendawo. Ngicela ungakhathazeki futhi ungaboni lokhu njengoba ngifuna ukuhlukana nawe. Ngifuna ukuqabuleka ngaphambi kokuba ngiphinde ngikubone
2. Sawubona ****, ngingathanda ukuzithathela impelasonto futhi ngiphume ndawana thize. Sicela ungakuthathi nganoma iyiphi enye indlela. Ngiyathanda ukuchitha isikhathi ngedwa. Mhlawumbe nawe uyosithola isikhathi sokuqeda leyo ncwadi obuyifunda. Ngitshele ngakho uma sengibuyile
3. Sawubona sithandwa, kulungile yini uma ngichitha isikhathi sami sasemini ngedwa? Cishe ngingaluthatha lolo hambo ngedwa. Ungenza okunye okwamanje. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuzoba kuhle ukuthi sobabili sihlangane sinomfutho omusha
4. Hey hey! Ngisekamelweni lami. Ucabanga ukuthi ungakwazi ukunakekela isidlo sakusihlwa ngaphandle kwami? Ngifuna ukuba ngedwa nje, ngidle udoti futhi ngibuke okuthize. Ukuzizwa nje. Kube yisonto elimatasatasa. Ungazithatheli wena sthandwa. Ngiyakuthanda
5. Uthando! Ngiyakuthanda ukuchitha isikhathi nawe kodwa muva nje, bengilokhu ngifisa isikhathi nami. Kuningi engifuna ukukwenza engingakwazi. Ngethemba ukuthi kulungile uma ngeqa izinhlelo zethu zedethi yempelasonto kulokhu. Ngikudinga ngempela lokhu ❤️

Uphendula Kanjani Kuthi Ngidinga Isikhala Embhalweni?

Ukucela isikhala kothile kuyesabisa. Kodwa ukuba ngakolunye uhlangothi lombuzo nakho kungathusa. Mhlawumbe awuyena ozizwa unesidingo sokuchitha isikhathi wedwa ebudlelwaneni, kodwa umlingani wakho angaba khona. Wonke umuntu unezidingo ezihlukile. Ukuqonda izidingo zabo kuyasiza kuzo zombili izinhlangothi. Bambalwa abantu abaziyo ukuthi bangacela kanjani isikhala kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abaziyo ukuthi bangaphendula kanjani ku-"Ngidinga isikhala" ebudlelwaneni. Lesi yisikhathi lapho ubeka khona imingcele ezokwenza ubuhlobo bakho buqine esikhundleni sokubuchitha.

Ngakho-ke, uma usanda kuthola umlayezo wombhalo othi “Ngidinga isikhala”, ungathuki. U-Shazia uyeluleka, “Njalo hlonipha futhi uvume izidingo zabanye, ungalokothi uchithe izidingo zomlingani wakho.Kulungile ukuba nombono ohlukile kunokaphathina wakho kodwa umvumele inkululeko yokuzikhethela. Uma umlingani wakho ecela indawo ebudlelwaneni, kubalulekile ukumyeka azenzele izinqumo nezinqumo. Qonda ukuthi yini abayifunayo futhi uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukuba umlingani osekelayo.

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Kungase kufike isikhathi lapho umlingani wakho ekhuluma ngesidingo sakhe sesikhala ebudlelwaneni. Lapho lokho kwenzeka, khumbula ukucabangela. Nansi indlela ophendula ngayo kokuthi “Ngidinga isikhala”: 

1. Uma kungenzeka, buza mayelana nenani lendawo edingwa ngumuntu

Cela isikhathi esiqondile sokuthi umlingani wakho uhlose ukuhamba isikhathi esingakanani. Futhi, thola ukuthi yini abayilindele kuwe njengokugcina ukuxhumana kuncane noma ukuhlangana izikhathi ezimbalwa kuphela ngesonto. Lokhu kukunikeza ikhono lokubhekana nezidingo zabo ngenkathi futhi ugwema ukutolika okungalungile okungalimaza uxhumano.

Uma umlingani wakho ekucela indawo, ungathi, "Ngifuna ngempela ukukunikeza indawo oyidingayo. Ungakwazi yini ukuchaza izidingo zakho ngokucacile ukuze ngazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyilindele?"

Isibonelo, bangase bakucele ukuthi uyeke ukuxhumana nabo izinsuku ezimbalwa. Lokhu kungase kuhlanganise ukungathumeli imiyalezo, izinkundla zokuxhumana, nokuxhumana ubuso nobuso. Nokho, bangase balunge ngombhalo wezikhathi ezithile. Ungabacasuki. Kungenzeka ukuthi bazibuza izinsuku ukuthi umtshela kanjani umuntu ukuthi udinga indawo ngaphandle kokulimaza imizwa yakhe, ngakho-ke qonda ukuthi abazimisele ukukulimaza.

2. Batshele ukuthi ubanika isikhala ngoba uyabakhathalela

Enye yezingozi zokunikeza umuntu isikhala ukuthi angase aqale ukukholelwa ukuthi awunandaba naye. Lokhu kungaba yiCatch-22 kancane kwazise bazocasuka uma uqhubeka nokufinyelela ngaphandle kokuthi sebeshilo ukuthi bayasidinga isikhala. Chaza ukuthi uzohlehla kuze kube yilapho sezilungele ukusondela futhi ukuze wenze isiqiniseko sokuthi nobabili nisekhasini elilodwa.

Ungathi, “Ubaluleke kakhulu kimi, futhi ngiyabona ukuthi udinga isikhala njengamanje,” noma “Ngizokunika isikhala osidingayo, futhi ngithemba ukuthi lokhu kuzoqinisa ukuxhumana kwethu kwesikhathi eside .”

3. Kwazise ukwethembeka kwabo

Akulula ukuthi “Ngidinga isikhala” ebudlelwaneni. Iningi, uma kungekona konke, lokukhulumisana kwethu kwezothando nobudlelwano sekuthuthele ku-inthanethi ngenxa yokwanda kokusetshenziswa kobuchwepheshe ezimpilweni zethu zansuku zonke. Kulula kakhulu ukuthi abantu bavele banyamalale bangaphinde bathumele umbhalo, ngaphandle kwencazelo. Ngakho-ke umuntu okwazisa ukuthi udinga indawo ethile ungcono kunokuthula komsakazo. Noma ngabe lezi zindaba zingezinhle kodwa kungcono kunokushiywa ebumnyameni, uzibuze ukuthi kungani izinto sezishintshile.

U-Shazia uthi, "Yazisa umlingani wakho ngokucela isikhala futhi mqinisekise ukuthi uhlala ukhona lapho kudingeka. Batshele ukuthi uyasiqonda futhi uyasihlonipha isidingo sabo sendawo noma ubumfihlo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, bazise ukuthi ukholelwa emikhawulweni enempilo ebuhlotsheni futhi ulindele okufanayo. Isikhala asikwazi ukunikezwa ngendlela eyodwa. Bobabili abalingani kufanele banikezane inani elidingekayo lesikhala - okuyinto, ngendlela ehlukile, kubantu abahlukahlukene." 

Ngakho, umtshela kanjani umuntu ukuthi udinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni? Ngokukhulumisana ngempumelelo nezifiso zakho. Ungesabi. Isikhala singaba sihle kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho. Futhi uma othile ekucela indawo, ungazivikele bese ukhetha ukulwa, yima kancane, ulalele futhi uqonde ukuthi uvelaphi. Ubudlelwano obunempilo bakhelwe phezu kwesisekelo sokwethembeka nokukhulumisana. Qinisekisa ukuthi uyawugxilisa ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi nizokwazi ukunqoba yonke into ndawonye.

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