Kudzimva Kusokonekera mu Ubale: Zifukwa, Zizindikiro, Njira Zochitira

Chikondi chimene chimalepheretsedwa ndi kudzilamulira ndi kuchipondereza sichingapirire mayesero a nthawi. Mukuwona, mukangoyamba kumva kuti muli pachibwenzi, mumadziwa kuti muyenera kukonza kapena kuthawa kuti mudzipulumutse. Zimakhala ngati kuti positivity yonse ikutha ndipo chomwe chatsala ndi kuwawa.

Ndipo munthu angathane bwanji ndi kawopsedwe wotere? Chabwino, m'nkhaniyi, tagwirizana ndi katswiri wazamisala wochokera ku California komanso katswiri wodziwa khalidwe lachidziwitso. Dr. Shefali Batra (MD in Psychiatry), yemwe ndi katswiri wopereka upangiri pa kupatukana ndi kusudzulana, kutha kwa chibwenzi ndi chibwenzi, komanso zovuta zofananira musanalowe m'banja, kuti akupatseni chidziwitso pankhaniyi. Tikupatsiraninso malangizo omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi kusokonekera muubwenzi wanu. 

N'chifukwa Chiyani Ndimadzimva Kusokonekera Mu Ubwenzi Wanga?

Kumbukirani chikondi chamkuntho cha Ross ndi Rachel mu Friends? Kapena ubale wolimba koma wovuta wa Bella ndi Edward mu akaponya? Ngakhale nkhani zachikondi izi zitha kuwoneka ngati zokopa pazenera, nthawi zina zimawonetsa kuthedwa nzeru komanso kukhala pachibwenzi. 

Amakhalanso ndi mutu wina wofanana: kugwirizana kwambiri muubwenzi kumatha kufalikira mwachangu ndikupangitsa kuti pakhale zovuta. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu amatha kudzimva kuti akusokonekera mu ubale. Onetsetsani ngati mnzanuyo akunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kwambiri paubwenzi kapena akukupemphani kuti musinthe.

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Pofotokoza mwatsatanetsatane za vuto limeneli, Dr. Batra anati: “Ngati munayamba mwalakalakapo kukhala ndi chipinda chopumirapo kapena mukuona ngati mukukhala m’bwalo lochitira sopo kusiyana ndi kukhala paubwenzi wabwino, simuli nokha.” Kuzindikira zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mukusoŵa m’chibwenzi kungakhale sitepe yoyamba yokuthandizani kuti muyambenso kugwirizananso ndi chibwenzi chanu.” 

Amatchula zinthu zotsatirazi zomwe zingapangitse kuti pakhale vuto losakwanira muubwenzi:

• Mulu wonse wa malamulo: Ubwenzi uliwonse uli ndi malamulo, koma wanu udzalephera ngati malamulo sakulolani kupuma. Izi zimangokupangitsani kumva kuti simunakhalepo pachibwenzi
• Palibe kunyengerera: Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Chifukwa chake, ngati inu kapena mnzanuyo simukufuna kunyalanyaza zomwe mukuyembekezera, pankhani yachuma, mawonekedwe, kapena zolinga za moyo wanu, muli ndi malingaliro okhazikika.
• Zolinga zaubwenzi zomwe sizingachitike: Ngati inu kapena mnzanuyo muli ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka, monga kupita kukadya tsiku lina lililonse kapena kukhala ndi tchuthi chachilendo kawiri kapena katatu pachaka, mmodzi wa inu adzamva kukhala wotopa, ngati sizikugwirizana ndi zolinga za moyo wanu, A. phunziro pamutuwu zatsimikizira momwe maanja ambiri amayembekezera zosayembekezereka pa nkhani ya kugonana komanso kuwerenga maganizo 
• Kuzunzidwa m'malingaliro: Munayamba mwamvapo kuti kukambirana kulikonse kumasanduka mkangano kapena kuti nthawi iliyonse mukafuna kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu, mumamva ngati mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira? Zikatero, nthawi zambiri mumangotsala pang’ono kudziuza kuti, “Ndimaona kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga.”
• Kusowa malo: Ngati palibe mpata muubwenzi, nkwachibadwa kumva kukhala wotsekeredwa. Mnzake wantchito, Andrew, adatsimikiza kupangitsa bwenzi lake, Casie, kuti azicheza / kumathera nthawi ndi iye chifukwa cha ntchito yake komanso nthawi yopuma. Uwu ndi vuto lalikulu la kusowa kwa malo, pomwe adadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chokhala ndi moyo wake
• Kudalira: Pamene okwatirana ali odalirana (pomwe wina ali wopereka ndipo winayo ndi wolandira), woperekayo amakonda kulekerera zambiri mu chiyanjano kuposa momwe amachitira nthawi zonse. Izi zitha kupanga malingaliro ogwidwa mpaka atasiya
• Nkhani zodalirika: Ngati wina sakhulupirira bwenzi lake, zimatha kuyambitsa zovuta zanthawi yayitali muubwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga wina, dzina lake Andrea, anakumbukira kuti mnzanga wina wakale ankamuimbira foni tsiku ndi tsiku kuti adziwe kumene ali komanso ndi ndani. Zimenezi zinachititsa kuti asiyane
• Kuopa kudzipereka: Kuopa kudzipereka kungapangitse mnzanuyo kumva kuti akusokonekera. Moti ngakhale kungotchula za kudzipereka kwa mnzanuyo kungapangitse munthuyo kupatukana kapena kuyambitsa chibwenzi.

15 Zizindikiro Mumamva Kusokonekera Mu Ubwenzi

Ndiye, kodi kukhumudwa mu ubale kumawoneka bwanji? Ndi liti pamene mumadziuza nokha kuti, "Ndimamva kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga"? Kufotokozera momwe kusokoneza ubale kumamveka, a Reddit wosuta akuti, "Popeza ali pano 24/7, sindikhalanso ndi nthawi ndekha-chinthu chomwe ndakhala ndikuchikonda kwambiri, btw. Ndimakhala kunja tsiku lonse ndipo iye sali, choncho ndikafika kunyumba, amakhala wotopa ndipo amafuna kuchezetsa limodzi. Masiku ena, ndimalephera. Komabe, masiku ena ndimangofuna kukhala ndi mabuku anga ndikudandaula za masewera anga a kanema" mmene sindikumusamalira mokwanira.”

Kuwerenga Kofanana: Malangizo 9 Akatswiri Kuti Mukule Ubale Tsiku Lililonse

Ndipo kukanika kumeneku kungayambitse matenda aakulu a m’maganizo, monga kuvutika maganizo kapena nkhawa. Zingakupangitseni kuti muchoke pagulu lanu lothandizira, monga makolo anu ndi anzanu. Kuti muthane ndi nkhaniyi, muyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro omveka bwino azizindikiro zaubwenzi wovuta. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiyang'ane pazizindikiro zazikulu zomwe ubale wanu ungakhale ukupita kugawo lovuta. Izi 15 zizindikiro zomwe zalembedwa pansipa zikuthandizani kuti mubwerere ku moyo wathanzi:

1. Muli ndi bwenzi lapamtima 

Ngati mukudabwa ngati mukumva kuphwanyidwa muubwenzi, fufuzani ngati muli ndi chizindikiro ichi. Dr. Batra anati: “Munthu amene mumangokhalirana naye limodzi pachibwenzi ndiye vuto lanu lalikulu kwambiri.” Ndipo zambiri zomwe zimakakamira zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi masitaelo ophatikizika, monga Zolemba za Project Attachment limanena momveka bwino. Nazi zochitika zina:

• Kuyembekezera kudzikonda (koma zimenezo mwazokha ndi khalidwe lodzikonda)
• Kufunika kutsimikiziridwa nthawi zonse za chikondi chanu
• Kukutumizirani mameseji / kukuyimbirani foni tsiku lonse, komanso kuyembekezera kuti muwayankhe pakati pa nthawi yotanganidwa
• Kunena kuti “Ndimakukondani” kwambiri paubwenzi

2. Samvera 

Ubale ukhoza kukhala gehena wotsekeredwa ngati mnzanu 'sakuwona'nso inu. M’malo mwake, ngati mnzanuyo sakumverani kapena kukudetsani nkhawa, zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwambiri paubwenzi wanu. Dr. Batra anatchulapo zochitika zingapo zoterozo: 

• Sangamve nkhawa zanu, ndipo zonse zimatengera zomwe amakonda kapena kuchita
• Adzanyalanyaza zanu zosowa zam'maganizo paubwenzi ndikunena kuti mwachita mopambanitsa
• Akhoza kuphonya zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe mumawauza monga kutenga mwana wanu kusukulu kapena kulipira bilu pa nthawi yake

3. Salemekeza malo anu enieni

Malo aumwini ndi ofunikira pa ubale wabwino. Ndipo popanda izo, mungasiyidwe kudzimva kuti mwathetsedwa muubwenzi. Dr. Batra akuti: “Chibwenzi sichitha kwa nthawi yayitali ngati m'modzi mwa okwatirana alibe danga lanu.” Malo munkhaniyi amatanthauza:

• Ufulu wokumana ndi anzanu
• Ufulu wopita ku makalasi osangalatsa 
• Ufulu wopita paulendo woyenda payekha kuti upumule
• Kupatula tsiku losiyana ndi mnzanu, kuti muzisangalala pa spa
• Nthawi ina yowerenga kapena kuwonera chiwonetsero cha Netflix

4. Kudzimva kuti mulibe chilichonse chomwe chili chanu

Dr. Batra akuti, “Kutayika kwa kudziwika komwe kumatsatira a maubale oopsa zimawononga kwambiri ubale wanu pakapita nthawi. ” Nazi zochitika zina:

• Mulibe zokonda kuchokera pamene mudalowa muubwenzi
• Ntchito zanu zapita molakwika chifukwa muyenera kuwayimbira pafupipafupi
• Nthawi yanu yogona yasokonekera chifukwa chakuyimbira foni usiku kwambiri
• Simumayimba foni kapena kucheza ndi banja lanu
• Simunakumane ndi anzanu kwazaka zambiri

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5. Kukhala kutali ndi okondedwa wanu ndi mpumulo wolandiridwa

Dr. Batra anati, “Mumadziwa kuti muli ndi mnzanu wapoizoni pamene mukuyembekezera kugwira ntchito yothaŵa moyo wanu wachikondi.” Msuweni wanga, Janet, nayenso anakumana nazo. 

Iye ankakhala naye bwenzi, yemwe anali wolamulira kwambiri. Janet ankakonda kwambiri nthawi imene ankakhala kuntchito popanda iyeyo. Iye analankhula kwa antchito anzake, nati, “Ndimaona kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga,” ndipo anapeza chichirikizo chimene anafunikira. Pomalizira pake anasiyana naye.

6. Umanamiza wokondedwa wako kuti mupeze malo 

Inde, kunama n’koipa. Koma pamene muyenera kudzipulumutsa nokha kuzunza kapena kupeza malo ofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi, mabodza oyera mwina amalungamitsidwa. Mwachitsanzo:

• Mumawauza kuti muli ndi foni yofunikira usiku kwambiri kuti mupiteko, kuti muwonere zomwe mumakonda pa Netflix
• Umawanamiza kuti ukupita kuntchito chifukwa sangakulole kupita paulendo ndi anzanu.

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7. Okondedwa wanu sakonda kuti muzicheza ndi ena

Ichi ndi chachikulu mbendera yofiira mu ubale. Dr. Batra anafotokoza kuti: “Mnzako akapanda kukulolani kuti muzicheza ndi anzanu kapena achibale anu, zimakhala zansanje ndipo nthawi zambiri mungamadziuze kuti: “Ndimaona kuti ndalephereka kwambiri pa chibwenzi. Izi sizabwino. 

Nsanje imeneyi ingakhale chifukwa chakuti anzanu amakukondani kwambiri (makamaka amuna kapena akazi anzanu) kapenanso chifukwa chakuti mumakondedwa kwambiri ndi anthu (akhale anzanu kapena akuntchito). Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga wina, dzina lake Jake, ankadana ndi mfundo yakuti mkazi wake anali wansangala komanso wochezeka. Moti adamuchotsa pazochitika chifukwa sakanatha kupirira kuti nthawi zonse amakhala pachimake komanso amasangalala nazo. 

Okondedwa anu akapanda kukulolani kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino ndi anzanu kapena abale anu, zimakhala ndi nsanje ...

– Dr. Batra

8. Wokondedwa wanu amayesa kukulamulirani

Kodi nthawi zambiri mumangodzifunsa nokha kuti, "Ndimamva kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga"? Zitha kukhala chifukwa mnzanu amayesa kuwongolera moyo wanu, womwe ndi mbendera yofiira kwambiri. Dr. Batra anati: “Kulamulira kumaonekera m’njira zambiri pakati pa okwatirana.” Zina ndi izi:

• Amalamulira zomwe mumavala
• Amayang'anira nthawi yanu, ndikukukakamizani kuti muwononge nthawi yanu yambiri kuti muwathandize (kuwaphikira, kuyenda nawo, etc.)
• Amayang'anira momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito ndalama pokulepheretsani kuyika ndalama pazinthu zomwe mumakonda
• Amakunyengererani pokhulupirira kuti mwapenga
• Amakunyengererani kuti mukhale ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi zofuna zawo

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9. Pali chikakamizo chofuna kutsatira

Dr. Batra anati: “Mudzadziwa kuti muli paubwenzi wovuta mukamachita mantha kuwauza zakukhosi kwanu.” Pali chikakamizo chogwirizana ndi malingaliro awo, malingaliro, ndi zikhulupiriro, zomwe zimakusiyani inu kuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira mozungulira mnzanu. Ndi chifukwa chakuti mumadziwa chilichonse chimene munganene chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi chomwe chingayambitse mkangano. Izi zitha kuwoneka pakukakamizidwa kuti agwirizane ndi iwo:

• Ndemanga Pazandale
• Zolinga zokongola
• Zakudya zizolowezi
• umunthu 

10. Amaona kuti ali ndi ufulu wodziwa chilichonse chokhudza inu

Inde, n’kwachibadwa kuti anthu okwatirana azifuna kudziwana. Koma Dr. Batra akulangiza kuti, “Payenera kukhala ena malire abwino momwe umawafotokozera zambiri." 

Mwachitsanzo, mnzanga, Chris, nthawi ina anali pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana amene ankamuyimbira foni nthawi zosamvetseka basi kuti aone zimene iye anali ndi kumufunsa mafunso kuti atsimikizire ngati iye anali kwenikweni kumene iye amati iye. Izi sizongowongolera zokha komanso kusakhulupirirana komanso kuletsa-ayi. Nthawi zambiri ankandiuza zakukhosi, n’kunena kuti: “Ndimaona kuti ndasokonekera muubwenzi wanga koma sindikudziwa kuti ndingathetse bwanji vutolo.

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11. Mumadabwa kuti nthawi zonse amakuwonani

Uku ndikumverera kowopsa. Mukakhala ndi mnzanu amene amakulamulirani amene amakupangitsani kuti musapume, mumamva ngati maso anu ali pa inu nthawi zonse. Nazi zitsanzo zingapo za khalidwe lomwe lingadzutse malingaliro otere mwa munthu:

• Atha kukhala akuwonera nkhani yanu nthawi zonse kapena kuyankha / kukonda nkhani / zolemba zanu za Instagram ndikukufunsani kuti muchotse zolemba zina chifukwa sizinawasangalatse.
• Akhoza kuyang'ana zidziwitso zanu zakubanki kuti aziyang'anira momwe mumawonongera
• Iwo akhoza kuyang'ana mbiri msakatuli wanu
• Akhozanso kukufunsani mawu achinsinsi ndikuyang'ana foni yanu

12. Mumamva kutopa kwambiri mutatha kulankhula nawo

Dr. Batra anati: “Mwina mungatsimikize kuti muli paubwenzi wovuta ngati zimene mumakambirana ndi SO wanu zikukukhumudwitsani.” Tsopano, izi zitha kukhala zilizonse mwa izi:

• Zokambirana komwe muyenera kuwatsimikizira nthawi zonse za kudzipereka kwanu kwa iwo
• Zokambirana zazovuta zomwe mudachita tsiku lonse, kuphatikiza omwe mudakumana nawo
• Zokambirana za ndewu yakale yomwe inu nonse munali nayo

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13. Amakuyitanirani ku zochitika zomwe simukuzifuna

Dr. Batra akuganiza kuti izi zingawononge mtendere wanu wamaganizo kwambiri. Iye anati: “Kuchita zinthu mokakamizika kuchita zinthu zomwe sukufuna kuchita kapena zochitika zomwe sukufuna kupitako kungakuchititseni kutaya mtima. ubale wabwino.” Choncho, samalani zizindikiro zotsatirazi:

• Amafuna kuti mupite nanu ku chochitika chabanja ngakhale simuli womasuka ndi mmene wachibale wina amakunyozani.
• Amafuna kuti muzipita kumapwando akudziwa kuti simukonda kupita kumalo aphokoso

14. Mukuyenda pazigoba za mazira 

Chizindikiro cha chikondi chochepa ndi chakuti mumangokhalira kukangana kosatha - tsiku lonse, tsiku lililonse. Munayamba mwaonapo kuti kukambirana kulikonse komwe mumacheza ndi mnzanu kumasanduka mkangano? Dr. Batra anati: “Ngati mukuona kuti simungathe kufotokoza maganizo anu kapena zosowa zanu popanda kukhala mkangano woopsa umene umatha ndi ziwopsezo kapena, choipitsitsabe, kuchitira chete, ukuyenda pazigoba za mazira ndipo uyenera kudzipulumutsa wekha.” Nazi zochitika zingapo:

• Wokondedwa wanu amakuopsezani kuti mudzathetsa nthawi iliyonse mukakangana
• Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amakamba za cisudzulo nthawi zonse mukamenyana
• Amasiya kulankhula kwa masiku ambiri pamene mumakhudzidwa kwambiri kapena kulira

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15. Simudzisamaliranso nokha

Kodi ubale wanu wasintha momwe mumadzionera? Kodi mwasiya kudzisamalira nokha komanso zokondweretsa zazing'ono kuyambira pomwe mudakumana ndi okondedwa wanu? Kodi ndi liti pamene munameta tsitsi kapena kudzigulira malaya abwino? Kodi munagulitsa liti mwa inu nokha? Ngati mwaiwala kudzisamalira kuyambira mudayamba kulankhula ndi SO wanu, mukudziwa kuti mwina muli opsinjika kwambiri kuti musawononge thanzi lanu, mawonekedwe, kapena ukhondo. 

Izi ndi zomwe zingawonekere, malinga ndi a Reddit wosutaNkhani yoyamba: "Ndili ndi mankhwala ovutika maganizo / nkhawa, koma nthawi zina ndimamva ngati khama lochuluka lomwe limafunika kuti ndidzidyetse ndekha, kumwa madzi, kutenga mankhwala anga, kupita kunja / kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina zotero ndizochuluka kwambiri.

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Ndiye mukudabwa momwe mungakonzere ubale wosokonekera? Dr. Batra anati: “Kuyenda movutikira m’chikondi n’kovuta. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tiwone momwe mungadziwirenso umunthu wanu ndikubwezeretsanso bwino osaiwala zomwe zidakukokerani kwa mnzanu poyambirira. Nawa maupangiri 9 ochokera kwa Dr. Batra omwe angakuthandizeni kukonza ubale wanu wakusokonekera:

1. Kuika malire 

Ikani malire ndi ziyembekezo zimene ziri zenizeni. Ndipo musalole zolipirira. Mwachitsanzo:

• Ikani malamulo okhudza kucheza ndi anzanu. Onetsani momveka bwino kuti muli ndi ufulu wocheza ndi anzanu komanso achibale kumapeto kwa sabata.
• Khazikitsani malamulo oti asapereke ndemanga pazovala zanu, mawonekedwe, ntchito, ndi zina.
• Auzeni kuti simudzalekerera mwano kapena nthabwala zotukwana/zamwano

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2. Afunseni kuti azilemekeza chinsinsi chanu

Dr. Batra anati, “Zinthu zina uyenera kuzibisa kwa iwe wekha.” Ubwenzi siupatsa mwayi wokondedwa wanu kuti akufunseni chilichonse m'moyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo:

• Asamade nkhawa ndi momwe mumagwirira ntchito pokhapokha mutawauza za ntchito yanu 
• Asamakukakamizeni kuti muwauze za anzanu
• Kukufunsani kuti muchotse / kuletsa anzako kapena abwenzi chifukwa samawakonda ndikoletsanso ayi

Kuyenda m'chikondi chophwanyika kumakhala kovuta. Zili ngati kugwidwa ndi lupu losatha.

– Dr. Batra

3. Pezani nthawi yanu nokha tsiku ndi tsiku

Ngati simukudziwabe momwe mungakonzere ubale womwe wathetsedwa, iyi ikhoza kukhala yankho lanu. A Nkhani ya Harvard Business Review imakamba za kufunika kwa 'nthawi yanga' kwa anthu. M'malo mwake, 'nthawi yanga' ndiyofunikira kwambiri kuti munthu asadziwike. Choncho, onetsetsani kuti mumadzisungira nokha ola limodzi tsiku lililonse. Nthawiyi itha kugwiritsidwa ntchito mu:

• wakukhulupirira
• kuwerenga
• Kulima
• Kuwonera makanema omwe mumakonda

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4. Dziwani zomwe mumakonda kudzipangira nokha munthawi yanu

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwatero munadzitaya nokha kuyesera kukhala pachibwenzi, yesani ndikuyang'ana pa zomwe mumakonda kuchita musanalowe pachibwenzi. Mwachitsanzo:

• Pitani ndi anzanu ngati mumakonda kuyenda koma simunathe kutero posachedwapa
• Khalani ndi nthawi yofufuza zinthu zakale, monga nyimbo, zoumba, kapena sewero
• Yesani zina zomwe simunayesepo, monga kuvina kapena Zumba 

5. Limbikitsani okondedwa anu kuti nawonso azikhala ndi nthawi 

Kuti mubwererenso bwino mu ubale wanu, muyeneranso kutsimikizira wokondedwa wanu amasiya kukhala otengeka ndi inu. Ndipo kuti izi zitheke, mutha kuwadziwitsa momwe angalekere kukonda munthu kwambiri, ndipo ndi momwe mungachitire izi:

• Alimbikitseni kuti azipita ndi abwenzi
• Afunseni kuti ayitanire anzawo ku maphwando apanyumba
• Afunseni kuti agwiritse ntchito zomwe amakonda

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6. Lankhulani za khalidwe lawo ndi momwe zimakuvutitsani

Palibe amene angakane mfundo imeneyi kulankhulana momasuka ndiye chinsinsi mu maubwenzi. Dr. Batra akupereka lingaliro lakuti “kulankhulana ndi mnzanuyo.” Ili ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yowadziwitsira zomwe zikukuvutitsani. 

Lankhulani nthawi zambiri mukakhala pachibwenzi ndipo muwadziwitse momwe mukufunira kuti akonzenso vutolo. Komanso perekani okondedwa anu pansi pa momwe angasiyire kukonda munthu kwambiri, kuti athe kuganizira za moyo wake.

7. Dzifunseni za m’tsogolo

Dr. Batra anati: “Nthawi zina, n’kofunika kudzifunsa kuti kodi mukuona kuti zimenezi zikupita kuti kambiranani za m’tsogolo ndi mnzako.” Ubale uli ndi tsogolo pokhapokha ngati muwona tsogolo mu izo, zimatengera awiri kuti tango.

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8. Yambitsaninso chikondi chanu

Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukulitsa moyo wanu wachikondi kuyambiranso chikondi chanu. Ndipo mukuyenda bwanji? A Nkhani ya Gottman Institute imakamba za njira zingapo zochitira zimenezo. Kuphatikiza apo, nawa malangizo ena:

• Konzani zosangalatsa zomwe nonse mumasangalala nazo, monga maulendo apaulendo kapena karaoke
• Mukhozanso kuchita zinthu zosavuta, monga kuphika pamodzi kapena kukongoletsa nyumba pamodzi
• Konzani tsiku kunyumba, zodzaza ndi chakudya chamadzulo choyaka makandulo, nyimbo, vinyo, ndi kuvina pang'onopang'ono
• Sakanizani zinthu zaukhondo ndi/kapena zovala zamkati zokongola ndikusangalala pakati pa mapepala

9. Ganizirani za kudzidziwitsa nokha

Dr. Batra ananena kuti: “Ukaone ngati pali chilichonse chimene ukanachita chimene ungafunike kuchikonza, chomwe mwina chinathandiza kuti ntchitoyo iwonongeke. mavuto mu ubale wanu.” Choncho, ganizirani ngati:

• Mutha kukhala mukugawana nawo kwambiri pazama media ndipo muyenera kuyigwira
• Mukadakhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi mnzanuyo kuti amve otetezeka mukakhala ndi anzanu
• Mutha kukhala ochezeka kwambiri ndi abale ndi abwenzi a mnzanuyo kuti muwapangitse kukhala osangalala

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Maubwenzi amayenera kubweretsa mtendere ndi mtendere. Amapangidwa kuti akuthandizeni kukhala munthu wabwino komanso kukula. Koma maubwenzi oterowo akasanduka zotsekereza zomwe zimakutsekerezani ndikukuchotserani ufulu, pamafunika kuthana ndi mavuto akulu akulu. 

Tikukhulupirira kuti nkhani yathu yakuthandizani kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa maubwenzi osokonekera. Ndipo tikukhulupirira kuti mutha kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe muli nazo nthawi iliyonse mukakhala pachibwenzi.

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