Kodi mumakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse muubwenzi wanu wachikondi? Kodi mumangozungulira mozungulira mnzako ngati mungawakhumudwitse? Chabwino, ndiye, inu mwina mukuyenda-pa-mazira ubwenzi. Ngati simukuzidziwa bwino mawuwa, yerekezani kuti mukuyenda pazigoba za mazira. Mumaopa kuwanyengerera, kupanga zonyansa zomwe mwina muyenera kuyeretsa nokha. Ngati ndi momwe mwayambira kumverera muubwenzi wanu, ndithudi mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira.
Ngati mukuganiza za zizindikiro za ubale wotere ndikuyesera kuwunika tanthauzo la zipolopolo za mazira, tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni. Tinakambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Kavita Panyam (Masters in Psychology and international affiliate ndi American Psychological Association), amene wakhala akuthandiza maanja kuthana ndi mavuto awo paubwenzi kwa zaka zopitirira makumi awiri, kuti apeze malangizo ndi zidule zoyendetsera ubale wodekha komanso kudzisamalira nokha.
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Tikufunsa Kavita, kodi kuyenda pa zipolopolo ndi munthu kumatanthauza chiyani? Iye akufotokoza kuti, “Mukakhala osamala mobisa ndiponso mobisa pamene muli ndi munthu chifukwa chakuti amamva chisoni kwambiri, mukuyenda pazigoba, kutanthauza kuti mumapenyerera mawu anu, mmene mumachitira, mmene mumachitira zinthu, ngakhale zimene mumavala, ndi zimene mukuganiza.
“Nthawi zambiri anthu amangoyenda pazigoba za mazira chifukwa amaona zinthu mobisa komanso mobisa ndipo amakuchitirani zoipa. chikondi cha narcissistic, mudzapeza kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu angakhale wosadziŵika bwino. Choncho omwe ali pafupi nawo nthawi zonse amaponda zipolopolo za mazira pofuna kuti asawakhumudwitse. Anthu omwe timayenda nawo pazigoba za mazira amakwiya msanga, ngakhale pa zinthu zomwe siziyenera kukambirana. Amalamulira mwachibadwa, amatengeka maganizo kwambiri, nthawi zambiri amadzikonda, ndipo amakonda kupsa mtima ndiponso kuzunza anzawo.”
Kavita anawonjezera kuti, “Ngati nthawi zonse umayenda pazigoba za mazira kunyumba pafupi ndi mnzako, umakhala wosamala pa zimene ukunena ndi kuchita.
"Timayamba kuponda pazigoba za mazira pamene okondedwa athu apamtima ali oweruza, otsutsa, ndi okonda kupsa mtima." Amachepetsa kudzidalira kwathu ndi chidaliro, kutisiya ndi vuto lodziwika bwino. M'pofunikanso kukumbukira kuti anthuwa amagwira ntchito kuchokera kumalo osayenerera. Chifukwa chakuti amakhala osatetezeka kwambiri ndipo amadziona kuti ndi osakongola kapena osayenera.
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Zizindikiro 12 Zomwe Mukuyenda Pa Zigoba Za Mazira Mu Ubwenzi Wanu
Tawonapo maubwenzi ambiri oyipa ngati m'modzi nthawi zonse amapewa kusokoneza mnzake chifukwa sadziwa zomwe angachite kapena mawu omwe angapangitse wokondedwa wawo kuchita zinthu molakwika.
Zotsatira za kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira zimatha kufika mpaka kuwononga chiyambi cha chiyanjano. Pomaliza, a chikondi pakati pa maanja chimatha kutsogolera ku misomali yomaliza mu bokosi la ubale. Ngakhale tapita mozama mukuyenda pa maeggshell kutanthauza, nazi zizindikiro zochenjeza ndi mbendera zofiira zoyenera kuyang'ana:
1. Mumakhala tcheru nthawi zonse kuti musakhumudwitse wokondedwa wanu
Brian, wolemba mabulogi wa ku Kentucky anati: “Mkazi wanga ndi munthu wamaganizo, wokonda maganizo ake, ndipo chinali chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zimene ndinam’kondera. “Koma titangokwatirana ndi kukhala ndi malo okhala, nthaŵi zonse ndinali kuyenda pazigoba za mazira kunyumba.
- "Mu ubale woyenda-pa-mazira, kubwerera kamodzi kochepa kungayambitse kutsika kwakukulu," akutero Kavita. "Mumayamba kunjenjemera ndi mnzanuyo chifukwa chilichonse chaching'ono chomwe mumachita kapena kunena chikhoza kubweretsa zotsatirapo zoyipa - mkwiyo, misozi, chipongwe - kwa masiku kapena miyezi."
- Iwo akhoza kubwera maganizo stonewalling. Ndipo pakhoza kubwera nthawi yomwe mungayambe kukhala chete kuti mukhazikitse mtendere
2. Mumadziganizira nokha
Zotsatira za kuyenda pa mazira a mazira ndi mnzanuyo zingawononge kwambiri chikhulupiliro chanu pakapita nthawi, ngakhale simukuzindikira kuti muli pachibwenzi.
- Mudzapeza kuti simungathe kupanga zisankho zamphamvu. Mudzataya chikhulupiriro mu luso lanu lokhala okhoza kapena kuchita bwino pa zomwe mukuchita
- Kutsutsa kosalekeza ndipo kukhala mwamantha kumawononga kudzidalira kwanu, kutanthauza kuti nthawi iliyonse mukaganiza kuchita chilichonse, mumangodziganizira nokha. Zitha kukhala zazing'ono ngati kusankha malo odyera kuti mudye chakudya chamadzulo kapena chisankho chachikulu pamoyo monga kusintha ntchito. Mudzapita njira imodzi, ndiyeno ina, chifukwa malingaliro anu azolowera kuuzidwa kuti sizabwino
3. Ubwenzi wanu uli ndi nkhani zokhulupirirana
Chikhulupiliro ndi mzati waukulu womwe umasunga maubwenzi onse abwino, okondana kapena ayi. Casey, wazaka 26 woŵerenga wa ku Dallas, anati: “Ndikaganiza nkhani za trust, ndinaganiza za chinyengo ndi kusakhulupirika. Koma kenako ndinayamba kukhala ndi mnzanga, ndipo nthawi zonse ndinkangoyenda pazigoba za mazira. Sanandikhulupirire kuti ndikhoza kupanga zosankha zabwino ndi kuchita zoyenera. Sindinkakhulupirira kuti anali womvetsetsa kapena wokoma mtima kapena wachifundo. Choipa kwambiri n’chakuti, ndinasiya kukhulupirira kuti ndingathe kukhala munthu wamphamvu komanso wodziimira payekha. Sindinayambe ndaonapo kukhulupirirana mofanana kuyambira pamenepo.”
- Mukayenera kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira munthu tsiku lonse, simudzatha kuwafotokozera nkhani zovuta monga kupsinjika maganizo kapena kusatetezeka kwanu. Chifukwa m'malo mokuthandizani kapena kumvetsetsa za izi, mnzanuyo nthawi zonse amawayika pagulu laulamuliro ndikuchepetsa nkhaniyo.
- Kavita anachenjeza kuti: “Nthawi ina iliyonse, ubwenzi woyenda-pa-mazira ukhoza kuwolokera m’mavuto. "Simudzamva kuwonedwa, simudzamvedwa." Othandizana nawo omwe amakukakamizani kuti muyende pazipolopolo za mazira nthawi zambiri amakhala ochenjera kwambiri, ndipo khalidwe lawo lachipongwe, mosasamala kanthu zachinyengo, lidzakupatsani inu kudzidalira ndikunyozetsa kudzidalira kwanu.
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4. Mumasintha maganizo anu nthawi zonse pamene mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira munthu
Kunena zinthu zopweteka muubwenzi sikoyenera, ndipo kuyenera kupewedwa momwe tingathere. Koma bwanji ngati mumadzipenda mosalekeza musanalankhule? Kapenanso kuyang'ana malingaliro anu asanakhazikike bwino? Kodi kuyenda pazipolopolo ndi munthu kumatanthauza chiyani? Chabwino, chizindikiro chimodzi ndikuti mudzakhala ndi mkonzi wamkati yemwe akuvutitsa kukhalapo kwanu nthawi zonse. Chifukwa Mulungu amadziwa momwe mnzanuyo angayankhire kapena momwe angachitire ndi inu kusatetezeka kwa ubale.
- Mwaphunzira kuchokera m’zokumana nazo zakale kuti iwo adzapeza njira yochitira ndemanga zabwino ngakhale molakwa ndi kukhumudwa. Zochitika ngati izi zikuwonetseratu kuti mukuyenda pazigoba za mazira mozungulira wokondedwa wanu
- Kuponda pa zipolopolo za mazira muubwenzi kuli ngati kukhala m'malingaliro omwe mulibe ufulu wolankhula malingaliro anu kapena kuganiza malingaliro anu chifukwa mwatopa nawo kupanga zochitika zopanda pake.
5. Palibe bata, chifukwa sudziwa chomwe chingamulepheretse wokondedwa wako
Kusadziŵika bwino ndi khalidwe lachizindikiro cha anthu osokoneza bongo komanso akatswiri onyenga. Mu a Ubale uyenera kumangidwa pakukhulupirirana, timayembekezera mulingo winawake wa bata ndi mtendere. Mwadzidzidzi, khalidwe losasunthika limasokoneza mgwirizano wathu komanso ubale wathu.
- Kusunga bwenzi mosatsimikizika ndi njira yowongolera ubale
- Nthawi zonse mukakhala mumkhalidwe wovuta, mukuganiza kuti mungachite chiyani komanso momwe mungapewere zinthu zosasangalatsa, simungadziganizire nokha komanso chimwemwe chanu, zomwe zimakupangitsani kudalira mnzanuyo.
6. Maganizo anu ndi thupi lanu zimakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse
Chikondi ndi maubwenzi apamtima sizovuta nthawi zabwino kwambiri. Amabwera ndi gawo lawo lamavuto ndi zotsatira zake. Koma ubale wabwino udzakhalanso womasuka komanso wosangalatsa nthawi zambiri. Pamene mukuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira, nthawi zonse mumayesetsa kukhala kumbali yabwino ya mnzanuyo kapena kuchoka panjira yawo, kuti mukhale okhumudwa nthawi zonse. Mwinanso mungamve atsekeredwa mu ubale.
- Izi zitha kuwoneka m'mawonekedwe amthupi monga kupeza kuti mukuyenda ndi mapewa anu akugwada, khosi lanu likugwedezeka, ndipo manja anu akupimbidwa nkhonya. Mutha kumva kugunda pakupuma, m'mimba nthawi zonse muli mfundo, ndipo mumavutika kugona
- Kukangana kosalekeza kumawononga mtendere wanu wa mumtima ndipo kumakuchititsani kukhala wotopa kosatha. Muubwenzi woyenda-pa-mazira, izi zikhoza kukhala momwe mumakhalira nthawi zonse
7. Mwataya chinsinsi chanu
Kodi kuyenda pazipolopolo ndi munthu kumatanthauza chiyani? Umasowa kudzimva wekha. Mzere wochokera mu kanema yemwe ndimakonda umati, "Kukondana kumatanthauza kukhala wekha, ndi munthu wina." Zimamveka zosavuta, koma nthawi zonse ndimapeza kuti ndi chimodzi mwazowonadi zozama, zovuta kwambiri zokhudzana ndi chidziwitso ndi chiyanjano.
- Pamene mukuponda pa zipolopolo za mazira muubwenzi wanu, mumakonda kukhala chiwonetsero cha momwe mnzanuyo amakuwonerani. Ngati amakudzudzulani nthawi zonse, mumayamba kuona kuti ndinu munthu wosafunika
- Ngati mumayang'ana nthawi zonse zomwe mukunena ndi kuchita, mumataya malingaliro ndi momwe mumamvera poyamba. Mfundo yoti mukunyozetsa kudzidalira kwanu, kudziletsa kufotokoza malingaliro anu - ndipo zonsezo kuti musakhumudwitse wina - ndizizindikiro kuti mukuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira.
8. Simungathe kuwonetsa kusatetezeka komanso kusakhazikika
Nthawi zina, ambiri aife timafunafuna ndikusangalala ndi chivomerezo kuchokera kwa omwe timawakonda. Timafuna kuwasangalatsa, ndipo timafuna kuti azikonda ndi kukondwerera kuti ndife ndani komanso zomwe timachita. Pamene mayankho sali omwe timayembekezera, pangakhale kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi kukayikira za ubale.
- Mu ubale woyenda-pa-mazira, izi zimayimbidwa m'njira yayikulu komanso yosokoneza. Mukawopa momwe angayankhire nthawi zonse, mwakhala mukukhumudwa kale ndi kudzikayikira.
- Mwakonzeka kale kuuzidwa kuti zonse zomwe mwachita ndi zolakwika
- Kuyenda pazigoba za mazira kumakhudzanso maubwenzi anu amtsogolo. Chizoloŵezi ichi chongoyenda pang'onopang'ono kuchokera m'maubwenzi akale chidzakupangitsani kukhala kovuta kuti muzitha kukambirana momasuka kapena kukhala pachiwopsezo poopa kuweruzidwa.
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9. Ubale woyenda-pa-mazira ulibe kufanana
"Ngati mnzanu akukutsutsani nthawi zonse, simukugawana nawo mgwirizano wathanzi. Palibe kufanana komanso kulemekeza. Ngakhale pali ulemu, umakakamizika osati mwachibadwa. Ndipo pamene mungathe kulemekeza wina popanda kumukonda, simungakonde wina popanda kumulemekeza. Posakhalitsa, umakhala ubale wogonjera-womvera kumene mumakhala wogonjera nthawi zonse, "akutero Kavita.
- Palibe chomwe chimatchedwa ubale wofanana mwangwiro. Kusagwirizana kwamphamvu kumalowera mozemba ngakhale mukuganiza kuti mwadzuka bwanji, chifukwa timakhazikika pa maudindo ndi zikhulupiriro zina. Koma pamene mukupondaponda zipolopolo za mazira mozungulira wokondedwa wanu, mumazindikira kuti nthawi zambiri mumapereka mphamvu zanu zonse kwa iwo, ndikukankhira chibwenzicho molakwika.
- Kusokoneza uku kumawerengedwa ngati kuzunzidwa m'maganizo ndipo kudzakuthandizani kuti muziyenda pazipolopolo za mazira nthawi zonse. Choyipa chachikulu ndichakuti kukayikakayika kosalekeza ndi mantha kumakupangitsani kuti musazindikire zomwe akukuchitirani.
- Ngakhale mutazindikira, ndizotheka kuti mudzalandidwa malingaliro ndi ndalama kuti muchite chilichonse.
10. Mumayamba kumva kuti mumangotengeka nthawi zonse
Monga tanenera, abwenzi omwe nthawi zonse amakupangitsani kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira nthawi zambiri amakhala ankhanza komanso akatswiri onyenga. Izi zikutanthauza kuti adzachita zonse zomwe angathe kuwongolera khalidwe lanu ndikukudalirani momwe mungathere. Ngati chibwenzi chikunena kuti akuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira, kapena bwenzi akumva ngati akulamuliridwa paubwenzi wake, ndi chizindikiro chakuti akugwiritsidwa ntchito ndipo motero, akupondaponda pazipolopolo za mazira nthawi zonse.
- Kuwongolera mwachikondi Zitha kukhala zowonekera, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mnzanuyo angakuuzeni kuti simuli wabwino komanso ofooka kwambiri / osakwanira / osawoneka bwino kuti mupange malo anu padziko lapansi. Kapena, izo zikhoza kukhala zochenjera kwambiri
- Zizindikiro za izi ndi kuletsa mwayi wopeza ndalama, kunena mawu okhumudwitsa, 'mwachisawawa', kapena kukupangitsani kusiya kucheza ndi anzanu, abale anu, malo anu ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi njira zothandizira anthu.
11. Umadziimba mlandu pomwe ukunyalanyaza zolakwa zawo zonse
“Okondedwa wanga si wabwino koposa, koma…” ndi chiganizo chomwe chimabwera nthawi zambiri pamene anthu akuyenda pazigoba za mazira akuyesera kuteteza ubale wawo ndi okondedwa awo. Apanso, palibe amene ali wangwiro, ndipo mu a ubale wabwino, kufunafuna ungwiro si njira yabwino yochitira zinthu. Komabe, m’pofunika kuvomereza ndi kuthetsa zolakwa za wina ndi mnzake, makamaka ngati zingawononge ubwenzi wanu ndi thanzi lanu la maganizo.
- Muubwenzi woyenda-pa-mazira, mudzapeza kuti mukunyalanyaza zolakwika zawo zonse. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi vuto linalake m'maganizo mwanu, mudzakhala wamantha kwambiri kuti musanene.
- Wokondedwa wanu angakhale atakukhulupirirani kuti iwo ndi apamwamba m'njira iliyonse, kuti mikhalidwe yowombola yomwe muli nayo ili chifukwa cha ulemerero wawo.
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12. Simusangalala mukamayenda pazigoba za mazira mozungulira munthu
“Ubwenzi woterewu umasokoneza moyo wanu,” akutero Kavita. "Ngati nthawi zonse umakhala wochenjera komanso wowopa kuchita cholakwika, umayamba kudziwona ngati munthu wosayenera kukanidwa, kenako umakhala wodzudzula mwamphamvu zomwe zimakupangitsa kukhala ndi moyo wotsika kwambiri. zinthu zopweteka zomwe mnzanu wakuuzani ndipo mudzayamba kukhumudwa mosasamala kanthu komwe muli. Izi ndi zotsatira zamalingaliro zomwe zidachitika kale chifukwa malingaliro anu sanasinthidwe. Kungokumbukira nthawi zonse kungachititse kuti munthu ayambe kuvutika maganizo.”
- Chisangalalo nthawi zina chimakhala chodzipereka kwambiri, makamaka ngati mukuyenera kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira munthu. Sitiphunzitsidwa kawirikawiri kuti chimwemwe ndi ufulu wofunikira m'moyo wa aliyense
- Ndipo nthawi zambiri, mukakhala mutapeza bwenzi, ndikosavuta kukhalabe ndi zomwe mukudziwa kuposa kutuluka ndikupeza kapena kubwezeretsanso chimwemwe chanu.
- Paubwenzi womwe nthawi zonse mumayenda pazipolopolo za mazira, mumadziwa nthawi zonse zowawa zowawa, zipsera zazing'ono zaukali komanso mkwiyo zomwe zimakuuzani kuti simukusangalala.
Momwe Mungathanirane ndi Kuyenda pa Zipolopolo za Mazira
Sizingatheke kukhala pachibwenzi popanda kumukhumudwitsa kapena kumukhumudwitsa. Monga anthu opanda nzeru, timakhala okonzeka kukhumudwa ndi kuchita zinthu mopanda nzeru nthawi zina. Komabe, dzifunseni ngati mnzanuyo nthawi zonse amakhala pamutuwu. Ndipo muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mukuponda pazigoba za mazira sekondi iliyonse ya tsiku lililonse?
1. Dziwani mmene mukumvera
Mukayenera kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira munthu, mudzakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi zochita zanu kuti kuweruza awo kudzawoneka ngati ntchito yaikulu.
- Chinthu choyamba ndikuvomereza kuti mukukhala ndi nkhawa, nkhawa, komanso kusamala kwambiri ndi mnzanuyo. Mndandanda womwe uli pamwambawu ndi wokwanira ndipo udzakuthandizani kuti musiye kuyenda pazigoba za mazira kuzungulira iwo
- Chinthu china ndicho kudziwa ngati nkhawa yanu ndi chifukwa cha zoopsa zomwe zachitika kale muubwenzi wanu kapena chifukwa ubale wanu wapano ukuyamba kukhala woyipa.
- Kunyalanyaza zolakwa za mnzanu ndikukulitsa zanu, ngakhale simulakwitsa nthawi zambiri, ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zazikulu zomwe mukuyenda pazigoba za mazira. Kugwiritsa ntchito umboni wotsimikizira kudzakuthandizani kuzindikira malo omwe muyenera kugwira ntchito
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2. Samalirani momwe mumachitira ndi zomwe wokondedwa wanu wakuchitirani
Olivia, mphunzitsi wa pasukulu yasekondale wazaka 27, anati: “Nthaŵi ina ndinakhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wina wakhalidwe lotayirira kwa zaka zinayi.
- Sankhani kuti musiye kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira. Osagonja pazofuna zopanda pake za mnzanuyo. Osapanga zosankha pofuna kungowakhazika mtima pansi. Osatengera kudzudzulidwa kwawoko
- Yesetsani kudziwa chifukwa chimene amakudzudzulani. N’kutheka kuti sadziwa mmene angatulutsire zakukhosi kwawo popanda kusokoneza
- Osachita mantha kuwonetsa zomwe mukuchita ndi mawu kapena zochita zawo zopweteka ndipo muwadziwitse akadutsa malire.
3. Lankhulani ndi wokondedwa wanu za mantha omwe mumamva nawo pafupi
“Nthaŵi zonse ndikafunsa mnzanga funso, ndimazindikira kuti sindimayembekezera zimene anganene,” akutero Mike, wopanga vinyo wa ku California, “zimakhala ngati ndikupempha chilolezo choti ndifunse funso poyamba, ndipo ndimachita mantha kuti sindikuyenereradi zimenezo.
- Musaganize kuti kulankhulana sikutheka. Koma zimakhala zovuta kwambiri mukangoyankha mopanda pake
- Kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira muubwenzi kumakupangitsani kukayikira chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungatenge, ndipo ngati mwakhala muubwenzi woyenda-pa-dzira kwa nthawi yayitali, mutha kudzipeza kuti mukupereka zisankho zonse kwa wokondedwa wanu, potero mukupotoza malingaliro anu. mphamvu zaubwenzi zochulukirapo. Musawapatse ulamuliro pa moyo wanu
4. Pezani chithandizo
Osachita manyazi kufunafuna chithandizo chokwanira kuti musiye kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira muubwenzi wanu. Gretchen anati: “Zinali ngati kuti ineyo ndi mkangano wanga ndi watsoka nthawi zonse. Nthaŵi zonse ndinali womvetsa chisoni, wodera nkhaŵa kwambiri, wosatsimikizirika. Ndipo sindinkadziŵa kwenikweni chifukwa chake. Zinanditengera zaka zambiri za chithandizo ndi kudzifufuza mozama kuti ndizindikire kuti ndinali paubwenzi wozunzana ndipo ndinali kuyenda pazigoba za mazira kuti ndiyende bwino.
- Lankhulani ndi banja lanu ndi abwenzi za khalidwe la wokondedwa wanu. Ubwenzi umenewu ukhoza kukupangitsani kukhala wosungulumwa kwambiri, zomwe zingayambitse nkhawa ndi kuvutika maganizo, choncho kambiranani ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda ndi kuwakhulupirira.
- Ngati mukufuna thandizo la akatswiri, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri pa Gulu la akatswiri a Bonobology zili pano chifukwa cha inu
- Malinga ndi Nkhanza Zam'mudzi Zachiwawa, mnzawo wankhanza sangasinthe. Choncho, pemphani mnzanu thandizo ngati simukumva kuti ndinu otetezeka
5. Sankhani zochita zina
Inde, nkhani zachikondi zabwino koposa zimadza ndi misozi, zotayika, ndi mikangano. Koma maziko a chikondi chabwino ndi chakuti onse awiri alidi okondwa kwambiri. Ndipo ngati muli omvetsa chisoni chifukwa choyenda pazipolopolo zozungulira mwamuna, mkazi, kapena mnzanu, mwina ndi nthawi yoti muganizirenso za tsogolo la ubalewu.
- Konzani maakaunti anu, umwini wa katundu, ndi zinthu zina zomwe muli nazo panokha komanso mogwirizana
- Ganizirani momwe mungadzithandizire nokha. Osachepera, onetsetsani kuti mwasunga ndalama zokwanira miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ikubwerayi popanda mnzanu
- Kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira amuna kapena akazi ndizoipa kwambiri, chifukwa chakuti moyo wanu umagwirizana mwa njira zonse. Pankhaniyi, mungafunike uphungu wazamalamulo
Kodi Ndi Bwino Kusiya Ubale Pamene Mumamva Ngati Mukuyenda Pa Zipolopolo Za Mazira?
"Kusiya ubale wopondereza kapena wodalirana ndi njira yabwino ngati palibe zopinga zambiri monga ndalama kapena zinthu zina. Kukhala ndi munthu woteroyo amene amakupangitsani kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira sikuthandiza pa thanzi lanu la maganizo. Ndikulangiza kuti mupite kwa loya kuti mudziwe ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kuchoka, "akutero Kavita.
Ananenanso kuti, “Ngati sichoncho kusankha kuchoka, ndikofunikira kudziikira malire ndikudzifunira nokha chithandizo. ukwati wodalirana kapena ubale, ngakhale mutakhala pansi pa denga lomwelo. Umakhala ndi moyo kamodzi kokha, choncho khalani mosangalala komanso mwamtendere momwe mungathere.”
Kavita amalimbikitsa mwamphamvu kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri, kaya payekha kapena ngati banja. Iye anati, "Zotsatira za nthawi yaitali za ubale woyenda pa mazira zingaphatikizepo nkhani zazikulu zaukali." Mkwiyo wosaumitsa umakhala mkwiyo wamkati, ndipo ukhoza kudzivulaza ndikudzichitira zoipa. ubale wopanda thanzi.
"M'kupita kwa nthawi, ngati mungathe kusiya kuyenda motsatira zofuna zawo, ngati muli olimba mtima, ndipo ngati nonse mungathe kupita kuchipatala, pali chiyembekezo chochira, ngakhale simupitirizabe chibwenzi." Kumbukirani, anthu oledzeretsa sangafunefune thandizo chifukwa amaona kuti sangathe kuchita cholakwika. Thandizeni."
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira mu chiyanjano kumatanthauza kuti mumakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse kuti muyambitse wokondedwa wanu
- Izi zitha kukhala zotopetsa komanso zowononga kudzidalira kwanu, komanso thanzi lanu komanso malingaliro anu
- Malire a ubale wabwino ndizofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhalabe osangalala kwambiri, wowona
- Ngati mwakhala mukuvutika ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse chifukwa chodziganizira nokha muubwenzi, ndiye kuti sikungakhale chisankho cholakwika kubwerera mmbuyo.
Ngakhale ubale wautali sungakhale wofunikira kusiya mtendere wanu wamalingaliro ndi umunthu wanu weniweni. Simusowa kuti wina aliyense amve kuti ali wokwanira. Ngati pali zochitika zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuchoka, pezani chithandizo chonse chomwe mukufuna, fikirani okondedwa anu, ndikupanga gulu lanu lothandizira. Ndinu wofunika nthawi zonse.
Ibibazo
Ngati muli paubwenzi wosayenera kumene mnzanuyo amanyalanyaza kotheratu mtendere wanu wa m’maganizo ndi kumangoyang’ana kukuweruzani, kunena mawu aukali, kunyoza zoyesayesa zanu kapena zimene mwakwaniritsa, kapena kusonyeza mkwiyo pa nkhani zazing’ono, mungamve ngati kuyenda pazigoba za mazira kuyesera kuti musawayambitse.
Kupangitsa wokondedwa wanu kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira ndi zachipongwe, zomwe zingabwere m'njira zosiyanasiyana, kaya ndi mawu, ndalama, nkhanza, kapena nkhanza. Munthu wankhanza kapena wopondereza amathanso kugwiritsa ntchito mawu osayankhula kuti awopsyeze mnzake. Zimakhudza umoyo wamaganizo ndi thupi la mnzanu wovutitsidwayo, kumawononga kudzidalira, kudzidalira, ndi luso lopanga chisankho kapena kukhulupirira munthu wina.
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