Momwe Mungachiritsire Maubwenzi Kupyolera mu Kusinkhasinkha

Maubwenzi amitundu yonse amadutsa pazigawo zovuta. Kaya zimachokera ku kusamvana ndi kusamvana kapena kupwetekedwa mtima kwakukulu kwa wokondedwa wina ndi mzake, nkhani zambiri zimatha kukonzedwa ngati onse awiri ali okonzeka kuzikonza. Ngakhale zingawoneke ngati zonse zatayika, ndizotheka kuti maanja athetse mavuto awo, makamaka mothandizidwa ndi kusinkhasinkha kwa maubwenzi.

Monga ana ndi achikulire, mikangano yathu ndi makolo imaoneka ngati yofala. Koma popeza kaŵirikaŵiri pali chikondi chozama pakati pa achibale, nthaŵi yochira imabwera mosavuta. Koma bwanji ponena za mikangano imene imachitika m’maunansi ongoyembekezera, monga zokonda zatsopano, mabwenzi atsopano, ngakhalenso maukwati amene ali ndi chigololo chamtundu wina?

Mothandizidwa ndi mlangizi wathanzi komanso wathanzi Preity Mandawewala (P.hD., Institute of Alternative Medicine-Kolkata), yemwe amagwira ntchito pa Silva Mind Control, Transcendental Meditation, Siddhi Samadhi Yoga, ndi Vipassana, tiyeni tiwone zotsatira zabwino za kusinkhasinkha pa maubwenzi ndi momwe mungachiritsire ubale.

Mmene Kusinkhasinkha Kungachiritsire Maubwenzi Anu

Apanso, onse awiri ayenera kukhala okonzeka kusinkhasinkha kuti athetse maubwenzi. Ambiri amapita ku upangiri wothandiza wa uphungu ndi magawo kuti awone mkhalidwewo mwatsopano. Ngakhale uphungu ungathandize kwambiri, simungangodalira kuti uthetse mavuto anu onse. Machiritso ayenera kuchitika ndipo ayenera kugwiritsiridwa ntchito, ndipo kusinkhasinkha kungakhale njira imodzi yothandizira kukonzanso ndikuyikanso pakati kuti zithandize kukwaniritsa zolinga za ubale.

Amalolanso kuti anthu azikula, kuti abwererenso limodzi ngati banja lolimba. Kusinkhasinkha ndi mnzanu, kapena nokha, kungakhale ndi phindu lalikulu paubwenzi wanu. Tiyeni tiwone momwe zimathandizire komanso zomwe muyenera kuyamba kuchita.

1. Kodi kusinkhasinkha kumathandiza bwanji kuthetsa mavuto a paubwenzi? Ikhoza kukukhazika mtima pansi

Pachimake, kusinkhasinkha ndi njira yomwe imathandiza kuyika malingaliro anu ndi thupi lanu pa bata momwe mungathe kumasuka, kuyang'ananso, ndi kuthetsa nkhawa kuti muthetse bwino zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu, zabwino ndi zoipa. “Kusinkhasinkha kumakukhazika pansi mtima.” Mukakhala m’maganizo, mumatha kulamulira maganizo anu, zolankhula zanu, ndi zochita zanu. njira zothetsera mikangano,” akutero Preity.

Pali njira zosiyanasiyana monga kuchotsa malingaliro anu ndi kukumbatira bata lomwe limabweretsa kapena kulola malingaliro kudutsa popanda kuchita china chilichonse kuposa kuwavomereza musanalole malingaliro anu kupita ku lingaliro lina. Njira zonsezi zimafuna kuchita ndi kulangizidwa monga mwachibadwa timakhala ndi chizolowezi chokhazikika pamalingaliro athu kapena kulola malingaliro kuti alowe mu chete.

M'kupita kwa nthawi, mukhoza kukhala odziwa bwino ntchitoyo kuti mupindule ndi chithandizo chamankhwala. Yesetsani pamene mukudziwa kuti simudzasokonezedwa pamalo abwino komanso ndi kuwala kocheperako. Muthanso kugawa mafuta ofunikira, kapena kuvala zonunkhira kuti muthandize malingaliro anu kuzindikira nthawi yosinkhasinkha iyi. Yesani kugwiritsa ntchito mafuta onunkhira awa omwe akulimbikitsidwa ndi Better Mind Body Soul.

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2. Njira zenizeni zingathandize machiritso

Kusinkhasinkha ndizochitika zaumwini ndipo muyenera kupeza zomwe zimakupindulitsani. Popeza mukufuna kuchiritsa maubwenzi, lingalirani za njira zomwe zimabweretsa njira zowunikira kuti muthane ndi nkhawa zomwe zapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi vuto. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuchira ndikuchoka m'njira yabwino kuti mutha kuthana nazo maso ndi maso mtsogolo. Angakuthandizeninso pezani malire pakati pa yin ndi yang yanu.

Preity amatiuza za njira yomwe ingabweretse bata lomwe simunamvepo. "Square breathing ndi Gayatri Mantra ndi njira yosavuta koma yothandiza kwambiri kukuthandizani kuti muyambe kusinkhasinkha mozama." Gayatri Mantra ili ndi mphamvu yochiritsa mwa iyo yokha, ndipo mukayigwedeza ndi njira yopumira, phindu limawirikiza kawiri.

“Mukasamala kwambiri za mmene mumapuma, mudzapeza kuti muli mumkhalidwe wodekha,” iye akumaliza motero. Izo sizingawoneke ngati kusinkhasinkha kwa ubale poyang'ana koyamba, koma mukakhala bata, mtendere wamalingaliro, khalani otsimikiza, simudzalimbana ndi thaulo lonyowa pabedi.

Njira ya Kuwala kwa Pinki ndi lingaliro lina lotere ndipo limayang'ana pa kudzikonda poyamba. Izi zimakupatsani mwayi wokumbukira kudzidalira kwanu ndikuthana ndi omwe mumawakonda komanso omwe mungakumane nawo. Zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale pamtendere ndikuthandizira zisankho zanu mukamalankhulana nawo pambuyo pake.

3. Momwe mungachiritsire ubale? Dzidziweni nokha mwa kusinkhasinkha

Kusinkhasinkha kumatha kukulolani kuti mufufuze mwakachetechete zowonadi zanu zomwe zimayambitsa zowawa kapena mantha omwe mukumva. Mikangano yambiri mu maubwenzi imachokera ku kusamvetsetsana ndi kuwerengera kwathu molakwika zochitika. Pamene mukulola kuti ilowerere m'maganizo mwanu, mukamva kugunda kwa mtima wanu chifukwa cha kutengeka, mumakhala okonzeka bwino kuti mupeze gwero la choyambitsacho.

"Nthawi zonse ndimanena kuti kusinkhasinkha kumayambitsa munthu." Mutha kudziwa za dziko lonse lapansi, koma mumadziwa zochuluka bwanji za inu nokha? Mukakhala mumkhalidwe wozama wosinkhasinkha, mumayamba kumvetsetsa zomwe mungathe, zomwe mungakwanitse, zomwe mungakwanitse, ndipo mumatha kudziwa zomwe mukufunikira, "akutero Preity. 

Kudzimvetsetsa zitha kukuthandizani kuti muzindikire zomwe zimakuyambitsani nthawi iliyonse zikachitika. Zidzakuthandizaninso kulankhula ndi anthu m'moyo wanu za chifukwa chomwe mwakhala mukuchitira momwe munachitira. Ubale ukhoza kukonzedwa ndi kusinkhasinkha kwa machiritso.

4. Kusinkhasinkha kungakupangitseni kukhala munthu wabwinoko, wathanzi

"Kusinkhasinkha, pamene kumachitidwa bwino kwambiri, kumakhala ndi mphamvu yakuchiritsani ku zovuta zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo zomwe mungakhale mukulimbana nazo. Ndikukhulupirira kuti tili ndi malo opangira mphamvu m'thupi, ndipo mukamanena zinthu monga 'ndikumva kuti ndikusowa mphamvu' kapena 'Ndine wofooka, sindingathe kukhalabe', zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi kutuluka kwa mphamvu mkati mwanu.

"Pamene mukusinkhasinkha pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, mphamvu yothamangayi imatha kuyikidwa bwino.Sipadzakhala zotchinga panjira ya mphamvuyo ndipo idzakhala yosasinthasintha.Chotsatira chake, ziwalo zanu zonse zidzagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri.Mwachitsanzo, ndinachiritsa matenda anga a nyamakazi ndi msana wanga mothandizidwa ndi kusinkhasinkha.

Preity anati: “Ndaona ana asukulu ambiri achiritsidwa ku matenda monga matenda a shuga, acidity, mutu waching’alang’ala, ndi kusowa tulo.” ( 15) Mwakuthupi mumakhala bwino kwambiri, maganizo anu amakhala odekha, amphamvu, mwauzimu amapeza nzeru,” anatero Preity.  

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Ndipo, ndithudi, pamene mulola mphamvu za kusinkhasinkha kukupangitsani kukhala munthu wathanzi, ubwenzi wanu udzapindulanso. Mukakhala osangalala komanso athanzi pakhungu lanu, maubwenzi anu adzakhala osangalala. Kaya mukuyesera kusinkhasinkha za nkhawa zaubwenzi kapena kusinkhasinkha kuti mulumikizane ndi wina, kukhala wathanzi kungakuthandizeni kukwaniritsa chilichonse mwa izi.

5. Mumamva chisoni kwambiri

Kukhala wachifundo mu ubale wanu ndi maziko olumikizana ndi kulemekeza wokondedwa wanu. Mukatha kudziyika nokha mu nsapato za mnzanuyo, simudzachita mwankhanza monga momwe mungakhalire. Preity anati: “Kusinkhasinkha kumakupatsani mphamvu pa kaganizidwe kanu.

Ngati funso la momwe mungachiritsire chibwenzi ladzutsa usiku, chinthu chachikulu chomwe chingakuthandizeni ndikumvera chifundo mnzanuyo. Mosazindikira, mudzakhala mukukulitsa kulemekezana kwabwino muubwenzi, chifukwa mudzatha kuona kumene mnzanu akuchokera. Ndipo palibe njira yabwinoko yochitira chifundo kuposa kusinkhasinkha pa maubwenzi.

6. Ikhoza kukweza aura kuzungulira nyumba yanu

Preity anati: “Pamene munthu mmodzi m’nyumba akusinkhasinkha, amasintha mmene nyumba yonse ikuyendera.” Mphamvu yabwino imakhudza kwambiri chilengedwe. Ngati zinthu nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta m'nyumba mwanu kapena malo omwe mumakhala, kusinkhasinkha kumakulowetsani kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi chidani chomwe chili mumlengalenga.

Kusinkhasinkha paubwenzi sikutanthauza kuti mwakhala pafupi ndi mnzanuyo, ndikuimba limodzi mawu ofotokozera. Mchitidwe wophweka wa kusinkhasinkha tsiku ndi tsiku, ngakhale nokha, ungathandize kukweza aura yonse ya nyumba. Ndani ankadziwa kuti zingakhale zosavuta kuthetsa mavuto a ubale?  

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Momwe Kusinkhasinkha Kumalimbikitsira Kumva Kulumikizana

Monga mudawonera ndi mfundo zomwe tafotokozazi, kusinkhasinkha ndi mnzako, kapena kumachita nokha, kumakhala ndi mphamvu zimakhudza bwino maubwenzi onse mukhoza kukhala nazo mu moyo wanu. Mukadzidziwa bwino ndikukhala wathanzi, mphamvu zanu zabwino ziyenera kukwezanso omwe akuzungulirani.

Kusinkhasinkha kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi vuto laubwenzi kapena kungakhale gawo loyamba lothana ndi ubale woyipa. Pongodzidziwanso nokha kapena kukhala ndi malingaliro abata, mumakhala okonzeka kuthana ndi mavuto omwe moyo umakubweretserani.

Preity amalumbira ndi zotsatira zabwino za kusinkhasinkha pa maubwenzi, ndipo n'zomveka kuona chifukwa chake. Pokupatsani mwayi womvera ena chisoni, kusinkhasinkha kumatsegula njira yopita ku ubale wabwino ndi mtendere wamumtima. Kuyamba ndi kophweka monga kukhala pansi kwa mphindi khumi ndikuyang'ana pa kupuma kwanu, kotero palibe chifukwa choti musafike nthawi yomweyo.

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