Momwe Mungapitirizire Kutengeka Kwambiri: 17 Psychological Tricks

Kutengeka maganizo kungakhale chinthu champhamvu komanso chowononga kwambiri, kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuika maganizo pa chinthu china chilichonse kupatulapo munthu amene wagwira mtima ndi maganizo anu. Kaŵirikaŵiri zimamveka ngati mphepo yamkuntho ya chisangalalo, chikhumbo, ndi chikhumbo, koma pansi pa pamwamba, zingayambitse kusokonezeka maganizo, kutengeka maganizo, ndipo ngakhale kupwetekedwa mtima. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mungapewe bwanji kutengeka mtima, nkhaniyi ndi yanu.

Kuti tiyankhe mafunso monga “Kodi kukonda munthu kumatanthauza chiyani?” ndi “Kodi ndingatani kuti ndikhale paubwenzi wokonda munthu?”, tinalankhula ndi dokotala wa matenda amisala ku California komanso katswiri wa zamaganizo, Dr. Shefali Batra (MD mu matenda amisala). Iye ndi katswiri pa uphungu wokhudza kulekana ndi kusudzulana, kusudzulana ndi chibwenzi, komanso nkhani zokhudzana ndi kuyanjana kwa anthu asanakwatirane.

Kodi Kutengeka Maganizo N'kutani?

Kutengeka mtima ndi maganizo a kamvuluvulu amene amakupangitsani kuganiza kuti, “O Mulungu wanga, ndi izi! Mukakumana ndi munthu ndipo mwadzidzidzi, ndizo zonse zomwe mungaganizire. Iwo alibe ngakhale mameseji kumbuyo pano, ndipo inu mukuganizira kale tsogolo limodzi ndi buluzi Pet. Koma kodi kutengeka maganizo ndi chiyani kwenikweni? 

Dr. Batra anati: “Zimakhudza kwambiri maganizo, nthawi zambiri zimasokonezedwa ndi chikondi, koma n’zosiyana kwambiri. 

Sabrina, katswiri wojambula zithunzi wazaka 26, anatiuza nkhaniyi. "Panali munthu wina pantchito ina yomwe ndinkagwirapo kale, amene ndinayamba kumukonda. Sindinkamudziwa zambiri ndipo sindinalankhule naye. Koma m'maganizo mwanga, ndinkaganiza za umunthu wake kuyambira pachiyambi mpaka kumapeto, monga mtundu wa pasitala yomwe amakonda komanso ngati ndi munthu wa kumapiri kapena wa m'mphepete mwa nyanja. Ndinasanduka wachinyamata, wolota masana ndi zina zotero. Koma, nditangoyamba kulankhula naye paphwando, ndinapeza kuti sanali munthu wamtundu wanga konse ndipo malingaliro onse anatha nthawi yomweyo."

Kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la kutengeka mtima kumakuthandizani kuzindikira nthawi yomwe mukukumana nayo ndikusiyanitsa ndi kulumikizana kwenikweni.

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Zizindikiro Zakutengeka

Kukonda kwambiri munthu nthawi zambiri kumadzibisa ngati chilakolako chachikulu kapena chikondi, koma zomwe zimachitika m'maganizo zimatha kusiyana kwambiri mu chikondi poyerekeza ndi kukonda kwambiri munthu . Nthawi zambiri zimakhudza malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi machitidwe olemetsa omwe sali ofanana ndi zenizeni za ubalewo. Nazi zina mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mwina mukukonda kwambiri munthu wina malinga ndi katswiri:

1. Mumatengeka nazo

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zodziwika bwino za kutengeka mtima ndicho kulephera kusiya kuganizira za munthuyo. Izi zitha kuwoneka motere:

• Nthawi zonse kuyang'ana mbiri zawo zapa social media
• Kuwalota ali kuntchito
• Kubwereza kuyanjana kulikonse mu malingaliro anu

Dr. Batra, “Maganizo otopetsa ameneŵa amawononga maganizo anu.” Kukhazikika kumeneku kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kuika maganizo anu pa zinthu zina za moyo wanu, monga ntchito, zokonda, ngakhalenso kudzisamalira.

2. Mumawaganizira bwino

Kodi kukonda munthu kumatanthauza chiyani? Kumatanthauza kumuyang'ana munthuyo kudzera m'magalasi a pinki. Nthawi zambiri mumanyalanyaza zofooka zake ndikukulitsa makhalidwe ake abwino, zomwe zimamupangitsa kuoneka wangwiro m'maso mwanu. Kuganiza bwino kumeneku kungayambitse kukhumudwa pambuyo pake pamene zenizeni sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe mumayembekezera. Ubale wabwino umadalira kuwona munthu monga momwe alili, kuphatikizapo zofooka zake.

3. Nthawi zonse mumaganizira zowasangalatsa

Chochita chilichonse kapena chisankho chilichonse chimakhudzidwa ndi kufunikira kowonedwa kapena kutsimikiziridwa ndi munthu uyu. Kuyambira kusintha mawonekedwe ndi machitidwe anu mpaka kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muwasangalatse, mumadziona kuti mukuchita zinthu zabwino kwambiri. Ngakhale kuti ndi zachibadwa kufuna kuwoneka bwino kwa munthu amene mumamukonda, kukonda munthu nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kubwezera mopitirira muyeso, nthawi zina kumabweretsa kutaya mtima.

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4. Mumachita nsanje mopanda nzeru ndi aliyense amene amawayang'ana

Ngakhale kuyanjana kwachisawawa kumene amakhala ndi ena kungayambitse nsanje yadzaoneni ndi kusadzidalira. Mungawopsezedwe ndi mabwenzi awo, mabwenzi, kapena aliyense amene akuwoneka kuti akukopa chidwi chawo, ngakhale ngati palibe chifukwa chenicheni chochitira zimenezi. Nsanje yoipa imeneyi imachokera ku mantha otaya chikondi chawo ndipo ingayambitse maganizo oipa, monga kukhala ndi katundu ndi nkhawa.

Pamene bwenzi langa, Taylor, adakopeka ndi mnansi wake, ankakonda kugawana nane chilichonse chokhudza izi, monga anzanga amachitira. Amandiuza zinthu monga, "Ndinamuwona akulankhula ndi mtsikana wina ali paulendo wake wam'mawa. Anali kuseka limodzi. Ndikukhulupirira kuti palibe chimene chikuchitika pakati pawo. Mwinanso ndiyambe kuyenda m'mawa." Ndipo mwachiwonekere ndimakonda kuphatikizira nkhope ndikuyesera kumveketsa mwa iye, monga momwe anzanga amachitira. 

5. Muli pa kumverera rollercoaster

Kukopeka ndi munthu nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kukhumudwa kwambiri. Mwina mungasangalale mutalandira uthenga wochokera kwa iwo, koma chizindikiro chaching’ono kwambiri chosonyeza kuti simukufuna kapena kusamala nacho chingakuchititseni kuti muzidzikayikira ndiponso muzichita chisoni. Rollercoaster wamalingaliro awa amapangitsa kukhala kovuta kukhalabe wokhazikika m'moyo wanu, popeza chimwemwe chanu chikuwoneka chodalira momwe akuyankhira kwa inu.

Kuzindikira zizindikiro za chikondi chachikondi ndi gawo loyamba lomvetsetsa momwe mukumvera ndikubwezeretsanso malingaliro anu. Mwa kuchita izi, mutha kuyamba kuwunika malingaliro ndi zochita zanu moyenera, ndikutsegula njira yopezera ubale wabwino komanso mkhalidwe wokhazikika wamalingaliro.

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Malangizo 17 Okhudza Kutengeka Kwambiri

Kugonjetsa kutengeka maganizo kungakhale kovuta, makamaka ngati mwatanganidwa ndi maganizo ndi malingaliro omwe amamupangitsa munthuyo kuoneka ngati dziko lanu lonse. Kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere kutengeka maganizo kumatanthauza kubwerera m'mbuyo, kuyambiranso kuona zinthu moyenera, ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti mudzipatse ufulu wamaganizo. Nayi malangizo amomwe mungachotsere munthu m'mutu mwanu ndikusiya kuganizira kwambiri za kukondana:

1. Vomerezani kuti ndinu otengeka

Njira imodzi yothetsera kutengeka mtima ndikuzindikira kuti zomwe mukumva si chikondi chenicheni; ndi kutsika kwamalingaliro kwakanthawi. Kutengeka mtima kotereku kumabweretsa kuwunika mopambanitsa zochita zazing'ono, monga kuyankha mwachangu, ndikutanthauzira ngati kuchita bwino. Kuvomereza izi n'kofunika kwambiri kuti tipite patsogolo.

2. Chepetsani kukhudzana

N'zovuta kusiya kulankhulana mwachidwi ngati nthawi zonse mukulankhulana kapena kuyankha uthenga uliwonse. Dr. Batra akulangiza kuti, “Yambani mwa kuchepetsa kulankhulana kwanu; kudzakuthandizani kuthetsa vuto la kudalira ena.” Khulupirirani kuti mutha kuchita bwino popanda kujambula zithunzi zawo za tsiku ndi tsiku kapena mauthenga akuti “Mmawa wabwino”.

3. Lekani kuona malo awo ochezera a pa Intaneti

Ubwenzi wokondana nthawi zambiri umakula chifukwa chongokhalira kutsatiridwa pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti . Kupuma pa nthawi yocheza ndi anthu atsopano kudzathandiza kuchepetsa chilakolako chofuna kudziwa zambiri za moyo wawo ndikumasula maganizo anu ku zinthu zosafunikira.

4.Don't idealize iwo

Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Ndikosavuta kutengera khalidwe lililonse la munthu amene mwakopeka naye, koma yesetsani kutengera khalidwe la munthu. Kumbukirani kuti ali ndi zophophonya, zophophonya, ndi zophophonya ngati wina aliyense, ndipo si opanda chilema monga momwe malingaliro anu otengeka amawapangira.

5. Lingalirani zolakwa zawo

Kodi mukuganiza momwe mungachotsere munthu m'mutu mwanu? Ganizirani mozama za makhalidwe awo osasangalatsa kuti muchepetse malingaliro awo. Mukukumbukira kukambirana kwa chakudya chamadzulo komwe ankangolankhula za iwo okha? Ndi chikumbutso chabwino kuti uwu sungakhale ubale wangwiro womwe mumauganizira.

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6. Lankhulani ndi anzanu

Anzanu amakudziwani bwino ndipo adzakuthandizani kuona zinthu bwinobwino. Adzakukumbutsaninso za kutengeka mtima kwanu, monga nthawi ya karaoke, yomwe imayenera kugwedezeka, kuyika zinthu moyenera. Ndipo ndikhulupirireni, ndizosangalatsa kwa abwenzi komanso.

Kusukulu, tinali ndi mnzathu m’gulu lathu, amene anayamba kusweka mtima nthawi yomweyo. Mlungu uliwonse, panali wina yemwe "anaba mtima wake". Ndipo tinkakhala ndi gawo lonse nthawi zonse, ndikulemba zinthu monga, "Ali ndi mphuno yaikulu" kapena "Zolemba zake ndizoyipa" (Osaweruza, tinali achinyamata). Mfundo ndikuti, idagwira ntchito nthawi zonse. Anataya mtima pambuyo pa magawowa. 

7. Dzisokonezeni nokha

Popereka malangizo a mmene mungagonjetsere kusweka mtima, Dr. Batra anati: “Pezani zinthu zina zimene zingakuthandizeni kuti maganizo anu akhale otanganidwa komanso kuti musamavutike kwambiri.” Mutha:

• Pezani zosangalatsa zatsopano
• Onani chiwonetsero chomwe mwakhala mukufuna kuchiwona kwa nthawi yayitali
• Onani masewera atsopano
• Khalani ndi tsiku la solo usiku

Kuchita zinthu zomwe mumakonda kungakupatseni zosokoneza zabwino ndikukuthandizani kuikanso chidwi chanu pa moyo wanu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zidule zamalingaliro kuti musangalale.

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8. Ganizirani za inu nokha

Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri yodzisamalira komanso kudzisamalira. Dzioneni ngati chinthu chofunika kwambiri, ndipo perekani nthawi yanu pazinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva bwino, kaya kuwerenga buku, kuphika njira yatsopano yophikira, kapena kudzisamalira.

9.Musamakonde zochitika mwangozi

Ngati mukufuna upangiri wa momwe mungathetsere kukondana, nayi imodzi. Siyani kuwona zochitika zilizonse ngati chizindikiro chochokera ku chilengedwe chonse. Zokonda zofanana sizimakupangitsani kukhala ogwirizana. Kukonda pizza kapena nyimbo zomwezo sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala limodzi.

10. Pewani malo omwe amapitako

Gawo lalikulu la momwe mungatulutsire munthu m'mutu mwanu ndikudzipatula kuzinthu komanso malo omwe mumayanjana ndi munthuyo. Dr. Batra anati: “Mukafuna “kuwagunda” kumalo odyera omwe amawakonda, musamavutike kwambiri.

11. Lankhulani ndi anthu atsopano

Yambani kuchita nawo zokambirana zatsopano ndi anthu ena. Ngakhale kuti simukuyenera kulumphira muubwenzi watsopano, ndizothandiza kudzikumbutsa kuti pali anthu ena osangalatsa omwe angakhale abwino kwa inu.

Mnzanga wina sanasiye kudandaula za mtsikanayu, amene anamupempha kuti apite naye koma iye sanali ndi chidwi. Tinamulangiza kuti ayambe kufufuza chibwenzi pa intaneti kapena kupita ku bala kukafunafuna chibwenzi china, koma anakana kupitirira. Mpaka tsiku lina, pamene tinamukokera ku phwando ndipo pamapeto pake, anasakanikirana ndipo, mungakhulupirire, anachoka msanga ndi mtsikana.

12. Seka zimenezo

Bwererani kumbuyo ndikuwona nthabwala mu kutengeka kwanu. Kuseka momwe mudasanthulira mndandanda wawo wazosewerera kapena "kumwetulira kwa sekondi imodzi" kudzakuthandizani kuwona kuti vutolo silinali lovuta ndikukupatsani malingaliro opepuka.

13. Siyani "chomwe chikadakhala"

Maloto akuti "zimene zikanatheka" ndi filimu chabe yamaganizo yomwe mwapanga, ndipo si zenizeni. Siyani nkhani yongopeka iyi ndipo kumbukirani kuti chikondi chenicheni chimamangidwa pa zinthu zambiri kuposa zomwe mumayembekezera kuti zingachitike.

14. Lembani

Kufotokozera malingaliro anu m'magazini kapena kuwuza mnzanu wapamtima kungakuthandizeni kumasula maganizo anu. Pewani kugawana malingaliro awa ndi munthu amene mwakopeka naye; m’malo mwake, fotokozerani zakukhosi kwa munthu amene amakuchirikizani.

15. Osabwerezanso kukumbukira

Siyani kubwerezabwereza chilichonse chomwe adakuchitirani kapena kumwetulira kulikonse komwe adakupatsani. Nthawi izi sizitanthauza zambiri monga momwe zimaonekera mukamaziona kudzera mu malingaliro achikondi. Lolani malingaliro anu apitirire kuchoka pa zokumbukira izi zachifupi.

16. Dulani kulota uli maso

Apa ndi momwe mungasiye kutengeka ndi kusweka. Nthawi zonse mukamaganizira za tsogolo limodzi nawo, sokonezani maganizowo nthawi yomweyo. Ganizirani za chinthu china chokhazikika, monga chizolowezi chawo chokhumudwitsa kwambiri, kuti mubwerere ku zenizeni.

17. Perekani nthawi

Uwu ndi upangiri wothandiza kwambiri wokhudza momwe mungagonjetsere kukondana . Malingaliro onse amatha pakapita nthawi, ndipo kukondana sikusiyana. Khulupirirani kuti malingaliro amphamvu awa adzatha, ndipo posachedwa, mudzatha kuyang'ana m'mbuyo ndikudabwa chifukwa chake mudamvapo kutopa kwambiri poyamba.

Maganizo Final

Kugonjetsa kutengeka maganizo ndi njira yomwe imafuna kudzidziwitsa nokha, kuleza mtima, ndi kufunitsitsa kuika moyo wanu patsogolo. Pozindikira zisonyezo za kutengeka mtima ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti muchepetse kulumikizana, pewani kukhazikika, ndikuyang'ana nokha, mutha kuwongoleranso malingaliro anu ndikuwona zinthu bwino. 

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