Sikophweka kudziwa nthawi yochoka pachibwenzi. Kupatula apo, mudalowa ndi ziyembekezo zambiri ndi maloto, munakulitsa ubale wanu ndi chikondi chanu chonse, chikondi, ndi chisamaliro. Sizophweka kungochoka pa zonsezi pamene mavuto ayamba kubweretsa mutu wawo wonyansa. Nthawi zingapo zoyambirira mukazindikira kuti muli paubwenzi wosasangalala, mungadziuze nokha kuti ndi vuto lalikulu. Komabe, posakhalitsa zingasinthe kukhala chitsanzo.
"Pepani, sizichitikanso." "Sindikufunanso kukupwetekani." "Ndisintha, ndipatseni mwayi wina." "Ndikulonjeza kuti zinthu zikhala mosiyana tsopano." Malonjezo ndi zitsimikizozi zimakupatsirani chiyembekezo cha mawa abwino. Mukuganiza kuti, "Chabwino, komaliza. Ndituluka ngati zinthu sizisintha." Koma zoona zake n’zakuti palibe chimene chimasintha, ndipo mumagwidwa ndi zigamba zoipa ndi malonjezo apamwamba amene sadzachitika. Zonse zomwe zitsimikizidwe izi zimakulepheretsani kuwona zizindikiro zomveka bwino kuti nthawi yochoka paubwenzi yakwana.
N’zosachita kunena kuti yankho la “nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi” lingakhale losiyana kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Koma pali nthawi zina zomwe simungasankhe koma kungosiya ndikuchoka. Ndipo ayi, nthawi zonse sizimachitika chifukwa cha nkhanza zakuthupi, zamaganizo, kapena zamawu. Pakhoza kukhala zochitika zina zambiri kapena nthawi zomwe zimakupangitsani kukayikira kufunika kwa chibwenzi. Tiyeni tipeze zomwe izi zili pokambirana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Prachi Vaish (M.Phil. mu Clinical Psychology), yemwe ndi membala wa bungwe la American Psychological Association komanso katswiri wodziwa bwino za kuvulala kwa m'maganizo komanso katswiri wodziwa bwino za mavuto azaumoyo omwe amadziwika bwino pothana ndi mavuto monga kusudzulana, zibwenzi zakunja kwa banja, maubwenzi ozunza.
Kodi Zifukwa Zotani Zosiya Ubale?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi? Chifukwa chomwe anthu ambiri amavutikira kupeza yankho la funsoli ndikukayikira kusiya chibwenzi chomwe chasweka ndichakuti sakudziwa ngati mavuto omwe akukumana nawo ndi oyenera kuchoka. Kenako pali chiyembekezo, lonjezo la tsogolo labwino lomwe limawapangitsa kuchedwetsa zomwe sizingapeweke ndikukhalabe muubwenzi woipa kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe ayenera kukhalira.
"Chifukwa chachikulu ndi chakuti timapitirizabe kuyembekezera kusintha (kawirikawiri popanda kuchitapo kanthu). Timapitiriza kuganiza kuti ndi kulingalira kwathu, kuyesetsa kwathu, ndi kuchonderera kwathu, wokondedwa wathu adzasintha. Kuvomereza zosiyana kumafuna kuvomereza kuti tinapanga chisankho cholakwika posankha munthu uyu. Ndipo ichi ndi chifukwa chosadziwika bwino chomwe chimatipangitsa kuti tipitirizebe, "akutero Prachi.
Ngati mukupeza kuti muli panthaŵi yofananayo ndipo nthaŵi zonse mukudzifunsa kuti, “Kodi ndipitirizebe muubwenzi umenewu kapena ndituluke?’, mwinamwake, kungakuthandizeni kudzifunsa kuti, “Kodi kukhala paubwenzi n’kotani kumene sikukubweretserani chisangalalo ndi chikhutiro?” Malingana ngati mukumva m'mafupa anu kuti ubalewu siwoyenera kwa inu, zifukwa zanu zofunira kuchoka sizikhala zosawerengeka kapena zosinthika.
Ngati mukufuna chitsimikizo chochulukirapo kuti mukuchita izi pazifukwa zolondola, nazi zina zomwe zimakupangitsani kuchokapo:
- Palibe kukwaniritsidwa kwamalingaliro: Maubwenzi achikondi amamangidwa pa mgwirizano wakuya wamalingaliro pakati pa okondedwa. Ngati izi zikusoweka muubwenzi wanu ndipo nthawi zonse mumamva kuti zosowa zanu sizikukwaniritsidwa kapena kulephera, ndi chifukwa chomveka chochokapo.
- Kusakhazikika mu mgwirizano: Inde, n’kwachibadwa kuti anthu okondana azidziwika pakapita nthawi ndipo chisangalalocho chidzazimiririka. Komabe, kamodzi kusasamala mu ubale amalowa ndipo inu ndi mnzanuyo mumangotengerana mosasamala mpaka simukuvutikiranso ndi zomwe wina akukumana nazo, ndiye kuti mukusiyana kale. Ndi nthawi yokhayo kuti mukhale alendo kwa wina ndi mzake, chifukwa chiyani mutalikitsa chisoni chanu?
- Kukondana ndi munthu wina: Kodi nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi ndi liti? Chabwino, ngati inu kapena mnzanu wagwa m'chikondi ndi kapena kukopeka ndi munthu wina, ndi chizindikiro choonekeratu kuti ubwenzi wanu watha.
- Kusagonana: Ubale wanthawi yayitali umadutsa magawo ndi magawo osiyanasiyana, omwe angaphatikizepo kuchepa kwa zibwenzi zogonana. Izi zokha si chizindikiro chakuti nthawi yochoka yakwana. Komabe, ngati muli ndi chilakolako champhamvu cha kugonana, osati kwa wokondedwa wanu, ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti chikondi chimene munali nacho kwa wina ndi mzake chatha.
- Nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse: Nkhanza zamaganizo kapena zakuthupi ndi chizindikiro china chodziwikiratu kuti muyenera kuthetsa chibwenzi kuti mudziteteze. Osakoka mapazi anu, ndikudabwa momwe mungachokere paubwenzi woipa mukamamukondabe munthuyo. Siyani nthawi ndi nthawi chitani ntchito yomwe mukufunikira kuti muchiritse zilonda zapamtima zaubwenzi wankhanza ndikuthetsa malingaliro aliwonse omwe muli nawo pa okondedwa wanu.
- Mavuto a ndalama: Ngati maganizo anu pa ndalama sakugwirizana kapena pali mavuto azachuma muubwenzi, zingakhale zovuta kuyang'ana mopitirira. Kulimbana ndi ndalama ndi chizindikiro champhamvu kuti kuchoka ndi chisankho choyenera kwa inu
- Ubale Wapoizoni: Kuzindikira nthawi yosiya ubale wapoizoni Zitha kukhala zovuta kuwirikiza kawiri chifukwa nthawi zambiri onse awiri amakonda kudyetsa kawopsedwe. Komabe, ngati chibwenzi chikuwononga thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndikupangitsani kukhala ndi nkhawa, mantha, nkhawa m'malo mokhala osangalala, okhutira, otetezeka, kuchitapo kanthu kuti mudziteteze ndi chinthu choyenera kuchita - mosasamala kanthu kuti mnzanuyo amati amakukondani kapena mukuganiza kuti mumamukonda.
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Tsopano popeza tawona zochitika zazikulu zomwe zimakuuzani nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi, tiyeni tikambirane zenizeni. Kotero, pali mawu mkati mwanu akukuuzani kuti ubale wanu sukumva bwino. Ikafika nthawi yochoka pachibwenzi, malingaliro osagwirizana amayamba kulowa. Mwina simungakhalenso okondana ndi wokondedwa wanu kapenanso kudera nkhawa za iwo monga kale.
Komabe, pano mukulimbana ndi chosankha chovuta, osatha kuchita zomwe chibadwa chanu chikukuuzani. Chifukwa chiyani? "Anthu amakonda kubwereza njira zomwezo zoyesera kubweretsa kusintha, kuyembekezera zotsatira zosiyana. Izi mwachiwonekere sizingachitike. Ndipo mpaka pamenepo, ngakhale mkhalidwe wopweteka umakhala wozoloŵereka kwambiri kuchoka ndi kufufuza zomwe sizikudziwika, "akutero Prachi akufotokoza chifukwa chake nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kusiya munthu amene mumakhala naye ndikukhala naye moyo.
Koma chizolowezi si chifukwa chabwino chokhalirabe muubwenzi woipa. Nthawi zina, mwina simungazindikire, koma pali zizindikiro zokwanira, ngati mumvetsera mwatcheru, zomwe ziyenera kukupangitsani kuganizira zosiya chibwenzi. Werengani kuti muwone ngati akukukhudzani:
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1. Ubwenzi ndi wankhanza
Prachi anati: “Nkhaniyo ingakhale yolankhula mawu, yamaganizo, kapena yakuthupi. Ngati moyo wanu ndi mnzanuyo ndi masewera osatha, ngati mumanyozedwa ndi mawu onyoza, ngati mnzanuyo amakusokonezani maganizo kuti akwaniritse zomwe akufuna, kapena ngati munachitiridwa nkhanza zapakhomo, ndi nthawi yoti musiye.
Palibe amene ayenera kukhala mu ubale wozunza. Sipangakhale chizindikiro chomveka bwino kuposa nkhanza ngati mukudabwa momwe mungadziwire nthawi yochoka pachibwenzi. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi zizindikiro zochenjeza kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi zizolowezi zoipa, sikungakhale vuto kulingalira kusiya chibwenzicho potengera malingaliro anu. M'malo mwake, timalimbikitsa. Kukakamira kuti mudziwe ngati mnzanu akukuchitirani nkhanza kapena ayi sikoyenera. Ngati mukukayikira, chokani.
2. Kulemekezana kumasowa
Ubale wabwino nthawi zonse umadalira pa maziko a ulemu. “ Ulemu muubwenzi umatanthauza kudalira kuti mnzanu ndi wamkulu wokhala ndi maganizo akeake ndipo amadziwa zomwe akuchita. Ngati palibe ulemu kwa wina ndi mnzake monga anthu, sipangakhale chikondi,” akutero Prachi.
Zizindikiro zakusowa ulemu muubwenzi sizimangokhalira nkhanza kapena wina kuchititsa manyazi mnzake. Pakhozanso kukhala zizindikiro zobisika zomwe mungathe kuziwona pazokambirana za tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mnzanu. Ngati amanyalanyaza malingaliro anu, sakonda zomwe mukunena, ndipo amakudulani, zikutanthauza kuti saona kuti ndinu munthu wamtengo wapatali. Kodi paubwenzi womwe simukukondweretsedwa ndi wofunika kukhala nawo?
3. Mwakuberedwa kangapo
Kodi nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi ndi liti, mukufunsa? Chabwino, ngati kusakhulupirika kwakhala chinthu chofala muubwenzi wanu, sizikupanga nzeru kukhalabe, tsopano sichoncho? Ngati mnzanu wapereka chikhulupiliro chanu, osati kamodzi kokha koma mobwerezabwereza, ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti samakuyamikirani kwambiri. Ndithudi, pamene zolakwa zawo zionekera poyera, iwo angapemphe chikhululukiro, kulonjeza kuwongolera njira yawo, ndi kupereka chiyembekezo cha mtsogolo mwabwinoko.
Kenako, amabwerera ku machitidwe awo akale. Kunyengedwa kumakusinthirani , ndipo ngati mabala amenewa akuchitika mobwerezabwereza, angayambitse kuwonongeka kwa maganizo kosatha komanso kwakukulu. Musadziletse chifukwa simungathe kudziwa momwe mungachokere muubwenzi woipa pamene mukukondabe munthuyo. Pangani chisankho chovuta chochokapo ndikuyang'ana kwambiri pakuchira ku zowawa zomwe mnzanu wanu wakubweretserani kuti mutsegule mtima wanu ndi malingaliro anu kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino komanso wachikondi mtsogolo.
4. Simungathe kupeza mikangano yakale
Ngakhale n’zoona kuti ndewu ndi mikangano zimachitika m’maubwenzi onse, ngati izi zipitirira, ubalewo ukhoza kukhala wosasangalatsa kwambiri. Mungaope kukambirana zovuta chifukwa choopa kuyambitsa ndewu ina, ndipo chifukwa chake, mavuto anu angayambe kuchulukana. Nkhani zobisika zimapangitsa kuti musakhale ndi mkwiyo muubwenzi , zomwe zimapangitsa kuti musakhale osangalala komanso kuti musakhutire. Mukuona komwe tikupita ndi izi?
Ichi ndichifukwa chake chimodzi mwazizindikiro za nthawi yochoka paubwenzi ndikuti mikangano ndi mikangano zakhala mutu wapakati pa kulumikizana kwanu ndi mnzanu. Prachi akuti: "Kulephera kuthetsa kusamvana muubwenzi nthawi zambiri kumawonetsa zovuta zina monga kusalankhulana bwino, kawopsedwe, ndi machitidwe osagwirizana ndi anthu. Zingathandize kukumba mozama ndikufika pamizu yazovutazi.
5. Kulimbirana mphamvu ndikwambiri
Mwina kufanana kwathunthu muubwenzi kungakhale lingaliro lachilendo koma pakakhala kuyesetsa kulamulirana, zotsatira zake zimakhala kupsinjika maganizo. "Pamene kufanana kulowedwa m'malo ndi kulimbana kwa mphamvu muubwenzi , mosakayikira kumabweretsa nkhondo ya umodzi osati mgwirizano weniweni, wa onse awiri," akutero Prachi. Munthu 'wofooka' amadzimva kuti ndi wofooka komanso wopanda mphamvu.
Ubwenzi wachikondi umakhudza kulemekezana, kukhulupirirana, ndi chisamaliro. Ndani ali ndi dzanja lapamwamba sayenera kukhala ndi kanthu. Ubale wanu suyenera kuwoneka ngati nkhondo yokhazikika yokhazikitsa ulamuliro. Ndipo ngati zili choncho, ndiye nthawi yoti musiyane.
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6. Kulankhula mawu onyoza okondedwa wanu
Kaŵirikaŵiri kupanda ulemu kumawonekera m’mawu amwano ndi achipongwe amene mabwenzi amachitirana malonda. "Thupi kuchititsa manyazi mnzanu, kunena zinthu monga, "Ndikadakupeza iwe wokongola kwambiri ngati utachepa thupi", kudzudzula ndi kunyoza zosankha zawo, ntchito yawo, kunyoza momwe amawonekera kapena zomwe abwenzi awo ali, ndi zina zotero, ndizo zizindikiro kuti nthawi yakwana yosiya chibwenzi, "anatero Prachi.
Pamene kudzilemekeza kwanu kukuwonongedwa m'dzina la chikondi, momwe mungapezere mphamvu zosiya munthu amene mumamukonda sikuyenera kukhala funso lofunika kuliganizira. Akanakhala bwenzi akukuuzani za mawu achipongwe amene mnzawo amalankhula pa iwo, mukanawauza kuti athetse chibwenzicho msanga! Dziwonetseni nokha kukoma mtima komweko ndikuyang'ana pa kupita patsogolo, ku tsogolo labwino.
7. Mukuyatsidwa ndi gasi
Kuwonetsa mphamvu ya gasi ndi njira yobisika yochitira nkhanza pamene munthu m'modzi akukana zenizeni za mnzawoyo mwa kumunena kuti ndi wamisala kapena mwa kunena kuti nthawi zonse munthuyo amachita zinthu zazikulu popanda chifukwa. "Kuwonetsa mphamvu ya gasi kungatenge mitundu yosiyanasiyana. Kupangitsa munthu kukayikira zisankho zake kapena kuukira kudziona kuti ndi wofunika ndi zitsanzo za kuonetsa mphamvu ya gasi. Ndipo kungakhale kovulaza kwambiri thanzi la munthu amene akumulandirayo. Iyenera kukhala imodzi mwa njira zosathetsera mgwirizano zomwe sizingakambirane muubwenzi munthu akangozindikira zomwe akuchitiridwa," akutero Prachi.
Kuyatsa gasi kumatha kukupangitsani kukayikira zisankho zanu / kukayikira zomwe mumakumbukira. Palibe amene ayenera kukhala ndi mphamvu yakupangitsani kukayikira malingaliro anu ndi kuthekera kwanu kupanga zosankha nokha. Kusokoneza maganizo kwamtunduwu kusakhale ndi malo mu maubwenzi. Ngati mwakhala mukuyatsidwa ndi gasi, kuzindikira kuti ndi sitepe yoyamba yomwe mungatenge kuti mudzipulumutse ku ubale womwe bungwe lanu limakanidwa nthawi zonse. Mukatero, njira yopitira patsogolo idzamveka bwino.
8. Pamene wokondedwa wanu akufuna kukusinthani
Modziwa kapena mosadziwa, timayesa kukopa anzathu. Kusintha ndikwabwino, makamaka ngati kukupangitsani kukhala munthu wabwinoko kapena kukuthandizani kukulitsa zizolowezi kapena moyo wabwino. Komabe, pamene mnzanuyo ayesera kusintha amene inu muli pachimake pa inu kapena ali ndi chikoka zoipa pa inu, zingakhale ndi zotsatira zowononga kwa nthawi yaitali.
Ngati mnzanu akufuna kukusinthani, zimangotanthauza kuti akufunafuna zomwe sangazipeze mwa inu. Izi zikusonyeza kuti simungagwirizane. Izi, mwazokha, ziyenera kukhala zokwanira kuti mudziwe nthawi yochoka pachibwenzi. Kupatula apo, ngati mutayesa kudzisintha nokha mwakufuna kwa mnzanuyo, mudzakhala omasuka nokha. Kodi mungasangalale bwanji pamene mulibe mtendere ndi zomwe muli? Ndipo pali phindu lanji kukhala paubwenzi pomwe simungakhale weniweni kapena kupeza chisangalalo?
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9. Okondedwa anu samavomereza ana anu kapena ziweto zanu
Ubwenzi wabwino wachikondi umamangidwa pa kuvomereza kwathunthu mbali iliyonse ya moyo wa wina ndi mnzake - zabwino, zoyipa, ndi zoyipa. Ngati mnzanu walephera kuchita zimenezo, kodi angakhaledi oyenera kwa inu? Mnzanu wodzikonda angakuuzeni patatha miyezi ingapo kuchokera muubwenzi kuti sakugwirizana ndi mbali zina za moyo wanu zomwe simungathe kuzisintha.
Kusiya munthu amene mumamukonda koma sikuli bwino kwa inu sikophweka, koma ngati mnzanuyo sakugwirizana ndi mbali za moyo wanu zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu, nenani, okondedwa anu - ana, makolo, kapena ziweto - kapena udindo wanu panthawiyo, ndiye kusankha kumakhala kosavuta.
10. Zolinga zanu sizikugwirizana
Kuzindikira nthawi yothetsa chibwenzi kumatha kukhala kovutirapo komanso kokhumudwitsa ngati palibe mbendera zofiira zomwe tazitchula pamwambapa zomwe zikukhudza vuto lanu. Ndizotheka kuti pasakhale cholakwika ndi inu kapena mnzanu koma simungakhale olondola wina ndi mnzake chifukwa zolinga zanu sizikugwirizana. Mutha kukhala anthu awiri osiyana kwambiri omwe ngakhale amakondana wina ndi mnzake sapeza zomwe zimafanana zomangapo moyo.
Mwina mukufuna zinthu zosiyana pa moyo wanu ndipo palibe njira yopezera pakati. N'zopanda phindu kusiya zolinga zanu chifukwa cha ubale wanu chifukwa zidzakupangitsani kukwiyirana kwambiri. Kapena kungakhale munthu woyenera panthawi yolakwika , zomwe zingakhale zopweteka kwambiri kuposa kukondana ndi munthu amene simukugwirizana naye. Pazochitika zotere, kusiya munthu amene mumamukonda chifukwa cha ubwino wake kungakhale chinthu choyenera, ngakhale chopweteka!
11. Mfundo zazikuluzikulu zomwe mumayendera komanso momwe mumaonera moyo ndi zosiyana
Zotsutsana sizikopa nthawi zonse. Nthawi zambiri, zikhulupiriro zogawana ndi malingaliro ndizo maziko a ubale wolimba. Pamene anthu aŵiri sawonana maso ndi maso pa zinthu zofunika kwambiri ndi zosankha za moyo—chipembedzo, ndalama, ndi ana, kungotchulapo zoŵerengeka—kumakhala kovuta kuyenda ulendo wa moyo monga mabwenzi. Maubwenzi oterowo nthawi zambiri amabwera ndi tsiku lotha ntchito.
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kudziwa nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi chomwe chilibe tsogolo . Ndi bwino kuchita izi musanayambe kukondana kwambiri. Kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda popanda kumukhumudwitsa n'kovuta, koma ngati muli ndi maganizo osiyana kwambiri, pamapeto pake mudzakhumudwitsana kwambiri. Ndi bwino kuchotsa bandeji m'chibwenzicho osazengereza zomwe zingachitike.
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12. Zokumbukira zanu ndi zochitika zanu ndi zoipa
Mumamva bwanji mukaganizira za bwenzi lanu? Kodi kuwaganizira kumabweretsa chisangalalo, chikhutiro, ndi chikhutiro? Kapena mumachita mantha, mukuda nkhawa, kapena mukuda nkhawa? Ubale uyenera kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka, okondedwa, komanso okhutira. Muyenera kuyang'ana m'mbuyo mwachidwi nthawi zomwe mudakhala limodzi ndi "kumbukirani nthawi" zokambirana ziyenera kuyenda mwachibadwa.
Ngati sizili choncho ndi inu, mwayi ndi chifukwa chakuti zokumana nazo zoipa ndi zikumbukiro zimaposa zabwino. Mwina, mukuyembekezera kuti zinthu zikhala bwino. Koma ngati sanafike patali, nchiyani chikukupatsani chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti mtsogolomu zidzakhala zosiyana? Zakale zosasangalatsa ndi tsogolo losadziwika bwino ndi zizindikiro zomveka bwino za nthawi yothetsa chibwenzi.
13 Chifukwa chokhalira osakwatiwa ndi chakuti kumakuchititsani mantha
Anthu ambiri amawopa kusiya chibwenzi, ngakhale zingakhale zoipa kapena zosayenera chifukwa satha kupirira maganizo oti akhale okha. Kukhala paubwenzi wosasangalala chifukwa sudziwa kukhala wekha ndi chifukwa choopsa chopirira mavuto. Limbani mtima kutuluka.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kudziwa nthawi yochoka pachibwenzi kungakhale kovuta, makamaka ngati mwakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo mwatanganidwa kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wanu.
- Nkhanza, chinyengo, kusowa ulemu, kusakhulupirika, kumasuka ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zomwe muyenera kuchoka.
- Komabe, zizindikiro kuti ndi nthawi kuthetsa ubwenzi si nthawi zonse amphamvu ndi pamphuno; Nthawi zina zinthu monga zisankho zosiyanasiyana za moyo ndi zolinga zimathanso kukulepheretsani tsogolo lanu ngati banja
- Nthawi zambiri, mumadziwa nthawi yoti musiye chibwenzi. Osanyalanyaza mawu ang'onoang'ono omwe ali m'mutu mwanu ndipo mudzadziwa zomwe muyenera kuchita
Ngakhale ziyenera kunenedwa kuti munthu ayenera kuyesetsa kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito, ngati gawo la inu nthawi zonse limadzifunsa momwe mungadziwire nthawi yochoka paubwenzi, ndiye kuti kulemba kumakhala kokongola kwambiri pakhoma. Mungachite bwino kuchoka kwa okondedwa anu kusiyana ndi kukhala mumsampha wopatsana “mwayi wotsiriza”.
Ibibazo
N'kovuta kusiya chibwenzi chifukwa cha kutengeka mtima ndi khama padera mu izo. Nthawi zina, mungakhalenso wamantha komanso osatetezeka kukhala nokha ndipo mungaone kuti ndibwino kukhala pachibwenzi kusiyana ndi kukhala mbeta. Kuvomereza kuti muyenera kusiya chibwenzi ndi piritsi yovuta kumeza chifukwa zimatanthauzanso kuti muyenera kuvomereza kuti munalakwitsa polowa muubwenzi.
Pamene palibe chikondi chotsalira muubwenzi, pamene pali kusakhulupirika kwachinsinsi, pamene mfundo zanu zazikulu zimakhala zosiyana, pamene mukusiyana komanso pamene mukumva kuti ubale wanu ukupweteka kwambiri kuposa chisangalalo, ndi nthawi yoti muthe.
Kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda sikophweka koma ngati simuli osangalala ndipo nthawi zonse mumadziona kuti ndinu wosafunika, muyenera kupanga malingaliro anu ndikusiya wokondedwa wanu.
Inde. Nthawi zina, simusiya munthu chifukwa chosiya kumukonda, muyenera kumusiya chifukwa mwina munakulirakulira kapena mumafuna zinthu zosiyana ndi moyo. Kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda ndikukhala naye sikudzakhala kophweka koma ngati maganizo anu akukhudzidwa, muyenera kusiya chibwenzicho ngakhale mukuganiza kuti mumamukonda kwambiri.
Zingakhale zovuta kusiya munthu amene mukukhala naye moyo. Mungafunike kuyiyandikira mosamala. Komanso, muyenera kupanga dongosolo lanu lotuluka bwino la momwe mungatulukire, momwe mungasunthire, ndi momwe zidzakhudzire moyo wanu.
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