Kodi Zoyembekeza Zosatheka M'maubwenzi Ndi Chiyani

Ndi angati a ife mwamwayi tidakumana ndi Mmodzi yekhayo? Mukudziwa—Iye amene ‘anatipangira ife’? Kodi ndi kangati mwamvapo za amuna ankhanza akupulumutsa atsikana omwe ali m'mavuto? Ndipo munamva okonda akuimba m'misewu, m'mapaki? Kapena kodi iwo ankathamanga kudutsa ma eyapoti odzaza ndi anthu kapena masiteshoni a sitima akuyembekeza kuletsa chikondi cha moyo wawo kuchoka kosatha? Zonsezi zikuwonetsedwa mobwerezabwereza m'mafilimu athu ndi zofalitsa zodziwika bwino, kupanga ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka mu maubwenzi m'moyo weniweni. 

Zotsatira zake, nthawi zambiri timatha kukweza ziyembekezo zathu zachikondi kuchokera paubwenzi wathu. Ndipo pamene zoyembekeza zathu zachikondi sizikukwaniritsidwa ndi okondedwa athu timakhala okhumudwa komanso okhumudwa. Maubwenzi athu amawonongeka. Ndikoyenera kutchula malingaliro awa, zoyembekeza zosayenera komanso zopanda chilungamo. Zina mwa izo ndizopanda phindu, zina zopanda thanzi, zina zowopsa komanso zina zopusa kwambiri.

Lero tiyesa ndikuphunzira momwe ziyembekezo zaubwenzi zomwe sizili zenizenizi zimawonekera komanso momwe tingachitire nazo tikapezeka kuti tikuchita nawo khalidwe loipali.  

Kodi Zoyembekeza Zosatheka M'maubwenzi Ndi Chiyani

Gulu la pa yunivesite ya Heriot Watt ku Edinburgh lidachita kafukufuku wokhudza momwe ma rom-coms amapangira ziyembekezo zomwe sizingatheke. Kimberly Johnson, yemwe ali m’gululi, anati: “Mafilimu amakopa chidwi cha anthu amene ali ndi maubwenzi atsopano, koma amanena molakwa kuti anthu amayamba kukhulupirirana komanso kusonyezana chikondi, koma makhalidwe amenewa nthawi zambiri amatenga zaka zambiri.”

Timakopeka mosavuta ndi nkhani za anthu ena. Ndipo timakhala tikukokera ku zomwe tatengera kale, ndikupanga chitsimikiziro chozungulira. N’chifukwa chake tikamaona nkhani za anthu ena, timaona zimene tiyenera kuziona. Onjezani dziko la kanema pamwamba pa izi, ndipo mukuwona kusalinganika kapena mtundu wabodza m'malo mwa ubale wosokonekera. Izi zimawonjezera nkhawa powonjezera ziyembekezo zambiri muubwenzi.

Moyo weniweni umapangidwa ndi anthu enieni. Ndipo ndi wapadera. Inu, mnzanu, ine, anthu omwe tawatchula m'nkhaniyi, wopanga filimuyi, ochita sewero omwe amasewera gawo limenelo. Tonsefe ndife anthu apadera, okhala ndi makhalidwe athu, mphamvu zathu ndi zofooka zathu. Tili ndi katundu wathu wamaganizo komanso njira zathu zothanirana ndi katundu ameneyo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake njira zathu zolankhulirana ndi anthu ena ofunikira nazonso ndi zapadera. Ndipo sikoyenera kuti ife tiyerekezere momwe munthu wina amachitira zinthu ndi munthu wina.

Ndikofunikira kudziwa, kuti ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka mu maubwenzi sizifanana ndi zomwe mumayembekezera muubwenzi. Nzeru zanu zidzakuthandizani kuzindikira zomwe zili zoyembekezeka komanso zomwe ziri zitsanzo zosayembekezereka. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, kuyembekezera kuti mnzanuyo azikhala woona nthawi zonse ndi muyezo osati kuyembekezera mopanda nzeru. Ndikofunika kukumbukira malingaliro anu ndikuwona momwe mukukondera. Kodi chiyembekezochi chikuchokera m'matumbo anu kapena ndi zomwe mukuyesera kutengera nkhani ya wina?

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Zoyembekeza Zosatheka Zitsanzo Mu Ubale

Zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka zitsanzo mu ubale zingakhale zambiri. Zoyembekeza mu mndandanda wa maubwenzi ndizotalika kwambiri kuti zikhale m'nkhani imodzi. Koma tidzawayika m'magulu ambiri ndikukulemberani ochepa mwaiwo.

1. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala gwero la chimwemwe chanu chonse

Anthu amayamba kudalira okondedwa awo kuti awapatse chilichonse padziko lapansi. Izi zikuphatikizapo zolinga, chilimbikitso chofuna kupambana, zosangalatsa komanso chisangalalo. Mukayamba kuyika chimwemwe chanu pa chilichonse chomwe sichili chanu, osatchulanso mnzanu, zimakhala zovuta kukhala osangalala muubwenzi wolimbawu.

Chitra Nair, mlangizi, anati: “Ndinakwatirana ndi bwenzi langa lokhala naye m’banja zaka 7 ndipo m’kati mwaubwenzi wathu takhala tikulankhula momveka bwino kuyambira pachiyambi ponena za ziyembekezo zathu kwa wina ndi mnzake.

Tikukulimbikitsani kuyesa kupanga ndi kukulitsa mapulani anu amtsogolo. Ganizirani zinthu zimene inuyo panokha mumakonda kuchita. Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mukufuna kuti muthandizire pa moyo wanu? Chitani zinthu zomwe mumakonda nthawi zambiri. Yesetsani kutenga mphamvu za malingaliro anu m'manja mwanu.  

Kusakhala ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka mu maubwenzi sikutanthauza kutaya chiyembekezo. Muli ndi ufulu wonse wokhala ndi ziyembekezo ndi zoyembekeza kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu. Zonse zomwe mukusowa ndizoyenera.

2. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala ndi inu nthawi yonse 

Rajsi Kaul Prajapati, yemwe ndi wosamalira panyumba, anati: “Ndinakulira m’banja loganizira zinthu zambiri. Ine ndi mwamuna wanga timakhala m’banja logwirizana ndipo timasowa nthawi yocheza. Nthawi zonse ndimayembekezera nthawi yochuluka yocheza naye pamene iye amakondanso kukhala ndi banja lake.

Pali mantha ambiri omwe amayi amakhala nawo asanasamukire kubanja limodzi, koma Rajsi ndi mwamuna wake mothokoza adamvetsetsa zomwe amayembekeza wina ndi mnzake ndipo adagwirizana. Analolana wina ndi mzake kukhala ndi kupezerana zosowa. Koma ambiri aife timapanga chiyembekezero ichi kuchokera kwa okondedwa athu za kuthera nthawi yathu yonse ndi iwo. Tonse ndife anthu komanso anthu pawokha tisanakhale magawo ena a mnzathu. Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti ndikwabwino kwa ife kufuna kukhala patokha, ndi zilakolako zathu, kapena mabwenzi ena. Simafooketsa mgwirizano pakati pa inu ndi okondedwa wanu.

3. Wokondedwa wanu ndi inu muyenera kugawana nthawi yanu yonse pazantchito zofanana

Sonia Talreja, wojambula mafashoni, anati: "Sindili mbeta. Koma ndikudziwa kusiyana pakati pa zenizeni ndi maloto. N'zoona kuti ndili ndi ziyembekezo zina kuchokera kwa mnzanga koma sindikufuna kuti akwaniritse udindo wake payekha. Tikamakhazikika - moyo wabwino umakhala wa ife."

Kaya lanu ndi ukwati wachikondi kapena mwakonzekera, simungakane maudindo. Ndiwofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wanu. Ndizothekanso kuti mudzakhala ndi maudindo ena omwe mnzanu angakuthandizireni, koma osapereka nawo mwachangu. Mwachitsanzo, maudindo kuntchito, kapena udindo kwa bwenzi lanu lapamtima kapena wachibale kumbali yanu. 

Ndizachilendo kwambiri kukhala ndi maudindo anuanu. Monga momwe mnzanuyo alili. Palibe vuto kuwapatsa mpata ndi kufunafuna malo anuanu, kuti athe kuwakwaniritsa. Ndi mtundu umodzi wa malire omwe ayenera kukhazikitsidwa muubwenzi. Mosakayikira, munthu ali ndi ufulu woyembekezera kumvetsetsa, kuthandizidwa komanso thandizo, kuchokera kwa mnzanu pa maudindo ake payekha, koma sizingatheke kuyembekezera kuti nthawi yanu yonse iyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito pa maudindo ofanana.

4. Mnzako ndi mpulumutsi wako  

Darshana Sharma, mphunzitsi, anati: “Anthu ena nthaŵi zonse amafuna munthu woti angawapulumutse ndi kuwateteza pamene zinthu zitavuta kwambiri. Mofanana ndi mmene zimachitikira m’mafilimu. Iwo atanganidwa kwambiri ndi maganizo amenewo moti amanyalanyaza zodetsa nkhawa zina. Ine ndi mwamuna wanga timachita zinthu zothandiza kwambiri. Ndinam’dziŵa bwino tisanalowe m’banja, zimene zinandithandiza kwambiri kumvetsa banja lake ndi mikhalidwe yake, ndipo motero kuika ziyembekezo zanga moyenerera.”

Maukwati sayenera kukhala nkhani za Cinderella. Musayembekeze kuti kalonga wanu wokongola adzakulamulirani. Mofananamo, kuyembekezera godmother m'moyo wanu, kukonza nkhani zanu zonse ndi swish ya wand ndi chiyembekezo chopanda nzeru. Munthu aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe akeake ndi udindo wake, umunthu wake, ngakhale nyonga ndi zofooka zake . Alinso ndi zoletsa zawozawo ndipo sangathe "kukupulumutsani" nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungafune. 

Khalani mpulumutsi wanu. Muli m'banja la anthu ofanana ndipo ndinu opambana. Izi sizikutanthauza kuchita ndi chilichonse nokha. Zikutanthauza kutenga udindo pa nkhani zomwe zilipo ndikupeza njira zothetsera mavuto. Zingatanthauze kupempha thandizo kuchokera ku bungwe lothandizira komanso kwa aliyense amene angathe kukuthandizani mu dipatimentiyo. Izi zikuphatikizapo kupempha thandizo kwa okondedwa anu, osati kungoyembekezera.

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5. Okondedwa anu amvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna osanena

Kulumpha mu ziyembekezo mu ubwenzi mndandanda ndi uyu mwina wachisoni kwambiri. Timaziwona nthawi zambiri pazithunzi zachikondi m'ma TV athu otchuka. Timaona munthu akumva kutengeka maganizo pazochitika. M'chiwonetsero chotsatira, theka lawo labwino, atamvetsetsa kale zomwe amafunikira kudzera mu mphamvu zauzimu, athamangira kukawapulumutsa. Chimene omvera amasonkhanitsa kuchokera m’chiwonetsero choterocho nchakuti ngati pali chikondi chenicheni, malingaliro osaneneka adzamvetsetsedwa ndipo zosoŵa zosaneneka zidzakwaniritsidwa. 

Izi zimapanga mndandanda wa zoyembekeza zosatheka komanso zopanda chilungamo. Dr. Puneet Aggarwal, mphunzitsi wa Physiology ndi mlembi wa maubwenzi, anati: “Nkhani ya ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka m’maubwenzi imabwera chifukwa chakuti anthu amalephera kulankhulana bwino ndi okondedwa awo. mabuku.

Mau olankhulidwa si amaganizo okha kapena athupi lokha. Pali njira zambiri zomwe mungalankhulire bwino ndi mnzanu . Imodzi mwa njira zimenezi ndi yolankhulana mosavuta komanso yosavuta. Ingolankhulani ndi mnzanu ndipo mudzadabwa momwe zimakhalira zosavuta kuti amvetse bwino momwe mukumvera ndikukupatsani zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa iye.

Mmene Mungapewere Kukhala ndi Zoyembekeza Zosatheka M'maubwenzi

Rashida Poonawala, mphunzitsi wa moyo, anati, "Yankho lake ndi losavuta, onani matsenga ndi chikondi chenicheni. Musayembekezere kuti iye adzakhala china chirichonse kusiyana ndi chimene iye ali. Mulandireni iye ndi kumukonda! Chinsinsi ndicho kutsegula njira zolankhulirana zomwe mbali ya chikondi imatseka. Chilichonse chosatheka chingawononge zenizeni. Choncho khalani weniweni." 

Ngati mwakhazikitsidwa kale m'chizoloŵezi chosayenera chokhala ndi zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka mu maubwenzi zingakhale zovuta kuti muwone mosiyana. Koma sizingatheke ngati mutayesa kusintha maganizo anu ku ubwino wa ubale wanu. Sizingathekenso kutero ngati muyandikira mnzanuyo ndi ubale wanu mwachifundo ndi wachifundo. 

Nazi zina zomwe mungachite:

1. Muziganizira kwambiri kulankhulana

Kulankhulana ndiye mwala wapangodya ndi chizolowezi cha ubale wabwino. M'malo mwake, ndi chida chofunikira kwambiri pa thanzi lamunthu aliyense. Ndilo yankho ku mavuto athu ambiri amalingaliro komanso ubale. Kumvetsetsa ndi kuyamikira kufunikira kwake. Ingolankhulani ndi mnzanu zomwe mukufuna. 

Rashida akuti, “Ngati mumakonda chinthu, muuzeni. Sadzadziwa pokhapokha mutamuuza. Mofananamo, ngati chinachake chikukuvutitsani, chilankhuleni momveka bwino. Chikondi sichodziwa zonse, chowona zonse. Ndi malingaliro. Tisachipange kukhala chinthu chomwe sichili.” Dziwani njira zambiri zowongolera kulankhulana muubwenzi wanu ndi mnzanu.

2. Kumvetsetsa momwe jenda ndi zoyembekeza zimakhalira

Zambiri zomwe zikuwonetsedwa m'mafilimu athu ndizowonetsera dziko lathu. Tili okonzeka kugwera mubokosi loyenera la maudindo a jenda. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timapanga ziyembekezo zotengera jenda kuchokera kwa anzathu. Tiyeni titenge chitsanzo chosavuta. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala wamphamvu kapena wofooka kuposa inu mosasamala kanthu za kugonana komwe mwasankha. Kapena kulimba mtima kapena kufooka. Komabe timayembekezera ntchito monga kusintha tayala, kapena kutonthoza mwana, kapena kutchetcha udzu monga udindo malinga ndi jenda.  

Rashminder Kaur, mphunzitsi ndi mlangizi wa Reiki, akuti, "Chifukwa cha chikhalidwe cha anthu m'dera lathu, chomwe chimatengera maudindo omwe amakondera amuna kapena akazi, anthu safuna kufufuza mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo wamkati. Amuna saloledwa kusokoneza maganizo awo ndipo akazi saloledwa kukhala ndi mphamvu ndi mphamvu zawo.

Mpulumutsi kalonga wokongola poyerekeza ndi mkazi wofatsa , kusiyana kumeneku kumatilepheretsa. Kumatipangitsa kuwononga nthawi ndi khama lathu mopanda chifukwa choti timayenera kuzichita. Mofananamo, sitingathe kutenga udindo pazinthu zomwe tingasangalale nazo.

3. Khalani wachifundo ndi wachifundo

Kumvetsetsa zofooka za mnzanuyo monga munthu wapadera yemwe ali kudzakuthandizani kuona zomwe mukuyembekezera mwachidwi. Khalani achifundo kuzinthu zonse zomwe adatenga m'miyoyo yawo. Yang'anani maudindo omwe akuyenera kuwasamalira tsiku ndi tsiku. Taonani mphamvu zawo. Zimenezi zidzakuthandizani kuwalemekeza. 

Ikani patsogolo ubale wanu kuposa zomwe mukuyembekezera. Tayang'anani pa mbalame yomwe ili m'manja, zomwe muli nazo, zenizeni za moyo wanu. Ndizomveka komanso zokhwima kuyang'ana zomwe muli nazo osati nyumba zachifumu zomwe mumaziganizira. Mukungotaya khama ndi malingaliro kuchita zosafunikira. 

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4. Osafanizira

Iyi ndi nkhani yosavuta kwambiri. Nthawi iliyonse tikamayembekezera zinthu zopanda pake m'mutu mwathu, zomwe tikuchita ndikutengera maganizo a munthu wina. Tikuyerekeza nkhani ya moyo wa wina ndi yathu ndikupanga chiyembekezo chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi zenizeni zathu. Sizithandiza aliyense ngati mukuchita kufananiza. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kopanda phindu, kufananiza kumabweretsa mavuto. Musaiwale kuti nkhani yanu ndi yapadera monga momwe inu ndi mnzanu mulili. Muyenera kuiona ndikuyamikira chifukwa cha momwe ilili.

Rashminder anati: “Zilakolako zathu zimabisidwa ndi zosangulutsa zimene timachita. Tiyenera kumvetsa kuti sizithandiza kuti nkhanizi zikhale zongopeka chabe . . .

Inde, tonse timakonda mafilimu. Koma nthawi zonse ndi bwino kulola dziko longopeka kutha filimuyo ikatha. Sangakhale kuunika kotsogolera pa moyo wathu. Ndipotu, ngakhale moyo weniweni wa chikondi cha katswiri wa mafilimu ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe amaonetsa m'mafilimu.

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