Umhlahlandlela Wakho Wendlela Yokubhekana Nomuntu Othukuthele Ebudlelwaneni

Ufuna amathiphu okuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu othukuthele ebuhlotsheni? Uma uzitholele umyeni onobutha, inkosikazi equmbile, noma umlingani oshisayo, akulula ukuba sothandweni ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngeke wazi ukuthi yini ongayisho noma wenze; uhlala uhamba phezu kwamagobolondo amaqanda ukuze ugweme ukuqhuma kwentaba-mlilo. Amazwi aphakanyisiwe, izibhakela ezigoqene, ukucasuka, ukubiza amagama ahlabayo: Ukuhlala nomuntu onenkinga yentukuthelo akuwona umbono omuhle. 

Lokho akusho ukuthi ukubonisa intukuthelo kumlingani wakho kuyinto embi ngempela noma ukuthi lo mzwelo udinga ukucindezelwa. Kungcono ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhipha imizwa engemihle esikhundleni sokuhlupheka ngokuthula inqobo nje uma kwenziwa ngendlela enempilo. Ukuveza intukuthelo akufanele kufinyelele ezingeni lokuhlukumeza ngamazwi noma ngokomzimba. Kodwa-ke, lapho usothandweni noma uphola nomuntu onezinkinga zentukuthelo, inkulumo enjalo engenampilo iba yinto evamile.

Ukubhekana nentukuthelo evela komunye umuntu isikhathi eside kungakushiya ulimele ngokomzwelo, futhi izibazi zingathinta impilo yakho yengqondo kanye nobudlelwano bakho bamanje nobesikhathi esizayo. Yingakho sixhumane nomqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo kanye nokuzindla uPooja Priyamvada , oqinisekiswe yi-Psychological and Mental Health First Aid evela eJohns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health kanye nase-University of Sydney. Ugxile ekwelulekeni ngokobulili obungaphandle komshado, ukuhlukana, ukuhlukana, usizi, kanye nokulahlekelwa, ukubala ezimbalwa. Silapha ukuzokusiza uthole ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu onezinkinga zentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni.

Yini Edala Izinkinga Zentukuthelo Emuntwini?

Njengoba uPooja esho, “Noma ubani angathukuthela. Abanye abantu bangase babe nomkhuba wokucasuka ngokushesha. Abanye bangase babe nezinto ezithile ezibabangelayo. Abanye bangase babe nesikhashana lapho intukuthelo yabo ingasekho. Ukuzizwa uthukuthele ebudlelwaneni kuvame ukuvela ekudabukeni, ukukhungatheka, noma ukucindezeleka. Lapho abantu bezizwa belahlekelwa ukulawula noma yini noma bezizwa becasukile, bangena emjikelezweni wentukuthelo.”

Kodwa iyini imbangela eyinhloko yezinkinga zolaka emshadweni noma ebudlelwaneni? Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izimpande zokuziphendukela kwemvelo zentukuthelo nenzondo zingalandelelwa emuva ezilwaneni ezilungiselela ukuhlasela ukuze zixoshe abaphikisi. Intukuthelo iyindlela yokusabela ezinsongweni zokusinda futhi isebenza ukucindezela ukwesaba, ubuhlungu, kanye namahloni.

Olunye ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukugwema ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kanye nokuzethemba okuphansi ekuxazululeni izinkinga phakathi kwabantu kuvame ukunezela umoya kubantu abathukuthele. Uma isimo sakho sisibi kangangokuthi uhlala ukhathazeka ngezinto ezifana nokuthi “Intukuthelo yomyeni wami ingenza ngikhathazeke” noma “Umkami uyathukuthela ngakho konke engikwenzayo”, kufanele uqale uqonde izimbangela ezingaba khona zezinkinga zentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni:

• Ukukhuliswa ekhaya lapho ukuthukuthela kwakujwayelekile
• Imizwa engaxazululiwe mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa/ukuhlukunyezwa okwedlule
• Usizi olungavezwanga lokulahlekelwa othile okhethekile
• Umphumela wotshwala 
• Izimpawu Zokungakwazi Ukunaka I-hyperactivity Disorder/bipolar disorder
• Ukukhokhela ngokweqile ukuzethemba okuphansi
• Ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokukhathazeka/ukucindezeleka
• Ukuzizwa ukhungathekile/ungenamandla/usongelwa/uhlaselwa
• Ukusabela ekuphathweni/umuzwa ongafanele engasebenzi ngokomzwelo

Ungabhekana Kanjani Nomuntu Othukuthele?

Umfundi wethu, uMelissa, usibhalela eTexas, ecela usizo ekubhekaneni nentukuthelo, “Isoka lami linenkinga yentukuthelo. nginothize engithandananaye?"

U-Pooja uyagcizelela, “Umngane womshado othukuthele noma umlingani ngokuvamile uphelelwa isineke futhi ubonisa ukungafuni ukulalela noma imuphi umbono ophambene. Ababuboni ngisho nobukhulu bokuziphatha kwabo phakathi nentukuthelo.” Ukusebenzelana nomuntu onezinkinga zentukuthelo kungaba yinto ekhohlisayo. Nansi inkomba yakho yokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu othukuthele ebudlelwaneni:

1. Ungaphindi umemeze 

Iso ngeso? Cha, lelo akulona isu elifanele lokuxazulula izinkinga zomlingani/umlingani othukuthele futhi ngeke lixazulule izinkinga zobudlelwano bakho. Uma omunye umlingani ephelelwa umoya futhi omunye umuntu, naye, ejoyina umncintiswano ngokushesha, kuzoba yinhlekelele enkulu. Ekhuluma ngendlela yokusingatha umlingani othukuthele, uPooja uthi lapho ebhekene nowesifazane olawulayo noma umyeni onezinkinga zentukuthelo, lezi yizinto ezibalulekile:

• Ememeza ephendula
• Ebasola
• Ukuletha izinkinga ezindala
• Ezama ukuwavala

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2. Sebenzisa amasu okulawula intukuthelo

U-Pooja uyachaza, “Ukukhipha imizwa engemihle kungenye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokwehlisa intukuthelo. Nakuba kunempilo ukukhipha, kufanele ukwenze ngendlela engenalo ubudlova nezwela. Umuntu angabhala noma aveze intukuthelo ngolunye uhlobo lobuciko bokwenza.

Izindlela ezahlukahlukene zingasetshenziswa ukudambisa intukuthelo ebudlelwaneni. Tshela umlingani wakho ngokuthula ngezindlela ezahlukene angalwa ngazo nentukuthelo yakhe. Nazi ezinye izindlela ezisebenzayo zokulawula intukuthelo, ngokusho kocwaningo :

• Ukubala (ukuvumela umfutho wokuqala ukusabela udlule)
• Ukuphefumula kancane (i-yoga/ukuzindla kuthulisa ingqondo)
• Ukuthatha isikhathi sokuphuma nokuhlehla esimweni
• Ukuhamba ngokushesha/ukugijima/ukubhukuda

3. Bavumele baveze izizathu zabo zokucasuka 

“Isoka lami linenkinga yolaka.” “Intombi yami ingithethisa ngezinto ezingasho lutho.” "Umlingani wami ufana nentaba-mlilo elindele ukuqhuma." Uma lena kuyimicabango obhekene nayo, mhlawumbe ukushintsha umbono wakho kungasiza ekubhekaneni nesimo ngokuphumelelayo. Mhlawumbe, konke okudingayo umlingani wakho ukuthi azizwe ezwiwa kodwa akakafundi ukuthi angasiveza kanjani leso sidingo ngendlela enempilo.

UPooja, “ Ukulawula intukuthelo ebudlelwaneni akuphelele ngaphandle kozwela. Uma nje bengenalo udlame noma ukuhlukumeza, mabaveze imizwa yabo. Zama ukuba nobubele kubo.” Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokubahlasela ngokusho izinto ezinjengokuthi “Uhlala ungithethisa uma uthukuthele,” sho okuthile okufana nokuthi, “Ungangitshela ukuthi yini ekukhathazayo?”

Umlingani wakho akufanele azizwe ehlaselwa yinoma yini oyishoyo. Kuzobabangela ukuthi baqhume kakhulu. Uma ufuna amathiphu okuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesoka/umlingani othukuthele, okubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukuthola isizathu esiyisisekelo sentukuthelo yabo. Ukukhulumisana okuvulekile mayelana nendlela abakuphatha ngayo kuyadingeka, kodwa ungabi nakho ngesikhathi sokucasuka kwabo.

4. Ukuthulisa umlingani othukuthele, mnikeze isisombululo

Usacabanga ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu othukuthele ebudlelwaneni? Nokho, kuyasiza ukukhumbula iqiniso lokuthi lapho umuntu ephelelwa umoya, kumelwe kube nezinkinga ezithile ezingaxazululwa engqondweni yakhe. Kumelwe ukuba kukhona okungahambanga ngendlela yakhe okuholela ekuqhumeni. Ukuthanda umuntu onenkinga yentukuthelo kusho ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi udinga ukufuna into angakwazi ukuyichaza. Isibonelo,

• Uma bephambana nawe futhi ubona ukuthi empeleni unephutha, mane ubeke eceleni ubugovu bakho bese uxolisa ngobuqotho.
• Uma umlingani wakho ekujezisa ngento engenangqondo nhlobo, mbuze ukuthi konakelephi kanye nalokho abekulindele mayelana nalolo daba.
• Cacisa umbono wakho futhi utshele umlingani wakho ukulandisa kwakho ngendlela engokoqobo, ngaphandle kokuchitha eyakhe kuqala
• Uma benomqondo ovulekile, ningaxoxa ngenkinga enikhona nize nifinyelele isixazululo
• Uma kwenzeka bethukuthelele omunye umuntu, ungase uphakamise ukuthi yini abangayenza noma basho okuhlukile ukuze babhekane naleso simo ngomoya ophansi.

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5. Baphazamise

Icebiso elisebenzayo lokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu onezinkinga zentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni ukuphambukisa ukunaka kwakhe kwenye into, ngendlela ecashile. Ungasho okuthile okufana nokuthi “Sawubona, ake sihambe. Ake sithole umoya omusha sihlanze amakhanda ethu.” Eqinisweni, ucwaningo luthole ukuthi ukucasuka kwandisa imizwa yentukuthelo, kuyilapho ukuphazamiseka kusiza ekunciphiseni imizwa yentukuthelo.

Ungasebenzisa ividiyo ehlekisayo noma wenze ihlaya ukuze udambise intukuthelo yabo. Ukuphazamiseka kuzobasiza ukuthi babuyele esimweni sabo esijwayelekile, noma ngabe umzuzwana, futhi bacabange ngendlela abebesabela ngayo. Nokho, kwenze lokhu kuphela uma umlingani wakho ethukuthele ngokulingene. Uma umuntu enezinkinga zentukuthelo enkulu, lokhu kungase kumcasule nakakhulu.

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Njengoba usafunda, singacabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho unezinkinga zentukuthelo noma mhlawumbe awazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu okusola ngakho konke . Futhi leyo ntukuthelo engapheli, umoya wokungabi nandaba - konke kukufaka ekucindezelekeni okukhulu ngokomzwelo. Siyakuzwa. Phela, akulula ukuba nobuhlobo noma ukuthandana nomuntu onenkinga yentukuthelo. Uma ubungagcina ingqondo evulekile futhi uzijwayeze ukubekezela isikhashana, singakusiza nakanjani ukubhekana nomlingani othukuthele.

Isinyathelo sokuqala sokunqoba intukuthelo nokucasuka ebudlelwaneni ukuqonda imijikelezo yentukuthelo. UPooja uyachaza, “Umjikelezo wokucasuka ovusa intukuthelo unezigaba ezinhlanu: ukuqala, ukukhuphuka, inhlekelele, ukululama, nokucindezeleka. Nazi izigaba ezi-5 zentukuthelo:

• Isigaba 1 sentukuthelo: Isigaba sokuqala yilapho umcimbi uqala umjikelezo wentukuthelo
• Isigaba 2: Isigaba sokukhuphuka yilapho umzimba wethu ulungiselela ubunzima ngokukhuphuka kokuphefumula nokushaya kwenhliziyo kanye nomfutho wegazi ophakeme. Imisipha iyaqina, iphimbo lingase libe phezulu noma lishintshe iphimbo, amehlo ethu ashintshe ukuma, abafundi bakhule, bese buwa.
• Isigaba 3: Isigaba senhlekelele yilapho ukusinda kwethu kungena khona (empini noma ekuphenduleni kwendiza). Izinqumo esizithathayo phakathi nalesi sigaba azinawo ukwahlulela okuhle
• Isigaba 4: Isigaba sokululama senzeka ngemva kokuvela kwesenzo esithile phakathi nesigaba senhlekelele. Ukucabanga kuqala ukuthatha indawo yempendulo yokusinda
• Isigaba 5: Isigaba sokucindezeleka kwangemva kwenhlekelele yilapho izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo lehla lingaphansi kwesivamile ukuze umzimba ukwazi ukuphinde uthole ibhalansi yawo. Siba nomuzwa wecala, wokuzisola, noma ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo

Ukuhlala nomuntu onenkinga yentukuthelo kungathinta impilo yakho yengqondo. Kodwa ukunikeza umlingani wakho amathiphu okuzola esigabeni sokukhula noma esigabeni senkinga kuyize nje. Abakho esimweni sengqondo esifanele ngaleso sikhathi. Intukuthelo yabo iphazamisa ingqondo yabo kanye neyakho. Ngakho-ke nanka amanye amathiphu asekelwa ochwepheshe okuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesoka/intombi/umlingani othukuthele:

1. Bhala izinto ezikubangela umlingani wakho

Ukuze ubhekane nokuziphatha kwe-passive-aggressive noma ulaka olugcwele lomlingani wakho, udinga ukuba isinyathelo esisodwa ngaphambi kwabo. Ngakho, umlingani wakho unentukuthelo eqhumayo. Kodwa yini ngempela eyilethayo? Ukubona lezi zimbangela kubaluleke kakhulu ekudambiseni intukuthelo ebuhlotsheni, kodwa kanjani?

UPooja uyaphendula, “Isinyathelo sokuqala ukubheka nokuzihlola kodwa ngezinye izikhathi akulula ukuzibona eyedwa. Ngakho-ke umuntu kumelwe afune usizo kudokotela wezifo zengqondo onelayisensi.” Uma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ucabanga ukwelulekwa, ithimba lethu lochwepheshe lihlala likhona ukukusiza ngezindlela ezahlukene. Nazi ezinye zezibonelo ezivamile zezinto ezibangela intukuthelo. Bona ukuthi enye yalezi zinto iholela ekuqhumeni komsindo okuvela kumlingani wakho:

• Ukungahlonishwa/ukungavumelekile/ukungezwakali
• Ulimi oludelelayo
• Ukuminyana kwethrafikhi
• Ukuphulwa kwe isikhala somuntu siqu
• Umsebenzi osindayo
• Izinkinga zezezimali
• Ukuntula ukwazisa/impatho efanele

2. Tshela umlingani wakho mayelana namasu okuqalisa phansi

Enikeza iseluleko ngendlela yokubhekana nomuntu onezinkinga zentukuthelo ebuhlotsheni, u-Pooja uthi, "Khumbula isigaba sokucasuka esikhuphukayo? Kuso, umzimba wethu ulungiselela isimo esibucayi lapho uphefumula ngokushesha, ukushaya kwenhliziyo okukhuphukayo, nomfutho wegazi ophakeme. Imisipha iyashuba ukuze isebenze, izwi lingase libe phezulu, futhi abafundi bakhule. Tshela umlingani wakho ukuthi aqaphele lezi zinto ngesikhathi esizayo lapho ezizwa ethukuthele. " 

Isu uPooja aliphakamisile libizwa ngokuthi i-grounding. Njengoba ucwaningo luveza, le ndlela ivamile phakathi kwabelaphi bokunyakaza komdanso kanye nodokotela bezengqondo zomzimba. Iveza ukuba khona okuzinzile ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, okusekelwa yi-ground. Uma umlingani wakho ezama ukufunda ukuthi angayeka kanjani ukuba nolaka nokuthukuthela, nanka amanye amasu okusekela angawasebenzisa ukuze azithulise:

• Lalele umculo
• Ukubhala izinto ezibalethela injabulo
• Ukuthinta okuthile okududuzayo (kanye nokuzwa indwangu esikhumbeni sabo)
• Ukuhlala nesilwane esifuywayo
• Ukubuka amavidiyo ahlekisayo
• Ukuqaphela umzwelo wezimpande: Ubuhlungu, ukudabuka, ukukhathala, njll.

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3. Phakamisa izindlela zokuziphatha

Ungase ungazi kodwa kuthiwani uma umlingani wakho efuna amathiphu okubhekana nentukuthelo ebudlelwaneni? Abazi nje ukuthi bangayisebenzisa kanjani imizwa yabo emibi kanye nemicabango engenangqondo ngendlela ehlanzekile. Ucwaningo luveza ukuthi amasu okulungisa ukuziphatha kanye nokuqonda asebenza kahle kakhulu uma kunezinkinga zentukuthelo emshadweni noma ebudlelwaneni. Nazi ezinye zezindlela zokuziphatha ezivunyelwe yi- APA (American Psychological Association) umlingani wakho angazisebenzisa:

• Ukuphindaphinda amagama azolile kuwo njengokuthi “Khululeka” noma “Khululeka”
• Ukuthi “ngingathanda” esikhundleni sokuthi “Ngifuna” noma “Kumelwe ngibe nakho”
• Ehlise ijubane acabange ngaphambi kokuphendula
• Ukusebenzisa amahlaya njengendlela yokubhekana nesimo 

4. Yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kumlingani othukuthele

“Uma uhlala nomuntu othukuthele, yazi ukuthi intukuthelo yakhe ithinta kabi impilo yakhe yengqondo. Ingalimaza ukuzethemba kwakhe kanye nokuzihlonipha,” kusho uPooja. Iyambulala ngaphakathi. Ngakho-ke, ungazama ukuba nozwela kakhulu kumlingani wakho othukuthele, esikhundleni sokumkhomba ngeminwe.

U-Pooja uyanezela, "Ungaphenduli ngokushesha. Vumela ukusabela ngokushesha kudlule bese uphendula. Xoxa naye ngalowo muntu uma nobabili nizolile." Ngakho-ke, iseluleko sochwepheshe sendlela yokubhekana nomuntu othukuthele ebuhlotsheni kungaba ukuvumela amandla amabi ukuba adlule kuqala. Bese kuba nengxoxo ephusile. Bazovuleleka kakhulu ekuqondeni umbono wakho lapho bezolile.

Uma bezimisele ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zabo futhi benesimo sengqondo sokuxazulula izinkinga, ungase ubaphakamise ukuthi bajoyine amakilasi okulawula intukuthelo. Ukuqiniseka nje ukuthi kuleli zwe elingalungile, ukhona ukuze ubabambe ngezandla kungase kukusondeze esitebhisini sokwakha ubuhlobo obuhle.

5. Zibeke kuqala

Lapho ulwa nomcabango wokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomlingani othukuthele, ukuzinakekela kufanele kube yinto ehamba phambili yakho. Sithola ama-imeyili avela kubafundi bethu: Isoka lothile lithukuthela kalula futhi livame ukuphula izinto. Omunye uthi, “Mina nentombi yami silwa nsuku zonke ngezinto ezincane.” Kukhona okwengeziwe. Futhi bonke baphila emgodini onogwaja wokungabi nandaba.

Ngakho-ke, njengoba usebenzelana nomuntu onezinkinga zentukuthelo, kufanele uzenzele indawo enhle ukuze uhlakulele amandla amahle. Nawa amanye amathiphu akho:

• Zinakekele nge-yoga/ngokuzindla noma ngisho nenkomishi yetiye noma uyobhukuda (ungaba kuphela indawo ephephile yomunye umuntu uma uzinzile ngokwanele)
• Ungadeli lutho oluthandekayo enhliziyweni yakho ukuze ubeke i-placate indoda ethukuthele noma umlingani
• UNGAKHOLI (ngisho nomzuzwana nje) ukuthi kukhona okungalungile ngawe noma udinga ukukushintsha ukuze bangabi nentukuthelo/bahlukumeze
• Gcina amalungu omndeni wakho noma abangani bethunyelwe mayelana nesimo sakho. Ukwabelana kuvame ukudambisa ukuhlupheka
• Yenza uhlelo olunemininingwane yokuphepha - ongamfonela noma lapho ongaya khona ezimeni eziyingozi. Ngaso sonke isikhathi gcina izinombolo zenombolo yocingo kazwelonke yodlame lwasekhaya zitholakala uma kwenzeka unomlingani ohlukumezayo

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6. Ungakubekezeleli ukungahloniphi

Ukuthi sikucelile ukuthi ube nomusa kumlingani wakho akusho ukuthi sithethelela izenzo zabo kunoma yiliphi izinga. Futhi asikweluleki ukuthi uhlale futhi ubekezelele lokhu kuhlukunyezwa ngokomqondo. Zimelele wena noma nini lapho bewela umugqa wesizotha futhi bangakuhlonipha, bakuhlambalaze, noma bakuhlukumeze ngenye indlela. Akudingekile ukuthi kuhlale kunomsindo noma kunolaka. Ngisho nokuthula ngemva kokulwa kuwuhlobo lokungahloniphi.

Yilapho-ke amakhono akho okuxhumana eba usizo khona. Uma ulwa nabalingani abathukuthele, udinga ukukhetha amagama akho ngokucophelela ukuze angaqhubeki nokuphikisana. Vuma ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi bavelaphi, uvulekile ukuxoxa ngalolu daba, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, kwenze kucace ukuthi badlula kanjani imingcele yakho yemizwa.

• Beka imingcele ngokuthi, “Angizimisele ukuthethiswa. Ngifuna ngempela ukuqonda ukuthi uvelaphi. Kodwa manje akusona isikhathi esifanele”
• Ungase futhi uthi, "Ngiyathola ukuthi uphatheke kabi. Kodwa ukunaka kwami ​​kukuyo yonke indawo njengamanje. Singakwazi ukuxhuma kabusha ngesikhathi esingcono?"
• Ukusho lokhu uma uzizwa ucindezelekile, "Ngiyakuthanda. Kodwa kunzima ukulalela uma umemeza phezulu. Ungazise uma usukwazi ukukhuluma ngaphandle kokukhomba. Ngikhona njalo kuwe"

7. Cabanga ngesithombe esikhulu

Kuleli qophelo, kunemibuzo embalwa okufanele uzibuze yona futhi uzitholele ezakho izimpendulo. Ake sikuhlehlisele yona:

• Ingabe udinga isu lesikhathi eside? Esikushoyo ukuthi, ingabe usonqenqemeni lokuhlukana uma lezi zindlela zokulawula intukuthelo zingabonisi imiphumela esheshayo? Noma uzimisele ukuchitha impilo yakho yonke nalo muntu?

• Uma uhlela ukuhlala, okokuqala, kufanele uhlole izenzo zakho. Ingabe kukhona okwenzayo okuthukuthelisa umlingani wakho? Lezi zinkinga zingaxoxwa njalo futhi zixazululwe ngokungenelela komeluleki wabashadile

• Uma inkinga ilele kubo, kufanele ufunde ukukhetha izimpi zakho ukuze ube nengqondo yakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Unquma ukuthi yiziphi okufanele uzilwele bese udedela abanye bahambe

• Okokugcina, uma uzama konke lokhu futhi kungaphumeleli, ungazizwa unecala ngakho ukushiya umshado wakho noma ubudlelwano. Qiniseka ukuthi uhlukana endaweni yomphakathi ukuze uqinisekise ukuphepha kwakho futhi uveze yonke into kubo ngobuqotho nangokwethembeka

Sithemba ukuthi uzoqonda kangcono ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu othukuthele ebuhlotsheni. Futhi, khumbula ukuthi umsebenzi wakho awukona ukushintsha umlingani wakho noma 'ukumlungisa'. Ongakwenza nje ukubathonya ngothando nangemingcele yakho, futhi unike amandla indawo yokubambisana esikhundleni sokulawula. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, akudingekile ukuba uzithobe futhi wesabe umlingani wakho. Baphathe ngenhlonipho kodwa futhi uqinise ukuze uthole ukuhlonishwa okufanele.

Sonke singabantu abanamaphutha nokushiyeka okusobala. Umlingani wakho ufanelwe ithuba lokunqoba izinkinga zakhe zentukuthelo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, unokulinganiselwa kwakho futhi kuningi kuphela ongakwenza ukuze ubasize ngaphandle kokulimaza impilo yakho yengqondo. Zama konke okusemandleni akho ukuze ungazisoli ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, noma ngabe yisiphi isinqumo osithathayo ekugcineni.

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