11 confessions by married people on why they stopped having sex

Sex? No please, we’re married

You must have heard the popular saying that couples stop having sex after getting married. While the truth in the statement is debatable, one cannot ignore the fact that after the ‘honeymoon period’ in a marriage wears off, the sex tends to decrease.

</p><p>As the knot is tied and commitment is established to one person forever, the urgency to show love to one’s partner often decreases and reduces the sex as complacency sets in. However, the reasons for sexless marriages, or Dead Bedrooms as they are often referred to, are varying.</p><p>In this <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/">Reddit thread </a> married men and women who do not engage in sex any more confessed what caused them to be in the situation. The reasons they gave ranged from boredom to loss of attractiveness or health problems. We’ve compiled 11 very striking answers:</p><h3>1. She gained over 100 lbs, and I am just not attracted any more</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter wp-image-39910" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-attracted-to-fat-wife.jpg" alt="Not attracted to fat wife" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-attracted-to-fat-wife.jpg 800w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-attracted-to-fat-wife-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-attracted-to-fat-wife-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-attracted-to-fat-wife-768x768.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df98lrf/"><strong><em>Mcompledpayas</em></strong> </a></p><h3>2. We’re both on anti-depressants which have totally messed with our sex drives</h3><p><img class="aligncenter wp-image-39911" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Anti-depressants-kill-sex-life.jpg" alt="Anti depressants kill sex life" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Anti-depressants-kill-sex-life.jpg 800w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Anti-depressants-kill-sex-life-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Anti-depressants-kill-sex-life-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Anti-depressants-kill-sex-life-768x768.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <strong><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9ftwd/"><em>sirkibble14</em> </a></strong></p><h3>3. We got married and had kids</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter wp-image-39912" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Marriage-killed-sex-life.jpg" alt="Marriage killed sex life" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Marriage-killed-sex-life.jpg 800w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Marriage-killed-sex-life-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Marriage-killed-sex-life-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Marriage-killed-sex-life-768x768.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9nkdk/"><strong><em>SVTRocks</em> </strong></a></p><div class="bonob-display-ad-3" id="bonob-406606727"><div data-cfpa="203313" id="bonob-406404664"><script async src="//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js"></script> <ins class="adsbygoogle" style="display:inline-block;width:320px;height:250px;" data-ad-client="ca-pub-3568689678821494" data-ad-slot="2229869835"></ins> <script>(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});</script> </div></div><h3>4. My wife decided three years ago sex is too ‘icky’</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter wp-image-39913" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-is-icky.jpg" alt="Sex is icky" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-is-icky.jpg 800w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-is-icky-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-is-icky-300x300.jpg 300w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-is-icky-768x768.jpg 768w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9g5rg/"><strong><em>annoyingone</em> </strong></a></p><h3>5. Honestly we’re both just not attractive anymore. Better to masturbate</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39914" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Better-to-masturbate.jpg" alt="Better to masturbate" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Better-to-masturbate.jpg 500w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Better-to-masturbate-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Better-to-masturbate-300x300.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9pebd/"><strong><em>imcondescendingu21</em> </strong></a></p><p><strong>Related reading:</strong> <a href="http://www.bonobology.com/frequently-couple-sex/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">How frequently should a couple have sex?</a></p><h3>6. It has gotten to the point where I could tell she was only doing it for me, and I began to feel as though I was essentially raping her</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39915" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-felt-like-rape.jpg" alt="Sex felt like rape" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-felt-like-rape.jpg 500w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-felt-like-rape-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Sex-felt-like-rape-300x300.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9f4zc/"><strong><em>clamberrypie</em></strong></a></p><h3>7. She started blatantly using it to get something she wanted or to cover up something she did</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39916" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Using-sex-as-a-means.jpg" alt="Using sex as a means" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Using-sex-as-a-means.jpg 500w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Using-sex-as-a-means-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Using-sex-as-a-means-300x300.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <strong><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9e8y2/"><em>whiskeyalpha7</em></a></strong></p><h3>8. My husband is not very good at sex and shows no interest in improving</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39919" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Husband-not-good-at-sex.jpg" alt="Husband not good at sex" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Husband-not-good-at-sex.jpg 500w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Husband-not-good-at-sex-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Husband-not-good-at-sex-300x300.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9y84g/"><strong><em>DeadBed1010wrice</em></strong></a></p><p><strong>Related reading:</strong> <a href="http://www.bonobology.com/my-husband-is-not-interested-in-sex/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">My husband is not interested in sex</a></p><h3>9. I’ve had Erectile Dysfunction for about 3 years now</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39918" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Erectile-dysfunction.jpg" alt="Erectile dysfunction" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Erectile-dysfunction.jpg 500w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Erectile-dysfunction-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Erectile-dysfunction-300x300.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9d1wc/"><strong><em>bustaflow25</em></strong> </a></p><h3>10. I’m not in love anymore and I want out</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39920" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-in-love-1.jpg" alt="Not in love" width="500" height="500" srcset="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-in-love-1.jpg 500w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-in-love-1-150x150.jpg 150w, https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Not-in-love-1-300x300.jpg 300w" sizes="(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px" />By <strong><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9t4ss/"><em>twatchops </em></a></strong></p><h3>11. She was prescribed several medications that resulted in multiple health issues and is completely asexual</h3><p style="text-align: center;"><img class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-39921" src="https://www.bonobology.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Health-issues-and-asexuality.jpg" alt="Health issues and asexuality" width="500" height="500" />By <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/60tstq/serious_wives_and_husbands_of_reddit_who_do_not/df9bqkp/"><strong><em>pyungshin</em></strong></a></p><blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="WoLKbOZCzF"><p><a href="https://www.bonobology.com/sex-related-myths-men-believe/">10 sex related myths that most men believe</a></p></blockquote><p><iframe title="“10 sex related myths that most men believe” — Bonobology.com" class="wp-embedded-content" sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" style="position: absolute; clip: rect(1px, 1px, 1px, 1px);" src="https://www.bonobology.com/sex-related-myths-men-believe/embed/#?secret=WoLKbOZCzF" data-secret="WoLKbOZCzF" width="600" height="338" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no">

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