One’s inability to love may not just be a choice. Nine out of ten times, it’s what we go through as children splitting into various sub-personalities just so that we can survive through the dysfunctionalities in our families. To not love, may also be just a survival mechanism, and nothing more. The adult is perhaps still stuck in the time-energy capsule of that dysfunctionality, and in therapy, that’s what we need to enter and break.
~ Dr Gaurav Deka
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