5 Ngā Tohu o te Aroha Pōuri: Te Wetewete i te Momo Tuakiri Tino Morearea

I te kāinga, tera pea kei te mahi tahi koe me tētahi tangata e tino mārama ana ki a koe, ā, tata tonu rātou ki te pānui i ō whakaaro. Engari, ehara i te mea kei te "māramahia" koe i roto i te tikanga pai, kei te tutuki ō hiahia, kei te whakanuia rānei ō kare ā-roto. Tērā pea kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi tangata aroha pouri, ā, kāore koe i te mōhio kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga tukino.

Engari, ko te aroha me te pōuri? He rite ki tētahi āhuatanga whakahē, kāore? Tae noa ki tēnei wā, i mārama tātou ko te aroha he āhuatanga o te hunga mohio ki te kare ā-roto, he hunga tino tairongo e rapu ana ki te mārama ki tō mamae me tō harikoa, me te tautoko. Ina tomo mai te kupu "aroha pōuri" ka noho pōhēhē tātou.

E kiia ana ko te momo tuakiri tino morearea, he kupu hou te aroha pouri i ahu mai i ngā rangahau hou. Ā, e kore e taea te mārama ki tēnei kupu me te kore he wawaotanga a te tohunga. Hei āwhina i a koe ki te whai māramatanga pai ake ki te ariā o te aroha pouri, i kōrero mātou ki a koe Tākuta Karan Dhawan (MD, Psychiatry), te kaiwhakaū o Healing Soul Clinic, he tohunga ki te whakakore i te waranga, ngā mate tuakiri, ngā mate kare ā-roto, me ngā mate dysphoria ira tangata. Mai i te tēpu a tā mātou tohunga ki a koe, anei tō aratohu taahiraa-i-te-taahiraa hei mārama ki te aha te empath pouri me pēhea te whakatau i te empath pouri i roto i te whanaungatanga.

Ko wai te tangata pouri?

E mārama ana mātou, ko te hunga whakahihi te hunga e tika ana kia tūpato. He hunga hiahia nui rātou, he hunga tinihanga hoki. Engari, i roto i te āhua noa te aroha me te whakapehapeha He rerekē, ko ngā tāngata e aroha ana ki te tangata ko ngā patunga e hiahia ana ki te atawhai me te tuku i te aroha, e tuku ana i a rātou ki ngā tono whaiaro a te tangata whakahihi. Engari inaianei kua ako tātou he kino te ngākau o te tangata e aroha ana ki te tangata. Me pēhea rā e taea ai?

tenei ako e whakaahua ana i ngā aroha pouri hei tāngata e "whakaatu ana i tētahi rōpū o ngā āhuatanga pouri (ngā āhuatanga tokotoru pouri) me ngā taumata teitei o te aroha." E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Dhawan, "He aroha hinengaro tō te aroha pouri, arā, te mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu, me te pūkenga whakahaere, te hiahia whaiaro, me te kore aroha. Ā, koinei te huarahi e whai mana ai koe i tētahi kaiwhakahaere matua!"

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He aha te Tokotoru Pōuri?

Kua whakarōpūhia e ngā kaipūtaiao tētahi tokotoru o ngā āhuatanga kino o te tangata e kiia nei ko te "Dark Triad", i ētahi wā ko ngā "energy vampires" rānei. Ko ēnei āhuatanga ko:

• Tare AnaNgā āhuatanga e pā ana – te hiahia whaiaro, te whakapehapeha, te whakanui, te whakanui rawa i a ia anō
• Te Machiavellianism: Ngā āhuatanga e pā ana – te kore o te matatika, te whakahaere i ngā whanaungatanga, te whai pānga whaiaro, me ngā whanonga whakamahi kino
• Psychopathy: Ngā āhuatanga e pā ana - te kore o te pouri, te whanonga kino ki te pāpori, te whanoke

Ko te mea kotahi e kitea whānuitia ana i roto i ngā mea e toru, ko te kore o te aroha ki a rātou katoa. Nō reira, ko te Tokotoru Pōuri he huinga "aroha iti + āhuatanga pōuri teitei". Ko te mea ka tupu i roto i te take o te aroha pōuri, ka whakakotahihia ēnei āhuatanga pōuri me ngā taumata aroha teitei. Hei whakarāpopototanga tirohanga:

• Te Tokotoru Pōuri = Te iti o te aroha + Ngā āhuatanga pōuri teitei
• Aroha Pōuri = Aroha nui + Ngā āhuatanga pōuri nui

Me pēhea te mutunga iho o tēnei huinga whakamataku ki te hanga i te momo tuakiri tino morearea pea, ka kite tātou i muri mai!

He aha te mea e tino morearea ai te momo tuakiri o Dark Empath?

Hei mārama ki te tikanga o te aroha pōuri, me titiro tuatahi tātou ki te aroha. American Association Psychology e whakamārama ana i te aroha ki te "mārama ki te tangata mai i tana ake anga tirohanga, kaua ki tā te tangata ake, ki te wheako ā-waha rānei i ngā kare ā-roto, ngā tirohanga, me ngā whakaaro o taua tangata". Engari e toru ngā momo aroha e kitea ana e koe, ko tētahi e ārahi ana ki tētahi atu:

• Te aroha hinengaro: Te mōhio ki ngā whakaaro o te tangata me ōna kare ā-roto. Hei tauira, "E mōhio ana ahau kei te ngākau pouri koe ki te kāinga."
• Te ngakau aroha: Te rongo i ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata kē. Hei tauira, "E pouri ana ahau nā te mea e pouri ana koe ina ngaro tō kāinga."
• Te aroha ki te ngākau aroha: Mā te aroha ka puta te mahi me te hiahia ki te āwhina. Hei tauira, "He aha taku e taea ai kia pai ake ai tō noho ki tō kāinga?"

Ehara i te mea ko te tangata aroha anake e mōhio ana ki ō kare ā-roto, engari e mārama ana hoki ki tō mamae, ā, kei a ia te wairua hei āwhina i a koe. Engari he hapa kei roto i ngā aroha pōuri. Kāore koe e kite i te tino pono i roto i a rātou. Tuhinga o mua engari ko te mea e kiia nei ko te "aroha whati", arā, ko te aroha ngoikore. Ko te aroha hinengaro anake tō rātou, arā, ka tino mārama ngā aroha pouri ki ō kare ā-roto, engari kāore i mutu i reira. He mea morearea tēnei mōhiotanga me te kore e hiahia ki te atawhai i roto i ō rātou ringaringa.

Ka taea e ngā tāngata aroha pouri te whakamahi i tēnei mōhiotanga hei keri raraunga mai i tō roro hei whakahaere i a koe hei painga mō rātou. Nā te mea he mahere tō hinengaro tā rātou, ka taea e rātou te matapae i ō whakaaro, i ō whanonga, me tō tauhohenga, ā, ka mahi i runga i tēnā. Ka taea e rātou te huna i ō rātou whakaaro kino, ā, kāore e taea te kite i ā rātou whanonga tukino me te mōhio ki tā rātou e mahi ana.

Nō reira, ka hurihia rānei tātou hei puehu i mua i ēnei Koriata o te tinihanga me te tinihanga? Ka taea e tātou te hinga i a rātou? Ki te tika rānei, ka taea e tātou te ako ki te whakatau i a rātou, te noho tahi me rātou me te mahi i ngā mahi hei tiaki i a tātou anō, kaua e taka ki raro i ā rātou ara? Ko te mahi tuatahi ko te tautuhi i te raruraru tonu.

5 Ngā Tohu o te Aroha Pōuri

He reka, he tinihanga hoki te tangata pouri. He ātaahua, he hoariri hoki. E ngana ana rātou ki te whakaatu e mārama ana rātou ki a koe, engari kāore e tukua koe ki roto i ō rātou whakaaro o roto. He tino uaua ngā tangata pouri, nō reira he uaua ki te kite. Ko te huri i te tēpu me te whakamahi i ā rātou rautaki ki a rātou te mea pai pea. Kia pānui tātou i ō rātou hinengaro kia mārama ai ki ō rātou āhuatanga motuhake o te tangata pouri, kia kitea ai hoki ō rātou whanonga kino. Anei ētahi tohu o te tangata pouri i roto i ngā whanaungatanga:

1. He āhua rūpahu tō rātou atawhai

E mōhio ana te tangata aroha pouri ki ngā mea tika hei kōrero. "He hunga māhorahora, he ataahua hoki rātou, ā, he maha ngā wā ka whakamanawareka i a koe mā te e pupuhi ana te aroha ki a koe,” te kī a Tākuta Dhawan. E mōhio ana rātou me pēhea te whanonga ki a koe. Āhea te atawhai, āhea te mihi ki a koe, āhea te whakarongo, āhea te papaki i tō tuara. Tērā pea kei te pātai atu rātou ki a koe me pēhea tō rā, kei te whakarongo pono ki a koe e whakapuaki ana i ō whakaaro, kei te awhi i a koe i muri i te moe tāne. Kei te titiro mai ki a koe ina pouri koe, me te kī mai he ataahua koe.

Engari kāore ā rātou mihi e whakamahana i tō ngākau. Tērā pea he āhua rerekē ki a koe tō rātou atawhai. Me te mea nei ka whai mai he "engari" me tētahi mea rānei ka tonoa mai e rātou hei utu.

I ēnei āhuatanga, ko tō taonga nui ko tō pūmanawa. Ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tō pūmanawa, ā, me whakawhirinaki hoki koe. Ki te kī mai tō puku kāore rātou i te tino pono ki tā rātou e kōrero nei, e mahi nei rānei, he tino tūpono kei te whakaari noa rātou i tō rātou pono ki te whakamātau ki te whakahaere i a koe kia whiwhi i tētahi mea e hiahiatia ana e rātou, ki te kore e tere tonu, kāti i tētahi wā kei te heke mai.

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2. He tohunga rātou ki te whakamahi i te hau me te whakama

"He tohunga ngā tāngata aroha pouri ki te whakamahi i ētahi atu tāngata hei painga mō rātou," te kī a Tākuta Dhawan. Heoi, he nui ake te whakamahi a rātou i ngā momo riri ā-kore i ngā momo riri tika. Nā te mea me pupuri tonu e rātou te āhua o te noho hei hoa whakawhirinaki mōu, hei hoa pai hoki mōu, kāore rātou e whakawhirinaki ki te riri tika nā te mea ka huna pea i a rātou. E rua o ā rātou rautaki tinihanga tino pai ko te gaslighting me te hara-takahanga (me te pōma aroha me te huna i ngā wairua).

Mā te aroha pouri ka whakatakoto pai i te turanga māu mā te kōrero i ngā mea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakarongo. E mārama ana rātou ki ō ngoikoretanga, ā, e mōhio ana hoki ki ngā mea e puta ana i roto i tō mahunga. Ina rite koe ki te whakapono ki ā rātou kōrero, ka whakamātauria koe e rātou. He rite anō te mahi a te tuku i a koe ki raro i te hara. Ka tirotirohia e rātou tō ngoikore, ā, ka meinga koe kia whakaaro kei a koe tonu te he.

Ki te mea ko tō hoa tukino, e whakaaro ana koe ko ia te hoa tino mārama, kei te mea kia whakama koe mō ngā mea katoa, ā, ki te nui ake tō kore whakapono ki tō ake whakaaro, he nui ake te tūponotanga kei te mahi koe me tētahi tangata aroha pouri e whakahaere ana i a koe.

3. He uaua ki a rātou te whakaiti i a rātou anō

Ae, he tinihanga, he hiahia whaiaro hoki ngā tāngata aroha pouri, engari i te pūtake o te raruraru, he iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō me ngā take o te whakapono me te whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō. E kī ana a Tākuta Dhawan, "He rerekē ki te tangata whakahihi e whakanui ana i te whakapehapeha me te whaiaro, ko te tangata aroha pouri e mōhio ana ki a ia anō, ā, e mōhio ana ki tāna e mahi nei." (He painga anō hoki tēnei, ka kite tātou i muri mai).

Ka kite koe i tēnei e whakaatuhia ana i roto i ngā huarahi maha i roto i te aroha pouri:

• Kāore e taea e rātou te aro atu ki ngā whakahe a ētahi atu
• He nui rawa tō rātou whakahē i a rātou anō, he maha ngā wā ka uru atu rātou ki te whakarihariha i a rātou anō
• He maha tonu ā rātou mamae i take hauora hinengaro pērā i te manukanuka me te pouri, ā, e mōhio ana ki tēnā
• E rapu ana rātou i te whakamana mai i ētahi atu

4. He wairua whakatoi, he wairua kino hoki tō rātou

Kua kīia e Freud he mea whakangaro te wairua kino, te wairua kino rānei. Kua kite ngā tohunga hinengaro he taputapu anō tēnei e whakamahia ana e ngā tangata pouri, nā te mea he momo riri iti iho tēnei. "Nā te mea he rapu utu, he hunga hinga, ā, kāore e taea te aro atu ki ngā whakahē, ka whakamahia pea e rātou te wairua hei tikanga tiaki i a koe," te kī a Tākuta Dhawan. Ka taea e ngā tangata pouri te kata i a koe, ā, kāore koe e mōhio. Tērā pea ka kata koe ki a ia me te tino pōhēhē, kāore koe i te tino mōhio he aha i kino ai tō wairua.

He maha rawa ngā wā ka whakatoi tō hoa, ka kata noa iho rānei ki te tangata, ka whakamahi rānei i tētahi katakata hei whakapuaki i tētahi mea ki a koe me te whakaaro pai? Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnā, he uaua rānei ki te tohu i tā rātou mahi he kia taea ai te aro atu ki a rātou? Kia tūpato, kei te raru pea koe i tētahi tangata pouri e aro atu ana ki te aroha.

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5. He mātau ā-hinengaro rātou, engari he tawhiti

Nā te kaha o te hunga aroha ki te hinengaro, ka taea e rātou te whakaatu i ō kare ā-roto. He hunga aroha hoki rātou, nō reira, he tino mohio rātou ki ngā kare ā-roto. Engari, ehara tēnei i te kī ka tukua e rātou kia ngoikore, kia whakaatu hoki i ō rātou kare ā-roto tūturu ki a koe.

Ka huna rawatia e te tangata aroha pōuri ōna ake kare ā-roto. Ka ngana rātou ki te pupuri i te āhua o nāianei mā te whakarite kia kore koe e kite i tōna hauora hinengaro ngoikore, me te he iti te kiritau.

Ina hoki, tera pea koe e whakaaro he tino atawhai rawa tō hoa rangatira nā te mea e aro nui ana ia ki ō raruraru me ō raruraru anake. Kei te aro noa kōrua ki ō raruraru, ā, ka taea e rāua te noho rangatira me te whakaatu kei te pai ngā mea katoa ki a rāua? He nekehanga kaha pea tēnei! He pai pea te haere atu mō tētahi hēkona, me te tirotiro mēnā kei te huna e ia ō rāua āhua tūturu i a koe me te hiahia huna.

Nō reira, kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi tangata pouri e aroha ana ki a koe? Whakamātauria tēnei pātaitai

Me nui ēnei tohu hei mōhio ki te whanonga a tō hoa he mahi tukino, he mahi kino, ā, he āhua aroha pouri kino. Engari ki te mea kei te pōhēhē tonu koe, tera pea ka whai hua tēnei whakamātautau aroha pouri. Whakautua āe, kāo rānei ki ngā pātai e whai ake nei kia kitea ai te pono mō tō hoa.

1. E kōrero ana tō hoa ki a koe mō ō kare ā-roto ina pouri koe, kaua e pātai atu ki a koe mō taua mea? Āe/Kāo
2. Kei te akiakihia rānei e tō hoa tāne ō rātou whakaaro, kaua ki tāu e whakaae ana hei tō kare ā-roto tūturu? Āe/Kāo
3. He maha ngā wā ka kī atu tō hoa ki a koe "E mōhio ana ahau ki a koe, nui atu i tō mōhio ki a koe anō!" kia riro mai ai tō whakawhirinaki? Āe/Kāo
4. He āhua pōuri tō rātou e riri ai koe, e whakama ai rānei koe? Āe/Kāo
5. He maha ngā wā ka kōrero pakiwaitara tō hoa kia pai ake ai tō whakaaro mōna anō? Āe/Kāo
6. He uaua ki tō hoa te whakarongo ki ngā whakahē me ngā urupare mai i a koe? Āe/Kāo
7. He ngāwari noa iho rānei te whakahēngia koe e tō hoa? Āe/Kāo
8. He maha ngā wā ka ngana tō hoa ki te whakamā i a koe, ka uru atu rānei ki ngā mahi te huri-whakapaeĀe/Kāore
9. Ka karohia rānei e tō hoa ngā kōrero mō rātou anō, mō ō rātou whakaaro ā-roto rānei?
10. Ki tō whakaaro, kei te ātete tō hoa ki te whakaatu i tōna ngoikore i mua i a koe, i mua rānei i ētahi atu? Āe/Kāo

I a ia anō, ka taea te whakamahi i ia o ēnei pātai ki tētahi whanaungatanga tukino e mau tahi ana i runga i ngā whenua wiri o te whanonga tinihanga me te whakahaere, engari ki te tirohia ngātahitia, ka āwhina pea ēnei i a koe ki te tautuhi i tētahi aroha pouri. Mena i whakautu koe i te nuinga o ēnei pātai ki te Āe, inā koa ko ērā e whakaatu ana kei te wātea ki tō hoa te huarahi ki te whakaaro o tō hoa, tera pea kei te raru koe i tētahi aroha pouri i roto i tō whanaungatanga.

Kia mōhio mai: Kāore tēnei momo tirotiro i te whakaarohia hei taputapu tātaritanga. Ko te kaiwhakaora hinengaro whai raihana, ko te tohunga hauora hinengaro rānei, ka taea te tuku tātaritanga ki a koe me te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā mahi pai e whai ake nei māu.

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Kei te whakaaro koe "He tangata pouri ahau?" Whakamātauria tēnei pātaitai

Mena kua ārahi tēnei tuhinga i a koe ki te whakapono kei te mōhio tata koe ki tētahi tangata pēnei, tera pea ko koe tonu te tangata whai pūkenga aroha engari kei te whakaaro "Me pēhea taku whai hua mai i tēnei?" ā, e kiia ana he whakahaere freak, whakaotia tēnei whakamātautau aroha pouri hei rapu āwhina, hei whakatau hoki i tō whanonga. Tirohia te nui o te pānga o ēnei kōrero ki a koe.

1. E mōhio ana ahau ki ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu.
2. He pūkenga tino pai tēnei, ā, tera pea ka whakamahia e au hei painga mōku ake. Āe/Kāo
3. He māmā noa iho te whakaatu i tōku whakahawea ki ētahi atu mēnā ka kata ahau mōna. Y/N
4. E mārama ana ahau ki ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi atu tangata, engari kāore e tino pā ki ōku kare ā-roto.
5. E whakapono ana ahau he pai ake taku mārama ki ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu i tō rātou mārama ki a rātou anō.
6. He maha ngā tāngata e kī mai ana he tangata ngāwari, he tangata whakahoahoa, he tangata māhorahora hoki tōku āhua.
7. He mea nui te pupuri i ōku kare ā-roto ki ahau anake. He mea morearea te ngoikore o te kare ā-roto. Y/N
8. Kei a au te pūkenga ki te kōrero ki te tangata he aha tā rātou e whakapono ai, ā, ka whakaae tonu rātou ki ahau. Y/N
9. Kāore au i te pai ki te wā e whakahengia ai ahau e ētahi atu, e tohu ana rānei i tētahi hapa nā te mea ki taku whakaaro he tika rātou. Āe/Kāo
10. Kei te manukanuka ahau, ā, kei te kore e tino mōhio ki ahau anō. Ki taku whakaaro kei te pouri pea ahau. Y/N

Anō, mēnā ko te nuinga o ēnei pātai i whakautua e koe he Āe, inā koa ko ērā e whakaatu ana he tino pai koe ki te mōhio ki ngā āhuatanga o ētahi atu tāngata, ā, ki tō whakaaro he mea tēnei hei painga mōu, tera pea kei te pāngia koe e te aroha nui me ngā āhuatanga pōuri o tō tuakiri, ā, tera pea ka noho koe hei tangata aroha pōuri.

Me mōhio: Kāore tēnei momo tirotiro i te whakaarohia hei taputapu tātaritanga. Ko te tohunga hauora hinengaro whai raihana anake ka taea te tuku tātaritanga ki a koe me te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau i ngā mahi pai e whai ake nei māu.

Me pēhea te urupare ki tētahi aroha pouri ina kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga ki tētahi

He pai ngā tāngata aroha pouri ki te wehewehe i ō rātou kare ā-roto. E mōhio ana hoki rātou ki ā rātou whanonga kino engari he huarahi anō tā rātou ki te whakamārama i tēnā i roto i ō rātou hinengaro. Me aro nui koe ki te whakautu me te aro nui ki te Razer ina mahi tahi koe me te tangata aroha pouri. Tukua te tiaki i a koe anō hei whāinga matua māu, kaua hoki e wareware ki taua whāinga. Inaianei, me titiro tātou ki te huarahi pai ki te whakatau i te tangata aroha pouri i roto i te whanaungatanga:

1. Whakatakotoria, ā, whakaūtia hoki ngā rohe whaiaro

He mea nui ngā rohe. He mea nui ngā rohe! Kia mau tonu ai te whanaungatanga ki te wāhi hauora. Ā, pērā i te nuinga o ngā whanaungatanga tukino, e kī ana tā mātou tohunga me whakatakoto e koe ngā rohe whaiaro māu ake, me whakapuaki mārama ki tō hoa, ā, me whakarite kia whai kawenga tō hoa ina takahia e rātou.

Hei tauira, me kī atu ki tō hoa aroha pouri kāore koe e pai ki tā rātou katakata pouri, ina koa ka mōhio koe ki te kino o tā rātou katakata. Kaua e kata ki tā rātou whanonga kino ināianei kua kitea e koe. E kī ana a Tākuta Dhawan, "Whakanohoia ki te wāhi tika" nga rohe whanaungatanga hauora me te aro atu ki ngā take e whakaaro ana koe kei te whakahaerehia koe, kaua e whakamanawanui."

2. Hangaia te whakapono ki tō pūmanawa

Mā tō pūmanawa ka mōhio koe ina he te āhua o tētahi mea. Ina teka tō hoa ki a koe, ina mihi tinihanga, ina whakatenatena i a koe kia whakapono ki tētahi mea ehara i te pono, ina ngana rānei ki te whakama i a koe, ko tō puku ka mea atu kāore i te tika ki a koe. Kāore koe i kite i te harikoa pono, i te pouri pono, i te mōhio pono rānei ki tō he.

He nui te whakapono ki a koe anō hei whakarongo ki taua reo o roto. Ā, nui atu anō hoki ina mahi tahi koe me tētahi tangata e aroha ana ki ngā āhuatanga pouri, e mea ana kia rite ki tō rātou mōhio ki a koe i tōu mōhio ki a koe anō. Me mahi koe i ngā mahi kaha hei hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga pai ake ki a koe anō. Ētahi mahi o aroha-whaiaro ā, ko te tiaki i a koe anō ka uru atu pea ki:

• Whakaarohia kia ako ai koe ki te whakataurite i ō kare ā-roto
• Whakamātauria ngā tūponotanga me te whai i ō kare ā-roto i ngā wā katoa
• Ngāna kia kaua e whakaaro nui ki ngā mea iti
• Tuhia ō whakaaro ki roto i te pukapuka hei ako i te mohio ki ō kare ā-roto

Te pānui e pā ana: 13 Ngā Huarahi Ataahua Hei Whakaipoipo I A Koe Anō

3. Rapua he āwhina mai i tētahi tohunga – māu ake, mā tō hoa hoki

Kia mōhio koe ki te maia, ka taea e koe te kōrero ki tō hoa aroha pouri mō tāu kitenga. E kī ana a Tākuta Dhawan, "Ka taea e koe te ngana ki te kukume i tō rātou aro ki ēnei āhuatanga o te tangata, me te tirotiro mēnā kei te hiahia rātou ki te āwhina, nā te mea ka whai hua ngā taha e rua."

Ki te mea he tangata pouri te ngākau, he tino tūponotanga tēnei, nā te mea ka mōhio te nuinga o ngā tāngata pouri ki tā rātou mahi, ā, he kino hoki ā rātou whanonga. Ko te nuinga o ngā tāngata pouri e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru hauora hinengaro pēnei i te pouri me te manukanuka ā, e hiahia ana pea koe ki te toro atu ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro hauora hinengaro.

Ka tāpiri atu a Tākuta Dhawan, "Ki te kore tō hoa e pai, he tino uaua ki te whakarerekē i te whanonga o te tangata pouri. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te pōuri koe, kei te ngenge rawa hoki, ehara i te mea kino te rapu āwhina māu ake." Mā te rapu tautoko me te ārahi mai i tētahi tohunga whakaora whanonga hinengaro ka āwhina i a koe ki te tautuhi i ngā whanonga tukino, ki te whakakore i ngā whakapono kino mōu ake, ki te hanga anō i te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō, me te whakaū i ō rohe.

4. Kaua e ngaro te tirohanga whānui ina "tātarihia" tō hoa mā te "aroha pouri"

Ina ako tātou ki te rapu haki whero, he ngāwari te whakanui rawa. Tērā pea ka hē tā tātou tātaritanga i a tātou anō mēnā he nui rawa tā tātou whakahē i a tātou anō, kāore rānei e pai ake te āhua o ā tātou whanonga. Tērā pea ka hē tā tātou tātaritanga i ō tātou hoa mahi kia whakaaro ai tātou he nui ake tātou i a rātou, kia karo rānei i te kawenga whaiaro. Koia te mea nui kia kaua e ngaro te tirohanga whānui.

Kaua e wareware he kupu hou te aroha pouri, ā, he maha ngā mea kāore anō kia mōhiotia e tātou. Ko te mārama ki ngā āhuatanga me te kite i ngā tohu te taahiraa tuatahi ki te kite i ngā whanonga kino. Engari he tino uaua ngā mate hinengaro, ā, he maha tonu ngā āhuatanga. Koia te take he mea nui te wawaotanga a te rata hauora hinengaro kia tika ai te tautuhi.

Ki te whakaaro koe kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi tangata pouri, ki tētahi tangata rānei he āhua pouri ōna, kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro ngaio hei whakatau i tāu huarahi mahi i runga i tō āhuatanga ahurei. Ki te hiahia koe i taua āwhina, mā Bonobology's rōpū o nga tohunga kei konei nei hei awhina ia koe.

Ehara i te mea ngāwari te kite, te tautuhi rānei i tētahi tangata pouri, nā te mea he uaua te tikanga o te tangata pouri. Ka pōhēhē koe i ngā tangata pouri nā tō rātou ataahua me te whakaatu i te māramatanga. Engari kaua e wareware, ki te whakamahi koe i ngā rauemi e wātea ana ki a koe, tae atu ki tō hiahia me tō puku, ka taea e koe te tautuhi i tētahi tangata pouri engari ka noho hei kaiwhakahaere matua o te kaiwhakahaere matua!

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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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