Zaka zingapo zapitazo, munthu wina amene ankakhala naye m’chipinda chimodzi yemwe anali wokonda zinthu zauzimu, anabwera kuchokera pachibwenzi ndi chibwenzi chake. Anati, onse ali ndi mantha, "Ndikuganiza kuti ndili ndi moyo. Ndiyenera kudziwa momwe ndingathetsere ubale wanga ndi iye!" Ubwenzi ukhoza kukhala woipa kuposa ubale wapoizoni, 'chomangira' chomwe chingasokoneze mbali iliyonse ya moyo wanu. Mukudziwa kuti sizikuvulazani, koma kuthetsa ubale wapamtima kuli ngati kuvutika kuti mutuluke mumchenga.
Mwina simungamukonde munthuyo, koma kutengeka kwanu ndi iye kudzakhudza chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungapange. Ngakhale kuwonongeka kudzawoneka kwa aliyense, omwe adutsamo adzakhala osazindikira za kutengeka koopsa komwe akukhala - chimodzimodzi ndi ubale wa mnzanga. Sindinkadziwa mayankho a mafunso ake kalelo, koma kwa zaka zambiri, ndaona zinthu zovuta kwambiri monga kuswa kugwirizana ndi zibwenzi zakale kapena chisudzulo. Tangoganizani kuyesa kuswa chiyanjano ndi munthu yemwe muli ndi mwana - Chifukwa ine ndawonanso, ndipo poyamba zinali zosokoneza.
Tiyeni tiwone 'zowopsa' izi ndi momwe tingazithetsere mothandizidwa ndi psychotherapist. Sampreeti Das (Master in Clinical Psychology and Ph.D. Researcher), yemwe amagwira ntchito pa Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy komanso psychotherapy yathunthu komanso yosintha.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Moyo umanenedwa kukhala kugwirizana kwa miyoyo, kumene anthu aŵiri amakhala ndi unansi wozama wamaganizo ndi wauzimu, kaŵirikaŵiri pambuyo pochita nawo unansi wakuthupi. Komabe, kungoyitcha kuti a kulumikizana kwakukulu kwa mzimu pakati pa anthu awiri ndizochepa kwambiri chifukwa mgwirizano wa moyo umatha kuwononga mbali zonse za moyo wanu. Umu ndi momwe zimamvekera:
- Kulumikizana kwa mzimu kumakupangitsani kumva kuti muli ndi kulumikizana movutikira ndi munthu, mwakuthupi komanso muuzimu
- Iwo akakhala kuti palibe, kumadziona ngati wosakwanira kumakukwiyitsani ngati kuti mwalumikizana nawo kudzera mu mphamvu zosamvetsetseka.
- Poyesera kuti mumve bwino, muyenera kukhala ndi munthu uyu nthawi zonse, popeza umunthu wanu tsopano ulibe
- Awiri anu mukakhala kutali, mumawalakalaka nthawi zonse. Mwinanso mungadzimve kukhala wopanda pake, ngati kuti mbali ina yooneka yasoweka
- Gawo lina la inu limakhala nawo ndipo gawo lina limakhala lolumikizidwa ndi inu nthawi zonse, ngati kuti mutha 'kumva' ndi inu.
Popanda munthu uyu, simuli kanthu. Popeza chitha kufotokozedwa ngati chizolowezi chomwe chimayamba kulamulira pang'onopang'ono mbali iliyonse ya moyo wanu, kumvetsetsa momwe mungathetsere ubale ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi kumakhala kofunika kwambiri. Sampreeti ikufotokoza chifukwa chake maunansi otengeka maganizo oterowo amayamba, “N’kovuta kudziŵa chifukwa chimene chimachititsa kuti munthu akhale paubwenzi wopanda thanzi ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake pokhapokha ataunika bwinobwino.
Tsopano popeza mwazindikira tanthauzo la moyo, kudziwa momwe mungawonere ndikofunikira kwambiri popeza anthu omwe ali ndi chidwi chotere amanyalanyaza zizindikiro zomwe zikuwayang'ana. Tiyeni tiwone mitundu ndi zizindikiro za ubale wa moyo. Ndipo tiyeni tifufuze mmene kuthyola nsonga ya moyo kumakhudzira munthu kotero kuti mukhale otsimikiza kuti chimene mukuchitcha chikondi ndicho basi, kapena ngati pali chifukwa chodera nkhaŵa pamenepo.
Mitundu Ya Mizimu Yogwirizana
Moyo ndi mgwirizano umene umagwirizanitsa anthu awiri m'maganizo, mwakuthupi, komanso mwauzimu. Kulumikizana uku - wathanzi kapena wopanda thanzi - kumakonda kukhala moyo wonse. Ndizovuta kwambiri kuti onse okhudzidwa asiyane. Zochita za wina zimakhudza mnzake. Tsopano popeza tadziwa kuti kugwirizana kwa moyo ndi chiyani, tiyeni tiwone mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya ubale womwe ungakhale nawo m'moyo.
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- Zogwirizana ndi moyo: Ubwenzi wapamtima umapangidwira kukulimbikitsani, kukutsogolerani, ndikukutetezani pazovuta komanso zovuta. Amapangidwa kuti akuthandizeni kukula. Aliyense amene mumamanga naye m'maganizo adzakhala pafupi ndi inu nthawi iliyonse. Ziribe kanthu zomwe zingachitike, mudzatha kudalira iwo kuti akuthandizeni. Adzakhala mphamvu yanu m'nthawi zoyesa
- Zogwirizana zamoyo: Moyo wakuthupi nthawi zambiri umachitika pambuyo pogonana. Ndi mgwirizano womwe mumakulitsa mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Taye iyi ndi yovuta kuthyola. Nthawi zonse pamakhala mwayi wobwereranso kapena kubwezeredwa, ngakhale kulumikizidwa kopanda thanzi kapena moyo maubale oopsa
- Mgwirizano wauzimu: Chimake cha mzimu wauzimu ndi pamene mulumikizana ndi munthu pamlingo waluntha. Mumasinthanitsa maluso, nzeru, ndi chidziwitso. Mumagawana zilakolako zomwezo ndipo mumaganizira zabwino za wina ndi mnzake. Mumamva kukhutitsidwa ndi kukhutitsidwa pamlingo wozama, wauzimu
- Zogwirizana ndi moyo wa anthu: Mumakulitsa chiyanjano ndi anzanu komanso magulu ena ochezera. Ngakhale mutakhala nokha, tonse ndife ocheza nawo pamlingo wina. Tonsefe timafuna anthu omwe tingagwirizane nawo. Tonsefe timafuna munthu amene tingamusamalire komanso amene angatisamalire. Ndi pamene maubwenzi awa amabwera
Izi ndi pafupifupi mitundu inayi ya ubale womwe munthu amakhala nawo pamoyo wake. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti chilichonse mwa izi chikhoza kukhala chathanzi komanso chopanda thanzi kutengera mtundu wa munthu yemwe mumalumikizana naye. Ngati moyo umakupangitsani kukhala okondwa komanso okondedwa, ndi bwino. Ngati zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale oipitsitsa pa inu nokha, ndi chimodzi mwa zomangira zoipa za mzimu.
Ngati ndi yotsirizira, maulalo awa ndi ovuta kwambiri ndipo ndi ovuta kuwachotsa. Zikafika pakuphwanya ubale wauzimu, mudzafunika mphamvu iliyonse kuti mudutse mumsewu wokongola wakuda uwu. Koma choyamba ndikuzindikira zizindikiro za ubale wa moyo.
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Kodi zinthu monga 'kulumikizana kosadziwika bwino,' 'chizoloŵezi chamtundu wina,' kapena 'kulephera kukhala ndi moyo popanda china' zonse zimamveka ngati malongosoledwe osamveka kwa inu? Mwinamwake mukukhulupirirabe kuti kuthamangira kwakukulu ndi malingaliro enieni a 'chikondi' zomwe mukukumana nazo ndizo basi, ndipo palibe chinanso.
Pothetsa ubale woopsa, Sampreeti akuti, "Zidzafunika kuyesetsa kwambiri kusiya chibwenzi ngati okwatirana ali okondana. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu omangidwa ndi maulumikizano otere amabwereranso wina ndi mnzake. Mwachitsanzo, anthu omwe ali ndi ubale wakuthupi amamva kuti ali mu mfundo ya moyo wakuthupi pamene akuyesera kuthetsa ubale wa moyo ndi kugonana. Zikumveka zotopetsa, sichoncho?
Ndi mndandanda wazizindikiro za ubale wapamtima, muyenera kukhala okhoza kupanga chiganizo chabwinoko pazamphamvu zanu. Werengani kuti mudziwe ngati mameseji akuti “Ndakusowani kwambiri moti zimandiwawa” zomwe mumatumizirana zimasonyeza kuti pali vuto linalake.
1. Chinthu chokhacho chomwe mumaganizira ndi munthu uyu
Ayi, sitikutanthauza zolemba zokongola zomwe mumatumizirana wina ndi mnzake pomwe nonse mumati "sindingakuchotseni m'maganizo mwanga" koma pitilizani kuwachotsa m'malingaliro anu mphindi yomwe musinthira ku pulogalamu ina pafoni yanu. Pamene chimanga chosasweka cha moyo chikugundani, chimakusiyani inu osakhoza kuganiza za china chilichonse koma munthu uyu.
Ngakhale pa ntchito zomwe zimafuna chisamaliro chanu, mutha kupeza malingaliro anu akusokera. Mutha kumva ngati ali ndi inu. Inu mukhoza kukhala kutengeka ndi munthu yemwe simukumudziwa. Kuthyola moyo ndikofunikira pamene kulumikizana kwakukulu uku kumangirira malingaliro ndi malingaliro anu, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosatheka kuyang'ana china chilichonse.
2. Chisankho chilichonse chomwe mumapanga chimatengera moyo wanu
M'sewero la moyo wanu, yemwe mumamutcha kuti ndi mnzanu tsopano akutenga gawo lalikulu. Chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungapange tsopano chimakhudzidwa ndi iwo komanso zomwe angapange. Malingaliro awo ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa inu. Ndiwo munthu woyamba kubwera m'maganizo mwanu musanapange chisankho. Mumaganizira mmene zochita zanu kapena zisankho zanu zingawakhudzire.
Mumataya mphamvu zonse za kudziyimira pawokha komanso kukhazikika chifukwa cha kugwiriridwa kokulirapo kwa mgwirizano wovutawu, wamalingaliro. Kudzilamuliranso kumaoneka ngati kosatheka ndipo motero kumakhala kofunika kwambiri. Ngati mukumva ngati izi zikufanana ndi inu mwanjira ina iliyonse, ndi nthawi yoti mudzuke kuchokera ku zikomo.
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3. Maubwenzi ena aliwonse omwe muli nawo tsopano ndi opanda pake
Ngati simunamvepo kale ndondomekoyi, tikufotokozereni: Palibe china chilichonse, kupatula moyo wanu. Popeza musankha kuyika ndalama sekondi iliyonse yatsiku lanu ndi chomangira cha moyo wanu, maubwenzi omwe muli nawo kunja kwa iwo, ngakhale omwe muli nawo nokha, amavutika nthawi zonse. Kuyika moyo wanu mokhazikika mozungulira munthu m'modzi kungayambitse:
- Kusayenda bwino ndi abale ndi abwenzi
- Kudzipatula
- Kunyalanyaza kudzisamalira komanso kukula kwanu
- Kutaya kudzidziwika komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino
4. Mumamva 'mwamphumphu'
Mumamva wathunthu pamaso panu ngati mwapeza chosowa mu jigsaw ya kukwaniritsa. Koma simunaganizepo zokhala 'osakwanira' izi zisanachitike. Nthawi zonse mukapanda kukhala ndi moyo wanu, mumalakalaka mwachisoni kukhala nawo kuti mutha kukhalanso wathunthu.
Chifukwa cha zimenezi, kukhala kutali kungaoneke ngati kumayambitsa kupweteka m’thupi. Mutha kumva kuti gawo lina likusowa chifukwa mwalumikizana. Mukuwerenga kulondola, chikhumbo chosalamulirika chingayambitse kupweteka kwakuthupi ndipo mankhwala anu opha ululu wa tsiku ndi tsiku sangatonthoze.
5. Lingaliro lowataya limakupatsirani mantha
Kusuntha mukadali mchikondi Ndizovuta, ndipo kutaya moyo wanu sikungakhale lingaliro lomwe mukufuna kusangalatsa. Mungachite chilichonse kuti musataye mwayi. Izi ndizofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu ndipo mutha kuzisokoneza mosavuta ngati chikondi; simungachilole icho chigwere mu ngozi ya kugwa.
Kuphatikiza pa zizindikiro zowoneka bwino za ubale wapamtima, china chake chomwe muyenera kudziwa chokhudza kuwononga kumeneku ndi ichi: Mgwirizanowu ukhoza kuwonekera ngakhale mutadana ndi munthuyo chifukwa chakulakwirani mwanjira ina. Ngakhale pali chidani, simungachitire mwina koma kumva kuti muli nawo.
6. Mwayamba kunyalanyaza kukula kwanu
Zokhumba zanu ndi zokhumba zanu zimatenga mpando wakumbuyo pamaso pa mzimu uwu. Mutha kukhala ndi zolinga zomveka bwino komanso maloto anu asanalowe m'malo koma tsopano, zolingazi zikuwoneka ngati zazing'ono poyerekeza ndi momwe mumamvera pamunthuyu. Kukula kwanu, zokhumba zanu pantchito, kapena maloto amoyo wonse zimaphimbidwa ndi kutchuka kwa mgwirizanowu.
7. Palibe malire
Kukhazikitsa malire abwino kumakhala ntchito yosatheka. Mutha kupeza kuti nthawi zonse mumapereka zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu kuti mukwaniritse zofuna zanu kapena zofuna za moyo wanu. Kaya ndi nthawi yanu, mphamvu zamaganizidwe, kapena malo anu, kukhazikitsa malire kumakhala kovuta pamene mukuyesetsa kuti kulumikizana kukhale kolimba, ngakhale kukuwonongerani moyo wanu.
Kodi maubwenzi amoyo angakhale mbali imodzi? Ichi ndi mbali ina yosangalatsa ya mgwirizanowu, ukhoza kukhalapo muzochitika zamtundu umodzi. Equation yododometsa monga iyi imatha kuwononga chidaliro chanu komanso umunthu wanu osazindikira. Kuphwanya ubale wa moyo ndikofunikira kuti mubwezeretse kudziyimira pawokha komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Pamene kulumikizana kosasweka ngati uku kuwononga malingaliro anu ndi zosankha zanu, kungayambitse kunyalanyaza maubwenzi ena ndi kudalira kwakukulu.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kusamala zizindikiro kuti mwatengeka ndi winawake isanathe m'manja. Tsopano tiyeni tiwone momwe tingachotsere ubale wapamtima, kuopera kuti mungakhale m'modzi mwa omwe amatsatira Netflix amapanga zolemba.
Momwe Mungaswe Mtima Wa Moyo
Ngakhale zingamve ngati chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe chinakuchitikiranipo, zotsatira zoyipa za moyo wanu zimawonekera m'mbali zina za moyo wanu, monga ntchito yanu, maphunziro, ndi ubale wina uliwonse m'moyo wanu womwe mulibenso nthawi. Chotsatira chachikulu chomwe chingakhale nacho ndikuti chidzakuchotsani paubwenzi ndi inu nokha. Chifukwa chake, simuyenera kuphwanya ubale wamunthu wina, koma kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Mukangodziwa kuti muli ndi moyo, vomerezani kuti lingaliro lololera likhoza kukupwetekani. Ndipo ngati talephera kukutsimikizirani kuti muchitepo kanthu, mawu achipongwe ochokera kwa bwenzi lanu lapamtima (amene simunalankhule naye kwa zaka zambiri) angakuthandizeni kuzindikira zomwe muyenera kuchita. Ndipo mukapanga malingaliro anu, umu ndi momwe mungayendetsere kuswa moyo:
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1. Vomerezani kuti ubale wanu ndi woopsa, osati nthano
Ayi, si chikondi chenicheni. Ayi, si iwowo. Chikondi chiyenera kukhala choyera, osati chopambanitsa. Chikondi chimalola mpata kukula ndipo sichimalepheretsa munthu kukhala payekha. Tanthauzo la Soul ties, muzochitika izi, ndizovuta zomwe zingakubwezeretseni zaka ngati mutazilola. Chinthu choyamba kuti muchiritse, monga momwe zimakhalira muzoloŵera zamtundu uliwonse, ndikuvomereza kuti muli ndi moyo. Ndipo ndi mgwirizano womwe umakhala wowopsa komanso wowononga kwa onse omwe akukhudzidwa.
2. Osasiya malo okayikira
Mukangoganiza zothetsa zinthu, muyenera kukhala okonzeka ndi chisankho chanu. Chotsani malingaliro aliwonse a ubalewu mwamatsenga kukhala bizinesi yopindulitsa. Osasangalatsa aliyense 'Bwanji ngati' mafunso okhudza chikondi.
Mosiyana ndi makanema omwe mudakulira mukuwona, kuwopsa kwa ubale wa moyo sikungotha mumpweya mukadakhala nonse mu nthawi yobwereranso. Mwachidziwikire, mgwirizano wa mzimu uwu sudzasinthika kukhala equation yathanzi, ndipo lingaliro lanu lothetsa liyenera kukhala lokhazikika.
3. Njira yofunika kwambiri yophunzirira momwe mungathetsere ubale wapamtima: Osalumikizana
Monga momwe ubale sumagwira ntchito popanda kukhulupirirana, kulemekezana, ndi malo aumwini (ndicho chifukwa chake mukuthetsa zinthu), kupatukana sikungagwire ntchito pokhapokha mutagwiritsa ntchito lamulo losalumikizana. Kukumana mosalekeza ndi munthu amene mukuyesera kumuchotsa m'moyo wanu kuli ngati kuyesa kulimbana ndi khansa ya m'mapapo ndi ndudu, kunyadira kuchoka pamapaketi awiri patsiku kupita kumodzi.
"Kuthetsa kukhudzana konse mwadzidzidzi sikungakhale khalidwe lokhalitsa ngati njira zoterezi sizinagwiritsidwe ntchito bwino." Komabe, ngati ingagwiritsidwe ntchito, ikhoza kukupatsani mpumulo. Ikhoza kukuchotsani ku ziwerengero zazikulu zowononga mphamvu ndikukupatsani njira yokonzanso, "anatero Sampreeti.
N’zoona kuti simungamusiye nthawi yomweyo munthu ameneyu, koma kuyesa koyamba kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi maganizo anuwo. Mumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mphamvu yanu inali yapoizoni. Idzakupatsani nthawi yomwe mukufunikira kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungaswere ubale wapamtima nawo, ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita kenako.
4. Momwe mungachotsere ubale wapamtima: Khalani ndi zidziwitso nokha
Moyo wanu udathedwa ndi munthu m'modzi yemwe adakutengerani nthawi yayitali. Tsopano popeza muli ndi nthawi yonseyi m'manja mwanu, malingaliro anu amayenera kuyendayenda ndikuganizira kwambiri za moyo wanu wosasweka. "Kuti ndibwererenso kunthawi yachisangalalo iyi, kukonzanso zinthu monga abwenzi, abale, mabwenzi atsopano, ndi zinthu zomwe mumakonda monga zokonda komanso zokonda zitha kuthandiza," akutero Sampreeti.
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5. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri
Kodi pali kugwirizana pakati pa kugwirizana kwa moyo ndi matenda a maganizo? Ngati ndizomwe mukukumana nazo, kuyesa kudziwa momwe mungachotsere ubale wapamtima sikophweka. Makamaka ngati mukuchita nokha. “Thandizo lingakhale lothandiza pozindikira zovuta zambiri zomwe zingabwere chifukwa chothetsa chibwenzi.” Kudzera mu chithandizo, mudzapeza malingaliro atsopano, kupeza nkhani zomwe sizinathe kuthetsedwa, kuzindikira zomwe zikuyambitsa, ndi momwe mungawathetsere.
"Njirayi imalola kuti mukhale ndi chidziwitso chodziwika bwino pamakhalidwe anu, ndikupangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuwathetsa," akutero Sampreeti. Ngati mukulimbana ndi zomangira zauzimu zomwe simungathe kuzigwedeza nokha, Bonobology ili ndi zambiri. akatswiri odziwa za umoyo wamaganizo, kuphatikizapo Sampreeti, omwe ali okonzeka kukuthandizani.
Kusweka kwamtundu uliwonse kumakhala kovuta kuthana nako. Popanda thandizo lakunja, kudula zomwe zimawoneka ngati moyo wosasweka kumawoneka ngati ntchito yosatheka. Tsopano popeza muli ndi lingaliro labwino la momwe mungachotsere zomangira za moyo, tikukhulupirira kuti mutha kusiya kuganiza za munthu uyu ndikugwiritsa ntchito Lamlungu lanu kuganiza - monga tonsefe - za komwe mukufuna kuyitanitsa chakudya.
Kuphwanya Zomangira za Moyo - Zomwe Zimachitika Mutathyola Chigwirizano cha Moyo
Kuthetsa ubale wapamtima ndi matemberero obadwa nawo ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri kuchita chifukwa zimamveka ngati moyo wanu wonse umangidwa kwa munthu m'modziyu kwa moyo wanu wonse. Zimamveka ngati moyo wanu umadalira kapena umazungulira iwo. Koma ndikofunikira kuthyola chimango cha mzimu ngati chikuwopsezedwa kapena ngati chili ndi mzimu wopanda thanzi. Ndipo ngakhale kuli kofunikira kusiya ubale wapoizoni, munthu aliyense amachita mosiyana ndi kuswa maubwenzi. Nazi zomwe mungadutse:
- Mutha kumva kuti simungathe kuganiza bwino kapena kudzisamalira nokha
- Kwa anthu ambiri, zowawa ndi zowawa zomwe zimadza chifukwa chothyola moyo zimakhala zofanana ndi zowawa zakuthupi
- Mutha kupeza kuti mukulephera kugwira ntchito kapena kutha tsiku chifukwa mwazolowera kuwononga nthawi yanu yonse ndi moyo wanu.
- Mungafune kulankhula nawo kuti mungomva mawu awo
- Mungakhale ndi chikhumbo champhamvu chofuna kubwererananso
- Mwinamwake mukumva ngati dziko lanu lonse lagwera pansi
Koma ndikofunikira kuti mudzikumbutse, ndi kulandiranso zikumbutso kuchokera kwa okondedwa anu, kuti zomangira zanu zinali zopanda thanzi kwa inu ndipo ndikwabwino kuwasiya. kumbuyo.
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Zogwirizana Zosasweka
Ngakhale kuli kotheka komanso kofunika kuthetsa ubale wapoizoni, pali zina zomwe simungathe kuzithetsa. Iwo moyamikira amakhala nanu moyo wanu wonse. Mudzakhalabe olumikizana nawo nthawi zonse m'malingaliro ndi muuzimu. Maubwenzi oterowo amapereka chisangalalo chenicheni ngati ali onse awiri. Anthu awa ndi ma soulmates - kaya ndi malawi amapasa, karmic, kapena platonic soulmate. Nayi momwe kulumikizana kwanu kwa iwo kumawonekera:
- Iwo ali gawo la umunthu wanu. Mudzamva kulumikizana kosasweka ndi iwo
- Iwo adayimilira nanu pazovuta komanso zoonda ndikukuthandizani kuti mukule ndikusintha ngati munthu
- Amakupatsani cheke chenicheni mukachifuna, ndikukuthandizani kupita patsogolo m'moyo
- Amakuthandizani kuti mumvetse bwino ndikukubwezerani pamene mukuchoka panjira yoyenera
- Ngati sichikhala cha mbali imodzi, tie ya mzimu imatha kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu okondwa. Kumva nyonga ndi kusambira mu chisangalalo chowoneka ngati chosatha, izi ndi zomwe moyo wathanzi ungamve
Komabe, chikakhala chomangira chopanda thanzi, zimakhala zovuta kusiya chigwirizano cha mbali imodzi, kapenanso chogwirizana. Sizosatheka; zimangofunika khama komanso thandizo lina lochokera kwa akatswiri makamaka ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino.
Chifukwa chake mukamakulitsa mgwirizano wa moyo, pendani ngati ndi a ubale wabwino kapena wapoizoni. Ngati ndi umodzi mwamaubwenzi abwino, pitirirani ndikuwona mokwanira. Koma ngati ndi nsonga yopanda thanzi yomwe imakupangitsani kumva kutopa, muyenera kuyesetsa kuti muyichotse.
Ibibazo
Ngakhale zitha kuwoneka ngati zomangira moyo ndiye chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe chachitika kwa inu, kuwonongeka komwe kudachitika kudzadziwonetsera nokha m'moyo wanu posachedwa kapena mtsogolo. Kugwirizana kwa mzimu kumakusiyani kuti mukhale ndi chidwi ndi munthu, ndipo ubalewu udzakhudza chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungapange. Kukonda kwambiri kumangotsogolera ku a mgwirizano wolimba, zomwe zidzawononge awiri a inu. Chomangira mzimu, motero, chimakhala chinthu chomwe muyenera kupewa.
Inde. Kugwirizana kwa moyo kumakhudzanso amuna. Mwina osati mofanana ndi momwe amakhudzira mkazi, koma amatero. Amuna akhoza kukhala ochenjera ndi owerengera, kapena ofotokozera kwambiri komanso otengeka kuposa akazi, pamene akuyenda pa ubale ndi moyo wawo.
Ubale wapoizoni kapena woipa ndi womwe ungakupwetekeni m'maganizo, muuzimu, kapena mwakuthupi. Popeza ndi chiwonetsero champhamvu cha kutengeka komwe mumamva kwa munthu, moyo wapoizoni ukhoza kukhudza mbali zina za moyo wanu moyipa.
Inde. Maubwenzi a moyo amatha kukhala mbali imodzi - kaya ndi wina wofunikira, bwenzi, mlendo, ogonana nawo, kapena wachibale. Zimachitika pamene munthu akumva kulumikizidwa kwamalingaliro ndi m'maganizo kwa munthu koma samabwezeranso chimodzimodzi.
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
