Love and Friendship

Six reasons why men become jealous, even if they are not your husband

Why would a man, not your husband, still feel jealous about you? Reasons can range from love to envy
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Being married has nothing to do with jealousy

Jealousy is a tricky emotion. Tricky I say, because the reasons for jealousy for us men can range from being the pettiest to the most powerful. More often than not, men become envious towards women even if they are not married to them.

From a casual hug to a harmless smile, a friendly touch to an innocent exchange of pleasantries, to more serious issues like a brighter career and a coveted social status – any of these can turn men into green-eyed monsters. Part of this trait arises out of the fact that men are considered to be more competitive, territorial and protective by nature.

Here is our list of the six most common reasons why men become jealous.
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Love

Ironically, love is the most common cause of jealousy for men. Most men have a hard time accepting their potential partner’s interest in others and their interactions with them. The envy here springs out of two reasons: the fear of losing the woman they love to someone else, owner’s instinct.

Insecurity

Men often want their women to be for themselves and don’t want to share their partners with anyone, even family and friends. Such a man believes that his woman’s association with others may lead her to turn against him, so he keeps tabs on her contact with others, especially her interactions with other men. This way, he maintains the power to place conditions on where and when she socialises with others. Once he achieves such control, he no longer has to worry about her leaving him or being taken by other men.

Insecurity

Self-doubt

Anxiety and fear create self-doubt. If a man feels vulnerable within the relationship, he begins to act in an accusatory manner in order to insulate himself from any possibility of being hurt. When a man senses that he might become powerless in a relationship, he confronts his woman with myriad accusations. The jealousy that he exhibits can often be a projection of his own apprehension in trusting the relationship. Men who exhibit jealous behaviour charge women with baseless allegations of attracting other men and giving attention to other males. This behaviour generally stems from self-doubt.

Related reading: Why did he ask me about my previous relationships in our first meeting?

Low self-esteem

If a man cannot accept himself for who he is, it becomes difficult to understand why anybody else would. Hence, men with low self-esteem often cannot understand why their women would choose to be with them, because they don’t think of themselves as deserving of love.

Eventually, this creates a conspiracy in the mind of the jealous man, who starts to believe that his woman is plotting to leave him, because he does not think he deserves her. In such a scenario, no matter what the woman does, it is seen as an act of betrayal and reinforces the belief that she wants to leave him for someone else, who is better than him.

Validation from others

Self-esteem, when unchecked, allows jealousy to rise from the need for acceptance from others, because there is no acceptance from one’s own self. Craving constant reassurance from his partner that she accepts, loves and is there for him, this man thinks that if the constant reinforcement dries up, then his woman no longer loves him and thus must be thinking about leaving him. Over a period of time, this proves to be quite draining for a woman’s emotions and this is often the reason why constant jealousy drives his woman away.love nd friendship

Related reading: What to expect when you love a man with low self-esteem

Successful career

Last, but as the cliché goes, not the least, a successful career often ends up destroying a woman’s personal, as well as professional life. If a woman is successful at work, men often start believing that she must have slept her way up the corporate ladder. This suspicion isn’t just limited to the man in that woman’s life, but also her jealous male as well as female colleagues. A successful career often means working till late and travelling quite often with the boss, etc., which makes the jealous man believe that his woman is sleeping around with her boss, hence the 25% increment and a higher designation.
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2 Comments

  1. Creepy people everywhere!! Just pissed at the last one where I got to know that the only reason a woman is unsuccessful is because she has slept with a man… Please die if you think so!!

  2. Aah the last pointer is what that caught me in the neck! That is such prevalent cliched thought….women can never work hard on their own and achieve something big in their career is the existent thought of the century! Sad but true…

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