Izinkinga zobudlelwano ziyi-spectrum ebanzi ngokwesabekayo. Zingasukela ekungabonini ngaso linye ekuhlukaniseni imisebenzi yasekhaya kuye ezinqumweni ezigcwele ezishintsha impilo. Nakuba izinkinga zobudlelwane zingabangelwa ukuntula uthando, kungase futhi kuvimbele umuntu ngothando futhi kungamshiyi isikhala.
Akukho ukushoda kwezinkinga zobudlelwano ezingabulala ezothando. Kungakho, kuyiqiniso ukuthi uthando empeleni luwumsebenzi omningi kunalokho okucabangayo. Ukusindisa ubudlelwano futhi ulungise izindaba zobudlelwano bomuntu kuthatha isikhathi, ukuzibophezela namandla.
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Uma uthando luneresiphi eyimfihlo, isithako esikhulu kungaba ukungahluleli othandekayo, ukumemukela njengoba enjalo. Nakuba lokho kuzwakala kungokothando futhi kufiseleka kakhulu, akumelwe futhi sikhohlwe ukuthi enye yezingxenye eziwubuqili kakhulu zothando iwukubona amaphutha omunye umuntu.
Izinkinga zobudlelwano zihlala zibangelwa ukuntula ukuqonda. Wonke umuntu unezimo nemibono yakhe, futhi abantu abahlukile ngokuvamile babonakala bethakazelisa kakhulu kithi, njengoba isisho sakudala siphinde sisho - ukuphikisa kuyaheha.
Kodwa kuyimbangela enkulu yokukhathazeka uma uzithola ubeka engcupheni ubuntu bakho obuyisisekelo noma uzizwa ungakhululekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ngothandekayo/othandekayo.
Ochwepheshe bezobudlelwano bakholelwa ukuthi kukhona izinkomba ezicashile ebudlelwaneni obuningi obehlulekile ezinganakwa ezigabeni zokuqala ezikhombisa ukubhubha. Lawa mafulegi abomvu avame ukuphuthelwa kalula. Uma ungazixazululi izinkinga zakho zobudlelwano, zizoholela izimpikiswano zobudlelwano. Ngokuvamile lezi ziyizinkomba ezicashile zokuthi izinkinga ziyavela esikhathini esizayo.
Nazi izimo ezingu-5 ezibalulekile ezingaholela ezindabeni zobudlelwane. Lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi kushaywe indiva futhi kungase kungabonakali kalula.
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1. “Konke akulungile ngomhlaba ngoba kunothile onephutha”
U-Rishabh namaSwati babenothando olushisayo lwasehhovisi. Wayengumuntu ophakeme kunaye, kodwa njengasehhovisi wayefaka icala njalo empilweni yakhe yangasese.
U-Rishabh uthi, “Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwakuyinto encane njengokufika sekwephuzile noma into enkulu njengokuma ubusuku obubodwa nomunye umuntu, amaSwati ngandlela-thile kwakungafanele asolwe ngokombono waso.”
Uma intombazane yakho ifika sekwephuzile ngenxa yokuthi iphume sekwephuzile kakhulu kunalokho obekufanele ikwenze, usuku lapho konke okungahambi kahle emhlabeni kuyogcina kuyiphutha lakho ngeke kube kude. Basheshe baphenduka i ezothando zasehhovisi zihambe kabi.
2. “Akukho ukuxhumana okujulile okwenzekayo, ingxoxo nje”
USudip noHarleen babengomakhelwane futhi befunda esikoleni esisodwa. Lapho beqala ukuphola ekolishi waqaphela ukuthi wayekuthola kunzima ukukhuluma ngezindaba ezibalulekile noma ezazinzima ukuveza indlela azizwa ngayo.
USudip uthi, "Wayevele athule. Ngangilokhu ngibuza ukuthi yini inkinga. Ingabe akaphilile? Ingabe kukhona okwenzeka ekhaya noma ekolishi? Kodwa kwaba sengathi ngikhuluma nodonga."
Ebudlelwaneni kubalulekile ngempela ukuphumela obala nokwethembeka. Uma kungenjalo, iyindawo yobudlelwano. izindaba. Abanye besifazane bavele baziqhelelanise ngokomzwelo lapho becindezelekile, beshiya ophathina babo bezizwa bekhohlisiwe noma “ababambe ongezansi” ngenxa yokuguquguquka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi i-nuke ye-equation yothando, “ukwelashwa buthule".
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3. “Abantu ababebalulekile kimi babengamthandi neze”
USamir wahlangana noKirti emshadweni womngane wakhe. Bachofoza cishe ngaso leso sikhathi. Ngokushesha uthando lwabo lwaseDelhi-Gurgaon lwadlondlobala, kodwa ngemva nje kokwethulwa kuye iningi labangane bakhe nomndeni lathi akamfanele.
USamir uthi, “Angikazi namanje ukuthi yini “isenzo” esiqondile ngaye esasibonakala sisobala kulabo abangazi kahle kangaka.
Ezikhathini eziningi, ebuhlotsheni obusha bothando, ukuzwa ukugxekwa mayelana “nothandiweyo” wakho omusha akukhona lokho ubuchopho bakho obuxhunywe ukukujabulisa.
Ngoba wena ukungena othandweni ngokushesha okukhulu, ungase ungakwazi ukucabangela izinto ngokoqobo. Kodwa abanye abazi izindinganiso zakho eziyinhloko nobuntu bakho bangase babone izinto ngokucacile ngombono womuntu wangaphandle. Lalela ngokucophelela abangani bakho ngoba bangase baveze ama-redflags ongawageja.
4. “Ubesabambekile ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni bakhe bangaphambili”
U-Divika wayeyintombazane ethandwa kakhulu enyuvesi ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngakho-ke yebo wayenobudlelwane obuthathu obubalulekile ngaphambi kokuba yena noRehan baphole futhi bashade.
U-Rehan uthi, “Wayengitshele ukuthi kungani ubuhlobo bakhe bangaphambili bungazange busebenze ngokuzethemba kakhulu futhi ngangilungile ngokuba umngane wabo bonke ababengabafana bakhe.
Uma owesifazane engakwazi ukuhlola ukuthi kungani noma bonke ubudlelwano bakhe obudlule bungaphumelelanga, noma ehlala esola amadoda angaphambili ngazo zonke izinkinga, kungaba inkomba enkulu yokuthi ukubhujiswa okufanayo kungase kulinde olwakho uthando. Leso yisimo nje esilindele ukukudalela izinkinga ezinkulu zobudlelwano.
5. “Wayehlala esebenzelana nezimali eziwubukhazikhazi”
U-Alexa noMartin bobabili bavela ngemuva kwebhange ngakho-ke kwakungenye into evamile kubo ukukhuluma ngezimali; namanje bahlukana ngoba u Alexa uzibophezele ukungathembeki ngokwezimali. UMartin wayengumeluleki wezezimali enkampanini enkulu, wayengena kwi-property consultancy.
UMartin uthi, “Ngaphandle kolwazi lwami watshala izimali ezinkulu ngama-akhawunti ethu esihlanganyelwe wazifaka emabhizinisini “omngane wakhe.” Ngokuvamile le mali yayingahlangatshezwana nayo noma wayemane enganakile ngembuyiselo.”
Ekupheleni kosuku, bonke ubudlelwano bumayelana nokwethembana nokwethembeka, futhi lokho kubandakanya ukwethembeka kwezezimali, futhi. Uma uzakwethu egcina izinto ezinkulu zezezimali ngaphansi kwekhava, yisikhathi sokulondoloza inzuzo yakho, ngokoqobo.
Bonke ubudlelwano bezothando phakathi kwabantu ababili buhlukile futhi yingakho izimpawu ezimemezayo ezithi “akuhambi” nazo zizohluka. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi uwela phezu kwezithende, gcina amehlo akho evulekile futhi phakathi kwenhliziyo ulalele ubuchopho, ngaphambi kokuba kuphuze kakhulu!
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Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
Lawa amafulegi abomvu okufanele sazi ukuthi owesilisa noma owesifazane. Ngoba ubudlelwano akukhona nje ukuzipholela ezindaweni, nokuthatha izithombe ozishuthe zona. Kuningi kakhulu. Impela kudinga ukuqwashisa ngezinto ezinjalo ukuze uzinqumele ukuthi wenza kahle yini empilweni yakho yemizwa, noma udinga ukususa ubuthi obuthile empilweni yakho.
Impela ubudlelwano be-manjari bujule kakhulu kunokusebenzelana kwangaphandle nje, ngiyajabula ukuthi ukuthandile lokhu
Ubudlelwano buyinkimbinkimbi, ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukuthi abanye ababizwa ngamadili akumele banganakwa, kodwa ezinye izinto ezingezinhle amafulegi abomvu agqagqene ngokuhlukumeza emoyeni kangangokuthi kufanele nje kuvunywe.
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