Yiziphi Izibonelo Zokuziphatha Kwe-Narcissistic Ebudlelwaneni?

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Ingabe uvame ukuzithola unengcindezi yokuthi uke walimaza isithandwa sakho? Ingabe ujwayele ukwenza ngaphezu kwamandla akho ukuze uhlangabezane nezidingo zabo, njengokuzithengela izingubo ezibizayo, ukuzikhipha ngezinsuku eziwubukhazikhazi, noma ukubhuka amaholide abizayo nabo, kodwa usenziwa uzizwe sengathi awenzi okwanele? Ingabe uvame ukuzibuza ukuthi izidingo zakho ziyasebenza yini futhi nokuthi uma umlingani wakho elindele okungenangqondo kuwe? Nokho, ngayinye yalezi iyisibonelo esivelele sokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni futhi sinomuzwa wokuthi ungase udinge isheke langempela. Umlingani wakho kungenzeka uphethwe yi-narcissistic personality disorder.

Kodwa yini ongayenza uma uyingxenye yobudlelwano bokuzidela nomuntu futhi ubhekene nokuhlukunyezwa kokuzidela? Kuyini ukuziphatha kokuzidela futhi kuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano bakho? Ingabe ukuzidela okubangelwa yizifo kuyinto engonakalisa ubudlelwano bakho nomlingani wakho? Ungakuhlola kanjani ukuziphatha okunjalo futhi udinga nini ukuthola usizo? Qhubeka ufunda, njengoba uchwepheshe wethu wezokwelapha uNandita Rambhia (MSc, Psychology), ogxile kwi-CBT, REBT, kanye nokwelulekwa kwemibhangqwana, esisiza ukuhlola ubudlelwano bokuzidela futhi ekhanyisa ezinye zezibonelo zokuziphatha kokuzidela ebudlelwaneni.

Iyini I-Narcissistic Behaviour?

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Igama elithi ukuzikhukhumeza livela kumlingiswa wasenganekwaneni wamaGreki uNarcissus, umzingeli owathandana nokuzindla kwakhe echibini ngemuva kokujeziswa. Igama ngokwalo mhlawumbe liyazichaza. Ukuzikhukhumeza noma ukuphazamiseka kobuntu obuzikhukhumeza kuyisimo lapho umuntu ebonisa khona ukuzikhukhumeza ngokweqile.

UNandita uyachaza, “Ngokuvamile, abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza ngabantu abazithanda ngendlela engavamile. Kodwa kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzikhukhumeza, futhi izici zobuntu kanye nokuziphatha kwazo kuyahlukahluka komunye nomunye.”

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Ngaphambi kokuthi sijule ezibonelweni zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni, ake sibheke izinhlobo ezi-2 ezinkulu ze-narcissism esivame ukuhlangana nazo:

1. I-Grandiose narcissism

Lesi simo mhlawumbe sibangelwa ukukhohliswa abazali noma ukuthathwa njengophakeme kunabanye othisha. Abantu abane-narcissism enkulu kakhulu:

I-Elitist
Ulaka
Ukuzethemba ngomqondo omkhulu
Engenalo uzwelo
Abathanda ukuziqhayisa
Uthanda ukubusa abantu ababazungezile

Ukuze uthole imininingwane eyengeziwe esekelwe uchwepheshe, sicela ubhalisele yethu Isiteshi se-YouTube.

Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi iningi labantu abanobugovu obukhulu bangase babe nezikhundla zobuholi ezinhlanganweni kodwa ekugcineni bangase baholele lezo zinhlangano ekuhlulekeni, ngenxa yokuzethemba kwabo ngokweqile kanye nomkhuba wabo wokwenza icala lingabonakali.

2. I-narcissism esengozini

Lolu uhlobo lwesibili olukhulu lokuzikhukhumeza, okungenzeka ukuthi luvela ekunganakwa noma ekuhlukunyezweni ebuntwaneni. Ukuba ngumuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza kubavikela ekuphathweni kabi. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lolu hlobo lokuzikhukhumeza luhlobene nokwesaba okungokwemvelo kokuhlekwa. UNandita uyanezela, “Lolu hlobo lomuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza lunobuntu bakhe kanye nobuntu bakhe. Abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza abasengozini babonakala bebonisa ukuzethemba okuphezulu nokuzethemba, kodwa lokho kuvela ekuzikhukhumezeni okuphansi kanye nesidingo esikhulu sokuvunyelwa.” Abantu abanjalo ikakhulukazi:

Ukuzwela kakhulu kunozakwabo abakhulu
Ijwayele ukushintsha phakathi kwe-inferiority and superiority complex
Ukuzivikela
Kuhoxisiwe
Bajwayele ukuzizwa bengalondekile futhi bacasuke lapho benganakwa ngokwanele

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Manje njengoba sesazi ukuthi kuyini ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic nokuthi kubonakala kanjani kubantu abane-narcissistic personality disorder, ake siqhubeke sifunde futhi sithole izimpawu zokuthi unomuntu ophuzayo.

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Sibonile ukuthi kungaba nezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzikhukhumeza. Kodwa yiziphi izici ezibanzi zokuzikhukhumeza ozothola kumuntu ozikhukhumeza? Umsebenzisi we-Reddit uthi, “Umuntu we-NPD uzoqhuma kalula ngentukuthelo nokuziphindiselela bese enza sengathi umangazwe ukuthi kungani ucasukile noma uthukuthele ngakho – ubukufanele ngisho noma bekungafanele.”

Kodwa-ke, uNandita uzizwa ethi, “Izimpawu zomuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza zihlanganisa isidingo esiphawulekayo sokunconywa nokunakwa, uthanda ukuba yisikhungo sokunakwa, uthanda ukunconywa nokuqashelwa. Kodwa abanalo ikhono lokuqonda abanye abantu. Ngokuvamile, ababona abantu ababi futhi bangaba usizo, kodwa abanalo uzwela futhi lokho kuxosha abantu.” Nazi ezinye izimpawu zokuthi ungumuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza:

1. Abanamakhono okulalela

Enye yezimpawu ze-narcissist ukuthi iyakuzonda ukulalela abanye. Bebengeke bachithe iminithi belalele umbono wakho. Eqinisweni, lapho bekulalela, bangase:

i-narcissist ebuhlotsheni — I-narcissist ayinandaba namuntu ngaphandle kwayo

Cashisa ukukhathazeka kwakho
Unganaki imizwa yakho
Ungawunaki umbono wakho
Bonisa ukuziphatha okuzidlayo, njengokudelela noma isimo sengqondo sokuzibukela phansi
Nciphisa noma unciphise imizwa yakho

2. Baphazamisa futhi badube izingxoxo

Uphawu oluyisixwayiso ezimweni ezinjalo ukuntuleka kwezingxoxo ezimbili. Ama-Narcissists azophazamisa izingxoxo ngokungaguquki futhi azidube, aguqule ukugxila kuwo. Kukhona okuningi 'Ngisemagameni omuntu onama-narcissist kunathi' Sikhona.

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3. Bagxeka uhlangothi olulodwa

Ngomuntu ozikhukhumezayo, ungaqiniseka ngokugxekwa okuqhubekayo ngokubukeka kwakho , ukukhetha kwakho umsebenzi, noma ezinye izindaba, kusukela ekugcineni kwabo, futhi iningi lakho kungase kungabi ukugxekwa okwakhayo. Ungaqiniseka ukuthi ngeke bajabule ngokuphelele ngabantu ababazungezile. Kuhlala kukhona okukhathazayo. Kodwa zama ukubagxeka, futhi ngeke bakusize. Bazokubuyisela ngamazwi ahlabayo futhi baqinisekise ukuthi bayakulimaza.

4.Abanandaba nemithetho

Esinye sezici ze-narcissist ukuthi bahlushwa yilokho okwaziwa ngokuthi i-Tall Man (noma i-Tall Woman) Syndrome. Lokhu kusho ukuthi, bazizwa bephakeme kunabanye abantu, kungaba ngokubukeka, isigaba senhlalo, impumelelo yobungcweti, noma imfundo.

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Lokhu kuphinda kubenze bazizwe bengadalelwenga imithetho noma izinkambiso zomphakathi. Ngakho, i-narcissist ingase ngamabomu:

Ufike sekwephuzile ngokwemfashini emsebenzini noma emibuthanweni yokuzijabulisa
Yephula imithetho yomgwaqo
Phula ulayini ezitolo zomnyango
Baxabane nesikhulu esibhekelele amakhasimende ngoba bafuna kuxazululwe izinkinga zabo kuqala

5. Beqa imingcele

Esinye sezici eziphawulekayo zomuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ukuthambekela kokweqa imingcele. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukubeka imingcele enempilo nabo. Njengoba abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza baziwa ngokuzikhukhumeza kwabo, bavame ukubheka abanye abantu ababazungezile njengabaphansi kunabo, ngaleyo ndlela bengayihloniphi imingcele yabo. Uvame ukubathola:

Ukukhathazeka okuncane mayelana nemizwa yabanye ababazungezile
Ukufika endaweni yomngane ngaphandle kokumazisa
Ukwenza izithembiso nokungazigcini
Ukuboleka izinto ngaphandle kokuzibuyisela

6. Banomuzwa wokuba nelungelo

Ama-Narcissists azizwa enelungelo lokuphathwa okukhethekile. Futhi lapho bengakutholi ukunakwa abacabanga ukuthi kufanele, bangase:

Qala ukuguqula isimo sabo sengqondo noma uphendukele ekuthukutheleni
Ikunikeza amavayibhu aphikisayo ngokuhoxa engxoxweni noma ngokungena engxabanweni
Ukukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo, ngokuhlasela ukungazethembi kwakho

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7. Bakhohlisa njalo

Ama-Narcissists nawo angochwepheshe bokukhohlisa. Bangase babonakale benobungane futhi benomusa, kodwa ekugcineni bazozama futhi bakusebenzisele:

Imali
Fame
Ukuxhumana nabantu bezinga eliphezulu

Konke kumayelana nabo, futhi amasu abo okulawula imizwa awapheli. Abanandaba nemizwa yabanye. Kancane kancane, bazozama ukulawula ubuhlobo noma ubungani, futhi bakhiphe noma yini abangayithola kuwe.

Kodwa uNandita ubuye wengeze ngokuthi, “Kubalulekile ukungababizi abantu ngama-narcissity.Ilowo nalowo kithi unecala elicashile lokugxeka, noma siyakwamukela noma cha.Eqinisweni kuhle ukuzithanda, ukuzethemba, nokuhlonishwa ngalokho okuzuzile.Kodwa inkinga iba lapho ukuzithanda kuchitheka futhi kuthinta abanye abaseduze kwethu.”
Kodwa i-narcissist ezimweni ezijwayelekile ihluke kanjani ku-narcissist ebuhlotsheni? Ake sithole esigabeni esilandelayo.

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Uma umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza esekulungele ubudlelwano, uvame ukuheha abalingani bakhe ngobuntu bakhe obuyimfihlakalo nobuthanda ubumnandi. Eminyakeni edlule, izifundo eziningi ezibuyekezwe ontanga ziye zafakazela ukuthi ukuzikhukhumeza kuholela empumelelweni yothando ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esifushane noma ezigabeni zokuqala zokuthandana, kuyilapho kuholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside noma obuseduze. Izifundo ezinjalo ziphinde zibonise ukuthi izenzo zokuqala zothando ebudlelwaneni obunjalo ziqhutshwa ukunconywa ngokweqile, kanti ulaka olungena kamuva lubangelwa isici sokuzikhukhumeza sokuncintisana okuqhutshwa ubugovu babo.

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U-Nandita uthi, "Umuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist othandweni angaziphatha ngendlela ehluke kakhulu kumlingani wakhe kunabanye abaseduze kwakhe, okungenani ekuqaleni. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi bafaka kanjani imaski yokuba kazibuthe ukuze bacuphe abalingani babo echibini lokukhohlisa nokukhohlisa." Ngakho-ke, yiziphi ezinye izibonelo zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic? Nokho, lokhu kuziphatha okulandelayo kuhlanganisa izibonelo eziyi-9 zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni:

1. Izimpawu ezinkulu zothando

Ukuthambekela kokuqala kwe-narcissistic kufaka phakathi ukuqhuma kwamabhomu kothando. U-Nandita uthi, “Uma umnaki efuna ukuheha umlingani wakhe, angathandeka ngendlela emangalisayo futhi abe nothando oludlulele kuye futhi abathele ngezimpawu ezinkulu zothando ekuqaleni, kulokho okwaziwa ngokuthi isigaba se-honeymoon.” Eqinisweni, bangase bangabonisi nhlobo ukuziphatha okuzidlayo nokuzidla.
Kodwa nakuba lokhu kungase kubonakale kuwukuziphatha okuvamile, lokhu akubangelwa ukuthi bathatheka ngabalingani babo. Akunjalo futhi ngoba befuna ukuthi umlingani wabo akhangwe ngabo. Kodwa bafuna ukubabopha ngesibopho sothando kakhulu kangangokuthi ngeke bakwazi ukuphunyuka kamuva.

Ngakho-ke, kulesi sigaba, ungabona i-narcissist:

Ukuchitha amaholide kanokusho nabalingani babo
Ukubakhiphela ezidlweni zakusihlwa zikanokusho
Ukubathengela izipho ezibizayo, njengobucwebe nezingubo

2. Isidingo sokuqinisekisa kwangaphandle

Izibonelo ze-narcissism ebudlelwaneni zifaka isidingo esizalwa naso sokuqinisekisa. U-Nandita uthi, “Nakuba isigaba sokuqala sobuhlobo bomuntu othanda inkonkoni sivame ukuchichima ukunaka nothando ngomlingani wabo, ngokushesha, umlingani uyabona ukuthi i-narcissist idinga ukunconywa njalo. Futhi inqobo nje uma izincomo ziyeza, ubuhlobo buhle kakhulu.

Bathanda ukudumisa, ukuqinisekiswa, nokunakwa. Lokhu kuqinisekiswa kondla i-ego yabo futhi bazizwa bephakeme kunabanye ababazungezile futhi benelungelo lokunakwa. UNandita uyanezela, “Ezimweni ezinjalo, ama-narcisists azizwa efanelwe hhayi nje lokho anakho kodwa nokunye okwengeziwe.”

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3. I-ego ebuthakathaka

Ubudlelwano be-narcissistic buvame ukuba yisisulu se-ego ye-narcissist. UNandita uthi, “Njengoba ubuhlobo buqhubeka, okucacayo ukuthi umgadli unomuzwa ongenampilo futhi ophakeme wokuzethemba. Ezimweni ezinjalo, i-ego yabo ingase ilimale uma:

• Khansela idethi nabo bese ukhetha ukuzikhipha nabangani esikhundleni salokho
• Bamba iqhaza ekubhuqeni okulula futhi ubagcone
• Gqoka ingubo oyisiphiwe ngumama wakho ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa esikhundleni saleyo akuphe yona

I-4. Umhawu

Izibonelo ze-narcissism ebudlelwaneni zihlanganisa nokuziphatha komhawu. Ama-Narcissists, ikakhulukazi amadoda angama-narcissistic, avame ukuba ngokweqile unomona ebudlelwaneni. Kuyinhlanganisela ye-narcissistic ego yabo kanye ne-ego yesilisa. Ngakho, ingxoxo nje nomngane wesilisa ephathini ingase ibenze babe luhlaza ngomona. Kuyafaneleka futhi ukubalula lapha ukuthi ama-narcissists abheka abalingani babo njengendlela yokuphumelela noma indlela yokuthuthukisa i-ego-boosting, futhi uma omunye umuntu ethola ukunaka kwabo, akupheli
isikhwele somjolo.

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5. Umdlalo wokusola

Ukuthambekela kweNarcissistic kufaka phakathi ukusola kanye nokuhlazisa. Ama-Narcissists awalokothi aziphendulele ngezenzo zawo. Uma izinto ziya eningizimu, bahlala bekulungele ukusola abalingani babo. Ngakho-ke, qiniseka ukuthi lapho kuphakama inkinga ebuhlotsheni bothando, i-narcissist cishe kungenzeka:

Stonewall abalingani babo noma ubanike i ukwelashwa buthule ukubajezisa
Bazwise ubuhlungu emoyeni
Ungalokothi uxolise ngezenzo zabo

6. Ukuchitha okuningi ngokwabo

Ubudlelwano obuthanda ukuzikhukhumeza bungase buhlupheke ngenxa yokuzitika ngokweqile komuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza. Yebo, ukubukeka kubalulekile kubantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza, kungaba isithombe sabo senhlalo ku-Instagram noma phambi kwabangane babo. Ngakho-ke, noma yimuphi umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza, kungaba yindoda noma intombazane, uvame ukuchitha imali ngokweqile kuye, ngisho noma kungabiza ukunganaki ukukhathazeka komlingani wakhe noma ukunganaki izidingo zakhe ezingokomzwelo . Ngakho-ke, ungathola umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza:

Ukuchitha isikhathi eholidini ukuze nje ubeke okuphakelayo okukhangayo ku-Instagram
Chitha emikhiqizweni yokuzilungisa
Gxila ngokweqile kukufaneleka

7. Izindaba

Ubudlelwano be-narcissistic bungase futhi buthwale ubunzima bezindlela zokudlala ngothando zomuntu. Yebo, ama-narcissists angaba nomona owedlulele uma ophathina babo bethi badlale ngothando, kodwa bavame ukulambela ukunakwa nokunconywa, bangase bagcine bedlala nabo bonke ababathandayo, ukuze bazizwe bekhethekile futhi bebalulekile. Ngakho-ke, i-narcissist ingase ibe nezindaba kalula futhi ingase ingatholakali ngokomzwelo kumlingani wayo.

8. Isidingo sokulawula

Izibonelo zobugovu zihlanganisa nokuziphatha kokulawula komuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza. Eqinisweni, isidingo somuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza sokulawula ebudlelwaneni bothando singabonakala ngezici ezahlukahlukene. Ngakho-ke, uma bengatholi ukunakwa okwanele, bangase:

Indawo yokuvakasha kuma-histrionics, njengokumemeza noma ukukhala
Ikukhanyisa, okungukuthi, ikwenza uzizwe udidekile, uzizwe ungavikelekile, noma ungabaze ukuhlakanipha kwakho ngokunganaki imizwa yakho.
Zihlukanise nabangane bakho noma amalungu omndeni wakho, ngaleyo ndlela kukwenze ube sengozini yokukhohliswa ngokomzwelo
Kwenze uzizwe unecala ngokubhekana nezidingo zakho

9. Ukushiya abalingani babo bengakabashiyi

Izibonelo zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni zifaka phakathi intando ye-narcissist yokuqeda ubudlelwano obunjalo kungazelelwe. Ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic, ama-narcissists anabasingathi babo inqobo nje uma ebadinga ukuze bondle i-ego yabo noma bahlangabezane nesidingo esithile. Futhi i-narcissist ayivumeli kalula umlingani wabo ukuba ayeke phezu kwabo noma abashiye ukuze abe nobudlelwane obunempilo, ngaphandle uma bona ngokwabo benquma ukuyeka. Ngakho-ke, i-narcissist ingase, lapho ibona ukuthi ingashiywa, iphenduke
ukuze:

Uthando ngamabhomu futhi ukuze babuye
Yenza ukuhlukana kubize ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali, ngokubapha izipho ezibizayo noma ngokudonsa izinkumbulo zabo zesikhathi esidlule
Faka umbukiso womgunyathi wothando ezinkundleni zokuxhumana

Okufanele Ukwenze Futhi Nini Ukufuna Usizo?

Manje njengoba sesikunike isithombe esicacile sezibonelo ezithile ezivelele zokuzikhukhumeza, uyazibuza ukuthi yini ongayenza ngakho? Ngakho-ke, umlingani womuntu ozikhukhumezayo udinga nini ukufuna usizo? UNandita uthi, “ Ukuthandana nomuntu ozikhukhumezayo kungaba yinto ekhathazayo ngokomzwelo kunoma ubani. Umlingani angagcina ehlukunyezwa futhi exhashazwa. Umuntu angazizwa enesizungu futhi elawulwa ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ozikhukhumezayo. Okuthakazelisayo ukuthi angase abhekane nokuhlukunyezwa okuzikhukhumezayo, kodwa ukuhlukunyezwa kungase kungabi ngokuqondile noma kungabonakali. Kungase kungaholeli ngisho nasekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzimba.” Nakhu ongakwenza uma uvame ukuzibuza ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesoka noma intombi eyazikhukhumezayo:

1. Bona amaphethini obudlelwano be-narcissistic

U-Nandita uphakamisa ukuthi, “Zama futhi uthole ukuthi umlingani wakho usebenza kuliphi izinga le-narcissism. Khumbula, i-narcissist ngeke ivume ukuthi ingumlandi.” Thola ukuthi ngabe kuvele kukuningi kakhulu yini. Noma ingabe isezingeni elingasingathwa futhi liphulukiswe?

2. Khulumisanani

Kubalulekile ukuthola ukuthi ukuzithanda ngokweqile kuvelaphi. Ukukhulumisana okuvulekile kubalulekile ezimweni ezinjalo. Zama ukuhlaziya izimpilo zabo kancane bese uthola ukuthi ukuzizithanda ngokweqile empeleni kungenxa yobuthakathaka obujulile bemizwa noma ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni. Kuxazulule ngokufanele.

3. Nquma ukuthi uyafuna yini ukuhlala

U-Nandita uthi, “Uma usutholile ukuthi yini edala ukuthi babe ne-narcissism, kubalulekile ukunquma ukuthi uyafisa yini ukuhlala noma uqhubeke. Uma kungenjalo, qhubekela phambili futhi kude nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.

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4. Zakhele ukuzethemba kwakho

Uma ngempela unquma ukuthi udinga indlela yokuphuma, phuma futhi wakhe ukuzethemba kwakho. UNandita uphakamisa ukuthi, “Zama ukulwa namaqhinga okukhafula nokulawula ngokuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho . Futhi yiba nozwela. Kubalulekile ukunakekela imizwa yakho, njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi awuzange uthole uzwela kumlingani wakho ozithanda ngokweqile.” Ungakwenza lokhu ngokuthi:

Ukudala inethiwekhi yabangani ongathembela kuyo ukuze uthole ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo
Ukugxila ezinhlosweni zakho zempilo, njengomsebenzi wakho, izintshisekelo zakho, kanye nothando lwakho
Ukudala imingcele enempilo, ukuze kungabikho umlingani ongangena kuyo kalula
Ukunakekela kokubili impilo yakho engokomzimba nengokwengqondo
Ukugxila ukuzinakekela
Ukusebenza ngokuziphatha kwakho nokwakha ukuzethemba kwakho ukuze kukusize uthi "Cha."
Ukungavumeli ukungabaza kufiphaze ingqondo yakho

5. Funa usizo lochwepheshe

UNandita uphakamisa ukuthi, “Ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside nomlingani othanda ukuzikhukhumeza, lapho kungase kungabi lula khona ukuyeka umlingani wakho, funa isiqondiso nosizo.” Eqinisweni, kubalulekile ukuqeda ukuxhashazwa okunjalo futhi uvikele impilo yakho yengqondo esikhundleni salokho, njengoba ukuzikhukhumeza ngokwakho kungenye yezimo zempilo yengqondo ezinobuthi kakhulu. Futhi iyiphi indlela engcono yokuthola usizo kunokubonana nomeluleki ochwepheshe noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo? Eqinisweni, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha onelayisensi noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu ongayenza ezimweni ezinjalo. Iphaneli labeluleki abangochwepheshe beBonobology lilapha ukuzokusiza.

Izikhombi Ezibalulekile

Kunezinhlobo ezi-2 ezinkulu ze-narcissism: i-grandiose kanye ne-narcissism esengozini. Futhi ngayinye inezici ezihlukile
Ezinye zezimpawu zokuthi unomuntu okhuluma ngama-narcissist ukuntula kwabo amakhono okulalela, ukuthambekela kwabo ekulawuleni izingxoxo, ilungelo labo, ukugxeka kwabo okuyingxenye eyodwa, kanye nokungabi nandaba nemithetho.
Yiziphi ezinye zezibonelo zokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic? I-narcissist ebuhlotsheni iziphatha ngendlela ehlukile nomlingani wayo ekuqaleni. Baqala ngothando oludlulele nothando
Lapho sebephethe umlingani wabo olawulayo, baveza izici eziningi, njengesidingo sokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle, i-ego yabo ebuthakathaka, isidingo sokulawula, ukuthambekela kokukopela, kanye nomkhuba wokuzikhukhumeza.
Ozakwethu bangakwazi ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga ngokuqaphela amaphethini obudlelwano bokunganaki, ukuthola umsuka, ukunquma ukuthi bahlale noma bahambe, bazisebenzele ngokwabo, ngokufuna ukusekelwa kwangaphandle okuvela kunethiwekhi eseduze yabangane, nokubonisana nomeluleki noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ukuze bavikele impilo yabo yengqondo.

Yebo, i-narcissism ingenye yezinkinga zobuntu ezinobuthi kakhulu. Kodwa sithemba ukuthi awukakazibuza, "Iyini imikhuba ye-narcissistic?" Sithemba futhi ukuthi manje usuyazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesoka noma intombi yama-narcissist. Yebo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela izidingo zomlingani wakho. Kodwa khumbula, lapho usothandweni, kufanele kuzizwe kumnandi. Ungavumeli i-narcissist ikuhlukumeze uze uhlanye. Uma usuhlonze isibonelo sokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic ebudlelwaneni noma uqaphela ukuthi usetshenziswa noma ushiswa umlingani wakho we-narcissistic, sekuyisikhathi sokubukisisa kahle ubudlelwano bese unquma ukuthi ungcono yini ngaphandle kwabo. Zinike isikhathi sokuzinakekela futhi ucabange ngalokho obhekene nakho. Phela akekho umuntu ongalali ebusuku okushiya uzibuza ukuthi ulufanele yini uthando lweqiniso.

Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa

1. Umthakathi umphatha kanjani umlingani wakhe?

I-narcissist ekuqaleni ijwayele ukuthanda umlingani wabo ngezenzo ezinhle. Kodwa uma ubuhlobo buqhubeka, baqala ukukhanyisa igesi futhi baphathe abalingani babo. Baphinde bafune ukunakwa ngokweqile ngabalingani babo futhi bathathe isinyathelo uma bengakutholi.

2. Luyini ulimi lothando lomzwilili?

I-narcissist inamathele kumuntu inqobo nje uma ethola okuthile ebudlelwaneni, kungaba udumo, imali, noma isikhundla emphakathini. Ngalowo mqondo, ulimi lothando lwe-narcissistic luqukethe izisusa zobugovu ezidinga ukufezwa nganoma iyiphi indlela. I-narcissist, nokho, isabela ngokuqinile uma abalingani babo bekude nobugovu.

8 Izinkinga Ezivamile “Zomshado We-Narcissistic” Kanye Nendlela Yokuzisingathwa ngayo

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