Ngezinye izikhathi, singena endleleni yokwakha ezethu ngenjabulo njalo ngemva kwalokho. Lokhu kuthambekela yilokho izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezikuchaza njengokuzicekela phansi ebudlelwaneni. Lokhu kungachazwa njengekhono lokwenza ubudlelwano bakho buhlakazeke, ngokungazi noma ngokuqaphela. Kubantu abaningi, ukuziphatha kokuzilimaza kungokwemvelo kangangokuthi bayehluleka ukubona amaphethini ayinkinga.
Asikho isilinganiso sokulungisa inkambo futhi bonakalisa ubuhlobo ngokungazi. Ukuze uyeke ubudlelwano obuzilimazayo, udinga ukufunda ukukhomba izimpawu nezizathu zalokhu kuziphatha. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho unganqamula khona umjikelezo, futhi uzinikeze isithombe sangempela sokwakha ubudlelwano bothando obunenjongo.
Sikhuluma nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uJayant Sundaresan (iMasters in Applied Psychology), ogxile ekunikezeni izeluleko ngezinkinga ezahlukene zobudlelwano ezifana nokuphazamiseka kokuxhumana, ukuphathwa kokulindela, ukungathembeki, ukuhlukana kanye nesehlukaniso, ukuze siqonde kabanzi ngokuthi kungani abantu bechitha ubudlelwano babo. Unikeza ukuqonda ngezizathu zokuziphatha, ukuthi umuntu kufanele enzeni uma eseqaphele amaphethini akhe, nokuthi lokhu kuqonda kukusiza kanjani ukuthi ukhule.
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Okuqukethwe
Ukuzilimaza ngokuvamile kubonakala njengokuthambekela kokucekela phansi ubudlelwano ngokungazi futhi izizathu zakho zingahluka kumuntu nomuntu. U-Jayant uthi, “Ukucekela phansi akudingekile ukuba kube ngokwedlulele njengokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, kungase kube lula njengokupholisa umoya. Ukugwema okuthile nokuhlehlisa kungase kube izinhlobo zokuzicekela phansi futhi. Uma usondela enjongweni, kulapho ufisa khona ukuwubalekela. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi isigaba esilandelayo sempilo siphezu kwakho futhi awukwazi ukubhekana nalokho. Lesi sigaba esilandelayo sokugwema ukukhathazeka noma ukugwema impilo yakho siqu kuholela ebudlelwaneni obuseduze nawe. ubudlelwano.”
Umeluleki u-Meghna Prabhu, udokotela wezifo zengqondo futhi oyilungu le-APA, uyachaza futhi ukuthi kungani sizicekela phansi ubudlelwano bothando, “Yize izinto ezibangela ukuzicekela phansi zingahluka, konke kuza entweni eyodwa - ukungavuli imizwa nokwakha ubudlelwano obuseduze.
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Ngokusho kukaMeghna, lokhu kwenzeka kakhulu ngoba sisaba ukuthi ubudlelwano ngeke buphumelele. Singenza izinto ezifana nokuthola izizathu zokuhlukana, ukuphikisana ngezinto ngokuvamile esingenandaba nazo, futhi sigxile ezimpilweni zethu ngabanye ngaphezu kobudlelwane.
Isizathu esikhulu sakho konke lokhu ukwesaba ukuthi ubudlelwano ngeke buqhubeke. Ngakho asifuni ukutshala imali noma ukuvula futhi singase sihlukane ngaphambi kokuba omunye umuntu asishiye. Kuyindlela yokulawula noma yokukholelwa ukuthi siphethe. UJayant uyanezela kulokhu, “Abantu abaningi abanjalo bacabanga ukuthi kufanele ngibe umlahlisi, hhayi umuntu olahlwayo. Abanye abantu baze bazame ukukhohlisa ozakwethu ukuze bathole umphumela noma ukusabela okuthile.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, umlingani onokuzethemba okuphansi uhlala esengozini enkulu yokulimaza ubuhlobo. Umuzwa wokuthi umuntu akafaneleki noma akafanele ukuthandwa uba yimbangela ezimweni ezinjalo. UJayant uthi, “Abantu abanokuzethemba okuphansi balwa nomuzwa wokungafaneleki ukuthandwa ngumuntu. Bacabanga ukuthi, “Umlingani wami uzobona ukuthi ngingumkhohlisi. Bazocabanga ukuthi angifaneleki, ukuthi angimkhulu kangako”.
Ukwesaba okuholela ebudlelwaneni bothando obuzilimazayo kungavela ebudlelwaneni obungaphumeleli bangaphambilini. Abanye abantu benza lezi zinto ngoba ukuba sengozini kuyethusa, ngakho bagcina bebhidliza ubudlelwano. Kodwa ukuba sengozini nokusondelana ngokomzwelo nabalingani bethu kubalulekile ekwenzeni ubudlelwano busebenze. Njengoba ubona, konke kubilisa ekwesabeni ukwephulwa kwenhliziyo yethu. Kuwumkhuba oyisisekelo womuntu ukugwema ubuhlungu.
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Izimpawu Zokuziphatha Okuzilimazayo
UJayant ukhuluma ngendlela abantu abacekela phansi ngayo ubudlelwano babo. “Ukhetha umuntu ongakufanelanga noma ongafanelani nawe ngoba ungafuni ukuzibophezela nokuzinza, enye indlela yokuzicekela phansi wukubuyela amagqubu ebudlelwaneni obuphindaphindayo, uba nohlu lwezinto ezisuke zingahambi kahle noma ezingahambi kahle, uze uveze nezinto ezingeke zilungiswe njengokuthi ubuwazi kusukela eqala umshado noma umndeni wakhe.
"Ukwesaba ukushintsha kusuka kwesinye isigaba sokuphila kuya kwesinye kwenza abantu bachithe ubudlelwano. Kukhona nokwesaba ukuguga, ukwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo - ikakhulukazi umthwalo wemfanelo ongokomzwelo noma wezezimali - kanye nokwesaba ukuthi umuntu uzoba umzali omuhle noma cha. Kungaba nezinkinga zokuthembana nomlingani wakho."
"Uma uke wakhohliswa phambilini, uzothatha ngokuthi lo mlingani uzokopela nawe. Ngakho-ke, uqhubeka uziphatha ngaleyo nkolelo ebudlelwaneni. Iba yisiprofetho esizigcwalisayo. Bese kuba khona abanye abantu abasaba ukulahlekelwa ubuthina babo. Abanye abafuni ukuziphendulela kunoma ubani, bafuna ukuphila impilo yabo futhi bangahlangabezane nezidingo zanoma ubani."
Lokhu kuziphatha kuvame kakhulu, futhi abantu abaningi bayaqhubeka nokuzilimaza ubudlelwano bothando ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi inkinga ingaphakathi. Uma uke waba nochungechunge lobudlelwano obuhlulekile esikhathini esidlule, kuyasiza ukubuza ukuthi kungenxa yalokhu kuthambekela okucashile. Nazi izimpawu zokuziphatha kokuzilimaza okufanele uziqaphele:
- Ukugwema imizwa engemihle: Ukungabhekani nentukuthelo, ukucasuka, ukungabaza, noma ukukhungatheka ngomlingani wakho noma ubudlelwano kuyifulegi elikhulu elibomvu
- I-Paranoia: Ukungabaza ukuthi umlingani wakho wenza okuthile okungalungile ngaphandle kwesisekelo noma ubufakazi. Ngokwesibonelo, umuntu onokuthambekela kokuzicekela phansi angase aqiniseke ukuthi umlingani wakhe uyamkhohlisa ngisho noma kungekho bufakazi noma amafulege abomvu asikisela lokho.
- Okubalulekile kozakwethu: Uma ugxile ekushiyekeni nasekungaphelelini komlingani wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi uvumela lo mbono udlule zonke izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle namasudi aqinile, khona-ke ungase ucekele phansi ubuhlobo ngokungazi.
- Ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa: Ukuthembela emikhubeni engenampilo njengokuphuza ngokweqile, ukubhema, noma ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa njengendlela yokubhekana nokungazethembi kuwuphawu olucacile lokuziphatha kokuzilimaza.
- Ukwelashwa buthule: Ukusebenzisa udlame lokuthula ekulweni ikakhulukazi ngoba ukuxhumana okuqotho akuzi ngokwemvelo kuwe
- Ukubamba amagqubu: Uma ungakwazi ukudedela ukungezwani okudlule futhi uqhubeke nokubambela intukuthelo isithandwa sakho isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kwengxabano noma ingxoxo, kuyindlela eqinisekile yokuzibhidliza ubudlelwano.
- Ukugwema ukuzibophezela: Enye inkomba ebalulekile yokuthi ungase ucekele phansi ubudlelwano ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi ususa ukugxila ebudlelwaneni bakho bese uqala ukubeka phambili umsebenzi, ubungane, noma izinto zokuzilibazisa lapho izinto ziqala ukuba namandla.
- Ukuphula izithembiso: Ukuhlehla ngamabomu ezithembisweni zokutshala imali ebudlelwaneni noma izinhlelo zokuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye. Awugcini nje ngokumosha ubudlelwano kodwa wenza nomaqondana wakho akucasukele ngakho. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ubeka isisekelo sokuzibhidliza ubudlelwano
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Ungakugwema Kanjani Ukuzilimaza Ubudlelwano Bakho?
Sibuze uJayant ukuthi umuntu uyazi yini ngokuziphatha kwakhe kokuzilimaza nganoma iyiphi indlela. Uthi, “Cha, abazi. Wonke umuntu angayibona kahle indlela yakhe, kodwa umuntu akanaki. Ukubona indlela yakhe yokubhubhisa kufana nokubamba isibuko. Ubani ozosala enecala-ke? Bona ngokwabo. Ngakho-ke, ukungaqapheli. Ukwelapha ngenkulumo kusiza ekuletheni ukunaka endleleni yakho, kusiza ekwandiseni lokhu kuqwashisa okubalulekile.”
Ekhuluma ngendlela yokugwema ukuzicekela phansi ubudlelwano benu, uMeghna uthi, "Into esemqoka ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebangela lokho. Kufanele uthole isizathu sokwesaba futhi ubhekane nakho. Lokhu kungenziwa ngokuzihlola noma ngokufika emnyombeni ngokukhuluma nomelaphi ukuze uthole ukwelashwa komuntu ngamunye noma kwabashadile." Ukuthola umnyombo wenkinga iyona ndlela kuphela ongayeka ngayo ubudlelwano obuzilimazayo. Ngakho-ke, ake sizame ukucacisa ukuthi yini ongayenza ukuze ugweme ukuzicekela phansi ubudlelwano bakho.
1. Qonda indlela yokunamathisela ukuze uyeke ukuzilimaza ubudlelwano
Uma ubulokhu uzabalaza ukugcina ubudlelwano besikhathi eside, kuyasiza ukuthi uphendulele ukunaka kwakho kwisitayela sakho sokunamathiselwe. Ngokuvamile, indlela esinamathela ngayo kwabanye njengabantu abadala iwukubonakaliswa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwasebuntwaneni noma kokuthomba. Umuntu oke washiywa, ehlukumezekile, elahlekelwe, noma enobuthi eminyakeni yakhe yokuqala angase akhule athuthukise indlela yokunamathisela engavikelekile.
Lokhu kungaholela emizweni efana nomona nentukuthelo, futhi uma ungazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomona noma intukuthelo yakho, kungaholela ekuzibhubhiseni ubudlelwano bothando. Ngokufanayo, ukukhulela endaweni ebandayo futhi ehlukanisiwe kungenza umuntu adinge ukuqinisekiswa nokunakwa. Lena iphethini evamile yomlingani onokuzethemba okuphansi, umuntu oklanyelwe ukonakalisa ubudlelwano bakhe bothando ngokukhathaza omunye umuntu ngezidingo zakhe eziqhubekayo.
Ngenkathi ekhuluma ngokukhathazeka nobudlelwano obuzilimazayo, u-Jayant ubeka iphuzu ngomlando wezingane nokuthi esibhekana nakho njengengane kuthinta kanjani ukuqonda kwethu ubudlelwano. "Umlando womuntu siqu wokuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni ukhawulela umbono wethu wezwe. Asinakho ukuqonda ngezwe ngale kwalokho esikubona njengezingane. Wenza ubudlelwano obunobuthi bezingane zakho bube bujwayelekile futhi ulingise kamuva ezimweni zabantu abadala.
Uma umkhaya wakini uhlukumeza, noma uye wakunaka njengomntwana, uqaphela ukuthi lokho akuphilile uma usuthole ukuchayeka kahle emindenini yezinye izingane. Khona-ke uyaqonda ukuthi kunenye indlela yokuphila nothando. Ngakho, imibono eyisisekelo yobuhlobo bethu isuka ebuntwaneni bethu, isikhathi lapho sinezingqondo ezithatheka kalula.
Konke lokhu kungenza umuntu aqhubeke nokulimaza ubudlelwano ngenxa yokwesaba nokucindezeleka. Kodwa-ke, izitayela zokunamathela azihlali njalo. Ngosizo olufanele, ungazisebenzela futhi ususe amaphethini amabi ukuze ukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano bothando obuphumelelayo.
2. Zibophezele ekukhulumeni ngokwethembeka
Esinye sezithiyo ezinkulu kumuntu othambekele ekubhubhiseni ubudlelwano ngokungazi ukwesaba ukuxhumana. Ikakhulukazi, uma kukhulunywa ngezici ezingathandeki kangako zobudlelwano. Ngakho-ke, ukuze uqede umjikelezo wokuziphatha okuzibhubhisayo, udinga ukunqoba le nkinga yokuxhumana.
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokukwenza iwukuqala ingxoxo mayelana nokwesaba kwakho, okukukhathazayo, ukungabaza, nezinkathazo zakho. Ngokwenza kanjalo, yazisa umlingani wakho konke obekukukhathaza ngekusasa lobudlelwano futhi udale indawo lapho angenza khona okufanayo. Xoxa ngezinkinga zakho futhi uthole indlela engcono kakhulu yenu nobabili. Ningazivumeli izinkinga zinqwabelene isikhathi eside kangangokuthi ukungezwani phakathi kwenu nobabili kungalungiseki.
UJayant uyanezela, “Ukuze uyeke ukulimaza ubudlelwano ngenxa yokwesaba, olunye uhlobo lokuxhumana okuqotho okudingeka ube nalo lukuwe. Udinga a) ukwamukela ukuthi unendlela yokuzilimaza, futhi b) uqonde izindlela zakho. Hlala phansi ucabange ukuthi yiziphi izinto ezikwesabisa kakhulu. Zibuze ukuthi ungena ngamabomu yini ebudlelwaneni obunezimpawu ezibomvu okufanele zikubangele ukuthi ugijime.
"Sebenzisa ubuhlobo bakho nawe kuqala. Phinda futhi imigomo yakho kanye nezindinganiso zakho, futhi uzibuze imibuzo eyisisekelo mayelana nokuthi ungubani: Ngingubani? Iyini imigomo yami? Ngizibona kanjani mina? Bese ucabanga ngalokho okudingayo nalokho okufunayo. Lezi yizinto ezimbili ezihlukene. Geza ukuthi zihambisana yini."
3. Khomba imbangeli yakho yokuyeka ubudlelwano obuzilimazayo
Ukuze ukwazi ukumisa ubudlelwano obuzilimazayo, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi bubangelwa yini. Ngakho-ke, qala ngokunaka izibangeli zakho. Uma ngokungazelelwe uzwa isidingo sokunqamula intambo ngoba wesaba kakhulu ukuthi izinto zingase zingaphumeleli njengoba bekulindelekile, cabanga kancane ngokuthi yini ebangele lokho kwesaba.
Ubukusiphi isimo? Kukwenze wazizwa kanjani? Kungani ikwesabisa? Uma ukwesaba kwakho kwenzeka, kungakuthinta kanjani? Kungumqondo omuhle ukuqala ukugcina irekhodi lalezi zikhathi kanye nokuhlola kwakho ngazo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzoqala ukubona iphethini futhi lokho kuzokusiza ukuthi uxhumane nobuthakathaka bakho kangcono.
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4. Funda ukubekezela uma ungaqondi ubhidliza ubudlelwano
Noma nini lapho umuntu ebhidliza ubudlelwano, kuba nephethini ecacile ngemuva kwabo - ubudlelwano budlula endaweni embi futhi banquma ukuhoxa ngokomzwelo ukuze bazisindise ekulimaleni. Okubalulekile lapha wukukhumbula ukuthi abukho ubudlelwano obungenasici, abukho ubudlelwano obulula. Nakanjani kuzoba nokwehla nokwenyuka.
Ukuzimisela ukuhlala nokulwela ubunye benu yikho okwenza ubudlelwano buhlale isikhathi eside. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ufunde izindlela zokubekezela nokunamathela kumlingani wakho lapho izinto ziba nzima. Kuyasiza ukwakha uhlelo lokusekelana ukuze udlule kulezi zikhathi zobunzima ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi umhlaba wakho wonke uzowa.
5. Funa ukwelulekwa ukuze ugweme ukuzicekela phansi ubudlelwano bakho
Ukuqaphela nokwamukela ukuziphatha kwakho okungenampilo akulula neze. Ngisho noma ugxila enkingeni, ungase ungazi ukuthi ungayisingatha kanjani. Yingakho i-Bonobology inikeza ukwelulekwa komuntu ngamunye kanye nemibhangqwana njengoba kungaba izindlela ezinokwethenjelwa zokugwema ukulimaza ubudlelwano bakho. Ikunikeza wena nomlingani wakho indawo ephephile nesekelayo yokuxoxa ngezinkinga zakho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha angakukhombisa indlela yokuqeda umjikelezo wobudlelwano obulimazayo ngendlela enozwela nengahluleli.
U-Jayant uthi, “Ungangena endaweni yokwelapha ngokusho izinto ezinjengokuthi, “Ubudlelwano bami abathathu bokugcina abuzange buphumelele” noma “Umhlaba uyangilimaza.” Umuntu angase abuze udokotela: Ngikuyeka kanjani ukuzicekela phansi ubudlelwano bami obusha? Umelaphi ube esehlola zonke izimo zakhe zesikhathi esidlule futhi abone amatimu avamile ngenqubo kancane kancane. Uyakuqondisa ukuze uthathe la maphethini futhi akusize uhlole ngokucophelela.
"Ekuqaleni, njengoba uqaphela amaphethini akho, uzothola ukuzivikela. Kudinga isibindi ukuyeka imaski nokwethembeka kuwe . Sizikhohlisa kahle kakhulu, phela. Njengoba kuqhubeka, kuba nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa nokuzisola ngesikhathi esichithwe, nezinto ezikudlulile."
“Uzizwa uthukuthele.” Ungase ucabange, “Ngaphuthelwa lobo buhlobo obake baba khona ekuphileni kwami” noma “ngamosha ubungane bami” noma “Ngeke ngiphinde ngimthole umuntu onjengalona.” Njengoba labo bantu sebethuthile, lokhu kungase kubangele intukuthelo nosizi. Umelaphi angakusiza ukucubungula le mizwa. Inqobo nje uma uzibophezele ekuzisebenzeleni, ungakwazi ukuphindela emuva kulokhu kuziphatha okulimazayo futhi ulondoloze ubudlelwano bakho obusha.
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6. Ungajahi ukungena ebudlelwaneni
Uchungechunge lobudlelwano obungaphumeleli lungashiya noma ubani ezizwa edangele, edangele, futhi egugile. Kodwa ungajahi ubudlelwano ngokulangazelela kwakho ukuze buphumelele. Ngokwesibonelo, ungaqali ukuthandana nomuntu olandelayo oshisayo ohlangana naye endaweni yokucima ukoma ngosuku ngemva kokuphuma ebuhlotsheni, ukuze nje uzizwe ungcono ngawe.
Nokho obunye ubuhlobo obungalungile buzonezela ekwesabeni kwakho okungokwemvelo kokulinyazwa noma ukushiywa ngemuva. Lokhu, kuzokwandisa ukuthambekela kwakho ekuzibhidlizeni ubudlelwano bothando. Uma usuqaphela ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakho kuyingxenye yenkinga, zinike isikhathi sokubheka ukuthi ufuna umlingani onjani. Khona-ke, ngokubekezela ulinde umuntu ofanele ukuba ahambe.
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7. Yeka ukudlala isisulu
Uma kubhekwa ukuthi abantu ababonisa ukuziphatha kokuzilimaza basebenza endaweni yokwesaba futhi ngokuvamile baphenduka umlingani onokuzethemba okuphansi, kulula kakhulu ukuba bagibele ngokuzidabukela. Kufanele uyeke ukudlala ikhadi lesisulu ukuze uzikhulule kule phethini yobudlelwano bothando obuzilimaza wena.
Umbono wonke 'wokungithanda kabi' uzokhulisa ukungazethembi kwakho. Lokhu, kuzokhulisa imikhuba eyinkinga njengokuzihlukanisa ngokomzwelo, ukudlala umdlalo wobudlova ngokuqomisana, nokwenza uthando lugxume ukuze kuqinisekiswe umuzwa wakho wokulawula. Usuvele ubonile ukuthi lokho kuholela kuphi.
Ngakho-ke, gxila emandleni akho esikhundleni salokho. Sebenzela ekubeni inguqulo ozethembayo futhi ozithembayo ngawe. Umuntu ongadingi ukuzizwa elawula ubudlelwano ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uma wenza lezi zinguquko, uzobona ukuthi ungatshala imali ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni kalula kakhulu.
8. Okubaluleke kakhulu, funda ukuhlukanisa nokwedlule
Ukuthambekela kokulimaza ubudlelwano ngokungazi kuhlobene kakhulu nokuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki noma okubuhlungu kwesikhathi esidlule. Ukwesaba nokukhathazeka okuzwayo kungase kuvele esigamekweni noma ochungechungeni lwezenzakalo ezikuthinte kakhulu. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, noma okungenani indlela umuntu azizwa ngayo phakathi nalezo zenzakalo, bese kuba yizimbangela zokuziphatha okulimazayo. Kumelwe ufunde ukunqamula intambo futhi wenze ukuthula nesikhathi sakho esidlule.
Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa ucasulwa yisimo esithile, yima kancane futhi ucabange ukuthi ingabe isenzakalo esidlule esikwenza usabele ngendlela engafanele yini. Kungase kungasebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ukuqaphela lokhu kungenzeka kukusiza ukuthi uye emaphethini okuziphatha anempilo. Iphethini yobudlelwano obuzilimazayo ingaba yinto ekhubazayo kodwa hhayi leyo okumele uhlale nayo. Uma usufunde ukubona nokuvuma inkinga, kunenqwaba yezindlela zokuyilungisa nokuyinqoba. Uma udonsa kanzima ukuze uzenzele ngokwakho, yazi ukuthi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kuyisenzo sokuzinakekela.
Kubantu abazibuzayo, "Ingabe lokhu kuzogcina kungisizile ukuyeka ukuzilimaza ubudlelwano bami obusha?", u-Jayant ufuna ukwazi lokhu: "Uma wazi amaphethini akho, ukukhetha kwakho kuzoshintsha, futhi okulindele kuwe nakubantu abaseduze nawe kuzokwenzeka. Uzoxhuma amachashazi esikhathi esedlule bese uvula isahluko esisha. Kukhona ithemba."
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukubheka isipiliyoni sakho esidlule. Kungaba ubungane obunobuthi noma uchungechunge lobudlelwano obuphukile obudala izinkinga zokuzilimaza. Ukuze uyeke ukuzicekela phansi ubudlelwano bakho, khomba izimbangela, uthembeke futhi ukhulume, funa ukwelulekwa, futhi ubekezele.
Sebenza ekususeni ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba ukuzibophezela, kanye nokungazethembi okukuholela ekucindezeleni ubudlelwano . Yeka ukudlala ikhadi lesisulu bese uzihlukanisa nesikhathi esidlule. Ungasheshi ukungena ebudlelwaneni, kunalokho zinike isikhathi sakho wazi ukuthi ufunani kumlingani wakho.
Uyazi ukuthi uyazibhidliza ubudlelwano uma uzenzela wena kuphela, umgxeka kakhulu isithandwa sakho, futhi uba nexhala nokungazethembi uma izinto zibheda phakathi kwenu nobabili. Unezinkinga zokwethembana, ucabanga ngokweqile, futhi awukwazi ukudedela okwedlule.
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Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
