“A person does not grow from the ground like a vine or a tree, one is not part of a plot of land. Mankind has legs so it can wander.”
Mankind has legs. Womankind has legs too. And wander it can too.
Travelling alone cannot/should not depend on if you are single, or straight, bi or married. You travel to test your gut, to explore beyond regions and one shouldn’t abandon the thirst of wanderlust for a marital status. Your wings cannot be clipped by a raging partner who wants to put you on a leash after marriage.
If travelling is your soul, you should. Here’s why.
Marriage means together, not tied down:
You have travelled solo all your life, it pleases you and confirms self-belief.
Getting married shouldn’t be a roadblock to your wanderlust. It asserts your independence, ignites your passion and if you partner cannot be on board with that, is he the right partner for you?
Related reading: 5 women share their experience of one-night stands
You are responsible for your happiness:
Travelling alone makes you self-sufficient. It cannot be gifted to you by someone. The self-sufficiency needed to travel solo is something no one can explain to you – you need to do it to feel it yourself. When all is said and done and the trip completed, the happiness is unparalleled. There is a sense of satisfaction you get from travelling alone. It makes you realise you don’t need someone to make you feel complete within yourself.
Clear your head:
After marriage, things can get hectic; you have a family to take care of. There are things you share and things you cannot. Travelling solo doesn’t mean leaving your family behind (that’s the lie society feeds us). Everyone needs a time-out to deal with their mental and emotional vulnerabilities. Going on solo exploration trips doesn’t only let you clear your head for a while, but builds up your ability to think straight and get back to your married life with a fuller, better version of yourself.
Apart from that, you reconnect with a part of yourself you thought you had lost in the shuffle of life.
Time away is a healthy time:
Relationships that crumble under the pretext of distance are not strong enough.
Travelling alone to separate continents is putting your mind in track with your life, a change of scenery to contemplate the needs and wants of life. If getting married is a need of the society, travelling is the want.
Many might be shocked to hear that married couples should not be apart for more than a few days, lest one of them commit infidelity. Travelling alone, if anything, makes the relationship stronger.
Related reading: Single vs. Dating – How life changes
The reunion is sweeter than thou:
Travelling alone is spiritually enlightening. After exploration, when you come back home, the union with your partner and family is sweeter than the sweetest nectar because at the end of the day there is no place like home.
Travel solo and get lost in the forest to rediscover yourself who gets lost in the humdrum of life.