Dumbest relationship tips that friends and family offer
Friends and family who offer help, which in most cases is only verbal advice, do not realise that you may not have even asked for their help. Moreover, when they speak foolish things, you can get frustrated, angry and simultaneously find it ridiculously funny. Below are some of the dumbest relationship tips that friends can offer you.
1. Don’t have sex till you get married
It’s so silly that people in 2018 are still thinking that couples do not have sex before they tie the knot. If someone ever tells you to not check whether you are compatible in bed and you are actually taking that advice, then you have invited trouble. Both men and women, need to check if you as a couple can satisfy each other or not in bed. Sex is an important need and if it is not met, your relationship is doomed. Make sure however, that you use protection and don’t get any STDs or have a baby in the process.
2. Announce only after engagement
This one’s a classic middle-class, orthodox family advice to their kids who are dating and have reached a marriageable age. While friends would have no problem accepting your partner, family members seem to be uncomfortable with your dating. They’ll tell you to not introduce him/her as your lover and say that you are just good friends. It is so stupid to do that. If you are in love, no matter what the rest of the world thinks, you have the full right to announce it to the world, even if you have not exchanged your engagement rings.
3. Split your bills when you go on a date
“You should always split everything, even the bills on your date”, says a friend to you? You are only going to make your relationship more transactional. Do not take such advice. Bills, spending on each other, sharing finances, etc. are things which make a relationship more robust. If you keep an account of every penny you spend on your partner and expect them to give you back the same amount, your relationship is based on money and not love. It is foolish to end your romantic date by calculating food items you ate and he/she ate and who should pay how much. Don’t ruin your date with this dumb advice.
4. If you don’t argue then there’s something wrong
If you and your partner, rarely argue or have fights, then most people will raise their eyebrows and start advising you to start picking fights to make the relationship stronger. Such people hate simple things and they think that making simple things complicated is intelligence. Just because they argue, doesn’t mean that your relationship is too good to be true. There are couples who are just as normal as others but surprisingly they rarely have any arguments or fights. If that is the case with you, then you are as lucky as you can get. Do not listen to this dumb advice of making your relationship stronger by picking up fights. It is not a movie story where you need some twist in the love affair, where one of you has to lure the other to make them fall in love with you again.
5. Gay? Sleep with a woman and you won’t be
You are not gay if you have not slept with a man, and if you are gay then just sleep with a woman to change. If you are gay and dating a man, do not listen to your friends or family who’ll say you should have an encounter with a woman to “change”. Such advices often come from fathers of gay men who have difficulty accepting their son’s sexuality. If you take such advice, you are on the path to making a fool out of yourself and also denying the possibility of being with your boyfriend who could perhaps be the Mr. Right for you.
Any advice that comes from a person who barely knows the circumstances or the equation you have with your partner should be kept out. Be smart and make intelligent choices in taking advice or help. Your shrink could be your friend, but shrinks can also make blunders by offering the dumbest advice.