Wheel Emotion: Zomwe Zili ndi Momwe Mungagwiritsire Ntchito Kumanga Ubale Wabwino

Mutha kuganiza kuti, "Aliyense ali ndi malingaliro. Kodi sitikudziwa kale izi?" Modabwitsa, sititero. Ndife zopangidwa ndi chikhalidwe cha 'kuyamwa'. Ichi ndichifukwa chake Robert Plutchik adabwera ndi gudumu lamalingaliro kuti apangitse zokumana nazo zovuta kuti tipezeke komanso kutithandiza kuthana ndi zovuta komanso momwe timamvera, makamaka panthawi yamavuto. Ndi chida ichi, mutha kuzindikira pang'onopang'ono zakukhosi kwanu kupitilira "Sindikumva bwino" poyesa kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu kwa wokondedwa wanu, kapena pakati pa mikangano.

Anthu amakumana ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana komanso malingaliro akuthupi, koma timaphunzira kuwanyalanyaza kuyambira ali aang'ono. Kafukufuku akunena momveka bwino kuti "kuponderezedwa kwa malingaliro kumakhala m'thupi ndipo kumabweretsa zotsatirapo zambiri, kuphatikizapo nkhawa, kuvutika maganizo, matenda okhudzana ndi kupsinjika maganizo, mpaka kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kudzipha ... Kuponderezedwa sikuchotsa malingalirowo, kumangokhala mkati mwanu kukupangitsani kupweteka kwambiri."

Kumvetsetsa momwe gudumu la kutengeka/ubwenzi limagwirira ntchito kudzakuthandizani kuti musamangodziwa nokha komanso kumanga ubale wadala ndi wachifundo ndi wokondedwa wanu, ngakhale panthawi yomwe simukugwirizana. Kuwerenga mokhudza mtima kungakhale chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zosinthira mkati komanso ndale - Tifotokoza momwe tingachitire.

Kodi The Emotion Wheel Ndi Chiyani?

Kafukufuku amene ali pamwambawa akuti “nzeru zamaganizo (EQ) ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa thanzi la maganizo. EQ yathu ikutanthauza luso lathu lozindikira, kulamulira, ndi kufotokoza malingaliro athu komanso kumvetsetsa, ndikuyankha mwaluso, malingaliro a ena.” Tangoganizirani kufunika kwa luso limeneli mu maubwenzi achikondi komwe malingaliro amakwera, komanso kusamvetsetsana. Mwamwayi, kuyanjana ndi mnzanu kungaphunzire.

Robert Plutchik's Wheel of emotions ndi chida chowoneka bwino cha EQ chomwe chimakuthandizani kuzindikira ma nuances amalingaliro oyambira ndi apachiwiri omwe mukukumana nawo nthawi iliyonse. Magudumu amalingaliro awa, monga momwe tawonetsera pansipa, akuwonetsa zomverera zisanu ndi zitatu zoyambirira:

• Mkwiyo
• Chiyembekezo
• Joy
• Trust
• Mantha
• Ndinadabwa
• chisoni
• Kutaya

Zomverera za polar monga chisangalalo ndi chisoni kapena mantha ndi mkwiyo zimayikidwa mozungulira mu gudumu laubwenzi. Monga mitundu yoyambirira, malingalirowa amatha kusakanikirana ndi ena kuti apange malingaliro ovuta kwambiri monga kuvomereza, kukwiya, kunyong'onyeka, ndi zina zotero. Pogwiritsa ntchito chida ichi, inu ndi mnzanuyo mukhoza kuuzana 'ndendende' zomwe mukumva. Mwanjira iyi, palibe amene amamva kuti sakumvetsetsa, ndipo nonse mumaphunzira kuthandizirana bwino.

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Mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mawilo otengeka

Kupatula gudumu la Plutchik lomwe limakupatsani tchati choyambirira komanso chachiwiri, nonse mutha kuphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito mawilo otengeka opangidwa ndi akatswiri enanso. Mutha kuwafuna ngati mupeza kuti iyi ndi yosakwanira. Kapena mungafune kugwiritsira ntchito zoposa imodzi m’kulondola kwanu malingaliro aumunthu onse amene unansi wanu wachikondi ungaloŵetsedwe. Nawa:

• Geoffrey Robert's Feel Wheel: Ndikusintha kwa gudumu la Plutchik ndikukulitsa malingaliro asanu ndi atatu oyambira mpaka 130. Imayang'ana kwambiri malingaliro oyipa.
• Geneva Emotion Wheel: Ndi gudumu lotengeka ndi kumverera kuti muyese mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya machitidwe a anthu ku zinthu, zochitika, ndi zochitika. Zimaphatikizapo "palibe kutengeka" kapena "malingaliro ena" omwe ndi othandiza kwa omwe ali ndi dzanzi kapena alexithymia
• Junto Emotion Wheel: Chikondi ndicho chisonkhezero chachikulu m'moyo uno. Mukawona tchati chotengera ichi, mudzazindikira 108 zomvera mudikishonale iyi ya kumverera

Komanso, anthu amasokoneza magudumu a malingaliro ndi malingaliro, chifukwa zonsezi zimapangidwa kuti zitithandize kudziwa momwe tikumvera komanso kukhala oleza mtima muubwenzi . Tiyeni tifotokoze kusiyana pakati pa gudumu la malingaliro la Gottman, lomwe limatchedwanso gudumu la malingaliro ndi Dr. Gloria Wilcox, poyerekeza ndi gudumu la malingaliro ndi Robert Plutchik.

Gloria Willcox akumva gudumu	Plutchik's emotion gudumu
Zomverera zazikulu zisanu ndi chimodzi: wamisala, wachisoni, wamantha, wachimwemwe, wamphamvu, wamtendere	Zolinga zazikulu zisanu ndi zitatu: mkwiyo, chiyembekezo, chisangalalo, chidaliro, mantha, kudabwa, chisoni, kunyansidwa.
Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito gudumu lomverera: Zomverera zapakati zili pakati pa gudumu, zomwe zimatuluka mpaka m'mphepete mwakunja ndi zotengera zachiwiri komanso zapamwamba.	Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito gudumu la kutengeka: Kutengeka mtima kumakhala mkati mwa gudumu lapakati, kukhudzidwa kwambiri mumtima, kufatsa kwakunja. Ndi chithandizo chowoneka bwino chamalingaliro otsutsana ndi polar
Gudumu ili limathandiza anthu kuzindikira malingaliro awo enieni ndikuthana nawo ndi mabungwe ambiri	Magudumu amtundu wamalingaliro amawonetsa kutengeka ngati chikhalidwe chokhazikika komanso chida chodziwira zovuta zomwe timakumana nazo m'malingaliro.

N’chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kuphunzira za maganizo?

Maganizo athu ndi njira yopulumukira. Amatiuza zomwe tiyenera kuthana nazo. Kukhumudwa komwe mumakumana nako muubwenzi nthawi zina kumakhala kwachilendo, komanso mapu opita kumalo omwe akufunika kuchiritsidwa. Kunyalanyaza kapena kusamvetsetsa momwe wokondedwa wanu akumvera kungapangitse mikangano yayikulu pakati panu awiri.

Kupatula apo, kuletsa malingaliro ofooka mpaka amphamvu ndi vuto la thanzi. Ndipo tiyenera kukambirana za izi tisanaphunzire momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito psychology ya mawilo a malingaliro yolembedwa ndi Plutchik. Mutha kukhala ndi mnzanu amene akuvutika kuzindikira momwe akumvera, kapena mwina inu mukulimbana ndi vuto lomwelo. Mumadzifunsa kuti, " Mnzanu sakufuna kulankhula nane . Nchifukwa chiyani amaletsa malingaliro awo dala?" Nazi zifukwa zina zomwe zingatheke:

• Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala ndi alexithymia: Ndi pamene munthu zimamuvuta kukumana kapena kuzindikira momwe akumvera, ndipo amavutikanso kufotokoza zakukhosi. Zitha kukhala chifukwa cha zowawa, zovuta zaumoyo, kapena autism
• Ena poyamba: Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kuti ankakonda kuika maganizo a anthu ena patsogolo chifukwa cha ubwana wovuta kapena chifukwa chakuti nthawi zonse amakhala m'mikhalidwe yomwe amalemetsedwa ndi ntchito yamaganizo.
• Magulu akuluakulu samawamvetsa/kuwalanga: Anthu akuda nthawi zonse amafunsidwa kuti asakhale okwiya popanda chifukwa china kupatula kusankhana mitundu (makamaka akamalankhula za ufulu wawo). Nkhope yosalowerera ndale kapena kamvekedwe ka thupi ndi kaimidwe ka thupi la anthu ambiri autistic amaonedwa kuti ndi odzikuza, osadziwika bwino, opanda chifundo komanso anzeru - kotero timabisa zambiri. Palinso kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe pa kufotokoza maganizo; apa, chikhalidwe chachikulu/chopondereza chimatha kusankha chomwe chili choyenera
• Zomverera za mnzako sizimakhulupirira: Kodi anthu oyandikana nawo nthawi zambiri sakhulupirira kuti mnzanuyo sakumasuka? Kodi anauzidwa kuti maganizo awo si enieni ndi achibale/okondedwa awo?
• Iwo anagwa chifukwa cha 'Laziness Lie': Katswiri wa zamaganizo Devon Price akuti m'buku lake, Ulesi Kulibe, kuti timaganiza molakwika kuti sitikuchita mokwanira. Komanso, "Timapangidwa kukhulupirira kuti sitingathe kudalira malingaliro athu otopa kapena matenda, komanso kuti palibe malire athu omwe amavomerezedwa."
• Iwo amakhudzidwa ndi Poizoni positivity: Palibe amene angapirire fuko la 'kukhala okondwa, osalira'. Iwo atha kukhala ndi amene amachititsa kuti anthu ambiri azivutika maganizo padziko lonse
• "Ndathana nazo, nanunso muyenera": Chokhumudwitsa kwambiri ndi omwe amaganiza kuti nkhawa za aliyense, kupsinjika maganizo, kukhumudwa, kupwetekedwa mtima, ndi zina zotero ziyenera kugwira ntchito mofanana ndi nthawi yawo. Wokondedwa wanu angakhale atalowetsamo mphamvu zosonyezedwa ndi wina yemwe amamukonda
• Male conditioning: Amuna amaphunzitsidwa kukhudzika kwa amuna ndi akazi. Popeza kuti kutengeka kwina ndi kosayenera kwa iwo kuti amve, kufotokoza, ndi kugwirizana nazo, amamva kuti ali okha / okhumudwa / manyazi pamene malingalirowo ayamba.

Pokhala ndi kupsinjika maganizo uku, kodi mukuwona chifukwa chake luntha lamalingaliro ndilofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale pachibwenzi komanso kuyambiranso zikhalidwe? Mtundu wa Plutchik wa gudumu lamalingaliro ndiye gawo loyamba lomvetsetsa zakukhosi kwanu komanso za wokondedwa wanu.

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8 Ubwino Wa Plutchik's Emotion Wheel

Kutengeka maganizo sikumangotengeka maganizo, kumaganiziranso matupi athu. Iwo ali 5 zigawo zikuluzikulu:

• Chigawo chamalingaliro, komwe mumamva (kukhumudwa)
• Chizoloŵezi chochita zomwe thupi lanu limafuna kuchitapo kanthu (kufuna kuchoka kwa munthuyo / mkhalidwe)
• Chigawo choyezera, komwe mumamvetsetsa chomwe chimayambitsa kutengeka (mumayembekezera kuti tsiku lanu lidzakhala labwino kwa ogwira ntchito kumalo odyera koma anali amwano kwa ma seva)
• Gawo lamagalimoto, pomwe mumafotokoza zakukhosi kudzera m'manja/nkhope/kuyenda, ndi zina zotero (mumagwedeza mutu wanu pang'ono, nkhope yanu yowawa, ndi zina zotero)
• Physiological component, komwe thupi lanu limadutsa mumchitidwe wamankhwala chifukwa cha kutengeka (pakhosi lanu limakhala lolimba)

Ngati anthu akudziwa zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwawo, amatha kuchirikiza zosowa zawo bwino. Izi zimathandiza kupititsa patsogolo chikondi ndi ubwenzi muubwenzi , kuchiritsa mphamvu kuntchito, kupanga malo abwino oti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino ndi abwenzi ndi abale, komanso kumanga chifundo cha anthu ammudzi. Nazi zina mwa zabwino zomwe mungakhale nazo muubwenzi pogwiritsa ntchito tchati cha malingaliro oyamba ndi achiwiri a Plutchik.

1. Kutengeka mtundu gudumu kumabweretsa zambiri kudzidziwitsa, zomwe zimabweretsa ubwenzi kwambiri

Anthu akamadzilumikizana okha, amalumikizana kwambiri ndi ena. Lindsay C. Gibson, wolemba buku lakuti Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents akuti, “Kubisa zosowa zanu zazikulu kumalepheretsa ubale weniweni ndi ena.” Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wachikondi ndi mnzanu, muyeneranso kudzidziwa bwino.

Brianna, wogulitsa magalimoto ku Detroit, amagawana, "Ndinaganiza kuti kudziwa za malingaliro ndikokwanira kuti ndiwamvere ndi kuwagonjetsa. Kuyang'ana mndandanda wa malingaliro kwa akuluakulu sikokwanira, kumafunikira ntchito yochulukirapo! Chaka chatha, zosoŵa zamaganizo za mnzako sizinakwaniritsidwe chifukwa sindinagwirizane nazo. Izi zinandikakamiza kuyang'ana maganizo a maganizo a anthu akuluakulu. anzanga amamvetsetsa kuti ndikuyeserabe kumvetsetsa momwe ndikumvera ndipo amaleza mtima ndi ine ndikakhala ndi nthawi yokonza zinthu zomwe zandipangitsa kuti ndiziwakonda kwambiri.

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2. Mutha kuphunzira momwe mungapangire malo ogona a aliyense

Mnzanga wina wa matenda ovutika maganizo, yemwe amagwira ntchito pamalo amene amadzitcha kuti 'olumala' kulikonse, anaseka nditawafunsa kuti ndi malo otani omwe amapeza chifukwa cha kulumala kwawo, "Palibe. Ngakhale kuti ndizofunikira, nkhaniyo imachotsedwa mwamsanga ngati ndinanena. Bwanji, ndinafunsa. Iwo anati, "Neurotypicals sagwirizana nkomwe zosowa zawo ndi malingaliro awo! Iwalani malo ogwirira ntchito, mwawona momwe ifenso timadzipangitsa kukhala ochepa mu maubwenzi?"

Pempho lothandizira anthu olumala limayankhidwa ndi anthu ambiri, komanso zonena za ulesi kapena kupempha mwayi wapadera - Kaya muubwenzi wachikondi kapena wachikondi . Komabe, mnzanga akunena zoona, vutoli ndi loipa kwa anthu omwe si olumala. Wolemba buku lakuti Laziness Does Not Exist anati: “Munthu akakhulupirira kuti njira yokhayo yokondedwa ndiyo kukondweretsa wina, amakhala ndi maubwenzi ovuta kwambiri, nthawi zonse amapereka zambiri kuposa zomwe amalandira ndipo samva ngati akuonedwa.” Kukhazikika maganizo ndi chizindikiro choyamba cha kudzimvera chisoni.

3. Kutengeka gudumu kumakuthandizani kumva mmene mukumvera kuthetsa mikangano pa ubale

Zokwiyitsa momwe zimakhalira kumva kuchokera pazama TV komanso othandizira athu kuti 'amve momwe mukumvera', kutsimikizira zomwe mukumva a) pamapeto pake amachiritsa kuvulala pang'onopang'ono, b) kumathandizira kuchepetsa nkhawa zatsiku ndi tsiku, c) kumathetsa mikangano yaubwenzi popanda kuwalola kupitilira kwa masiku, milungu, ndi zaka. Ngati inu ndi theka lanu mumathera nthawi ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa (osawapenda), zikuthandizani nonse kuzisiya - ngati zitachitika mofatsa komanso mosasintha pamalo otetezeka.

4. Ndizothandiza kwambiri paumoyo wonse komanso kukhala ndi chidwi mu ubale

Kutengeka mtima kumakhudza matupi athu ndi momwe amagwirira ntchito, kotero inu ndi mnzanu mutha kukhala ndi thanzi labwinopo pogwiritsa ntchito luntha lamalingaliro. Zikuthandizani kuzindikira kusapeza kwanu, kumvetsetsa malire wina ndi mnzake, kunena 'ayi' kapena 'inde,' kapena kuchepetsa liwiro pakafunika.

Mungathenso kutenga malo muubwenzi mukafuna kupuma pang'ono; izi zingothandiza ubale wanu kwa nthawi yayitali. Devon Price, wolemba buku lakuti Laziness Does Not Exist , akuti, "Machiritso akulu amapezeka pomvera matupi athu ndikulemekeza zosowa zathu zopumula ndi kukhala chete. Ndi kusintha kwakukulu - komanso kuchiritsa kwambiri - kumvetsera ululu kapena kutopa kwa matupi athu ndikuulemekeza m'malo mouweruza."

5. Mawu okhudza mtima amakupatsani ufulu wolankhula

Kafukufuku wolembedwa mu Journal of Abnormal Psychology adapeza kuti kuletsa machitidwe a munthu ku malingaliro kumakhudza thupi la munthu. Zotsatira zake zimaphatikizapo kugunda kwa mtima kwambiri. Izi zikusonyeza kuti kuwonetsa machitidwe a munthu ku zinthu zabwino komanso zoyipa (mwanjira yabwino), ndikwabwino pa thanzi lanu lonse.

Kodi mukuona ngati muyenera kupondereza maganizo anu mozungulira wokondedwa wanu kwambiri? Ngati inde, izi zikuyenera kuthetsedwa kudzera m'magudumu amalingaliro pang'ono mwachangu, chifukwa cha ubwenzi wanu komanso kudzipereka kwanu.

6. Chifukwa chachikulu chogwiritsira ntchito gudumu: Kulamulira maganizo kuti asakulamulireni

Anthu amakhulupirira kuti akamalamulira kwambiri malingaliro awo , amatha kulamulira bwino miyoyo yawo. Mtundu uwu wa kulamulira umagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri pokankhira malingaliro awo pansi, zomwe zimasanduka kupsinjika kwakuthupi, kwamaganizo, komanso kwamalingaliro. Timathana ndi izi pambuyo pake m'njira yotopa, mavuto azaumoyo, kapena kukhala ndi maubwenzi osayenerera, ovuta, kapena oopsa.

Mutha kulosera zam'tsogolo ngati mukugwirizana ndi momwe mukumvera komanso momwe mukumvera; kutanthauza kuti mutha kuletsa kutengeka kolakwika kuti zisachitike. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muli ndi vuto laukali, kuyembekezera mkwiyo kungakuthandizeni kuchepetsa khalidwe laukali kwa mnzanuyo. Ndizopindulitsa kwambiri komanso zopatsa mphamvu kumvera thupi lanu, ndikulonjeza.

7. Kupulumuka kwa wokondedwa yemwe amamukonda kwambiri

Kodi kutengeka mtima kumagwira ntchito yanji? M'mbuyomu, adathandizira mitundu yathu kuti ipulumuke ndikukhala mogwirizana kuti tiziyembekezera, kuzindikira, kuyang'anizana, kapena kutuluka muvuto lakupha. Koma mkati mwa maubwenzi, amatithandiza kulumikizana, kugwirizana wina ndi mzake, kulimbikitsa chitetezo, kumvera chisoni, ndi kukondwerera zochitika zazikulu pamodzi. Kuzindikira kwamalingaliro ndi nkhani yopitilira mitundu yathu.

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8. Pezani ndalama zimenezo!

Inu ndi mnzanu, ngati mwasankha kukhala limodzi, mungafune ntchito zomwe zimakondweretsa kuzindikira kwanu zamaganizo. Kudziwa bwino zamaganizo kumawoneka ngati kwabwino pantchitoyi, malinga ndi Forbes . Kumagwirizana kwambiri ndi magwiridwe antchito abwino kwambiri. Atsogoleri ndi oyang'anira odziwa bwino zamaganizo ndi ogwira mtima kwambiri. Zimapanga mikhalidwe yosangalatsa munthu payekha - ndipo antchito osangalala ndi chuma chachikulu chifukwa ndi opanga komanso opindulitsa kwambiri.

Momwe Mungagwiritsire Ntchito The Emotions Wheel Kuti Mumange Ubale Wathanzi

Tiyeni timvetse kaye momwe mukumvera. Tangoganizirani izi: Muli ku lesitilanti. Mofanana ndi munthu wa Jack Black mu The Holiday , mukuona mnzanu kudzera pawindo la lesitilanti, akupsompsona munthu panja. Tsopano ganizirani mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya machitidwe a munthu amene akukulimbikitsani chimodzimodzi:

• Mufilimuyi, kuyankha kwake kunali kulumpha, kutuluka, ndi kukakumana naye
• Munthu wina akhoza kuyang'ana kwa masekondi pang'ono ndi kubwerera mwakachetechete ku chakudya chawo ndi kusonkhana
• Munthu wina akhoza kumva zonse zotsatira za chibwenzicho. Kunjenjemera, maso akunjenjemera, mawu akunjenjemera, akhoza kulengeza za kusakhulupirika kwa aliyense pagome
• Ndipo munthu winanso angayang’ane chochitikacho, kudabwa, ndiyeno kumva kumasuka. Chifukwa chakuti nawonso anali kubera kapena chifukwa chakuti akhala akuganiza zothetsa banja

Uwu unali mndandanda wamitundu yosiyanasiyana + yamakhalidwe. Tonsefe timakumana ndi zokoka mtima m'njira yokhazikika, koma pali zigawo zitatu za psychology yamalingaliro zomwe zimafala kwa aliyense:

• Kuchita m'maganizo (monga mkwiyo, kuvomereza, mantha, mpumulo pakuberedwa)
• Physiological reaction (zokhudza kugunda kwa mtima, kuthamanga kwa kupuma, zochitika zapamaso pa electromyographic, etc.)
• Mayankho a kakhalidwe (maso akutuluka, kuusa moyo, kunjenjemera, kumwetulira)

Zomverera zovuta mu maubwenzi

Tsitsani gudumu lamalingaliro PDF/tchati lolembedwa ndi Plutchik. Mudzawona kuti ili ndi matembenuzidwe amphamvu amalingaliro 8 oyambira mkati mwa bwalo lamkati, zotengera zapakati, ndi mitundu yawo yaying'ono mu bwalo lakunja. Mwachitsanzo, ecstasy (mzungu wamkati), chisangalalo (pakati), bata (kunja). Palinso bwalo lakunja lomwe lili ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, mantha + kudabwa = mantha.

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Zochita zanzeru zamalingaliro - Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito gudumu lamalingaliro

Mutha kuyika gudumu lamalingaliro kuti liziyenda kudzera muzochita zosiyanasiyana zanzeru zam'malingaliro. Tiyeni tiyese imodzi. Titsata awiriwa, makamaka okondedwa A, pamikangano yawo.

Chochitika chomwe chimatsogolera ku mikangano

A ndi B ndi okwatirana. B amalandila foni kuchokera kwa ex wawo wankhanza. Atangotsala pang'ono kupita kuntchito, B amauza izi kwa A, ndikuwonjezera kuti sizinali zodetsa nkhawa. A amapita kuntchito, koma amamva kusakhazikika tsiku lonse. Sakumvetsa zomwe akukumana nazo. Ndinadabwa? Kukayikira? Kukana? Ayi. Koma akumva kukhudzika kochuluka nthawi imodzi ndipo izi zimawawawa mutu.

Mkangano pakati pa A ndi B

Abwerera kunyumba ndipo B amatha kumva kuti china chake chazimitsidwa. Makhalidwe a A osayankhidwa akupanga mikangano pakati pawo. B akuganiza kuti A wawakwiyira; B amawawa koma amawapatsa mpata. A amadzimva wolakwa; akufuna kuthetsa izi.

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Kugwiritsa ntchito gudumu lamalingaliro pamikangano yaubwenzi

Munthu A amazindikira kuti akuyenera kukumba mndandanda wamalingaliro a akulu omwe adawatchulapo kale. Apa ndipamene gudumu lotengeka mtima limabwera. Umu ndi momwe zimakhalira:

• A kinda amadziwa kuti ali okwiya, kotero kuti wina ndi wosavuta kufotokoza
• Amayang'ana malingaliro ochulukirapo ndikuwona 'kunyansidwa.' Momwe thupi lawo limakhalira ndi mawuwo zimawatsimikizira kuti nawonso akumva choncho
• Iwo mwadzidzidzi amazindikira kuti akhala akukwiyira wakale wa B, osati B kapena wina aliyense. Kutchula kutengeka kwenikweni (kunyansidwa) kunathandiza ndi zimenezo; 'kukwiya' kunali kofala kwambiri ndipo sikunatengere malingaliro awo molondola
• Amathera nthawi yochulukirapo ndi mtundu wa Plutchik, ndikuganiza kuti ndi malingaliro awiri ati omwe amaphatikiza kuti apangitse kunyozedwa? Mkwiyo ndi kunyansidwa. “N’zomveka kuti ndimakhala ndi maganizo otere kaamba ka munthu amene ndimadana naye ndi kumunyoza,” A akuganiza motero. Amakumba mozama
• Zomverera zambiri zimakula. Amakhalanso tcheru komanso amantha chifukwa amakonda B ndipo safuna kuwawona akuvulazidwa. Nzosadabwitsa kuti akhala osakhazikika
• Palinso achisoni chifukwa amakumbukira momwe chibwenzi cha nkhanza chinali nacho pa B. Koma ali achisoni chifukwa cha chinthu chimodzi - safuna kutaya wokondedwa wawo ndi wina.
• Pokhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zakukhosi kwawo, amatha kudziwa momwe akumvera mumtima mwawo ndikuchepetsa malingaliro awo.

Kudziwa kusiyana pakati pa mkwiyo ndi kunyoza sikungawoneke kofunikira koma pankhani yothana ndi malingaliro athu ndikuthetsa mavuto, kumakhala kofunikira. Zinthu zazing'ono zimathandiza kuchepetsa zomwe zikuchitika, kuzigawa m'zigawo zotha kuthetsedwa, ndikulola malingaliro aliwonse kupuma payekhapayekha. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kulankhula za malingaliro athu kumabweretsa kulamulira malingaliro athu ndipo kumapangitsa kuti chisoni chathu, mkwiyo, ndi ululu zichepe kwambiri.

Chisankho

Tsopano popeza A akudziwa momwe akumvera komanso ali ndi mawu ofunikira, ayenera kuthana ndi chilichonse. Akhoza:

• Pitilizani kuyankha kwawo koyambirira kokwiyira B kapena wakale, kapena onse awiri, powapangitsa izi
• Lankhulani ndi wokondedwa wawo mofatsa za nkhawa zawo ndipo pemphani kuti akutsimikizireni za zomwe zili pamwambazi
• Dziwitsani kuti kumverera uku ndi kwachibadwa, komanso kuti amakhulupilira wokondedwa wawo kuti apanga chisankho choyenera kwa iwo. Amatha kumuuza B kuti amakwiyira wakale, osati B, chifukwa amakonda B ndipo amakhudzidwa ndi chitetezo chawo. Izi ndi zomwe A aganiza kuchita. Kupepesa kwa munthu amene wamulakwira Ndiwofunikanso, ndipo A amachitanso chimodzimodzi

Apa, tchati cha gudumu lamalingaliro chimathandiza anthu awiriwa kudzaza kusiyana komwe kukadapitilira kukula, ndikulumikizana mozama kwambiri. B, m'malo othetsedwa awa, amatha kufotokozera A momwe adamvera atalandira foni m'mawa, ndi zomwe akukonzekera kuchita nazo. A tsopano ali ndi udindo woyang'anira mawu awo okhudzidwa kotero kuti n'zosavuta kuthana ndi vutoli. Umu ndi momwe mumadzitsimikizira nokha komanso wokondedwa wanu.

Kuphunzitsa nzeru zamaganizo kwa akuluakulu ndi ana aang'ono kungakhale chida chosinthira ndale. Kumbukirani izi: Khalani ndi chidwi ndi momwe mukumvera mukamayang'ana pa gudumu lamalingaliro PDF/tchati. Kutengeka mtima ndi njira ya thupi lanu yokuuzani zomwe mukufuna, zomwe mumayendera komanso zolinga zanu. Osawakana iwo. Kapena apeza njira yotulukira mwanjira ina kapena imzake.

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