Zizindikiro 7 Zochenjeza Kuti Mukulekana Muukwati Wanu

“Wasintha, munthu amene ndinakwatirana naye anali munthu wina.” Akatswili athu amene amalimbana ndi maukwati opanda chikondi amatiuza kuti izi ndi zimene maanja amanena akafika kwa iwo ndi nkhani yoti akulekana m’banja.

Pamene ukwati wanu suli ngati mmene unalili poyamba, mumamva ngati mukulekana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Mukuwona zonse mbendera zofiira izo koma sankhani kuwanyalanyaza ndikukokera banja lanu mpaka pomwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mwatsala ndi kukhumudwa.

Kulekana muukwati ndi njira yapang'onopang'ono koma mukazindikira, ndi mochedwa. Pamene mukufuna kupulumutsa banja lanu, mumazindikira kuti palibe chomwe chingakupulumutseni.

Malinga ndi US Census 2017¹, kunapezeka kuti panali chiwonjezeko cha 44% cha okwatirana okhala motalikirana. Ndikofunika kuzindikira zizindikiro zochenjeza za kusokonekera kwaukwati nthawi isanathe.

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N'chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Okwatirana Amasiyana?

Masiku ano, zakhala zosavuta kuti maanja azilekana. Popeza okwatirana onse aŵiri ali otanganidwa ndi ntchito yawo ndi mathayo awo paokha, zimakhala zovuta kuika maganizo awo pa ukwati.

Ngati tiganizira za kukula kusiyana tanthauzo ndiye kuti tiwona kuti zikutanthauza kukhala kutali mu ubale. Kupatula pa ubwenzi wachikondi ungagwiritsidwe ntchito pa ubwenzi, pa unansi wa makolo ndi ana akuluakulu kapena pa ubwenzi ndi achibale. Anthu okwatirana achikulire angathenso kulekana.

Kulekana m’banja kumatanthauza kuti nonse mukuchokako malumbiro amenewo amene anati, Mpaka Imfa Itilekanitse, Komanso, inu mukutengeka kuchoka wina ndi mzake. Chifukwa chiyani mabanja amasiyana.

1. Zochitika zimasintha anthu

Ngati bwenzi limodzi ndi wokwera kuwombera wokwera wamakampani omwe akuyenda padziko lonse lapansi ndikuchita malonda ndipo winayo ndi wosamalira pakhomo akuyang'anira ana ndikuyenda nawo ku paki, ndiye mwachiwonekere akukumana ndi moyo m'njira zosiyanasiyana.

Anthu amasintha chifukwa cha zokumana nazo zomwe amapeza ndipo nthawi zambiri zimasokoneza ubale.

2. Kusakulira limodzi kumabweretsa kulekana

Nthawi zina m’banja anthu aŵiri sakulira limodzi. Izi zimabweretsa kusowa kwa ubwenzi waluntha ndipo ndipamene ubale wanu umasiya kukula.

Simuyendera limodzi ndi wina ndi mnzake pamene mukuyenda mbali imodzi. Ngakhale kuti munthu mmodzi amakhala wodziwa zambiri, wokhwima komanso womveka bwino, winayo sakukula kwambiri.

3. Zolinga zimasintha

Inu mukanayamba moyo wanu ndi zomwezo zolinga ziwiri koma m’kupita kwa nthawi zolinga zinasintha. Monga banja linayamba kukula kutalikirana m’banja pamene a mwamuna anaganiza zokhala wosamalira pakhomo ndipo ankafuna kuti mkazi wake akhale wosamalira.

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Mkaziyo ankaganiza kuti zimenezi n’zakanthawi koma ataona kuti akufuna kuzithetsa, banjali linayamba kukula chifukwa zolinga zawo zinasemphana.

4. Mumachita zinthu payekha payekha

Pamene okwatirana awiri ayamba kukula mosiyana, poyamba awo ntchito zapakhomo Pang'onopang'ono amayamba kukhala ntchito zawo zapayekha ndipo musanadziwe, moto wapita.

Nonse mukupitirizabe kukana kuti ukwati uli nawo kufika kumapeto ndipo pitilizani kuukoka banja chifukwa cha zinthu zina monga makolo, ana, gulu, ndi zina zambiri mpaka palibe aliyense wa inu amene angawukokerenso ukwatiwo ndikuuthetsa.

5. Pali malo ochuluka muubwenzi

Malo si chizindikiro chowopsa paubwenzi. M’malo mwake, n’kofunika kukhala ndi malo oti muchite bwino muubwenzi. Koma pamene dangalo likuchulukirachulukira vuto limayamba.

Mumayamba kulekana muukwati pamene malo omwe munasangalala nawo ayamba kusokoneza ubalewo. Mumasangalala m’malo mwanu ndipo mukangosonkhana mumamva kuti muli m’banja losasangalala.

Zizindikiro 7 Zochenjeza Kuti Mukulekana Muukwati

Kulekana m’banja si chinthu chongochitika mwamsanga. Maanja amayamba kupitilira kukopeka ndi kutengeka komwe kumakhala chikondi, koma osati choyambirira. Maudindo, zolinga za ntchito, zokhumba zaumwini, ndi zinthu zina miliyoni zimapangitsa chikondi chokha kukhala chosakwanira kuchirikiza ukwati.

Maanja akuwona ngati ukwati wawo ukukulirakulira chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti mmodzi wa iwo akusintha. Komabe, pali zizindikiro zina zochenjeza za inu ndi mnzanuyo mukulekana muukwati, ndipo ngakhale zingasiyane kwa maanja osiyanasiyana, chikhalidwe chake chimakhalabe chimodzimodzi. Kodi mwamuna wanu adayendera maganizo? Mwina simunazindikire.

1. Simukuchitiranso zinthu limodzi

Okwatirana nthawi zonse amakhala ndi chinthu chawo. Kaya ndi Lachisanu usiku kapena Loweruka ndi Lamlungu kuonera, inu nonse mumakonza zoti muchite limodzi. Nonse mungakhale pansi ndikusankha limodzi malo odyera omwe mungasankhire mausiku.

Tsopano, nonse simusamala komwe mungapite chifukwa nonse mulibe nthawi yosankha malo odyera. Pankhani yochitira zinthu limodzi, nonse mumakayikira ndipo mumakonda malo anuanu.

2. Nonse simukukambirana za tsogolo

Maukwati amangokhalira kukonzekera zam'tsogolo. Onse ogwirizana amapanga mapulani awo akanthawi kochepa monga kupita kutchuthi, kukhala ndi ana, ndi zina zotero komanso mapulani a nthawi yayitali monga kuyika ndalama pamodzi, kugula galimoto kapena nyumba.

Ngati nonse simulankhulanso za m’tsogolo, n’chifukwa chakuti tsogolo lanu silikukukhudzaninso. Nonse mulibe nazo ntchito zokhala ndi ana kapena kupita kutchuthi. Chilichonse chakhala chachilendo.

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3. Simukugonana

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofiira za kukula padera ndikuti inu nonse sakugonananso. Kuwala muukwati wanu kwatha ndipo nonse mukukhala ngati alendo awiri omwe akugawana bedi limodzi.

Kugonana kumanena zambiri za ubwenzi mu chiyanjano monga kugonana sikungokhudza kugwirizana kwa thupi koma kugwirizana kwamaganizo komwe nonse mumagawana pamodzi.

Ngati nonse mulibe zokambirana za pilo mutatha kugonana, zikuwoneka kuti nonse muli kutaya chidwi mwa wina ndi mzake ndi kukula mosiyana.

4. Nonse mwasiya kulankhulana

Nonse simudziwa kulankhulana. Nthawi zonse pamakhala nkhani zazing'ono ngati mukufuna chakudya chamadzulo chiyani? Kapena mudzabwera kunyumba nthawi yanji? Koma kumeneko sikulankhula kwenikweni.

Anthu awiri okwatirana amakambirana nkhani zapamtima kwambiri ndipo amafunsana za tsiku lawo kapena amanyozana pa zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Kodi munangokumbukila mmene nonse munalili? Ngati nonse simulinso anthu ofanana, pali kuganiza kuti muchite.

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5. Nonse mukukula m'maganizo

Nonse mumawonana ngati anthu abwinobwino. Mgwirizano wamalingaliro womwe nonse munali nawo ukutha. Mwinanso mmodzi wa inu wayamba kufunafuna kukhutitsidwa maganizo kwina.

Nonse simugawana zinthu zamphamvu wina ndi mnzake. Kumbali ina, nonse mukuyamba kukwiyitsidwa ndi kukhalapo kwa wina ndi mnzake. Anthu okwatirana akayamba kuona mnzawoyo ngati munthu wina, ndiye kuti akupezako okhudzidwa pang'ono ndi wina ndi mnzake.

6. Simusowa wokondedwa wanu

Kumbukirani masiku aja achibwenzi pamene nonse munkayembekezera kukumana. Mutha kuphonya mnzako ndikupitiliza kuyang'ana wanu foni kwa ma text ake.

Kodi inunso simukumvanso chimodzimodzi? Kodi mumamva bwino popanda mnzanu? Ngati mukumva bwino popanda mnzanu ndiye kuti mukuchoka kwa iye ndipo kusakhalapo kwake sikukuwoneka kuti sikukukhudzani momwe ziyenera kukhudzira okwatirana.

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7. Mumaona kuti ukwati wanu watha

Pamene mukukula kutalikirana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, mumamva ngati mukufuna kusiya ukwati wanu. Muli kumverera m'matumbo anu kuti banja lafika pachimake ndipo nonse simungathe kulikokanso. Mwayamba kuganiza za chisudzulo. 

Chiyembekezo chochepa chimene munali nacho ponena za ukwati wanu nachonso chimayamba kuchepa ndipo mumaona kuti palibe chimene chatsala m’banjamo. Mukudziwa kuti ukwati wanu watha.

Kupatukana m’banja sikutanthauza kuti ukwati udzatha. Muyenera kulankhulana ndi bwenzi lanu ndi kukambirana za mavuto a m’banja ndi kuyesetsa kuthetsa vutolo.

Pokhapokha ngati nonse muli ofunitsitsa kugwirira ntchito limodzi kuti muteteze ukwati wanu m’pamene mungathe kukonza zowononga za m’banja ndipo nthaŵi zina. uphungu waukwati akhoza kukuthandizani. Njira yabwino yopulumutsira ukwati ndiyo kupita chithandizo cha banja. Kukhala ndi lingaliro lachitatu losakondera kungakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanuyo kutsegula ndi kuzindikira mavuto enieni a banja. Ngati chiyembekezo chidakalipo, ukwati wanu ukhozabe kupulumutsidwa.

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