Magawo 21 A Ubale Wa Narcissistic Ndi Empath

Katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi pulofesa wa ku America Dr. Ramani Durvasula ananena kuti: “Katswiri wa zamaganizo ali ngati chidebe chobowola pansi: Ngakhale mutaikamo zochuluka bwanji, simungachidzaze. Inde, kudzikonda kuyenera kukhala mbali yofunika kwambiri ya moyo wathu. Koma pamene chikho cha kudzikonda chikusefukira ndipo narcissism kuyamba kusokoneza ubale wa munthu, ndi malo oopsa kukhalamo. Chabwino, nkhaniyi ifotokoza mozama mu Magawo 21 a ubale wankhanza ndi chifundo.

Mwina munaganizapo kale kuti ubwenzi woterewu uyenera kukhala wa mbali imodzi. Koma ndi zobisika zotani za maubwenzi oterowo ndipo mungayembekezere chiyani muubwenzi woyipa ngati uwu pakapita nthawi? Kodi ndi zizindikiro ziti zomwe narcissist akugwiritsa ntchito inu? Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani munthu wamatsenga akakumana ndi machesi ake? Kodi okondedwa angalolere kuzunzidwa m'maganizo mpaka liti ndi narcissist?

Tiloleni tikuthandizeni kuti mufufuze zovuta za ubale pakati pa narcissist ndi chifundo mothandizidwa ndi mlangizi wathu wamayanjano. Ruchi Ruu (Diploma ya Postgraduate in Counseling Psychology). Tikutsimikiza kuti podzamaliza kuwerenga nkhaniyi, mudzakhala mutaphunzira zambiri pamilumikizidwe yotere komanso kukhala ndi lingaliro lomveka bwino la
nthawi yobwerera m'mbuyo. Choncho, tiyeni tiyambe.

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Tisanalowe mwatsatanetsatane za magawo a ubale wodzikonda ndi munthu wokonda kumvera ena chisoni, tiyeni tiwone mawu awiriwa akuti 'wodzikonda' ndi 'wokonda kumvera ena chisoni' ndikupeza momwe aliyense amasiyanirana ndi wina. Kuchokera ku munthu wa nthano zachi Greek Narcissus, msaki yemwe adakondana ndi kusinkhasinkha kwake m'madzi chifukwa cha chilango, kudzikonda ndi vuto la umunthu lomwe limakhudza kudziona ngati wofunika kwambiri, mpaka kufika podzidera nkhawa kwambiri.

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Komano, omvera chisoni ndi anthu omwe, mwa mawu amalingaliro, amawonetsa chifundo chambiri, kapena chifundo kwambiri kwa anthu ozungulira. Anthu okhudzidwa kwambiri awa amatha kusamala za ena mpaka kunyalanyaza zosowa zawo ndi zofuna zawo.

Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa narcissist ndi empath?

Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, mphamvu zamaganizo za munthu wodzikonda kwambiri ndi zovuta kwambiri moti munthu sanganene kuti alibe chifundo. Ndipotu, kafukufuku wina adawonetsa kuti anthu odzikonda kwambiri samangokhala opanda chifundo . Anthu odzikonda kwambiri amakhala ndi chifundo chosagwira ntchito chomwe chimadalira zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi chifundo komanso momwe zinthu zilili.

Koma sizikunena kuti chisoni ndi narcissist ndizosiyana malinga ndi zosowa ndi khalidwe lawo. Ruchi akufotokoza kuti: “Wachifundo ndi munthu wachifundo kwambiri amene amadziŵa kumvera chisoni ndi kuzindikira malingaliro a anthu ena.” Empaths ali ndi makhalidwe monga:

• Maluso omvetsera mwachidwi
• Kutengera mitundu yopanda mawu
• Kuwerenga malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro
• Kupangitsa anthu kukhala osangalala ndi omasuka pamene ali nawo, nthawi zambiri zimatengera moyo wawo
• Kuyesera kupeza zinthu zabwino pakati pa chisokonezo

Ruchi anawonjezera kuti, “Komabe, munthu wongopeka ndi munthu amene akufunafuna munthu waluso limeneli.” Zina mwa zizolowezi za narcissistic ndi izi:

• Kufunika kokonda kwambiri ndi chikondi
• Kufuna kulamulira ndi kukhala ndi mphamvu pa anthu ena
• Grandiosity, kapena kudzikuza
• Khalidwe lofuna chidwi
• Manipulative chikhalidwe
• Kulephera kusonyeza chifundo

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"Monga tonse tikudziwira, zotsutsana zimakopa." Chifukwa chake, popeza chifundo sichikhala ndi malire abwino, anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic amakonda kuloŵa malire ofookawo. Kuphatikizika kwachifundo-narcissist kumawoneka ngati banja loyenera, koma maubwenzi oterowo ali odzaza ndi chinyengo ndi kudzikonda ndipo posakhalitsa amakhala poizoni kwambiri," akutero Ruchi.

Kodi mawonekedwe a narcissist chifundo chaubwenzi kapena ubale ndi chiyani?

Tsopano popeza tikudziwa kuti anthu omvera ena chisoni ndi olankhula nkhanza amakopeka ndi wina ndi mnzake, tiyeni tiwone zomwe zimachitika akalowa muubwenzi. Chabwino, ndizodziwika bwino kuti chikoka champhamvu cha narcissist ndi chidaliro chabodza chimakopa chidwi ngati maginito. Koma kodi maubwenzi oterowo amagwira ntchito bwanji pakapita nthawi? Tiwona mbali zingapo za ubale kapena ubwenzi pakati pa munthu wankhanza ndi womvera chisoni. Nawa:

● Anthu odzikonda amalamulira anthu odzikonda : Anthu odzikonda amasangalala ndi kukongola komanso kutsimikiza mtima kwa anthu odzikonda. Ndipotu, munthu wodzikonda amakopa munthu wodzikonda ndi chinyengo chodzidalira.

● Anthu odzikonda okha amasonyeza kuti ndi abwino : Poyesa kudzionetsa ngati akazi abwino , amuna, kapena okwatirana nawo, anthu odzikonda okha nthawi zina amaonetsa makhalidwe a anthu odzikonda okha. Motero, munthu wodzikonda amamva kuti wapeza mnzake woyenera mwa munthu wodzikonda okha.

● Chimasintha kukhala ubale wodzipereka kwa Mulungu : Ruchi akuti, “Kudzikuza kwa munthu wodzikuza kuli ngati kwa nyenyezi ya kanema. Anthu odzikuza amaoneka ngati anthu ofanana ndi Mulungu kwa anthu odzikuza, pomwe anthu odzikuza amakhala mafani awo kapena odzipereka. Ngakhale anthu odzikuza nthawi zonse amafuna kutsimikiziridwa, mafani awo (odzikuza) nthawi zonse amawalimbikitsa ndi kuwalambira ngati Mulungu. Anthu odzikuza nthawi zambiri amawapatsa mphatso, kuyamika, ndi chilimbikitso.”

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● Anthu okonda kudzikuza amadandaula ndipo anthu okonda kudzikuza amawalamulira : Ubale wa anthu okonda kudzikuza umaphatikizapo kudandaula, pomwe anthu okonda kudzikuza amakhalapo nthawi zonse kuti ayankhe mwachikondi ndi chifundo. Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, “Anthu okonda kudzikuza nthawi zonse amakhala osagwirizana ndi dziko lapansi ndipo amaganiza kuti aliyense akutsutsana nawo ndipo palibe amene amawakonda. Anthu okonda kudzikuza amapereka malo otetezeka kuti awathandize kudzimva bwino ndipo, nawonso, amakhala anthu oti awagonjetse.”

● Anthu okonda kunyada amalamulira anthu ena : Anthu okonda kunyada amakhala okonda kunyada ndipo nthawi zambiri sadziimba mlandu chilichonse chikachitika choipa. Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, “Zinthu zikayenda molakwika, anthu okonda kunyada amagwiritsira ntchito anthu okonda kunyada, koma anthu okonda kunyada sazindikira kuti akuyendetsedwa.”

● Anthu Okonda Kudzikuza Anthu Okonda Kudzikuza : Anthu Okonda Kudzikuza mwanjira ina amawatsimikizira anthu okonda kudzikuza kuti ayenera kudzikonza okha. Ruchi akufotokoza kuti, “Munthu wokonda kudzikuza akaimba mlandu kapena kudzudzula munthu wokonda kudzikuza, munthu wokonda kudzikuza amayesa kusintha yekha, popanda kuwafunsa mafunso. Amagwera mumsampha wa munthu wokonda kudzikuza .”

● Anthu okonda kudzikuza amakhala oteteza anthu okonda kudzikuza kenako n’kuwazunza : Chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa anthu okonda kudzikuza kukhala okonda kudzikuza kukhala okonda kudzikuza ndi chakuti anthu okonda kudzikuza amakhala okonda kudzikuza kukhala ...

Magawo 21 A Ubale Wa Narcissistic Ndi Empath

Kuvuta kwa ubwenzi wa munthu wodzikonda komanso wokonda kukonda zinthu zina kapena ubale wake ndi kwakukulu kwambiri moti akatswiri a zamaganizo aika izi m'magulu. Ngakhale kuti magawo a ubale wodzikonda nthawi zina samakhala ofanana nthawi zonse, amakhulupirira kuti maubwenzi onse a munthu wodzikonda komanso wokonda kukonda zinthu zina amadutsa mu dongosolo lomwelo. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tifufuze mozama za ubale wosangalatsawu ndikupeza zambiri zokhudza ubale wodzikonda:

Kuchita bwino

Mu gawo lokonzekera bwino, narcissist amadziwonetsa ngati munthu wabwino, wodzaza ndi chithumwa, chithumwa, komanso kuzama kwaluntha. Amawoneka opanda cholakwa ndipo nthawi zambiri amayesa kufanana ndi chifundo kapena kuwonetsa zosowa ndi malingaliro awo. Ichi ndi chiyambi cha kukopa kwakukulu pakati pa narcissist ndi chifundo, momwe chifundo chimayamba kukondweretsa wokondedwa wawo. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe gawoli likukhudza:

1. Chikondi chophulitsa mabomba

Mu gawo loyamba, munthu wodzikonda amayesa kusokoneza malingaliro ake ndi mawu amphamvu a chikondi, omwe amadziwikanso kuti kuphulika kwa chikondi . Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, "Wodzikonda adzakusangalatsani mwa kukupatsani chikondi chopitirira muyeso ndikukupatsani mphatso, kuyamika, PDA, ndi kulengeza chikondi chanu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Amakuwonetsani kuti amakuyamikirani kwambiri, zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala paubwenzi wapamtima mwachangu."

Koma kodi mungasiyanitse bwanji pakati pa kuphulitsa chikondi ndi chisamaliro chenicheni? Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit anati, "Nthawi zambiri kuphulitsa chikondi kumawoneka mwachangu kwambiri" kenako anawonjezera kuti, "Chisamaliro chenicheni chimadalira kwambiri kulemekeza malingaliro anu, komanso kukhala omasuka kukambirana zinthu popanda kuyenda mozungulira."

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2. Chithunzi chovomerezeka

Gawo lachiwiri limakhala ndi anthu ochita zamatsenga omwe amadziwonetsera okha ngati anthu opanda chilema, odzidalira komanso opambana. Amakupangitsani kumva ngati mumagawana zomwe mumakonda, zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda. Amatengera zomwe mumakonda. Ruchi akufotokoza kuti: “Choncho ngati mumakonda ndale, amayamba kulankhula za ndale.

3. Kukula kofulumira kwa ubale

Nthawi zambiri, maubwenzi amapita patsogolo ndi okondedwa omwe amayamba kukondana ndikuzindikirana pakapita nthawi. Koma muubwenzi wa narcissist-empath, narcissist amakoka chifundocho mu ubale weniweni kuyambira pachiyambi. Choncho, narcissist akhoza:

• Yambani kukambirana za m'tsogolo
• Yambani kupanga mapulani mopambanitsa
• Kambiranani za kudzipereka ndi a maubale okhalitsa

Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, “Mwa kusonyeza mbali yokongola imeneyi ya iwo eni, anthu okondana narcisists amatsekereza kumverana chisoni m’maubwenzi apamtima.”

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Kusokoneza

Pamene ubale ukupita patsogolo, gawo lochepetsetsa limayamba, ndi narcissist kuthetsa mwadzidzidzi chikondi ndi kupembedza komwe amamupatsa mnzake wachifundo. Empaths mwadzidzidzi amadzipeza akudzudzulidwa ndikuwunikiridwa ndi ndemanga zoyipa za narcissist. Iwo amanyozedwa ndi narcissist ndipo samadzimva kukhala ofunika monga momwe analili m'masiku oyambirira a chiyanjano.

4. Kutsutsa ndi kutsutsa

Gawo lachinayi limayamba ndi hyper-negativity. Ruchi anawonjezera kuti: “Nditayamikira kwambiri pa chiyambi, siteji imeneyi imakhala yopweteka kwambiri.” Mwadzidzidzi, anthu okonda zamatsenga amayamba kupeza zolakwika, kapena kulankhula za zolakwa zazing’ono zomwe zinalibe kanthu m’mbuyomo. Zikatero, narcissists akhoza kutsutsa chisoni:

• Views
• Jobs
• Maonekedwe a thupi
• Zakwaniritsidwa

Anthu okonda kudzikuza amanyalanyaza mosavuta chilichonse chabwino chokhudza anthu okondana ndipo zimenezi zimapangitsa kuti anzawo asamadzilemekeze .

5. Kusokoneza maganizo ndi nkhanza

Munthawi imeneyi, anthu ochita zamatsenga amapita ndi zikhadabo zawo. Amayamba kuchita zinthu zomwe zingapangitse munthu kudzimvera chisoni. Ruchi akufotokoza kuti: “Panthawi imeneyi, munthu wachifundo angayambe kukayikira ngati ali ndi poizoni.

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6. Kusasonyeza chikondi ndi chisamaliro

Mu gawo lachisanu ndi chimodzi, chidwi chomwe chinali chochuluka mu gawo loyamba chimakhala chochepa. Ruchi anawonjezera kuti, “A Narcissists amaletsa chikondi ndi kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe mozindikira mu siteji iyi. Amazizira modabwitsa.” Ndipotu izi
ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe narcissist akugwiritsa ntchito inu kapena kusatetezeka kwanu kuti apindule.

7. Zowopsa zakusiyidwa

Chotsatira, pakubwera chida chokonda kwambiri cha narcissist: mantha osiyidwa, omwe angakhalepo kale chifukwa cha kukhudzidwa kwawo. Narcissist amakonda kutengera mantha akumva omwe amamvera chisoni kuti asasiyidwe, ndipo pamapeto pake izi zimabweretsa kukhumudwa. M'malo mwake, pofika pano, mwina ayamba kale kuyatsa koyamba ndipo mnzawo yemwe amamumvera chisoni mwina akufuna kuvomerezedwa ndi narcissist.

Ruchi akufotokoza kuti, "Mwadzidzidzi, chifundo chimakhala chachabechabe komanso chosayenera. Panthawiyi, anthu osokoneza bongo amatha kuyesa kutsimikizira mphamvu zawo ndi kulamulira. Amayamba kukuopsezani kudzera m'mawu awo ndi zochita zawo. Zili ngati ngati simuchita zinthu molingana ndi iwo, iwo adzakusiyani. Chikondi ndi mankhwala kwa chifundo tsopano ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuti iwo amvetse zomwe zimachititsa mantha. Nkhawa Ngati munthu wamwano akuchitira nkhanza mnzake amene amamumvera chisoni, nayenso akhoza kuyamba kudziona ngati wosafunika.”

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kuyatsa gasi

Gawoli likukhudza machenjerero achinyengo omwe anthu okonda kunyoza anzawo amagwiritsa ntchito kuti awononge malingaliro a anzawo pazochitika zenizeni. Amauza anzawo omwe amawamvera chisoni kuti zenizeni zawo sizowona, ndipo omvera amayamba kukayikira kuti ali ndi malingaliro abwino. Tiyeni tiwone magawo osiyanasiyana a gawoli:

8. Kukana zenizeni

Kuyatsa gasi kumayamba ndi narcissist kukana zenizeni za empath kapena zokumana nazo. Zikatero, iwo akhoza:

• Pewani malingaliro a chifundocho, kunena zinthu monga “Mwangochita mopambanitsa.”
• Muzikana zimene zinachitika, mwa kunena zinthu monga “Kodi mukutsimikiza kuti zimenezo zinachitika?
• Yesetsani kutsimikizira chifundo kuti amakumbukira zinthu molakwika
• Kusintha nkhani molingana ndi zofuna zawo Izi zimabweretsa chisokonezo chachikulu m'malingaliro a omvera.

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9. Kusintha kwa mlandu ndi kusowa udindo

Pa gawoli, anthu odzikonda amayamba kuimba mlandu anzawo kuti akusokoneza kapena kukokomeza. Ruchi akuti, "Anthu odzikonda amayamba kusintha zinthu ndipo amayamba kuimba mlandu anthu ena kuti akusuntha . Chifukwa chake, ngati akunama kapena akunyenga, amaimba mlandu anthu odzikonda chifukwa cha zochita zawo zoopsa. Ngati ayenera kukhala ndi udindo, amapangitsa anthu odzikonda kumva kuti sakuchita zokwanira. Iyi ndi njira yobisika yosocheretsa."

Zikatero, mutha kupeza munthu wolankhula narcissist akunena zinthu monga:

• Nanga bwanji ngati ndimatumizirana mameseji ndi mthandizi wanga?
• Inde, ndikudziwa kuti ndikanalipira lendi pa nthawi yake mwezi watha, koma simunandikumbutse ngakhale pang'ono.

10. Kuchepetsa ndi kupeputsa nkhawa zanu

Narcissists tsopano amasiya kutsimikizira nkhawa zanu ndipo ayenera kunena kuti mumadandaula nthawi zonse. Ruchi anawonjezera kuti: “Kumasuka kwanu sikulinso kofunika kwa iwo.
kudzidalira kwa munthu womvera chisoni.” Nachi chitsanzo chimodzi:

Rita, mnzanga, anali ndi mwamuna wodzikonda , Chris. Ngakhale poyamba ankaoneka ngati banja lokondana, zinthu zinasintha pambuyo pake. Panthawi ina, chilichonse m'miyoyo yawo chinkadalira zomwe Chris ankafuna. Pamene Rita adadandaula kuti wakhala akuzunzidwa kuntchito yake yatsopano, Chris adati mwina anali kukokomeza. Rita nthawi zambiri ankatopa kwambiri atatha ulendo wautali ndipo ankaitanitsa chakudya m'malo mophika. Chris nayenso anali ndi vuto ndi zimenezo ndipo anamuimba mlandu chifukwa chokhala waulesi, ponena kuti akazi onse ayenera kudziwa momwe angasamalire amuna awo. Iyi ndi nkhani yodziwika bwino ya khalidwe lodzikonda lochepetsa nkhawa za mnzawo.

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11. Chisokonezo ndi kutsutsana

Narcissists amakonda kupanga nyengo yotentha komanso yozizira pomwe malingaliro osagwirizana amabwera nthawi zambiri. Izi zikuphatikizapo:

• Kulankhula zotsutsana
• Kusintha mbali zambiri
• Kukuwonetsani chikondi tsiku lina ndikudzipatula tsiku lotsatira

Ruchi akufotokoza kuti: “Kusagwirizana kumeneku kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwa mnzanu amene amamumvera chisoni kukhulupirira anthu olankhula narciss.

12. Kudzipatula ndi kudalira

Munthawi imeneyi, masewera onyenga a narcissist amafika pachimake. Amayamba kudzipatula kumvera chisoni kumachitidwe awo ena othandizira. Chifukwa chake, chifundo chimakhala chotanganidwa kuthana ndi chisokonezo mu ubale wawo, alibe nthawi yolumikizana kapena kufunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa achibale awo ndi anzawo.

Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, "Tsopano anthu okonda kumvera chisoni amasiya kuuza anzawo ndi achibale awo zakukhosi. Nthawi zambiri amachita izi kuti apewe kukwiyitsa wokondedwa wawo wokonda kumvera chisoni. Chifukwa chake, pali kudalira kwambiri munthu wokonda kumvera chisoni kuti atsimikizire zakukhosi kwawo . Anthu ambiri omwe akhudzidwa ndi kupusitsidwa koteroko amamva kuti ali mumsampha ndipo amasiya kudalira momwe akumvera kapena momwe amaonera zenizeni."

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Chithandizo Chachete

Muchikozyano eechi, musyobo uusyomeka ulakonzya kugwasya bamwi kuti ‘bamuswiilile’ pesi tabamuswiilili. Iyi ndi njira ina yopusitsa maganizo ya narcissist ndipo ili ndi zotsatira zowononga kwambiri. Komanso nthawi zambiri zimadzetsa nkhawa kwa mnzanu womvera chisoni. Tiyeni tiwone magawo a gawoli:

13. Kuyimitsa kulankhulana

Iyi ndi imodzi mwa magawo opweteka kwambiri paubwenzi wodzikonda, chifukwa kulankhulana konse kapena kwakukulu pakati pa wodzikonda ndi wokonda kumvera kumasiya. Iyi ndi nkhani yakale ya kusokoneza maganizo kwa wokonda kumvera . Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, "Mnzanu wodzikonda, yemwe kale anali wolankhula kwambiri, mwadzidzidzi amasiya kulankhulana. Amakupangitsani kumva kuti atsala pang'ono kukusiyani. Posakhalitsa, chetecho chimamveka ngati kusweka. Pali kuchotsedwa kwathunthu kwa ubale ndi chisokonezo chachikulu. Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuti wokonda kumvera azifunidwa chidwi."

14. Kuwongolera maganizo

The narcissist, mu siteji iyi, ali ndi udindo pa chifundo maganizo. Mugawo ili:

• Chisoni amasiyidwa akumva kuti ali ndi vuto ndipo amatha kumva kuti narcissist akukoka zingwe zawo
• The chifundo, pamene watsekedwa kapena osacheza nawo pa social media ndi njira zina zoyankhulirana, amayamba kufunafuna mnzake wa narcissist kapena kufunsa anthu komwe ali.
• Chisoni alibe njira yodziwira zomwe zikuchitika mpaka pokhapokha ngati narcissist ayambanso kuyankhulana.

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Hoovering

Kudzikuza ndi gawo lomwe limapeza munthu wodzikonda akuyesera kubwezeretsa ubale kapena kunamizira kuti akuchita zimenezo. Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, "Wodzikonda, yemwe anali kuthawa kwakanthawi ndipo anali atatseka njira zonse zolumikizirana, tsopano mwadzidzidzi amabweranso ndikuyesera kubwezeretsa ubalewo." Nazi magawo ena a gawoli:

15. Kuwombera kwachikondi II

Uku ndikubwerera kwa gawo lophulitsira chikondi ndipo amadziwika ndi:

• Mwadzidzidzi mopitirira muyeso chidwi
• Kutamandidwa
• Kulumikizana kosalekeza

Ruchi akufotokoza kuti, "Apa ndipamene munthu wonyadayo apanganso ubale wabwino, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala ndi chiyembekezo pa ubalewo."

16. Kupepesa ndi malonjezo abodza

Apa ndi pamene narcissist amalonjeza kusintha okha ndi zinthu. Ruchi anati: “Munthu wachifundo angaone ngati munthu wankhanzayo akuvomereza zolakwa zawo ndipo pamapeto pake amazindikira zolakwa zawo.
wolankhula narcissist, chifukwa kupepesa ndi malonjezo akumva zenizeni komanso kuchokera pansi pamtima. "

Kotero, mu gawo ili, mukhoza kuona narcissist akunena zinthu monga:

• "Ndikulonjeza, ndidzakudziwitsani nthawi ina."
• Ndikudziwa kuti nthawi zina ndimatha kuchita zinthu mosaganiza bwino.
• Pepani kuti ndakupangitsani kumva choncho. Izi sizichitikanso, ndikulonjeza.

17. Gulu lachiwembu lachiwembu

Pa gawo ili, munthu wodzikonda amayesa kudzionetsa ngati wozunzidwa. Amakupangitsani kumva kuti simukuyesera kulankhulana ndipo ndinu woopsa. Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, "Anthu odzikonda amachepetsa nkhanza zawo zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo ndipo amachititsa kuti munthu wodzikonda amve ngati wozunza. Amayambanso kuuza munthu wodzikonda nkhani za maubwenzi awo akale kuti amve chisoni."

18. Anyani akuuluka

Pamene njira zawo zonse zalephera, nkhanza zodzikuza zimapita pamlingo wina mwa kugwiritsa ntchito thandizo la anyani ouluka, kapena mabwenzi ogwirizana ndi ogwirizana. Malumikizano amenewa amakhala odzetsa mtendere. Pazochitika zotere, malumikizano ogwirizana akhoza:

• Limbikitsani kuti mukhululukire narcissist
• Khulupirirani m'matembenuzidwe a nkhani yanu omwe munthu wamatsenga angakhale atawauza
• Perekani narcissist zambiri za inu, popanda kufunsa inu
• Chotsani malingaliro anu
• Chepetsani malingaliro anu
• Gasi kapena kukunyengererani m'malo mwa narcissist
• Kufalitsa mphekesera kuti simukuchita mokwanira
• Musanyalanyaze umboni wotsutsana ndi munthu wamatsenga

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Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani anyani akuuluka kumbali ya narcissist? Chabwino, iwo akhoza kukhala ndi zifukwa zawo:

• Iwo angakhale akupindula ndi narcissist mwanjira ina
• Atha kukhala ndi nkhani zomwe simunathetse ndi inu
• Akhoza kungokhala okondweretsa anthu omwe safuna kukhumudwitsa wogwiritsa ntchito monyenga
• Iwo sangakhale ofunitsitsa kukhala m’mabuku oipa a narcissist

Ruchi akufotokoza kuti: “Modzidzimutsa pamakhala chitsenderezo chochuluka chofuna kuyanjananso.” Zimenezi n’zovuta kwa chifundo, chinthu chofanana kwambiri ndi zimene timaona m’zochitika zambiri za chisudzulo, pamene wolakwiridwayo amapangidwa kukhulupirira kuti afunikira kuyanjananso ndi kusasiya okwatirana.

Kutaya

Gawo lomaliza mwa magawo 21 a ubale wodzikonda ndi womvera chisoni ndi gawo la 'kutaya'. Gawoli ndi limodzi mwa zizindikiro zodziwika bwino zakuti wodzikonda watha nanu ndipo ndi lopweteka kwambiri kuposa onse. Ndi gawoli pomwe wodzikonda amathetsa ubalewo mwadzidzidzi ndikusiya wokondedwa wake. Chifukwa chake, palibe mwayi woti pakhale kutha pang'onopang'ono pazochitika zotere. Palibe kuthetsa mgwirizano kapena kupatukana mwamtendere. Tiyeni tiwone magawo a gawoli:

19. Kudzipatula kwadzidzidzi

Ndipotu uwu ndi njira yosungira chete yomwe munthu wodzikonda amathetsa ubale wake. Apa ndi pamene munthu wodzikonda amasankha kusiya njira zonse zolankhulirana ndipo mnzake wokonda kumvera chisoni satsala ndi chilichonse. Ruchi akuwonjezera kuti, "Wokonda kumvera chisoni sadziwa zomwe munthu wokonda kumvera chisoni akuchita kapena ngati pali tsogolo la ubalewo. Zikuoneka ngati imfa yadzidzidzi ya ubalewo ndipo zingayambitse kuvutika maganizo."

20. Nkhanza zamaganizo, popanda kutseka

Panthawi imeneyi, narcissist akhoza:

• Kuyitana mayina kapena nkhanza
• Pangani nkhani zabodza za mnzawo wachifundo

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Ruchi anawonjezera kuti: “Zimenezi zingachititse kuti anthu achifundo adzimve kunyozeka, kudyeredwa masuku pamutu, kuchititsidwa manyazi, ndiponso kusadzidalira, zomwe zingasokoneze mwachindunji kudzidalira kwawo.

21. Hoovering II

Munthu angaganize kuti munthu wodzikonda kwambiri watha ndi maganizo oipa pamene chibwenzicho chafika pa gawo lomaliza la 'kutaya'. Koma anthu odzikonda kwambiri amakonda kusokoneza njira yochiritsira ya okondedwa awo okondana nawo. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale chibwenzicho chitatha , munthu wodzikondayo angabwererenso nthawi ndi nthawi, akumayendayenda kwa zaka zambiri, osalola okondedwa awo kuwaiwala kapena kupitiriza. Zikatero, munthu wodzikonda kwambiri akhoza:

• Perekani kupepesa kwakanthawi kwa zaka zingapo, monga ngati “Pepani chifukwa cha zimene ndinakuchitirani. Kodi tingakhalebe mabwenzi?”
• Ndikutumizirani mphatso zodabwitsa
• Shower kuyamikira ndi chidwi pa chikhalidwe TV
• Ndikulakalaka pa tsiku lanu lobadwa kapena masiku apadera

Ruchi anawonjezera kuti, “Izi zimawononga mkhalidwe wamaganizo wa omvera chisoniwo, chifukwa angamve kukhala wowadyera masuku pamutu mobwerezabwereza, kwa zaka zambiri.

Nkhanza za dyera ndi msampha waukulu kwa munthu womvera ena chisoni. Monga tafotokozera kale m'nkhaniyi, muukwati womvera ena chisoni ndi wodzikonda, chibadwa cha munthu womvera ena chisoni kwambiri chimamupangitsa kukhala pachiwopsezo cha khalidwe loipa la munthu wodzikuza yekha. Ubale womwe umabwera pambuyo pake sumangopangitsa moyo wa munthu wodzikuza kukhala wopweteka komanso umakankhira munthu wodzikuza mpaka kufika poti sadzabwerera m'mbuyo pankhani ya thanzi la maganizo . Munthu wodzikuza, ngati atayamba khalidwe loipa chonchi, sangachire ndipo angapitirize kudzivulaza yekha komanso anthu ena m'kupita kwa nthawi.

Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti omvera abwerere m'mbuyo nthawi iliyonse akazindikira kuti akuchitiridwa nkhanza ndi abwenzi awo okondana kapena akuchitiridwa ukali. Mabanja a Empath-narcissist amathanso kusankha uphungu, popeza kukaonana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo kulibe njira ina. Chofunika kwambiri n’chakuti ayenera kupeza thandizo kuchokera kwa anzawo, achibale awo, ndi antchito anzawo kuti aone ngati zinthu zikuyenda bwino. Ngati ndinu munthu wachifundo yemwe wawona zizindikiro kuti narcissist wachita nanu, muyenera kuzindikira kufunika kwanu ndikugwira ntchito yodzisamalira. Kumbukirani, maubwenzi ankhanza adzatha tsiku lina. Chifukwa chake, musawononge thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndi kudzikonda kuti mukhale ndi munthu. Amasuke ku ulamuliro wa narcissist!

Ibibazo

Nkhanza Pamaubwenzi: Zizindikiro, Zotsatira ndi Momwe Mungapirire

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