Kuphunzira kukonza ubale wapoizoni kungakhale kovuta chifukwa zimatenga nthawi kuti anthu amvetsetse ndikuvomereza kuti ali m'modzi. Zimatenga nthawi kuti awone ubale woyipa ndikumvetsetsa psychology yokhala paubwenzi woyipa. Pamapeto pake, maubwenzi amakula ndipo kuwonongeka kwakukulu kumachitika.
Kuti mubwerere kuphompho ndikuthana ndi ubale wapoizoni, mufunika kuyendetsa kuti izi zitheke. Kuti mukonze ubale wapoizoni ndi bwenzi kapena bwenzi kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, muyenera kukhala ndi chidwi chogwira ntchito yomwe imafunika kuti muchotse chiwopsezo kapena chowawa paubwenzi wanu. Ngakhale pamenepo, kuthekera kothana ndi ubale woyipa ndikuupanga kukhala wothandiza sikophweka. Komanso sizichitika usiku umodzi.
Kugwira munthu wapoizoni kapena kukhala m'banja kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Koma musanayambe kulonjeza pa chifukwa ichi, tiyeni titenge kamphindi kuti timvetsetse momwe mungazindikire ubale wapoizoni. Tinalankhula ndi mlangizi Neelam Vats (wovomerezeka wa CBT ndi NLP practitioner), yemwe ali ndi zaka zopitirira makumi awiri akuthandiza ana, achinyamata ndi akuluakulu kuthana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, ubale wa anthu ndi ntchito, zokhudzana ndi zizindikiro ndi njira zothetsera ubale woopsa.
Chenjezo la Ubale Wapoizoni
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Mawu oti poizoni amagwiritsidwa ntchito kutanthauza ubale womwe mayendedwe amasokonekera mpaka kuti m'modzi kapena onse awiri ayambe kukhumudwa komanso kufooka m'maganizo. Nthawi zambiri, mgwirizano wapoizoni umadziwika ndi kusewera kwamphamvu komanso kulamulira. Izi zikutanthauza kuti pali mnzake wina wapoizoni yemwe khalidwe lake lodzikuza ndi lodzikonda limayamba kusokoneza mnzake.
Nthawi zina, komabe, chiwopsezo paubwenzi chikhoza kukhala njira ziwiri. Ndizothekanso kuti m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo anali ndi chizolowezi chobadwa nacho chapoizoni. Kuchita nawo kuvina kosayenera kumeneku kwapangitsa kuti mnzakeyo amwe mowawo.
Mulimonsemo, kukhala paubwenzi wapoizoni ndi chinthu chosasangalatsa komanso chodetsa nkhawa chomwe chingawononge thanzi lanu komanso malingaliro anu. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuwona kuti zoyipa zomwe zili muubwenzi wanu zimaposa zabwino, tcherani khutu kwa izi zizindikiro zochenjeza za ubale wapoizoni. Mukadziwa kuti ndi ubale wowopsa, mutha kudziwa zomwe mungachite.
- Kuyankhulana kwaudani: Kulankhulana ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mugwirizane bwino. Malinga ndi kunena kwa Neelam, “Kulalata, kugwiritsira ntchito mawu opweteka, kuponyera kapena kuthyola zinthu, kusalankhula mnzawo, kapena kupatsana mlandu ndi zina mwa zizindikiro za kusamvana m’chibwenzi.” Ngati simukulankhulana bwino ndi wokondedwa wanu, mgwirizano wanu kapena mgwirizano wanu ukhoza kukhala wowopsa
- Khalidwe lolamulira: Kaŵirikaŵiri khalidwe loterolo limabwera chifukwa cha kusakhulupirirana kapena kufuna kudzilamulira. Neelam anati, “Ngati mnzanuyo nthawi zonse amakuuzani zomwe, malinga ndi iwo, zili zoyenera kuchita, kukuopsezani, kuyesa kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu pa moyo wanu, kupempha kuti mugwiritse ntchito zipangizo zanu, dziwani kuti akuyesera kukulamulirani ndipo ndi chizindikiro cha ubale woopsa.
- Kunama pafupipafupi: Malinga ndi Neelam, omwe ali paubwenzi woyipa amayamba kusakhulupirika. Nthaŵi zambiri amanama ponena za kumene ali, anthu amene amakumana nawo, kapena zinthu zimene amachita. Zingakhale chifukwa akuda nkhawa kuti mnzake wapoizoniyo angatani ngati atauzidwa zoona kapena sakufuna kucheza naye.
- Kupanikizika kosalekeza: Muubwenzi wapoizoni, okondedwa amakhala opsinjika nthawi zonse, makamaka omwe ali kumapeto kwa kawopsedwe, akufotokoza Neelam. Nthawi zonse amamva kutopa komanso kutopa. Nthawi zonse amakhala m'mphepete mwa nkhani zazing'ono kapena palibe nkhani. Mavuto akunja okhudzana ndi banja, ntchito, kapena abwenzi angayambitsenso kupsinjika muubwenzi
- Kudzinyalanyaza nokha ndi zosowa zanu: Chizindikiro chachikulu cha ubale wapoizoni ndi pamene mumadzinyalanyaza nokha ndi zosowa zanu. Ngati mwaiwala kudzisamalira, ndi chizindikiro chakuti ubwenzi wanu ukusokoneza maganizo ndi thanzi lanu. Ngati mukuchita zosemphana ndi zomwe mukufuna ndipo nthawi zonse mumachita zomwe mnzanu akufuna, nyalanyazani thanzi lanu, perekani nthawi yanu nokha, dziwani kuti ndi chizindikiro cha poizoni.
Psychology yaubwenzi wapoizoni ndiyovuta kuifotokoza. Anthu ena amakhala olamulira kwambiri, osokoneza komanso alibe malire ndipo zonsezi zimatha kuchokera ku zochitika zaubwana. Kukhala makolo poizoni monga mwana angatanthauze kuti mudzagwidwa mumkombero wa maubwenzi oipa moyo wanu wonse. Ngati mukuganiza kuti ubale wanu ngakhale zolakwika zake zonse zikuyenera kuwomberedwa kwabwino pakupulumuka, muyenera kupita patsogolo. Koma, musanachite zimenezo, tiyeni timvetse ngati n’zotheka kuti munthu wapoizoni asinthe.
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Kodi Munthu Wapoizoni Angasinthe?
Ngati mukukumana ndi zizindikiro zochenjeza za ubale woyipa, ndizachilengedwe kudabwa - kodi ubale wapoizoni ungakhazikitsidwe? Ndipo chofunika kwambiri n'chakuti, 'Kodi munthu wapoizoni angasinthe?' Chifukwa palibe chiyembekezo chokonza ubalewo ngati gwero la poizoni silikufuna kukonza. Ngati mukufuna kukonza ubale wapoizoni ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi, onse awiri ayenera kukhala okonzeka kuyesetsa kuti akonze.
Yankho lalifupi la mafunso amenewa ndi lakuti, inde. Komabe, si nthawi zonse njira yosavuta. Kaya munthu wapoizoni angasinthe kapena ayi zimadalira zinthu zambiri. Poyamba, onse awiri ayenera kukhala okonzeka kutembenuza tsamba latsopano ndikupeza njira zothetsera ubale woopsa. Pochita izi, udindo waukulu umagwera pa mnzake wapoizoni.
Ngati ali omasuka kugwira ntchitoyo, gwirani nawo ntchitoyo, mungagwire nawo ntchito limodzi ndi kupita patsogolo pang’onopang’ono. Komabe, kupeza munthu wapoizoni kuti ayang'anizane ndi machitidwe awo osayenera ndikuvomereza zolakwika zawo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kwambiri pazochitikazo. Zimafunika khama lokhazikika komanso lokhazikika kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo. Izi zitha kukhala zotopetsa.
Yankho lakuti 'kodi munthu wapoizoni angasinthe' limadaliranso chinthu china chofunikira - kaya ndi munthu wabwino kapena ayi. Ngati mnzanuyo ali ndi zizolowezi zina zoopsa kwa nthawi yowonjezereka kuti apirire mikhalidwe yovuta, mwayi woti asinthe ndi wodalirika. Komabe, ngati munthu ndi wozunza ndipo kuvutitsidwa maganizo kapena chiwawa ndizofala muubwenzi wanu, mwayi woti akonze ndi wochepa.
Kuphatikiza pa izi, zizolowezi za psychopathic kapena kuzolowera zitha kuthetsa chiyembekezo chilichonse chopita patsogolo. Mukawona ubale wapoizoni, muyenera kuyang'ana momwe zinthu zilili mwachidwi ndikuyimbira foni ngati mukufuna kukonza ubale wowopsa kapena kuika patsogolo chitetezo chanu.
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Palibe zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti mukonze ubale woyipa mukatha kutha. Pakhoza kukhala palibe mfundo iliyonse. Ubale wapoizoni umachitika pamene anthu apezeka kuti ali mumkhalidwe woyipa waubwenzi. Chifukwa chake, dynamic dynamic imagwira. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti izi zitha kukonzedwa ndi khama, kuleza mtima, nthawi, komanso kumvetsetsa za psychology yokhala paubwenzi woyipa.
Chofunikira chokha ndichoti onse awiri - amene amawonetsa zizolowezi zoyipa komanso amene amapirira - ayenera kukhala okonzeka kuvomereza udindo wawo pakupangitsa ubalewo kukhala woyipa. Kufunitsitsa kusintha kumachokera ku kuvomereza uku. Ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mwachita kufufuza moyo ndipo mukumva kuti ndinu okonzeka kusintha kuti mukhale bwino konzani ndikulimbitsa ubale wanu, malangizo awa 12 adzakuthandizani pakuchita kwanu:
1. Onani ngati ubale wosayenera ungathe kupulumutsidwa
Mukadziwa kuti ndi ubale wapoizoni, sitepe yoyamba iyenera kukhala kuyesa kuti ubale woyipa ungapulumutsidwe? Yankho la funsoli likudalira mmene zinthu zilili pa moyo wanu. Poizoni mu maubwenzi angakhalepo mosiyanasiyana. Kupatula apo, ena amakhala ndi poizoni kuyambira pachiyambi ndipo ena amakhala ndi chizolowezi ichi pakapita nthawi.
Muyenera kulingalira ndi kukhala oona mtima nokha ngati pali mwayi wochotsa poizoni muubwenzi. Dzifunseni nokha, kodi ndi koyenera kukhalabe muubwenzi wapoizoni? Ngati inde, muyenera kukambirana ndi okondedwa wanu ndikuyesa kufunitsitsa kwawo kusintha. Ngati nonse mukukwera, mutha kuyamba kusintha pang'ono tsiku lililonse.
Kutenga udindo pazochita zanu, kulimbikitsa chilungamo kulankhulana momasuka ndi bwino, kukonza zolakwika zanu ndikuyambiranso kulumikizana kwanu ndi mbali zina zomwe zimafunikira ntchito. Zimathandiza kugwira ntchito ndi wothandizira kapena mlangizi kuti muwonetsetse kuti zoyesayesa zanu zikuyenda bwino. Koma ngati mukuzunzidwa mwanjira ina iliyonse, ubale wanu ndi woopsa kwambiri moti simungathe kuupulumutsa. Muyenera kuyang'ana pa kupeza thandizo loyenera kuti musiye chiyanjano choterocho osati kukhala ndikuyesera kuti chigwire ntchito.
2. Pumulani pang'ono
Mukangoganiza momwe mungakonzere ubale wapoizoni ndi chibwenzi kapena bwenzi, kuchoka kwa mnzanu kwakanthawi ndi imodzi mwazochita zabwino kwambiri. Timavomereza kuti zikumveka zododometsa. Koma timvereni.
Neelam akufotokoza kuti, "Yang'ananinso zomwe mukufuna ndi malire anu. Dzichiritseni nokha. Mukakhala pamalo abwino m'maganizo, mudzatha kupanga zisankho zomveka komanso kuthetsa ubale woopsa." Mukakhala ndi mnzanu wapoizoni, chiweruzo chanu chimakhala chodetsedwa ndipo kudzidalira kwanu kumawonongeka. Kupatula nthawi iyi kumakupatsani mwayi wodzigwira nokha ndikuzindikira zomwe mukufuna pachibwenzi chanu.
Zidzakufikitsani kuzindikira kuti n'zotheka kukhala popanda mnzanu wapoizoni. Kuzindikira kumeneko kungakhale kopatsa mphamvu ndi kumasula. Ndizo zomwe muyenera kuthana ndi ubale wapoizoni ndikusintha kuti ukhale wabwino. Ndiye mutha kupanga chisankho mwanzeru ngati mukufuna kuchoka kapena kukhalabe ndikusintha ubale wanu kukhala wapoizoni kukhala wathanzi.
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3. Kodi mungakonze bwanji ubale wapoizoni? Phunzirani ABCD
Ayi, sitikukupemphani kuti mubwerere kusukulu. Tikukupemphani kuti muyang'anenso zoyambira paubwenzi wanu. M'maubwenzi oopsa kwambiri, izi zimawoneka ngati zoneneza, kudzudzula, kudzudzula ndi kufuna - ABCD.
Ngati zinthu izi ndizofala kwambiri muubwenzi wanu, dziwitsani mnzanuyo. Kenako, yesetsani kufufuza maganizo amenewa. Mwachitsanzo, mukamayesedwa kuti munene mnzanu za chinachake kapena mosemphanitsa, imani ndi kuganizira zochita zanu. Aliyense wa inu musanapereke zofuna zanu, yesani ngati zili zolungama.
Pakapita nthawi, mudzaphunzira kuyang'ana zizolowezi izi m'mayendedwe awo. Mukamagwira ntchito limodzi ngati gulu kutsata a vuto laubwenzi wamba, zimakuthandizani kuti mugwirizanenso.
4. Khalani otsimikiza kuti muthane ndi ubale wapoizoni
Neelam anati: “Kukhoza ndi kusankha kudzidalira kuli ndi thanzi labwino kusiyana ndi kuchita zinthu mwaukali zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawononga kwambiri anthu okwatirana.” Potsirizira pake, ubwenziwo umasokonekera ndipo umakhala unansi wapoizoni.
Mukakhala ndi bwenzi lapoizoni, malingaliro awo opondereza amakupitilirani mpaka malingaliro anu, zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu zimathetsedwa. Ku kumanga ubale wabwino wamphamvu, muyenera kuzindikiranso mawu anu ndikudzitsimikizira nokha. Siyani chizoloŵezi choyenda pazipolopolo za mazira mozungulira SO kapena kuchita mantha ndi kukwiya kwawo. Kudziletsa kufotokoza mmene mukumvera kumangokupangitsani kukwiyira mnzanuyo. Izi zidzapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale woopsa kwambiri.
Wokondedwa wanu sangadziwe n'komwe kuti khalidwe lawo likukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wonyozeka kapena wosaoneka. Chifukwa chake, gonjetsani mantha anu ndikufotokozerani nkhawa izi moona mtima. Funsani mnzanuyo kuti alingalire za khalidwe lawo ndi zotsatira zake pa inu. Pokhapokha mungayambenso kukhazikitsa mgwirizano wofanana mu ubale wanu.
5. Khalani owonekera
Izi ndizowonjezera kukhala wotsimikiza. Ubwenzi wapoizoni nthawi zambiri umasokonekera kotero kuti cholinga chonse chimakhala pa bwenzi limodzi. Pomwe winayo akuwoneka kuti alipo kuti awasangalatse ndikusewera ndi zofuna zawo. Kuti ubale ukhale wocheperako, muyenera kubwezeretsanso ubale wanu danga mu chiyanjano.
Pangani zomwe mukufuna, zokhumba zanu ndi zoyembekeza zanu ziwonekere. Neelam akufotokoza kuti: “M’maubwenzi ambiri oipa, kaŵirikaŵiri maganizo amakhala pa munthu mmodzi, zimene zingakuchititseni kumva kuti simukunyalanyazidwa ndiponso simukumvedwa.
Muyenera kukhala otsimikiza. Poyamba mnzanuyo amadana ndi kusunthaku koma ngati akufunanso kukonza zovuta zomwe zili muubwenziwo amazindikira pang'onopang'ono kuti muyenera kutsimikizira kuti ndinu munthu payekha. Iyi ndi njira yabwino yothetsera ubale wapoizoni.
6. Dzikhulupirireni nokha kuti muthane ndi maubwenzi owopsa
Mukayang'ana maubwenzi owopsa a psychology, kuwongolera, kuwongolera ndi kulamulira zimatuluka ngati mitu yofala. Mwa kudzudzula mosalekeza, kuyatsa gasi kapena kukuponyani mwala, mnzanuyo angakhale atayamba kulamulira maganizo anu moti simudzidaliranso. Neelam amalimbikitsa kukwera pamwamba pa masewera opusitsa ndi malingaliro.
Siyani chizoloŵezi chofuna kutsimikizira malingaliro anu. Tsatirani kumverera kwanu m'matumbo ndikuyimirirani pamene mumakhulupirira chinachake. Njira yokhayo yothanirana ndi ubale wapoizoni bwino ndikuchotsa zida zomwe mnzanuyo ali nazo. Kusawapatsa kufunika kungawachititse kukwiya msanga koma akazindikira kuti sangathe kuloŵa khoma limene mwamanga ndipo simukukhudzidwa ndi maganizo, pang’onopang’ono amabwerera m’mbuyo.
Neelam akufotokoza kuti, "Sankhani nkhondo zanu. Pewani kuwononga maganizo anu. Mukhoza kumvetsera koma samalani ndi kuchuluka komwe mumapereka. N'zovuta kukhala munthu wamkulu chifukwa chibadwa chathu, pamene tikuvutitsidwa, timadziteteza. Komabe, musalole kuti chilichonse chimene munthu wakuphayo achite chidzuke mwa inu. Ngakhale zitakupwetekani, yesetsani kukhala chete kapena kuchokapo."
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7. Khalani ndi zokambirana zosamasuka
Kukhala pachiwopsezo pamaso pa mnzako yemwe amasangalala ndi khalidwe lapoizoni kungakhale kovuta. Mofananamo, kuopa kukwiya koopsa kapena miyala zingakulepheretseni kukambirana nkhani zina zosasangalatsa. Koma simungapitirize kusesa zinthu pansi pa kapu ngati mukufuna kuchotsa poizoni pachibwenzi.
Neelam anati, "Kuti muyambitsenso chikondi chanu chomwe chikulimbana, muyenera kuyamba kuyika moyo wanu pachiswe. Mungathe kuyamba ndi kukambirana zofunika kwambiri, kufotokoza zoonadi zomwe mumabisira wokondedwa wanu. Khalani mukukambirana ngakhale pamene kuli kovuta komanso kochititsa mantha. Kukhala ndi makambitsirano olimbikitsa ndi ovuta ndi chinsinsi cha kukonza ubale woopsa."
Pamene mukuyembekezera kuti mnzanuyo akhale woona mtima ndi kubwera, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuchita chimodzimodzi. Izi zimaphatikizapo kuulula mtima wanu za zovuta zonse zomwe ubale wanu wakubweretserani. Komanso kukambirana momwe mukuwonera mkhalidwe wanu wapano ndi ziyembekezo zamtsogolo. Izi sizingakhale zinthu zophweka kunena kapena kumva. Koma ziyenera kunenedwa ndi kumva.
8. Lekani mabodza
Kunama ndi mutu wina womwe umabwerezedwa nthawi zonse pafupifupi paubwenzi uliwonse wosokonekera, woopsa. Si mnzake wapoizoni yekha amene amabisala kuseri kwa mabodza komanso mnzake winayo amangokhalira kunama kupewa mikangano kapena mikangano.
Tiyerekeze kuti mnzanuyo amakukanani kuti muzicheza ndi mnzanu winawake. Chifukwa chake, mumapanga chowiringula chokhudzana ndi ntchito kuti mupite kukadya nkhomaliro ndi bwenzi lanu. Kapena mnzako adakufunsani kuti mutsitse dry clean koma ikadali mgalimoto mwanu. Kuti musamve kuti, “O, simunapindule kanthu”, mumangonena kuti sitoloyo idatsekedwa.
Mabodza ang'onoang'ono awa ndi zobisalira zitha kuwoneka ngati zopanda vuto koma zimasokoneza njira yomanganso kukhulupirirana. Popanda kukhulupirirana, simungapeze chibwenzi kapena mnzanu kuti asiye kukhala poizoni. Malinga ndi a Neelam, kuti mukonze ubale woyipa, muyenera "kupewa kuchita zinthu zina zoyipa chifukwa izi zingobweretsa kusakhazikika m'moyo wanu."
9. Yang'anani kwambiri pa kuthetsa kusamvana
Kumene kuli chiwopsezo, payenera kukhala mikangano yozikidwa pa kusiyana maganizo, mkwiyo, mkwiyo ndi kupweteka. Simungathe kuthana ndi kawopsedwe popanda kuwoloka chopinga cha kuthetsa mikangano. Mu ubale wapoizoni, mikangano ndi ndewu nthawi zambiri zimakhala zoyipa kwambiri ndipo zimakhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa kwa onse awiri.
Onani njira zabwino zopezera gwero la zovuta zanu ndikuzichotsa kuti mupange tsogolo limodzi. Sikophweka kukonza ubwenzi woipa mukatha kutha, koma ngati muli ndi chikhumbo chofuna kukonza zinthu, mudzapeza njira. Muyenera kusintha njira yodzipatula ngati zinthu ngati izi zichitika. M'kupita kwa nthawi, mutha kupanga njira yothanirana ndi vuto lanu.
10. Zindikirani zoyambitsa
Munthu wapoizoni mwachionekere amakhala ndi mbiri yamavuto. Mwina anakulira ndi makolo oipa. Kapena anali ndi ubale wovuta ndi abale awo. Mwinamwake umodzi wa maubwenzi awo akale unali wapoizoni ndipo chizoloŵezicho chinawafikira. Kapena apanga mikhalidwe imeneyi ngati njira yodzitetezera polimbana ndi kupezerera anzawo.
Kumvetsetsa maubwenzi oopsa a psychology nthawi zambiri, komanso zomwe zimakuyambitsani mnzanuyo zitha kukufotokozerani momveka bwino. Kumveka bwino kumeneku kudzakuthandizani kuti muzitha kuyendetsa bwino ubale wanu. Pogwira ntchito kuchokera kumalo achifundo m'malo modzudzula, mutha kuchita bwino kuti mnzanuyo asiye kukhala poizoni. Iyi ndi njira yabwino yothetsera ubale wapoizoni.
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11. Pewani maganizo a munthu amene akuzunzidwayo
Inde, mwakhala mukuvutitsidwa ndi zinthu zambiri zosasangalatsa komanso zosasangalatsa. Koma ngati muika maganizo a munthu wochitiridwayo m’kati mwake, mudzakhala m’mavuto osatha. Komanso, kudziona kuti ndiwe wochitiridwa nkhanza kumatanthauza kuvomereza kuti palibe chimene mungachite kuti zinthu ziyende bwino. Kodi mungakonze bwanji ubale wapoizoni pomwe simungathe kutenga udindo pamalingaliro anu?
Kupatula apo, kumbukirani, kusankha kukhala kapena kuchoka nthawi zonse ndikwanu. Posankha kukhala, mwakhala bwenzi muubwenzi wapoizoni osati wozunzidwa. Izi zitha kuwoneka ngati zankhanza koma muyenera kuzimva kuti muzindikire kuti mphamvu yosankha ili ndi inu nthawi zonse. Tsopano popeza mwasankha kumvetsetsa momwe ubale wopanda thanzi akhoza kupulumutsidwa, kusadziona ngati wozunzidwa ndikofunikira kuti mupite patsogolo.
12. Kodi mungakonze bwanji ubale wapoizoni? Pezani thandizo
Ubwenzi wanu ukhoza kukhala wodzaza ndi mavuto omwe mumadzifunsa nthawi zonse kuti ndi koyenera kukhalabe paubwenzi woopsa. Ndi kukanika kochulukira kotereku komanso zovuta zofananira, kuchotsa kawopsedwe paubwenzi nokha sikungakhale kotheka. Njirayi ingatenge nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe iyenera kukhalira. Mwinanso mutha kuchita zovulaza kuposa zabwino.
Neelam amalimbikitsa kufunafuna chithandizo. Iye anati: “Kuchiza kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale bwino.” Chithandizo cha munthu payekha komanso kwa anthu okwatirana chimakulolani kuphunzira njira zina zochitira. samalira zoyembekeza ndi zovuta zina mu chiyanjano. Psychotherapy imathandiza makasitomala kuthana ndi ubale wapoizoni. Chithandizo cha Cognitive Behaviour Therapy chingathandize kukonza ubale womwe umagawana ndi mnzanuyo. ”
Ngati muli mumkhalidwe womwewo ndipo mukuyang'ana alangizi ophunzitsidwa bwino kuti akuthandizeni kuthetsa vutoli, gulu la Bonobology la akatswiri odziwa bwino komanso ovomerezeka amangodinanso pang'ono.
Tsopano popeza mwadziŵa kukonza unansi wapoizoni, ndi nthaŵi yoti mugwire ng’ombe imeneyi ndi nyanga zake ndi kuiloŵetsa m’malo.
Ngati zinthu sizikuyenda ngakhale mutayesetsa kwambiri, kusiya nthawi zonse ndiko kusankha. Chimodzi chomwe muyenera kuchita popanda kulakwa kapena chisoni.
Ibibazo
Mumagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse, kulamulidwa, kunyozedwa, kumenyedwa ndi miyala komanso kuzunzidwa muubwenzi wapoizoni. Simukumva chikondi ndi chisamaliro chamtundu uliwonse koma mumamva kuti mukadali pachibwenzi chifukwa cha chizolowezi.
Kuti mupulumuke mu ubale wapoizoni muyenera kudzitsimikizira nokha koma osasiya mkangano ukayamba. Muyenera kumveketsa malire anu ndipo ngati, pakufunika, sankhani uphungu.
Uphungu ungathandize kuthetsa ubale wapoizoni. Ochiritsa amagwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana kuti akuthandizeni kumvetsetsa nkhani ndikupeza njira zothetsera mavutowo. Koma si aliyense amene amapita kukalandira chithandizo kapena kuchitapo kanthu kuti athane ndi ubale wapoizoni. Zikatero, iwo kusiya ubale.
Munthu wapoizoni akhoza kusintha. Ngati zifukwa za poizoni wawo, zomwe makamaka zimachokera ku nkhani zaubwana wawo, zimayankhidwa, ndiye kuti akhoza kusintha. Koma si njira yophweka. Zitha kutenga nthawi kuti muchotse makhalidwe omwe amayamba ali aang'ono.
Kodi Nsanje Yathanzi Ingakuthandizeni Kumanga Maubwenzi Olimba?
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
