Zinthu 11 Zomwe Zimapangitsa Mwamuna Kubwerera Pambuyo Pakutha

Mumapeza mawu osamveka bwino. Ndi ex wanu. Uthenga wake wachititsa chidwi kwambiri. Koma gwirani! Yakwana nthawi yoti muunike momwe zinthu zilili popanda kugwera mumsampha wa uchi. Kodi simukufuna kudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kutha? Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani amakuchitirani zabwino mwadzidzidzi? 

Kuphulika kochokera m'mbuyomu nthawi zambiri kumakhala kosokoneza. Kubwerera uku kwa wakale kungakhale ndi zifukwa zambiri - kuyambira zenizeni mpaka zonyansa. Mwachitsanzo, kudziimba mlandu ndi komwe kumapangitsa mwamuna kubwereranso pambuyo pa kutha, koma chimodzimodzi. Ndikwanzeru kukhala tcheru munthu wakale akalowanso m'moyo wanu.

Zinthu 11 Zomwe Zimapangitsa Mwamuna Kubwerera Pambuyo Pakutha

Kalozera wa zomwe zimapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja ndi wotopetsa. Ndipotu, tonsefe ndife anthu ovuta omwe ali ndi malingaliro omwe amasefukira nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe tingafune kuvomereza. Chifukwa chake, mwachilengedwe, pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe wakale wanu wabwerera m'moyo wanu. Nditenga mwayi uwu kuwunikira zina mwazifukwa zabwino komanso zosakhala bwino zomwe wokonda wakale waganiza zobwezera. 

1. Amuna amabwerera akadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu

N’zoona kuti anyamata amayamba kukusowani mutatha kusudzulana. Akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro ambiri - kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa. Chimakhala ngati mwala waukulu m’mphepete mwa phiri, chikuyembekezera kugwa. Pachifukwa chotere, mwamunayo angakupepeseni ndikukhulupirira kuti walakwitsa kwambiri. Kupatula nthawi kungamupangitse kumva bwino muubongo wake, zomwe mukanaganiza kuti zinali zodzaza ndi utuchi.

Zili ndi inu kusankha momwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli. Kodi mukufuna kukhululuka ndi kusuntha, kapena kukhululuka ndikumulola kuti alowenso, kapena osamukhululukira nkomwe ndikumuletsa? Mukhululukireni, ngati n'kotheka - tengani msewu waukulu ndikumasula katunduyo. Komanso, popeza mukudziwa pang'ono zomwe zimapangitsa mwamuna kubwereranso pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja, mumapambana. Gwiritsani ntchito bwino.

2. Atha kubwera chifukwa wakusowani

Nthawi zina timakonda kukumbukira kukumbukira. Kuwala kwa mphindi yabwino yakale kungatipangitse kukhala okhumudwa kwambiri. Chinachake chonga chimenecho chingam’chitikirenso n’kumupangitsa kukusowani kwambiri. Ndiye nchiyani chimapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kutha? Chosowa choyipa chomwe chinasiyidwa ndi 'm'modzi'. Zimapsa wokonda. 

Ndi zoona akamati, musiye ndipo abweranso. Mnyamata amene wakusowadi adzapeza njira yobwerera kwa inu. Ngati mukuganiza zomuwonanso ndipo mukuganiza kuti zitha kugwira ntchito, pitani. Koma pondani mosamala. Tip-zala kwa masiku angapo ndi kusunga maganizo pa leash. 

Komabe, ngati mudasudzulanapo ndi munthu yemweyo kale, yang'anani m'mbuyo kukumbukira kwanu. Kodi munthuyo anali ndi khalidwe lotani atasudzulana nambala 1? Kodi mumaganiza kuti anyamata nthawi zonse amabwerera nthawi ikatha? Kodi wakhala ndi chizolowezi chosowa atasudzulana popanda kuyankha? Kodi mukufuna kuti chibwenzi chanu chakale chibwerere mwachangu? Ngati mafunso otere akukulepheretsani kugona, ndiye kuti ndi nthawi yoti musiye kumuyang'ana ndikudziyang'ana nokha. Palibe chonga kudzisamalira pang'ono.

3. Adzabweranso kwa inu ngati njira yake ina sinagwire ntchito

Nchiyani chimapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kutha? Mwina amene anakusiyani wamutaya. Chilungamo chapambana. Karma yachita matsenga ake. Kapena mwina anali munthu wolakwitsa kwambiri wopanda umunthu. Ma dumpers aamuna oterowo amabwereranso - amamera mwachisawawa patapita miyezi ingapo, ali ndi maso amisozi komanso chisoni cha mopey. Kodi mungatani ngati munthu woteroyo atayandikira pakhomo panu?

Anyamata ena amayamba kukusowani mutatha kusudzulana pazifukwa zawo zodzikonda. Amuna awa amtundu wa njuchi omwe amalumpha kuchokera kwa mnzake kupita kwa mnzake ndi odzikonda. Mwina simungafune kubwezanso munthu wotero m’moyo wanu. Koma kachiwiri, vuto lililonse ndi lapadera. Inu ndinu woweruza wabwino. Osamangomvera mawu ake okoma - yesani ndikusankha zomwe zimakupatsani mphamvu.

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4. Ma dumpers achimuna nthawi zonse amabwerera akafuna kugwirizana

Ndinali ndi mnzanga yemwe anali paubwenzi woopsa komanso woopsa. Mnzangayo adasiyana ndi mnyamatayo mliri wa 2020 usanachitike. Iwo anakhala chaka motalikirana mpaka iye anamuitana iye kuti amuitane zofunkha. Amuna amasowa akatha kutha, koma amabwerera ali ndi nyanga.

Ngati muli omasuka ndi lingaliro loti musinthe kukhala munthu wopanda malire, pitirizani. Pali ubwino woti wakale wanu adzadziwa zomwe mumakonda pa nkhani yogonana. Koma samalani! Musalole kuti kugonana kusinthe kukhala chikondi kachiwiri. Muyenera kudziwa zinthu zingapo zokhudza kugonana usiku umodzi musanachite chimodzi. Komanso, dziwani kufunika kwanu. Simungapitirize kusinthasintha ndi kusuntha kuti mupeze munthu woipa.

5. Akhoza kubwereranso chifukwa wasokonezeka ndi kutha

N’chiyani chimachititsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kusudzulana? Chisokonezo. Zambiri. Akhoza kukhala kuti anasudzulana nanu mwamantha kapena ndi maganizo osamveka bwino. N’zotheka kuti mwina sankafuna kuthetsa zinthu, koma nthawi ina yoipa inamugwera ndipo anaona zifukwa zomveka zothetsera chibwenzicho . Mwina sanali munthu wokhwima muubwenziwo ndipo tsopano mwatsala ndi vuto losasangalatsa komanso mwana wamwamuna.

Komanso, ngati kutha kwanu kudachitika mwadzidzidzi kapena kosokoneza, ndizotheka kuti mwina sanalandire kutsekedwa chifukwa chomwe ubalewo unatha. Atha kuyesa kulumikizana nanu - ichi ndi chikhalidwe cha anyamata akatha kutha. Ngati chidwi chake chili chowona ndipo ngati sakuthamangitsani kuti mupeze mayankho, ndiye kuti ndi njira yokhwima komanso njira yabwino yothetsera vutolo.

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6. Anyamata amayamba kukusowa akazindikira zomwe adataya

Nthawi zina, amuna amatha akatha chibwenzi ndipo amapeza rebound. Koma musiyeni, adzabweranso. Kuwala kwa rebound - vuto la mphamvu yamagetsi - kumachepa mwachangu kenako amazindikira zomwe ataya. Amuna oterewa angazindikire momwe adakhalira bwino ndi chibwenzi chawo chakale. Rebound imabweretsa kufananiza komwe kumafunika kwambiri ndipo amadandaula kuti adathetsa chibwenzi chawo . Amuna ena amafunika kuzindikira kuti nthawi zambiri amataya chibwenzi mwachangu popanda kuganizira kwambiri za chibwenzi chawo.

Nthawi zina kupatukana nthawi zambiri kumapereka malingaliro ofunikira komanso kumveka bwino. Akhoza kuyesa kulankhula nanu kuti akufotokozereni momwe wakhala akumvera nthawi yonseyi. Koma ngati nthawi yochuluka yadutsa, mwina mwapita kale. Zowona, anyamata nthawi zonse amabwerera nthawi yatha, sichoncho?

7. Amafuna zimene sangakhale nazo

Ma dumpers achimuna nthawi zonse amabwerera akakuwona mukuwala. Ganizirani izi - mutatha kupatukana, mwamugonjetsa. Ndiwe wokhazikika komanso woyendetsedwa, ndipo zikuwonetsa. Simunakhalepo bwinopo. Kaya kusintha kwakhala bwanji, iye waona. 

Angaganize kuti ndi nkhani yachinsinsi kwambiri ndipo angadabwe kuti mwamuthetsa bwanji ndi luso lake lotere. Ichi ndi chomwe chimachititsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kusudzulana - mtundu wanu watsopano. Palibe chokongola kuposa munthu wakale yemwe sakufunanso. Amuna amapenga pobwezeretsa mkazi ngakhale kuti ali ndi luso lotha kutha pambuyo pa kusudzulana. Adzayesa njira iliyonse kuti akope mtsikanayo kwa amene anawakana.

Ndikhulupirireni ine pa izi. Ngati mwasamuka, simukumufuna. Mwafika mpaka pano, kuti musagwerenso msampha wake. Kudziimira kwanu ndi kukopa ndi umboni waukulu wa mphamvu zanu. Pezani wina wofanana nazo.

8. Wadzigwira ntchito

Kudzizindikira ndi komwe kumapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera pambuyo pa kusudzulana. Ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndi chimodzi mwazochitika zabwino zomwe simungadandaule nazo pamene wakale wanu akuwonekera m'moyo wanu. Ngati mwamunayo wagwiritsa ntchito miyezi ingapo yosiyana kuganizira za iye mwini ndikusintha mbali zina za umunthu wake, zimasonyeza changu chake pakumanga ubale pambuyo pa chinyengo ndi kusudzulana pambuyo pake.

Ngati munasudzulana chifukwa cha zizoloŵezi zake zina ndi maganizo ake, angakupezeni kuti akuuzeni kuti wasinthiratu. Tsopano muyenera kusankha ngati ntchito imene wakupatsani ili ndi nkhani kwa inu kapena ayi. Zofananazo zinachitika ndi Rick ndi Natasha. Natasha, wojambula, anasiyana ndi Rick, mphunzitsi, chifukwa ankakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo monga njira yosangalatsa. Anafunikira kukhuta miyezi iwiri iliyonse. 

"Rick anganene kuti sichinali chizoloŵezi, koma nthawi yoyikidwa bwino yomwe amafunikira. Koma ndinawona kudalira kumapanga. Ndinayesa kumuuza kuti izi sizinali bwino kwa nthawi yaitali. Sanamvere ndipo ndinasiya, "adatero Natasha. Patatha zaka zitatu, anakumana ndi Rick yemwe anali ataledzera kwa zaka 1.5. Anayesetsadi kuti asiye kumwerekerako, ndipo kenako analumikizana naye. Tsopano ndi mabwenzi ndipo akuyesetsa kuchiritsa ndi kukonzanso ubale wawo.

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9. Kusungulumwa n’kumene kumapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera m’banja

Anthu ambiri osungulumwa amafikira kwa akale awo. Zimangotsimikizira kuti mukamusiya yekha, abweranso. Mwamunayo ayenera kuti amangoyang'ana zithunzi zanu zakale ndipo kusungulumwa kunamugunda. Chifukwa chake adakutumizirani mameseji kuti muwerenge vibe. Angaganize kuti mungamuuze mawu okoma mtima kuti adzimve bwino.

Komabe, dziwani kuti mwina sangakhale ndi chidwi ndi chilichonse chachikulu kapena cha nthawi yayitali - nthawi zambiri pamakhala zizindikiro zomveka bwino zoti sakukondani . Akhoza kukhala akungotulutsa kusungulumwa kwake, akuyembekeza kuti mumupatse chisamaliro.

10. Chitonthozo ndi chimene chimapangitsa mwamuna kubwerera m'banja

Munali pachibwenzi chabwino kwambiri musanapatukane - munali chitonthozo chakuthupi komanso chamaganizo chosayerekezeka. Munali ndi malingaliro akuti muli kunyumba, lonjezo la kukula, ndi zonse zomwe mumakonda. Ngati ubale wanu unali wolimba kwambiri, ndiye kuti kutha kwa ubale wanu kudzakhala koopsa, makamaka kwa mwamunayo. Angavutike kwambiri ndi kutha kwa ubale wanu kuposa ena.

Mwamuna wanu wakale akhoza kubwerera kukafunafuna chitonthozo chimenechi. Mwamunayo anganong’oneze bondo chifukwa chakuti anatha chifukwa sanaganizirepo za vutolo. Ndiye mutani? Kodi mungamupatse mpata kapena mungakonde kusamuka? Pitani ndi matumbo anu.

11. Amuna amene adadzidalira akhoza kubwerera

Mofanana ndi kutaya chitonthozo, kutaya kudalira kumapangitsanso kuti mwamuna abwerere pambuyo pa kutha. Mukukhala limodzi, inu ndi mnzanuyo mungakhale mutagawana ntchito ndi maudindo. N’zachidziŵikire kuti mukamakoka pulagi paubwenzi wanu, inunso mumakhala wolamulira moyo wanu. Kwa mwamuna, kumverera uku kungayambitse mantha ndi kusatetezeka.  

Ndikupangira kuti musalandire mwamuna m'moyo wanu chifukwa choti sangathe kuthana ndi kudzidalira mwadzidzidzi. Zili ngati kukugwiritsani ntchito kuti mudzisamalire. Musagwere m'mavuto. Komanso, ndi nthawi yoti aphunzire njira zothetsera vuto la kudalirana.

Pazifukwa zilizonse mnyamata akubwerera kwa inu - chisankho chomulandira kapena ayi chimakhala ndi inu. Chitengeni ngati mphamvu, ndipo khalani ndi udindo pa thanzi lanu lamaganizo poyamba. Dzifunseni kuti n'chifukwa chiyani mumafunitsitsa kumulola kuti alowe. Ngati mukuganiza kuti nthawi yachedwa kuti wina akuthamangitseni, ayitanitsani sayonara ndikubwerera ku ufulu wanu womwe mumakonda.

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