Wake wazizwa sengathi uwena wedwa empilweni yakhe ngesinye isikhathi, waze wathola ukuthi une-penchant yokuheha wonke umuntu wesifazane egumbini? Ingabe usebudlelwaneni lapho ukuzinikela kwakhe kokuqala kuphenduka i-scapade edlala ngothando nabanye besifazane? Ziqinise futhi sikuvumele sikuphulele yona - kungenzeka ukuthi usebudlelwaneni nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane.
Ngakho-ke, yini umuntu wesifazane? Wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani umyeni wakho engakwazi ukumelana nokubukana emehlweni nalowo muntu ongamazi esitolo? Noma ingabe udidekile ukuthi kungani edlala ngothando nabangane bakho? Ukubhekana nokuziphatha okunjalo kuqeda imizwa, kubhebhethekisa ukungazethembi nemizwelo engemihle, futhi kuqeda ukuzethemba. Ungase uzibuze, “Ingabe abantu besifazane bake bazizwe benecala?” Hhayi-ke, ake sithole. Ukuqonda ukusebenza kwengqondo ngemuva kwezenzo zomuntu wesifazane kanye nezimpawu zezindlela zabo zokuveza abesifazane kungakunika amandla okuzulazula kulesi simo esiyinselele ngempumelelo.
Kulesi sihloko, umqeqeshi wobudlelwane nobudlelwane obuseduze Shivanya Yogmayaa (okugunyazwe emhlabeni jikelele ezindleleni zokwelapha ze-EFT, NLP, CBT, REBT), ochwepheshe bezinhlobo ezahlukene zokwelulekwa kwezithandani, usisiza ukuthi sihlonze izici ezihlukene zobuntu bomuntu wesifazane futhi siqonde ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesimo uma usuvele usothandweni nendoda enjalo. Ngakho-ke, ingabe uyafuna ukwazi ukuthi ungangcolisa kanjani umuntu wesifazane futhi uphumelele? Funda uqhubeke.
Ubani Owenza Abesifazane?
Okuqukethwe
Akunakwenzeka ukukhomba ukuthi yini edala ukuthi insizwa ibe umuntu wesifazane. Kodwa ukwembula imfihlakalo kuqala ngokuqonda ukuthi ungubani ngempela umuntu wesifazane. Incazelo yangempela yabesifazane ilowo ozibandakanya ebudlelwaneni abaningi noma ukuhlangana njalo nabesifazane abahlukene, konke lokhu eveza isithombe sokufisa ubudlelwano obuzibophezele ngamunye wabo.
Ngokungafani namadoda aku-polyamory noma ubudlelwano obuvulekile, asobala mayelana nezixhumanisi zabo zocansi, amadoda athanda abantu besifazane agcina izibopho zabo zothando eziningi zifihliwe. Ngenxa yokuntula uzwela, balingisa ngenkohliso izimpawu zokuthandana, kuyilapho befuna ngokuyimfihlo ukuxhumana nabantu abaningi. Kodwa yini ebangela ukuthi insizwa ibe umuntu wesifazane? Ngokocwaningo, kunezizathu ezehlukene ezingokwengqondo ezenza umuntu wesifazane abe ngumuntu wesifazane, njengokungavikeleki kokunamathela, ukwesaba ukuzibophezela, nokuntuleka kwamamodeli afanelekile.
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Ukuthandana nomuntu okuthiwa u-Casanova ngokuvamile kusho ukungathembeki kuba yinjwayelo ebudlelwaneni bezothando, ngemuva kokuveza ukungabikho kokuzisola okumangalisayo. Kunzima kodwa akunakwenzeka ukubona izimpawu zomuntu wesifazane. Manje njengoba usunokuqonda okuyisisekelo kwesihloko, ake sithole impendulo yokuthi — “Uyini umuntu wesifazane?” ngokuqopha amaqhinga angawasebenzisa.
Amaqhinga ajwayelekile womuntu wesifazane
Umngane wami, u-Tabby, umsiki wengqephu ozinze e-Houston, wawela ku-Joe, usomabhizinisi wasemadolobheni. Naphezu kokumbamba ukukopela, uTabby, wahlala ebuhlotsheni, ephuphuthekiswe uthando. Ukukhanga kukaJoe namagama amnandi kwafihla izindlela zakhe zobufazi. Kwamthatha isikhathi, kodwa uTabby wagcina evumile, “Isoka lami lithanda abantu besifazane.” Wafunda kabuhlungu ukuthi usebudlelwaneni nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane, eqaphela ukuthi uJoe wasebenzisa amaqhinga ajwayelekile omuntu wesifazane, amzwisa ubuhlungu obungadingekile kanye nosizi. Akazange azi ukuthi kusho ukuthini owesifazane kwaze kwaba yilesi sigameko kodwa wafunda ukuthi enzenjani bhekana nobuhlungu benhliziyo.
Uma uthola lesi simo sihlobene futhi usola ukuthi indoda ikusebenzisa ukuze kube lula kuwe, naka lawa maqhinga avamile okusiza abantu besifazane ukuze ugweme ukuwela ogibeni lwenkulumo eshelelayo nokuyenga:
- Basebenzisa ukubukeka, isimo, kanye/noma ingcebo ukuheha ozakwethu
- Bakulahla ngephunga labo ngokukuthopha ngokukuncoma nangezenzo zothando
- Baziveza njengabantu abazimele ukugcina ama-shenanigans abo ecashile
- Zivuthela ukushisa nokubanda ngaphandle kwesizathu
- Bangakwazi ukukhanga indlela yabo yokuphuma noma ukungena kunoma yisiphi isimo
- Bakushanela (nabanye abaningi) basuse ezinyaweni zakho ngezikhathi obungalindelekile ukuze bakugcine uxhumene nabo.
- Umzimba womuntu othanda abantu besifazane ubukhali, futhi uziqeqeshe ngokukhethekile ukuze enze izindlela zakhe zobufazi zingabonakali.
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Izimpawu zokuthi Usebudlelwaneni Nomuntu wesifazane
Ngokuvamile, sizithola sizibuza, "Uyini umuntu wesifazane?" Ukubhekana nokuqaphela ukuthi "umlingani wami ungumuntu wesifazane" kuyinselele. Noma kunjalo amafulegi abomvu, ukuqonda umthelela wokuphola nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane enhlalakahleni yakho engokomzwelo kungaba nzima. Ubungcweti bobuhle bomuntu wesifazane benza kube nzima ukukhomba izinkinga.
Izimpawu zomuntu wesifazane othanda abantu besifazane zingase zivele okwesikhashana, kodwa amaphethini amadala abuya ngisho nangaphandle kwencazelo yowesifazane. Ukuhlonza amaqhinga okuqinisa abantu besifazane kanye nokubhekana nokuziphatha okuyinkinga kuba nzima, kodwa izici ezithile zomlingiswa zinganikeza imininingwane ebalulekile - njengolimi lomzimba lomuntu wesifazane. Kubalulekile ukwazi izimpawu. Uma umlingani wakho engumuntu wesifazane, khona-ke ngokuqinisekile uzobonisa lezi zimpawu:
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1. Uyayazi indlela yakhe kubantu besifazane
Kunzima ukubona amaqhinga omuntu wesifazane, kodwa akwenzeki. Uphawu olutshelayo lomuntu othanda abantu besifazane ubuhlakani bakhe bokuzulazula ekusebenzelaneni nabantu besifazane. Bheka ukuthi uxhumana kanjani nabesifazane ukuze ubone uma uthandana nothile. Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ongazibheka:
- Qaphela imikhuba ekhangayo ngokwedlulele: Uma ebambe izicabha ivuleke adonse izihlalo nje abesifazane
- Qaphela ukuguquguquka kwakhe: Qaphela indlela alungisa ngayo ukuziphatha kwakhe ukuze enze abesifazane bakhululeke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi babonakala benamahloni noma bekhululekile
- Naka ivayibhu yakhe kazibuthe: Qaphela ukuthi abantu besifazane bakhangwa kanjani kuye hhayi ngoba engumuntu umfana okhangayo kodwa ngenxa yobukhona bakhe obufudumele nobuhlobene nobuntu bakhe obuthakazelayo
Funda ukubona lezi zimpawu uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungangcolisa kanjani umuntu wesifazane. Lokhu kuzosiza. I-Reddit umsebenzisi isho kufanele, “Ngeke ukwazi ukusho nje ngengxoxo.” Uma empeleni ethanda abantu besifazane, cishe unekhono lokukufihla. Yahlulelani indoda ngezenzo zayo, hhayi ngamazwi ayo.”
2. Muhle ngokubukeka nezindlela zakhe
I-psychology elandela umuntu wesifazane iyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa izindlela zakhe zingabonakala kalula. Iqhinga lokuhamba lomuntu wesifazane liwukugqoka ukuze ahlabe umxhwele, aqinisekise ukuthi amakhanda ajika noma yikuphi lapho eya khona. Nazi izici ezimbalwa:
- Uzilungise ngendlela engenasici futhi ucwebezela isitayela
- Unuka kamnandi
- Unezicathulo ezikwazi ukuphinda kabili njengezibuko
- Ngeke umthole egqoke amahembe ashwabene noma izikhindi zesibhakela
Ukubukeka kwakhe okucwebezelayo, okutshalwe ngesikhathi ezulazula, kuba imvelo yakhe yesibili. Lapho uthandana nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane, funda ukubona izimpawu ezifana nalezi. Nakuba ukulondoloza izindinganiso zokuzilungisa kuyinto encomekayo, kubalulekile ukukuqaphela lapho kungena endaweni yabantu besifazane.
Kunomugqa omuhle phakathi kokuziqhenya ngokuzinakekela nokusebenzisa ukuzilungisa ngendlela encomekayo njengeqhinga. Uma ukugxila ekubukekeni kuba yithuluzi le ukukhwabanisa ebudlelwaneni esikhundleni sokuziveza kwangempela, kungase kube ifulegi elibomvu nesibonakaliso sokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi wamukele futhi uthi — “Isoka lami lithanda abantu besifazane.”
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3. Unekhono lokuyenga abantu besifazane beminyaka yonke
Uma ubuza umqeqeshi wokuthandana, uzokutshela ngolimi lomzimba womuntu wesifazane. Qaphela lezi zimpawu:
- Ngokuzikhandla udonsa abesifazane bayo yonke iminyaka ngobuhle obungenakuqhathaniswa
- Ugqolozele wonke umuntu wesifazane odlulayo
- Uyazi kanjani ukudlala ngothando
Uma umlingani wakho ekhombisa lezi zici, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenzisana nomuntu wesifazane. Amadoda athanda abantu besifazane anethalente elikhethekile lokuyenga abesifazane babo bonke ubudala nezizinda zokuphila. UMaggie, umfundi waseNew Mexico, waqaphela ukuthi wayeshade nendoda eyayithanda abantu besifazane lapho emthola edlala ngothando nomngane wendodakazi yabo.
“Uke waqola kudala kodwa ngamxolela ngenxa yezingane, ngesikhathi ngimbona eqoma intombazane eneminyaka engu-14 emzini wethu, kwangicacela ukuthi ukulambela kwakhe ukunakwa akunamkhawulo, ngabona ukuthi ngangizishaye indiva zonke izimpawu zomuntu wesifazane futhi ngiyazisola kuze kube yimanje,” usho kanje.
4. Unomuntu wesilisa ovelele
Ubukhazikhazi bakhe buyinto yakhe eyigugu, eboniswa ngokucacile ukuze ibonwe yibo bonke, egqugquzelwa ukunakwa njalo akuthola kwabesifazane. Ingqikithi yokuthanda abantu besifazane ilele kulesi sidingo esinganeliseki sokuzazisa, sihlale silangazelela abantu abasha ababathandayo.
Uma enqatshelwa ukunakwa akufisayo, usebenzisa la maqhinga alandelayo:
- Ukuxhaphaza imizwelo
- Ekhuluma amazwi alulazayo
- Ukusebenzisa amaqhinga okukhubekisa icala
- Ukucisha izidingo ezingokomzwelo zomlingani wakhe
- Uphawu olutshelayo lomuntu othanda abantu besifazane ukungahloniphi kwakhe okusobala, njengoba ephikisa abesifazane, engakwazi ukubabona njengabalinganayo futhi asebenzise ukuthembela kwabo kuye.
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5. Ukuncoma ngokweqile kuwukusetha kwakhe okuzenzakalelayo
Sonke siyakujabulela ukunconywa, kodwa uma othile encoma kakhulu indlela obukeka ngayo nobuntu bakho, kungase kuphakamise ukukhathazeka okuthile. Nakuba ukuncoma okuqotho kuzwakala kukuhle, ukuthopha okuphindaphindayo kungase kubonise izisusa zangaphandle. Okukha phezulu izincomo kubantu besifazane ukuze bancibilikise izinhliziyo zabo kungaba yingcweti yakhe. Cabangela umbono wokuthi abanye bangase basho ukuthi yini edingekayo ukuze bathole abakufunayo. Udinga ukuqhubeka ngokuqapha uma ukuncoma okufana nalokhu kuvame kakhulu kunalokho ongathanda:
- Uma ubuhle bekuyisikhathi, ubuyoba ingunaphakade
- Bathi ukuhleka kuwumuthi ongcono kakhulu, ngicabanga ukuthi baqinisile ngoba ukumamatheka kwakho kungalapha noma yini
- Ubungaceba ngaphezu kobukhosi ukube ubuhle bekuwuhlobo lwemali
- Ukube umusa ubungumqhele, ubuzowugqoka njengendlovukazi
Ungase ukwazi ukubona izimpawu zomuntu wesifazane othanda abantu besifazane uma encoma izimfanelo zakho ezinjengozwela nokuvuthwa ngokomzwelo, kodwa kufanele ukhuthale ngempela ukuze uzibone.
6. Unekhono ekulawuleni imizwelo
Ukubhekana nomuntu wesifazane kuwumsebenzi onzima, njengoba elawula ngobuchule futhi ekhanyisa, ekushiya ungabaza ukwahlulela kwakho. Ukusebenzisa ngokunenzuzo uthando lwakho nokwethemba kuyindlela elula yakhe yokukukhohlisa. Naphezu kokubhekana naye mayelana nezici zakhe zobuntu besifazane, usebenzisa amaqhinga ashelelayo ukuze axoshe okukukhathazayo, akwenze ukholwe ukuthi konke kusekhanda lakho.
Uma unomuntu wesifazane, ohlala njalo ukungavikeleki ebudlelwaneni futhi imizwa engavumelekile iba yinkambiso ebuhlungu. Ngakho-ke, ungabhekana kanjani nomuntu wesifazane onjengalona? Isinyathelo sokuqala siwukubona izindlela zakhe zokukhohlisa.
7. Akakuvumeli ukuthi ungene emlandweni wakhe wokujola
Buza ngesikhathi sakhe esidlule, futhi uzothola indaba engaqondakali. Angase athi akakaze abe sebudlelwaneni obujulile, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi cishe unomlando wezothando zesikhashana futhi ushintsha abalingani njalo. Ukuthandana nomfana onjalo kuza nokungaqiniseki okuningi mayelana nesikhathi sakhe esidlule nekusasa lenu ndawonye.
8. Akanabo abangani besifazane abaningi bangempela
Ukushoda kobungane bangempela besifazane kungase kubonise ukuthambekela kowesifazane kumfana. Umuntu othanda abantu besifazane uvame ukudonsa kanzima ukuze anakekele ubudlelwano be-platonic, njengoba ukugxila kwakhe kugxile ekunqobeni kwezothando. Ukuxhumana okulinganiselwe nabesifazane abangaphandle kwezithakazelo zothando kusikisela iphethini yokuzibandakanya okudlulayo, okwenza kube ukufaneleka ukucabangela izinhloso zakhe kanye nekhono lakhe lokwakha izibopho ezinengqondo ngale kwezothando.
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9. Uzokhombisa izimpawu ezimbalwa ezingasho amazwi ezikhombisa ukuziphatha okungabazekayo
Qaphela izimpawu ezingasho amazwi ezimemeza ngokuthi 'womanizer':
- Uthinta kakhulu abanye abantu besifazane
- Uhlale ehlola abanye abantu besifazane, ecabanga ukuthi awunakile
- Ubonakala engakhululekile ngezingxoxo zokuzibophezela
Lawo amafulegi abomvu namaqhinga ajwayelekile okusiza abantu besifazane. Naka izenzo zakhe kunamazwi akhe abushelelezi. Themba imizwelo yakho engokwemvelo. Uma kukhona okuphathekayo, cishe kunjalo. Ngokushesha uzobona ukuthi uthando lwangempela yini noma nje ukumjaha okwesikhashana.
10. Akazami ukukwazi ngezinga elijulile
Uthando lwangempela lujula kunezingxoxo ezi-corny nezishibhile. Uma umlingani wakho ephenya kancane futhi egwema ukungena ezingxoxweni ezijulile, kungase kube 'isaziso sokusiza abantu besifazane'. Umfana onentshisekelo yangempela kuwe angafuna ukwazi okungaphezu nje kwezisekelo futhi angagcini nje ngokuba kuyo ngezikhathi ezimnandi. Uma ehlala egwema izingxoxo ezinenzuzo nemininingwane yomuntu siqu, kuphakamisa ukugxila kumakhemikhali angaphandle kunokuba akhe okwangempela, ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo. Cishe uhlose ukuyigcina isikhathi esifushane futhi cishe uthandana nomuntu wesifazane.
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11. Awukaze uhlangane nabangane bakhe
Olunye lwezimpawu ezinkulu zomuntu wesifazane othanda abantu besifazane ukukukhipha embuthanweni wakhe. Uma umlingani wakho engabaza ukukwazisa kubangani bakhe, kungase kubonise ukuziphatha kowesifazane futhi kungenye yezimpawu ezibomvu okufanele uziqaphele. Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, ukwabelana ngemibuthano yomphakathi kuyinto ejwayelekile. Nokho, umuntu othanda abantu besifazane angase akugcine ukude ukuze uhlukanise izithakazelo zothando. Lokhu futhi kuphakamisa imibuzo mayelana nezinhloso zabo nokuzibophezela ekuxhumaneni kwangempela, okuvulekile. Futhi kuyinkomba ecacile yokuthi uthandana nomuntu wesifazane.
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Ngamafuphi, umuntu wesifazane othanda abantu besifazane uhlala engaguquki, akazisoli ngezenzo zakhe, njengoba ingqondo yakhe ibona kufanele. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, kufanele ulinganise ngokucophelela inani lesikhathi eside lalokhu kuguquguquka okunobuthi empilweni yakho yengqondo futhi unake amaqhinga abo.
A cwaningo amaphuzu avelele: “Ukuba nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane kushiya ozakwethu bezizwa besetshenzisiwe, okubangela ukuzethemba.” Umthwalo uphezu kwakho ukuthi unqume ukuthi ubekezelele lezi zimfanelo noma wenze ukukhetha okunzima ukuhamba. Okokuqala, udinga ukukhomba futhi uhlaziye ubuthakathaka bomuntu wesifazane. Nansi indlela yokubhekana nomyeni noma umlingani othanda abesifazane ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa nguwe:
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1. Ungalindeli
Uyazibuza ukuthi ungathola kanjani umuntu wesifazane othandane naye isikhathi eside? Besihlale sitshelwa ukuthi ukulindela kubuhlungu. Ngakho-ke umthetho wokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina eyakho okulindelwe ebudlelwaneni njengalena ethekwini. Lapho ulindele ukuthi athembeke kuwe futhi akuthande, uyozizwa udangele ngokwengeziwe ngezenzo zakhe. Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuba ubhekane nalelo qiniso iwukuba ungaphiki mayelana nokuba ngokoqobo kwesimo sakho - ukuthi usebudlelwaneni nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane futhi kuza nesethi yaso yezinselelo.
2. Bhekana ngqo nezimo ezibangela amahloni
Ukuthandana nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane kuza nesabelo sakho sokugibela i-roller coaster. Uma uthola umaqondana wakho egqolozele abanye abantu besifazane noma ekukopela nomunye wesifazane, bhekana naye ngokushesha. Kumele wazi ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nomuntu wesifazane othanda abantu besifazane ngobuhlakani futhi umhlekise ukuze izindlela zakhe zokuganga zingaphumi esandleni. Kwazise lokhu akwamukelekile ngaphansi kwanoma yisiphi isimo.
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3. Nika umuntu othanda abesifazane indlela yokuthula
Njengoba sixoxile ekuqaleni, abathandi besifazane bavame ukuba ne-ego enkulu futhi kubalimaza kakhulu, uma omunye umuntu, ikakhulukazi owesifazane wabo, ebashaya indiva. Uma ulinyazwa ukuziphatha kwakhe, nje sebenzisa ukwelashwa buthule ukuze uzuze futhi uveze ukungakhululeki kwakho. Ukunganakwa ngumuntu wesifazane, kanye nje, kwanele. Uzobona ngokushesha ushintsho ekuziphatheni kwakhe futhi ngeke ashiye noma yiliphi itshe lingashintshiwe ukuze likujabulise.
4. Sula imingcele > Ukubekezelelana okungaboni
Qaphela abantu besifazane abenza kahle ngokukhohlisa. Uma ekuthela ngothando ngesikhathi esifushane kodwa kube kubanda lapho ungasabeli, ungavumeli. Veza ngokucacile imingcele yobudlelwano bakho futhi ume uqine. Labo abazethembayo bangase bawele ogibeni lokuhlale bemjabulisa, kodwa kuvula umnyango wokusetshenziswa noma ukuphathwa kabi. Naka izimpawu kusukela ekuqaleni. Beka phambili inhlalakahle yakho ngokusungula ukukhulumisana okucacile futhi ugcizelele ekuhloniphaneni.
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5. Funa usizo lochwepheshe
Uma indoda yakho ingene yajula kakhulu ephethinini yokwenza abantu besifazane, ungase ukuthole kudingekile ukuba ufune usizo lochwepheshe ngaphambi kokuthi uqedele. ukuzenyeza. Ukwenza abantu besifazane kuwuhlobo lokulutheka futhi kudinga ukwamukelwa nokuphathwa kanjalo. Umbuzo othi “Ingabe umuntu wesifazane angathembeka?” kungenzeka ukuthi uyakudla ngaphakathi, kodwa ngeke ashintshe kuze kube yilapho ezizwa enecala futhi efuna ngempela ukushintsha.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisekelwe kumuntu othanda abantu besifazane sithi ukuba sebudlelwaneni obunjalo nakanjani kuyoyilimaza impilo yakho engokwengqondo nenhlalakahle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa unecala ngokuziba amafulegi abomvu. Uma usanwaya ikhanda, uzibuza ukuthi ungadlula kanjani kumuntu wesifazane, futhi ufuna usizo, Abeluleki beBonobology zilapha kuwe.
Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- I-Womenizer ngumuntu onobudlelwane obuningi noma ukuhlangana kocansi nabesifazane abahlukene
- Ama-Womanizers ayachuma ngokuhlonishwa ngabesifazane
- Ukuqomisana nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane kungaba yinto ekhathazayo engase ithinte inhlalakahle yakho engokomzwelo nempilo yengqondo.
- Ukubheja kwakho okuhle ukuthi uzihlukanise ngokomzwelo, ngisho noma izimo zakho zingakuvumeli ukuthi uqede ubuhlobo futhi uqhubeke.
Ukuba nomuntu othanda abantu besifazane kungase kubonakale kuwumthwalo osindayo. Ingabe abathanda abesifazane bake bazizwe benecala? Kunzima ukusho ngokwethembeka. Kodwa uma indoda ikusebenzisa ukuze kube lula kuwe, cishe, ayizizwa inecala. Nokho, ukululama kusengenzeka ngesikhathi esanele, uthando, nokuzibophezela.
Uma uthandana ngokungenathemba nomuntu wesifazane, futhi ekubheka njengobuhlobo bangempela, ungase ufune ukuzama konke okusemandleni akho ukuze uhlenge ubuhlobo. Okokugcina, imivuzo yokululama iwufanele umzamo, ngoba ayenzi nje kuphela isoka/umyeni wakho umlingani othuthukisiwe nomuntu ongcono nakakhulu kodwa futhi inikeza ubuhlobo bakho besikhathi eside ithuba elisha lokuphila. Nakuba kungeyena wonke umuntu ongakwenza lokho, abantu abanamandla anamandla bangakwenza.
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Isiqephu esinjalo esiklanywe kahle, yebo futhi cishe wonke umuntu wesifazane wazi okungenani eyodwa yalolu hlobo.
Lesi sihloko ngandlela-thile sasikwazi engangizizwa sase singitshela ukuthi ngenzeni. Inkinga ukuthi ngilandela kanjani? Endaweni ethile lapho isixazululo siphuka khona...sicela usize.
Empeleni ngiyazi ukuthi kunjani ukuba nobudlelwane nendoda ethanda abantu besifazane.
Ngalo lonke ulwazi lwami kumele ngisho ukuthi mshiye NGOKUSHESHA.
Ngicabanga ukuyinika isikhathi nokuzama ukufaka izici zokubekezela nokuqonda ukuthi ubaluleke kakhulu bani lapha. Kodwa-ke, uma kuya ezingeni lokuthi uzizwe ushiywe ngaphandle ngokuphelele empilweni yakhe, ungathintana nosizo lochwepheshe kule ndaba noma uthathe isinqumo sokugcina sokuhlala noma cha naye.