Being friends with ex good or bad?

Being friends with ex good or bad?

18 replies
Surabhi Pandey
June 7, 2017

18 comments

Anonymous July 13, 2017 - 10:21 am
K June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Ahh! there is such a dichotomy of the comfort zone that is ex and reasons for moving on. Its good to be freinds with your ex if you are over  the romantic aspect of the relationship. Also it shouldnt hold you back from moving forward as it gets too comfortable and there is no space for a new friend may be!Also both you and your ex should be matured enought o handle the complexities that this freindship can bring and have proper boundries to stay sane ! :)*p*

Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

How can one remain friends with the ex…very difficult! *p*

Tina June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes…a good point. She needs to find out why she still needs to be friends!  *p*

Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Quite insightful..*p*

Surabhi Pandey June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

True*p*

Lekha Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Yes exactly. *p*

Lekha Menon June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Entirely depends on how bad the break-up was. Personally I feel, there is no point in holding on to grudges. Also, relationships change and the dynamics change, we all operate in a grey area, there is no black or white about it. If the reason for the split is something worth forgiving and forgetting, it's best to let it go and be civil again. Also, depends on how secure you are in your current relationship status. So long as it doesn't hurt or create complications, it;s not a bad idea at all to be friends with your ex.  *p*

Antara Rakesh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I guess there is no universal rule to follow. I know so many people who are such good friends with their ex and then the same person cant even imagine coming in sight of their other ex. It all depends on the note you broke up on. the intensity of that relationship. what the both of you went through emotionally during the aftermath. a casual fling broken with a mutual consent can easily allow you to stay friends with your ex while a painful, depressing, torturting break up might just make you feel its better to stay off limits with each other. *p*

Antara Chatterjee June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I don't find any reason to hold such kind of relationship . Its better to move on in a new path .Remember your ex is past and if this relationship have a bit understanding or connecting then breakup will never happened . Wave your hand n say byee to it .Thanks to  god for saving you from a wrong relationship. It gives pain to hold it.*p*

Rupali Tiwari June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

depends on what you feel. if it isn't harming you then why to bother thinking if its right or not. enjoy the connection while you can. but yes if its a system of coping up with the breakup then it's bad. you need to find out why are you being friends with him. just because you enjoy the relation or as a reason to be near him. *p*

K June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

it depends on what kind of relationship you had with your ex and why you broke up in the first place.. its difficult for some time after the break up. Once you are completely over them  and if they are good people you can stay freinds but define your boundaries well*p*

Bhagyashree Sowani June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

You  need to remember the reason why you broke up with the ex. *p**p*Its ok to be civil if you keep meeting for the following reasons *p**p*A. You are in the same friends group*p**p*B. You are in the same office *p**p*Its not ok if you remain  friends for the following reasons *p**p*A. You still miss your ex and want to get her back *p**p*B. You are hoping that the breakup will help the ex to mend his ways and then get back with you. *p**p*In these cases you just have to move on *p*

Bhagyashree Sowani June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

You  need to remember the reason why you broke up with the ex. *p**p*Its ok to be civil if you keep meeting for the following reasons *p**p*A. You are in the same friends group*p**p*B. You are in the same office *p**p*Its not ok if you remain  friends for the following reasons *p**p*A. You still miss your ex and want to get her back *p**p*B. You are hoping that the breakup will help the ex to mend his ways and then get back with you. *p**p*In these cases you just have to move on *p*

Nirupama Kondayya June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

According to me and from my personal experience, it's better to not stay friends and remain like an acquaintance if spotted somewhere. It really helps to get over the break up and find some solace in the fact that it's absolutely alright to move on. Being friends is almost like being connected by a thread that will leave you stuck, without you even realising it. And thoughts of hows and whys will not bother you. Being friends is tricky, in a way. *p*

I am Krishna June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Nice! *p*

I am Krishna June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I think it is not a great idea!*p**p*1. It will make your current a little insecure.*p**p*2. At any opportunity when you are irritated with the current, you will run to the ex for his advice…*p**p*3. I think one really gets comepletely over an ex…*p*

Aman Singh June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

I don't know whether it's good or bad but it's tough and takes a lot of effort and I feel the effort we put is not worth our while. *p*

Hridaan June 8, 2017 - 8:56 am

Depends on what grounds you ended the relationship really. You will surely get the feeling after the breakup. It really is relative. I personally did not keep in touch with my ex but I have many friends who still talk to thier ex. So you cannot ascertain whether its good or bad. You just know.*p*

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