How do you know for sure if a woman is in love with you? These pointers might help you decide.
1. The unabashed monogamy
When talking about generic relationships, the intense desire of being someone’s only one is a quite natural change in outlook. Women are strong and independent, but that does not mean they are willing to share personal boundaries with anyone and everyone. The hope for monogamy just conveys her commitment to her partner with the underlying message that she has chosen to choose her person over every other suitor and it’s only normal to wish for reciprocation.
2. The subtle quirky intimacy
Intimacy is very complex topic, taking on various strata and developmental levels. But one of the stepping stones to non-verbal commitment is you’re willing to have physical commitment in public. Basic hand-holding or choosing to sit next to you and grabbing your arm is her subtle way of showing her comfort level of being seen with you and that her decision is past the stranger judgements.
3. Everything x2
Well, this one is a given. When a woman truly falls for you, carefully starting to build a life is a slow and progressive state. Every plan and action undertaken will include an adjustment of free space for you and you should be ready to handle it like a grownup. This is a very important step to creating a stronghold for your relationship, which also clearly demarcates her seriousness in terms of commitment, and for her there’s only a WE that matters.
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4. Thoughts into actions
Actions speak louder than words and a woman will put up the most fearsome fight to make her emotional attachment known. This is not her insecurities acting up and this is not her being vulnerable or brittle. This is her feisty way of proclaiming that it’s a two-way street and you have to meet her halfway. Fulfilling of primary promises can be one of the firsts, followed by more serious fidelity.
5. Love for your quirks
The idiosyncrasies that bother you or your friends or your family, she will end up loving. You and your conspicuous eccentricities alike. She will put away the judgements and accept you wholeheartedly for whoever you are and you should be grateful for that. She will be willing to look past your past mistakes and help you build yourself up from scratch, every time you fall. The woman who falls in love will never make a mockery of how you choose to exhibit yourself in public. Even when everyone else leaves the party, she will be the one who stays back for you and with you.
6. Mental notes
The quirks come with a lot of mental notes for her, but she is willing to risk it. When a woman falls in love, she will go out of her way to make your space as snug as possible. She will silently learn all your needs and habits – the way you like your coffee, the pattern of your sleep, the space you need to work – everything will occupy crucial brain space. The amount of understanding will increase and she will push for more mutual activities, not because she’s too clingy, but because she wants to get to know all of you and be a prime support in every emotional roller coaster you face.
7. The adult child
Unleashing her inner child is the epitome of her being comfortable with you. If she seems perfectly confident in her skin around you, and does not hesitate to bring out her immature side or confides in you with the little things that bug her, know you’ve found a woman who loves you. This might take some time and this needs to be backed up with an incredible amount of trust, respect and confidentiality.
8. The expectation routes
Once she goes all in with the commitment, it is only fair that she expects certain things in return. It need not be the extravagance of fancy new things, but a more complementary emotional course, interactive discussions about individual wants and definitely directly requited feelings. Do not leave her hanging midway and do not sugar coat your stands. When a woman is in love, she looks for transparency more than anything else. She will want your harsh honesty over everything else. Hand out your thoughts and she will handle them like the iron lady she is.
9. The meticulous soul
When a woman falls crashing for someone, she will reform herself, both literally and figuratively. She will be meticulous about how she looks, feels and expresses. This does not indicate her faking to you but her putting in more than her best effort to make her feel you’re worth all of the painstaking selection of clothes and accessories. She will be self-conscious and will enthusiastically dedicate a considerable amount of time, energy and resources to look her very best for you.
10. The longing
She will be vocal about your absence. This is a stressful thing for a woman, to go physically expressive about her emotions for you. Never take this phase lightly; if she comes out directly with the “I miss you” and “this happened, I wish you were here”, you are into the most momentous realm where she does not care about what the world thinks of her vulnerability and you have become such an intimate part of her life that she builds up the courage to freely confess about her emotional turmoil. For her, there is no going back from this phase and the world does not scare her anymore. She has chosen someone and that is all that matters for her.