One minute she’s giving you her undivided attention, the next you see her leaving you unread, but uploading stories on her social media. You’ve contemplated asking her friends, you’ve overanalyzed her messages a little too much, and that male “best friend” she has is getting too close for comfort. And you’re still nowhere near having an answer to, “Does she love me?”
All the signs she loves you won’t make a difference if you don’t know what you have to look out for. Instead, you might end up overthinking all her social media stories for clues. No, the funny meme on being single she uploaded doesn’t mean anything.
“Does she love me?” “Does she like being with me?” “Should I just book our honeymoon tickets right now?” While we can’t help you with that last one, we do hope this list of signs she is madly in love with you will at least be able to answer a couple of your questions and clear your doubts.
Does She Love Me? 23 Clear Signs She Does
“Does she love me?” you ask yourself, as she “heart reacts” to your recently updated profile picture. Granted, it’s a nice gesture, but we highly doubt if it’s one of the signs she loves you (sorry.)
“Does she love me?” you ask yourself again, as she sends you a “good night”, with a little red heart next to it. All your infatuated senses might tell you she does, and you might even end up dreaming about her that night, but again, we doubt if this is one of the signs she loves you deeply over texts.
The point being, it’s easy to get confused between love and infatuation and let it get the better of you. No, that hug that lasted a few seconds longer than usual is not conclusive proof that she’s head over heels in love with you. To make sure you don’t live under any false assumptions, the following signs she loves you deeply should set you on your way:
1. A little kindness goes a long way
One of the first little signs a woman is in love with you could be if she’s kind to you. No, we don’t mean a courteous wave hello or goodbye at work, we mean the kindness that’s clearly visible, even to those around you.
Does she speak to you softly and kindly? Does she randomly bring you a doughnut or a coffee? Does she wait for you to finish lunch so that you can leave the table together? Take note of general acts of kindness, and you might have your answer to the burning question, “Does she love me?”
2. If she encourages you to do better
When a woman cares for you deeply and loves you, she wants you to be the best version of yourself. If you notice her wanting to know your future plans and encouraging you to be the best you can be, she’s doing it solely because she cares about you.
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3. She actually listens to you when you talk
Every time you have a conversation with her, you feel heard and validated. It won’t feel like she’s waiting for you to stop talking, so it’s her turn to talk again. Instead, she’ll not only really listen to everything you’re saying, but also remember it as well.
So, if you’re the kind of person who can’t remember what you had for breakfast this morning, you better roll your sleeves up and pay the same kind of attention to her when she talks.
4. Her body language can give you signs she loves you
Without even engaging in conversation with her, you can figure out whether she fancies you or not. The female body language signs of attraction can help you out more than you know, all you’ve got to do is know what to look out for. Does she look into your eyes while talking? Does she lean toward you? These and many other signs, will help you figure out, “Does she love me or not?”
5. Is she excited to talk to you?
Does every conversation seem like she’s been looking forward to talking to you, or does she look at you with the same interest as she looks at the label of a shampoo bottle? If she’s genuinely excited to talk to you, you’ll probably be able to see it, or she might even tell you herself.
6. She’s just a little jealous of the other women in your life
If you have a lot of female friends, or exes who text you, she might just show a few hints of jealousy when you mention them. She might suddenly show an unusual interest in a particular friend and follow it up with a cool or scathing remark.
If she says something like “Oh, not talking to your other female friends?” it definitely means she’s a little bothered by the ones you have. It may not be one of the signs she loves you deeply over text, but the jealousy could stem from promising foundations.
7. She expects a few things from you
If you disappear with the boys on a Saturday night, only to drunk text her, “U UP?” 6 hours after disappearing, she might not be too happy about it. One of the signs a woman is in love with you includes when she expects a few things from you, like frequent conversation, kindness, respect, and common courtesy.
8. There’s mutual respect
Love without respect is a toxic relationship. A lack of respect will make itself apparent one way or the other, and mutual respect will result in a better dynamic for both of you. When basic respect is coupled with other signs she loves you, there’s a good chance you’re on to something here.
9. Is she making excuses to talk to you?
Perhaps one of the biggest signs she is madly in love with you is when she makes excuses and finds any reason to call you. Going to sleep? That calls for a 5-minute, end-of-day phone conversation, right? Stressed at work? Perhaps a phone call will help you relax.
When she stops trying to hide her attempts at calling you and finding any reason to talk to you, the “does she love me” question just might yield a very favorable answer.
10. Signs she loves you: she’s always finding ways to meet you
She’s not going to waste her precious time on someone she doesn’t like meeting, right? And if she meets you without any other friends, that in itself is a great sign that she loves spending time with you.
Make a note of whether she wants you to accompany her to things she can do alone. It definitely means she’d much rather be in your company, than anybody else or alone.
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11. She wants to really get to know you
By getting to know you, we don’t mean the usual, “Soooo, what do you do for fun?” or “Are you a cat person or a dog person?” This is love we’re talking about here, folks. If she’s in love with you, she’s going to want to know every single thing about you, and all the deep, meaningful stuff.
What’s your relationship with your parents like? What have your past relationships been like? What kind of friends do you have? If she asks for your bank details, however, you shouldn’t be asking yourself, “Does she love me?” Instead, figure out how to freeze your bank accounts before you get scammed.
12. If she’s willing to make sacrifices for you, it’s one of the signs she loves you deeply
By sacrifice, we don’t mean the kind that you see in the movies, where one partner lets go of a lucrative job in another city to be with their partner. Sacrifices here look more like being late to something she had to go to, so she could talk to you a while longer. Or, helping you out in your time of need, when she had other plans herself. Or even blowing off a lunch with her friends, because you happened to mention you need help picking out a bookshelf.
PS: Don’t expect her to make any sacrifices for you, especially if you’re not even in a relationship. What we’re talking about is the stuff she chooses to do of her own volition. Even then, it’s always a good idea to keep your expectations in a relationship to a minimum!
13. Is she trying to make you laugh?
If she’s into you, she’s obviously going to want you to like her, right? She might try to make you laugh, and she’ll put in more of an effort to be funny around you than when she’s with other people. Look out for signs like her trying to crack jokes about stuff or looking at you when you’re all laughing with a group of people.
If she’s laughing AT you, however, consider asking yourself “does she love me or is she using me for amusement?” We’re just kidding, of course. If she was laughing at you, she’d be laughing with her girlfriends.
14. Signs she loves you: She smiles from ear to ear when she sees you
If a bright, wide smile from her when you two meet isn’t just the stuff of dreams and actually happens IRL, there’s a good chance she has very strong feelings for you. When the “I’m here” or the “Open your door, I’m coming upstairs” texts are followed by a warm smile and a long hug in person, we’d say it’s one of the signs she loves you deeply.
15. You’re both incredibly comfortable with each other
One of the biggest indicators of a connection is when two people are incredibly comfortable with each other. If your dynamic is the kind where you can share anything with this person, without having to think twice about what you say before you say it, it’s one of the most magical experiences out there.
16. She worries about you
Be it for your physical health, your career, or your mental health, her concern will be apparent. If she loves you and wants to see you do better, there’s a big chance she’s going to be concerned when you’re not doing so well. If she makes you soup when you’re sick, stop thinking, “Does she love me?” and just marry her already. Okay, perhaps start with asking her out. When you get better, of course.
17. She’s there for you when the rain starts to pour
Not literally holding an umbrella for you when it’s raining and you’re running around getting wet, we mean she’ll help you out in your times of trouble. If she’s someone you can rely on and she actively wants to help you, it’s definitely one of the signs a woman is in love with you.
18. You’re the best of friends
Had this been just the initial stages of a shy romance, one where you’re still figuring out if you like the person or not, it’s possible you might not be best friends. However, if you’re trying to figure out if she’s in love with you or not, being best friends or at least feeling like you’re best friends is a given.
We’re pretty sure your 13-year-old Megan Fox loving self would disagree, but you can’t really love someone you don’t talk to often. If it feels like you two are best friends with just the slightest hint of sexual tension, it’s a great sign she is madly in love with you.
19. She compliments you often
As men, we’re not used to getting complimented. So, when we do, it literally makes our whole week. If she really loves you, there’s a good chance she noticed just how happy these compliments make you and now does so every chance she can, without it becoming creepy.
However, if all she’s complimenting is your Audi and your expensive watches, you might need to ask yourself, “Does she love me or my money?” You need to look out for the right signs, buddy, because this is an important question too.
20. She values your opinion
Be it shoe shopping or career decisions, she’s definitely going to ask you what you think if she needs a second opinion. The fact that she values your opinion and that it is worth something to her, is in itself, one of the best signs she loves you. It may also be a subtle sign of flirting, since she’s letting you know she respects your opinion and would like to hear what you have to say.
21. Her friends and family know about you
If she’s on the phone with her mom and you hear her tell her mom she’s with you, congratulations, that’s about as big a sign as any that this girl trusts you. If a woman tells her friends and/or parents about you, it’s definitely because she thinks you’re one who’s going to stick around.
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22. And her friends can’t stop teasing you two
A comment here, a tag there, an “aww” under a photo of the two of you. Her friends will do everything they can to pull your leg, if they’re that kind, of course. If her friends are constantly dropping hints or trying to tease her when you’re around, it’s definitely one of the signs she is madly in love with you and has probably told all her friends about it.
23. Signs she loves you: She has said something along those lines
Okay, granted she may not have said, “I love you” (you wouldn’t be reading this article if she had), but she might’ve said something along those lines that you, as a guy, might’ve missed. “I love spending time with you, I have so much fun”, or “I love it when you’re around”, or “I love talking to you”, are all great signs a woman is in love with you.
Hopefully, by going through these signs, you’ll now be able to put your burning question, “Does she love me?”, to bed. We hope the conclusion you come to is a positive one, for your sake. And on the off chance that you’re still confused, there’s only one thing left to do: ask her. It’s the quickest way to get an answer to “does she love me or not?”