It is not every day that a man finds himself madly in love with someone. In a world of right swiped action and anti-Romeo squads, it is easier to believe that romance is a risk not worth taking – that we are better off in the world of casual sex. But the heart wants what it wants and the mandolin starts playing. It is difficult to confess love and your man is probably just shy to let you know that he is madly in love with you.
Fear of rejection and lack of reciprocation makes people remain shut about their true emotions. It’s not uncommon though and definitely not worrisome. If your man is more introverted than you, chances are he would always hesitate voicing out what he feels. Sometimes, shy guys are intimidated and assume their feelings won’t be reciprocated.
Male conditioning makes it harder for him to open up the vulnerable floodgate of emotions and say the words out loud. Our blunt empathy has bad reception towards genuine emotions these days, so here is a quick list to check if he is indeed deeply, madly, truly and irrevocably in love with you.
Although there is no definitive guide to figure out what men might be feeling for you, we present to you some signs that your man is madly in love with you, but is just too shy to say it out loud. What society and ego prevents us from voicing out, our body language and habits give away.
Does He Truly Love You?
The society that we live in has been cruel enough to condition our expressions. There is no hero who will indulge in elaborate gestures to enunciate his love for his lady. There are no more roses for the lady, opening doors, pulling out the chairs or expansive proclamations of love. And rightfully so.
Let’s not expect this out of our partners when we are not ready to return it in full. Instead, let’s learn to understand our shy men who exhibit their emotional side through subtle manifestations. Ladies, we have a come up with a list of 5 sure shot things your man does when he is madly in love with you. Let’s begin the inventory, shall we?
1. He sulks
Yes, that is funny, because love is a feeling of elation as classical literature proposes. But your modern man cannot easily adjust to being in love. It makes him feel weak in the knees, queasy in the stomach and light in the head. All those can be indications of a serious ailment, but if and when it is love he wants to run miles away because he has no idea about what to say to you.
Common knowledge has taught him that love is the end to a bachelor’s happy days, so he is genuinely terrified. Love is a probability of getting hurt. So your exceptionally sulking man might be the first indication that he is feeling things he thought he was above. Be patient with the child, he is growing into it.
Instead of being thrilled at the idea, some men have sleepless nights because they worry about the change that’s going to hit them in no time. Wrong projections of what a happy relationship should like further induces them to go into their shells and be afraid of owning up what they feel for you. They generally take a month or two to get adjusted to the feeling, but if you begin to pull away due to a misunderstanding, they end up realizing and running behind you more than ever.
If this has happened with you and your partner recently, be rest assured that you’re going to get a confession soon. The question is, are you ready with your answer?
2. Drop of a hat
When he drops his work or changes his plans to the best of his capabilities to fit you into his life, that is a sure sign of love. He wants to spend as much time with you as he can manage, because he loves the companionship. We can love and adore a lot of people in isolation, but when the love persists in togetherness, it is meant to be. He is ready to be on your side at any time and he tries his best to break his routine to accommodate that desire. He is letting himself feel the love, bask in it. He surely wants to make your relationship reach the next level!
It might be for the most or for the least significant of occasions, but he tries to find time in his schedule for you at all costs. However, just because someone is not able to do that once or twice, doesn’t mean they love you any less. This is primarily for the couples in the honeymoon phase who look at love and life through rose-tinted glasses. Grand gestures without any expectations in return show his character strength as well as his deep-seated respect for the concept of love and commitment.
Ladies, this is the kind of man we deserve.
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3. What do you think?
Yes, he asks for your advice! The man of the house — who was brought up with the ex-officio title of the ultimate decision maker after the father figure, is including you in the decision making process! He wants your inputs not only in decisions involving the both of you, but also regarding your individual lives. He genuinely wants a lasting impression of you in his life. Be it insurance policies to choose from or an office crisis or which dish to be made that day, he asks for your opinion. Thesis, antithesis to reach a synthesis – this is the synergy of a balanced love story. If he is making the effort, he is a keeper.
A healthy relationship sees equal efforts and opinions from both sides and if he makes the effort to know how you feel about everything, he is a keeper. To be madly in love with someone is to value and respect their take on things and to give it equal consideration in a subject matter. Personally, I’ve been with guys who have discarded my opinion as nothing and even with those who considered it before everything else. There is no feeling like the one which tells you how much you’re wanted in a relationship.
If he really listens to you, even if he ends up doing what he wants later, he is definitely madly in love with you. At the end of the day, you don’t want to puppet him. You only want him to consider your feelings too.
4. Game planner
He is planning his routine keeping yours in mind. And by routine, I mean the daily as well as the long-term one too. He is calibrating himself to your life, to come to a common ground, not expecting either of you to completely dismiss your individual lives. Your man has started laying the foundation for the home you are going to find in each other and this, my friend, is a big gesture of love. Starting from planning trips together, to planning for your parents’ visit to the city, he has it all in his planner.
Agreed, life doesn’t always go according to plan. Man proposes and God disposes. But isn’t it lovely that the man proposes in the first place? The fact that he is eager and excited to see a life that includes you in the every day things, melts our hearts. It isn’t common for men to take charge and see to it that the consequences of their actions do not impact your life adversely. If a man does that for you, he is in it for the long haul. He is falling madly in love with you.
He has your back. No matter what crisis, what fight you have to suit up for, he is right there beside you, second in command. He neither take over your battles nor tries to be the knight in shining armor. He is your cheerleader and your minister in your conquests. Be it an economic crisis, a familial emergency or a sexist taboo that you are fighting against, he is right there deflecting the assaults.
No matter the time of the day (or night), he would always be right there. If not physically, always emotionally. If you can close your eyes and tell yourself that at the end of the day your man is always going to support you — he is the one. Having a best friend as a lover is tough to find and if you’ve got that with yours, I suggest — hold on. It is not only rare, but also fulfilling. There won’t be a day when you’ll feel alone or miserable. As long as you got him, there’s always someone who is going to hold your hand no matter how tough the time.
Having your back doesn’t mean supporting all your wrong decisions though. There might be days where he takes a firm stand and disagrees with you only out of pure concern. It is the greatest thing in the world to find someone who would make you realize your flaws without ever leaving your side. You’ve found your person. All you got to do is wait for him to tell you how madly in love he is.
What Does Is It Mean To Be Madly In Love?
It definitely isn’t rainbows and unicorns running around opposite a green screen. No, it is that warm-fuzzy feeling of knowing that no matter what someone does or doesn’t do, you would always be there for them and they, for you. It is to know that there is no one else in this world of billions whom you would want to see as you wake up to a new day. That even after a lifetime spent with each other, you would still do it all again.
Being madly in love is going through jealousy, anger, annoyance, but in togetherness. To be madly in love with someone is to be annoyed by someone and still choose to be annoyed by them for the rest of your life. You could close your eyes and know when they’ve walked into the room, because that’s how much you love them. With your eyes closed — truly, madly and deeply.