Actions speak louder than words, it is believed. However, women still want to hear ‘I love you’ from their lover’s mouth. Men innately are not as expressive, at least verbally, as women when it comes to matters of love. For many men, saying ‘I love you’ is a display of their emotional vulnerability which hurts their ego and hence they avoid saying it. Here are some of the ways in which men tell their ladies that they love them, without saying a single word.
1. He buys diamonds
If your man buys you a diamond, he’s deeply in love with you. My grandfather was in the army and so he was not that expressive verbally as a lover. However, he would give my grandmother diamond jewellery on their every wedding anniversary to say how much he loved her. A diamond speaks a thousand words, but when it comes from your man, it says that he is helplessly, deeply and madly in love with you.
2. Puts a blanket on you when you are asleep
There are times when I am off to sleep without a blanket on me after a tiring day. My partner quietly walks in and puts a blanket on me and comforts me. If you husband or boyfriend does the same for you when you are asleep, he is saying that he loves you. What’s even better, he gives you a gentle peck on your forehead. Who wants to hear ‘I love you’ after this sweet, caring and loving gesture of his!
3. Takes you out on every vacation
If your man is taking you out for every holiday with him and can’t bear to be without you even for a few days, it is clear that he loves you from the bottom of his heart. Even when he takes you out on weekends for unplanned getaways that is his way of telling you that he loves spending time with you and that you make him happy.
4. Texts you often
My partner keeps texting me all through the day about what I am doing, if I had my lunch, if I reached office, etc. Right after I have stepped out of the house to go to work, he texts me. But who’s complaining? I love it absolutely because he rarely says he loves me and I know that these texts have an underpinning ‘I love you’ message.
5. Gives you the control of his life
If you can chose the shirt he’s going to wear to work and he does not mind it, then surely he loves you. Men typically do not like giving control as they do not want to come across as weak decision makers. If a man gives control to you to take decisions for him, he trusts you and moreover he loves you. Be careful however to not irritate him with your newly found power!
6. Let’s you watch your soap opera over his news
For me, when he lets me watch my favourite TV show over his news channel, that is love. My partner is obsessed with watching news. But when he lets go of news and allows me to watch a show which he does not necessarily enjoy, it is a big gesture of his love for me.
7. Zero tolerance to people who are rude to you
Sherinaz says that her husband stands like a wall in front of people who are rude to her. “He has even told my dad to not talk to me in a high pitch or be rude to me. He says that I am his wife now and then his daughter,” she says. She adds that he can yell and shout at me but he does not tolerate anyone else doing it to me.
8. Fills the small gaps in your life
When your man knows what you might be missing and fixes it for you without you having to ask him, it says a lot about his love for you. “I did not have money in my purse today and he knew it. He kept Rs. 2000 in my purse without me asking, as he knew I’ll need it during the day and may not find time to go to the ATM during my busy work day”, says Sherinaz. She also mentions that he always stands at the door with a glass of water before I leave as he knows I’ll be thirsty in my 1.5 hour commute to work. When he fills such gaps for me, I know he loves me.
Without saying anything, men can tell you how much they care for you by their actions. In such instances, actions do really speak louder than words.