Actions speak louder than words, it is believed. However, women still want to hear ‘I love you’ from their lover’s mouth. Men innately are not as expressive, at least verbally, as women when it comes to matters of love. For many men, saying ‘I love you’ is a display of their emotional vulnerability which hurts their ego and hence they avoid saying it. Here are some of the ways in which men tell their ladies that they love them, without saying a single word.
How Men Say ‘I Love You’ Without Saying Anything
There are some men who could be saying “I love you” five times a day but would put their feet up while their partner would keep mopping the floor right under their nose, do all the dishes in the sink and then cook and serve food. Then the man would burp and say at the dinner table, “I love you” once more. In the modern-day scenario, women understand what it means saying “I love you” without saying it. Sometimes men show by their gestures how they feel about their women and the gesture could be small or big, but it conveys it all.
1. He buys diamonds
If your man buys you a diamond, he’s deeply in love with you but doesn’t say it. My grandfather was in the army and so he was not that expressive verbally as a lover. However, he would give my grandmother diamond jewellery on every wedding anniversary to say how much he loved her. A diamond speaks a thousand words, but when it comes from your man, it means that he is helplessly, deeply and madly in love with you.
2. Puts a blanket on you when you are asleep
There are times when I am off to sleep without a blanket on me after a tiring day. My partner quietly walks in and puts a blanket on me and comforts me. If your husband or boyfriend does the same for you when you are asleep, he is saying that he loves you with this gesture. What’s even better, he gives you a gentle peck on your forehead. Who wants to hear ‘I love you’ after this sweet, caring and loving gesture of his.
3. Takes you out on every vacation
If your man is taking you out for every holiday with him and can’t bear to be without you even for a few days, it is clear that he loves you from the bottom of his heart. Also when he takes you out on weekends for unplanned getaways that is his way of telling you that he enjoys spending time with you and that you make him happy.
4. Texts you often
My partner keeps texting me all through the day about what I am doing, if I had my lunch, if I reached office, etc. Right after I have stepped out of the house to go to work, he texts me. But who’s complaining? I love it absolutely because he rarely says he loves me and I know that these texts have an underpinning ‘I love you’ message. I text him back always and it’s a great way to stay connected without saying those three words.
5. Gives you the control of his life
If you can choose the shirt he’s going to wear to work and he does not mind it, then surely he loves you. Men typically do not like giving control as they do not want to come across as weak decision-makers. If a man gives control to you to make decisions for him, he trusts you and moreover he loves you. Be careful however to not irritate him with your newly found power!
6. Let’s you watch your soap opera over his news
For me, when he lets me watch my favourite TV show over his news channel, that is love. My partner is obsessed with watching the news. But when he lets go of news and allows me to watch a show which he does not necessarily enjoy, it is a big gesture of his love for me. He is saying “I love you” without saying it.
7. Zero tolerance to people who are rude to you
Sherinaz says that her husband stands like a wall in front of people who are rude to her. “He has even told my dad to not talk to me in a high pitch or be rude to me. He says that I am his wife now and then his daughter,” she says. She adds that he can yell and shout at me but he does not tolerate anyone else doing it to me.
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8. Fills the small gaps in your life
When your man knows what you might be missing and fixes it for you without you having to ask him, it says a lot about his love for you. “I did not have money in my purse today and he knew it. He kept Rs. 2000 in my purse without me asking, as he knew I’ll need it during the day and may not find time to go to the ATM during my busy workday”, says Sherinaz. She also mentions that he always stands at the door with a glass of water before I leave as he knows I’ll be thirsty in my 1.5-hour commute to work. When he fills such gaps for me, I know he loves me. Men really know how to say “I love you” without saying it.
9. Do household chores
We all know men loathe household chores. But the only reason he does it because he wants to share the load with you and doesn’t want to put you under undue pressure. In fact, if he is back from work before you he even asks you to put up your feet on the couch and serves you coffee. He doesn’t need to say “I love you” in this case because you are enveloped in his love anyway. His ways show you he loves you 24X7. You should cherish that.
10. Gives a miss to the bar meet
He had a guys night out planned for a long time but you are down with mild fever. You don’t even have to ask him he just cancels the bar meet and never regrets his decision. He opts to be home with you checking your temp, giving you meds and watching Netflix together on the couch. This is how men say “I love you” without saying it.
Without saying anything, men can tell you how much they care for you by their actions. In such instances, actions do really speak louder than words.