Romantic relationships are hard. They aren’t just hard to maintain, but also hard to describe or categorize. Just like every individual is different, the bond between every couple is also unique. So when you are reading an article on ‘Secrets to a happy marriage’ or something similar, you know in your heart that it’s not going to be very useful. I never turn to those articles for help because my guy is, well, a little different. Being with him has, however, made me adept at deciphering how a man shows love without saying it
They’re all still signs he wants to spend his life with you. After years of courtship, the number of times he has said the three ‘magical’ words “I love you” can be counted on fingers. And yet I never felt the magic in our relationship subsiding. He is gifted with a charm that hasn’t faded in years. Here are all the things he does to make up for that ‘loss’.
Little Gestures That Say I Love You Without Saying It
The actions that say I love you are sometimes so subtle that you can blink and miss them. Yes, grand gestures and over-the-top presents are great, but the small ways to say I love you, are more meaningful and for the lack of a better word, impactful.
Every man is different hence every relationship is unique. It may be that he’s shy and likes to keep to himself, or just that he’s understood the futility of proving to the outside world that he’s madly in love with you. Here’s how a man shows love without saying it.
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He ALWAYS listens when I’m talking
Speaking of what gestures mean in love, the way I see it is that it’s not just him listening attentively that makes me feel good. It’s the respect that he still gives me every single day. And he doesn’t just listen; he even asks questions. For the talker that I am, I needed nothing but a good listener. This was right at the top of my list of must-have relationship qualities for a happy life together, and I’m so glad to have found it in my partner.
He makes it a point to remember stuff
Guys are known for their poor memory. Forgetting things is a trait common to all guys, or most guys. Should I feel lucky that I found an exception? I never had to remind him about little things, he remembers everything.
And not just my birthday, he has always remembered my mother’s and my sister’s birthday too, without me having to remind him. And how do I know this? Well, mom told me herself. I couldn’t have been prouder of him. If he makes an effort with your family, he’s definitely a keeper. These are simple ways guys say I love you.
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He makes me a part of all his important days
And what else can be a bigger turn-on? When your guy makes you feel important by making you a part of all the important days in his life, it is evidently one of the signs he loves you without saying it.
Whether it was switching jobs or switching his career path, or even that first job interview he gave, he made sure I was a part of all those days, just as much as his family and his best friend were involved. It made me feel special, like I was someone who would be impacted by his decisions because I was an integral part of his life.
There’s not a single speck of sexism in his mind
Even for the mistakes that I made, he always had my back. And he has never said no to anything that I’ve done. Even if I rush to a guy friend’s house in the middle of the night after receiving a call from them, he has never ever questioned me in a way that makes me uncomfortable. There is no worse turn-off than a guy who puts restrictions on you.
Helping you pick out gifts for your guy friends, asking to be introduced to them are all small ways to say I love you. It shows he doesn’t have silly doubts in his mind like ‘Can a girl have a guy best friend and a boyfriend?‘
He trusts you and isn’t insecure of any other man in your life. The guy who just lets you be you and doesn’t stop you from living your life is actually a hard find. When you find him, keep him, like I have.
He gave up on a football match once when I had a bad day
I had an extremely bad day once, and it was not one of those days at work where stuff goes wrong. It was a lot more serious and I did not feel like talking to anybody at all. Needless to say, I didn’t talk to him as well. The next day too I didn’t go to work and was dodging calls.
When he got the hint that something was wrong, he gave up his ManU match for the day and spent the next 26 hours with me, just talking, eating, sleeping, binge-watching my favorite series, and going over all my childhood pictures. I understood that day that sometimes these small ways to say I love you have the biggest impression.
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He always asks for my opinion before he makes any important decision
There’s a difference between informing your partner that you have taken a decision, and actually involving your partner while making a decision. What makes my heart flutter is how he always asks for my opinion before making any major decision.
I won’t say he’s always followed my advice, but just the fact that he gives me that much importance is enough to make me swoon over him all the time. I admire the fact that he respects me enough to include me in his life plans.
He drops by my workplace once in a while
Without telling me beforehand, of course! And mostly he is bringing food. I couldn’t have asked for anything more. Dropping in for a spontaneous lunch, a random phone call in the middle of the day to ask how you’re doing, taking you to dinner after a long day at work, and planning cute uncommon romantic gestures are how a man shows love without saying it.
Boyfriends are honestly a blessing. If he does all these things for you, respects you, empowers you and lifts you up, you should keep him around for long. It’s difficult to find men who would even do the bare minimum. Thank you for everything, boyfriend!
He will do subtle things to show his love like calling you up in the middle of a work day, or asking for your opinion regarding big life decisions, and make an effort to remember all the important events in your life.
He will leave everything behind if you call him and ask him to be there. He’ll visit you at work or find any opportunity to come see you.