Mndandanda wa Kuzunzidwa M'malingaliro - Zizindikiro 18 Zowononga

Ubale wozunza m'maganizo ndi womwe umakhala ndi nkhanza zokhazikika komanso zowongolera. Wochitira nkhanzayo akupitirizabe kulamulira wozunzidwayo ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, mantha, mawu achipongwe, ndi kudzudzula kuti apeze zomwe akufuna. Izi zitha kuchitika kudzera muzochita kapena mawu ndipo nthawi zambiri zimaipiraipira pakapita nthawi. Pamapeto pake, wochitira nkhanzayo amatha kuwononga thanzi lawo lamaganizo. 

Kafukufuku wochitidwa ndi United States Center for Disease Control and Prevention wapereka ziwerengero zodabwitsa: 48.4% ya akazi ndi 48.8% ya amuna adakumanapo ndi nkhanza zamaganizo/zamaganizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa awo pa moyo wawo wonse.

Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Nandita Rambhia (M.Sc. Psychology), katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso mlangizi wa ophunzira, mndandanda wa nkhanza zamaganizo umaphatikizapo kudziona ngati wopanda pake, kudzipatula, komanso kusadzidalira. Izi zingayambitse mavuto ambiri azaumoyo monga nkhawa, kuvutika maganizo, ndi zina. Tiyeni tikambirane zambiri za nkhaniyi yomwe yafalikira kwambiri.

Kodi Nkhanza Zamaganizo N'chiyani? 

Funso lomwe muyenera kudzifunsa ndi lakuti, kodi munthuyu amakupangitsani kumva bwanji? Kukumana ndi mtundu uliwonse wa nkhanza zamaganizo kungayambitse kumva kukhumudwa, kudziona ngati wopanda pake, kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, kupweteka, komanso kusokonezeka. Popeza khalidwe lozunza maganizo nthawi zambiri limakhala lobisika komanso lonyenga, momwe kuyanjana kwanu kumakupangitsirani kumva ndi komwe kungakuthandizeni kusamala ndi zizindikiro zowopsa , choncho dziwani. Nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kunyalanyaza zochitika zoopsa ngati "zosaipa kwambiri" ndikupereka zifukwa zodzikhululukira kwa wozunza wanu.

Nandita akuti, “Chinthu chobisika chomwe chimachitika chifukwa cha nkhanza zamaganizo n’chakuti, nthawi zambiri, sizikhala nkhanza zakuthupi. Zotsatira zake zonse zimakhala zamaganizo komanso zamkati, motero zimakhala zovuta kuziona kapena kuziyeza kwa ena. Ngakhale nkhanza zamaganizo nthawi zambiri zimachitika ndi nkhanza zina, zimathanso kuchitika paokha muubwenzi.” Mutha kuwona mndandanda wa nkhanza zamaganizo womwe uli m’nkhaniyi, kapena kupeza ena pa intaneti, kuti mudziwe ngati ubale wanu ndi wozunza maganizo kapena ayi.

Nchifukwa chiyani kuzunzidwa kwamaganizo kumachitika? 

Pali zifukwa zingapo zochirikizidwa ndi akatswiri zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kugwiritsa ntchito njira zochitira nkhanza. Komanso, pali kuthekera pang'ono kuti munthu amene akukupwetekani sakudziwa momwe mawu kapena zochita zake zimakhudzira. Chilimbikitso chofuna kukupwetekani m'maganizo chingachokere ku matenda a umunthu kapena mbiri yawo ya nkhanza zamaganizo kapena nkhanza zakuthupi. Kufunika kolamulira khalidwe ndi masewera amisala kungakhale kovuta, koma ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti palibe chifukwa chilichonse chochitira nkhanza zamaganizo.

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Nandita akuti, "Ndikofunikira kuti zikangochitika, mubwerere m'mbuyo ndikuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa machitidwe oterewa. Kukhala ndi mndandanda wazinthu zotsutsana ndi nkhanza ndikukumana ndi zenizeni ndi gawo lalikulu. Inde, njira yokumana ndi zenizeni ndi yovuta koma iyenera kuchitika. Muyenera kukhala ndi malire abwino ndi mnzanu ."

Kufufuza nkhanza m'maganizo kungakuthandizeni (kapena anzanu ndi achibale anu) kudziwa ngati muli paubwenzi wosokoneza maganizo. Chonde kumbukirani kuti simufunika zizindikiro 'zonse' kuti mukhalepo kuti mutchule nkhanza zamaganizo. Ngakhale mayankho angapo abwino ku mafunso omwe ali pansipa angasonyeze vuto ndi ubale womwe ungakhale wozunza. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wopeza chimwemwe, woyanjana nawo, wokhulupirira, ndi chikondi; palibe amene akuyenera kukupangitsani kumva kuti mulibe ufulu wopatsidwa maufulu amenewa. 

Dzifunseni mafunso otsatirawa pamndandanda womwe uli pansipa kuti mudziwe ngati muli paubwenzi wozunza: 

1. Kodi mnzanuyo amakunyozani, kukunyozani nthawi zonse, kapena kukunyozani? 
2. Kodi amachitira nsanje anzanu, achibale anu, ngakhalenso chiweto chanu? 
3. Kodi muli ndi anzanu ochepa ndi anzanu omwe mumacheza nawo pamene ubale wanu watsopano ukupita patsogolo? 
4. Kodi mukumva kuti muli kuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira mozungulira mnzanu ndi kuyesa kusawakhumudwitsa? 
5. Kodi mnzanuyo amakonda kunena kuti ndi wanzeru kapena wodziwa zambiri kuposa inu? 
6. Kodi mumadwala matenda - aang'ono kapena aakulu? 
7. Kodi mukukhulupirira kuti simungakhale ndi moyo popanda ubale wanu? 
8. Kodi mnzanuyo amakupangitsani kumva ngati ndinu wopenga, makamaka mukayimirira? 
9. Kodi mumakhulupirira kuti inu nokha mungathandize mnzanuyo kuthetsa mavuto awo? 
10. Pambuyo pa zochitika zachipongwe, kodi mumadzazidwa ndi chikondi chowonjezereka ndi chikondi? 
11. Kodi mwasokonezeka pa zomwe chikondi chenicheni chimatanthauza? 
12. Kodi mumasungulumwa kuposa kale, ngakhale kuti muli pachibwenzi?

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Tiyeni tilowe mozama mumndandanda wankhanza wamalingaliro ndi kumvetsetsa zizindikiro. Kumbukirani, mungakhale mukukumana ndi chimodzi kapena ziwiri kapena zambiri, koma zonse zimasonyeza chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti izi zikhoza kukhala ubale woopsa, ngati simunalowererepo. 

1. Mumaweruzidwa nthawi zonse kapena kudzudzulidwa muubwenzi wosokoneza maganizo

Mungakumane ndi nkhanza zamaganizo kuchokera kwa munthu amene mumamukonda, ndipo simungazitenge mopepuka mpaka zitakupwetekani kwambiri. Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wokhudza maubwenzi ovutitsa maganizo adatsimikiza kuti kudzudzula ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofala kwambiri za nkhanza zamaganizo. Malo ofunikira kwambiri pakuwunika ndi nzeru (17.9%), ndalama (17.6%), ndi maonekedwe akuthupi (14.6%).

Zomwe zimayambitsa kuzunzidwa kotereku ndi izi:

• Kukhala pansi pamaso pa ena
• Nthabwala pa ndalama zanu
• Mawu achipongwe
• Kukhala ndi malingaliro opambanitsa pa zomwe mumachita, kunena, kapena kuganiza
• Kuweruza zosankha za moyo wanu

2. Malire anu amalowetsedwa kapena kunyalanyazidwa 

Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi chinsinsi. Mu chibwenzi chatsopano, poyamba chikondi ndi chilakolako chogonana, zingakhale zovuta kufotokoza malire amenewo. Komabe, ngati malo anu akumva kuti akuphwanyidwa nthawi zonse, mukumva ngati mutsekeredwa mu chibwenzicho , kapena mukumva ngati zinthu zikuyenda mofulumira kwambiri, khulupirirani zomwe mumachita ndipo lankhulani kapena chepetsani liwiro.

Muyenera kuchoka ngati zinthu sizikutha. Komabe, Nandita akuwonjezera kuti, "Mwatsoka, kwa anthu ambiri, kuyesetsa kuti ubale wawo ukhale wabwino kumakhala kofunika. Izi zimayesedwa pazifukwa zingapo - chifukwa cha zomwe anthu amayembekezera, chifukwa ali ndi ana, chifukwa chodalira ndalama, chifukwa cha kudwala kapena kulumala, chifukwa chokonda wokondedwa wawo, etc.

3. Mumatengedwa ngati chuma

Ngakhale kuti njira zobisika za nkhanza zamaganizo sizingawonekere ngati nkhanza zakuthupi kapena nkhanza zogonana, mnzanuyo angakulepheretseni kuchita zinthu ndi malingaliro anu. Kukwiya kwambiri, kuimbira foni nthawi zonse ndikuyang'ana komwe muli, komanso kukwiya ngati mukufuna kukhala nokha kapena ndi anzanu - zonsezi zimachitika kuti akulekanitseni ndikukusungani pansi pa ulamuliro wawo.

4. Mumaona kuti mukugwiriridwa 

Pofuna kukulamulirani, wokuchitirani nkhanza angachotse chikondi, kunyalanyaza ndi kukuchitirani chete , kapena kugona pa ulendo wodziimba mlandu kuti akupangitseni kukayikira nokha ndi zisankho zanu. Ngati mulankhula, mukusekedwa, kusekedwa, kapena kuipiraipira. Maubwenzi ovutitsa maganizo amakula bwino ngati wozunzidwayo amadziona kuti ndi wosafunika komanso wosadzidalira. Izi zimapangitsa kuti munthu amene akuchitiridwa nkhanzayo adzipangitse kukhala ndi vuto lodzidalira kwambiri.

5. Mwachotsedwa ntchito ndi kunyalanyazidwa 

Ngati mukumva kuti simukunyalanyazidwa, simukuyamikiridwa, kapena mukuimbidwa mlandu pazifukwa zilizonse zazing'ono, zonsezi ndi zizindikiro pa mndandanda wa nkhanza zamaganizo. Pamene mnzanuyo akunyoza zomwe mwakwaniritsa kapena akukana kutenga udindo pazochita zawo, ndi nthawi yoti muzindikire.     

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6. Pali zambiri zomwe zikuyembekezeka kuchokera kwa inu 

Chitsanzo chochitira nkhanza m'maganizo ndi pamene wokuchitirani nkhanzayo akukufunsani zambiri. Amayembekeza kuti muyike pambali zina zonse ndikusamalira zosowa zawo. Ngakhale mutachita zochuluka bwanji, sizokwanira pamaso pa amene akukuchitirani nkhanza. 

7. Matebulo nthawi zambiri amatembenukira pa inu 

Mukangolankhula kapena kupempha zinthu zina, mumaimbidwa mlandu wokakamira kwambiri komanso wofuna zambiri. Maubwenzi ovutitsa maganizo angakupangitseni kukhulupirira kuti ndinu munthu wokonda zinthu zakuthupi yemwe maganizo ndi zochita zake sizikugwirizana ndi zenizeni za munthu amene akukuvutitsani.

8. Moyo umakhala wosokonekera ukachitiridwa nkhanza ndi wokondedwa wako

Moyo wokhala ndi bwenzi lachipongwe ukhoza kukhala wachisokonezo kwambiri. Izi zili mwa zina chifukwa cha mkangano wa wozunzayo ndi wokokera mtima. Zitha kukhalanso chifukwa cha kusinthasintha kwadzidzidzi komanso kupsa mtima. Ngakhale kuti sipangakhale nkhanza zapakhomo kapena kuvulazidwa, kukhala paubwenzi wozunza kungakupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa komanso woopa kuchita chilichonse chokhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu. 

Nandita anati: “Zikafika pamenepa, dzifunseni kuti: Kodi mukufuna kuti ubwenzi wanu ukhale wabwino, kodi mukufuna kuti ubwenzi wanu ukhale wabwino pothandizidwa ndi akatswiri, ndiponso kukambitsirana movutikira; kapena mukufuna kusiya chibwenzicho?”

9. Kuyipitsa maganizo ndi njira ya moyo 

Ngati wina akugwiritsa ntchito nkhanza zapamtima nthawi zonse kuti akulamulireni, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kuzunzidwa. Zitsanzo zina za nkhanza zamaganizo ndi izi:

• Kudziimba mlandu kumakupunthwitsani nthawi iliyonse mukachita chinthu 'cholakwika'
• Kukusekani ndikuwonetsa zolakwa zanu pagulu
• Kuwongolera zinthu ndikugwiritsa ntchito malo anu ofooka motsutsana nanu
• Kupatutsa zolakwa ndikupotoza zinthu kuti zikuimbireni mlandu 

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10. Wozunza wanu ndi megalomaniac pobisala 

Ngati mnzanu nthawi zonse amadzitamandira za zomwe achita kapena nzeru ndikukugwetsani pansi, mwayi ndi chiyanjano chosokoneza maganizo. Ozunza amakonda kukhulupirira kuti ndi apamwamba kuposa ena ndipo amatha kuwona zinthu zomwe simungathe kuziwona. Amapita kukakutsimikizirani kuti ndinu olakwa ndikuumirira kuti malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu ndi opanda pake komanso osachirikizidwa. 

11. Mumamva kuti muli nokha 

Pamene nkhanza zamaganizo zatenga moyo wanu, mumamva kuti ndinu nokha komanso osungulumwa. Izi zitha kuchitika chifukwa cha:

• Wokondedwa wanu akukuvutitsani pa social media akaunti kapena kutsatira malo anu kudzera pa GPS 
• Kuyang'anitsitsa zochita zanu ndi komwe muli
• Mzere wansanje womwe umadzetsa mutu nthawi iliyonse mukatuluka ndi anzanu kapena wachibale 
• Kufuna kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yanu yonse pamodzi 
• Kuwongolera nkhani zonse zachuma ndikusamalira ndalama zonse muubwenzi wanu, potero kukuchotserani ufulu wanu wazachuma

12. Mukukumana ndi kuyatsa gasi 

Ngati mnzanuyo nthawi zonse amakana mtundu wanu wa zochitika kapena akuumirira kuti zinthu sizinachitike malinga ndi zomwe mukunena, akukuwotchani. Kupatula nthawi ndi munthu yemwe amakupangitsani kukayikira zomwe mumakumbukira komanso thanzi lanu ndi njira yotsetsereka yopita kumavuto amisala. 

Nandita akuti, “Apa, munthu wozunzidwa amayamba kudzikayikira ndikutaya chidaliro chake pochita zinthu ndi mnzake womuyatsa gasi nthawi zonse . Nthawi zina, amamva ngati akuyenera kuchitiridwa nkhanza, zomwe zingayambitse kuvutika maganizo. Kuchoka muubwenzi woopsa wotere kumafuna kulimba mtima kwambiri, chithandizo cha anthu, kuganiza mozama, komanso kuona mtima.”

13. Wochitira nkhanzayo amamana chikondi 

Zimawononga thanzi la munthu akamakanidwa chikondi ndi munthu amene ali naye pachibwenzi. Izi ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe munthu wozunza m'maganizo angalepheretse chikondi:

• Amakana kukhala ndi chikondi ndipo amatha kukana kugonana nthawi iliyonse yomwe mwawayambitsa 
• Amakutchani kuti mumakakamira komanso amakukakamizani chifukwa chofuna kukumbatira komanso nthawi yabwino 
• Amaumirira kuti ali otanganidwa kwambiri kuti asamvetsere 'zofuna' zanu.
• Amayang'anira maonekedwe anu ndi omwe mumakumana nawo mwachinyengo kuti 'akukuyang'anirani'

14. Muyenera kuthana ndi nthabwala zawo zoyipa 

Wokuzunzani nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nthabwala zosasangalatsa. ‘Nthabwala’ zawo n’zachipongwe ndi zonyoza, ndipo kukuchitirani inu pagulu kungakhale kokhumudwitsa. Izi zimakupangitsani kuchita mantha kukumana ndi ena ndikukukakamizani kuyenda pazigoba za mazira mozungulira iwo. 

Nandita akuti, “Chinthu china choyenera kuzindikira ndi chakuti mnzanu, ngakhale “akuseka,” sangakuchitireni nkhanza mwadala. Choncho, ndikofunikira kulankhulana ndi mnzanuyo momwe mukumvera, kaya ndi pokambirana maso ndi maso kapena pa meseji kapena kalata. Kudziyimira nokha kuyenera kukhala sitepe yoyamba pankhani yokumana ndi nkhanza zamaganizo.”

15. Mumapangidwa kudzimva kukhala osayenera

Ziribe kanthu momwe mungapangire ndikuyika muubwenzi, mumapangitsidwa kukayika kufunikira kwanu kwaumunthu. Kaya ndi ndalama zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pa zosowa zanu kapena ngakhale chithandizo chamankhwala cha thanzi lanu, mumaonedwa kuti ndinu osayenerera ngakhale zinthu zofunika kwambiri. 

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16. Mukuopsezedwa; 

Muubwenzi wozunza m'maganizo, mawonekedwe anu akuthupi angakhale osakhudzidwa, koma m'maganizo, ndinu osokonezeka. Ziwopsezo zachiwawa ndi masewera amalingaliro onse amawononga thanzi lanu. Zimenezi zingachititse kuti pang’onopang’ono muyambe kuchita zachiwerewere komanso kugwiriridwa.

17. Mumasowa chochita

Pokubisirani ndalama ndi kulamulira nkhani zandalama, wokuchitirani nkhanza amadziloŵetsa m’njira ina yankhanza zachuma. Woyang'anira wanu amasankha zisankho zonse muubwenzi, zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala opanda thandizo komanso opanda mphamvu.  

18. Nkhanzazo zikubweretsa mavuto pakati pa inu ndi okondedwa anu

Muubwenzi womwe umakhala wozunza, wokondedwa wanu amadziyerekezera kukhala munthu wabwinoko. Zimayambitsa mavuto (oganiziridwa kapena ayi) pakati pa inu ndi okondedwa anu, kukulitsa malingaliro anu odzipatula ndi opanda chithandizo. Umasiya kumva kukondedwa.

Chifukwa chiyani munthu amakhalabe muubwenzi wankhanza?

Ili ndi funso loyamba lomwe anthu ambiri amafunsa. Nandita akunena izi, "Ubale uliwonse umayamba ndi chiyembekezo, chikondi, ndi chisamaliro kwa mnzanu. Pamene ubale ukupita patsogolo, zizindikiro za nkhanza zamaganizo zingawonekere. Nthawi zambiri, nkhanza zamaganizo zimakhala zochitika nthawi zonse. Nthawi ya moyo wabwinobwino imatsatiridwa ndi nkhanza.

“Zikakhala zachizoloŵezi, wochitiridwa nkhanza amakumana ndi malingaliro achisokonezo, chiyembekezo, kupsinjika maganizo, mkwiyo, ndi chisoni.” Chimene chimapangitsa anthu kukhalabe ndi chiyembekezo.

Zifukwa zina zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhalabe paubwenzi wankhanza ndi:

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• Wozunzidwayo amakhulupirira kuti ali m'chikondi ndipo womuzunzayo amawakondadi
• Iwo sangazindikire khalidwe lozunza maganizo 
• Kudziona kuti ndife otsika komanso kusadziona ngati munthu wofunika kungachititse kuti mchitidwe wozunzawo upitirirebe 
• Amakhulupirira kuti amamvetsetsa mnzawoyo ndipo amawona mbali yawo yabwino 
• Amaopa kwambiri kuchoka chifukwa chodalira ndalama kapena kuwopseza chiwawa
• Angawope kuti achibale awo atetezedwa
• M'kupita kwa nthawi, mphamvu zawo zolekerera nkhanza zimawonjezeka

Kodi Mungatani Ndi Nkhanza Zamaganizo?

Ngati mukupeza kuti muli muubwenzi wovutitsidwa maganizo (kapena mwasankha mayankho ambiri abwino pa mndandanda wa nkhanza zamaganizo zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa), nazi zina mwa njira zomwe mungachite kuti muthane ndi nkhanzazo kapena mutuluke muubwenziwo:

1. Vomerezani kuti ndi nkhanza

Njira yoyamba yothanirana ndi chibwenzi chomwe chikukuvutitsani ndicho kuvomereza kuti mukuchitiridwa nkhanza. Kukana kuchitiridwa nkhanza kungapangitse kuti mchitidwe woipawu upitirirebe. Pamene nkhanzazo zizindikirika momwe zilili, mukhoza kuyambanso kubwezeretsa moyo wanu.  

2. Dziyikeni nokha patsogolo 

Zingakhale zovuta kwambiri, koma muyenera kuika zosowa zanu patsogolo pa zosowa za wozunza wanu. Mukasiya kudziona ngati wosayenera, kudzisamalira nokha kungayambe, ndipo mutha kukhala olimba kuti mumenye nkhondo yayitali komanso yopweteka yomwe ili patsogolo. Pezani njira zambiri zodzikonda nokha , kudya bwino, kugona, kulankhula ndi anthu, ndikupeza thandizo lonse lomwe mukufuna kuti mulimbikitse mphamvu zanu.

3. Chotsani kudziimba mlandu 

Ngati mwakhala nthawi yayitali muubwenzi wozunza, kukhulupirira kuti palibe cholakwika ndi inu kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Koma dziwani kuti simuli vuto pano. Onetsetsani chizoloŵezi chodziimba mlandu chifukwa cha khalidwe lachipongwe la munthu wina ndikuyamba kusintha zomwe zimakulolani kuchoka mwamsanga. 

4. Jambulani malire anu 

Chofunika apa ndi kusankha malire omwe akufunika kuti ubale ukhale wabwino ndikuthana nawo. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwasankha kupewa mikangano ndi wokuchitirani nkhanza chifukwa mukudziwa kuti adzasanduka kunyoza ndi kunyoza, lonjezani kuti mudzapewa chilichonse chomwe chingakukwiyitseni. Izi zimalimbitsa wokuchitirani nkhanzayo kuti khalidwe lake ndi losavomerezeka.

5. Vomerezani kuti simungathe kukonza anthu 

Nandita akuti, " Nkhanza zingayambitse ubale wovuta womwe anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi amalumikizana nthawi zina akakumana ndi mavuto. Chifukwa chodziona kuti ndi wosafunika komanso wosadzidalira, wozunzidwayo amavutika kwambiri kuthetsa ubalewu."

Koma si udindo wanu kusintha kapena ‘kuchiritsa’ munthu. Munthu aliyense ali ndi udindo pa maganizo ndi zochita zake. Mnzathu wankhanza amasankha dala kuchita zinthu zoipa ngati zimenezi. Sangathe 'kukondedwa kubwerera m'moyo wamba.'

6. Dzichotseni nokha pazochitikazo 

Nkhani yachipongwe ikayamba, chotsani pamalopo msanga. Ngati mkangano wayamba, tulukani m’chipindamo popanda kupepesa kapena kuwapangitsa kumvetsetsa maganizo anu. Ngati mnzanu akukunyozani kapena kukunyozani pagulu, musamachite naye chibwenzi. Kumbukirani kuti, kaya munene kapena kuchita zotani, zinthu zidzakula kwambiri. Choncho, ndibwino kuti musagwirizane. 

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Nandita anawonjezera kuti, "Ngati wasankha kukhala pazifukwa zilizonse, dzitetezeni." Umu ndi momwe mungachitire izi: kusonkhanitsa malingaliro anu ndi kuwongolera malingaliro anu panthawi yachipongwe ndikofunikira. imodzi mwa njira zabwino zothetsera nkhanza panthawi yeniyeni. " 

7. Dzizungulireni ndi chithandizo 

Pangani netiweki yanu yothandizira. Iyi ndi njira yokhayo yochotsera ubale wankhanza. 'Mukufuna' thandizo, chonde landirani. Lankhulani za zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi mnzanu kapena wachibale, kapena phungu. Khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi anthu omwe mumawakonda kuti muchepetse zotsatira za nkhanza. Izi zingakuthandizeninso kuti musamasungulumwe komanso kuti musamade nkhawa komanso kukuthandizani kuti muziona zinthu moyenera. 

8. Konzekerani kuthawa kwanu 

Mungathe kuyimbira foni ya dziko lonse yokhudza nkhanza zapakhomo kapena mabungwe omwe si aboma kapena kupeza thandizo la akatswiri kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi nkhanza zamaganizo kapena kuti muthawe nkhanza zoopsa kwambiri. Pamapeto pake, nkhanzazo zidzawononga thanzi lanu la maganizo, ndipo vutoli likhoza kukhala nkhanza zakuthupi. Kuti mudziteteze nokha ndi banja lanu, konzani njira yothawira yomwe ingakuchotseni kutali ndi wozunza wanu ndikukonzekeretsani kukhala inunso.

Zomwe simuyenera kuyesa ndi wozunza 

Pamene mukuchita ndi wozunza, muyenera kusamala. Mkhalidwewo ukhoza kuipiraipira ngati utasamalidwa bwino, zomwe zingabweretse nkhanza zambiri komanso chiwawa. Zochita zina zomwe muyenera kuzipewa mukamachita ndi wozunza ndi monga:

• Kukangana ndi mnzanu: Palibe chifukwa chotsutsana ndi mnzako amene amakana kukumva. Nthawi zonse adzapeza njira zina zokuchitirani chipongwe ndi kukuchititsani manyazi kunena zinthu zopweteka

• Kudzikhululukira chifukwa cha khalidwe lawo lachipongwe: Kumbali inanso, chida china chimene anthu ozunzidwa amakhala nacho nthawi zambiri ndicho kukhululukira wolakwayo pacholakwa chilichonse. Kupereka zifukwa za chifukwa chimene amachitira zinthu mwanjira inayake ndi kupeputsa zotsatira za zochita zawo kukhoza kuvulaza kwambiri kuposa zabwino. 

• Kudandaula ku mbali ya wozunzayo: Kupepesa ndi kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu kumangowonjezera nkhanza zamtsogolo. Pamene malire ochulukira akuwoloka, mbali zonse ziwiri zimalowa mkombero wa ululu ndi chilango chomwe chimakhala chosatheka kutulukamo. 

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Mmene Mungachiritsire Ku Nkhanza Zamaganizo 

Kupatula njira zomwe zatchulidwa kuti muthane ndi nkhanza muubwenzi, ndikofunikira kuchira ku nkhanza. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa University of Texas Health Center, kuzunzidwa m'maganizo kunali "ulendo wa moyo, womwe umaphatikizapo mapeto angapo, zizindikiro zachiwiri za thanzi la thupi ndi la maganizo, komanso mavuto a moyo omwe adapitilira kupitirira zomwe mudakumana nazo nthawi yomweyo." Zotsatira zake, kuchira ku nkhanza zamaganizo kungatenge moyo wonse kuti muchiritsidwe.

Ngati muli ndi chibwenzi kapena munachitiridwa nkhanza, nazi njira zingapo zomwe mungatenge kuti ulendowo ukhale wosavuta:

• Vomerezani kuti munachitiridwa nkhanza: Kuchepetsa kuwonongeka komwe kumachitika kwa inu kudzateteza kuchira, chifukwa chake muyenera kuvomereza kuti mwachitiridwa nkhanza
• Dziperekeni pakuchira kwanu: Pangani lonjezo kuti nkhanza zikutha nanu. Zowawa zakubadwa ndi zenizeni, anthu, ndipo simukufuna kuti nkhanza za m'maganizo izi ndi zotsatira zake zipitirire ndi ana anu.
• Khalani okoma mtima: Khalani okoma mtima monga momwe mudachitira kwa amene akukuchitirani nkhanza. Mvetserani kuopsa kwa vuto lanu ndipo khalani oleza mtima pamene mukuchira ndikuchira
• Pangani dongosolo lothandizira: Sankhani thandizo la akatswiri ngati simungathe kuuza anzanu ndi abale. Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi magulu othandizira alipo kuti akupatseni anthu amdera lanu pamene mukulimbana ndi nkhanza 
• Thandizani ena: Kulankhula ndi ozunzidwa ndi kugawana nkhani kungathandize kwambiri kutengerana zothodwetsa. Izi zimakupatsiraninso njira zamachiritso ndi zida zochira 

Nandita akuti, “Ndi bwino kukhala ndi njira yothandizira - anthu omwe amakumverani chisoni ndikukumvetsani - kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi mikangano yamkati iyi. Kulankhula ndi akatswiri kungakuthandizeni kudzipatula nokha ndi banja lanu ku zovuta zilizonse zomwe zingakhale zoopsa. Kumbukirani, thandizo limapezeka nthawi zonse - muyenera kungofunsa anthu oyenera.” Kuti mudziwe, alangizi aluso komanso ovomerezeka omwe ali pagulu la Bonobology nthawi zonse amakhala nanu.

Pali mikangano, ndiyeno pamakhala kuzunzidwa kwamalingaliro. Ubale wabwinobwino nthawi zonse umakhala ndi mikangano yabwino, ndipo pamapeto pake zimakhala kwa aliyense kapena onse kuti agwirizane. Kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu nthawi zonse ndi kuthetsa mavuto kungalimbikitsenso ubale wanu pakagwa mikangano. 

Komano, kuzunzidwa m'maganizo kumawononga ndipo kungayambitse mavuto aakulu a maganizo. Wogwiriridwa muunansi woipa wotero angamve kukhala wothedwa nzeru, wosamvetsetseka, wokwiya, wamanyazi, ndi wamantha. Ngati wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amakukhumudwitsani nokha komanso momwe zinthu ziliri, ndi nthawi yoti muzindikire kuti zonse sizili bwino mumgwirizanowu. Pezani chithandizo kuti musiye ndikuyambanso moyo wanu. N'zotheka, ndipo zingatheke, ingodziwani amene mungapemphe thandizo komanso kuti simuli nokha. 

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