Pamene zizindikiro zomwe sanakuganizirenipo zikuyang'anitsitsani, simungachitire mwina koma kudzimenya nokha kuti ndinu opusa mpaka kutengeka maganizo ndi mwamuna yemwe mumamukonda ndi mtima wanu wonse. Kodi ndikudziwa bwanji izi? Ndinali kumeneko, zachisoni. Zomwe zimawoneka ngati moyo wapitawo, ndinagwidwa muubwenzi wosadziwika, wobwerezabwereza womwe unapitirira zaka zisanu.
Kupyolera mu zonsezi, ndimakumbukira nthawi zonse kukhala wosokonezeka, wokhumudwa, wopweteka, ndikukhala ndi mfundo yosalekeza m'mimba mwanga. Sindimadziwa pomwe ndinayima ndi mnyamatayo. Nthawi ina zonse anali mwa ine, yotsatira, kutali komanso kuzizira ngati chipale chofewa chikudutsa mu mtima mwanga. Kusamveketsa bwino, chiyembekezo chakuti iye amandikondadi ndi kuti adzawona mmene tingakhalire bwino pamodzi, zinandilepheretsa kumpatsa ubwino wa kukaikira ndi kulimba mtima.
Ndi pamene anayamba kukamba za kukhazikika—ndipo chowonadi ndi ichi: kudzipezera bwenzi lomuyenera—ndipo ukulu wa utsiru wanga unanditulukira. Popeza kuti kuyang'ana kumbuyo nthawi zonse kumakhala 20/20, ndikuwona kuti zizindikiro zomwe sanandisamalirepo zinalipo nthawi zonse. Kuti ndipulumutse ena ku kusweka mtima, zowawa ndi zowawa, ndi kutaya mtima kwa kudzidalira kumene ndinadutsamo, ndinaganiza zolembera zomwe zimamveka kukhala ndi mwamuna yemwe sakusamala za iwe ndi momwe angagwirire nazo.
21 Zizindikiro Zophwanya Iye Sanasamale Za Inu
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kutha kwa chibwenzi kapena ubale wachikondi ndi gawo lovuta kulitsatira, makamaka ngati mukukumana ndi kuthekera kwakuti munthu amene munali naye sanakuganizireni kwenikweni. Zimangowonjezera ululu ndi ululu wambiri. Kumbali ina, zizindikiro zomwe wakale wanu sanakuganizireni zitha kukhalanso chizindikiro choti muyenera kuchotsa chinyengo chakuti mwataya chikondi chachikulu, chomwe chimakupatsani mwayi wodziika patsogolo ndikuyang'ana pakuchira ndikupitilizabe. Ngati kutha kwa chibwenzi kwabweretsa kukayikira malingaliro ndi malingaliro a wakale wanu pa inu, kulabadira zizindikiro izi zomwe sanakukondeni kungakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa zenizeni:
1. Sanapezeke m'maganizo

Kusowa kwa malingaliro ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomveka bwino zakuti munthu sali pachibwenzi chenicheni. Monga momwe katswiri wodziwika bwino wa zamaganizo komanso ubale Dr. John Gottman akunenera, "Kupezeka kwa malingaliro ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wokhalitsa." Ngati palibe, simungathe kumanga ubale wozama kwambiri.
Ngati inuyo nthawi zonse munkayesetsa kuti mumudziwe bwino koma sanalole kuti maganizo ake asokonezeke kapena kukukanizani, sanali wokonzeka kukuthandizani. Kusakuululirani za mavuto ake ndi mmene akumvera komanso kukuchititsani manyazi ndi zitsanzo za kusapezeka kwa m'maganizo zomwe mwina zikukusiyani mukudandaula kuti, "Chibwenzi changa sichindikonda." Tangoganizani, chibadwa chanu sichinali cholakwika.
2. Anapewa kufotokoza ubale
Iyi inali nkhani yosalekeza muubwenzi umene ndinkakuuzani. Nthawi zonse ndinkafuna kumvetsetsa bwino za momwe ndinalili naye ndipo iye ankangonyalanyaza ponena kuti, “Bwanji kuganizira mopitirira muyeso? Tiyeni tingosangalala ndi nthawi ino.” Kotero, monga ine, inunso, munapitiriza kusonyeza kumvetsetsa bwino za momwe ubale wanu ulili kapena kuyankha funso lakuti “ndife chiyani?” koma iye anapitiriza kulipewa, wakale wanu anali kusonyeza kupewa kudzipereka.
Ngati akanafuna kukhala ndi ubale wodzipereka, wanthawi yayitali ndi inu, akanafotokoza momveka bwino. Pofotokoza chifukwa chake kupeŵa kumeneku kuli kofunika kwambiri, katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. Shauna Springer anati: “Munthu amene amakuderani nkhawa adzafuna kumveketsa bwino ubale wanu ndipo adzakhala wokonzeka kukambirana momasuka.”
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3. Anaika zofunika zake patsogolo kuposa zanu
N’zoona kuti si kulakwa kudziika patsogolo ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi. Komabe, pamene anthu aŵiri amakondana ndi kusamalirana, amapeza njira yolinganiza zosoŵa zawo zaumwini ndi za mnzawoyo. Kotero, nthawi zina mumanyengerera mnzanuyo, ndipo kwa ena, amaika zosowa zawo pamsana wanu.
Komabe, ngati mwamuna wanu sakusamalani, sangabwere kudzakuthandizani—mwakuthupi kapena mwamaganizo—nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungafune, akuchita ngati chibwenzi /mnzanu wodzikonda. M'malo mwake, chomwe mudzalandira ndi mndandanda wa zifukwa. Ntchito yake, anzake, zochita zake zolimbitsa thupi, ndi zosangalatsa zake zonse zidzabwera patsogolo panu. Mpaka kufika poti zimayamba kuoneka ngati amangofikira pamene analibe chochita china chilichonse.
4. Simunamvepo kuwonedwa kapena kumva
Kuchuluka kwa manyazi komwe mumakumana nako mukakhala ndi munthu amene simukumukonda kwenikweni kungachititse kuti kudzidalira kwanu komanso kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika kungachititse kuti mudzione ngati wofunika. Izi zili choncho chifukwa mukuika maganizo anu pa munthu amene sayesetsa kukumvetsani kapena kutsimikizira momwe mukumvera. Mungamuuze zakukhosi kwanu za momwe mukumvera kapena zomwe mukufuna kuchokera muubwenziwo, ndipo iye sangatsimikizire ngakhale pang'ono. Chomwe mumapeza ndi chete chopanda pake kapena yankho losamveka bwino lomwe limakusiyani mukudabwa kuti, " Kodi amandikonda ? Kodi ndi zomwe ananena? Kapena zosiyana?"
“Munthu wina akamakuderani nkhawa, amakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wofunika kwambiri m’chipindamo.”
—Esther Perel, wochiritsa
5. Sadakondwerere zomwe mwachita
Ubale wabwino umatanthauza kukhala pamodzi, ngakhale pamavuto aakulu. Izi zikuphatikizapo kukhala olimbikitsana kwambiri, kusangalala ndi chilichonse chomwe mwakwaniritsa, kupambana kulikonse, kaya kwakukulu kapena kochepa bwanji. Kodi munakumana ndi zimenezo ndi iye? Kapena kodi anachepetsa zomwe mwakwaniritsa ndi mayankho opanda chidwi monga “Ndi zabwino” kapena “Zabwino kwa inu”? Kapena choipa kwambiri, perekani upangiri wa momwe mukanachitira bwino. Chabwino, ngati anali kukugwiritsani ntchito pa thupi lanu kapena anali kukukondani chabe osati kukupatsani maganizo, ndiye kuti zinthu zokhumudwitsa zoterozo ziyenera kuyembekezeredwa.
6. Anali wobisika
Dokotala Gary Brown, katswiri wodziwika bwino wa zamaganizo pa mabanja, anati, “Kusunga chinsinsi muubwenzi nthawi zambiri ndi chizindikiro cha munthu amene sadzipereka mokwanira kapena wosasamala mokwanira kuti ubalewo ukhale wa anthu onse.” Choncho, ngati sanakuwonetseni kwa anzanu, kapena abale ake, kukutumizirani pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti , ndipo akufuna kuti nthawi yanu yonse pamodzi ikhale yocheza (mwina chifukwa chakuti kukhutiritsa kugonana ndiye chokhacho chomwe anali kufuna), ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zopweteka mtima zosonyeza kuti simunali ndi cholinga kwa iye.
7. Munayambitsa kulankhulana nthawi zambiri
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti sanali kusamala za ubale kapena inu ndi kuti onus yoyambitsa kukhudzana ndi kupanga mapulani anali nthawizonse pa inu. Ngati simunayambepopo kuchitapo kanthu, masiku kapena milungu ingapite popanda kumva za iye. Pomaliza, muyenera kusuntha koyamba kuti mukhazikitsenso kulumikizana.
Kugwirizana kotereku kwa mbali imodzi mwina kunakupangitsani kuganiza kuti, “Chibwenzi changa sichindisamala.” Inde, angakutonthozeni ndi chifukwa china. Koma ngati mutayang'ana m'mbuyo tsopano, mudzawona kuti sanayambitse kulankhulana chifukwa sizinamuthandize kwambiri, kaya.
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8. Anakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa chopempha nthawi kapena chisamaliro
Inu: "Ndikanakonda mutakhala ofotokozera pang'ono."
Iye: "N'chifukwa chiyani nthawi zonse umakhala ndi vuto?"
Inu: "Sitichezanso, ndakusowa."
Iye: "Ndakhala ndikutanganidwa, bwanji simukumvetsetsa?"
Inu: "Ndimakukondani."
Iye: *Silence*
Zogwirizana? Kodi amakupangitsani kumva ngati mukusowa kwambiri kapena kumamatira nthawi iliyonse mukafuna chidwi chake kapena mukufuna kuti akutsimikizireni za chikondi chake ndi kudzipereka kwake? Chabwino, ndiko kusokoneza maganizo, kophweka komanso kosavuta. “Anthu amene amasamala sangakupangitseni kudzimva kukhala wolemetsa chifukwa chofuna nthaŵi yawo,” anatero katswiri wa zachipatala Nicole Richardson.
9. Anali wosagwirizana
O, kusagwirizana kwa khalidwe la ex wanga kunandiyendetsa pakhoma, nthawi zonse kundisiya ndikudzifunsa kuti, "Kodi amandikonda kapena ayi? Akufuna chiyani?" Nthawi zonse ndikaganiza kuti ndamukwanira, amandiyesa kuti andigonjetse ngati ndikutanthauza dziko kwa iye.
Ankanditcha "baby" n'kunena kuti amandikonda. Ndikayembekezera kuti zinthu zipite patsogolo kuchokera pamenepo, iye ankakhala wozizira komanso waulesi, osayankha mauthenga anga kapena kuyankha mafoni anga. Ngati wakale wanu ankachita zinthu mofanana, dziwani kuti ankangonamizira kuti amakukondani ndipo sanakukondeni kwenikweni.
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10. Sanalankhule nanu za tsogolo
“Munthu akamadziperekadi, amakhala akuganizira kale momwe moyo wake umawonekera muli nawo,” akutero mphunzitsi wa maubwenzi Matthew Hussey. Ngati zokambirana zokhudza tsogolo sizinalipo muubwenzi wanu, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe sankakusamalani nazo. Mwamuna amene sankakusamalani mwina akanayankha ndi mayankho osamveka bwino kapena kusintha nkhaniyo mwachangu, nthawi iliyonse mukanena za mapulani amtsogolo—kaya ndi okhudza kupita kutchuthi limodzi kapena kukambirana za zochitika zazikulu muubwenzi.
11. Sanayesetse kuthetsa mikangano

Ndewu, kusagwirizana, ndi mikangano ndizofunika pa nthawi ya maubwenzi. Ndi momwe mumachitira ndi kusamvana komwe kumatsimikizira ubale wanu. Ngati mwamuna amene munali naye anawomberedwa pansi pamikangano, kuchoka ku ndewu, kukusiyani mukupwetekedwa, kapena kukukanizani maganizo anu, zonsezi ndizizindikiro kuti wakale wanu sanakukondenipo.
12. Adathetsa mikangano yanu
Ngati sanali kukukondani kapena kukusamalani, mwachionekere anasonyeza kuti alibe chifundo ndi mmene mukumvera. Nenani kuti munawawidwa mtima chifukwa anakuyimiriraninso kuti mucheze ndi abwenzi ake kapena amadziona ngati wosatetezeka chifukwa amakubisirani, ndikumufotokozera zakukhosi kwake, ndipo adayankha kuti,
- “O, siyani kukhala odabwitsa”
- “Ndiwe wamanyazi”
- “Wakhala wovuta kwambiri”
Izi ndi zitsanzo zodziwika bwino za kunyalanyaza muubwenzi , zomwe zimachitika kuti ziwononge zosowa ndi malingaliro a wina. Ngakhale kuti mungakhale mukupweteka pakali pano ndipo zokumana nazo zonsezi zoyipa zitha kuwonjezera ululu ndi kuvutika, ndikukutsimikizirani kuti nthawi ina mtsogolo, mudzayang'ana m'mbuyo ndikunena kuti, "Tayani."
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13. Mumaona ngati chisankho, osati chofunikira
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mwamuna sakusamalani ndipo amakugwiritsani ntchito molakwika kapena mopanda chikondi ndi chakuti mumachitiridwa ngati njira ina, osati chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Pamene mapeto a sabata afika ndipo mutamufunsa ngati akufuna kuti mukumane, mwina nthawi zambiri ankakupatsani mayankho osamveka bwino kapena kukuuzani kuti sangathe chifukwa anali ndi mapulani ndi anzanu.
Ndiye, ngati mapulani awo sanakwaniritsidwe, angakumenyeni ndi “Wassup?”, kuyembekezera kuti mutaya chilichonse kuti mucheze nanu. Iye mwina ngakhale anakana nkhawa zanu za chitsanzo ichi monga "ching'ono nkhani kuti sanali kupempha ndewu", koma ndi wofiira mbendera kusowa chidwi ndi ndalama mu ubale.
14. Sanapepese kapena kuyankha mlandu
Zolakwa zimachitika. Kulakwitsa ndi munthu ndi zina zotero, eti? Koma mukamasamala za munthu wina, mumapepesa moona mtima chifukwa cha zochita zanu kapena zosankha zomwe mwina zinamupweteka. Chabwino, zosiyana ndi zimenezo n’zoona. Ngati wakale wanu sanavomereze kuti analakwitsa, sanayankhe mlandu pa zochita zake, kapena anapepesa chifukwa chokupwetekani, ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti sanakusamalani za inu kapena ubale wanu mokwanira kuti aike pambali kudzikuza kwake kuti akonze zinthu.
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15. Sadakuchite iwe kukhala gawo la dziko lake;
Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zofiira zomwe sindingathe kuzinyalanyaza mu ubale wanga ndi wakale wanga ndikuti nthawi zonse amazengereza kuphatikiza ubale ndi moyo wake wonse. Nthawi zonse timangokhala awiri a ife tikumacheza. Sanandiitaneko mapulani ndi abwenzi ake. Ndipotu ngakhale anthu amene anali naye pafupi sankadziwa kuti tinali limodzi. Kwa zaka zisanu !!!
Ngati titakumana ndi munthu amene amamudziwa, angandidziwitse ngati mnzanga. Anatiuza kuti tisabise ubale wathu ndi anzathu. Kukumana ndi banjali, monga momwe mungaganizire, sikunali njira ina. Tsopano popeza ndakhala muubwenzi wachikondi komanso wotetezeka kwa zaka zambiri, zamveka bwino kwa ine kuti ankandichitira ngati chinsinsi chifukwa sankandisamala.
16. Iye sanazindikire zazing'ono
Wokondedwa wanga wapano amazindikira ndikukumbukira zing'onozing'ono za ine. Momwe ndimakondera khofi wanga, mchere womwe ndimakonda kwambiri, chakudya changa chotonthoza, mawonekedwe a nkhope yanga akamandikwiyitsa masana. Kusamala kwake mwatsatanetsatane ndizomwe zidandipangitsa kuzindikira kuti wakale wanga samasamala za izi.
Ankakonza zoti tizionera mafilimu omwe sindinawakonde. Kapena kusungitsa malo ku lesitilanti yosadya nyama ngakhale kuti ine sindikonda kudya nyama. Poyamba, monga nsembe ya mtendere, anandigulira diresi lomwe silinali losangalatsa kwa ine moti linandipangitsa kudzifunsa ngati anaguliradi wina. Ngati inunso, mofanana ndi ine, munamva ngati sanakudziweni ngakhale kuti takhala limodzi kwa nthawi ndithu, mwina chifukwa chakuti sankakusamalani mokwanira kuti achite khama kuti akudziweni.
17. Sadakupangitseni kudzimva kukhala Wofunika
Monga momwe amanenera, chikondi ndi verebu. Zonse ndi za kusonyeza momwe munthu alili wapadera kwa inu kudzera mu manja ang'onoang'ono oganiza bwino —mawu oti mukusoweka, mphatso yoganizira bwino yoti ikukudabwitseni, komanso kuyesetsa kupeza nthawi yanu pamene moyo uli wotanganidwa. Ngati manja onsewa anali osowa muubwenzi wanu, ndiye kuti wakale wanu sankakusamalani kwambiri.
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18. Simunamvepo otetezeka muubwenzi
- Ali serious zaine kapena akungosewera?
- Kodi amandikonda?
- Kodi pali wina m'moyo wake?
- Chifukwa chiyani sanayimbe kapena kutumiza meseji?
Mafunso oterewa omwe amabweretsa nkhawa nthawi zonse amaphimba malingaliro anu mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene sakufuna kuchita chilichonse kuti asonyeze kuti ndi wodzipereka komanso wodzipereka muubwenziwo. Mwina nthawi zonse munkayenda mozungulira iye chifukwa simunkadziwa ngati anali nawo kwa nthawi yayitali kapena ngati akufuna kuchoka.
19. Adakuchitani mopepuka
Munkaphika zinthu zake zomwe amakonda kwambiri kumapeto kwa sabata kuti mumudabwitse ndi usiku wachikondi kunyumba , munamugulira mphatso zabwino, munakonza zoti mupite, munapanga nkhani yaikulu yokhudza tsiku lake lobadwa. Koma khama lanu silinayamikiridwe kapena kubwezeredwa. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti sanakulemekezeni mokwanira ndipo sanakutengeni ngati chinthu chopepuka.
Mwina, ankaganiza kuti mudzakhalapo nthawi zonse, ngakhale atayesetsa bwanji. Pamene munkalimbitsa kwambiri chikhulupirirocho ndi kupezeka kwanu, m'pamenenso anakhala wosayanjanitsika mpaka simunathenso kuchitapo kanthu ndipo anaganiza zosiya - inde, mwamuna yemwe simukumusamala sangatenge udindo wothetsa chibwenzicho chifukwa kukhala mkati kapena kunja kumapanga kusiyana kwakukulu.
20. Sadakuchitireni chinyengo chilichonse
Ubale wabwino umamangidwa pa maziko a mgwirizano ndi kudzipereka kwa onse awiri. Zosowa, zofunika kwambiri, ndi zokhumba zosiyanasiyana zimabuka nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndi luso la okwatirana kupeza mfundo zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala panjira yokhazikika yogwirizana. Ngati wakale wanu sanali wokonzeka kukumana nanu pakati kapena kusintha zosowa zake ndi mapulani ake kuti agwirizane ndi zanu, muyenera kuzindikira kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe sakusamalani nazo.
"Chikondi chimangopatsa ndikulandira. Ngati munthu amatenga nthawi zonse, si chikondi ayi."
Julie Schwartz Gottman, othandizira mabanja
21. Sanamenyere chibwezi
Zizindikiro zakuti sakukondani zinalipo nthawi yonse yomwe munali limodzi, mwina zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti sankakonda kwambiri zinthu zinayamba kukhala zovuta kuzinyalanyaza. Mikangano inakula. Pambuyo pa mkangano waukulu, munaganiza zothetsa zinthu. Ndipo anangovomereza. Palibe kuyesetsa kukonza zinthu. Palibe kuyesera kuyanjananso. Anangokhala chete, akukusiyani mukudandaula kuti, " Wanga wakale anasamuka ngati kuti sindili kanthu ."
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Ngati mungamvetse zizindikiro zambiri zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti asakuganizireni, mukudziwa kuti mukumva kuseka m'mimba mwanu, mawu omwe ali m'mutu mwanu akukuuzani kuti pali vuto muubwenzi wanu chifukwa "mukukayikira" kapena "mukuopa". Tsopano, ndi nthawi yoti mugwiritse ntchito ululu ndi nkhawa iyi kuti muiwale wakale wanu amene anakusiyani mukukayikira kufunika kwanu. Nazi malangizo ochepa amomwe mungavomereze kuti sanakuganizireni ndikupitiriza:
- Zindikirani mmene mukumvera: Lolani kuti mumve zowawa, zokhumudwitsidwa, kapena mkwiyo. Osapondereza malingaliro anu chifukwa simungathe kuchira pokhapokha mutadzilola kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro osasangalatsawa.
- Lekani kumuchitira zifukwa: Osandipatsanso mwayi wokayikira kapena kuyesa kulungamitsa zochita zake. Vomerezani kuti khalidwe lake linasonyeza kusowa kwa chisamaliro, ziribe kanthu momwe mumafunira kuti zikhale zosiyana
- Dzikumbutseni mmene anakuchitirani: Kukumbukira nthawi zonse pamene wokondedwa wanu analephera kukuwonetsani momwe mumafunira kungakuthandizeni kuvomereza chowonadi ponena za kusowa kwake ndalama mu chiyanjano.
- Ganiziraninso za kudziona kukhala wofunika: M’pofunika kwambiri kuti musalole kuti kunyalanyaza kwake kukuchititseni kudziona ngati munthu wosakondedwa kapena wosayenerera kukondedwa. Dziuzeni nokha kuti, "Kupanda chisamaliro chake sikukuwonetsa kufunika kwanga." Ndipo musakaikire m’maganizo mwanu kuti mukuyenera kukhala ndi mnzanu amene amasonyeza chikondi chosasintha ndi ulemu
- Chepetsani kapena kulumikizana mwachangu ndi wakale wanu: The lamulo losalumikizana ndiye chida chabwino kwambiri chokuthandizani kuti musiye kusokoneza malingaliro ndikuyang'ana kwambiri machiritso. Ngati n’kotheka, muduleni pa moyo wanu. Ngati, pazifukwa zina sizosankha - ndinu antchito anzanu kapena makolo anzanu, mwachitsanzo - kuchepetsa kulankhulana kukhala zofunika chabe.
- Tsatirani dongosolo lanu lothandizira: Tsamirani kwa anzanu kapena achibale anu omwe mumawakhulupirira kuti akulimbikitseni, ndikugawana nawo mavuto anu. Chikondi ndi chisamaliro chawo zingakuthandizeni kuchiza ndi kupita patsogolo
- Ikani patsogolo kudzisamalira: Yakwana nthawi yoti mudziyike patsogolo ndikupanga nthawi yochita zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva bwino, kaya kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuchita zinthu mwanzeru, kapena kuchita zinthu zomwe mumakonda.
- Funsani thandizo la akatswiri ngati kuli kofunikira: Ngati mukuvutika, kambiranani ndi dokotala. Atha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe mudakumana nazo muubwenzi ndi mnzanu yemwe samakusamalani
- Konzaninso zochitika zanu: M’malo momangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kukhumudwa, muziona kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanuyo ndi wongosonyeza zimene simukufuna kapena zimene simungakwanitse. Izi zitha kukuthandizani kukhazikitsa maulalo abwino m'tsogolomu
- Khalani oleza mtima ndi inu nokha: Kuchiritsa kumatenga nthawi, ndipo ndi bwino kukhala ndi zolepheretsa. Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha pamene mukugwira ntchito kupyolera mu malingaliro ndikukula mwamphamvu kuchokera muzochitikazo
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kuzindikira kuti mwaika malingaliro anu mwa munthu amene sanakusamalani kungakhale kowononga
- Koma zingakuthandizeninso kuchoka paubwenzi wapoizoni ndikuyang'ana kwambiri machiritso
- Ngati mukusokonezeka ndi momwe munthu wakale amakumverani, makhalidwe monga kusapezeka m'maganizo, kusafuna kuchita, kusunga ubale wanu mwachinsinsi, kukutengani mopepuka, kusachita khama muubwenzi kungakhale zizindikiro zomwe sanakuganizireni.
- Kuvomereza chowonadi chowoneka bwinochi ndikofunikira kuti mudzimasulire nokha ku zosokoneza ndi chiyembekezo chabodza
- Machiritso amatenga nthawi, koma povomereza ndikuvomereza malingaliro anu, kuika patsogolo kudzisamalira, ndi kufunafuna chithandizo choyenera ndi chithandizo, mukhoza kupita patsogolo ndikukhala ndi ubale wabwino m'tsogolomu.
Maganizo Final

Ndikamakusiyani kuti muzingoyang'ana ndikukonza zizindikiro zankhanzazi yemwe anali asanakukondeni kapena kukukondani, ndikungonena, mtsikana, pepani kuti mwadutsa izi. Koma Hei, tiyenera kupirira zolakwikazo kuti tikhale mtundu womwe uli wokonzeka kuvomereza mnzake woyenera akabwera. Gwiritsani ntchito izi kuti mupititse patsogolo kukula kwanu ndipo chikondi chomwe muyenera kukupatsani chidzakupezani.
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