21 Zizindikiro Zochenjeza Za Mwamuna Wolamulira

Zitha kukuvulazani m'njira zingapo ngati muli ndi munthu yemwe nthawi zonse amayesa kuwongolera zomwe mwasankha pamoyo wanu. Khalidwe lochokera kwa okondedwa wanu silidzawonekera nthawi zonse kapena pamaso panu. Zizindikiro za chenjezo za mwamuna wolamulira zimayamba kukhala zobisika. Njira yake yopulumutsira sikutanthauza nkhanza kapena nkhanza. Kutha kukhala kusokoneza maganizo komwe kudakulungidwa mwachinyengo mothandizidwa ndi mabodza, kuyatsa gasi, kusakhulupirika, komanso kuwongolera ndalama / kusakhulupirika. 

Amuna olamulira amakhala ndi zida zambiri zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti azikulamulirani ndikupeza ulamuliro wonse paubwenzi. Tinkafuna kudziwa zambiri za amuna otere, chifukwa chake tidafikira Ridhi Golechha (MA Psychology), yemwe amagwira ntchito yolangiza mabanja opanda chikondi, kutha kwa mabanja, ndi nkhani zina zaubwenzi. Iye anati: “Munthu akamaona kuti m’pofunika kulamulira munthu mwadala komanso mosadziŵa, nthawi zambiri amakhala chifukwa chakuti wakhala akulamuliridwa moyo wake wonse.

“Ngati mwamuna wanu ali ndi khalidwe lolamulira, ndiye kuti sikulakwa kunena kuti panthaŵi ina m’moyo wake anali atatsala pang’ono kuchitapo kanthu.” Mwachitsanzo, ayenera kuti anali ndi makolo achikatolika amene analoŵa m’malo mwa mbali iliyonse ya moyo wake.

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Abwenzi ena omwe amawalamulira akuchita chifukwa cha kupwetekedwa mtima, kusatetezeka, kuopa kukangana, komanso kusakhwima maganizo. Kaya chifukwa cha khalidwe lawo lolamulira, ndi bwino kuloweza zizindikiro zili m'munsizi chifukwa simudziwa pamene ubwenzi akhoza kukhala poizoni. 

1. Sadzakulolani kuti muzicheza ndi anzanu

Ridhi akuti, "Makhalidwe olamulira amayamba mosadziwika bwino. Mwamuna wolamulira zidzatenga nthawi yanu yonse, ndikusiyirani nthawi yochepa yoti mukumane ndi anzanu. Munthu amene amakulamulirani angakuuzeni kuti sakukonda mukamacheza ndi anzanu kapena anganene kuti zili bwino koma amakwiya tsiku lonse. Adzakupsetsani mtima mwadala ndikuyambana nanu musanatuluke.”

Nawa maupangiri omwe mungadziwire ngati mwamuna wanu akuwongolera:

• Adzakuuzani kuti “musangalale” koma nthawi zonse amakutumizirani mameseji kuti adziwe zomwe mukuchita
• Adzakusankhirani ndewu musanatuluke kapena mutabwerako 
• Adzafuna kudziwa zonse zomwe zidapita kuphwandoko, yemwe analipo, ndi zomwe nonse mumalankhula 
• Adzakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa cha "kumusiya" ndikukumana ndi anzanu m'malo mwake

2. Mwamuna wolamulira adzakupatulani 

Adzakutsutsani poyamba kuti mukumane ndi abwenzi anu, kenako adzakukondani mukafuna kukumana ndi achibale anu. Adzakuuzani kuti mumakumana ndi achibale anu kaŵirikaŵiri kapena kuti mumalankhula ndi mlongo wanu nthaŵi zambiri pafoni. Adzafika mpaka ponena kuti sakonda abwenzi anu ndi achibale anu, kapena angapange zochitika zomwe adawona kuti 'akunyozedwa' ndi iwo. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zomwe wolamulira-wopusa amayesera kukupatulani kwa anthu anu.

Musalole kuti wolamulira wanu akutembenukireni inu motsutsana ndi omwe mumadalira kuti akuthandizeni. Izi zimachitidwa kuti musakhale ndi dongosolo lothandizira. Zachitidwa ndi malingaliro ochenjera akukupangani kukhala opanda zida. Ukagwa, sudzakhala ndi wina aliyense woti akunyamule kupatula mwamuna wako wolamulira.

3. Adzalamulira zomwe muvala

Cholinga chachikulu cha kulamulira wina ndikumulanda ufulu wake wofunikira, monga kukhala ndi lingaliro kapena kusankha. Mofananamo, chimodzi cha zizindikiro za mwamuna wolamulira ndicho pamene akukuuzani zimene muyenera kuvala ndi zodzoladzola zopakapaka. Izi zimachitidwa mwanzeru, ndipo zimabisika ngati chisamaliro chenicheni ndi upangiri. Ndi chimodzi mwa zobisika zizindikiro kuti akukulamulirani.

Ndi Reddit wosuta adagawana nkhani yawo yochita ndi bwenzi lowongolera ndipo adati, "... amandikonda osavala zopakapaka zambiri, makamaka osagwiritsa ntchito zodzikongoletsera komanso zotchingira m'maso. Sindinamvetsetse chifukwa chomwe amandifunira izi akamalankhula pamaso panga akundiuza momwe amakopeka ndi azimayi ena ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito zopakapaka zambiri. Ndikuganiza kuti amandiletsa kukopa chidwi cha amuna." 

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4. Amapanga zochitika pamene simukuyankha mwamsanga 

Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ali kutali ndipo akupanga zochitika pamene simukuyankha mauthenga ake kapena kuyitana mwamsanga, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za mwamuna wamatsenga yemwe amakonda kukhala woyang'anira chiyanjano. Adzakupangitsani kumva ngati mwini wake mwa kukwiya kapena kuchita zinthu zodetsa nkhawa mukapanda kuyankha mauthenga ake. Mwina simunadziwebe izi koma ichi ndi chimodzi mwazo zizindikiro kuti mukuchita ndi bwenzi lopanda thanzi.

Georgia, mkazi wosudzulidwa posachedwapa wa ku California, analembera Bonobology kuti: “Ndinkayenera kumtumizira uthenga tsiku lililonse ndikachoka kunyumba kupita kuntchito. Ndinaganiza kuti kumeneku kunali kuchita bwino kuti ndifike ku ofesi yanga bwinobwino. 

5. Zizindikiro za mwamuna wolamulira - Amakutsutsani nthawi zonse 

Ridhi anati: “Pamene chidzudzulo chili chosatha ndipo chimachitika kaŵirikaŵiri m’chibwenzi, ndicho chizindikiro cha kuchitira nkhanza.

Nazi zizindikiro zina zomwe wokondedwa wanu akukutsutsani:

• Adzasankha ndewu nthawi zonse chifukwa chosachita bwino
• Iye alibe chifundo mu ubale ndipo samamvetsetsa zinthu monga momwe mukuwonera
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• Adzakhumudwa ngati simukufuna kuchita zimene iye akufuna 
• Nthawi zonse zimatengera zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda
• Sadzakudalirani ndi ntchito zosavuta 
• Adzanena zinthu monga “Sindiwe wanzeru mokwanira kuti ungamvetse zimenezi” ndi “Ndiwe wopusa kwambiri kukhulupirira mabwenzi ako kwambiri” 

6. Kukuopsezani ndi mbali ya khalidwe lake lolamulira

Kuwopseza sikungopereka chigamulo chothetsa banja pano. Mwamuna wolamulira angadziwopseza kuti adzivulaza ngati zinthu sizikuyenda monga momwe akufunira. Adzakuopsezaninso ponena kuti adzadula mautumiki onse amene wakhala akukupatsani. Izi ndi zina mitundu ya kusokoneza maganizo zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti apambane muubwenzi. 

Ridhi anati: “Chifukwa chimene akazi ambiri samasiya maukwati oterowo n’chakuti amawopa kuti okwatiranawo angadziwononge, amawopanso kukhala okha, ndi kutaya nyumba zawo ndi ndalama.” 

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7. Sakulolani kuti mugwiritse ntchito ndalama

Mwamuna wanu akamalamulira ndikuyang'ana ndalama iliyonse yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito, ndizovuta zachuma. Adzakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu olakwa chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito ndalama mopambanitsa ndikupeza kuwongolera kwathunthu kwachuma ngakhale ndi ndalama zomwe mwapeza movutikira. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zowopsya za mwamuna yemwe akulamulira.

M'munsimu muli ena mwa zikusonyeza kuti mwamuna wanu akukuchitirani nkhanza zachuma:

• Amakufunsani malisiti pa chilichonse chomwe mungagule
• Amakutengerani ndewu mukapanda kufunsana naye musanawononge ndalama
• Akhoza ngakhale kuchita kusakhulupirika pazachuma. Zitsanzo zina ndi izi: akhoza kukuberani, akhoza kubisa ngongole zake, kapena kunama kuti akugwiritsira ntchito ndalama zanu 
• Amakupatsa "chilolezo" 
• Amakubisirani ndalama zake

8. Njira yake yosonyezera chikondi ndi yochita malonda 

Chikondi chiyenera kukhala chopanda malire. Komabe, ponena za mwamuna wolamulira, iye adzakukondani kokha pamene muchita chinthu chimene chimamkondweretsa ndi kumkondweretsa. Mudzayenera kupeza chikondi chake mwa kuchita zimene iye amafuna. 

Nazi zinthu zina zomwe wolamulirayo anganene zomwe zingakuwonetseni zikhalidwe zake kapena chikondi chamgwirizano: 

• “Ngati sukonza chakudya chamadzulo, sindingavutike kukutulutsani kumapeto kwa sabata ino.”
• “Ndimakukonda ngati sundiyankha nditakwiya.”
• Ndiyenera kupita kokacheza ndi anzanga, mukhoza kusiya mapulani anu n'kukakhala kunyumba ndi ana. 

9. Palibe chizindikiro cha kunyengerera

Jenna, wazaka 40, wosamalira panyumba wa ku Mississippi, akugawana nafe kuti: “Mwamuna wanga amayembekezera kuti ine ndikhoza kulolera molakwa nthaŵi iriyonse. 

Kulolerana m’banja ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri zomwe zimachirikiza ubale uliwonse. Mutha khalani ndi ubale wabwino kokha mothandizidwa ndi kugawana malingaliro. Pamene munthu nthawi zonse amatha kusintha, ndi nsembe. Mwamuna wolamulira adzakupangitsani kugonja pa ntchito, ntchito zapakhomo, ndipo ngakhale thanzi lanu lamaganizo. 

10. Kukupangira ziganizo zonse ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro za mwamuna wolamulira 

Sichikondi pamene maganizo anu saganiziridwa ndipo amapita patsogolo ndikuchita zomwe akuganiza kuti ndi zoyenera kwa nonse. Uku ndi kukakamiza. Mukuyenera kukhala opanga zisankho pa moyo wanu ndipo onse awiri mbanja ayenera kukhala ndi udindo wopanga zisankho mofanana. Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi m'modzi yekha atenga chiwongolero, ndipo osakulolani kuti mugwire, uku ndikuwongolera khalidwe.

Nazi zizindikiro zowoneka bwino zomwe wokondedwa wanu akupangirani zisankho zonse:

• Amalamula osafunsa zomwe mukufuna kudya 
• Amapanga mapulani a chakudya chamadzulo popanda kuyang'ana kupezeka kwanu 
• Adzalamulira nthawi zonse mafilimu omwe mumawonera komanso mtundu wa madiresi omwe mumavala 

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11. Amasewera mlandu 

Ridhi anati: “Chizindikiro chimodzi cha mwamuna wopondereza ndicho kulephera kuyankha mlandu wa zochita zake. Sadzavomereza zolakwa zake ndipo pamapeto pake adzakuimbani mlandu pa chilichonse. Amadzakuimbani mlandu chifukwa chomupangitsa kuchita mwanjira inayake. Mukakumana naye ndi chinthu, mwanjira ina amakutembenuzirani magome ndikuwonetsa ngati ndi vuto lanu lonse.

Pamene munthu satenga umwini wa zolakwa zawo ndi kukathera kusewera mlandu masewera, ndi waukulu wofiira mbendera. Sali okhwima mokwanira ndipo sangathe kuthana ndi maubwenzi moyenera. Nazi zina zomwe mnzawo amene sangatengere zolakwa zawo anganene kwakanthawi kusinthana mlandu mu ubale:

• “Mwandichedwetsa kupita ku msonkhano wanga.
• “Sindikukhulupirira kuti ndinu amene mwayambitsa nkhaniyi pamene tinkasangalala chonchi.
• “Ndalankhula mawu opweteka chifukwa munandichititsa kuti ndichite motere, n’chifukwa chiyani munayamba ndewu?

12. Amalamulira momwe mumadzionetsera ngati banja 

Samangolamulira popanda zitseko zotsekeka komanso adzakulamulirani mukakhala pagulu. Ngati akufuna kuti nonse muwoneke ngati banja losangalala, lachikondi, amakugwirani ndikukupsopsonani pamene anthu ali pafupi. Akakhala kuti alibe m'maganizo ndipo akufuna kuti atalikirane, awonetsetse kuti nonse awiri mulibe zakuthupi/kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe konse. Amatha kusankha njira iliyonse.

Zina mwazinthu zomwe angathe kuzilamulira ndi:

• Adzakuuzani kuchuluka kwa kumwa 
• Adzakuuzani amene muyenera kucheza naye komanso amene muyenera kunyalanyaza akakhala ndi inu
• Zikafika povuta, sangakulole kupita naye kumapwando
• Paphwando, akhoza kukufunsani kumwetulira/kuseka mocheperapo malinga ndi momwe akumvera

13. Adzakonda kukuphani 

Zina mwa kukonda njira zophulitsira mabomba monga:

• Adzagula mphatso mopambanitsa
• Sasiya kukuyamikani
• Amakutsimikizirani kuti ndinu munthu wabwino koposa amene anakhalapo naye 
• Amakhumudwa mukafuna kukhala nokha kapena kukhala nokha 
• Iye ndi wosowa ndi wokakamira

Kuwombera kwachikondi ndi imodzi mwa njira zochenjera zomwe munthu wolamulira amagwiritsa ntchito kuti mnzakeyo amve kuti ali ndi ngongole kwa iwo ndi zochita zawo. Tiyerekeze kuti mwamuna wanu wakugulirani mphatso yamtengo wapatali. Komabe, samakupangitsani kumva ngati iyi ndi mphatso. Adzapitiriza kukukumbutsani za izi kuti akupangitseni kumva ngati muli ndi ngongole kwa iye. 

14. Mwamuna wolamulira ali ndi nkhani zokhulupirirana 

Ridhi akuti, “Kodi iye amalamulira kapena amasamala? Nthaŵi zonse zimakhala zoyamba pamene mwamuna wolamulira amafuna kudziŵa zonse zimene mukuchita chifukwa akuganiza kuti ali ndi ufulu wodziŵa zonse zimene zikuchitika m’moyo wanu.” Adzayang'ana, kuyang'ana, ndikuyika mphuno yake mu bizinesi yanu. Adzayang'ana foni yanu nthawi zonse kuti awone ngati mukuchita kusakhulupirika.

Mukamupeza akufufuza kapena kudutsa foni yanu, amalankhula zinthu monga "N'chifukwa chiyani ukukwiya ngati palibe cholakwika chilichonse?" kapena “Mukuoneka kuti mwakhumudwa kuti ndinayang’ana foni yanu.

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15. Sakhulupirira malire abwino 

Malire athanzi ndi ofunikira kuti munthu akhale ndi thanzi labwino. Ndi bwino kudziikira malire ndikuchita zinthu nokha osadalira mnzako kapena kuchitira limodzi zonse. Pali zinthu zina zomwe mungasangalale nazo koma mnzanuyo sasangalala nazo, ndipo nzabwino.

Nazi zizindikiro zina zomwe wokondedwa wanu sakonda zoterezi malire abwino ndipo amadana ndi lingaliro la malo aumwini:

• Amakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa chokhala nokha
• Muyenera kusunganso malire malinga ndi zomwe amakonda komanso zomwe amakonda
• Adzakuimbani mlandu wodzikonda komanso wosamukonda mokwanira kuti mukhale naye nthawi zonse
• Adzakupangani inu kuoneka ngati munthu woipa chifukwa chosangalala ndi nthawi yabwino nokha 
• Amakukakamizani kuti muchotse chinsinsi chanu komanso malire anu
• Amakufunsani china (kukondana, kugonana, kukondedwa, kupita kokadya, ndi zina zotero) pobwezera nthawi iliyonse mukayika malire - malire anu amayamba kukuwonongerani ndalama.

16. Ngwadunje 

Kaduka kakang'ono ndi kokongola mukakhala m'chikondi. Komabe, sizingakhale bwino pamene mnzanuyo nthawi zonse amachitira nsanje anthu omwe mumacheza nawo kapena amachitira nsanje kukula kwa ntchito yanu. Pamene nsanje yake ili yaikulu komanso yopitirira malire, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za mwamuna wolamulira. Izi ziribe kanthu ndi inu koma ndi chikhalidwe chake chosatetezeka. 

Zina mwa zizindikiro za nsanje muubwenzi monga:

• Adzakayikira ubwenzi wanu ndi anthu ena
• Sangawone chikhalidwe chanu chaulemu ngati makhalidwe abwino ndipo adzakuimbani mlandu wokopana kapena kutsogolera wina.
• Adzakutsutsani za ukafiri 
• Adzakupangitsani kufotokoza nokha ngati munayenda ndi munthu yemwe sakumudziwa kapena sakuvomereza 
• Adzachotsa zomwe mwachita mwaukadaulo kapena asakhale mbali ya zikondwerero zanu

17. Adzayesa kusokoneza malingaliro anu

Kutsimikizira ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pazochitika zachikondi. Simuyeneranso kuvomerezana ndi mnzanu. Muyenera kukhala pamenepo ndikumvetsera popanda kumusokoneza kapena kuweruza. Ndi chisonyezero cha kuvomereza ndi kupatsa wina chidaliro kuti ali ndi ufulu womva momwe angafunire. 

Kumbali ina, pamene mwamuna wanu amalepheretsa malingaliro anu pazochitika zonse, amayesa kulamulira maganizo anu. Adzanyalanyaza momwe mukumvera ndi kulingalira. Adzakupangitsani kumva ngati malingaliro anu ndi opusa, osavomerezeka, opepuka, komanso olakwika. Kusavomerezeka uku kumakupatsirani kupwetekedwa mtima. 

18. Simumva kuwonedwa ndi kumva

Ridhi akuti, “Mukamva ngati mumawonedwa ndi kumveka m’banja, zimakupatsirani kuzindikira chitetezo m'maganizo. Mumamva ngati ali ndi inu akamamvetsera mavuto anu onse ndi matsoka anu. Komabe, pamene mnzanuyo ali wodzikonda, nthawi zambiri amachoka pamene mukugawana malingaliro anu amkati ndi zokhumba zanu. Akuti amakumvetsani koma mawu ake sakugwirizana ndi zochita zake.” 

Palibe malo okwanira oti muwulule malingaliro anu. Ndipo mukapeza mwayi wolankhula zakukhosi kwanu, mumamva ngati simunamve. Ngati wokondedwa wanu sakuyesera kumvetsetsa zomwe mukunena, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za mwamuna wolamulira.

19. Adzakupangitsani kudziimba mlandu  

Kudziimba mlandu kukagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chida kwa munthu, kumatha kusokoneza kwambiri thanzi lawo. Mwamuna wolamulira nthaŵi zonse amagwiritsira ntchito liwongo kulamulira mwamuna kapena mkazi wake. Adzakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa pa chilichonse cholakwika chomwe chikuchitika osati m'moyo wanu, komanso muubwenzi ndi moyo wake. Kupalamula ndi mtundu wina wankhanza ndipo nazi zinthu zina zomwe wowongolera angakuuzeni kuti mumve kuti ndinu wolakwa:

• "Ndachedwa kuntchito chifukwa unadzuka mochedwa."
• “Ndinayiwala kugula zakudya chifukwa simunandikumbutse kuti ndigule.”
• “Simunachapanso zovala, chifukwa cha inu ndiyenera kubwerezanso zovala zanga.”

20. Adzakupangitsani kumva ngati simuyenera chikondi chake 

Mu ukwati uwu, iye ndi mfumu ndipo inu ndinu kapolo wake. Muyenera kumusangalatsa mosatopa kuti akukondeni ndi chidwi chake. Kwiinda mukusololelwa amuuya uusalala, ulakonzya kubikkila maano kuzintu nzyobayanda kuti bamuswiilile. Pokhapokha mutalandira chivomerezo chake, iye adzakukondani. 

Zina mwa zizindikiro zomwe akuganiza kuti simuli woyenera kukondedwa ndi izi:

• Adzakupangitsani kumva kukhala wopanda chidwi ndikukuonani ngati wosayenera kukhala mkazi wake
• Adzakufikitsani pankhope za luso lake ndipo adzakukhumudwitsani chifukwa cha zolephera zanu
• Adzakufananitsani ndi ma ex ake 

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21. Adzayang'aniranso ntchito zogona 

Kuyambira pamene mumagonana ndi momwe mumagonana, iye adzalamulira mbali zonse za ubwenzi wapamtima. Mukakana kugonana kapena kunena kuti mwatopa kwambiri, nayenso adzakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa. Kenako, mutha kukhala kugonana kwachifundo kungofuna kukhala kumbali yake yabwino kapena kupewa mikangano ndi ndewu. 

Ridhi akuwonjezera kuti, "Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za mwamuna wolamulira chimaphatikizapo kukwiya chifukwa cha kukanidwa kugonana. Iye adzakupangitsani inu kudzimva kukhala woipidwa kaamba ka kusunga malire anu a kugonana. Iye adzatalikirana ndi inu mwamalingaliro ndipo mudzatsirizira mukuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira mozungulira iye. 

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Mnzanu akamakulamulirani, sizitenga nthawi kuti chibwenzicho chikhale chachiwawa. Zina mwazizindikiro kuti ubale wanu ukuyamba kukhala wankhanza ndi:

• Amakupatulani kwa okondedwa anu
• Amayang'ana foni yanu ndikusunga tsamba la omwe mumakumana nawo komanso omwe mumalankhula nawo
• He amakwiya ndikukukalirani popanda chifukwa chilichonse
• Amakuponyera zinthu
• Iye amalamulira chuma chanu
• Amakuchitirani nkhanza, amakunyozani m'maganizo, kapena anakuchitirani zachipongwe kamodzi kokha. 

Mosafunikira kunena kuti, mikhalidwe yoteroyo ndi yoipa kwambiri kapena yowopsa kwa inu. Ridhi akuwonjezera kuti, "Kukhala ndi bwenzi lopanda kuwongolera kumatha kukukhudzani m'njira zambiri. Choyamba, mumataya mwayi wokhala nokha."

Zina mwazinthu zomwe zimachitika mukakwatirana ndi munthu wolamulira ndi izi:

• Mumasiya kukhala ndi umunthu wanu 
• Mumakulitsa ubale wodalirana womwe uli woyipa kwambiri
• Mukusiya kuthana ndi malingaliro anu, kuopa kutsutsidwa ndi kukhumudwitsidwa ndi mwamuna wanu
• Muzakhala m'botolo mpaka tsiku lina mudzaphulika
• Mudzachita muzimva kuti ndinu otsekeredwa m’banja lanu zomwe zidzakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wamng'ono. Zidzakupangitsani kumva ngati mukukhala m'ndende
• Thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndi kudzidalira kwanu kwawonongeka ndipo simungathe kuganiza bwino 
• Mukusiya kudzidalira nokha ndi chibadwa chanu
• Mumakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse, thupi lanu limazizira, kumenyana, kapena kuthawa
• Kusalinganika kwa mphamvu kungakupangitseni kudzipereka nokha ndipo mulibe chonena m'moyo wanu

Momwe Mungachitire Ndi Mwamuna Wolamulira 

Ngati mwawona ngakhale zizindikiro zochepa za mwamuna wolamulira, ndi bwino kuthetsa nkhaniyi mwamsanga. Mukatalikitsa, m'pamenenso idzakutcherani msampha ndikukukokerani m'matope. Nazi njira zina zothanirana ndi amuna olamulira:

• Khalani bata: Mukadziwa kukhala ndi bwenzi lolamulira, pali mwayi woti mungamukhumudwitse chifukwa chofuna kukulamulirani. Khalani chete ndikumufunsa chomwe chikumuvutitsa. Ngati akukuimbani mlandu pa chilichonse, musamuyankhe pa nthawiyo
• Chitani akakhala pabwino: Yembekezani nthawi yoyenera kuti mukambirane nkhaniyi. Mufunseni chifukwa chomwe amalamulira chilengedwe chake. Kodi ndi chifukwa cha zovuta zaubwana kapena chifukwa cha kusadzidalira kwake? Yankhulani nawo njira yoyenera, pang'onopang'ono
• Pezani thandizo la akatswiri: Ngati nkhanzazi zadzetsa mavuto aakulu m'moyo wanu, ndi bwino kupeza thandizo la akatswiri. Ku Bonobology, timapereka chithandizo chaukadaulo kudzera mwa athu gulu la alangizi ovomerezeka amene angakuthandizeni inu ndi mwamuna wanu wolamulira kuti muyambe njira ya kuchira

• Bweretsani ulamuliro: Munalephera kudziletsa kamodzi. Tsopano popeza mwadziwa chomwe chinalakwika, bweraninso pampando wakutsogolo ndikumulanda chowongolera chamoyo chanu m'manja mwake. Ngati amakunyodolanibe kapena akufuna kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa, musagonje pa khalidwe lake lachibwana. Khala wamphamvu, osagwa m'machenjerero ake
• Jambulani malire: Inde, khalani ndi malire mosasamala kanthu za mmene zimenezi zimakhudzira mwamuna wanu. Sangalalani ndi nthawi yanu nokha komanso zachinsinsi. Muuzeni kuti saloledwa kuyang'ana foni yanu. Ayenera kuphunzira momwe mungakhulupirire mnzanu popanda inu kutsimikizira nokha nthawi zonse
• Sungani dongosolo lanu lothandizira: Musamulole kuti akulekanitseni. Simungathe kukhala ndi moyo ndi mwamuna wanu padziko lapansi pano. Mumafunikira makolo anu, abale anu, ndi mabwenzi kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi. Kumanani ndi omwe mumawakhulupirira ndi omwe amakupatsani mphamvu pafupipafupi, ndikugawana nawo mavuto anu

Mukaona kuti sangasinthidwe kapena zinthu zikayamba kusokonekera, ndi bwino kuthetsa ukwati wanu. Palibe chomwe chingalungamitse chiwawa chake chamalingaliro, kusakhulupirika, kapena kuwotchedwa. Thanzi lanu lamalingaliro liyenera kukhala patsogolo panu. Tulukani pachibwenzicho podziyimira nokha. Mukuyenera kukhala omasuka mosasamala kanthu za ubale wanu. 

Ibibazo

Njira 6 Zowawa Zimalowerera Mu Ubale Wanu Wachikondi

15 Zizindikiro Zoti Mukufuna Chisudzulo Chotsimikizika

Zitsanzo 9 Zowunikira Gasi wa Narcissist Tikukhulupirira Simudzamva

Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.