I am desperate to get normal. As a teenager, I faced sexual harassment on numerous occasions. I am not comfortable writing about it but things happened at different levels. Now I weep like a baby. I can’t trust people and just don’t want to live my life. I feel that it was all my fault even though I’m the victim. Please help me!
Dr Gaurav Deka says:
Hello young lady,
I am sorry that you are having to go through this. I suggest that you seek help as immediately if possible. Get an appointment with a counsellor.
These experiences cannot be intellectualised. Nor can their resolutions emerge out of any form of rational discussions. You have to understand that both the body and the mind as a unit has been through trauma.
Only and only intervention based therapy can help you find firm ground and provide you with a backbone on which if you need to fall back, you can.
Also, in consultation with your therapist, please find out a way to express yourself to your loved ones if you can – I understand that in doing so, one may find it difficult to trust and fear is the first thing that will hold you back. Therefore if you can find out a way to first approach a therapist/counsellor and discuss a way of doing it, you will at least be in a space where you don’t have to go through whatever you are going through now.
All the best,