Open relationships and love

Polyamory is becoming more common these days. But I wonder if love is possible in an open relationship. While love is a lot more than physical intimacy, I also feel monogamy makes it love as we know it. Am I wrong?

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Ankur
June 7, 2017

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  1. Actually you are very right. Monogamy gives us a structure through which we can define and understand love. But is it possible to love two people at the same time. Yes. But is it possible to love 2 people romantically at the same time? I think no…What do you say?*p*

  2. I am a great fan of Karan johar and Bollywood. Hum ek baari pyar karte hai. Shaadi shayd do bari karte hai. Monogamy is the only answer to karwachauth balam pichkari jo tune mari festivals. If u want to have a life without tensions monogamy and celebrate all festivals with Elan and if u  don't want to sleep do drunken dialling and have a constant pain in ur gut then of course multiple partners. *p*

  3. You are wrong and it is not your fault. It is all due to age old religious and social conditionings. Religions relish and get nourished on our guilt, on our so-called sins. It is the strategy of the organised religions to keep us enslaved.*p**p*If we go a layer deeper into our bias we will realise that jealousy is created by religion's continuous emphasis on monogamy, and monogamy means — not in the dictionaries, but in life — monotony.*p**p*Nobody wants to live in a monotonous life. Marriage is a great strategy. Married couples are the most miserable people in the world and religions insist, "No divorce, divorce is a sin!" In this way prostitutes are created. This is the by-product of religion. Yes! Prostitution is a by-product of organised religions.*p**p*Once we stop the old baloney that has been poured into our minds continuously — of monogamy, of one-to-one relationship, of fidelity — which is all nonsense… When there are so many beautiful people in the world, why shouldn't they be intermixing?*p**p*If a man loves a woman, it is because he likes women and if a woman loves a man, it is because she likes men. This attraction for the opposite sex is healthy and need to be respected. Otherwise why will a man and woman love each other in the first place?*p**p*Human Being is a polygamous animal. You cannot change nature, it is an inbuilt process.*p**p*Now let’s talk about today, the 21st Century. For thousands of years, women were brought up in such a way that they have completely forgotten that they can have orgasm.*p**p*Just within last fifty odd years women have again started learning what orgasm is. And with their learning, problems have arisen all over the world. Marriage is on the rocks. Marriage cannot exist with women having the capacity of multiple orgasms. And man only has capacity for one orgasm. There can be no compatibility between the two. Then monogamy cannot exist. It will become difficult.*p**p*This society and the pattern that it has evolved up to now is doomed.*p**p*Human Beings have released some energy that has always been kept under a certain rigid control. But the attraction has always been there — whether you repress, whether you control, discipline, that doesn't make any difference.*p**p*The attraction is there — twenty-four hours, deep down like a substratum, sexuality goes on like a river flowing. It is a continuum. You may eat, you may earn money, you may work, but you are doing everything for sex.*p**p*Somewhere, sex remains the goal… and this pattern has to be changed, otherwise our energy will go on being drained, our energy will go on being dissipated, our energy will go on moving into the earth. It will not rise towards heaven. It will not have an upward surge.*p**p*Love is possible only when our energies move upward.*p**p*By condemning polygamy we are actually killing the possibility of love. A man and woman will eventually settle down, be in deepest love relation possible but before that the essential criteria needs to be fulfilled. That is to let your energies move higher. And by disrespecting nature, by disrespecting our natural attraction to each other we are murdering true love. Think about it!*p**p*You play tennis; that does not mean your whole life you have to play tennis with the same partner, fidelity…!*p**p*Life should be richer.*p**p*Anand Kamal*p*

  4. "Somewhere, sex remains the goal… and this pattern has to be changed, otherwise our energy will go on being drained, our energy will go on being dissipated, our energy will go on moving into the earth. It will not rise towards heaven. It will not have an upward surge." *p**p* *p**p*Wow!!! Wow!!! Wow!!!*p*

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